6 Things That ACTUALLY Make You More Confident (This Changed My Life)

[@CourtneyRyan]

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[@hrobky]

00:19 self-discipline vs success 02:17 betterhelp 03:34 actually keep self-promises 05:20 do things alone 09:38 learn something new 11:15 people don't care that much ;) 13:22 exercise and self-care

[@Being_Jeff]

Cheers love it when someone posts a summary my time is precious don't want to listen to the same things over and over again.

[@MermanManly]

Indeed, most of these channels are overly wordy!

[@tyronewilliams1972]

I love going to the movies alone

[@robbertag808]

@@tyronewilliams1972 That's cool. I have done that some times, but I need to do it more often. It's not that you can even talk during a movie, so why not go alone... It's the easiest thing to do alone.

[@ChrisW1019]

Losing over 100 lbs is the greatest achievement of my life thus far. It is also the most painful thing I've ever done because it lead me to fully realize all of the emotional reasons that led me and kept me overweight for so many years.

[@CourtneyRyan]

So awesome. Proud of you and thanks for sharing! 🥰

[@pharkle35]

Chris that is a great achievement. Don't stop keep going.

[@EmbraceTheStruggle24]

Congrats man 🎊

[@colinreidcr]

this. I feel like this is what I need to do cause I’ve put on a little and I think that’s why I am so lonely

[@ReubenZeigler]

That’s fantastic dude! I lost 70 so understand how hard that was for you. Great work!!

[@screamtheguy6425]

Im a 22 year old guy who started exercise, self discipline, doing things alone, doing something new (hobbies), and keeping self promises. I gained some internal validation through these things but i only began to regain my confidence through therapy and secondarily not giving a damn about others opinions. Now boys, these things wont mean you will automatically get a girlfriend. Thats what everyone said to me, but i guarantee you feeling adequate while single is better than not feeling confident.

[@666DevilLittle]

As someone who has been going to the gym for 22 years now. I recently watched one guy that started going to the gym, somewhere around December of 2022 or January of 2023. Starting at 300+ pound range and just slowly watching his transformation throughout the year. When I asked him how much weight he had lost in late December, it was north of a 130 pounds. And this past Saturday himself, 2 other guys and myself were all doing a max bench press with slow negatives. He was trying to get 205 pound bench press, I bet he thought he would never be able to do that when he first started. The way he looks and his level of confidence is night and day from when he first stated, I wouldn't believe that the are the same person if i hadn't watched it myself. I personally love watching peoples transformations, his has just been the most mind blowing I've seen in person so far.

[@kieferspence3750]

Doing things on my own is my favorite. Concerts, movies, vacations? Love it. There is nothing more freeing than being untether in a whole new city.

[@Putzl52]

I can agree with what Courtney is saying here. I’ve worked out somewhat sporadically over the past few years but never overly consistent. I finally got consistent at the new year and WOW! What a difference it makes! I feel so much better about myself. I think a consistent workout routine is only the foundation, but boy does it sure help!

[@LisaFenton-h7f]

I started working out this year for the first time, AMAZING. The "physical" results are slower than I'd like but, the MENTAL impact is really a great surprise. I only wish I'd started YEARS ago.

[@maxwillson]

My new year's resolution was to clean my house every two weeks. I didn't realize how dirty my house was until I really started to clean it. It has boosted my confidence because now I don't have to worry when people come over. I'm always proud of myself when I'm done cleaning, it's really weird, I didn't think I'd enjoy it so much. There's a sense of relief afterwards, like, wow, look how clean my kitchen and bathroom looks, now I can relax. Or if something gets dirty, I know I'm going to clean it on a certain date, I don't have to stress about it.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Love it!

[@puppycorn_editz7049]

Jesus Christ 😳

[@LisaFenton-h7f]

I'm an older woman (big Courtney fan) who started working out for the first time in my life in Jan. I wanted to do it for health reasons, to change a bad habit by replacing it with a good one and to address a grieving process that had turned into depression. The impact in less than 3 months has been AMAZING. Gelling physically stroonge, Mentally happier. And it's actually FUN a lot of the time. I only wish I'd done it SOONER. btw: lots OF REALLY GOOD ADVICE IN THIS PARTICULAR VIDEO. Thanks, Courtney!

[@brianthesnail3815]

Physical strength is something older women (and men) often lack and good on you to get to dealing with that. Also dealing with grieving is tough though. One thing on that which has stuck in my mind is what an older woman told me. She said that her doctor had instructed her quiet sternly not to sit in her living room looking at the empty chair where her husband used to sit. She had taken that advice. My mother in law did the opposite. She gave up and physically deteriorated and has zero physical strength. She falls quite a bit and one day laid alone on the floor for six hours refusing to pull the emergency chord in her care home until somebody accidentally found her. Then spent two weeks in hospital. Its very sad and my wife does try to help her and care for her but she just refuses to accept help. In fact, my mother in law resents my wife and lies to her in order to avoid admitting she needs help.

[@samuelitooooo]

Self-discipline is what I need most. Its the gateway to other things on the list, such as learning something new (such as … how to cook and do laundry 😬) and self-care (e.g. washing my face daily and stretching daily).

[@RonaldGibson699]

Hi Courtney! I do a little trick every year for my New Year's Res-- I pick something that I ALREADY KNOW that I'm going to do within a couple of days. Then, it's "I've already done my New Year's Resolution!". Gets the year off to a great start! Hope that you guys are having a great week!

[@Receipt]

The actions of confidence come first, the feelings of confidence come later. The trick we play on ourselves is thinking that confident people do confident things. Nah. We DO things, and then we FEEL confident.

[@fishingdude8393]

The problem is we are all constantly fighting against our own negative thoughts that want us to take the easy way out and be lazy.

[@JohnM...]

Do the things you say you’re going to do, and even if your negative self is in a lazy ass mood - tell it you’re doing it whether it likes it or not.

[@Chris-rm1jg]

Self discipline is pushing through the laziness / negative thoughts, it isn’t supposed to be easy. Each time you overcome it though, you gain the confidence to overcome those thoughts. A self fulfilling prophecy can stem from those negative/lazy thoughts, if you think and believe it- you will manifest it

[@colinb8332]

You can’t just spend your life fighting your own thoughts. They will exhaust you. You need to take time to understand them, where they come from. Then reframe the story so it’s not a fight against them, but rather utilizing them in your your going forward.

[@EmbraceTheStruggle24]

Boatload of truth 💯

[@kyonsparksThelight]

There is no easy way out. Embracing difficult challenges and facing yourself is the only way.

[@Harikejn]

Important things: 0:18 First Thing ÷ Self Discipline VS. Success; 3:31 Second Thing ÷ Actually Keep Promises To Yourself; 5:17 Third Thing ÷ Do Things Alone; 9:36 Fourth Thing ÷ Learn Something New; 10:55 Fifth Thing ÷ People Are Not Focused On You Or What You're Doing; 13:21 Sixth Thing ÷ Workout And Take Care of Yourself; and 15:01 to summarize all the told here. Additional advices could be these: Seventh Thing ÷ When someone says thing, don't take everything for granted (meaning to say that sometimes some people will say many things without knowing your situations); Eight Thing ÷ Practice Speaking Expressions (but this can be also partly a Fourth Thing ÷ Learn Something New), Ninth Thing ÷ Believe In Yourself; And Tenth Thing ÷ Help Yourself To Be A Better Person For Yourself. Important thing is not to listen about things what do people say such as these things: ,,This will be hard for you; There's no one who can help you; etc." Why? Because that's their opinion. You have to listen to yourself, and to find what suits you good, and what doesn't. When I was listening to you Courtney I remembered a couple of quotes that I saw them long time ago. And they go like this: 1. First quote goes like this: "Life begins when we step out of the zone of the known (some call it comfort zone) and to go into the unknown. 2. Second quote goes like this: "When someone else's opinion payed me (or getting me earning), then I will listen to it." Generally the conclusion of this video is this: Order, work and discipline always solves everything, and that goes in every life situations. And that goes to either men, and women. Thank you Courtney ❤💙🤍.

[@gustavol6534]

Thanks!

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you! ❤️

[@cassiusarouch5210]

Thank you courtney for your help. You’re Channel is very helpful

[@Four_Words_And_Much_More]

Another excellent Vlog by Courtney. Thank you. These ideas have broad application. For example, they can help a person recover from depression. They can help you heal a damaged relationship. And more... but the point is believing in yourself the beginning of all positive change.

[@wouterlensing3222]

I can really relate to all these points. To give you an example, the girl I am dating gad her first performance wtih her choir yesterday. She was really nervous but during the show, she was only smiling and really getting out of her comfort zone. It gave her such a huge boost in her confindence. 😊

[@danintennessee4447]

Thank you so much for this content. I've been listening to your podcasts while I work out (listened to about a dozen of these now). I find them to be really uplifting and encouraging. It's good to get practical solutions to really be able to grow and improve -and it's nice to hear from a woman that: "this works," or "this is helpful." So often in life it has seemed like relationships and success with women is a giant mystery. I appreciate that these videos remove that.

[@theonetheycallfear8237]

Courtney, I really love your point about doing things alone. I personally love going out and doing things alone, but I think it is criminally underrated how amazing it is. The best is going to movies alone, mainly because I get my own popcorn.

[@theaspiecoach5934]

I got fit, redid my entire wardrobe, keep my home and truck clean, so now people take me seriously! 😊

[@Eclectic8]

Always place (internal) self-discipline ahead of (external) success. Had not heard that one. Thanks! Reminds me a bit of my top mantra when relating to others: Always place connecting ahead of correcting.

[@delberthcastro656]

Just be confident for yourself. Glad i can do the things i do and love the traveling. Being self confident is where it all starts.

[@alistaircorstorphine7469]

I’ve found Taekwondo has helped my confidence massively, I’ve cut out the negative things in my life ( dating , women etc) and replaced it with a focused , competitive, consistent mindset , the holy trinity keep me going ( my work , my daughter and taekwondo) that’s all I need right there :)

[@LatimusChadimus]

I do consider myself a forever-student and I never really thought about it yet you are correct, because I can add in as well as carry just about any conversation. This daily pursuit of knowledge certainly can enhance your social confidence when it comes to conversation, debate, and teaching

[@cisium1184]

Congrats on 700K. I remember when it was 7K!

[@retro_crasher]

Thats so cool! I am half japanese, and half my family is in the Kyoto Osaka area. While I was there I got to meet with a teacher of mine and give them a tour while they where touring this area.(the professor and his wife was touring various places in Japan). Afterwards some of my friends from the states visited and I gave them a tour as well. It went well and was a good confidence boost.

[@ajtaylor8750]

Mastery and control over your actions, behaviors, emotions, and thoughts makes having confidence so much easier. It's really the way to gain it naturally, along with true knowledge of self.

[@CourtneyRyan]

👏🏼👏🏼

[@Gonzeaux7]

So going out and doing things by yourself like you were mentioning has both its pros and its cons. I've always had to go out and do things by myself, while there's a sense of confidence with some things, loneliness kicks in too.

[@allyjaylou]

Building your self esteem on self discipline rather than success has been a game changer for me! Great advice

[@Cannabian]

Just when I'm wondering what I'm doing wrong Courtney comes in to remind me I'm doing fine :) if nothing else it's nice to know things you think are normal are appreciated by others and not so easy. The biggest thing for confidence was realizing things like money, success, sex, relationships are the symptoms but not the illness so to speak. Once I shed expectations of people and chose to simply enjoy what they bring to the table it lead to friendship, relationships, success etc. Most things we want come from forging bonds with others and growing to become a good kind person.

[@Staniel08]

I'd like to add... Learn to do things WITH people too. My first tendency is to do things alone... Like everything alone. But reflecting on it, I feel like it stems from my tendency to isolate, which stems from my lack of self-confidence (I was bullied as a kid and since have a fear of letting people get to know me, so I tend to be a loner). For me, a much bigger confidence boost might be INVITING someone to the movie I was planning on seeing alone. For anyone who feels like they resonate with this, I think it's worth a thought.

[@SPMinerva]

One other aspect to boost confidence for me is preparation. I introvert and always overthink stuff, so when i need do new stuff or go to places i prepared myself as best as i can. Which led to a sense of everything will be alright and give me control and confidence

[@54raynor]

The single most important thing you can do that ties all six of these together: practice. Confidence is every bit a learned skill as throwing a ball or riding a bike. While some people are naturally more confident than others, it is still a skill that can be learned by virtually everyone. You are probably going to be bad at first at all six of the things listed by Courtney. Practice is the only way to get better.

[@slick_Ric]

point 2 can't be stressed enough. the failure to do what you said you're going to do kills us in the most subtle ways and so many of us don't realize it. every time we give up the "resolutions" or "life hacks" or whatever we think we learned in a KZbin self improvement video, our subconscious mind is registering "i am a joke; I don't take myself or my word seriously, therefore i will live in a way where nobody will take me seriously" and we proceed to wreck our own lives without ever knowing why. i suggest to anyone else struggling with this self destructive habit, look into self-abandonment or self-neglect for help defining it and getting control over it. it's mostly rooted in childhood trauma we've never resolved, but part of being a man is taking responsibility for our issues to fix them, regardless of who or what caused them in the first place thanks for the reminder to keep my word to myself and to others. and the point about doing things alone, i always thought of myself as someone who's good at this because i go to movies and events alone all the time. but listening to you reminded me that there is one thing i always say "i only sit and do that if I'm with someone": watch movies or shows at home. i hate sitting and watching stuff by myself, specifically when I'm home. so I'm going to start putting on a movie by myself once in a while just to bust that whole idea I've been holding onto. probably sounds stupid that this is an issue for me haha but honestly a lot of times that's how it is with our issues

[@QMS9224]

Getting diagnosed with GERD/acid reflux was ironically the best thing that happened. I changed my diet, exercise, overall habits, breathing. By the time I fixed the problem I was so much healthier and more confident :)

[@garbuckle3000]

I'm a big advocate for traveling alone. If it's within your means, seeing the world is a great boost to confidence. I'm a huge introvert with little self confidence, but traveling alone never ceases to put a smile on my face. It still allows you your alone time to recharge, but grants you the ability to see new places. I've been to many countries alone, and my next alone trip is a 10 hour drive to Boston. There is no compromise when traveling alone, because you are doing it for you!

[@marathoner43]

I often don't agree with Courtney, but on the self-discipline point I agree; it can change your life. After I had a blood clot in my leg and in my lungs 4 years ago, I was 300 pounds. I put my mind to self-discipline to eating right and returning to my running. Over the 4 years, I went fro 300 to 166 pounds, and have completed my 19th and 20th marathons after the blood clot. No drugs, no fad diets, just eating better, eating less and working out more. Self-discipline helped me to control my diet and get out the door when the weather wasn't always great or if I wasn't feeling it. It hasn't helped my self-confidence any, but it has changed my life.

[@northernmichigan4108]

I've traveled the world by myself, eat at nice restaurants alone, gone to movies alone. Prefer it that way.

[@cur244]

Traveling solo is a great confidence booster. You're completely on your own and it kind of forces people to socialize with people.

[@JohannesNel-n8c]

Glad you enjoyed your time in Japan. Its nice to do things by oneself. Many times I just go for a walk in the neighborhood, or take a bus to town and walk around there exploring. Cape Town is a great and beautiful city to explore.

[@SPMinerva]

Travel solo is my favorite. I can stop whenever i want , go to a place i want and anytime without a person complaint. My friends always says they want travel but ended up not going because they cant find a friend to go and waste a bunch of opportunities to go.

[@dalac_93]

Thank you! You’re truly amazing 🙏🏾

[@bssaassin1900]

For some reason I always get that little thought in my head that as soon as leave the room people are going to talk shit especially since i see it happen to other people all the time. Yes you're right people are more preoccupied with their own shit but that don't mean people aint gonna talk shit

[@Flaroc01]

Thank you. This video was more helpful than expected and full of good advice.

[@lawrence31415]

Excellent topic for a video, Courtney! If someone asked me to formulate confidence, this is what I would say: "Confidence = Calm + Cool + Collect" 👍

[@faith-manages]

Kudos to doing things by yourself in Tokyo! I used to do a lot of traveling, events, concerts, etc. by myself, but after years of that I just got sick of not having anyone to share all my experiences with, and really since COVID I haven't done much at all.

[@Demothean]

About doing things alone, I’ve learned I can have just as much fun on my own trips. I always do hikes and outdoor adventures (I know you hate the outdoors but I love the outdoors) and I have found so many hidden gems in my area hiking on my own.

[@highlanderknight]

For me, it's mostly the opposite. From years of experience I actually feel worse knowing I was going someplace (vacations etc) without someone to share the time with. For the most part, I just stopped. I still plan on some things such as visiting a tank museum that most women would probably hate, but other trips and solo activities? Forget it, I feel like I'm wasting money for little to no enjoyment.

[@Vegaswill714]

Amazing that someone as seemingly confident as Courtney Ryan might have at one time struggled with self-confidence. It proves everyone is human.

[@kbeezyk]

Regarding being alone - For a year I worked a job that required 90% traveling. At first it was weird eating out and doing stuff alone but then you get used to it. I can see how that can build confidence that you can do things you may have not thought you could do.

[@rswear]

I would also say that when life hits you with the unexpected getting through it and accepting the adjusting of goals put persevering builds a lot. I used to fear the unexpected, and well still do, but after getting through some difficult times, I am like, dang - I handled that. So the next time things go sideways I know I can get through that too. It won't be fun and I'd rather not, but I *know* I can deal with stuff when I have to.

[@RosscoFAM]

You hit it out of the part with this video! Each of thse things are spot on and they work

[@RoanokeGaming]

Taking care of yourself and working out does help you move better until its 2 days after leg day

[@CourtneyRyan]

Accurate 😂

[@arvindbhunjun6555]

Just on the doing things by yourself part. Im the only single person in my friend group the rest are in relationships or married. They often go on holidays with their spouse/partner or have come back from honeymoon. I'd feel left out as I never had these experiences being alone, but one day I realised that jyst because I am not in a relationship this should not let that stop me from living my life and seeing the world. I took the leap and decided to go traveling on my own and feel better for it. Even when my friends find out and look down on me saying narrow-minded stuff like "Oh how can you go traveling without someone to share it with". I would used to let stuff like that bother me, but now I DGAF. I feel way better for it. So can 💯 relate to this video. Great job CR!

[@kevindavis9862]

This helped, Thanks.

[@kletts42]

Good for you on your trip to Japan. I went to Ireland by myself twice. I rented a car, went to B&Bs all on my own. It was fun. I am kind of used to doing things by myself because I am an only child so I lived by myself until I got married, went to restaurants, movies, run, etc. by myself.

[@On-Tel-eg.ram-RealCourtneyRyan]

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[@brianthesnail3815]

Being on your own in Tokyo is interesting. My wife was on a business trip so I left the hotel and walked around. I needed lunch and went to a simple noodle bar where a lot 'salary men' office workers were queuing outside. They were being called in to sit at long trestle tables wherever a space appeared. I joined the queue and I eventually got called in the men around me of course knew I had no idea what to order so they helped me. It was a good meal and very cheap and people were very friendly. Japan is a great country and especially if you are respectful and learn a few phrases. My wife has spent a lot of time there. They make great pasta if you don't like typical Japanese food.

[@chakrarocket]

That's awesome you went to Japan. I lived there for 13 years and taught myself the language.

[@ronm6585]

Thanks Courtney. Good on you for doing things on your own. I have been doing this since I was a teen and it feels good, doesn't it?

[@Fraden7]

Hi Courtney could you please make a video about finances in couples like basic rules to follow and why it seems to be such a wedge in some relationships , etc think it could be a very insightful. Thank you you rock !!

[@victorcretu7741]

When I want a boost of confidence, here's what I do (from 1 to 7): 1) I get a good night's sleep 2) I clean the house 3) I throw away useless things 4) I get a haircut 5) I get new clothes 6) I take short trips 7) I take a vacation

[@On-Tel-eg.ram-RealCourtneyRyan]

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[@dannorris642]

Doing things by yourself is awesome. That's basically how I've been since my 20s, when all my friends got fickle. There are downsides, though. Relationships can be difficult, if your lady doesn't understand or respect your alone time. Also, people might be confounded or even intimidated by you, which can be frustrating, when you're trying make new friends and get to know people.

[@Farehaven]

I'm a loner have done everything by myself for years, even moved to NYC and Nashville alone.

[@angelacosta466]

One thing I had to learn as a divorced man is self discipline and learning how to go to places by myself. It was hard at first but now I really enjoy it. I even took a solo vacation to the Bahamas and it was nice just being on my own schedule. It can be lonely sometimes but it has its pros and cons. I definitely feel more confident than ever before.

[@On-Tel-eg.ram-RealCourtneyRyan]

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[@saphyrionelendilion7166]

As a person who,lived in Tokyo and now in Kyushu, kudos to you! Tokyo can be scary for a different culture and norms, but it is also very safe. I hope you enjoyed it!

[@LatimusChadimus]

It is true though I used to have to tell that to kids all the time when they would go to the skatepark or to the gym that people really don't care about you and if you think they're going to be constantly staring at you and watching, instead of doing their own thing, you are going to get proven wrong

[@Beyond_The_Beard]

Any type of physical activity helps me boost my confidence. Honestly I often don’t do things alone because thoughts like what others think about me plays through my head.

[@Sir.DavidBruce]

Confidence is a ongoing, growing, delevolping thing you are right about that. Very nice talkingpoints I agree with all of them.

[@kp2l988]

👍 Was in Japan (the first time) by myself without wife (as she was pregnant) on a semi-business/conference trip some years ago when I travelled first to Tokyo (2 days) before heading down south to Kanazawa where I had stayed over 5 days at the conference (with social events and great dinners) . Wonderful experience which I still remember most details after so many years! Moral of the story/experience: if one wants to go far, go alone. (Buddha)

[@kylecam22]

I second the doing things alone part. Last summer, I wanted to go on a trip, but my friends already had other trips planned. So I went on vacation by myself, and it was awesome. I made an itinerary for myself and I did everything I wanted to do. The thought of doing that a couple of years ago would've been crazy to me, but I'm so glad I did it and I'm already planning on doing it again this year.

[@On-Tel-eg.ram-RealCourtneyRyan]

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[@edwardchenock6385]

Three months ago I decided to get off of social media, particularly Facebook and Instagram. Although I enjoyed connecting with friends and family on those platforms, I wanted to focus on more human-to-human interactions. I’ve also incorporated a healthier lifestyle, and actively working to getting my autism-induced anxiety under control.

[@tobiasgarrard9271]

So great! Essentials for all humans. You made me think smile and learn! As iron sharpens iron.. you are sharpening others. God is definitely using your shared experience. Thanks⭐ This vid title will be the first chapter..... In the book! Ha

[@mmg12francis56]

Courtney... I just thought to let you know that your voice is soothing and it helps me sleep so thank you 😊

[@fernandomartinezreyna1836]

When you’ve been alone as long as I have, you get used to it. I travel alone, I live alone, I do everything alone

[@DanielGutierrez-rf8zt]

Hey Courtney, I have been subscribed to your channel for a while and have seen many amazing videos and the great advice you offer. This has got to be the absolute BEST video you’ve ever done, period. All your other videos can boil down to this. This video is absolutely applicable in more than just dating, which is even better. Once you build confidence as an internal practice, I feel that dating will be and feel more natural. Thank you so much! By the way, get those steps in!

[@marcusantonius-f6n]

All the way is here in this video, just do it for you and observe yourself, Thanks Courtney.

[@TheNameCannotBeFound]

I got confident the day I decided to love and respect myself. From that day, I slowly worked on it and confidence just develops naturally along side all the care you finally give to yourself. We all come into this life the same way. Tiny, afraid, weak. You either stay that baby forever or finally chose to grow up.

[@atomic-fox]

the power and freedom of solo trips/adventures is highly underrated. it's actually the greatest benefit of being single / not in a relationship.

[@jtrojan]

Much of Courtney talked about today parrallels what other YT moderators are telling men to improve themselves. Included are hitting the gym for regular workouts, improving job skills and taking on new assignments at work, building confidence in public speaking (toastmasters) or leading a volunteer effort in the community. Establishing a good network of friends that can support you.

[@songOmatic]

Lived in Tokyo for 3 years. Spent PLENTY of time in Tokyo doing things by myself. It's a great place to do it. 🗾

[@KillaCommieFerMommie]

Awesome wisdom here.

[@sleepytimeshecomes]

I've always been comfortable doing things alone, it comes naturally to me. I do enjoy company but never been one to go out looking to be with someone cause I'm lonely. I've been married, had kids, raised them, successful career, in shape, still functioned even better than others alone. Even now I have a GF who loves my style. I'm blessed and I'm confident.

[@On-Tel-eg.ram-RealCourtneyRyan]

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[@Ezilla82]

Never knew that Courtney didn't do things alone without anybody with her, that was a shocker. Thanks Courtney for another amazing tidbits of information to make us more confident.

[@JACQUEZ23]

She got a husband u damn well she don't things by herself

[@noserialkiller3596]

I am confident that I will watch all of Courtney's videos. No Serial Killer.

[@MarvelMTs]

In 2016, I was over 320 lbs. Since then I have hovered between 240 lbs to as light as 208 lbs. So for average’s sake, let’s say 220, losing 100lbs. Greatest achievement of my life

[@CourtneyRyan]

Amazing! I hope you are so proud of yourself! 🥰

[@moneymakinmitch8130]

I’ve been doing stuff on my own since I was 19. I’m 21 now and I’m still doing things by myself. It was hard at first cuz going about things on my own would make me anxious but I’ve gotten more comfortable with it now. But yeah it seems to me that people are very reliant on others

[@EricMoore790]

I got rid of my wife's yoga instructor and my wallet and confidence have gotten better!

[@cMaXeJIJIo]

They’re going to get even better still once you get rid of your wife entirely! 😂

[@ryans413]

Achievement unlocked

[@eugenemalko]

Great advice, thank you Courtney!

[@alexandruvintila8697]

The local swimming pool is like 0.5mi away from where I live, in the summer office hours are until 2pm so I always had afternoons to go there but never had anyone to go with. I decided I’m gonna go there alone chill, sun bathe, listen to podcasts audio books. A few months in a couple of friends (women) came there during a bank holiday and found me alone in a good spot for them to set up their deck chairs. They asked me who I was with and told them alone, I like to enjoy myself here from time to time. They were so amazed I could be comfortable with being on my own. After that I got asked out a lot more times because they saw me as an explorer … of our own city 😂

[@saranrathakrish8468]

You inspire confidence in everyone that watches this video

[@東京のジャン]

Greetings from Tokyo and thank you for all your videos!

[@colinb8332]

I love the first point. You NEVER have full control over a goal or outcome. You do have control over the effort and focus you put towards that goal. Judge yourself in the moment to moment, not the outcome.

[@MedianValue]

Japan is a great place to explore alone. Its 100% safe everywhere and a dazzling bazar of techno new vs ancient old. Congrats on your adventure!

[@perpetualprocrastinator]

Good tip sister

[@ChiefCedricJohnson]

Proverbs 30:5 Every word of God is pure: he is a shield unto them that put their trust in him.

[@budwhite111]

Definitely leaning towards doing a Japan trip. Any trip planning advice or insights? Thanks!

[@Razear]

A lot of what constitutes 'success' is a gradual accumulation of microhabits and daily routines that eventually amount to the final product. We often have a distorted perception of success in the sense that we have a tendency to believe it's a linear path or that it happens overnight. We like being sold quick fixes instead of being burdened with the idea of having to exert long-term effort. "Do things alone." Introverts be like: I've been doing this my entire life. People with social anxiety fixate on the idea that everyone is constantly thinking about them all of the time. The more stock someone places on external opinion, the more miserable they become because it turns into a self-fulfilling prophecy. The root of most of our insecurities originate from continually comparing ourselves to others, and scavenging for qualities in which we fall short.

[@chrishammon14]

The only source of confidence anybody needs is rock solid discipline. It melts away any anxiety or depression you have. It’s something you have to follow through with to truly understand how good it feels.

[@EmbraceTheStruggle24]

9:38 and 11:15 were def super accurate for me 😊👍 ❤

[@steveolive9991]

Success breeds confidence. Start with easy conquering easy tasks. After conquering easy things, start tackling more difficult tasks to conquer. Soon you will be strutting around.