Trapped in the Dark with My Ex | Cut

[@cut]

We shot this on the Canon XF405 and XF705 cameras. Both have infrared recording capabilities. Two small infrared lights were used in the studio, that's why you'll notice shadows! Infrared light is invisible to the human eye. Footage came out black and white, but we added a green tint to it in post-production so it would be more recognizable as night vision footage.

[@Bledderswempie]

nice

[@e-sew-sa]

u should pin this !

[@Fjidudjskskdhfhdjlsk]

Came to the comments wondering why there are shadows and highlights so I appreciate this explanation hahah

[@malialik]

Night vision tint was the way to go, there's something very boring history class documentary-ish with black and white video that isn't outwardly artistic

[@fu6555]

I did not know that they could shadows in the dark. 🤔

[@christineg6123]

I cried for the black guy. I've been there before. Took me a few years but I eventually found my forever person after being completely crushed by someone I too thought I was gonna marry.

[@RustedCow]

He didn’t have kids with her an get cheated on so it’s not that bad

[@PARAGBD420]

Talking with Ex is very very unhealthy life style. you should never do that.

[@sola_a]

@@PARAGBD420 talking to your ex can be very healthy and mature

[@maxelthompson1108]

@@sola_a deciding that you two should never speak again is also a mature decision

[@hahhaharsh]

It's been 3 + years for me and counting still.

[@missy_elephant1999]

They should make this a series called “Lights off”

[@_Sabrina999]

“lights out, truth on“ or something, I’d watch!

[@bryn9670]

Yep

[@amandarae5736]

Yesss! With all different pairs of people. LIke ex friends or ex wives.

[@clAssIcAllymINdless]

@@amandarae5736 ex friends would be so good

[@saltgurkis]

Lights off, truth on would really fit

[@TBISYTC]

Imagine getting dumped because you care and adore your partner more than they believed they're worth... Mental issues is a hell of a thing.

[@malikakhatri7651]

omg this!!!

[@lechatrouge4066]

I think she simply didn't like him enough to actually get married..

[@user-yh5cv1vu9m]

Yeah, but she also didn't love him as much as he loved her. That's why she said she didn't deserve him. And she is right. He deserves someone who loves him as much as he loves her. It's not because she isn't good enough. She also deserves the same. Someone she can love as much as the other loves her.

[@ragavsampath]

@@lechatrouge4066 might be possibly be a reason.......

[@vladitargovski]

The same thing happened to me, I felt the dude, It's hard getting over that kind of thing.

[@erickah425]

"Got any friends?" "No" "Lights Off!" THIS PART WAS TOO FUNNY FOR NO REASON GHDSGAHDGAH

[@josephokwudiri6527]

Hi, why don't you send a message to this great man who helped me attract my partner back after many years of separation? 🇦🇷

[@FwohGwoh]

when was this said??

[@erickah425]

@@FwohGwoh the very end of the video!

[@swat1710]

That just was a reply to her implying that he was still single n in love with her

[@aminahjones1907]

LMFAOOOOOO

[@thelastmelon7187]

The guy with the jacket was so soft spoken, so wholesome and honest; I hope he's found someone good.

[@JPcommunicates]

This guy is still emotional attached to this girl. Instead of going into the next relationship, he could learn what makes him actually happy and what he wish for in a relationship.

[@Caitecakess]

That’s the scariest part of being in a relationship, one person could think you’re both in it for the long haul and the other person gives up. Feel soo bad for that man 😭

[@AkumaShadowz]

Constant communication is key

[@joshboston2323]

That's right. It is quite unique when both people completely allign and agree to follow a life path together. But like melodious mischief said, communication has to be spot on throughout the relationship for it to work .

[@mynameisglitter2220]

This happened to me.

[@-AstroXIV-]

basically what happened to me yea man it sucks

[@Karmalu]

My ex in a nutshell.

[@therealednam0de234]

The white guy with the jacket is so in love with her 😭

[@mprice6683]

@@SaharaColeman She probably still feels something but he said nothing about getting clean and she has a new boyfriend. She is wise to move on.

[@silencia08]

Isn't the guy in the Jacket the one that lives an unhealthy. Although what type of lifestyle it wasn't mentioned it could only be a serious one to cause a break-up. I'm thinking either be Alcohol, Drugs or Sex (cheating) addiction. Ya so out of all 3 of those guys Jacket one is who I'm least empathic on. I'm more saddened by the Black guy, who's clearly still holding a candle for the ex.

[@elisejhans989]

FRRR

[@shoelacedonkey]

@@silencia08 They did both mention substance abuse/addiction.

[@loganjackson1834]

Bro there fucking zero dudes with a white jacket

[@rylie.2019]

“i’m sad.” “you broke my heart.” 😮‍💨

[@alberto-gr2qj]

☹️

[@LandingBully]

Shut up

[@yasb7415]

I cried

[@fionagallagherapologist5968]

@@LandingBully thank u

[@random-lx8uh]

bruh thats so sad but she is sooo wrong for him

[@laurenleslie7156]

My heart breaks for the guy In glasses. Bless him. He deserves so much better than what he had.

[@chiaraippoliti]

The woman has a right to her feelings as well. So I'm glad she's not dating him just because he's "in love" with her. She's being straightforward and honest, and he's trying to make her feel guilty for not reciprocating. That's not fair.

[@laurenleslie7156]

@@chiaraippoliti it’s not making her feel guilty, its his feelings and he is being ‘straight forward and honest’ too. And he deserves better than a one way relationship

[@CadeTheReaper]

@@chiaraippoliti he's not trying to make her feel guilty he's expressing his feelings

[@islixxn]

@@chiaraippoliti god damn is ur whole personality being insufferable

[@Firemarioflower]

@@chiaraippoliti BULLLLSHIIIIT

[@playgr0undx]

I feel so sad for that girl who is still sleeping with her ex. I’ve been there and it’s difficult to get out of that situation. I wish her all the best.

[@ayoakin9718]

Can you please explain to me why its so difficult? My girl friend which I still like left me just to keep sleeping w her ex even tho he abuses her and just not good for her so can you please tell me why she wants to be w him. Please

[@Suckerroodoo]

@@ayoakin9718 dam sorry to hear that man:(

[@ABC-vw8xy]

I’m sorry man…You need to let her go

[@aishwaryamukherjee9105]

@@ayoakin9718 maybe she is more into physical attraction than real love. i know it hurts to see someone you love leaving you for reasons like this and i know it is easy to say but stil you deserve someone better dude

[@Interesty1]

@@ayoakin9718 The reason why we choose to love the people we choose to love is because of childhood. Because we all learned about love when we were children and when we become adults we remember the feelings of love frome childhood. And the people we fall in love with remind us in many ways of the people we first loved when we were children. That‘s a perspective from the psycholoanalysis

[@yelleyw]

Awww my heart broke for the black guy. It sucks to be in love with someone who doesn’t feel the same way. I hope he finds happiness and love again soon. 😢

[@RustedCow]

He never found it if the person didn’t show him the same

[@qlrxj]

@@RustedCow you can fall out of love, it's possible her feelings went away over time so he did probably find it at one point

[@Jsalcedo23]

I been there. It’s the worst

[@justayoutuber1906]

That's how great songs are made, though

[@browniiex]

well, he left her way too many times, too. it was toxic, for sure.

[@pollitogx7154]

It's been 3 years, and hearing the black guy talk brought me back to the past so much and almost made me cry

[@HI-hy9nc]

I felt so bad for him, like her reson felt like complete BS

[@bebebubu175]

Isn't it beautiful that how true love can bring so many joys while at the same time hurts you so bad?

[@starlightgrl]

Reminds me of what my relationship was w my bf a few months ago. Almost a year ago :/ it sucks and the pain tht came with it was so unexplainable

[@kto4256]

@@larrydm4373 I am exactly like the girl in the situation and I don't know what to do

[@lucticide]

@@larrydm4373 she literally said "ugh, I can feel you" to the poor guy.

[@rylie.2019]

“ugh, i can feel you” that stung.

[@hi-nq5mm]

she doesn't even care about his feelings

[@miipmiipmiip]

@@hi-nq5mm Imo you're reading too much into it.

[@hi-nq5mm]

@@miipmiipmiip nah she just doesn't care what he's saying or his care, obviously she dont have to reciprocate if she doesn't feel the same way but she should be considerate

[@vmpjks]

Time stamp?

[@vicsi_99]

@@vmpjks 1:16

[@urtrashkid103yt5]

the guy who lived the unhealthy lifestyle has my heart. something about him I just love. his vibe is awesome and you can just tell the dude is overall a good guy.

[@jacobcollier4223]

I feel for him. I feel like he'd be a good friend

[@hindenburgerhelper14]

"do you two still talk?" "pff, barely" "do you still sleep with each other?" "we just did last week" dude what

[@maitreyakanitkar8742]

less talking more f....ing maybe.

[@archuu4271]

I wondered why they even appeared

[@unknownuser-ke8pr]

@reyyna that’s even more awkward 😭

[@KurruptedDataYouT]

That's what happens when people put their lust and desires over love and care for one another. That girl was on his ass so much and denying that they talk, but as soon as she was asked if they slept together recently she went silent.

[@fredhasopinions]

My best friend and her ex had that policy a short while ago. They were fucking for like 5 months after they broke up and it worked great

[@MrVodGamer]

"So, you're going to confront you ex in complete darkness, why?" "I guess i just wanted a litte bit more clarity" that's a bar

[@jayahmoore7251]

I'm liking this just for the pfp I love seeing clikkies outside the clique

[@MrVodGamer]

@@jayahmoore7251 we everywhere

[@Subhrajyoti]

@@MrVodGamer bro can u explain me how it is a bar

[@bee1501]

|-/

[@MrVodGamer]

@@Subhrajyoti darkness - Clarity seems like a bar for me

[@jurhyzaobias9170]

4:10 the way he said "I'm trying" he seems like a nice and sweet guy

[@Savyflores]

That phrase always gets me emotionally. Hearing him say it in context made me realize why songs like I Promise I’m Trying by Cavetown and Please Don’t by Mxmtoon get me emotional so much O.O There’s something so raw about how a person must feel to make that statement with that tone

[@Kool212]

@@rjsbr7 Or set boundaries properly because he obviously is still pining for her.

[@pranavanand4305]

That's harsh. He wasn't honest with her about his issues at the time despite her implied and repeated questions. I don't think just because she mentioned her boyfriend that means she's throwing it in his face. She's being honest. His dishonesty about his addiction is, to her, a red line she can't get over. It's unfair to ask more from her in this 3 mins convo

[@carebare996]

@@rjsbr7 It is not her responsibility to help him and she couldn't if she wanted.. you have no idea what she tried/ what he put her through and yeah dating an addict does make her a victim of his addiction....

[@rjsbr7]

@@carebare996 neither do you about what happened; addiction is not that simple and easy... I just didn't like her smirk 4:30

[@rylie.2019]

my heart is actually aching for the guy with dreadlocks

[@rylie.2019]

@Phoenix you too, thanku x

[@LunarySSF2]

he got very unlucky

[@mprice6683]

@@theuserfromwakanda5497 The underlying racism that his skin color is a bad thing and shouldn't be referred to, is terrible. If I am in a room full of black people, I can easily be identified as the white guy. What is the problem with that? There is NO negative connotation in that. It is not like I was referred to as the Cracker. When it comes to accomplishments, I can see your point, since skin color doesn't mean anything in terms of the product or service provided.

[@pebbles92able]

@Phoenix um ok...

[@baconeggandcheese8402]

@Phoenix Can we stop acting like calling a black person a black person is such a bad thing. He's a black man, there's nothing wrong with saying "the black guy in the video" because that's literally who he is.

[@koda8427]

The guy with his heart broken probably has an anxious attachment style and the girl an avoidant one, I've been both and it is extremely draining on either side to feel like you give too much/you can't receive love.

[@Carlosinabottle]

"Love is brightest in the dark." This is a quote from Avatar the Last Airbender and I think it applies to this video. Not subscribed to Jubilee because their content is a hit or miss for me. But I check in every month or so, this is one of the videos that is a hit for me. It felt really intimate, these are conversations that I feel like I shouldn't have listened to.

[@lucialveroy]

This is Cut, not Jubilee xD

[@Carlosinabottle]

@@lucialveroy thanks for letting me know🙆🙆

[@Cotreyn]

The cave of the lovers🥲

[@Keziah2447178]

This one hits home.. “I felt like you stopped trying”. Me and my ex are currently going thru this, although we are on the better side of things and working towards a better relationship. Update: it didn’t work out lmaooooo

[@RustedCow]

Getting back with a Ex never works

[@oonarantanen8500]

@@RustedCow it can work but it's not easy or common

[@relyks26]

This deserves all the likes. I'm still feeling it and it's been over a year and I've tried dating a few times and it still doesn't feel right, I still feel like I'm cheating and she's the one who left me. Im never gonna be 100% over it.

[@ac2244]

Don’t get back with an ex

[@StephyG95]

@@RustedCow It can work if the growth happened after the breakup, but that would require people to do some self reflection and change themselves which more often than not doesn't happen.

[@esper9707]

I felt genuine heartache when the person with glasses hugged his ex- it truly showed how much he still cares regardless of how much he’s been hurt.

[@malikakhatri7651]

imo.. relationships are fun and shit, but when mental health gets in the way, that shit takes a toll on you and ur partner mentally when both have you have been through stuff and fail to realize that someone truly loves you for who you are, but once they are past that.. its such a beautiful connection

[@alibasic1]

that’s why mine failed, my ex had her own mental problems that she didn’t want to deal with and they ended up being projected onto me in terms of having a very closed off, cold, uncaring, girlfriend who wasn’t capable of showing her love to me. People need to be comfortable and in a good place with themselves before they take up such a valuable spot in someone else’s life. Because when the other person has their own issues the other person is left to suffer even more, I got my heartbroken because i gave it my all and as much as I hate to admit it, i’m stuck in the past.

[@craigman7262]

hence get help before u jump into a relationship

[@har5814]

Damn I'm scared now to commit myself into a romantic relationship. I'm still single.🙃

[@BlackPantherMMo]

@@alibasic1 thanks for sharing your past mate. Im still in a Situation where i can change things and reading this helped me visualizing what I should do. Thanks

[@San_89]

I recently kind of confirmed that I have mental health problems and I always felt that way too for a period already. that is the reason why I am afraid to get into a relationship. it's hard

[@smeakinaround]

“Got any friends?” That guy cracked me up so bad right at the end

[@javierxhr]

I was sorry xd

[@Yujout]

breaking up with someone you don’t want to, but you *HAVE to* are the most hurtful breakups :’(

[@Conspiiracies]

going through this rn, it really does

[@javierxhr]

why do you have to do it?

[@Yujout]

@@javierxhr it was either him or my mental health

[@vivianxduong]

It really hit me when the girl said “He lived an unhealthy lifestyle and wasn’t honest with me about it, so that’s not what I want, so I left.” That’s exactly what I’m going through after a almost 8 year relationship and it sucks that I break up with him, NOT because I want to, but because I HAVE to. 😞

[@prisonmike6886]

I'm so sorry and hope you heal 🖤

[@katelyn442]

You may not see it now but you dodged a bullet and you should be proud of yourself 😊

[@leecy05]

Same

[@copafeel6373]

but if you loved somebody then you wouldn't leave them and help them through. what you did was you abandoned them, straight up. It's not a bad thing. People have to abandon somebody sometimes, for their own mental health.

[@nataliaweaver6384]

@@copafeel6373 you can love somebody and still leave though. people with addiction can't get help unless they want help, and it gets to a point where you need to decide what's best for YOUR mental health and life rather than your partners, even if you love them more than anything

[@rylie.2019]

“and, you know, i’m still into her..” *laughs* damn.

[@ashman999]

why are you everywhere in this comment section lmaoo

[@bklynkat23]

Damn. Y'all need to keep it up with unique videos like this!!

[@niovioo]

if its in the dark why is there shadows 😐

[@Lyssietooprissy]

@@niovioo infrared.

[@chaeryeongggg3078]

@@Lyssietooprissy what’s that

[@Lyssietooprissy]

@@chaeryeongggg3078 its a special wavelength of light that enables images to be captured that would normally be obscured by darkness. Think of night vision binoculars or thermal imaging that uses heat to register an image/object.

[@chaeryeongggg3078]

@@Lyssietooprissy ohhhh alright thank you

[@tamar6722]

4:36 the look on his face my heart is broken

[@LeafVeiledBoy]

"You broke my heart" literally where i am atm. This exact situation

[@kadi5643]

You got this ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@rylie.2019]

if it were only this easy for everyone to open up in well-lit conditions

[@artemuycaro]

I open up much easier when I'm lit good and well 🥴 🍻

[@niovioo]

theres shadows, meaning its in a litted room

[@magiccheesebobaman]

@@niovioo THIS IS WHAT I WAS THINKING OMG if it was complete darkness, there wouldn't be shadows from the people 😭😭

[@hannahjones8115]

@@magiccheesebobaman read cut's comment

[@ashwinkleinhans7859]

How I wish that was possible.

[@inesecile4430]

I think the fact, that they felt more comfortable talking to eachother in the dark shows the main problem... communication is key & and if there's a problem with that everything gets complicated...

[@trtrtre506]

This should be the most liked comment

[@addie3147]

no it doesnt

[@12Sharon]

Yeah bcs a lot of them feel they're doing them a favor by not being honest. Sometimes the truth hurts more. But it's clear most of these couples are one sided. They were honest but saw that in reality one was more into the relationship than the other.

[@Lunalane567]

Yessssssssss

[@user-vh8yf8qf1g]

4:06 - 4:36 this part completely broke my heart. i feel so bad for the two of them. i know there was something good between them, sucks that shes dating someone new :(

[@alexp-h]

This is great, great way to let people's barriers down and drive them to be authentic and speak freely

[@Sennajones2234]

Shout out to the black dude with dreadlocks because he’s going to find out there’s someone worth his time and love. Wishing and hoping the best 🙌🏾💃🏾

[@freepalestine1764]

Locs*

[@chiaraippoliti]

The woman has a right to her feelings as well. So I'm glad she's not dating him just because he's "in love" with her. She's being straightforward and honest, and he's trying to make her feel guilty for not reciprocating. That's not fair.

[@ose3291]

@@chiaraippoliti seriously ? i don't see it that way though

[@coconuts1483]

@@chiaraippoliti did you watch the video? She lied about how she felt.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

He should be happy, if she Marie's him she would take his heart and half of his money after divorce.

[@RedwoodGeorge]

This feels like the first new Cut video in a long, long time. It's the first time they've tried finding a completely unexpected perspective on things and I really appreciate it! What's always impressed me with Cut is that it feels like a social experiment; is if they're looking to explore uncharted territory (socially, politically, inter-personally...) I'm hoping this is the beginning of a new cycle of creativity.

[@thenovicewhispers]

-Sincerely, a Cut employee

[@TheOnlyTaps]

Shout-out to Blaine and the rest of the directing/producing team. They been dropping nothing but bangers 👑💯

[@alanna4148]

I can definitely relate to the black guy. My ex left me early this year because he fell out of love. I kept begging him to stay with me for months until we cut off all communication. I was in denial. It's Definitely a hard pill to swallow but I'm grateful for that experience because it taught me to learn how to love myself. I am confident I will find a man that values and appreciates me in the future. Although I am approaching my 30's, I know I have a beautiful heart and I have hope that God will place the right man in my life eventually. As for now, embracing being single and truly finding myself is my goal.

[@Turnpost2552]

Have an actionable plan. There are plenty of good men don't be passive in your search. You know the answer just need reassurance. I can relate to the AA guy as well.

[@casey-capri2914]

I’m a recovering addict and I can’t attest to how hard it is to stand by someone as they go through that. It’s not the drugs and/or alcohol, it’s all the lying that goes along with it. With that being said, addiction is something people can beat and they need a lot of support and love to get through it. It’s a very difficult journey.

[@malorie8557]

Agreed. My husband and I endured 4 years of heroin addiction (him, not me) and it took me 2 of those years to finally conclude that it wasn't personal and dealt with the addiction differently, knowing this.

[@devonstrachan3658]

I would never go into a dark room with my Ex. She's a Brazilian jujitsu black belt.

[@murel8319]

🤣🤣🤣

[@bhumikjoshi4573]

She doesn't need darkness to beat you up so don't worry.

[@highland_persuasion]

@@bhumikjoshi4573 but he needs light to defend himself 🤣

[@aspebb]

Domestic violence?

[@natalieholman6262]

😂😂

[@hassanjaber2778]

"I am sad, I don't know the next time that I'm gonna see you, you broke my heart..." Damn that feels bad...

[@vivt.9619]

ive been in a place like that a couple of times and it hurts so much every time, i feel for him :(

[@Belcheva_H]

Man I'm single, I've never been in a relationship, but this sh!t hurt to watch oh my god

[@hahhaharsh]

Its bcoz you have had crushes on many people and you can feel how a one-sided thing feels like

[@Belcheva_H]

@@hahhaharsh fun fact: I haven't had any crushes💀 (well if celebrity crushes count for 'crushesh' then yeah I've had but other than that nooope👩‍🦯)

[@hahhaharsh]

@@Belcheva_H Whether it is reel or real , you don't know the preson in either of the cases. You just adore them so evenly. I am pretty sure you are a girl coz Boys have their crush certified at the age of 5-6

[@Belcheva_H]

@@hahhaharsh you guessed right, I'm a female lol but ik boys who haven't had a crush either so🤷‍♀️

[@hahhaharsh]

@@Belcheva_H Yaa and they are called GAY people. I can't even fuckin imagine a boy not having crush on someone.

[@consurm]

you can actuallly hear the heart beat in their hug 6:13

[@SPYDERREADYTOCOOKUP]

Couldn't help but tear up for the guy with dreadlocks. Seeing the hug they had sent goosebumps up my spine. You can tell how genuine that hug was. He really seems to care and love her but it doesn't seem like she really cares...

[@BigBroLee]

it felt like I was standing there with them, feeling every emotion that passes through them as the conversations progressed

[@rylie.2019]

you can tell mans with the dreadlocks went through some shit and is hurting, at least by what she said.

[@oinkgaming2226]

I tried this with my ex GF and the two of us talking in the dark room. We talk about our akward moments and what we did in the past. Remembering the good and bad moments before and sometimes blaming each other. Talk about our ups and downs in our career. She was my bestfriend and we are in match together.We are highschool sweet hearts and we've been together for 12 years. now Shes my wife

[@draibat]

i love this comment, congrats!!

[@baconeggandcheese8402]

So you're telling me that talking in the dark works?

[@ajsoftball5971]

@@baconeggandcheese8402 maybe bc they can’t see each other facial expressions??

[@viktorletaj3396]

After seeing this I'm happy that I'm spending my teenage years working my ass off for my future rather then trusting the wrong people.

[@bela-sofia34]

I so have empathy for the girl who was lied to about the addiction. I applaud her strength to walk away.

[@williammcmaster3891]

6:29 bro is that one of their hearts that you can hear beating through the microphone

[@user-wh5fj6pj6m]

Esto fue un poco incómodo de ver, esos sentimientos que aún siguen ahí mientras que otros han pasado página... buen video igualmente!

[@ashleighbaugh9839]

As an ex addict, when I was in a relationship with my ex fiance I never cheated or anything like that.. but I wasn't always honest about my addiction and where I was when I was getting things for my addiction and that really put a strain on our relationship. I hated myself for that. I ended up leaving the relationship because I felt like I was bringing him down and I needed to work on myself and my sobriety. I did it for both of us. He loved me when I didn't love myself and I will always be grateful for that. What really sucks is that after I got clean and was a better version of myself I tried to reconnect and he wanted nothing to do with it.. I guess I hurt him too much and he didn't understand why I left. My depression and issues were just too much and I couldn't put that on him anymore because he didn't deserve it. I don't believe that an addict can have a genuine relationship. It just isn't possible, at least from my perspective.

[@savannahalvarado3489]

I understand you and feel for you. Only difference is we're both addicts and both depressed. It's been a very hard year for us and we've decided to part ways multiple times, before this year we were so so so solid and couldn't see a future without one another. It's just so hard saying goodbye to someone you know you could've been great with. I know what you mean about feeling guilty, he stopped drinking all on his own while I stayed at my moms house for a month or so. I came back, and my addiction was still active and it brought him back down. He was feeling so much better, cooking, cleaning, taking our dogs on walks twice a day. Now we're back in the dark pit where we have no motivation to do any of that. And it's my fault.

[@mockinjay3rd]

wow

[@philomeneniquet-seyer8697]

It's incredible how pure their reactions are. Like they are really genuine, I don't know how to say it, but in the dark their bodies were more reactive than with the lights on. Very interesting thank you !

[@ABC-vw8xy]

I feel so sorry for the guy with addiction problems, you can tell how much he’s going through…I hope he gets and stays on the right path! Also I don’t like the guy with the mustache… dumping your girl because *she’s not the right one and you don’t love her*, hurting her but then continuing to sleep with her and giving her wrong signals …..

[@malorie8557]

At some point, the fault is her own.

[@MA-se1iv]

@@malorie8557 I’d have to agree, men are opportunists when it comes to sex and it’s your responsibility to protect your own feelings

[@HawkUnleashed]

Id they are consenting adults they are responsible for there relationships. Simple as that. Something wrong in relationship then communicate.

[@mwood341]

I love these. It’s very interesting to see the dynamic of different couples, and real raw emotion.

[@juanmacias5922]

I thought this could be interesting, it was a bit more sad. I never realized how much a hug could say, I feel like her pulling away during it is pretty telling...

[@Suziee_Suee]

She said she wasn't good at hugs n he confirmed it.... she's probably not a touchy feel person

[@juanmacias5922]

@@Suziee_Suee Oooof, I missed that part, that’s totally valid! Thanks!

[@SuperYtc1]

@@juanmacias5922 She only said that because she knew she didn't want to hug him and knew the hug would be awkward, so said that to try and take some of the awkwardness away.

[@portiarose6914]

i really feel for the third couple. i don’t feel like the girl is a villain in the relationship though. i commend her for finally ending it with him and not continuing to drag out a relationship that already had reached its expiration. i think she needed to be alone so she could work on her communication skills for any future partner she has because failing to stop him from putting a deposit on a engagement ring😬that def woulda been a time to speak up. i also think he needs to be alone for a while to really relearn how to love himself and know his worth so he doesn’t entertain another relationship where he’s giving more than he’s receiving. hopefully she’ll eventually let go of the guilt she feels from this relationship and hopefully he will be able to one day view the relationship from her viewpoint and just appreciate the lessons he could take away from it.

[@stuartlenk9436]

I’m in his boat, I think time alone is the best atm

[@damonestephens8722]

I think hes fine. The only thing he needs to do is get over her. That’s about it. She led him on so that’s why he continued.

[@chloezhang2767]

I agree w portia. Not to point fingers but just a probability that maybe it is more important to build on self love than put yourself in a situation where one loves the other more drastically. Not to say that love should be calculated but there should be a nice balance

[@JessicaSmith-ly7ro]

I am happy that people are also resonating and not just being dismissive of the ex gf. I resonated with her, and I know she knows (and those who have been in that situation) how much anxiety and fear and sadness comes from the realization that you care for this person so much, and you know that you can't be/give them what they need, and then having to leave the relationship. This is what was best for them both ultimately, for them to both find a partner who they love and adore equally, and can communicate with in a healthy manner.

[@longlivesparkles13]

i really relate to the girl who wasn't as into the guy as he was into her. really fkn sucks too cause you're stuck between caring about them but also not being able to care as much as they do and the guilt just eats away,,, i tried to convince myself i was just in a lull for weeks before i finally just broke it off cause it wasn't fair for either of us anymore. Still really hurt though cause you feel like the bad guy,,, also having so much of someone's happiness in the palms of your hands is ,,,terrifying - commitment issues? maybe lmao EDIT: i know its not a big deal but damn this is the first time i've had so much response to a comment on youtube haha. It's bittersweet but comforting to know that theres a lot of people who feel the same or similar. Media and society tends to spotlight the person who's broken up with and barely shows the other side so it was hard for me to personally deal with this situation. But just want to say to everyone in this kind of situation, you're not a bad person for breaking up with someone because you don't feel the same. It's just a reality and as harsh as it is, there's really no way to lessen the blow of a break up (other than doing it in the kindest way possible). Just be empathetic but don't pull yourself down with it. And remember to communicate this stuff early on and don't drag it out as hard as it is. It's okay to feel scared about hurting them cause hurting anybody is always a shit feeling, but know that in the end, being honest about how you feel is the best for you and whoever the other party is. Time heals, friends

[@LunarySSF2]

it is commitment issues but sometimes also cognitive dissonance hard to deal with the thought you aren't "worth" their love innit, or that you just don't love them like that no one should make you feel bad for not loving them as much as they do, but it is messed up if you don't communicate that and let the confusion/frustration/guilt flow instead

[@LuizHenrique-sk5yl]

I'm in this situation, He did so many thing I asked not too and says that wasn't on purpuse... but I got into the point where I don't care Anymore for our relationship and He's still trying ... I'm feeling sad and trapped into something everyday, I care for him, but not like He care for me. And not like lovers anymore... ):

[@clAssIcAllymINdless]

I’m currently in this position and it feels so shitty. I feel trapped. I’m about to break up with my partner but I don’t want to break his heart.

[@TheSuperNats]

@@clAssIcAllymINdless if you’re confident in your feelings, you should break up. Don’t string along for “him” because you guys can both be missing out on the people you actually could be happy with

[@zyaicob]

yeah a lot of people are giving her shit and it's super unfair to her

[@amberpasta9379]

I always find videos like this so interesting but at the same time it really hurts to watch cause I’ve been there and I know how it feels to be brutally betrayed by your best friend and love… my heart goes out to those I can relate with ❤️

[@CelestialMaidenOfTheStars]

The couple that hugged at the end, you can here one of their hearts beating against the mic and idk....due to their conversation they had it was just kind of heartbreaking to hear the heartbeat. One of their hearts was a paid actor.

[@sarahjepson1969]

If Cody Ko doesn’t watch this one I’m going to be so sad

[@mars06611]

Hi Cody!!!

[@danas5846]

cmon cody

[@dionhnegronoodle123]

YAAAAAAAASSSSS 💚🦚💚🦚

[@CarterBratt]

This was incredible. Really hit home. Please make more of these Cut!

[@shadowtakamiki1]

I can definitely relate to the guy with the dreads. I’ve been through that with someone without even making it to a relationship. Many blessings to him and his future partner.

[@hitts8928]

4:05 that's the face of guilt

[@kennchristine2931]

“did you cheat on me?” “no😅” he totally did….his face told everything lmao

[@nyChannel09]

?? he didnt He wouldve told her, he literally told her that he doesnt love her anymore, so he has nothing to lose. You dont understand men!

[@amaizenblue44]

His face was an "I've already told you a dozen times, no" face.

[@ayyjayy2583]

theyre cheating on her bf tho wtf

[@sashameetsfitness]

This needs to become a series. This whole video hit super close to me. I've been the one that fell out of love with someone and just couldn't go on anymore and felt guilty about it and I've also been faced with a partner going through addiction that I had to walk away from... man I have a wonderful track record

[@judy8292]

i hate how much i relate to that black guy i feel bad for him because i know that pain so well and yeah i just want to tell him that you're not alone idk if it will get better or not because im going thru the same thing rn but yeah you're not alone and you made me feel not alone too so thank you for that you deserve better god bless your heart

[@AGTJAZZ]

i can relate too

[@Lost_In_Peace]

That ‘black guy’ has a name, don’t describe people by their race / skin colour please, thank you. Edit: After being given replies, I understand that the person’s name wasn’t specifically mentioned in the video - and so I apologise for the misunderstanding. But in other scenarios, I’m still going to be obliged with my opinion. And hold onto it.

[@adilettenschmeier25]

@@Lost_In_Peace i agree w you but why tf u gotta point that out under this comment man💀

[@Lost_In_Peace]

@@adilettenschmeier25 I don’t know - I’m dumb. I was just trying to prove a point really. Because describing people by colour such as ‘White women’ just triggers me for some reason. And not only that, but it just makes me feel really uncomfortable. Everyone’s got a name. And if we don’t know it, then just describe their outfits instead? That’s my opinion.

[@kristapsberzins9822]

@@Lost_In_Peace And at what point his name was mentioned? And if there were all black guys or girls and one white, people still would say "that white guy/girl". They are just mentioning the most obvious difference in looks so others know who they are talking about.

[@millz419]

Man I feel sorry for the guy (one with dreads) imagine being lead on and give 100% to the wrong person does suck

[@LunarySSF2]

I've gone through this, *twice* saw it coming early enough during the second time but the first time broke my brain and i still need to seek therapy for that investing in vain is a horrible feeling

[@stupidspoonstv1347]

@@LunarySSF2 glad you’re good bruh

[@grazielavrb]

It's so clearly that in our pov she really doesn't care about him and many his actions and thoughts. Idk, this girl made me sick, but ok, it's pretty being away than close making him suffer more

[@freepalestine1764]

Locs*

[@iAmMrMarch]

you could hear the heart beat when at hugged @6:28

[@un.known99]

the guy who’s an addict makes me sad, i wanna just give him a hug😭

[@savannahalvarado3489]

"You broke my heart" *crickets* Geez😪

[@itsDelfi]

more like - “You broke my heart” - :) double geez

[@jok3r675]

Black guy needed that hug he wants her so much and it's hurting him being there

[@wanderer3561]

As a person who has never been in any relationship, I felt this

[@imsotiredhelpsob]

2:16 i’m crying her face

[@Slame333]

This series is a banger. Need more of this.

[@rominabayas3274]

Ive actually been on the opposite side of the case. It feels awful having someone who truly loves and adores you but for some reason you dont feel like hes the one

[@skavi3422]

Esto fue un poco incómodo de ver, esos sentimientos que aún siguen ahí mientras que otros han pasado página... buen video igualmente!

[@aspebb]

Creo que, en una manera, eso fue necesario para la gente ahí.

[@zuraktobambuzi3055]

Sweaaty, this is america, speak english!

[@camigiro]

@@zuraktobambuzi3055 it’s not actually, it’s youtube.

[@zuraktobambuzi3055]

@@mikeellll I know man, thats why i made that joke in the first place...

[@jessysoulmanscofield]

Heureusement que les Karen n'ont aucun pouvoir sur KZbin 🤣. Lis bien ce commentaire français 🤭

[@zacharylowe24]

SMH 🤦🏾‍♂️ the black guy was definitely me 6months ago.. I was more in love with my ex then she was with me.. that’s a sucky feeling to be in someone’s face not knowing that they don’t love you how you love them! Hold ya head King 👑 you will get your Queen soon!

[@veronicapietsch8017]

Same here it hurts like a bitch but I guess loving too much it's the worst quality to have 😅

[@ayeyohitmanbangintroducess9116]

The guy just broke my heart. He was so genuine and so thoughtful. He was ready to tie that knot, which i may say not every guy would do and they’d only like to play around. I hope that you find a really great person who would love you so much and could be able to exceed or be in the level of love you give. It might be hard to move on from a person who you’ve shared so much time with, but maybe they’re not for you and they were a lesson for you to meet the person you’re supposed to be with. And don’t even be questioning yourself if maybe you weren’t good enough, sometimes even if you have everything or you’re the person they’ve been looking for. It’s hard to see love from someone, if you yourself is struggling to give love to yourself. I hope one day we get to value ourselves that we become aware how others love us. I feel like we push people away so much because we don’t see our worth.

[@boredGrinch]

ouch i can relate. i talked to my ex a few days ago and he started talking about how much he used to lie and how much he regretted it. the more he talked about it i thought to myself " wow i was really into him and i cried for him. i deserve better "

[@nataly0854]

Its ironic how they want clarity but they’re in the dark

[@SaharaColeman]

1:14 lmfao the was hilarious when they felt each other and both got scared 🤣😂

[@ivansgirl144]

Haha right? them both going 'ooh!' was so funny

[@simonisenberg4516]

I really don't get how people who can barely talk to each can have sex comfortably. How do you even meet up for that. Just a booty call and a kind of hate fuck, or is it rather the old comfort feeling of already knowing the other person even if anything else with them feels bad? I lived with my ex for another 6 months after breaking up and there were weird moments when we got close to each other (narrow kitchen corridor) but we never kissed again or anything even though it would still feel somewhat natural.

[@Solidude4]

I get if you've always been fuck buddies because you don't really need to be able to get along outside of sex but I don't get it if you were in a full on relationship and broke up.

[@sola_a]

You don't need to understand. I think it just depends how you personally view sex.

[@miranda01mi]

i’d say the comfort factor. im still into my ex that dumped me 2 years ago & after that, he would ask me to hook up indirectly. we didn’t text much & he lived out of state, but he would still ask. i think he has some love for me but mostly just still comfortable with me. it really sucks being the one that’s still in love because you really really hope they still have those same feelings, but you know you love them more than they do you, and don’t want to let them go so you continue to hook up in hopes something will change finally.

[@simonisenberg4516]

@@sola_a I guess a better choice of words for me would have been "I can't relate to ..."

[@sola_a]

@@simonisenberg4516 nothing wrong with that as long as you don't shame others. For me it's the other way round, I can't really understand how people make this huge deal about sex (waiting for marriage, connecting purity to it or whatever). To me it's something I very much enjoy doing, so I don't see why I shouldn't do it a lot. The emotional connection I have to the person is irrelevant

[@haiderm7745]

I just think how cool it is that you can see shadows in "complete" darkness (to our eyes of course)

[@brynsheeler1657]

I think we all deserve this level of closure. It should be a standard to have these in person conversations if a break up has unanswered questions.

[@marcelljackson2868]

I miss the truth or drink with the parents. Those vids were hilarious bring new episodes

[@stephenleonchase6929]

Its quite interesting i wounder if people were truly honest when you cant see someone face.

[@guccinaenaebaby2928]

I really like this, definitely do more! Felt really bad for the dude that said “you broke my heart” so sad and he definitely deserves better. It’s always heartbreaking when someone doesn’t put effort into a relationship

[@aaditya_jagdale]

6:30 you can actually hear how LOUDLY his heartbeats were going on OMFG

[@marryann3934]

Her: "Did you cheat on me?" Him: "No" laughs. tfff he's such a liar 🤦‍♀️

[@gisselleirias2844]

I thought the same!!!

[@mrscrappz1063]

If the boyfriend of the girl in the red overalls is reading this LEAVE. HER. NOW. How're you with someone for 4 months and she tells her ex that she'll "Potentially" get back with him, and on top of that, it's revealed they still text? Man, get out of there now, or else you'll end up in one of these videos, standing in the dark, asking why the 2 of you "didn't work out".

[@stuartlenk9436]

Fr bruh

[@jayahmoore7251]

Yeah plus the entire time she was flattered when he still showed interest yet she still seemed mad that he couldn't be exactly what she wanted. Honestly it was gross to watch because it felt like she just brought him to feel superior

[@Yamiechumen]

??? I thought she meant they potentially could still be friends, not that she will potentially get back with him. And encouraged him to move on so?

[@krampusplague]

LMFAOOOO

[@PaulAllen6304]

That's what I was thinking too. On top of that, "Oh you are sweaty" and touching his hair and stuff. If I were her boyfriend that would be the end of it all

[@Leo-js9kd]

"I found hair on my hairbrush that I left at his house" "I lived with two girls" "He Had His Own Bathroom" Oof. Edit: Didn't mean to start an argument y'all.

[@Kool212]

You never had roommates.

[@JustJohnny666]

That guy has definitely cheated on her. I just feel a bad vibe from him based on his way of speaking, body language and the him in general. Also, he was very quick on that "i live with two girls" answer. Kinda felt like he rehearsed that at home.

[@WilliamJulienNkogheOlympio]

if he lived with two girls, having his own bathroom meant shit to them. they would just use it as they see it, especially if his bathroom is the biggest. so if he says that the hair on her brush belongs to one of the two girls he lives with, I believe him. Also the hair could have been her own hair. How do I know all this? I lived with two older sisters growing up.

[@Kool212]

@@JustJohnny666 or just maybe they’ve had this discussion many times.

[@Leo-js9kd]

@@Kool212 haha

[@sebastianmejia9360]

7:22 "you got any friends?" myyyyyy man

[@uhmokay5995]

this concept is soooo good! kudos to the team!

[@booka4516]

Omg…my heart just shattered for the black guy 🥺 he definitely deserves better 💔

[@ibrahimabdullahi8093]

Hi, why don't you send a message to this great man who helped me attract my partner back after many years of separation? 🇦🇷

[@ibrahimabdullahi8093]

± ²³⁴⁸¹⁴⁵⁸²⁷⁶⁴⁷..

[@thetrison]

Still sleeping with each other? Man, the dude with the tattoos looks too good to not to.

[@JanxakaJX]

"You broke my heart" *grimaces in silence*

[@1997sk8ergirl]

As one of the former female roommates, I can confirm that from what I witnessed there was no cheating 🤷🏼‍♀️ He’s a good guy, they’re both great people. I think they’ve individually evolved and grown a lot since the relationship started though. Hoping for the best for both of them, breakups suck man.

[@anika8030]

are they on good terms right now?

[@1997sk8ergirl]

@@anika8030 idk dude I know as much as you do. According to this video they slept together last week lol

[@anika8030]

@@1997sk8ergirl lmfao true but this vid was probably filmed a while ago

[@jayahmoore7251]

Okay but did you use the hairbrush...

[@1997sk8ergirl]

@@jayahmoore7251 No, it was most likely either the other roommate or one of her friends. We had people over often and his bathroom was the most accessible one

[@mehmetozanozbay5887]

I don't know if anyone else noticed but at 6:29 you can hear his heart beating on her microphone. That hit me bad.

[@jonsteen]

Just want to throw this out there. IT'S OKAY TO STOP TRYING! There's no requirement to try. You can move on for any reason at any time. People should accept that.