Cut Off My Family After They Missed Out on My Graduation Because of Golden Child Sister, but Then...

[@gotenblack2542]

basic plot op gets treated badly by family still goes back to them and gets shocked when they still get treated bad

[@renadu30]

[Insert Surprised Pikachu face]

[@Gam1ngPhase]

@@renadu30Underrated 💀🤌🏾

[@pauldunn5955]

and it's always a TWIN(or they kids from a marriage are twins)

[@stormdog9169]

@@pauldunn5955 I think authors of these posts put things like the twin tropes in there as calling cards so other authors can recognize their content. Like it's less fun for them to make up a plausible story. They want to see how outlandish they can make it to laugh at the people taking it seriously. That's what they get out of it.

[@CustomReads]

Sometimes, returning to those who repeatedly hurt you only leads to more disappointment. It might be time to seek respect and happiness elsewhere.

[@blueflameSM]

Absolute doormat. You’re allowed to say no. A promise to a deadbeat dad? An abusive parent? The OP is so frustrating, you go 10 years without talking and now you were manipulated? You went NC for a reason.

[@Iceberry_33]

She was such a doormat so now I believe whatever happened OP bought all the trouble herself! Good for her! Some doormat learn hard way.

[@nyanya2757]

I don't like people that say this. Calling someone a doormat is like calling someone a nerd, you're insulting them for a good quality they have. The quality being kindness in this case. Like I'm sorry I feel bad for parents who although they hated me at least kept me, sorry I felt bad when someone DIED, sorry I was kind enough to help someone who neglected me. But you don't gotta be rude about it.

[@Kaysquiet_life]

Exactly, clock it

[@Kaysquiet_life]

​@nyanya2757 being a doormat is not a good quality stsu

[@nyanya2757]

@Kaysquiet_life Being nice is a good quality but getting used for your kindness is not something you do it's something someone else does.

[@justaboringvegetarian449]

"Your Father is dying. You need to come home." "Oh. I'm starting art school that day. Sorry for your loss though." And block. OP's spine is made of jelly.

[@GDMC872]

Sad but true

[@nyanya2757]

Well it's hard to understand it's bad when it's the only thing you've done your whole life.

[@hexmaniacciaran]

you can't even stand up for yourself, what chance have you got running a company

[@SoAwesome96]

DAYUM!! YOU TELL IT LIKE IT IS !!

[@Alice15210]

Exactly. OP is a dummy and a sucker

[@Kaysquiet_life]

Rs

[@Xrk-krx]

I get the "DO it for dan" vibes

[@scpfoundation8376]

Sad thing is unlike OP in dans story, this OP has a spine so weak that paralyzed humans have stronger ones.

[@Xrk-krx]

@@scpfoundation8376 yess tbh I don't like do it for dab that much it's great but boring my favourite is gonna be "my spoiled sister tried to throw me under the bus after hosting an alcoholic party get disowned by parents"

[@shrimpsking]

Lol

[@The-Mini-Titan]

why do people say this about 99% of stories now

[@Lordi974]

Yeah the legendary story of Dan and his family 😅

[@RandomTrinidadian]

None of this would have happened if OP had some self resepect and not gone back home for her crappy father.

[@gotenblack2542]

that is the problem with most of these story's

[@suckmeaballZ]

Crappy parents* it's both of them

[@CustomReads]

self-respect is key to avoiding repeated hurt. Sometimes, the best choice is to move forward, not backward.

[@nyanya2757]

Where would you get self respect from parents like that?

[@SoldierOfGodwyn]

​@nyanya2757 Self respect and confidence are traits one can learn themselves without a parents help. I grew up in an incredibly abusive household with no will or confidence, yet I learned and haven't talked to them or replied in many years. She had a decade to learn and better herself

[@OTDinosaurScrubs]

I stopped feeling bad for OP once she agreed to not only see them but help them out, absolute doormat

[@NappingSpectral]

Even on his death bed I'd say "yeah fuck that your on your own" and walk out. No one should be a fricken doormat. But I also can't feel sympathy for doormats that choose to be walked over...

[@kfd784]

OP should really have grown a backbone and just said NO the very first time her family made contact.

[@alegendarywolf3278]

Once a doormat, always a doormat!

[@stephenanderson4869]

Their feet must have been extra dirty because they pulled out all the stops

[@ditzycup8140]

Yeah it’s sad but the parents are the real bad guys here for always abusing their poor scapegoat child

[@UniqStories-k8m]

Absolutely, it's really sad to see parents abusing their child like that. They are definitely the real bad guys in this situation. It's heartbreaking to think about the impact this has on the scapegoat child. What do you think is the best way for the child to find support and healing from such an abusive environment?

[@CustomReads]

you are a real man

[@nyanya2757]

Well if those are her parents it makes sence, where would she learn to stand up for herself from? It doesn't sound like she had anyone helping her out.

[@arhael3594]

This is the doormatest doormat op I've ever heard of.

[@nessat6335]

LIFE PRO TIP: If someone "on their death bed" is asking you to do something you do NOT want to do - tell them you have to "think about it and pray on it" -- doesn't matter what their religion is or even if they're an atheist -- you say you need to pray on it to a dying person, they'll let you leave without making any promises. Once you leave, go no contact ... OR keep saying that you'll continue to pray on it and if they get indignant, "How dare you put yourself above God's will?!" and hang up. :) IF they're truly awful people, just blatantly say "You've done evil things and I won't associate with evil." :P PS: Once (long ago) I called someone a "shameless selfish cursed evil monster" and the person turned their life around. Won't go into detail cuz I don't want anyone doxed, but with this little info, only that person knows I'm talking about him/her. ;)

[@f687sNFM]

I like how op says she was made to agree, op agreed on her own free will. Don't sympathize with doormats, shame them

[@aaronknowles12]

This has to be rage bait, no one in this world is that dense

[@nvm8824]

Was about to comment the same exact thing

[@liordagan9342]

I wish that was true. I jaya friend who is.

[@Burnsy12]

It's probably a fake story like most posted on this channel. Someone that lets other people walk all over them does not have the necessary mindset to have a successful business.

[@teknoh]

These stories always get more frustrating lol. Never knew there were so many doormats out here, who don't have the ability to say no, hang up, and block all.

[@nickwatts13]

You should have never got back in contact with them in the first place so what if he was dying her immediate family was a bunch of enemies!!! Family isn't always family.

[@Queen-Blue]

Happy Monday All!🙋🏾‍♀️ Don't allow "family" to mistreat you!!! Don't beg for love from ANYONE!!! Don't give them your HARD-EARNED money!!!

[@shadowcatX2000]

OOP tells us a dozen times how much better they are than their sister, but then says the sister is the narcissistic one.

[@Xrk-krx]

It's facts

[@ChefRye1]

Right like this whole family sounds awful. Sister is useless mooch, parents played favorites and don’t want to own up to mistakes, and OP bases how people should be treated based on success and being good at things.

[@shadowcatX2000]

@@Xrk-krx You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

[@Xrk-krx]

@@shadowcatX2000 wdym

[@GOATEDTYLERR]

​@@Xrk-krx this is also from ops view so it is possible he is bsing on a few things

[@kennyg.3966]

Another story where a simple "no" would of solved so much problems

[@olegsurchi7411]

We are never told the stories with such ”no” being used, it might be satisfying, but not interesting as it will seem like bragging

[@Syrin23]

NEVER let someone guilt you into a toxic situation. Death bed guilt means the parents AND dad were horrible people

[@Censorthisbananahamock]

Yeah dad, that is going to be a no from me. Maybe if you treated me like a daughter instead of an afterthought. I would be willing to take care of my deadbeat sister, but since you didn't, then I'm going to let her fend for herself.

[@Spacemanct]

Stop giving her money.

[@Minris1]

The irony - the sis needed to learn to be independent, so she (op) had to help her. Get her a job. Teach her everything. 😂

[@remofilwet]

The level of AUDACITY from the family😂😂😭✋🏿

[@jackmacaulay3886]

Oh I love a good Golden child story 🙌👏

[@Suusvanheertum]

TELL IT TO

[@sharkeatinpizza]

Not when the golden child wins because OP is the biggest pos doormat in the known universe

[@abhinavsekhon6555]

do it for dan man

[@kidm0bius190]

so in 10 hours she was brought up on charges, saw a judge, found guilty and has to pay restitution? lmao BS.

[@slavchansidorov32]

OP should quit the idea of opening business, such a doormat will drive herself to bankrupcy in couple of weeks

[@kimsvisualdiary]

Zero empathy for the OP. She was dumb as rocks to go back to them AND to agree to fund her lazy sister’s lifestyle. How much clearer could her family be that they didn’t give a shit about her? They only want her around when she can offer up something for them.

[@DashPlayz908]

9:15 I would've said an oscar baby-crying-on-a-plane worthy NO

[@devhxh1558]

They ignored OP their whole life and now want OP to support the golden child and want OP to make the golden child as partner without any contribution

[@jowieman1960]

THANK GOD she went NC with the family again! That family is toxic, and no body needs that

[@ThePawerStation]

She knew very well that she was being played. In a couple of years, she will come back begging for money.

[@Artiick]

Oh noooo.... Who would've thought. It's almost as if OP went NC for a reason. Honestly wtf 😂

[@lahomacastile8085]

Dad would have died KNOWING I ain't doing none of that shit!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ansgarwolfsang1287]

Sometimes people get the bad treatment they exactly deserve

[@sliqyplayz8072]

“I need to learn how to be independent and fix her life, but you need to do it for me” just take a pause and see how those 2 statements contradict each other

[@TheGrandy123]

She is an adult. She had the cards. She screwed everything. They manipulated you.

[@RefaelAcosta]

Okay, I’m gonna stop at at 16:51 hello the promise was pay tickets pay for not pay for legal charges of her own fault and she’s getting sued for it. That was not no promise. Get the nearest Airplane! ticket to Africa.

[@tommybell4850]

I don't feel sorry for op. Making up an excuse as to why she had to accept her father's request. You wasn't forced you was too weak to stand up for urself n allowed urself to be used by ur sister. Smh

[@jonix24mejor]

I wonder why this kind of ppl are usually the biggest doormats out there, like, can you just stand for yourself just 1 Time? At this point she is just suffering because she wanted to, she wanst forced to do anything, she just excused herself in her head to feel like less of a doormat lol.

[@gotenblack2542]

yup

[@druid799]

Well aren’t you three shining lights of kindness ? the reason Op is like this is because her entire 30yrs she been craving something most take for granted but never received , THE LOVE OF HER PARENTS FFS ! Op has been the victim of mental cruelty her entire life . You three should crawl back in to the hole you came out off .

[@jonix24mejor]

@@druid799 you prolly think i had a perfect life or something and thats why i dont have "kindness" towards her i guess, if you want people to keep getting talking advantage off, then you do you. I already had to deal with My fair share of parent neglecting, and people like op Is the kind of people that mostly blame their circumstances and environment for every bad desicion they take, they cant stop being the victims despite the fact that they had EVERY SINGLE oportunity to CHANGE things. If OP was dependent on her parenst in some way, that I would understand, she wouldnt had much more options, but nope, she Is just back at It again begging for the love of people that doesnt give a damn about her. If 30+ years Isnt enought to stop craving love from awful people that every single Time haven't given you the respect you deserve, then you need to seek profesional help instead of trying to be the "bigger person". OP need to realize the doormat she Is to change It, if you just say "oh, poor you" that Is not going to fix anything nor help her, and she Is going to be also mistreated by other people in the future. You might not know cause you dont sound familiar on how this works and how hard life can actually be, but there Is people that literally put themselves into a mental problem that they """cant""" get out of, because they doesnt really want to, that pain makes them special in their own minds, if you keep just giving them your kindness, they are just going to get out of a self-created problem into another.

[@hennessya96]

​@@druid799 i do see the frustration of seeing someone constantly hurt themselves?

[@treehouse2902]

OP the Doormat. Why are you insisting on being a doormat?

[@NourAmsterdam]

I can’t even get through this 1 tbh. Some people will always be stuck in toxicity

[@Haterade420]

You’re not a doormat. It’s okay to stop on your father’s grave.

[@Panwere36]

It always blows my mind when any parents make one child "the golden child", especially when obviously they don't deserve it. The OP needs to lay down the rules with "Rebecca" and that is obvious.

[@draconiclady0610]

Op should have gotten a contract up and going the moment the funeral was over. Sis has to pay $Xxx per month for rent for the 1st year and $Xxxx the 2nd. A phone will be provided, but its a Tracfone with 60 min cards, which will be replenished every 3 months. Wifi is locked, between 9am and 5pm. Half utilities paid, half food paid. Violation of contract will result in her being kicked out and phone allowed to expire.

[@gortharthegamer8572]

OP is an actual simpleton. I’m in a similar situation except it’s with step siblings, and I can guarantee you if my dad asked me to look after my siblings financially I’d whisper in his ear “Hurry up and die knowing they’ll never get a cent from me”

[@maxportellichadwick261]

I think people need to understand something, being selfish isn’t necessarily negative. In this story OP was selfish when her sister accused her of being so, but she should be, they never cared for her and her being selfless would/could ruin her future.

[@Jacksonmoonstar1714]

These families always have the shocked pikachu face when their kids who they emotionally tortured stand up for themselves. Parents act like that when they know you depend on them. But the second you don’t depend on them and can speak your mind without being shouted down or threatened to stop talking, they flip out saying awful things since they can’t stop you.

[@minutemuse]

Should’ve turned right around without a word and walked out the minute they asked OP to help Rebecca. Not even an apology or shred of remorse. They made her the person she is, it’s time to reap what they sow.

[@willie7511]

Just the word NO is a complete sentence...

[@Tamara_Middleton]

The OP in this story is insufferable

[@GG_greed]

If the comments are like this i don't even want to imagine the reddit comment section they probably ripped her a new one and i stand by the comments on this one

[@heather-t5q]

the way i slapped my forehead as soon as i heard she actually payed for the flights

[@Demonoicgamer666]

Op is a push over if you’re going to fund her lifestyle she deserves to have an emotional relationship with her sister.

[@Da.Shanks.]

Halfway through, and OP is not just a doormat, she's a whole carpeted floor

[@Nevera-o3o]

Bro should have denied to take care of his jobless sis😕

[@mnomadvfx]

OP literally went NC for 10 yrs and still became a spineless jelly the moment she was back in their company. Anyone with half a brain would have just said yes and then simply welched after he croaked. It's not like they have any real foundation on which to call her unfair.

[@davidstroud185]

I don't feel bad for op. How does one go 10 years with no speaking to her agreeing to take care of an adult child? And she wants to run a business? She needs to keep up her end of her promise and be a money bag for her sister. Bail her out of her mistakes and make her sister a partner.

[@wilddeath1]

so the op should clearly just give the sister 20 dollars, a loaf of bread, and kick her out the door "farewell good luck with your future!"

[@chanayplease]

I get the OP feeling a whirlwind of emotions and such bc losing a parent, even a bad one, hurts and muddles a lot of things. However, she should've stood 10 toes down or be like "give me some time to think about it" then drop it. They thought about her twin sister and not her even in such a time, let their actions have consequences!

[@yo-Jordiewatch4]

4:01 crazy

[@jeffreycardenas5553]

You knew you were being manipulated and you still agreed that shit is totally on you this person is genuinely a goofy

[@2xtreem4u]

They only wanted 1 child and punished the extra they didn't want

[@shawnycoffman]

If my parents did that to me and there's a good chance they might, even though he's on his deathbed I would have taken the opportunity to say 'no' and exactly why I refuse to take on that liability.

[@StickySoldier]

One thing I don’t like about this story is parents shouldn’t care to much more or less what school u go to college is college

[@CustomReads]

your personal growth and decision to start your own business are truly admirable. My question is, what have been the main sources of motivation that have helped you keep striving and not give up?"

[@mrnotverypc7549]

Both me and my brother was mistreated equally by our awefull lowlife parents and are very close and we always had each others back

[@maebell227]

you should have never have opened your mouth about that. And you can't be made to agree to anything the force automatically makes that vocal agreement null and void so you can't be made to agree to anything

[@ronlynnsnively5323]

OP is only 31. And his mother is already 64? All these stories make the parents out to be really old when the kids are less than 30. You are not elderly at 64!

[@Chuckakhan]

I feel like OP is leaving ALOT of details out,

[@Atomic0907]

This OP needs to stop trying to prove shit to their parents their life has always been either trying ti gain favor or get back at them. They need to completely go zero contact, not show up to the funeral, if they see them on the street cross it. It’s sad how hung up they are they don’t even realize it

[@Bolpat]

About half-way in, I fail to see how Jared is a bad influence on Rebecca. He’s her ideal partner.

[@gefenlimor-h5y]

SAY NO, WHY WOULD YOU SAY YES?

[@AbbeyWeston]

If I were you, I would’ve said, “No thanks.” and walked out

[@Kaysquiet_life]

That's what tf u get u should've told them no😂

[@obobob1867]

Honestly, throw all the money into your business then hire her to do something.

[@olegsurchi7411]

So much hate for OP in the comments. Was I the only one with a similar experience in being convinced in such way. I learned not to promise things under pressure, but it took me time to learn to say no in such cases.

[@KKOPPONG]

Promises are broken all the time. I ain’t paying for shit!!!

[@raihanalameer2904]

Op should says womp womp 😂

[@TheLeviathan1293]

Do not agree to something so irresponsibly. She just painted a target on her own back if she doesn't follow through. Sister is an adult. If she can't help herself OP can't.

[@thehiddensilentone1795]

OP, seems like a doormat, she literally screwed herself, she cut ties with her family and it should have stayed that way.

[@YRAT-mr8jq]

I wish I had disposable income like that 😂

[@gregfenely3286]

So if this is real or not don’t listen to them

[@jilliansudayan]

I was getting really annoyed with the OP and it looks like I’m not alone 😂

[@Killahbee168]

Cancer or no cancer he's nothing but a real SOB for that both parents are and this is the problem with parents nowadays they always trying to run away from problems that they created trying to force it on to their kids

[@kennykk8]

yall are genuinely so irritating in the comments. yall so quick to call her a doormat, and make her the bad guy and for what? because she couldnt stand up for herself? not everyone can. That doesn’t necessarily mean their a doormat , or weak. it just means she had TRAUMA . and doesnt know how to process it well.

[@Gregour-j6u]

rebbeca could sue for alienation of affections becase he cheated on her and if she told him that she would sue if he didnt press charges he would def back off

[@KKOPPONG]

Your father should have had life insurance to leave Rebecca😂…death bed or not she’s on her own.

[@princessmarlena1359]

Total doormat of an OP.

[@dthomason119]

Parents “seem” to always prefer the loser of the children. My sister has a middle school degree, and my mother loves her more, but I stop caring when I was in my early teens and I’m in my late 40’s.

[@5septillion]

Anyone else know they just keep redoing with different people in the story.

[@FlexiFlo07]

I wonder how many of these stories are true

[@albertgongora6944]

I feel bad for the original poster but I'm sorry to say it she was not manipulated yeah she was guilt-tripped into the situation about taking care of her sister but she didn't really owe any of them any promises so I don't understand why she would choose to make that promise in general when none of them reached out during the father's death bed when he was still capable of being just fine maybe I can understand then but she had no business listening to these people to begin with so kind of sorry to say that this was a little bit more on the poster

[@ayisdone]

WTF istg if this was me, I'd leave the moment they opened their mouth about my sister lol delusional omg

[@limbodog]

Why do the authors always choose to make them twins?

[@DeamonSorrow]

you just say no - and that's it.

[@lilibyul]

im sorry but OP is better than me. i would’ve told him no.. there no way in hell im agreeing to support someone who treated me poorly for most of my life.. especially when my parents allowed..

[@roabarton7962]

Grow a spine geez.

[@davidmauriciogutierrezespi5244]

I mean i would say yes and everything then not act on it and leave that sister to fend for herself or for the mother to burn herself for the burden of a daughter she has.

[@explodingtomahawks7589]

OP gets treated like garbage by terrible family, goes NC. Let's themselves get manipulated by bad family, gets treated like crap. Surprise Pikachu face.

[@mehulmalviya5800]

Business partner? What does she brings to table to be a partner?