Crazy Ex-Friend Purposefully Crashed Her Car Into Husbands Tesla And Now I'm Worried r/relationships

[@RosesCookiesAndMilk]

Story 1: I think OP is so used to being blamed for Lucy reacting badly. She’s forgotten how mentally stable people react.

[@Ambidexter143]

OP is not responsible for Lucy's actions. Husband realizes this and is more concerned about his wife than the car. Husband is rational unlike Lucy.

[@ginathecookie]

or people who look after their mental health qnd get treatment... 😐 those people have swings like this too but dont go to extremes or abuse others

[@brigidtheirish]

I wouldn't be surprised. She's been beaten down by this 'friend' since she was, what, 18? Wouldn't be surprised if OP expects most people to act like her.

[@justine8387]

In shock

[@catT5236]

Makes sense, she probably doesn't realise that her friendship with Lucy has caused her trauma. I was in a relationship where the guy would fly off the handle over irrational things (e.g one time I apparently got off the bed wrong "in a huffy manner" because I'm short & I exhaled a little at the jump from bed to floor & he lost his sh*t with me) I still to this day panic that people are angry at me when I've done nothing wrong. My Mum often says "why on earth are you apologising for that?!" I can stand up for myself if I prepare myself for an argument, but I'll automatically apologise for things like me tripping up next to someone or if I drop my own book. Sometimes I catch myself now & immediately afterwards I'll say "wait, why am I apologising for that?" I haven't seen that guy in over 15 years, but I still do this.

[@MsTemptation]

S2: Your girlfriend is neither sweet nor caring if she views people outside of her station as being inferior. Stop lying to yourself just to excuse her awful behavior.

[@brigidtheirish]

Inferior? She doesn't see them as *people!* Her attitude is like wondering why someone wouldn't want to be intimate while the family *dog* is in the room!

[@paulagoeringer9466]

It's like they're just NPCS to her. Non player characters to those who don't game.

[@BNezzy]

like how she thinks of her house staff as "not real people"? lol Rich people like her are the worst humans. I am puzzled as to how people can live and treat people like this and think its ok and fine. I even worse how people around them dont say anything to them and call them out for the terrible inhumane behavior.

[@ItsCamille735]

That body positivity comment really rubbed me the wrong way. Walking around naked in front of your employees, who haven’t consented to seeing you naked, isn’t body positivity. It’s sexual harassment.

[@SerenaSilverMoon]

Not only that, but having sex in front of someone who is only trying to do their job is even worse. Plus, acting like they aren't even human, how has she NOT been sued in one form or another by now? Even if I NEEDED the job, I'd have quit the first time I saw that or heard her say that. Then I'd sue both her and her parents for allowing her to even think that it was ok to do this, sexual harassment, indecent exposure, and depending on if I was under-aged indecent exposure on front of a minor, or child enticement, both are BIG in the courts.

[@naturalbaby]

Last story: "she is very sweet and caring". Only to those who are not the help.

[@H.P._Lovecrafts_Beloved_Cat]

I was about to say this. He literally just gave every reason why she is not sweet and caring. It’s like she’s completely unable to see anyone’s viewpoint who she sees as beneath her.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@melodyharpole8272 Yep. When on a date, watch how the other person treats the waitstaff.

[@robertx8020]

her friends seem to be the same Yes, having a rich partner can be great, but in this case I'll rather be poor

[@fytrndm]

Guy doesn't even realise that her "sweet" and "caring" nature only extends to those in her social circle. Yikes.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

@@fytrndm it's not her nature to be sweet and caring. It's her mask. She showed who she really is or at least a small part of the awful person she is. She puts on "sweet and caring" like makeup or jewelry.

[@clairebear-96]

Omg Lucy’s other ex-friends were only “mildly surprised” to hear she tried to MURDER another of their friends? Holy fuck if that doesn’t say a lot about her….

[@joycetaepke2533]

In the last story, the “Help” are not actually REAL people. Dude, run!

[@lily-zg6io]

also lets not forget that in America (assuming that this is where the story takes place), the phrase "The Help" has its origins in enslavement and exploitation of black people, and how black people that worked in the house were essentially treated as glorified decor staff rather than as people.

[@Pumpkin_Kisses]

Story 1: All I can say is “That poor fiancé.” Imagine him opening that phone and witnessing that footage.

[@artemishallihan8973]

This was my thought too. How do you react when the car notifies you it's been in an accident before your loved one who was driving?

[@jessicarichards6796]

I can not imagine. I would be in an absolute panic if I thought my husband had been injured in a car accident and saw the footage.

[@clairebear-96]

I know right I teared up at that part, imagining how he would feel - and seeing the videos were from several hours ago, and he hadn’t heard from his wife!? That’s like an actual nightmare oh my god

[@LilChuunosuke]

Right? Though I think the wife needs personal therapy more than marriage counseling for her problem. Coming home from work and seeing VIDEOS of your car getting totalled with your wife inside. And no new messages from said wife after the crash. I'd be fearing the worst. He must've felt so relieved to hear her voice answering the phone.

[@starbird3939]

This is worse. Because his company refused to let him have his phone, he didn’t notice the accident until HOURS after it happened.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 1: if Lucy was trying to hit OP is that attempted vehicular manslaughter? Like attempted murder??? It’s really heartbreaking to read how OP is just blaming herself and worried about repercussions she’s going to fast when this psycho nearly flattened her! Like holy hell can you imagine if Lucy didn’t get arrested, she tries contacting OP to hang out like nothing happened……

[@tamarasmith9060]

It's at least assault of the highest grade because it shows premeditated deliberate attempt at bodily harm, far more than say punching someone or stabbing them in a non-lethal area of the body in an up close impromptu scuffle. Crazy lady's lawyer may be able to claim that: 1- no one would assume they could cause a deadly crash under those conditions, & 2- her crazy mindset was to punish the friend to make her suffer & regret cutting her out of her life, which of course OP couldn't suffer if dead. It's actually likely the DA will charge her with attempted manslaughter just to leave room for the charges to be reduced to 1st degree assault later, or sometimes what they will do is take it all the way to court with both charges & see which one gets found guilty of at trial depending on all the evidence gathered by then. The fact that another person in the friend group was threatened with the killing of their pet shows that crazy lady's mindset is more to punish by making people suffer instead of murdering them.

[@CensorshipVictim]

It's attempted murder, since Lucy hit her on purpose

[@HubiKoshi]

I wonder if OP was writing this while still in shock and not thinking straight?

[@bloodlos]

Assault with a deadly weapon and attempted murder, dangerous operation of a motor vehicle, careless driving. That’s what I think the charges would be.

[@velentr]

That was what I was thinking the entire time: Honey, Lucy just tried to kill you. Your husband won't give two shits about the damned car!

[@Donald43]

The girlfriend in the second story is going to find herself on the wrong side of the police one day because of her behaviour. Never mind her disgusting attitude towards the people who work for her is going to cost her as well sometime down the line. I don't know why OP goes along with it.

[@lancerevell5979]

At the least, she is an exhibitionist, likely getting a thrill showing herself off to "the little people". This gal has a screw loose in her belfry. I'd be separating myself from her, and the legal drama that is in her future.

[@lily-zg6io]

This story doesn't even surprise me too much, I grew up with my dad's side being on a similar level of wealth, so my grandma and great grandpa have staff to help them around the house, more when they got older, and I saw so many family members treat the staff poorly because "they're employees". The people backing the girlfriend up in this story are probably from a similar circle and have been brought up to see staff as their servants instead of fellow human beings. And in so many of these cases, the people are hired through an agency, and work for wealthy circles, so reporting your current employer could get you black listed and make it almost impossible for you to find work. It's depressing to see how money changes people

[@mariecleese6476]

@@lily-zg6io and this really explains why the ultra rich like benzo treat their workers like nothing and offer so little back to the community.

[@bluexwings]

"They can't have me anyways"... The horrifying thing is that someone might decide to prove her wrong about that. There are some very sick and angry people out their who could take her naivety and arrogance as an affront. I do hope that's not the case, but I worry for her.

[@joannavelez5179]

Exactly! One of those delivery people or some random person invited to her home could hurt her horribly, especially if she provokes them with her attitude. They would hurt her just to show her how no matter how much money you have, there are those who do not care and will hurt you, or worse

[@fabiocandelori9163]

Might? Someone eventually will decide to prove her wrong. The fact she has been lucky enough to not have yet met people that would do that doesn't mean it will not eventually happen.

[@catT5236]

Yeah, she's not invulnerable to rapists just because she's wealthy.

[@teekaybe4016]

@@fabiocandelori9163 Exactly!!! The very fact she doesn't see lower income people as "people" is almost provoking someone to do something. I really hope she changes her attitude.

[@stonefox2546]

Bet there's ...stuff in her food when she behaves like staff aren't humans.

[@Russman67]

Story 1: Lucy just committed a few felonies (attempted murder anyone?). I can't imagine the husband being upset at OP over the actions of someone he already knows is "Cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs" crazy. The car is the least of the problems here.

[@HeoBaby24]

He's upset because she didn't tell him

[@HeoBaby24]

I would understand why he would be upset she got into an car crash and didn't call him when she could only for him to find out on his own I would be upset too

[@DrawciaGleam02]

Unpopular opinion, Lucy NEEDS to be put in therapy NOW. I know people say you can't force that on someone, but in Lucy's case I think an exception should be made. She constantly lied about stuff and has threatened at least two people. If somebody who knew Lucy snapped and forcefully dragged her into a therapist's office, I wouldn't completely blame them for that.

[@harrypotter2700]

@@DrawciaGleam02 Therapy in general yes, but honestly I think she needs to be sent to an emergency facility for a full evaluation. The fact that she almost offed someone for not talking to her is terrifying.

[@awaasproductions]

Yeah when you combine the fight at the store (which will be security cameras and have witnesses) and the fact she followed OP home, this is open and shut. She tried killing her. If the Tesla was totaled that wasn’t a baby hit and the fact op was originally more in the path of the impact proves it. Hopefully they lock her up and throw away the key

[@lillithherondale1972]

That husband in story 1 is just wonderful. Exactly what a person should do, worry about the person and not the vehicle

[@Slicksterpat]

OUCH! The "actual people" quote set me off. I work retail don do not earn a lot but I like my job. I have a couple of friends who are very well off. Not Billions but multiple millions. 2 of them allways give me hell if they find out I had a bad time with money and ask why I don't ask them for help. I remind them about when I was 16 and a full time window installer with $2000 a week paycheques being low. I said back then and still do, that money although nice to have is not nearly as important as being happy. If I give my last $10 to a homeless guy, it makes me smile inside and that is what counts. They don't get it but I have high hopes that they will someday. Money cannot buy happiness, but it can make misery bareable.

[@damien678]

I really feel this. And I doubt they'll ever really get it since they're rich, but hopefully they will. There's a lot of social bs to untangle to even try, though, even when you aren't in a position financially to be living it up

[@Slicksterpat]

@@damien678 I honestly thing they figured it out last time. I jacked them up and sent a message to them asking for $5,000 grand each. Ten minutes later I sent then GOTCHA.

[@brigidtheirish]

I grew up poor and money's always been tight, but I *never* borrow money unless I expect to pay it back promptly. Like "I just have to find a working ATM" promptly.

[@Siinwu]

2: run... her and her friends are insane, no one acting like that are worth it. run!

[@Tammohawk1]

1. I hope that crazy bench goes to jail for attempted murder and not just hit and run. I don't think OP is going to have to worry about getting a restraining order, I think the district attorney will do that. 2, NTA That is illegal in most states. Exposing yourself like that. That gal is in for a very rude awakening someday soon. She is asking for trouble and can't even wrap her little mind around it.

[@bearstarpresents2264]

Nothing will happen though, they are rich and no one cares. Plus it will get the maids and other help blacklisted. And god help them if they are Hispanic, US citizens or not. Police and ICE just eat that shit up.

[@rayfordreed9304]

Story 2: Those are her emplpyees, imagine if she owned a company amd walked around the office like that, it's the same thing

[@seankeller1560]

My question is would she be okay if her employees went nude in front in of her

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@seankeller1560 she probably wouldn’t see them cause they “aren’t actual people”

[@kristelneedtoknow3207]

Not the same thing as it's her home. When i worked as a maid you're told to ignore stuff like that, as you are going into their own home. People being naked is pretty low on most maid and delivery drivers shock levels. Just a reminder people it's not a crime to be naked in your own house and nudist exist.

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@kristelneedtoknow3207 it is also common sense that this is workplace sexual harassment and that she is subjecting people she dehumanized to seeing her naked body. But get off enabling this utter BS. It’s ok for people to be naked in their house but not when they have people over (and her trying to have sex when a person is in the room she doesn’t think is there because she thinks lowly of them to the point of not thinking they are human) who don’t consent to it. If you don’t consent to it and it isn’t in the job description that employer may be naked, it’s against some law And the whole nudist thing is BS. There is a reason nudist colonies exist, because of the actual consent. Also: if it makes someone uncomfortable especially to those who aren’t expecting a young girl to flaunt her naked self in front of them the first day of meeting them for work. Remember: you’re just an enabler ok with work place harassment just because a woman is naked

[@lancerevell5979]

@@seankeller1560 Or better yet, her employers. For whom SHE is "the help".

[@janmots2829]

As a car driver in the UK, I can tell you that if a car is totalled beyond repair *some* insurance companies will pay for part of the cost to pay for a new one but it should depend on who's at fault. The commentors gave some good advice claiming on her insurance & sue the heck outta her.

[@Metal_Mouth]

Story 1: Shock is one hell of a human response, it's always interesting how the mind responds to extreme stress, like she was almost killed by her ex-friend and her first and only thought was the car and her husband's reaction and one of her first actions is to post on reddit. This is no fault to op of course because she must have been in some serious stress and throughout the post I was worried she had some hidden injury like a concussion or whiplash (in a lot of car crashes people have injuries that can seriously hurt/kill someone hours/days after a crash because they did not seek medical help thinking they're alright), but I'm glad she's alright overall. But yeah, I think Lucy got off easy- unless this was part of what op was told to keep hush by the lawyers. People like her don't obey a piece a paper and personally jail time or a lawsuit (or both) could help hammer home just how serious they are about the restraining order, because honestly she shouldn't get away with attempted murder.

[@wmdkitty]

Shock will make you do the wacky. I vomited blood and the only thing I could think was, "gotta wash up, can't go to hospital covered in bloody vomit."

[@TheNormExperience]

Yeah, I think shock is part of the reason Op doesn’t want to tell her partner. Telling him makes it real that someone just tried to kill her...

[@ginathecookie]

Yeah I saw my mother die and afterwards I acted fine and cheerful It was only in the many months after that that my mild ptsd (dianogsed) reared its ugly head. as the saying goes.

[@jenicdarling9425]

With everything that’s happened no doubt they’ll have a lot of court cases with Lucy. One for using her car as a weapon with the intent of hitting and hurting op (possibly intended to kill her with threatening to kill another friends dog), did this with so much force that she damaged all the cars with her’s missing parts of her car one and op’s husband’s car was so damaged it’s unusable getting totaled. That should be vehicular assault court case as she very easily could’ve seriously injured, disabled op or even killed her. Lucy would be the one “liable in civil court for the injury and damage you cause, you can be charged with a crime. In some states, the crime is known as vehicular assault. Aggravated assault is designated as a serious offence that involves causing serious physical harm to another knowingly and with the intent to commit a crime. In many instances, crippling injuries, and a threat to a person's life exists.” So she would responsible to pay all their costs, but her insurance might be the one to cover all those costs for her. If not all then some and she pay the rest. They could and should definitely sue her for emotional distress and such because of this extreme and dangerous type of crime. I could see her already charged by the police for lying to police officers about a crime she committed by how she lied about how her car was damaged, that might also be Interfering with a police case or report. She should also be charged for doing a hit & run. This all plus the evidence of the video from the husband’s car, reports on the cars by police and on this whole situation should make it easy for them to get a restraining order. They could have the other friends write like witness statements about Lucy of her character and past toxic and dangerous behavior like threatening to kill their dog and other things she did when shes both mad and unstable like abusing them. They need to be really cautious and careful going against Lucy in court because it will only make her get worse with her crazier and dangerous behavior. They need to get security cameras all around their home, in op’s car, a great security alarm. If they already do then get them all upgraded. And tell all their neighbors, friends & family (who don’t know her) , a their employer and colleges about what happened and is going on with Lucy. Send them all a picture of her and what kind of car she has, tell the front desk and security never to let her in. Because I can see her trying to do something else and it being worse then trying to run over op with their car!!! A restraining order is just a piece of paper that means nothing to crazy people. They need to be careful and look over their shoulder, maybe get a gun License to get one because I can see her going back to their house or even break into their house or something

[@CleopatraDK]

I acted like a fool too when I was in shock after I started a grease fire in my moms kitchen. I called the fire department and the lady on the phone had to tell me TWICE to get out. 🙃 (I didn't wanna be rude by just hanging up and waited for her to say goodbye. Then she repeated: "you NEED to get out.. NOW!" I said: "Okay, goodbye" because manners. lol) I found a fire extinguisher outside and went back in and put it out before the firemen came and ripped out the stove and got it outside. Then later when everything had calmed down and someone from insurance came to talk to my mom (she had been at work) and asses the damage, I was told to grab some dirty clothes and put it in a plastic bag so they could clean those first. I felt fine and in control, but my brain must have short-circuited since I stuffed the plastic bag with clean clothes that wasn't affected by the smoke 😅

[@MiraTheWarlock]

I've heard of way too many horrid boyfriends and girlfriends on this channel alone, I was fully expecting her BF to be pissed about the car I'm pretty relieved he didn't Just this one time, a total keeper

[@sadtitties222]

UGHHH YES, SO TRUE, LOL! Like, I actually let out an audible "OH NOOOO!" when OP was stating in the update about how her boyfriend's reaction was completely unexpected. Not gonna lie, my heart went into my throat for a minute. I let out a huge of relief when he had the correct reaction. I actually squealed at how worried he was for her, lol.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@sadtitties222 I was actually quite relieved when she said his reaction was unexpected because she was *expecting* him to be resentful.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Nah, most people in their right mind would be much more worried about the people in the accident than the totaled cars.

[@damien678]

I have ptsd, c-ptsd, adhd, autism, all of these things that makes emotional regulation (+ makes emotions feel Bigger and more overwhelming in general), impulsivity, and irritability much worse and I've *never* gotten that bad, and I acted pretty damn bad as an unsupported teen. WTAF.

[@potato-rp2bf]

Story 1: OP needs to ask the apartment complex for their security footage of the parking lot, or have a judge subpoena it as part of a suit against Lucy

[@tankmeltedargon8831]

Definitely, and the Tesla would of recorded everything, it has 360 degree cameras. The car and any security camera footage will be more than enough evidence.

[@MabruBlack]

Story 2: NTA. I remember that when it initially came out, the overwhelming YTA to OP confused me so much, with everyone saying he was misogynistic and such, that only when men were looking at his girlfriend he actually got mad. But tbh, him getting upset at her being only in underwear in front of the driver was the straw that broke the camels back. She seems insufferable, especially with the comments of ‘I don’t do this in front of real people’. If the roles were reversed and this was a guy, police would have been involved already. Body positivity is one thing, but flashing people ain’t it, sis.

[@ResidentMilf]

"She only does it in the comfort of her own home and not in front of 'actual people'" Yikes 🚩🚩🚩

[@mbyerly9680]

Teslas are filled with all kinds of interesting tech and cameras. A friend was part of a three-car wreck, and the cops were awestruck about the 360 degree camera coverage from her car.

[@thepretzel2]

Does that include the inside of the car?

[@lizfritz6546]

Second story is all about showing she has no respect for anyone “below” her. It’s completely disrespectful. The term “actual people” is a clear sign. Look, I dig walking around in just my underwear or without pants on or in a bra and sweats, BUT WHEN IM HOME ALONE. Not when my neighbors come around, when something gets delivered, etc.

[@crowdemon_archives]

And it's one thing if you just happened to be caught in an awkward situation. This fuck seems deliberate all around.

[@DarkspineBlaze00]

Hey Mark! I just wanted to let you know that yesterday while my husband was in the hospital emergency room, you reading stories and many of your videos were helping to keep me calm. He is fine now. He’s out of the hospital and doing great but he could have died and thanks to you I was able to keep my cool for him. Thank you so very much.

[@MarkNarrations]

Oh wow sorry to her you're going through that Alith. Wishing both you and your Husband the best

[@DarkspineBlaze00]

@@MarkNarrations thank you! We’re getting through this and it’s assured that he will make a full recovery.

[@laurenmentink7401]

Story 1 = Kudos on the hubby for taking care of OP. I wonder if OP's childhood had some trauma in it for her to believe that Lucy's behavior was okay. Hopefully Lucy will be charged with attempted murder or possibly with attempted manslaughter. If she is, then Lucy would be looking at prison time. Getting others in the friend group to testify to Lucy's past behavior will cause the sentence to be longer. Lucy will only get worse if she isn't punished for her attack on OP.

[@nancyfew1375]

I want an update when all the litigation and legalities have been finalized. I hope Lucy is charged with felony vehicular assault, as well as suing her for damages and having a judgement against her, meaning anything she earns will be subject to garnishment, even if she is in prison. I also doubt she will abide by the restraining order, and will attempt further contact/assault on OP.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 2… she is damn naive and ignorant of the actual real possibilities that those “help” could easily take advantage of her. It’s common sense to not dress like that in front of any strangers. Those parents failed her in actually teaching her anything regarding anyone she doesn’t know. Also failed her by not giving her a sense of empathy towards those she’s supposed to love

[@dangerouslysane]

She is acting obnoxiously arrogant. Her "excuse" that "they can't have me anyway, so why do you worry?" says it all. She's using her "freedom/body positivity" to taunt the people she pays to serve her. As others have noted--very classist. Hope OP follows through and finds someone with more class and self-respect. And it would be nice if that gf got some therapy, but I'm not holding my breath. Takes all kinds to make the world go round, I guess.

[@untitled-gv3qp]

The employees could probably win a s*xual harrassment suit considering she knows when they'll be in her home and she's still choosing to walk around them nude. Especially if any of them have tried asking her not to or made it know that they're uncomfortable with it.

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@untitled-gv3qp and when she wants to have sex with her boyfriend in a room she knows her staff is in. She better be careful, because sooner or later a staff will sue her and her parents for sexual harassment and she will probably end up cut off financially from her family.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

@@dangerouslysane yeah, it's not a good idea to taunt men with nudity. There's a LOT of normal looking vicious predators out there. This idea that they can't do anything is insane. Men are MUCH stronger than women and she may find out the hard way that some don't think about consequences or even care about them. It won't help her after the fact.

[@crowdemon_archives]

​@@paulagoeringer9466 alternatively, I don't think sexual assault is going to be the thing here. She could be screwing around with her help and claim she's not cheating. 🙃

[@shells500tutubo]

Last story- this is not about the gf being super rich (or at least her family is) but about her being an exhibitionist. She's only gotten away with it so far because she has money and so far her behavior is confined to her home. If she were a normal person doing this she probably would have an arrest record already for exposing herself. Groups of people do this all the time and it's really "look at me" behavior. Streakers, spring break flashing behavior, you get the picture. She is NOT a sweet person, btw.

[@jennstewart3003]

Yes these folks can and will get a restraining order if they ask about it. They can get the video surveillance from the grocery store then Show Lucy getting into that particular car, and if there's surveillance from the crash that shows her intentionally going towards OPs car. Those items will also go a long way towards an attempted murder charge or assault charges.

[@TheNormExperience]

Probably footage from the store OP ran into her as well. Will show Lucy coming towards her, yelling, and I assume once Op goes to leave, will also show Lucy intentionally following to the parking lot to DRIVE INTO HER. Sounds like the Tesla also took photos/video which will be very helpful. Like...I think Op hasn’t quite realized she is SO lucky to be alive. Hell, the Tesla is probably a big part of that! And Lucy’s insurance is the one who will pay, not OP’s.

[@beanieboogie9526]

Story one, Lucy sounds like someone that would have gone after OP regardless of how long ago OP cut them off. The fact they tried to hurt Op with zero regard for *her own life* in the crash if it had hit how she was aiming it could have killed them both, after just *one* chance meeting? Lucy was crazy with a capital 'C'. You don't just jump to murder like that as a sane person and OP needs therapy to realize their priorities in stress. .

[@InitialPC]

"Lucy is definitely on the line for crashing our 50-100k car, but we aren't sure if we're going to seek damages from her" WHAT

[@jennilynne1977]

I can't wait for the girlfriend in the second story to get sued for sexual harassment or something like that by one of her employees or a former employee. I can't believe that her reaction was "what could possibly happen?" I can think of a few things. Lawsuit for one. A male employee or a male delivery driver taking her nakedness for sexual advances and trying to do something to her, possibly ending up forcing themselves upon her.

[@crowdemon_archives]

Or if she's in another relationship, can you imagine the amount of cheating allegations

[@AppleStrawberryLove]

Story 1: Last year, my mom's car was nearly totaled in a crash only a few blocks from our house. I was not worried about the car when she got ahold of me needing a ride. I was more worried about her and getting to her. I was relieved she was fine (aside from a bruised knee) and dealing with the car was a problem for another day. I feel so bad for OP that she thinks that the car will be the biggest issue. Nah, honey, if he cares for you, you will be the first priority, the car second.

[@krazzygranny7032]

story 2 people that are that wealthy actually are brought up to not be conscious that there are other people around because while in their house they generally are never alone there are people around them all the time, and these people learn they are also in a room by themselves because otherwise it becomes awkward for them so they learn to just live around it, not that it's right and i'm sure when she was in her youth there was a lot of awkward stares

[@CensorshipVictim]

Story 1: info why wasn't Lucy arrested for attempted murder? Hit and run? Story 2: OP needs to run! This is a sexual harassment/hostile work environment lawsuit waiting to happen

[@MrBizteck]

Story 2 ... I recon bank of mummy and daddy will cover any lawsuit.

[@DBG-fh7io]

I love the relationship stories more than AITA personally. It’s a lot more complex and has way more plot twists lmao

[@ciomaria6137]

I’d heard the first part of the last story before, but not the whole thing. That girl will be in for a terrible wake-up call when she encounters the wrong person. She will either be sued for sexual harassment or find herself on the wrong side of harassment (or worse) herself. The way that she talks about others not being able to have her, so it doesn’t matter how she behaves around them is dangerous thinking. I’m not one to victim blame when something terrible happens, but it is sensible to take certain precautions among strangers. Perhaps I’ve seen too many episodes of criminal minds or forensic files, but I’m worried for her. Her classist attitude towards staff is a whole other issue and I wag a mother’s disapproving finger at that thinking.

[@terramarini6880]

I think she's an exhibitionist who knows damn well she is making people uncomfortable and gets off on it, she is further TA because she tried to foist her fetish on a partner who is neither aware of it or consenting to it ( trying to be intimate with him in front of the "help").

[@denelva]

Last story: this is what I would count as a rich person without class. It's baffling how she'd actually not see her workers as people. I have cleaned in upper class homes and I was always met with grace, respect - and very much DRESSED people in the house. Good lord, the lack of empathy, manners and just... failing how to human.

[@kellypatterson8506]

1ST story, OP is in no way responsible, what will likely happen assuming proper insurance, is insurance will pay for new car then go after Lucy for money 💰. Oh, and my parents had something like this happen, my dad bought my mum a 57 mustang mum loved that car and dad's brother wanted to borrow it for a date, he did and after dropping date at home was on way back fell asleep and wrapped the car around tree, he was uninjured, car totalled, and parents that very month had made the last payment on it...AHHHHHH

[@WhitneyDahlin]

What happened next?!?? How did your parents react when they got the news were they just happy your brother was okay or were they upset about the car?

[@kellypatterson8506]

@@WhitneyDahlin sorry, they were happy he was okay, but mom cried over car... she loved it.

[@MrShadow1617]

I work as a delivery driver and I can totally second the points made in the second story. Some people think that the people working hard to deliver their orders, be it food or stuff they ordered online, like electronics, are not actual people and also some think that those delivery people should basically behave like robots. But then again, there's also the other end of the spectrum, where there are people who actually give snacks or big tips to them, which makes delivery drivers very happy, knowing that some people actually care.

[@TriXJester]

Story 1: Dude. You are not reacting strongly enough to the fact this psycho TRIED TO KILL YOU. She only missed because YOU moved the car. SHE WAS TRYING TO MURDER YOU FOR BLOCKING HER. Story 2: That girl is really leaving herself open to a lawsuit from an employee doing that shit.

[@toothless3835]

Not just that, but someone could try to do something to her by just shoving into her house. The wrong kind of people. And even if she's a douche, she doesn't deserve to be assaulted.

[@kristinwiebold2433]

Story 1, but I can understand OP not knowing how to tell her husband his car is ruined and worrying about and forgotting the bigger picture.

[@Lindasims733]

First story OP’s husband sounds like a true gem

[@untiedshoelaces2588]

Last Story: Talk about having a detachment from reality! I wonder if OP isn't pretty much is considered as some sort of a "pet" to her?

[@Audioboss2000]

Story 2: the double standard can you imagine if the boyfriend did this? he would be arrested instantly.

[@jessicaparker2011]

I have mood swings. I've never rammed my car into someone else on purpose.

[@kristinwiebold2433]

Story 1. I am amazed that the police didn't tell OP to go to hospital or have ambulance come to make sure she was ok.

[@yandereskitty]

I had a friend like Lucy. Only she would use her state of constant depression to make me feel bad. It would get to the point where I could repeat things over and over and she would tell me that I wouldn't get it as I don't feel the way she does (I have diagnosed depression and anxiety) but when I would tell her that she would say that I'm jus trying to make her feel worse. In the end. She blocked me, and tbh it was a massive worry off my shoulder. I hope she does well in life. But I could never forgive her for all the other things that happened.

[@nancyfew1375]

I had a friend like Lucy once. I eventually had to call her out on at least one of her lies, and she unfriended me and blocked me. She is a drama queen, loud and coarse, and must be the center of attention. It was draining to be around her the last few years, but I still love her like a sister, I care about her, worry about her, but am relieved to no longer have to listen to her one-up everyone else in the room. No longer my circus, no longer my monkey.

[@garthrogers2269]

1st story. New Zealand also insures the vehicle, not the driver. That said, insurance companies regularly take forever to process claims, or deny then outright. As for OP, she needs to tell him that she was nearly murdered by a lunatic ASAP. The car is a minor detail in that saga, especially as it saved OP's life.

[@AllistorMichelle]

story 1: op your hubby is perfect. cares more about you over some car. i'm glad the tesla sent video of what happened

[@queencars802]

Atleast here in the states so long as the police file that yes Lucy did the damage then it will be Lucy's insurance thats responsible for paying it, if she has no insurance than you sue her for the damage

[@madisonl3401]

Yay! These are the best! You've been spoiling us lately with relationship stories! 🤗🤗🤗

[@nancyfew1375]

The last story absolutely appalled me. It's fine for her to feel comfortable with her body, but some of those whom she doesn't consider "people" could see it as her being a tease, and sometime, somewhere, when she least expects it, one of those delivery men, or perhaps even her driver, or other staff, will be pushed over the edge, and she will be sexually assaulted. And she will wonder why. She should only be dressed as described in the presence of her boyfriend and possibly her personal maid. Intimate activity should never occur when there is anyone else, "person" or not, in the same room, unless it is a consensual act. I doubt the maid would consent to being a witness, much less a participant. I suspect her very privileged upbringing may have contributed to her classist attitude, unless she is simply an exhibitionist. Her accusing OP of being jealous is brain-dead, because she shouldn't be flaunting her nearly naked body to anyone but him, acknowledged "person" or not. As it is, she is an incident just waiting to happen, and then her inconsiderate attitude will ruin some man's life, especially during these socially distanced times. People are at a breaking point, and she could be lighting the fuse on a stick of dynamite. I truly hope she learns common decency before she learns an even harder lesson.

[@dragonflyfirefly9465]

I completely agree with everything you just said. It’s scary how little common sense this woman has.

[@stan8479]

Your entire post smells like victim-blaming... Someone who gets sexually assaulted is not at fault for that, no matter what they wear. The one who assaults others is, as they clearly lack self-restraint. This kind of victim-blaming is why many sexual assault cases still don’t get the attention they deserve. Don’t get me wrong, I agree that it’s very inappropriate to not wear anything around people you don’t know intimately. But citing “this will cause sexual assault” when sexual assault is far more complex than that (it’s about power more often than not) isn’t the way to go.

[@ohno8398]

Woah hol up. Prancing around people half naked is wrong, yes, but it wouldn't mean that she would bear moral responsibility for being sexually assaulted. Not to mention that clothing is rarely a factor in sexual assault and rape anyway. She would not be pushing anyone over the edge, they would make the choice to commit a heinous act.

[@lostshadows768]

Story 1: I'm guessing Lucy is going to be facing some serious charges, but arraignment might be delayed by the holidays. Plus, they were advised not to discuss the case.

[@deedeeschway9566]

Agreed. There’s plenty of evidence with the Tesla, also they could get footage and/or witness statements from the accident scene and the store where the confrontation took place.

[@BDogGrizzly]

Story 2: Unfortunately I dated someone like this myself. She worked in the Female on Female Adult Entertainment Industry and she was of the mindset that since people could just see her naked in videos all over the web she didn’t see reason to wear much if *_ANY_* clothes. We ended up breaking up because it bothered me so much.

[@toyairy7612]

if lucy has a job and an income she needs to pay for her stupidity for most of the rest of her life. courts can work it out but i forsee her getting a massive credit line and not for a vacation or summer home.

[@rogrove6325]

Throughout the whole first part of that first story all I kept saying out loud was "That poor girl" You can feel her extended anxiety throughout the whole post. I can FEEL her panic through the text. What a nice girl, it's okay honey, this is all. Lucy. I see from the comments down below that the husband's a total keeper, so thank goodness. To me, she probably needed someone like her husband her whole life and has finally gotten it.

[@You_said_what1]

Story2/this is quite common. Look at any reality TV show with wealthy people and see how they treat their staff. Real housewives especially

[@seankeller1560]

Uhh reality tv is anything but realistic

[@You_said_what1]

@@seankeller1560 the way they treat their staff when they forget the cameras a rolling is pretty accurate

[@BohemianScandalous]

Story 2: someone who doesn’t consider the help as actual people is just BEGGING to get Gosford Park’d.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 1: The Restraining Order is step one. They have video proof from the tesla her car her tag they can likely see her face depending on what cameras turned on in the attack. The RO is make sure If Or When Lucy attacks again before trial, This Attempted Murder she awaiting trial for helps to weight the judgement on the next offence.

[@Slicksterpat]

Story one. Police and insurance. Tell Hubby right away exactly what happened. Do not delay.

[@Sarah-by6gp]

I love it when Mark says “cheeky”

[@candiebarr6745]

I'm surprised the woman in the one hasn't been sued for sexual harassment yet... how pathetic are the "help" that no one has done anything yet?

[@dagnytheartist]

If you dont have time or money you usually cant sue someone just from lack of resources :(

[@NemFX]

Story one: "how do I tell him about the car?" You don't. You tell him that someone just tried to kill you.

[@KCCAT5]

That woman in the less story is classist and privileged. When he mentioned she said regular people and she wasn't talking about her staff I knew at that point that she didn't view them as anything but amoeba. She just didn't see them. I saw an episode of Bridezillas many years ago and the woman was just like that putting people down because they worked in jobs that were beneath her because she came from money. I hope he leaves her and lives a happy life.

[@KisameOwnsYouAll]

You know, that's really cool to think about. He saved up for years and years to save his wife's life. If the car wasn't so new then I doubt she would've been so vigilant and maybe she wouldn't have survived.

[@solidmoon8266]

1st story, the single thing that pisses me off the most is how despite Lucy being cuffed for attempted vehicular murder, OP and her husband are still stuck holding the bill for their, more then likely, totaled car. The car is practically brand new and insurance won't pay anymore then its bluebook value, which is more then likely less then 50% of what it cost OP had to pay for the vehicle. Meaning OP and her husband are out about 30k+ dollars, which is no small chunk of change. OP and her husband should absolutely sue for all damages insurance doesn't cover, pain and suffering (damaged teeth), and time they're out a vehicle due to her actions. 2nd story, she's completely bonkers. If it was the other way around, he'd probably be in cuffs months ago. Her gaslighting and ignorance knows no bounds.

[@cv8167]

Story 1: Contact that store you ran into Looney Lucy at, and try to get the security footage of her screaming at you. Also see if your apartments have security cameras in the parking lot. Combine that with the car footage of the crash, and you can probably prove attempted murder.

[@rylashadow18]

S1: It wasn't the OP's fault Lucy is a screwy wreck with all the bells and whistles. Don't have your insurance take on the over cost of what her insurace won't cover though. She did this in ill intent you can get that covered as well from her in the form of punitive damages. After all why should your insurance take a hit for an accident that you didn't cause? Of course your fiance's going to care more about you than the car. I feel that you still expect people to treat you poorly only cause Lucy put that mentality on you to begin with and am glad you two will work together to help you see that you deserve to have a healthy loving relationship going forward. S2: This is a reminder of that saying: Money can't buy you class, love or manners. There's no changing someone so set in their ways that the feel their right's outweight any of their wrongs. Don't worry about her cause she made her choice to never treat anyone she see's as "less" as anything more than. That's her lost and it'll lead her to either be used by someone, sued by someone or both. It snowed over the past couple of days with today just being cold. I kinda stayed inside since sometimes cold is a trigger for my asthma to flare up. I had my kitty keeping me company as well as some nice warm meals for the day so alls good. Maybe if its all nicely melted tomorrow I can go for a nice walk depending if its warm enough. Please do your best to take care.

[@CreepyBlueAnimals84]

Crazy EX friend: I got teary eyed when OP told us her husband's response. What a wonderful person!! I wish both OP and her husband a happy and full life. Oblivious GF: It's incredible to think that someone can grow up so privileged and not consider the people who work for her as having feelings or actually being people!! I mean, I know it does happen. Some kids don't know a washer/dryer exists and think their clothes just come like that everyday like magic but it still makes me shake my head and sigh.

[@candypettynettie487]

Op was almost killed by a psycho and all she's worried about is the car?!!!! SERIOUSLY??? I'm glad you she's still alive and her family still has her. Lucy needs to rot!

[@AKASANJEEWA]

Last story, she does think OP as not equal. That's why she doesn't understand what he is trying to explain. He needs to make the 1st move and break up with her before she starts telling others that OP can't step up to "her level" Also similar to how we should be allowed to be the way we are, the rest of the world also have a right to decide on what they want to see, regardless of whether they are employed under you or not.

[@RokoFireFox]

Story 1. Omg... imagine getting those videos. I'm so happy dropped everything and flew home to be with op. And I'm glad op is safe

[@josephinejoseph8922]

She has no respect for op to expose herself like that

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

1) I hope she keeps updating this story, I want to know how it goes and I want to know that all the friends testified against Lucy and she goes to prison for a few years. Edit: need to make sure they go to the grocery store and get copies of inside and outside security footage to help them in court. Second edit: she deleted both posts :/

[@emmaspacelee]

For story 1 I don’t think OPs issue was having the money to replace the car, it’s the wait time for a new one.

[@JSainte17]

I've only heard the title and first line of story two but "I know it sounds sexist" is ridiculous! I'm SURE there will be people who call him sexist, and yes, I know, "there always has to be one" and I'm fine being that one. If a girl told her boyfriend to cover up when strangers come around, the worst "sexist" wouldn't even cross anyone's mind. You can complain about me being the "If the roles were reversed" person but 1. I'm a woman and 2. You know I'm right.

[@MabruBlack]

When this story first came out there were a lot of YTA to OP. I was so confused because indeed if the roles were reversed, police would have been involved.

[@amyyaku5022]

S2: Best way to tell if someone is an awful person: how they treat their staff. Honestly I would've said YTA cause as long as she's in her house she can wear whatever she wants (is it weird and inappropriate yes but hey let's not police what people wear in their own home), but considering what she's said and how she sees her staff, NTA.

[@nman2563]

Tesla camera footage should easily be able to prove the crash was intentional

[@LilChuunosuke]

I think OP in story 1 may have past experience with domestic violence, but it may just be trauma caused from her friendship with Lucy. Days, even WEEKS after surviving an attempted murder, OP is afraid of being held responsible for it and of the damage to inanimate objects. Thinking like that is not the default. It's learned. Not trusting your partner is a self preservation tactic because abusers will exploit you in your most vulnerable moments to cause you further pain. You learn to pull back emotionally and expect backlash in attempt to preserve your own sanity. I don't think OP needs *marriage counseling.* I think they need one-on-one therapy. With a trauma specialist, possibly. Even if I'm wrong about the past abuse, being a victim of an attempted murder is still traumatic. OP needs help learning or re-learning to put more focus and value into their own health and safety. They should be able to accept and seek comfort from their partner, not fear punishment. And it doesn't sound like it's the husband's fault she feared his response.

[@dracawyn]

Story 2: I could be completely wrong, but I would seriously not be surprised if girlfriend turned out to have an exhibitionism kink and is just privileged enough to get away with acting on it

[@josspa6558]

Story 2: the girlfriends comment about " they can't get me anyway" what that even means, does she really think that s*xual predators ask for consent or something? Or does she have some kind of invisible forcefield type chastity belt? She can't mean relationship wise, because OP talked about danger in it and if she meant she is really dense...

[@cynicalrabbit915]

Story Lucy Unless I misheard, the attack took place close to or at OP's home. The investigators should be able to piece together from the scene especially if it took place in OP 's driveway that it was in the very least vehicular assault or assualt with a deadly weapon. At the very least a hit and run with the perpetrator lying to avoide responsibilities.

[@sierrastanley3109]

Story 1) all I could think of was "Who gives a crap about the car! You were almost MURDERED by your psycho ex-friend!!"

[@growinghigher420]

Snowed in for my birthday this is definitely helping thank you Mark!!💖💖💖💖

[@Starvingmetheartist]

First story: oh my, i had something similar happen with my car that i had gotten and three weeks to the day, some asshole in a Jeep totalled it. I wasn't in it thankfully but i was beyond pissed and had to start the process of car shopping all over again

[@shannabananas780]

I mean... sue Lucy. File a police report. It should have been the first thing like???

[@BlueSkyBS]

Lucy sounds like a narcissist. She's exhibiting all the classic signs of narcissistic rage and is escalating her behaviors. If anyone needs to be locked up in solitary confinement (no access to other people whatsoever), in the dark for the term of their natural life, it is people like these. They've shown they don't deserve the privilege of others.

[@lynsthoughts3576]

Besides her OWN life, OP is more concerned about husband's MATERIAL possession versus her OWN life.. Sad mental state to be in because she's more concerned about a CAR than the fact her "FRIEND" tried to kill her

[@memyselfandi7782]

The AUDACITY OF LUCY! In the words of Iroh "She is crazy and she needs to go down."

[@anitacharron9153]

Get a lock in your office door that way when it's important you can lock the door and put a DO NOT DISTURB sign on the door.

[@WaitingxInxSilence]

The last story, OP had to tell his girlfriend he didn’t want to be intimate in front of the staff. How “intimate” does he mean? If his girlfriend was comfortable meeting her new driver buck naked, I worry she’d have no issue being fully “intimate” in front of staff.

[@SIXPACFISH]

Story 1. Lucy is a classic Physic Vampire. She doesn't have friends. She has victims who she feeds off of, by draining the joy and happiness out of. If someone always makes you feel bad. Why do you interact with them at all? Do not feel bad about telling the truth about her (or anyone's) criminal activities. Criminals Suck and need to be punished!

[@iStarlit]

so for story 2 it really bothered me that nobody at all considers OPs feelings about it. it's only that "she's classist". OP has a right to set boundaries and be uncomfortable with the behavior regardless of if her other actions were classist or not.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 💜💜🤗🤗

[@Idyll_Candy]

“They can’t have me anyway”, she is aware that r*pe exists, right?? Like, any of those people can take advantage of her at any time. Really sad that she is saying he’s “misogynistic” and all, but forgetting that what she’s doing is violating people’s right to consent, and, opening doors naked without knowing who’s on the other side of the door. That’s straight up dangerous.

[@jodieg6318]

Story 2 gave me the creeps. At the most innocent level an exhibition fetish has to be consensual for all parties exposed to it and the the very worst it should be pointed out to this woman, who feels like staff aren’t people and she should be free to expose herself at any level, that Ilse Koch of the infamous human skin lampshade felt the same way (and even did a lot of the same exhibitionist stuff the girlfriend does) when her husband was commandant of the Buchenwald concentration camp.

[@wwondertwin]

What is there even to ask? You tell your hubby and then you let the insurance company sue the crap out of your ex-friend. It's just that simple. You already made a police report, now you get a lawyer and let them sort out the suing with the insurance or however these things work in your jurisdiction.