A Few Crumbs of Love Will Never Be Enough

[@kris.creates]

I always think if I just have a friend's with benefits, they won't discover the real anxious attachment me because i keep my wall up, nor do I have to worry about any real rejection. I'm 59 now and don't think I could ever go through rejection and abandonment again.

[@coach_amy]

I don't think anything is wrong with anxiously attached people. Securely attached, to me, is only authentic when there's a safe, trusting, communicative, transparent, relating, compassionate collaboration between two committed people with similar relationship needs, values, beliefs, and lifestyles. Perhaps you never had the opportunity to be secure in a relationship. I haven't, but I believe in it and have it to give. I won't again give that to someone who doesn't give it back.

[@chandranapier2259]

Regardless of what some may say, anyone can be anxiously attached. Others can make you very anxious by being aloof or abusing you.

[@melodeelewis462]

I gave up 20 years ago. I do not do relationships because my jealousy so intense.

[@natalieschannel7675]

I put these videos on at bedtime to help me sleep…her voice is very soothing

[@elvan5922]

❤❤❤same

[@coach_amy]

What takes away loneliness isn't having friends. Friends don't do life with you. Friends don't give affection. Friends don't share life goals and collaborate together working on those goals. Friends have their own lives with their own people. Doing social events or coffee chats don't take away loneliness. What protects me from making stupid decisions while being lonely is just accepting the loneliness and the void and not trying to fill it with sub-par situationships, addictions, bad habits and distractions. Instead, putting energy into self-care and home care for healing, growth, personal responsibility, integrity and humility; and being of-service,-with boundaries, dignity, class and morals--when having to deal with people in public and at jobs. And maintain a really close, trusting relationship with God.

[@lelawells4673]

Amen to all that!

[@erica__dee]

How many times can I listen to this until it rewires my brain 😂 Love it!

[@AscensionCafe1111]

Sharing this with my viewers! Thank you for the work you do ❤

[@andramusicevents2586]

Thank you, Ana! God bless you ! ❤

[@MissSothePeacefulObserver]

Friends with benefits never works long term. I was in denial for a long time about that, assuming I could "handle" it, since I've dated both men and women. But even LGBTQ women develop an emotional attachment once intimacy becomes involved. And once we realize that's all the relationship is, it gets very depressing. So then the relationship fizzles, because it wasn't based on anything else. I stopped doing that pattern years ago. I still stuggle with avoidant attachment issues, limerence, etc, but at least I'm more self aware now and working on tbose issues.

[@dianer5472]

You are so right on ! You describe my life and experience so surprisingly well Nice to know it’s not just me thank you

[@firehead2591]

I so appreciate the work you do and have found your videos an invaluable source in my healing. One thing I’ve noticed lately is that I am struggling to relate to your letter writers as of late. I don’t know if that a sign that I’m moving into a different stage in my life. I hope this is the case because i have been in a place like Maggie where I was getting get thrashed around emotionally from liking people more than they like me. Also 25 is very young I’m not sure it’s noteworthy to not have been in many or any romantic relationships at that age my first and only one was when I turned 28.

[@stitches513]

I can agree with your comment! I’m 43 years old & what I find is the message is what I’m seeking! Many of the letter writers are much younger than me in life years but some of their feelings/dating experiences are similiar to mine?! (Yea that doesn’t always sit well with me but we are all on a journey at different stages I suppose) thank you for your comment-it helped me see things in a different light (positively) ❤️‍🩹

[@sidmehere2964]

First🎉 great content

[@normanhart]

My therapist helped me to realize I’ve never been in a relationship. Not even when I was married for 9 years. Everything was a situationship. I am currently seeking my first girlfriend at 52

[@jayshrutisingh3648]

Ever since i broke up 2 years ago i have extreme night time anxiety 😢i feel so lonely i used to sleep with him now i sleep with my mother but when i am in college i sleep with your voice it is so soothing calms me down ❤❤ you are doing god's work Anna i love u soo much for it I m 26 going into derma residency this month from india

[@mahilla]

Just Thank you 😊😊😊

[@Auntigenjen]

"You're not foolish-you're traumatized"!~🐌⭐❕

[@hristinadimova6982]

Beautiful ❤thank you

[@noellechapman7667]

I agree, but for me, that’s all anyone is willing to give me

[@verymuchgerman]

You are amazing

[@Ms.Delphine1204]

I wish each letter had its own timestamp

[@catherinefry49]

He’s emotionally immature and unavailable. He just wanted physical which is a use. And the ‘mutual friend’ is getting ‘benefits’ too. Stay alert and maybe find another job.

[@NeroNORirl]

i don't think i can fall in love. it all seem casual to me. but yes, i do feel very alone in the world

[@gailmorgan2556]

We used to hike to 711 and get candy. I remember the grape bubble gum in a long stick. I think we paid for it. We stole elsewhere 🤭 it's a happy memory.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

:) I remember that gum.

[@lav7161]

Friends with benefits isn't for everyone. I have been having flings for a couple of years now, and I don't like how the women I'm having flings with lie to themselves. They say that they CAN have a fling but then out of nowhere, they bring up the possibility of having something serious. If you're looking for something serious, make sure you find potential partners that are in agreement with those terms.

[@flyleelee5351]

Women naturally absorb men's essence during sex. Is actually spiritual and deep. So it's very much biological and spiritually connected.

[@SLB_888]

That’s one way to look at it another is that you could stop having flings with monogamous single women and become a part of a polyamory and/or swingers group. Plenty of non-committal flings to be had there.

[@chandranapier2259]

Sex brings on feelings in a lot of people. Some think they can handle or avoid them until they hit a brick wall of emotions.

[@stitches513]

@@chandranapier2259exactly! Sometimes it’s definitely not expected! However (for me) I realize I can have that one I didn’t expect it to develop that way for me-so now I know I can’t keep repeating that pattern! It’s not a bad thing to make an error in judgement-but to keep repeating it, is entirely different…

[@JoeMcKenzie888]

Maybe don't have them then and acknowledge your role in this

[@queenkristine9590]

Awww, 2nd lady found an autistic partner, because this is what us neurodivergents do. We find others like what we’re used to.

[@BibleNerd22]

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