r/InsaneParents - ✨Unhinged Parents Bingo✨

[@snorpenbass4196]

I can say this: staying for your siblings is always the wrong solution. The solution is to get your own place and make sure your siblings can run to you if necessary. They're probably gonna need it.

[@CyanAmity]

Precisely. Being there for your siblings is always good, but if it causes both you and said siblings to be in danger, it’s not the right move.

[@ShintogaDeathAngel]

I agree, though in my case it was for my adoptive mum after my brother moved out - but both my adoptive parents were dysfunctional so, 12 years on, even though a-dad passed already I wish I'd moved out much sooner than I did.

[@shewho333]

Yes. This is the right answer!

[@DarkBangle]

When things got bad at the house, my sister would go to a neighbor's house and call me and my brother. One of us would drive over to get her and let her stay at our apartment until things calmed down. If either of us were in a position where we could have supported her full time, we would have. Unfortunately that was not the case. But we did what we could. Of the three of us, she is coping the best. She's happily married and 100% no contact with our parents. I'm so proud of her.

[@thexp905]

I feel there is nuance to it. Staying for your siblings is a good thing to do, until you can get a place of your own. Being able to stay at a friends place to protect yourself is good and all, but you wouldn't really be able to help them whilst you are doing that.

[@bambino05]

My nana (86 years old) makes a roast dinner almost every week for at least 6 people, usually 8. She serves 2 types of meat, 5 different types of veggies, and 3 potato options. She also home makes 3 dessert options and always has ice cream and jelly. Every single time, my mother (nanas daughter) complains about something. "Meats dry" "gravy isn't thick enough" "roasties aren't leathery" (she is the only one who likes them like that) "don't like the desserts". I would also like to add that my mother can't cook at all. She used to burn our frozen pizzas, she's given us food poisoning several times. Somehow, most of her children have turned out well mannered and polite, so we tell her to shut up. My nana is getting very old and is still doing this, my family (me, husband, and kids) usually go over early to help. My mother shows up just before dinner and leaves almost immediately after, she even gets pissy about helping out with the washing up (you can imagine how much there is and she wants to leave it all to her 86 year old mother). My nana hasn't washed up after the roast in years because we (the adult grandchildren) refuse to let her. My mother acts like a toddler having a tantrum most of the time.

[@AntiochosMegas]

Kudos to you and your sibling(s?) for not becoming like your mom. :)

[@arona6692]

But... why ?

[@robinkholmes7127]

Narc parents can make a few good kids because the kids see the reactions of others while growing up along with healthy interations.

[@afurbamongus]

This sounds exactly like my aunt. Narc aunt and enabler/pushover uncle always go over to my grandparents on the weekends and poor gram has to cook for them, in which my aunt will 1) not help at all 2) literally insult my gram to her face. Thankfully, Gram is totally sick of her shit and won't cook for them anymore. I wish uncle had the stones to leave her so she could stop terrorizing the entire family.

[@sylverscale]

You're nana and you all sound like great people. Sorry about your mom.

[@ShinTriAce]

As people say, every child deserves parents, but not every parent deserves children.

[@minestar2247]

They aren't parents if they have no children

[@SingingSealRiana]

​@@minestar2247and you compleatly missed the Point. I would argued a lot of people WHO sadly did Bring children into this world do in No way deserves the total parent since they utterly fail to Provider for them. Parenta do Not deserves children Just for sireing them, ITS their responsability to BE worthy of that, every child in the Other Hand deserves to BE cared for and Loved!

[@SingingSealRiana]

So true, i so eine with the mando'a concept of dar'buir, aka children disowning their Patents, Not the Other way around

[@minestar2247]

@@SingingSealRiana no no, I agree with You, parents have to be worthy of their children

[@robinkholmes7127]

💯

[@JessRenee91481]

I had no idea how normal my parents are. I was 18, asked what my curfew was and my dad just shrugged, "You’re 18. Just don’t get arrested we're not bailing you out."

[@MichaelCook-f8y]

My dad said pretty much the same thing to me when I turned 18 in 1980. Happy days, beer at £0.35 a pint, lock ins in the skittle alley round the back of the pub because it wasn't visible from the road and the police just drove through the village about 10 minutes after closing time.

[@shadowspartanzeta7]

Same

[@SignalFire_Animations]

At 21 my curfew is midnight. Very thankful I’m moving out next year ;-;

[@TheGammingPie]

God i wish....

[@TheGammingPie]

@@SignalFire_Animations You have a curfew???? at 21???? Bro... Get the fuck out!

[@Charara999]

Honestly the one where the mom dismissed her child's SA and went guilt tripping going "You'd be happy the day I end up dead." I personally would've responded with "Yes, definitely." And blocked them everywhere.

[@Zardox2]

Got my own experience with a dismissive mother following a serious SA. She told me how she would have defended herself, so it wouldn't have happened to HER! The perp ended up being sentenced to 12yrs due to the extremely violent nature of the attack. Yay, mom. Thanks for showing me who you were. Yes, she's "gone" now... and I mourn her exactly zero %.

[@SingingSealRiana]

What the hell, seriously WHO would morn someone Like that, she deserves to BE forgotten!

[@nowitchisanisland]

It took my mom dismissing my SA when I was 20 (perp: dad) for me to realize who she truly was. I've gone NC but if I found out when she passes, I'd dance on her grave. I'm truly sorry for what you experienced, and I hope your life is much better now 🫶🏻

[@justaperson4656]

​@@nowitchisanislandI hope both scumbags get a lifetime behind those stunning silver bars

[@emilyrln]

@@nowitchisanislandthat is horrible! Re grave desecration, if you don't have a dog, borrow one from a friend and let it piss on the tombstone! (But no poop unless you clean it up, cuz that sucks for the groundskeeper.)

[@nowitchisanisland]

@@emilyrln lmao nice. Appreciate the support

[@hx9d674]

48:47 "Stop acting like a victim" But they were the fucking victim, they didn't just try to act like one they were a victim of SA. Wtf you mean "stop acting like a victim"

[@John_Weiss]

"Stop playing the victim," say abusers to their victims all the time.

[@StupidGreenThing]

@@John_Weiss my teacher to me in one sentence

[@Gatornadenado]

LITERALLY

[@teathesilkwing7616]

“Help I was just stabbed by that guy over there” “Stop acting like a victim”

[@slimetank394]

I would throw in a "stop calling yourself my mother" if that happens to me

[@MizTameRumors]

'I know you have a short attention span for what I say but this is super important!' Goes to lecture about nonsense like the weight of their wine glasses....

[@miro2355]

This! I think anyone would have 'short attention spam' if they had to listen that much nagging about absolutely nothing🙈

[@meh2510]

If she knew that they have a short attention span, then she should also know that a novel lengths worth of text is not going to get read.

[@missnaomi613]

Honestly sounded like she was tipsy and had trouble avoiding knocking wine glass over.

[@GlitchPloit]

Like, she turned into a yappichino REAL QUICK. And I thought I yapped…

[@cherrypawz]

I was an accident, and my parent's only child. My mom's only requirement of me as her kid was to graduate high school, since she never did. We both cried the day i graduated, she was so proud of me, and ever since my dads passing, she has made it a point to remind me how proud of me she is and that she loves me so much. I admit that i wasnt the best child, and didnt appreciate enough what my parents did for me as a kid, but now that im older, i understand and i am so grateful for my mom. Just a lil wholesome story, nothing really to do with the posts jxbdkd

[@PokeMageTech]

That sounds good. “Here’s this *very* reasonable goal I failed to reach. Achieve it, and I’ll be happy with that.” Right?

[@noname-ow4sw]

No dude it made my rage subside. Thank you 😊

[@AmieMorley-st6tz]

This was so refreshing, thank you ❤

[@spongecakes1986]

I used to have a friend who was born in mid November. He counted back nine months and found out he was conceived in mid February, and began wondering if he was a Valentine's Day mistake. He knew his mom would be honest with him, so he asked her if he was a mistake. She said, and this is a direct quote, "You were a surprise." We both found it really funny.

[@blueb1rdacademy]

I told my girlfriend about some of the stuff my mom has done, and she literally said, and I quote, "You need to call CPS or something. This is abuse."

[@Digicara64]

She's probably right.

[@aurorafraire2528]

You also shouldn't give an infant honey if they are less than 6 months old. This is because of infant botulism, which they can come down with because of the spores in the honey which can contain harmful bacteria.

[@Violetstrike]

Thank you, I was about to say this

[@SingingSealRiana]

So true!!!

[@jacquimott386]

I actually have to wonder whether this post was bait. Everything in this recipe is extremely dangerous for babies: yep the honey and raw egg, but also raw milk. All three have been linked to infant botulism 😮

[@clarisaxpianist]

No honey before 1 year of age is the recommendation in the US

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

Thank you, I was hoping someone would mention this!!! Where I live, they say not to give babies honey until they are over a year old. I feel bad for any babies that person may have.

[@shewho333]

I tried to get a restraining order against my egg donor. The police refused to take me seriously and women’s crisis said I can only get a restraining order against someone I recently lived with in the last 3 months, or slept with. So it was totally OK with the law if she was stalking me and my kids and letting herself into my house. Even after she threatened to shoot me.

[@jacquimott386]

Omfg 🙀🤬

[@shiratojin]

I hope you and your kids are okay and get out of there alright.

[@myheartismadeofstars]

I found out that in my area restraining orders are only given for romantic partners. The only thing they offer for relatives is "Family Orders" which typically do NOT include them not being able to contact you...

[@Otterfrosti]

what the actual frick that makes no sense

[@niceque7001]

What the actual fuck are those requirements? Meaning some random could just stalk you without any problems? Great.

[@msskaggs3911]

The mom bitching about Christmas dinner will be complaining about how her daughter never invites her to holiday dinners anymore in about a year. The weird part is it sounds like it was a family dinner, so I have a tough time believing anyone attending a family dinner is expecting fine china, or a professional hostess. The mother just has no idea what these holiday dinners should actually be about. I say f*** off to anyone complaining that the host cooked what they wanted to eat, as long as it's a reasonably popular option.

[@SavagePaisley12]

That child should host again next year and order in whatever takeout mom doesn't like. Use diner style baskets with paper and solo cups.

[@SininenMeri]

Yeah, that mom isn't getting anymore invites. If she really was trying to be nice she should have asked if her comments and tips were wanted.

[@pancakes8670]

I think it's about control. The mom is just looking for anything to be able to tell her child what to do, even when the child is an adult. She's still in the "mom mode".

[@galaxygirlstudio5347]

And if it’s a holiday thing, why not have people bring dishes? My family does a buffet-ish thing for both Christmas and Thanksgiving, where people bring dishes and the host doesn’t do all the cooking themselves.

[@exodiatheforbid9355]

It mostly looks like a bad case of overthinking.

[@operatoralex5926]

“Click, you stamp too many on one card” tbh that is what I like about these bingos, seeing how much filled each spot on the bingo card get

[@la_beatrice]

I can imagine my mother (born in the 50s) listening to the "how to throw a party" text and having genuine PTSD. All those rules were drilled into her when she was growing up, and I remember her following most of these rules when I was a child. I even internalized some of them initially, but as she realized how exhausted they made her and the parties were no better for it, she started getting waay more flexible. When I was around 14, she made sure I forgot all that and learned the one rule to throw a party: never tire yourself trying to be perfect, because that will keep you from enjoying your own party. Just know your guests, figure out what will work for you and that particular group, make them comfortable and have a good time. People like coming to my house and they like going to hers as well. We throw pleasant, unfussy dinners.

[@bbo7002]

Having flashbacks to that 50s reel "A Date With Your Family" 🥲

[@MagnaEssence]

It makes me imagine a psychiatrist sitting in a room while you tell them about your trauma and things your parents did to you and things that happened to you while they have a piece of paper with an added bingo-card and a dabber, shouting "WE HAVE A BINGO!!!, THAT IS PHYCHOPATHY!!!" and just recomposing themselves as they tell you to go on about your parents so you can get the help you need for whatever the pattern is.

[@FlyingWonderGirl]

That would be awful in the moment, but a hilarious story after a while!

[@Laura-gb1jv]

Actually, that sounds kinda validating? Like, objective bingo-card proof that it's not just you, they really were that bad, and you really didn't deserve all that crap???

[@nicolebacon2747]

@@Laura-gb1jv and that you're obviously not the only person who's been through that if your psychiatrist has all of it on a bingo card

[@ItRemindMeOfHome]

​@Laura-gb1jv oh yeah, that'd be super validating, because a huge part of trauma is isolation. Knowing other people have gone through and cone out of what you did is helpful

[@imajinallthepurple]

56:26 *As a children's nutritionist this recipe makes me absolutely livid!* 🤬 Raw cows milk: It contains three times the protein of human breast milk which can overwork and weaken the kidneys and is linked to overweight later on. Also contains very little iron in comparison. Raw eggs: Even more protein and Salmonella which can very easily dehydrate an infant with diarrhea. Honey: The Clostridium Botulinum bacteria produces a poison in babies' colons because of the lack of resistance/good bacterial flora and causes *fatal* infantile botulism. *Anyone feeding an infant this cocktail should at a minimum be tried for child endangerment! Holy sh_t!* 👿

[@MAKRestoration]

It’s also ✨PoIsIoN✨

[@bonzark6970]

Good grief thank you. I was just about the say this about honey causing botulism for babies.

[@sKwatchReal]

@@MAKRestoration☝️🤓

[@sKwatchReal]

☝️🤓

[@robinkelly1770]

If they mean unpastuerised it also adds the possibility of TB and raw eggs can pass botulism...

[@EliasKayama245]

Imagine getting dragged in the newspaper obituary your own family because you were such an awful person. That was brutal.

[@khaleesireyna731]

Similar energy to Jennette McCurdy titling her memoir "I'm Glad My Mom Died". It's so funny how people will get all shocked that people aren't exactly cut up about their abusive/toxic family members being dead. For the people in the back: "Don't speak ill of the dead" is for things like your aunt who was an overall sweetheart buy had a bit of a dependence on alcohol. It is NOT for the unrepentant aholes of the world. If your legacy you leave behind is crap, that's on you!

[@Rhaifha]

Recently I saw an obituary for a local elderly person that was just like (loosely translated) "finally he's passed on" with no elaboration and just a list of his kids and that he was gonna be cremated. Apparently he was a known bully, even in his 80s.

[@AspienWaifu]

Kind of want to do one for my mom when she kicks the bucket, I could have replaced the names and it would fit. Bad parents deserve to be recognized for their “strong character” lol

[@NorikoSurge]

This is giving me ideas...

[@jessirarara]

My best friend had an INSANELY toxic, narcissistic, emotionally abusive mother. Her mom died and everyone was so shocked that she was so indifferent about it. If she showed any emotion it was happiness that she was dead. Like... no? Why would she be sad she's gone? She's free!

[@hyleore]

the mom with the restraining order is basically saying "you're not breaking up with me, I'M breaking up with YOU."

[@madalice5134]

Never stay for the siblings. Not only is it just going to k*ll you slowly, you may dtart to resent them, which is another layer of emotional trauma. There's also the sad possibility that siblings could turn out ad toxic as the parent, and that just makes you feel like you wasted your life trying to protect someone who's become a toxic abuser as well. Save yourself. At least then, you have a shot at building a life for yourself and possibly be a safe harbor if the dynamic is healthy for you and your siblings.

[@caia1574]

Also for the "natural formula" NEVER GIVE HONEY TO A BABY BEFORE 1yo. This can cause botulism ffs

[@SingingSealRiana]

Yeah, ITS a very big No No!

[@Insertia_Nameia]

everything there is a BIG no-no for babies. No raw milk, no raw eggs, and certainly no honey. That's litterally poison for a baby.

[@C.L.Hinton]

That "recipe" was really shocking. Are people out there trying to encourage late, late, late-term ab*rtions?!

[@FelidaeEnjoyer]

What's botulism? I want a human to explain it to me

[@helixxia9320]

@FelidaeEnjoyer google will give you answers written by humans

[@lexandrosphynx1049]

Here's the line between jokes vs bullying in interpersonal relationships: 1. A joke is made with the intent to bring laughter, not pain. 2. A joke made at someone's expense, i.e. gentle ribbing, is made with the consideration of whether or not the topic is sensitive or okay to make light of. 3. A joke that doesn't land, but instead brings pain, should be apologized for. If a "joke" is intended to hurt someone, it has crossed the line. If a "joke" targets a known sensitive topic for the person being joked about, it has crossed the line. If a "joke" brings pain and the response is something along the lines of "learn to take a joke," it has crossed the line. If it crosses one or more of these lines, it is bullying.

[@waffles3629]

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ you nailed this. Like yes, absolutely roast me about the time I called the fridge "a plug-in cooler" (my brain had decided to go on vacation that day), don't "roast" me over my trauma.

[@FelidaeEnjoyer]

What about if the person in question enjoys the jokes about their sensitive topics? I'm gay, I like jokes about kissing the homies, or pranks like putting a sausage up to someone sleepings' mouth then walking away fiddling with your zip, I'd laugh even if it happened to me. If one recieves the joke well, and laughs along truthfully, even if that joke would usually be bullying, is it still 'bullying'?

[@lexandrosphynx1049]

​@@FelidaeEnjoyer If a joke is directed at someone, and you are fairly certain that it would be received well by them, then it would not count as bullying them. If it doesn't land the way you'd hope, I would suggest being ready to apologize. The issue is intent. Is the intent to cause laughter? Does that intent extend to the person targeted by your joke? If someone is hurt by the joke and you're okay with that because everyone else is gaining enjoyment from it, then your idea of a joke includes the possibility of harm as an acceptable outcome. That is bullying. If your intent was light-hearted laughter for everyone, and you see that someone is instead hurt (which may happen because we don't all know what's going on in everyone else's lives), apologizing will make it clear that your intent was not to cause that harm. That's not bullying, that's just part of being a fallible, but compassionate, human being.

[@lexandrosphynx1049]

​@@waffles3629 There's a benefit to being able to laugh at ourselves, but in no way should anyone be expected to tolerate salt being poured on their wounds for the enjoyment of others.

[@FelidaeEnjoyer]

@@lexandrosphynx1049 Thanks for the clarification

[@Quantumm12313]

Who knew emotional support demon was an insane parent

[@milanbeerepoot4260]

Emotional manipulation demon

[@Corvuspacificus]

They can't be all perfect 😢

[@s4047andstuff]

I knew (I did not)

[@mewopswisher5342]

He's using exposure Therapy

[@tiramisudragon]

He had to become a demon somehow, gang

[@xandy1504]

"If you're a butthole when you drink, it's your responsibility to not drink in the first place." Waking up in a jail cell once was enough to scare me off of alcohol almost altogether. I have barely touched a drop in almost 3 years.

[@ろうにん浪人]

Keep it that way, even if others try to pressure you. Took me a while to get off alcohol.

[@flamefangstar]

Proud of you.

[@betsyjohnson9699]

Congratulations on going on three years!

[@leburger5160]

Same here. Woke up with a court case for drunken disorderly behaviour. Haven't drunk any alcohol for almost 10 years as a result...

[@GretchZ]

Situations that weren’t wake-up calls for me: Waking up under the bed. Driving/riding with someone who is drunk. Multiple instances of “went with people to a second location” and the location being surreal. Wet bed. Laying in a pile of leaves for 20min-1hr next to a park in Tokyo. Right off the path, people walking dogs past me. Fighting a tree. Waking up on a bookshelf. What was: Yelling at my wife and kid for no good reason. I had had looooong dry periods, but for no particular reason. I started practicing Judaism, wine or grape juice is often involved, and wine keeps longer. “Why not another glass? …and another. Yeah, here we go.”

[@elkevermeulen7343]

To the first entry, the parent complaining about wine glasses being too light and tipping over: get them a sippy cup.

[@Flora._.Idi0t]

It’ll match their behavior!

[@FableTheWolf]

"If she can't have your side regarding something as serious as this, she's not going to have your side regarding anything." This broke me. To hear someone else say this- you have no idea. Thank you Click. These InsaneParents videos have been giving me a world of support in my journey to leaving my own family since I came to this channel. That statement is something I've been trying to convince myself of for years now but no one who knows about my situation has ever said it. As painful as these videos are to watch your validation and insight have been invaluable to my healing and I'm sure it will continue to be so. Thank you. I knew many years ago, long before I made the decision to cut them off, that my parents were never going to change and couldn't be trusted because of exactly this. But coming to terms, accepting, and trying to move on have been a whole other silent battle. Baby ESD gets clipped to my shirt since he arrived to watch videos with me, and was hiding in my pocket for new years when a surprise confrontation with my parents happened. Like he knew he had to arrive that day. You might not know it, but doing what you are doing is saving lives. Thank you.

[@celestialstar6450]

🫂🫂🫂

[@lyricsmind]

🌈

[@justaperson4656]

All the love and support to you my friend. People need to choose to change, and it sounds like you're changing and becoming a more emotionally resilient person. I hope you can truly get away from them, to a place they don't know where you live

[@anoddperspective]

I can tell by your writing that you are smart and capable and I believe you will be successful at many things! You got this! (Also I love your profile pic and your @ name 😄)

[@John_Weiss]

I'm so, so sorry you had to go through such a horrible upbringing. You will find a Logical Family to replace your bioIllogical one. May your future be ever brighter.

[@LindaB651]

Not only are raw eggs bad for a baby, but honey may contain trace amounts of botulism, and raw cow's milk can contain any number of pathogens, most notably listeria.

[@freckledsunshine333]

My thoughts exactly. Every ingredient was dangerous!

[@yuzuchi5381]

and the thing is .. if the baby would die from it those parents would look for the fault anywere but themself 😢

[@kittyplayz1480]

And E Coli, as the title of the post says

[@ThreeKingsProducts]

"to the coal mines with you!!!"💀💀 Bruh that caught me sooo off guard 😂

[@shinymainespoon]

The children yearn for the mines!

[@ThreeKingsProducts]

"Get back in the mines emotional support demon! You belong there with mango!!"

[@Bread16091]

*but mother*

[@nola281]

Don't forget the salt mines, equally good.

[@lady_draguliana784]

papa demon was that senator from (NC or TN?) that tried to get child labor legalized again last year... 🤣

[@hoodiegal]

That homemade formula is incredible. Only three ingredients, yet every single ingredient can be potentially lethal to a baby. 11/10 you did horribly

[@ProjectEchoshadow]

Fun Fact: sometimes people are acting like a victim because in that specific situation they are in fact a victim

[@BreachedContainment]

the first 11 minutes was JUST. ONE. POST- how entitled can someone be that you make an 11 minute lecture on DINNER PARTIES???

[@spiker.ortmann]

Way less entitled than the one that was on the first post which Click did read complete because it was too long...😂 "this is not a lecture so quit whining and read the lecture" is still a good indicator of how out of their mind someone can be though... 😂

[@waffles3629]

Yep, like for real Karen, get a life already.

[@heilinstarling9436]

I loved the beginning of it, lol. "I know that you have a short attention span, but..." and then 15 PAGES OF DINNER ETIQUETTE NONSENSE. Hm, I wonder, why your child is spacing out when you're talking, ma'am?

[@THINK_OF_THE_CHILDREN]

And then at the end tell them to read it again 😭...

[@briannaobrien4419]

I have a wholesome!!! Ehem. So we begin the story with a 28 year old woman who has unaliving attempt (its me, I'm woman) and hangs up on the ambulance to call her dad and he races 3 hours south in the middle of the night, gets to the hospital room hears doctor telling daughter to "get a grip on life" hears daughter tell the doctor to leave doctor refuses, dad removes doctor. Didn't even touch him, dad is 6ft 3 and built like a brick house, just crowded his space and told him "leave". Hospital tries to involuntarily blue paper daughter, dad signs hospital paperwork to take responsibility of his adult child so she doesn't have to be committed. Dad takes care of daughter for a whole month, cooking cleaning driving to therapy medication schedules ALL OF THE THINGS. I love my dad and I hope this makes someone smile or influences a dad to do the good things.

[@Ahrpigi]

I'm extremely glad your dad was so obviously supportive in that situation, that doctor should be shamed into a career change, and most of all I'm glad you're here to share that story and I hope you've found some inner peace and healing. 🫂❤️‍🩹

[@SingingSealRiana]

Very glad to hear that, both that you got such great Support and hear of a great parent! He Sounds amazing and I Wish you both the best! Another survivor.

[@R3B3LF1GHT3R]

Your dad sounds cool af

[@sylverscale]

I love your dad, too. ❤️ What an awesome man. Also, you got this! Glad you're still with us. Also, f that doctor.

[@boogiebear3095]

Your dad is amazing ♥️ edit: so are you 🥰

[@potted_lavender]

Whenever I see these massive paragraphs from insane parents, I hope and pray I'll see the child respond with "I ain't reading alat" 💀🙏

[@deadgamer7354]

Finally! A skill acquired after countless hours on Reddit will finally become useful! I will ask for a TLDR !

[@LilChuunosuke]

I once had a coworker at an old job almost convince me to break no contact by responding to a bizarre email with a meme that read "shut up, you dont have the talking stick" 😂

[@august6760]

@@LilChuunosukeBruh that’s genius😭I’m stealing that

[@justaperson4656]

​@@LilChuunosuke next time my dad breaks his restraining order, I'm using this. "You don't have the talking stick, and the nice people in blue are coming to remind you of that

[@Astr0_Man]

nah cuz when my mom sends me rude ranty txt i just ignore them, especially if im at work bc by the time i get home she'll have forgotten the txt or assumed we "dealt with it" alr. even if she goes to txt me again itll have been like weeks bc she usually tries to "confront" me face to face rather than over text

[@dominiklehn2866]

Took me a while to realize "Project Anxiety" on the bingo card was about someone projecting, not some project. Sidenote: "Project Anxiety" could be an awsome band name

[@thunderflare59]

The code name of Nintendo's next console.

[@Mcloramullins7988]

Honestly I would listen to that band, especially if they're metal 🤘

[@pandaxolotl]

when project and project dont have the same pronunciation

[@Ellis_AKA_Mr.Sunshine]

When you're so rude that you don't realize some people can be dyslexic, wow it's like some people have a problem seeing things at first glance. Good to know that you're such an ahhole to point it out.​@@pandaxolotl

[@spongecakes1986]

Same. The whole time I thought it was about the parent being the cause of the kid's anxiety, not the parent projecting their anxiety onto the kid. Especially cause I'm watching these in a row and the last one I watched had a square like that with a different name

[@Spartan-703]

There’s a supernatural quote that is very much applicable to this entire redit, and it goes something like “family don’t end in blood, but it doesn’t start there either” Basically just because your not blood, doesn’t mean your not family, and just because they are blood, doesn’t make them family, you can choose who you want your family is

[@Primal_Chaos]

I just came by to point out that the Mom in the story at 9:47 didn't say anything about wanting her daughter to be 'happy' she wanted her to be "Perfect and Successful" implying that any mistakes or failures would be punished. My mom was the same way. She doesn't care about her child's happiness, only that they never make a mistake or show any weakness or failures. BTW Click, I always enjoy your short little advices after horrid stories like these. :D

[@LilChuunosuke]

Yeah my mom was also the same way. Didn't matter if my mental health was at literal rock bottom. "Why did you only get a 50% grade on this two question homework assignment?! I demand you ask your teacher for a redo!" Needless to say I completely crashed and burned when I moved out and I still have not been able to perform on that level since then.

[@Shinigami2c2]

@@LilChuunosuke I'm glad you're away from such a toxic person. I've had Autistic Burnout and while it may not be quite the same as what you're going through, I do know what it's like. Just focus on yourself and getting better, physically and mentally. It can take years; it took me over two years to get to a place where I can function "normally" on a daily basis again and rejoin society. As long as you focus on yourself and do things that make you feel better, you will get there. All the best in your recovery.

[@LilChuunosuke]

@user-gl5ew7ji4g it is similar, actually, I'm autistic too! I was in burnout for around 4 years after moving out. I often slept for 12+ hours a day because everything was so overwhelming. I have been functioning at a healthy level for a few years now, just not as much as my peers are able to do (i cannot work full time) and i don't want or expect to be able to do much more than i do now. I'm able to take care of myself and have time left over for my hobbies most days. That's good enough for me.

[@Zarlos01]

Yeah, my mother wanted me to stay with her because: 30% for love; 20% for financial benefit; 40% for not letting my father have me; 100% for keep me dependent on her. Now, I'm trapped with her because I can't work for health problems and stepmother incompatibility. I believe that my father is still with her to not let her keep my half-brother (in my country, the child can choose with the parent wanna stay when 15, before the mother has priority).

[@alicemakarevich6762]

She sounds like a narcissist

[@fergarza4032]

My husband (33) went out the other night with some friends to celebrate a birthday. When they arrived to the bar one of the friends received a phonecall, and she started telling the caller that she arrived, where was she, what she was going eating and made a deal that she was going to leave before midnigh (this woman is 34). "Your husband?" Asked one friend. "No, my mom" TF?

[@aidennevada243]

Ouch. I hope she gets out soon!

[@CyanAmity]

Yikes… that’s some freaky, manipulative shit. If they’re still trying to control their child when they’re 34, they’re dangerous, creepy, and just want to be in a position of power.

[@ShintogaDeathAngel]

@@CyanAmity I agree! I had to either be home around 11pm or stay overnight at a friend's house if I was out visiting - I wasn't allowed a key for the inside front door, even in my 30s. Didn't actually realise that was strange until said friend pointed out it wasn't normal. I'm not one to go out partying until the wee hours and make loads of noise when I come home, either, so...

[@nadiah.floots]

My mom freaked out when I stayed at uni past 10pm and hadn't let her know I was staying out at night beforehand (and this was when I was 20). I'm turning 33 soon, but I read this and think "yeah, my mom would totally do this to me - if I had friends to go out with". Yeah, I know my mom has severe control issues. No, I don't have the financial power to be free of her yet.

[@EraidFreefire]

That would have been me if I hadn't had coworkers pushing me to set boundaries and me getting fed up, left for my(now)fiance when I did at 22 yrs old. 😬😬😬

[@nathryl03]

Small addition to this community note. Raw milk can contain e.coli (as mentioned) and raw honey can contain botulinum. In other words, this person's recipe will eventually end a poor child.

[@RothAnim]

Also a major issue with raw milk is Brucellosis; the Brucella bacteria is one of the main reasons we pasteurize milk.

[@nathryl03]

@@RothAnim Very true, can't believe I forgot that, thx for reminding me

[@jurealeksejev3568]

Isn't raw milk also a possible medium for the spread of tuberculosis?

[@nathryl03]

@@jurealeksejev3568 From the very quick research I just did, Yes it absolutely is. Yet another reason why this recipe is basically the definition of dangerous.

[@RothAnim]

​@@jurealeksejev3568 Had to look it up! Yes, bovine tuberculosis can be transmitted to humans through raw milk. We pasteurize that stuff for damn good reasons. :P

[@vanovasmith9586]

I had to tell my dad once "You're not a professor, and I am not a college student. So please don't lector me on things I know."

[@danithelight1834]

Not so fun fact based on my experiences in the system: Most adoption parents/foster parents do act like that. I've had countless homes take me in knowing what I've experienced only to want me for the money or the challenge to "shape" me. There are even the adoptive parents out there who act so entitled where they will emotionally manipulate the child by threatening to not adopt them due to the child not wanting to take verbal abuse. If the child has a sibling they will threaten to adopt the sibling and not you if you don't "behave". I even had foster parents who had gambling issues and wouldn't allow me to do anything but sit in my room unless I had school. One time I had a foster mom take me to Dave and busters only to just sit the entire time as her grandkids played games and have fun. I was not allowed to actually enjoy myself, and when I cried about how unfair it was not being able to do stuff, I was not allowed to eat that night. The system sucks and I just thought I'd share due to one of the stories on this list.

[@phoenixfeathers4128]

Man, that sucks, I’m sorry you had/ have to go through that

[@spongecakes1986]

And then there's people that think disabled and LGBT folks shouldn't be allowed to adopt. Like buddy, I don't think we're what orphans/foster kids are worried about

[@danithelight1834]

@@spongecakes1986 exactly! Glad there are others who understand.

[@grmpEqweer]

​@@danithelight1834 That's awful. I'm glad you survived it.

[@britzene]

I have cousins that were very sheltered as children but live in another state so we aren't really in touch. A few years ago I went for a visit and it was one of their 21st birthday. She asked her mom if she could stay out until midnight now. Her response was "no nothing good happens after 10pm" lol I dunno how people deal with that kind of toxic, overcontrolling environment.

[@LilChuunosuke]

I dealt with it by moving out at 18 even though it was very dangerous and I had no job and minimal support systems. I don't know how people stay. I've felt more safe and free sleeping in libraries and cafes than I did under my own parents' roof.

[@ADarnSmore]

if you still let your mom control you at 21 that's kind of on you tbh

[@ghostnebula8805]

@@ADarnSmore🤦‍♀️

[@snowangelnc]

@@ADarnSmore Some people do it because they're feel like keeping the peace is preferable to dealing with the nuclear meltdown that would follow if they refused. It also doesn't help that they've spent their formative years being conditioned to equate this level of control with care and concern. It's not an excuse, but I do understand why it could be difficult for a 21-year-old to break out of that situation.

[@Llialune]

When I was ten, my 16yo brother would got to parties, and the deal with my parents was: you can go, you can drink, you can have fun, but a) don't be a dick, b) we will get you. Just call us, any hour, no questions asked, if you need to leave, we'll park a street away and we'll get you. Once, during the summer holidays, my brother actually called at like 2am, it woke me up too, so I went with my dad to go get my brother. It taught me 3 things : my parents can be trusted 100%, drugs at parties make them shit, and parties are way more fun when someone has your back to get you out safely if you need to.

[@tedybomber1713]

The dinner party mom does not know what she’s talking about. The cheap wine glasses are the heavy ones.

[@stephaniet1389]

Fluted wine glasses are light, but I prefer my German wine glasses. Those chonky bois are less prone to spontaneous stem snapping. :3

[@lindala2602]

Her long email made me want to drink directly from the bottle

[@JennyferPepin]

But, but-...we all know 'heavy' means 'quality' 🤓

[@robinkholmes7127]

I leant something new

[@justaperson4656]

​@@stephaniet1389 just looked up German wine glasses, they're so pretty! I have the flute kind, and I think they're pretty comfy, but I also have a shelf style draining board and some of them (plus my champagne flutes) don't fit

[@livingwithlivestockguardians]

56:13 that is the recipe for making rabbit formula. That should NOT be used on human babies. People need to quit looking up formula recipes and thinking it's all for human babies. IF you cannot get formula due to a shortage contact your pediatrician for an alternative.

[@Insertia_Nameia]

Yeah but this was just some holistic medicine idiot. It wasn't die to a shortage. This was just the same as their "big pharma bad" mentality.

[@waffles3629]

Oh that makes sense, and yeah, people aren't the only animals who need formula.

[@stormjin2242]

I've seen a few too many people go to google for medical assistance instead of a doctor

[@lisapeesalemonsqueezah3241]

I hate when people say “don’t play the v*ctim” to the person who is ACTUALLY the vict*m of a crime!

[@Digicara64]

Why'd you censor victim? It's a common word that doesn't have thay bad connotations.

[@MorganMakesThings]

53:00 This makes me so happy that I am my mother's only child, and **I** get to write her obituary. While she isn't as evil as the woman featured here, she is definitely getting the gloves-off treatment. Published obituaries are the things your great-grandkids will be able to find on whatever the 2100s version of Ancestry is.

[@KaoticWhisper]

When does a joke become a dad joke? When it becomes aparent

[@DecayedPage]

That was flatter than femboys

[@rapheAltoid77]

*apparent

[@Lemon_Fiber]

@@rapheAltoid77aand you’re banned.

[@rubyrose1243]

This is gold, genuinely

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

I’ve seen this joke many times before and it’s always funny

[@carminaburana9765]

I haven't even gotten through the first one and I'm already feeling twitchy. That parent should stay home with a sippy cup full of wine. Uninvite the ungrateful!

[@emmathornley4745]

I'm officially calling obituaries "death ads" from now on

[@beansandboarsontherun5762]

I had to pause the video to laugh when he called them that

[@Lego_Trunks460]

This is too funny 😭

[@SU47-2]

doesnt that mean a funeral is a death livestream

[@AevenDaan]

I can see why he said that though, it's a Germanic language thing. In Dutch we call this "overlijdensadvertentie" which literally would translate into death advertisement too. I'm guessing that it's similar in Swedish. Essentially it's an advertised notice of the death of someone

[@calibricalypso]

​@@SU47-2I think the stream part is the issue with that being true, but the concept is hilarious

[@GCWeber]

I will say the first one was *mostly* good advice. The problem is that it was a) unsolicited and b) presented as imperative rather than suggestion. Plus the advice was clearly for a certain kind of Christmas dinner party and might not fit the vibe their child had in mind.

[@Vampkits]

“Im losing what little sanity i have left” - The Click, who most definitely never had sanity to begin with

[@Rider3322]

That's exactly what I did for my siblings. I was homeless at 16, was moved into an adult hostel because of my age, was there a year and 3 months, was then moved into a tiny bedsit and eventually was offered my first proper 1 bed apartment when I was around 19. All that time my main concern and worry was for my siblings (heart breaking) but I wanted to create a loving , safe home where they could come if they were in need. Whilst most people at age 16 were going off to college and their parents were paying for them to have driving lessons and going off on family vacations, I was literally learning how to survive on my own.

[@rinishan]

How amazing that you were able to lift yourself out of such horrible circumstances and help your siblings out of that hole too. You have reason to be so proud of yourself ❤

[@Andreas_42]

Sorry to hear that. I hope you and your siblings are safe and well now.

[@ChampionMarx]

The mom harassing her kid for getting a restraining order is such classic narcissistic behavior. To a narcissist asking for boundaries is the equivalent to high treason

[@LilChuunosuke]

My mom is a narcissist and she claimed to be so deeply traumatized by setting boundaries that she started going to therapy. And of course, she refused to keep any therapist that would not reinforce her delusions and would allow her to believe that a disabled middle schooler was capable of abusing a successful 40 year old business owner. 💀 But yeah, she literally tells people how me setting boundaries was an extremely traumatic, life-changing event for her. Not in the sense that she wants to correct it, but that she feels she has been wronged in life for what I did to her.

[@ChampionMarx]

@@LilChuunosuke sounds like my mother in law. Any attempt for my partner to set boundaries is meet with *shocked pikachu face* how could you do this to me!?

[@shewho333]

@@LilChuunosukeyou were probably the first person ever to tell her NO.

[@funnyusername8635]

My dad had some of these tendencies. Talking about boundaries was mocked to the point that I didn't realize they were a good thing healthy people had. There was talk of privacy but never boundaries. I think my mom was able to stop him from doing what he wanted to do, like go through my diary or not allow for private phone calls.

[@robinkholmes7127]

"traumatised" but she didn't "see the light" or "have an epiphany", yep she's a narc I'm sorry@@LilChuunosuke

[@Annie_Annie__]

36:54 Geez, I was incredibly sick when I was pregnant with my kid. The entire pregnancy I was in and out of the hospital from dehydration and sometimes even hospital-grade anti nausea meds didn’t work. And all of this was after years of infertility and spending a small fortune trying to get pregnant. My kid knows I was very sick and that it took a long time to get pregnant, but he doesn’t need to know that I had the option to stop the pregnancy. That’s not helpful to know. And he really only knows that I was so sick because for a long time he desperately wanted a sibling, so I explained to him why I couldn’t get pregnant again. I just treated it in a very matter-of-fact way. It’s just something that happened and was part of the reason he was born a little early. It’s just facts. I try very hard to make sure there’s no guilt or burden placed on him about it and I _definitely_ don’t bring it up if I’m upset with him. I really can’t imagine doing that. I pushed through the pregnancy, as hard as it was, because I wanted a child and I was pretty sure this would be my one chance at pregnancy. I didn’t go through all that just so I could use it as a cudgel against the future child.

[@phoenixfeathers4128]

Hey, I’m glad that worked out for you in the end!

[@Cecilian_Does_Art]

Omg, you are so strong

[@strawberrygi_rl]

thank you for not being insane about it

[@denisemadison1298]

That 1.....it reminded me of stories my Grandma told me.....things were far different back then....her and her 3 Sisters were the children of farmers...the kind of Farmer that had 2 years olds working the field. Her eldest Sister was a Polio survivor with disabilities in mobility yet was in that field. She worked her rear off, got married to a man, saved up....and got the next Sister away...then the next and finally gran. Back then, she originally married not for love, but to be able to get them away from that place. Later she came to love him. He was a great guy who would give her anything. I loved that Great Uncle. Sometimes you have to seem to abandon your siblings, plan and save and rescue them as you can.

[@KatMorrigan]

I always worry whether I'm a good enough mama to my daughter. Am I patient enough, am I too strict/not strict enough? ...etc. It boggles my mind that there are parents who don't seem to care about their children at all.

[@Undead_Hare]

We need a petition to stop plushie abuse on this channel, these poor little guys have only seen natural light like,, once, and they keep getting tossed around and used like puppets. We can solve this by buying them from the click, therefore saving them from abuse!

[@justb4116]

Hey, there's a puppy mill in your neighbourhood. If you buy off all puppies, the seller definitely will be overwhelmed by the sales experience and will make the abuse stop. Such amount of taxes to pay is just too big to continue operation. You'd be the saviour of the abused puppies!

[@thatonetransguy8216]

That sounds like ✨️trafficking✨️

[@GrifoStelle]

​@@justb4116nah, nah. You steal the parents from the puppy mill and set fire to everything that doesn't breathe. But the demons are summoned. Therefor you must buy them until hell has no more to send.

[@hollyjollyxmas]

I’m honestly so proud of the children of these entitled parents who are standing up for themselves and who are thriving despite the worst conditions

[@Kerosene.Dreams]

Children can not have honey until they are at least a year old. The community notes don't even bring this up and it can be lethal to babies.

[@ProjectEchoshadow]

Typically when someone tells me to get over something I tell them that’s what I’m doing and continue with whatever actions I’m taking in order to help me cope

[@Wolfbright1104]

These always blow my mind. I can't imagine talking this way to my kids. Hell, I'm an addict and I've been through rehab several times and I never spoke to my children like this (clean almost 2 years now).

[@cofeejoe2882]

9:34 I absolutely lost it and started cackling "Don't take it as a lecture" nfjskxbf Right after the lecture It's like punching some one in the face and then saying "don't take it as a punch in the face:)" . The self awareness is gone

[@a.elsagonzalez6824]

😂😂😂😂fr

[@alicemakarevich6762]

Ikr And concluding with "No whining please" - the audacity 😅

[@spongecakes1986]

I'd say to even mention lectures shows some level of self awareness, she just either doesn't have enough, or doesn't actually care

[@thesupernaturalhouse]

We need more plushie skits from click their absolutely amazing

[@cats9994]

there* (this is a joke)

[@Alphaismyname]

Nah obviously it’s your…. “I can is grammar correctly” (This is also an unoriginal joke)

[@matewue]

Theiren’t* (unoriginal joke²)

[@Idkpleasejustletmechangeit]

Banana*

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

Mango*

[@CyanAmity]

What’s so sad about these insane people is that, by them bringing a child into this world and manipulating/abusing them, those children will unfortunately grow up miserable, scared, depressed, and with a severe lack of trust. By bringing children into this world, these “parents” are unintentionally creating a miserable life for these kids.

[@ShintogaDeathAngel]

Not only that, but some of these kids are going to perpetuate their parent's shoddy behaviours and they won't all see the light and change later on :/

[@celestialstar6450]

Unintentionally? Are you SURE? Seems that they love making others miserable to prop themselves up… and a child has nowhere to go for escape.

[@CyanAmity]

@@celestialstar6450 unintentionally or not, the point still stands.

[@jacquimott386]

@@celestialstar6450 I was thinking the same thing.

[@jacquimott386]

@@celestialstar6450 I was thinking the same thing.

[@martianpudding9522]

I think staying in an abusive household for the sake of children in that situation can have the unfortunate side effect of setting an example to those kids that you shouldn't leave an abusive situation even if you have the means to. Like when people don't get divorced even though they should for the sake of their children and they end up setting a horrible example for what romantic relationships should be like

[@spongecakes1986]

Plus then your siblings have one less place to go. If you left, they would have a safe place to run away to (assuming you're close enough of course).

[@sarahferenc5440]

Fun note from the first story, more expensive, high quality, wine glasses are actually thinner and lighter than the cheaper wine glasses that are made out of thicker glass.

[@spongecakes1986]

Hmmm... Guys, I'm starting to think that she doesn't know what she's talking about

[@dunkinducks55]

42:30 that talk about staying with your siblings for their sake made me remember something my sister told me once: "The moment my freedom started yours ended" for context: My parents are abusive they used to be physical but nowadays they just mentally abuse me. And my older sister was always there for me to protect me. So the moment she left i was the older sister. I had the responsibility to take care of my 2 younger sisters, my sister was obv still in my life but couldnt always be there. And i remember i cried to her one day that i hate being trapped by my parents and that i also wanna go out and enjoy my weekend like my friends. And then she told me that sentence. Idk it rlly sticked with me not because i was mad or anything. That sentence made me realise how fucked up our parents are(you sometimes forget it when your born into it) and how hard it mustve been for my sister all these years I am really grateful for her. Without her i probably wouldnt be here

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

pArEnTs DoN't WaNt To WaTcH tHeIr SoN's GiRlFrIeNd DrInK My fMIL insists I drink a glass of wine at family dinner so she can open the bottle lol

[@The-one-and-only-Fruitcake]

Your MIL sounds amazing lmao

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

@The-one-and-only-Fruitcake She loves wine but hates drinking alone, so she offers to all of us like 3 times a meal lol Only my fiance's fSIL gets to avoid it because she's pregnant

[@corviditi]

fr my MIL loves making drinks, hell we've gone out clubbing together! not every family is full of stuck up twats like that mom

[@IronWangCreates]

When David Bowie died my boyfriend at the time’s mother knew I was also a big Bowie fan, so she insisted on being the one to break the news to me and then she got us both Schnapps drunk whilst we spent the evening laying on the living room floor listening to his entire discography. Not only does she want to see her boyfriend’s girlfriend drink, he doesn’t even need to be around for it

[@spongecakes1986]

This kinda reminded me of my dad. It's not super related, but I'll share anyways: My dad has a bit of a control problem when it comes to chips. He pretty much can't help himself sometimes from finishing a whole bag or jar of salsa in one or two sittings. One time a few months ago he started eating MY leftover tortilla chips IN FRONT OF ME. When we wake up to find a snack almost empty after we had freshly opened it, we call it "the dad effect". Anyways, where this post reminds me of him; he rarely opens the snacks himself (except for his own tortilla chips and salsa that nobody else eats), but rather waits for one of us to open them (once I even saw him disappointed that I hadn't opened something yet) and then goes to town. He won't necessarily insist that we open the snacks, but it's very clear that he wants us to open them first so that he can eat them all.

[@kinnelyuwu5771]

In regards to that second to last post; *NEVER* give a baby honey. Ever. Especially if that baby is young enough to still be drinking formula. Babies can get botulism easy as all hell, and honey is a quick way for that to happen

[@ryanhughes6405]

Whats botulism?

[@kinnelyuwu5771]

@@ryanhughes6405 bacteria that can really mess someone up

[@Nanako101]

​@ryanhughes6405 It's a disease caused by the toxins from the spores released by C. botulinum. It blocks a major neurotransmitter (acetylcholine) that plays an important role in muscle contractions. This includes the lungs, heart, limbs (skeletal muscles), etc. Adults and older children have a more developed immune system and digestive system that have a better chance to fight off the toxins/spores. Babies do not. So unless the baby undergoes treatment as soon as possible, the baby will most likely die (usually due to respiratory failure, aka they suffocate to death).

[@OxymoronicMountain]

From Google: A rare poisoning caused by toxins produced by Clostridium botulinum bacteria. Botulism can be fatal and requires emergency medical care. It can occur in infants, be spread in food, or infect a wound. Symptoms include difficulty swallowing or speaking, facial weakness, and paralysis. Treatments are an antitoxin injection and breathing assistance.

[@daizy7441]

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@ryanhughes6405disease that causes paralysis to the point where your whole body shuts down. infants are wayyyy more susceptible to it than even toddlers

[@kaylaa2204]

12:30 “I’ve had a restraining order? WELL I’m offended and you will never be a part of my life again, I’m done” Yeah lady, that’s kinda how a restraining order works, good job for getting the message

[@DisasterBean75]

I can understand staying for siblings. I nearly didn't move out because I wanted to stay and be there for my little sister. It kills me not knowing what's happening to my sister and not knowing whether she's ok (she has a tendency to hide her emotions/pretend everythings ok) but my mental health is doing so much better without my mum and her partner.

[@matthewhalo1799]

“Oh, and by the way I am sober as a f****** judge.” And that makes your behavior better?

[@Insertia_Nameia]

If anything, that makes it worse. Lol

[@spongecakes1986]

Also definitely something a sober person would say

[@mamanope1678]

Dude! The obituary one was awesome. I shocked my grandma by marriage in 2013-2014 when I was pregnant with my 10 yr old by busting out laughing at the obituary of my biological maternal grandmother. “She spent her days waiting to hear from her grandchildren” mentioned my brother and myself only. We have 3 other cousins that “shared” a bloodline with this gem. The middle cousin actually told her to her face that “my mom told me to never take money from strangers” on Halloween when she tried to give them money out the window while they avoided her by going between the buildings refusing to go to her door. She told me that I wasn’t related to her because I posted on facebook years ago that family isn’t always blood, but those that love you no matter what. Now mind you, I was under 6 months old when she saw me by accident as she was around the day my mother took me to her grandmother to let her meet me. My parents both refused to go back around her after she was absolutely horrible to my brother that was the first grandchild, but after our cousin was born, the first granddaughter, he was shit under her shoe. A 1 year old is NOT going to understand why someone who has always been loving to them is suddenly wanting nothing to do with them to the point of “get off of me” and “don’t touch me” while being pushed away. I’m still surprised that my dad didn’t actually do anything more than telling my mom to “get your stuff, we’re leaving.” I talked to her once as a mediator to get my mother back in touch with her mother. But other than that, nothing. I just laughed like a hyena when I read the obituary. I read it to my husband and grandma just sat there in shock because I was laughing. I had to explain to a very sweet and confused woman that loved her whole family that I didn’t know or really care about the woman that wanted to look like a victim and didn’t even mention her other grandchildren.

[@maesaigo8538]

I'm sorry if i'm Being stupid but i don't get it? What are you talking about?

[@DrachenGothik666]

@@maesaigo8538 Her maternal grandmother's obituary was similar to the one in Click's video. She was apparently a self-centred, awful person who didn't treat her family well, & then whined when they didn't come around to visit her.

[@maesaigo8538]

@@DrachenGothik666 yeah ,i get that much ,it's the rest that i don't understand.

[@dwerenat1]

The first one: It's not a fucking buffet, Mom. I'm not a god damned Burger King.

[@SingingSealRiana]

Yeah, wtf?!

[@spongecakes1986]

You don't know that. You could be the secret Aragorn (I'm so sorry LOTR fans it's been awhile since I've seen it written) of fast food!

[@Morle.46]

Every time I see you cover this subreddit I realize how thankful I am for my parents 😭🙏 Thank you mom and dad for being good rolemodels

[@Annik_Tenacious_Felis]

As a functional adult in society, playing witg plushies is a wonderful and meaningful hobby to remember our childhood when emotions didnt need support as much ❤

[@dragonwolfzero820]

I recently just bought a little plush from a local store because I could and it actually like revived something in me that I pushed away so long ago. There was a kind of happiness associated with it that I hadn't felt in a long time I don't think it's healthy to force yourself to grow out if something you can always keep things as memories if you truly grow out of them.

[@kylajensen1957]

32:48 Wow. I never thought that a full grown woman would be so astronomically petty that she would turn the music BACK up just to piss off her own adult son. These are the actions of a five year old!

[@16poetisa]

Eh, I've seen college students pull this.

[@awsom_Adam]

Rule suggestion for next Bingo game: If the post takes 2 minutes or more to read, the maximum amount of stamps increases to 5.

[@VoidageTM]

Honestly i think it would be better if it would be every minute is 1 stamp or something

[@jasperhollow664]

Good idea

[@Laura-mi3nv]

You know, for some reason, for years, my mother tried that property type behavior. We couldn't have a decent convo without it devolving into BS and insults.... I just hung up the phone on her every time. Every single time it went sideways, click. She would call me immature, but it would have to be on voicemail. I would block her email, she'd have to have my dad communicate with me. She's pretty well behaved now that I've raised her into a decent boomer.

[@alicemakarevich6762]

😂 amazing

[@cryonarami]

Dismissive and neglectful mothers and their children being sexually assaulted, always the worst.

[@AspienWaifu]

A lot of these sound like my mom, and your reactions to what you’re reading have actually been really therapeutic for me (I related way too much to almost all of the stories in the second half). I’ve been seeing a therapist for some years now, and my husband has been a huge part of my healing, but hearing an outside perspective/reaction to things I experienced my entire childhood under her foot, it helps to solidify that what happened to me WAS abuse and despite what her voice in my head still tells me, everything she did was wrong and fucked up and NOT MY FAULT. Thank you for doing these videos….oftentimes I’m triggered by some of the stuff because it hits too close to home, but I push through it and your reactions help me to move through my grieving steps, and know that it wasn’t me who was defective and bad, it was HER. ❤

[@AlexRising_]

We are 4 minutes in and the first parent is _still not done jibbers crabst_ Edit: 8 minutes and she whipped out the internalized misogyny+wine mom dynamic duo

[@ianmoseley9910]

"your wine glasses are too flimsy"! "Well, we will just have to drink from the bottle then"

[@spiker.ortmann]

"Don't worry, you can buy me sturdier ones when you break one because you can't hold your wine" is a wonderful response for that "constructive" comment.

[@emilyrln]

@@spiker.ortmann excellent wordplay, my internet friend!

[@pensandshakers]

If this was my mother, I would go straight to Bulleit.

[@roberta_]

My Mum called me a poser... I just got into looking after myself after a bout of depression and some pretty hellish relationship stuff. I've told my Mum about all of this. I have been finding my joy in the gym and getting fit :) I posted a picture of myself today... Something I used to do a lot as an attention seeking teen, but it hasn't been something I've done in the past decade. She didn't say "well-done".. nope, she messaged me, "POSER". Thanks Mum. It's little things like this... The little put downs... That makes me realise why I'm completely insecure and struggled with serious MH issues in the past. Good times.

[@phoenixfeathers4128]

Hey you, I’m happy you could get through that shit and have found something you enjoy! Keep it up and make sure to find your happiness

[@Bleats_Sinodai]

Here in Brazil, it's pretty common for people to just bring stuff for family parties. Like, each brings a food item and a beverage of their choice, and then the host and some guests take turns cooking and cleaning. Sometimes you even take leftovers home for the next day!

[@poppygame6678]

The fact honey has warning not to be given to babies under 1 in Norway, there was so many disturbing things about the natural fomula post

[@PastelScoops]

"to the coal mines" *cries in American* (For context, some states have successfully passed bills to weaken child safety laws to allow children to work in coal mines, and more states are attempting to further weaken, and even abolish, said laws)

[@lyricsmind]

😯 What???

[@wandelndeslexikon1614]

Wait... what? Back to 1745 or what are they doing? 😢

[@PastelScoops]

It's called ✨corporate greed✨. This is why Republicans being in power, on any level, is super detrimental to the country. Obviously both parties have its flaws, but Republicans are doing everything that they can to exploit children and oppress minorities.

[@arona6692]

WHAT

[@TheSkyGuy77]

Wait, WHAT THE FUCK Proof?

[@DeadNotSleeping789]

PSA: the homemade baby formula meme warned about salmonella and e-coli, but honey shouldn't be given to infants either, as they can get botulism from it.

[@GinkgoBalboa142]

Don't chicken farms shut down if there is a salmonella outbreak? Public warnings and such?

[@darthslain]

no no he is not. that "dad" is getting off on being creepy to his adult daughter... man needs to be made to kiss the nearest pavement

[@spongecakes1986]

Oh absolutely. Hugs and even kisses on the cheek are one thing (dependent on culture obviously), but the NECK!? Even without the context of him not being affectionate until she was an adult, you should NEVER kiss your kids on the neck! And then the rest of the context to add to it is just so disgusting

[@orelliaorellia142]

No matter your age, when things go south we are all children needing their parents. I miss my mom so much when I am sick. Because she has a way of making me feel comforted and safe like no other. Just having her on the phone makes me feel better.

[@insanetxartist]

You should never give honey to infants, either. If can cause allergic reactions befors their immune systems are developed enough to handle it. So she was basically cheerfully saying I risk feeding my baby possible liquid death daily because I'm too stupid to research anything. Wonder how much her poor kid spews and has blowout level diarrhea.

[@spongecakes1986]

Bunch of other comments mentioned it, but honey also has a huge risk of botulism in infants. Cow's milk also isn't good for them. The whole thing is baby poison

[@OdinAUT]

My wife usually doesn't post pictures of our daughter. But for the few she did put online my daughter is always looking the other way. So you only see a lot of hair on my wife's arm. Always remember: your child has rights too. It's not a thing you possess.

[@Insertia_Nameia]

I used to post pics on fb, but only certain people I have friended could see them. The problem was that I told people not to share the images/folder because it'll let others see it. A few people kept sharing the pics of my kids so I stopped posting pics.

[@16poetisa]

My friend does this! Photos of her kids on Facebook always show them looking away or their faces otherwise obscured, even on private posts or via Messenger. Only sends photos with their faces on private apps like Signal.

[@yamato9753]

I love the bingo Videos. I am even starting to make my own bingo cards*. *copy-pasting Clicks card and scrambling the positions of the topics except the middle emoji.

[@shinymainespoon]

The Click Bingo with viewers???? I'm in

[@arona6692]

​@@shinymainespoon yes I totally want to do that !!

[@-a2games-]

What do you call a pile of cats? A meowntain!

[@jacquimott386]

👏 👏 👏 😂

[@emilyrln]

. 😺 😺😺😺 😺😺😺😺😺 (couldn't do it without the dot 😔)

[@LaMara-vv2wq]

I love it 😅

[@tanya-789]

Wholesome comment, thank you❤❤❤

[@a-dog321]

*ba-dum tiss*

[@ethribin4188]

18:06 the fact the mother insinuates that the op is cheating her sister out of money.... This tells me the mother would do this, and thus assumes her daughter will too. What a horrible person.

[@kempolar9768]

The moment someone gets mad that you don't trust them, is a very good indication that you are correct to not trust them. I don't mean people who get sad or have their feelings hurt, I mean the people who get MAD.

[@The_Tumbler_Witch]

A child never stops being a child at any age. They're always your child. "Shy of 18" means zero. My oldest is 33. She's still my child and always will be. I'll always be here for her and her brothers.

[@dragonwolfzero820]

one thing most people don't realize is that adults can have sensitivities too. whether it's trauma related or not, and age should never be used as a weapon especially when it comes to traumatizing events. No one should be making jokes about said events, no one should be told they're overreacting when they are legitimately traumatized and need support When people can't have a safe space, it's never a good thing.

[@HafsaP1nk]

I wish I was your child

[@misspat7555]

A huge change occurs at 18, though. The kid becomes allowed to make their own life decisions and I’m here to keep them off the streets provided they aren’t doing crimes in my house. Also to be supportive practically/emotionally, especially regarding any grandkids, but their lives become their own. My mother allowed me back into her home after both babies (babies do be EXPENSIVE, y’all!), but also expected to make my life decisions for me. I will NOT be living with her so she can stay in her home! 🤷‍♀️

[@2993LP]

55:50 Honey is not to be given to children also; it can contain small amounts of botulism toxin that is no problem if you weigh more than 10 lbs, but lethal to kids under 1.

[@miglek9613]

Same with cow's milk, it literally causes intestinal bleeding in infants

[@hopelessgeek3776]

YES, this. Thanks, I hope this comment blows up! Botulism is not to be messed with.

[@linpittsburgh2375]

The whole thing! Raw eggs can have salmonella, raw milk contains cow manure, honey can give babies botulism. The microbes are going to be racing each other to see who can take the baby out first!

[@chere100]

Here's a sad family story. My mom had my brother really young. She was a first time parent, unmarried, and didn't have access to the internet for advice. She also gave birth in a Catholic hospital, and the nurse attending her was very mean. For example, when asking for advice on caring for the bady, such as what to feed them or not, the nurse wouldn't help. Anyways, that food advice was needed. She didn't know that the baby shouldn't have honey, but her aunt *did.* Said aunt purposefully fed the baby bottles of milk with honey in them. And eventually called CPS pointing out the bottles and trying to get the baby taken. Why? This aunt is lesbian and has always wanted kids. She was hoping she could have the baby if the baby was taken. :\

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

@@chere100 Oh my goodness, that is so heartbreaking! Your poor mom!

[@MikeDrube]

These videos always remind me of the time when my siblings and I still lived with our mother. Her now ex-boyfriend was a tyrant, just like our father was. If you did what he said, he was almost bearable, but if you broke his rules. Then he started shouting, trashing rooms and throwing things at you. Once he threw a very heavy glass ashtray after my sister, who was walking away from him. It only just missed the back of her head and I don't even want to imagine what would have happened to her if it had hit her. He was also an alcoholic and when he was drunk he was even more terrible.

[@sharingheart13]

0:12 Typical narcissistic parent. She can support everyone's emotions except her own kid's.

[@dragonwolfzero820]

literally

[@chrissylou25]

I got covid whilst heavily pregnant from my nephew. I ended up in A&E because I have a heart condition and it exacerbated it. I was off work for 8 weeks and barely slept the entire time. I had had all of my jabs by that point. All I could imagine was how much worse it could have been if I hadn’t had my jabs. I was really annoyed at my sister in law for not stopping her son from coughing all over the place and teaching him to cover his mouth when coughing. In fact I was mad because she didn’t think to stay away or at least do a covid test. She was pregnant too so I can’t understand the lack of care and thought.

[@formulafables]

Thank GOD you got Covid and not the fuckin baby from your nephew… How’s parenting?