Couple shares challenges of being in a mixed-race relationship in S'pore | THE BIG STORY

[@bronsonteo1725]

Hopefully one day we all can say “ Hey I am a Singaporean that happens to be a Chinese, Malay, Indian or Eurasian etc..” Knowing our race is purely to trace back our roots. Not to be racist. Thanks.

[@malita354]

Agree. The concept or classification by race, language, religion naturally lead to some form of division. Remember, we are talking about society, country at large. How can most singaporeans be saints and wise enlightened like gurus? Impossible!

[@felicialor7010]

Then what to indicate for mixed race?

[@chenchen6599]

@@felicialor7010 @ since days immorial and of law children only follows that of the father. Period.

[@ganesh1987able]

Lol... You will never learn

[@mimiviuuuu7664]

theres no racism in singapore!!!!!! its called racial insensitivity. come northeast and u will know wot is racism

[@Natasukii]

My family has always been mixing races from past generations, many different religions yet we are United as one and we don’t rlly care if you’re Ind, chi, mly or others because we understood the culture and still celebrate it together :-) so this is a beautiful couple

[@pigos9781]

Mi too. However, hope to marry Caucasian for my descendents. My great grandmother was an African black married white man. Unfortunate, my mother married an Indian. My tone is fairer than an average brownie but not happy with it.

[@pelandolickasshole8715]

@@pigos9781 obsessed guy🙄

[@pelandolickasshole8715]

You're pig​@@pigos9781

[@pohkhui]

Marriage is individual issue. As long the couple is OK with each other , and both sides of the family is OK, none of outsider's business. So to all outsiders, don't be busybody, no KPO

[@heavengod8650]

This dirty the society n must be stopped making Singapore a nation of alien mixed i.pure bastard society .

[@freesoul3137]

♠️ Well said ♠️

[@MichelleLambada]

I agreed with her. In future all our IDs no more “race” and “religion” - all Singaporean. 👍🏻

[@1956Mariella]

What if one spouse is not Singaporean??? 🙄 And do relatives need to agree…or better put: should relatives of the couple have a say because they do not agree with the choice of spouse??? And further more, are these stuck up relatives entitled to have a bad attitude against the child resulting from this marriage…??? Finally: should you count on these relatives and the society at large, school included, as human beings?

[@Prometheus574]

@@1956Mariella Race and skin color is never the problem. There's absolutely nothing wrong for an Indian or Malay man to marry a Chinese or White woman. It is their decision who they want to get married with. You shouldn't be allowed to interfere, not even their own family members especially when the daughters/sons are over 21 years old at the time of marriage.

[@alikos88]

They are off to a good start: Mom is Chinese Dad is Tamil and their daughter looks Malay

[@stoggafllik]

Pure subhuman filth

[@indrashun1856]

This intermarriage has been going on even before the 1950s. I have relatives married to Chinese and vice versa in the kampong days and people looked at life as a very wholesome union. Look at the brighter side of life and stop the racist comments. Love you both. Hey my daughter in law is a Chinese and she is a daughter more than a daughter in law to me. My daughter in law is Loving and caring also very down to earth with her respects to us and her parents. Love is pure and it accepts and embraces everyone irrelevant of race or language or religion. Good people Remember what we say during ND the pledge. We the citizens of Singapore pledge ourselves as ........

[@psingh007]

What a splendid couple. Blessings and best wishes for their future together

[@lilime7795]

I agree , so sweet

[@vvsapale]

I loved both of them, their response was measured.

[@rinang8858]

Marriage is between 2 persons who love one another regardless of race. Their beautiful offspring will also grow up with no identity issue as she is brought up in a love and blissful Union. Why can’t everyone be just singaporean rather than Malay, Chinese,Indians and others.

[@noopinoopi5058]

Rina Ng, nobody is stopping you from marrying someone darker but you will have to face the glances and gossip and abuses once in a while. Based on international reports, the offspring are also not be spared.

[@cvhawkeye6255]

Would Chinese(Male)/Minority(Female) couples have a different social acceptance level than Minority(Male)/Chinese(Female) being portrayed? This is a Social Science academic question. No one says this in public, but there has been a long history of an invisible social ranking based on race (Internationally as well). This stigma is still present till today in some closed circles sadly. So the hypothesis goes, that a couple is more socially accepted when a socially higher ranked race on the Male side marries a minority Female, while there may be more social objection when a Male lower on a "social race ladder/minority" tries to marry a perceived "higher" ranked race. In the colonial days, Ang Mohs are viewed as the socially "higher" race, so tremendous backlash occurs when a minority male wants to marry into a White family. While there is less of a backlash if a White man wants to marry a minority woman. I think this concept is still embedded in our society like it or not, and I think this is the trigger from the Chinese Man's perspective in recent incident as well as the taxi driver's curiosity highlighted in this video. This is an academic question to draw understanding.

[@StevenTeokf]

I would agree to that.

[@Prometheus574]

That's the reason we must teach those racist conservative bigots the hardest punishment that they could ever receive.

[@Prometheus574]

Taxi driver, lecturer, etc. They should be terminated from their employment as soon as the video was made to the public.

[@jessiejames7492]

Shes very beautiful esp in that outfit

[@veluannamalai8009]

:)

[@tipuandlivia]

We are married for 30 years and We are very happy with two amazing young men in our life. Nice colorful family in two cultures.

[@Emsyaz]

Husband = Tamil Wife = Chinese Their child look like Malay 😂 Interesting

[@csePraveenKumarB]

Bro is Chinese ND Malay have same face am I right

[@LouettaHo]

Their daughter looks Chindian and she’ll be gorgeous when she grows up. Trust me. My Chindian friends are all good-looking and have exotic looks.

[@RajRaj-zx4rf]

They always say they don't like black and brown skin people. Racial discrimination is happening every where in Singapore . This is the truth

[@inumusha7108]

Lets be honest here, even the black and brown skin people also don't like dark skin color. The lighter skinned ones in their racial communities are placed on a higher pedestal. Just look at their celebrities, especially females.

[@krisnanstravelvlogscomings3893]

Just look at the reporter’s face when she is talking about this issue she seems to dislike interracial marriage

[@thehwielie3454]

Shame on all the Singaporean Chinese first they look down at other and then when they saw people had a lot of money they married them

[@lukemelia654]

I like this inspiring couple's vision.

[@liarliar3412]

Learning interracial relationship from one biracial couple is not enough. We must seek more information from diverse sources.😁

[@esthertan694]

I guess the underlying denominator that binds this lovely couple is their religion. They see each other through God's eyes not humans'. But historically thats one type of peranakan unions and that's just beautiful. Stay happy both!

[@PJWALL89]

Nothing new le. Older generation married mix race no issue. Love is blind.

[@trianglestomache6353]

Not being racist, but some people definitely are less attracted to , and have less preference for darker skinned people.

[@krishnaprasadh9844]

yes i am less attracted to yellowish white people with no eye lids

[@superfish6794]

At least their child wont need to go for a double eyelid surgery and a nosejob to look attractive i guess..

[@arrowstheorem1881]

I think humans or laymen are not saints. Why expect perfection from laymen when no one is perfect and are full of flaws?

[@awut7235]

Pollution.

[@onlinevoice195]

Mixed race marriages are common even before Singapore's independence, especially amongst Christians. I guess the couples involved need to be mindful that they must have mutual rooted convictions to keep them married ( till death do us part, if possible). These rooted mutual convictions could be same faith, or values, or cultures, etc. Since couples with the same race also face divorces, all the more so if couples are of different race/culture and of different faith/values.

[@csePraveenKumarB]

For some Chinese let meet give some clarification,I have lots of Tamil friends they said me some things,our official language Tamil,and Tamil people are Singaporean...some people who come from India for work ,they are not Tamil,they are from different community...so Tamil people is not responsible for them...in Singapore (Malay, Chinese, Tamil)these There are Singaporean...so I hope u now understand, don't collapse tamilans with Indian guy's...

[@cvhawkeye6255]

Curiosity is not racist! We need to remember that!

[@SuccessforLifester]

If mixed race children how do they managed Mendaki funds disembursement? Follow the father or mother? Or as long as one parent meets the criteria will do? Our Head of state followed the mother for the race categorisation

[@jessiejames7492]

My friend is chinese. Adopted by malay. Married an indian muslim. Her childrens IC shows Indian. Religion muslim. She said their salaries have cuts fr both Sinda and Muis fund. She said not fair.

[@SuccessforLifester]

@@jessiejames7492 wah both sides must contribute... Last time they cut mine to CDAC

[@superfish6794]

That sounds like more of a societal problem rather than a interracial union to me..

[@1956Mariella]

Don’t try to play down the issue of interracial marriage challenges, ya?!

[@jessiejames7492]

Has challenges but if both sides of their families accept them snd support them will help a great deal

[@1956Mariella]

@@jessiejames7492 It would be helpful, but does it happen?! What if one spouse is not Singaporean??? 🙄 And do relatives need to agree…or better put: should relatives of the couple have a say because they do not agree with the choice of spouse and therefore become toxic for the new family???? And furthermore, are these stuck-up relatives entitled to have a bad attitude against the child resulted from this marriage… Finally: should you count on these 'relatives' and the society at large, the school included, as human beings?

[@jessiejames7492]

@@1956Mariella i think if you love your child more than love itself you want them to be happy in their new lives. you put your own feelings aside and love them and your grandchildren all the same. thats being a loving family. interferring in your childrens' marriages will only result in heartache. why do that. acceptance is so much better.I agree attitudes and laws need to change.

[@Prometheus574]

​@@jessiejames7492 Most old people died alone in their small rental houses in Singapore. Why? Because they love to interfere their children's affair. Especially those whose daughter's married to men outside their own race. At the end, the old people receive the bad karma.

[@jessiejames7492]

@@Prometheus574 right or wrong they come from a different generation. Deep seated beliefs.

[@dachee]

Just my concern and thinking aloud. What if a mixed-race couple wanted to get married but is rejected by his or her parent/s or would-be parent/s-in-law citing his or their racial preferences and reasons to the couple and rejecting one of them for being another race. And the event was captured on video and posted on the internet for the public to view or it may not be captured on video (depends). In such a case, could the law be used to report or charge against the parent/s or would-be parent/s-in-law for being racist against another person? Or have the parent/s terminated by their companies for being racist? Can someone with knowledge of the racist law/ACT help to clarify the law in such a case? Just my two cents. Hope to have a better understanding of the law. I am confused, lost, and frighten!

[@whyyouseeme563]

the news presenter seems like she don't like mix marriage at all.... face expression dont seem right at all... like bo chap just ask the questions just for the sake of the show.....

[@jessiejames7492]

Its just a job

[@SuccessforLifester]

Her face is always like that. A bit sad looking. I think is the eye browns

[@cck53sg]

You are thinking too much into this :)

[@adriankt]

Ready for a chindian baby. And many locals are following.. no issue at all. By the way. The sph reporter can also find yourself one to interace.

[@alexandermathews5331]

Blessing couple

[@iamgreat1234]

There must be very bad relationship between Tamil & Chinese that interracial marriage are seen as wow things

[@Prometheus574]

Maybe because of India Indians who came to SG and become so arrogant when they held higher positions at a company thus leading to local Singaporeans, especially the Chinese to consider all Indians are the same. For this case, that lecturer made a biggest mistake because the couple he harassed are not foreigners but local Singaporeans.

[@wilsonchiang8386]

I am worried for the future of Singapore

[@greatasia606]

Shallow! Chinese is mixed race.

[@meichin7535]

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@arrowstheorem1881]

Can SG one day have a SG where Chinese race is not Majority given : 1. Growing mixed race marriages. 2. Lowering Chinese birth rates. 3. If SG is not Chinese majority, maybe SG can be regarded as less Chinese or be perceived to be a Chinese majority country. If SG majority is not Chinese would this not remove the risk of Chinese superiority racism, if any? Would it not make non Chinese feel less race pressured?

[@Prometheus574]

Solution, surrender it back to Britain.

[@Prometheus574]

The Sunak people will help reduce the Chinese population.

[@ongernie7216]

All these stirring problem among racial differences.

[@10000years]

hope this interracial couple realize that the Chinese are angry

[@Prometheus574]

That only fall to a very small percentage of Chinese people in SG. Most well educated, and younger generation local Chinese Singaporeans doesn't have that kind of radicalized extremist's mindset to begin with. Most of them condemned the lecturer's remarks.

[@करनमिढ़ा]

so?

[@loguchennai]

No one cares bro.. Every want to live and raise good childrens.. Nothing in between can change that.. Angry for what, you Chinese men should marry 4 chinese girls live happily then ... No one cares

[@arrowstheorem1881]

While they have differences in race, language and religion, I think they have something in common. I dare not say it.

[@iamgreat1234]

All racist, hate dark skin people.

[@arrowstheorem1881]

I, speaking for I only, have a preference for different race. It's like spice things up. But it's just me

[@jessiejames7492]

Children frm these mixtures are beautiful.

[@arrowstheorem1881]

Are every SG Indian or Malay totally fine and accepting of their ladies being wife of a SG Chinese? We need to look at both angles

[@iamgreat1234]

All Singaporean Chinese are Peranakan. They actually subgroup of Chinese.

[@Prometheus574]

Actually Malay men married Chinese women in Singapore happened far back before an Indian man married a Chinese woman. But the older generations (conservative) of Chinese people in SG, including Malays and Indians need to acknowledge the rise of interracial marriages and also the the uncontrollable numbers of divorces within same race marriages. This kind of people will always argue and deny facts when you speak to them about it.

[@paulchew6963]

Singaporean origin or import from other countries in the future. No longer as a pure locally which is truly born Singapore 🇸🇬. Just like a foodcourt, Rojar Mixing around races into the huge bowl sounded like a Army Camp🥣.....

[@SuccessforLifester]

Under race, would be under Others is it?

[@paulchew6963]

@@SuccessforLifester . Depending on which races around the world would be interested in Singapore 🇸🇬 and as a citizen of republic of Singapore 🇸🇬. To become Truely Singaporean ( Import from whichever counties).....

[@Prometheus574]

@@paulchew6963 Most old people died alone in their small HDB rental houses in Singapore. Why? Because they love to interfere with their children's affair. Especially those whose daughter's married to men outside their own race. At the end, the old people receive the bad karma.

[@johnny-ih5es]

Increase in interracial unions does not mean it should be condoned or even encouraged. We cannot just look at the small details. See the 'big picture' and it tells a different story. There is diversity in India's society and then, there's China's homogeinity society. For economic development, homogeinity performs better.

[@Prometheus574]

Must encourage and condoned. This way we will prevent racial strife / riots in future. Singapore is a multiracial country/ This is not goddamned China or India.

[@erisrandon5239]

Where does pluralistic American society fit into your argument?

[@johnny-ih5es]

@@erisrandon5239 You are replying to a post which is two years old. Well, to asnwer your question, just look at the facts. Anyway, I don't think that A white American will ask this question.

[@ajken6527]

bro you are indian accept it

[@heavengod8650]

This man in red t shirt is my hero

[@Prometheus574]

Come and meet if you dare.

[@covid-dx8dh]

i would marry an alien thou .. so no1 will be racist towards us n run for their life

[@openbob6656]

we should all be labeled as Singaporean

[@WastedBananas]

🤡 corny name and pfp

[@amelintng8938]

All the best for the both of you,,,,sad but true,,,we Singaporean have not reach there yet,,, hardware maybe,,,, software wise,,,, still a long way to go,,,,,

[@klennairew5629]

The child will have to deal with her identity crisis, from childhood to adulthood. I l would like to elaborate but then my comment will be blocked.

[@1帝国日本帝国]

His identity will be "Human". He will be identified as a fellow human everywhere around the world and you don't have to worry

[@klennairew5629]

@@1帝国日本帝国 , I am not worried. People got less to worry about when they are not raising children of a different race.

[@freesoul3137]

@@1帝国日本帝国 Perfect punch ♠️

[@1帝国日本帝国]

@@freesoul3137 ikr lol

[@Prometheus574]

@@klennairew5629 Marriage is individual issue. As long the couple is OK with each other , their families have no rights to say a single word or object, none of outsider's business too. So to all race purist bigots, don't be busybody.

[@htahtoo8851]

Will interracial marriages bring inclusiveness to society? Image there is a school for interracial children. What will they compare? It's still about colours, faith, cultures, traditions etc. There is no escape, except their skin tones are a bit lighter or darker because of cross-breeding.

[@Prometheus574]

Race and skin color is never the problem. There's absolutely nothing wrong for an Indian or Malay man to marry a Chinese or White woman. It is their decision who they want to get married with. You shouldn't be allowed to interfere, not even their own family members especially when the daughters/sons are over 21 years old at the time of marriage.

[@superfish6794]

What about ang moh and chinese though?

[@thirushaun1096]

Not racial issue its more to beauty n the beast....

[@arrowstheorem1881]

A happy couple is not just about love. Sex matters. The wife has to be sexual satisfied although it's politically taboo to say so

[@iamgreat1234]

They all racist. Hate dark skin people.

[@arrowstheorem1881]

@@iamgreat1234 who they deh?

[@करनमिढ़ा]

wdym lol?

[@jessiejames7492]

Not true. Why the wife only. The man just lie there like a plank? Or find another woman?

[@करनमिढ़ा]

What's your point?

[@liarliar3412]

I am curious. Is Abraham Christopher a Brahmin?

[@abrahamdecruz5128]

Sounds a christian name

[@rajblack2055]

No lah. He is Christian. Brahmin is from Hindu religion. Indian Christians look Indian ... Eat Indian food.. speak Indian language... Dress like Indian but Religion is Christian or Catholic.

[@liarliar3412]

@@rajblack2055 , are you sure he was not born into a Brahmin family but later converted to Christianity?

[@rajblack2055]

@@liarliar3412 what makes you think he is Brahmin???

[@liarliar3412]

@@rajblack2055, he adopted a full western name. I don't know for sure unless he reveals his original Indian family name.

[@heavengod8650]

Share shame , disgracing , disgusting , dirty story together .

[@desmond89]

Why

[@icecube8560]

Is somebody cheesed off because he’s ….ahem… ‘short-changed’? XDXDXD. Get used to it buster, the world is changing

[@krishnaprasadh9844]

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