Cruising the Park (A beginner's guide) | Patrick Marano

[@dramonmaster222]

The warmer it gets, the freakier men will become.

[@WhyUmadWhy]

No lie. I'm going to enjoy.

[@John-s2b7d]

❤🎯🥒🥵

[@WhyUmadWhy]

Man , great info. I was strolling at a park 🏞 & the boy of my dreams walked up& it was great.

[@neilschipper3741]

Patrick..! You left out one of the most important cruising tips! After eye contact, your hand goes to your crotch and a smile goes on your face with a wink in the eye. That's how they did it back in my day! And don't forget to tap your brake lights if you're in your car.

[@MegaColonel2631]

I did not know that about the brakes 🙈

[@97warlock]

brake lights nothing to do with sex at all tho.

[@DaveTexas]

Years and years ago I lived in an apartment complex that backed up to a hilly, rugged, densely forested undeveloped swath of land. I used to enjoy hiking through there on barely visible trails that just wound their way through. There were little clearings here and there. It was almost like a maze. Anyway, I eventually discovered that guys would head back into that area at night. I’d see a guy with a flashlight head off into the trees, quickly disappearing from view. Then another guy would head back there. Then others, one by one. Some lived in the complex but many just parked in our parking lot and went "hiking." I eventually decided to join them, to see if what I thought was happening was really happening. It was indeed happening! One guy in particular would head back there almost every evening at about the same time. Turned out he was a neighbor of mine (whom I’d never met before) who just wanted head. I was happy to oblige! We’d meet in one particular clearing, I’d get on my knees, and that was pretty much it. Turned out he was married and had kids, but he loved getting head from guys so the cruising happened. Once we got a little more comfortable around each other, he’d just come to my apartment for his nightly head - "I’m going out for my walk, honey. Be back in a half-hour or so." I later discovered just how much he liked having his ass eaten, so our playtimes got longer and longer. Alas, he moved away before I got to see if he liked more than a tongue and a finger or two in his ass…

[@PatrickMarano]

hot story, thank you!

[@WhyUmadWhy]

@@PatrickMarano Heck yes

[@hiway51biker]

"Staring somebody down like you're Jeffrey Dahmer" - had me busting out laughing! Great video as usual & it brought back sweet memories of me cruising the my two favorite parks in San Diego when I lived there for a brief time back in the day. Met some very interesting guys & kinda regret (although I hate regretting) taking up a couple of offers I was given. Oh well still were good times!

[@terrycook7143]

I've never tried cruising sound hot and fun

[@rhole2001]

In southern Arizona we’re having a “cold snap.” We’re wearing sweaters a bit too. With shorts, of course.

[@tomdelisle8955]

I love outdoor stuff. Our old cruising spot we would meet then take a drive to a nice wooded area. Car sex on a cold winters night down at the cranberry bogs was the best. I miss all the old cursing areas that have gone away with the internet. One other tip an older gay gave me when I first came out, when you walk by a guy, count to three and turn around. If he has turned around then he is interested.

[@PatrickMarano]

100% great tip!

[@hottesteverything6545]

In Manila, we call this cruising activities as "quickie(s) and has variations - CR trip (bathroom) or car fun and outdoor/public fun(on an overpass or bridge, bathroom, creekside, riverbanks, bayside, jogging path, bike trails, parks, old cinema houses and anywhere at night that has no CCTV or people around.

[@PatrickMarano]

wow so you get it lol

[@thomaswest2583]

I like outdoor but it's hard finding people in my area who are into that. Only did outside it was on a side road that was rarely used. It was really hot, one of my fwb he was beautiful black with a nice bbc. Really enjoyed that. Wish he was closer and we could do it more often.

[@protoculture4319]

In Saskatchewan, we are far from a warm spell, lol. Loved seeing you lying down on the leaves! Cruise me down Daddy Pat! Xxxx.

[@brinthorne]

As with so many things in life, I like the idea of this a lot more than the reality. I'm not into the risk of getting caught, I prefer comfort and certainty, I need to be able to wash up at a moments notice... lol. But it's nice to fantasize about a best case scenario.

[@PatrickMarano]

Fair enough!

[@brinthorne]

True, but a) that's not really cruising, and b) why bother with outside then?

[@KyrilPG]

I used to love cruising parks all over the world. "Hooking up with a view" was so nice, Central Park, Montjuic, Tuileries... Decades, sometimes centuries of history, magnificent architecture and hot guys, what could be better ? Now it's a lot less fun, sadly.

[@PatrickMarano]

Sounds amazing

[@fuzzyduck1989]

I assume this was before smartphones/digital cameras, then you only had to worry about being caught, now that everyone has a smartphone you have to worry about being caught and photographed while in action lol

[@MegaColonel2631]

As always, a wonderful video ! What you are doing is soooo very helpful, especially for me who’s trying to get back into cruising.😅. I use sniffies more than Grindr tbh. Does anybody have any tips on how to make a “cruise” profile on Grindr? 😅

[@wernerbergh2593]

Thanks great video as always , yip i have tried cruising but not so lucky , but like they say just keep on trying maybe i just get lucky

[@PatrickMarano]

You can do it!

[@zetaconvex1987]

I'm coming to the conclusion that the only reason Patrick doesn't just go on Grindr is because he likes the challenge. Old-school.

[@PatrickMarano]

You got it

[@tedregular7570]

@@PatrickMaranoso is the challenge/danger part of the appeal?

[@paulnadratowski3942]

Me too. I just came back from cruising a park here in NJ. Been cruising there since 1992

[@jamesj7518]

Patrick, thank you for your invaluable advice, filled to the rim with humor! I particularly liked when you said that one should clean up after himself and you walked away with a huge, full garbage bag over your shoulder! Hysterical!

[@PatrickMarano]

hahaha thank you!

[@shawnkelley3695]

Dollar General store bag 😔, backpack 🎒👍👀🔥✅⭐👣

[@fuzzyduck1989]

I cracked when I saw the Lysol wipes lol

[@okgirlwtv]

hii patrick

[@PatrickMarano]

That's amazing! I'm so happy my videos were able to help! Let me know if there's a topic I can cover that you think you might need

[@damoncarr6779]

My cruising days are long gone (loooong term monogamous relationship). Last time I tried cruising, the handheld cellphone was a brick with a tiny LCD. Grindr did not exist, sniffies did not exist. The internet barely existed. There were ‘hotspots’ (we called them in those days), but it was all tribal knowledge.

[@PatrickMarano]

Cool, thanks for sharing with us

[@markfinn0]

Have you done any Hanlan's Point videos? I've had some wonderful encounters there. Pick up someone on the clothing-optional beach, or simply cruise the trails and bushes.

[@PatrickMarano]

Not yet! And now it's Fall... I guess I'll wait till the Summer for that

[@xerxesguy7340]

I usually go there too every summer😁

[@tonygunzolis1212]

I just binge watched this whole series in one sitting. I'm in Tokyo right now so we'll see if these techniques work over here 😌💗

[@PatrickMarano]

Oh wow... please let us know how it goes!

[@ericanderson7454]

Gay men are the same every where in the world. The only difference I saw in Tokyo is that guys in a Tokyo bathhouse tend to fake being asleep a lot in the cabins. and I seem most popular with GMPD (Bear)chasers. Patrick would be GMPD in Tokyo. GMPD is Muscular, Beefy Muscular, husky, and fat... for those who don't know.

[@vogelvogeltje]

Don’t forget to bow when you lock eyes 😂

[@saratemp790]

I want to see some kind of re enactment of locking eyes and the first convo. Get a friend to fill the role.

[@PatrickMarano]

I would love to have a whole cast of guys to help me out LOL

[@markhagen1329]

So glad I found you on KZbin!

[@PatrickMarano]

Me too Mark! Welcome my friend! xo

[@go60061]

yes I am in Arizona. Thanks for your perspective

[@PatrickMarano]

Thanks for watching!

[@a.j.stauft1779]

Omg, finally help without judgement. I came out late..raised family..so guess who is clueless to signals. Or I notice obvious staring but not approaching...umm..lol

[@PatrickMarano]

This is a judgement free zone! Thanks for watching!

[@Jusell]

These practices are so hot 🔥 Thanks for the tips

[@PatrickMarano]

You're so welcome!

[@mikefilimon1584]

F(;K YEAH! I LOVE PARKS!!!

[@ancona87]

Patrick you should do a sauna review of Montreal.

[@Jackretro]

in order to do that, he must be or have been in Montréal at least once !

[@PatrickMarano]

Yup, it's on the list!

[@PatrickMarano]

I used to live there, but I need to revisit the sauna to see if anything has changed!

[@garysimkins2179]

OMG!! If you live in Toronto, I need to get your autograph. Seriously, nothing more, just that, and to meet you in person of course. Wow. Who Knew?

[@PatrickMarano]

haha wow! Thanks Gary, I'm so flattered!

[@gregorykollarus8190]

short shorts in the woods! there might be bugs!!

[@thriftkingdom]

Do guys still do this? Ive never seen anything crazy like this lol only on tv haha

[@PatrickMarano]

oh ya, it's a thing... you just gotta know where it's happening

[@miguelpaul1164]

Agh love your sweater!! I gotta go try this I hate the apps they make this kinda thing seem like a thing of the past! But it's not!!!

[@PatrickMarano]

It's 100% not a thing of the past

[@axela7418]

ahah! nice video! But i do not do it, i am too scared because i do no see in the dark ahaha! and during the day it is not discreet enough (not too mention i cannot get hard when it is too cold 🤣

[@PatrickMarano]

😅

[@Justmylukc]

How do you find a cruising place in your area ?

[@PatrickMarano]

Sniffies.com

[@a.j.stauft1779]

Oh and were frozen here in calgary!!

[@PatrickMarano]

I hear

[@romanocontti4018]

Some extraordinaire moments in thé "Square du Trocadero" in Paris but sévère attacks in Strasbourg, one ending at thé hospital

[@Damine88]

San Diego has great spots for this

[@zanealberto7741]

Phones and dogs right? LOL I’d love to do that, but I’d be really scared 😱 I’m watching your advice tho!!😆 💙👍👊😘😘Zane

[@wvusciguy]

ThAnk you for asking people to clean up.

[@rickwallace4226]

Patrick I live in Las Vegas N,V,

[@MonoGiadating]

I cry with you 😂

[@rickwallace4226]

I meet my husband of 37 years till he past away, Rick 😅😁

[@edwardseymour4930]

Patrick… you’re beautiful and courageous… enjoy life…

[@steveshaw1047]

You are the funniest sexy guy ever.......keep it up!

[@Deojuvante379]

Patrick, you look horrific with the needles 😘👍👍 😂

[@PatrickMarano]

what needles?

[@Deojuvante379]

@@PatrickMarano knitting needles, dear 😂❤

[@ericanderson7454]

Another fun video.

[@PatrickMarano]

Thank you 🤗

[@ericanderson7454]

@@PatrickMarano You are very welcome.

[@antoniodasilva589]

Yeah, I love outdoor fun. 👍😍😈

[@wvusciguy]

He delivers on the OF product for sure

[@PatrickMarano]

Thanks for the plug!

[@rickwallace4226]

In a park bathroom Patrick,I'd love to talk to ya,,,Rick

[@daveluna7931]

😅 Lady GaGa concert

[@terrycook7143]

Yes

[@joemiller1312]

Y E S !!!!!

[@97warlock]

sniffies ............someone deletes your comment on their picture. its a compliment I left. They delete it & ignore you, its an insult. WHY do they delete comments?? I have never deleted any comment . No reason to.

[@francocabernet11]

If ur cruising in that park, you are in the wrong park 😂

[@PatrickMarano]

haha totally...

[@paulnadratowski3942]

Or flash your headlights

[@rickwallace4226]

😊

[@THELASTMEDICALNINJA1995]

Sounds hot but super risky

[@John-s2b7d]

Gotta wear white shorts nothing under

[@mariaelenamendoza3995]

Buenas noches, tejes muy lindo😊❤

[@PatrickMarano]

haha gracias mi amor

[@GeorgeStar]

In terms of "essentials" you left out knee pads!

[@thezachgc4256]

Isn’t having sex in public kinda like illegal?

[@PatrickMarano]

Being gay was illegal. Having an abortion is not illegal. Being illegal doesn't make something wrong.

[@tonycollazorappo]

I like doing things outdoors, indoors, in the woods....etc, wink.

[@markshulusky6680]

I understand this is your thing (meaning topic) but when do you have time to eat (food I mean)? You seem consumed (meaning obscessed) with cruising, it seems too forced to be anything but a neurosis (meaning its taken over your life to the point where it has a monopoly on it).

[@PatrickMarano]

Nope, I just make fun videos about it

[@markshulusky6680]

​@@PatrickMaranoGreat, then. But you've made vids about aging, plenty of handsome/sexy guys over 40, 50... 60?!? It's only a bad idea when you're really trying to turn back the clock, 'cause the fuckin' thing only runs one way.

[@AlexanderTroy-f3n]

Patrick, you have a responsibility to the gay community to promote positive interactions and behaviour which supports the mental health and wellbeing of gay men all over the world so that they can forge meaningful and long-lasting relationships, not just engage in self-destructive anonymous sex which will leave them lonely. 🙁

[@PatrickMarano]

Hey Alex, I speak about a full range of gay experiences, both on this channel and on my podcast @queerlyuspodcast You're welcome to cherry pick the episodes that resonate the most with you!

[@roundesthedgehog]

I'm planning to open a sauna, or invest as a partner. I wanna turn my fun to my job.

[@PatrickMarano]

That's my goal too! Hit me up and we can talk! [e-mail]

[@IAmPaigeAT]

lol

[@valeo6820]

Mentorship at its best. 😜

[@justing1810]

Stay out of the parks!

[@PatrickMarano]

No one is cruising a busy park during the day don't worry....

[@justing1810]

@@PatrickMarano Your breaking the law. If you are going to have sex with someone don't do it in public. Take them home or go to a motel. It's better then having a criminal record that will follow you for the rest of your life. Park rangers can see what you are doing. The public can see what you are doing. Your going to get caught.

[@youvicalleditupmyself]

Is there a valid reason that this human is in a park with familys with children talking about meeting for sex ? its 2022 dont people live in flats and apartments houses for gods sake , you really need to rethink your lives and take responsability and respect others want to use public spaces for the simple things like kicking a ball or a picnic , im not sure that your very wise to be posting anything remotely related in speaking for other gay men when your perversion is yours and yours alone . why not get a good job meet someone nice and stay home .

[@PatrickMarano]

Hi Helda, you're absolutely right! Thank you so much for the clarity. I guess it took a complete stranger on the internet to help me see the light. It's best I don't talk about things that actually go on and pretend like they don't. Sorry for rocking the boat and disrupting your life. I won't do it again.

[@youvicalleditupmyself]

@@PatrickMarano patrick lovey please dont be offended when i say , that you highlight ( things that go on ) what i mean to say is are you encouraging the act of indecent exsposure a law that can land you in alot of trouble it may be useful to some of those that you engage with here to realise , you could highlight issues such as these that might be what i percieve to be protecting others like you who think its wise to exspose yourself in public spaces . its just a thought , im not sure that you have really thought about encouraging others in a positive way after all there are other places to have sex with strangers a obvious choicce might be somewhere with a little more privacy and less commital offence by law .

[@youvicalleditupmyself]

@@snnn4818 i dont think all men are gay and the ones that call themselves gay dont all feel the need to make videos about themselves

[@youvicalleditupmyself]

@@JoS-vh5yg I'm not sure what point your reply was trying to make valid , however your trying , and try to make a valid point is all you need do , I think that's great all makes sense to you now .

[@tonis8180]

Makasalanang nilalang magbago ka na

[@markmh835]

Nope, no sin involved, so go away. 😵😠👎

[@rextrek]

1ST.... Hey Handome Patrick......Good Video ..shame this wasn't available when i was a "young" gay..I was 17 in 77 so ........Gees I found out about -gloryholes- at a Korvettes Dept store bathroom when i was 16...but I always felt shameful/dirty.......different times.....I cruised / hitchhiked back in the late 70's - 1st real Love Bf was when I was 22 ...cruising always felt -seedy- .......again , different times kinda screwed me up as a young gay man..I was lost .....now Married to hubby 12 years togther 22 / open if - when it happens....cant remember last time ....a few yrs ....Life ..the stories I could Tell...

[@jerrylee8261]

Glad the attitudes of Gays have changed. Be proud and don't let the anti-Gay propangandists get you down.

[@PatrickMarano]

Thank you for sharing! I'm glad you're happy now. All the shame and all the guilt put on us by society... fuck them right! You're awesome

[@jimmy7879]

Yes