Dan is cooking stir fry for dinner | Out for breakkie & visiting Erika's Dad | Monday vlog 27th Feb

[@jeand1540]

Your feelings are not dumb! They are valid. Please honor yourself and took to them! ❤

[@tracy3812]

🎯 plus, you’re with us, Erika, we appreciate your honesty and value you greatly.

[@tracy3812]

I sympathize with anyone who feels s/he is not keeping up bec at 56-I’m a flipping turtle thx to a lot of BS that no one needs to be bothered with. I did chuckle about Gem & the vet visits bec I had Tuzzi Pazza to the vet for the diagnosis of (drumroll pls): earwax & anxiety. That’ll be $120 USD, please. First-world cat probs! You can’t make this stuff up. 💜to Barry (natch.) 🕊

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks Jean.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks Tracy. As always we appreciate your support. It means a lot to us.

[@Aaajjjjjjjjj]

Just want to give you a big hug Erika. According to my psychologist comparisons are one of the worst things you can do for your mental health, so you reaction is totally understandable. ❤️❤️

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thank you! Oh yes, I can definitely see that

[@monsride]

Erika don't give up, you got this 👍 if anything turn it into a positive and show them you can do it and you won't give up 😉👍

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks Mon

[@melissashelley4696]

Raw and Real, Love it.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks so much.

[@melsdowninit]

I completely relate, Erica. I have and still am the biggest person when doing things like that. Your feelings are valid but I totally get not wanting to say something. It can feel like it’s embarrassing to mention (in my experience). But usually that’s just our internal thoughts and they wouldn’t think that. However if they ask for feedback or a convo starts at the gym that could lean in to saying something about it (maybe in a light hearted way) it could be beneficial for them to know your feelings. I would hope that while waiting for you they were encouraging. I am here cheering you on, Erica.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks so much for your support Mel.

[@willowgirl2635]

At our gym we have suggestion sheets to fill out that are anonymous. Your gym might have these too and you could fill one out. If something is making you feel bad or uncomfortable then your gym needs to know, you are paying them not the other way around.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks so much, great idea 💜

[@tiacoubrough8135]

You have to start somewhere Erika. You’re on your own journey, and that’s not the same as someone else’s journey. I guarantee those other people at the gym admire you for the work you’re putting in👏🏼If you’re not comfortable in this setting, with this sort of process, are you able to go back to one on one? In terms of how you’re feeling, trust yourself. Your feelings are valid and I think I would be feeling the same way. You’re really brave❤

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

She's actually lifting more than the others, hence why she takes longer as she has to load more on her bar, but she can't see that.

[@tiacoubrough8135]

@@HaveButterwillTravel amazing!

[@747Traveller]

Erika you are not alone, finding the right support group might make it easier for you, I agree with Dan you should tell them and if they don't change maybe this group is not for you 😉 xx

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks so much 💜

[@lizmegginson1614]

Aaw Erica, I felt your hurt. At least you are going to gym. I am nowhere near ready for that. I bought a treadmill, but at the moment, until I get some strength back, it has become just somewhere to hang washing from the handles. Dan's 10km run is mighty impressive. Erica's Dad looked very well. I was listening to Jason Fung who said a doctor in the USA is reversing Altzheimers with diet. Hard to administer that in a care home enviornment though. Yes please, I would love to see more of Newcastle and surrounds. I first heard of this area almost 50 years ago when I met a girl in London whose father had a farm there. She couldn't get used to weeks of grey London days and no sun. Re Gem's vomiting. Have you considered tonsillitis? One of mine had his tonsils removed and the problems disappeared. As my cats got older, I did an annual full blood test to check liver, kidneys etc. Feeding kibble is the worst diet. Mine were fed a raw carnivore diet and did much better. Just my tuppence worth. Enjoy what is left of your week-end. xx

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks for the tip about Gem, we will investigate. They eat mostly raw meat too.

[@daniellacosta1756]

Really felt for you Erika, growing up always being one of the slower ones, never coming first, especially when you are trying so hard. Don't give up and I think you're feelings are so valid and should be shared. You could help someone else potentially joining the group if they are more aware. Hugs xx

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks so much Daniella

[@melissashelley4696]

Very interested in Newy things as 2 of my 5 girls live there.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Awesome, we are definitely planning on filming more in Newcastle.

[@furysmith6564]

There is nothing to apologize for, Erika! I also think there was a real situation in that the group didn’t wait for you to set up… please speak up so they hold up their promise to you! Also, how are you not the luckiest woman in the world because Dan cleans the shower! Lol… I love your videos and I’m across the world

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks so much. Yes, Dan is the best.

[@cindobi]

No need to apologize, Erica! I understand. Took me back to my school days, biggest, slowest and last to be picked for a team. I haven't tried a gym in years. Plus I have fibromyalgia and lots if arthritis so it's even harder but I try to do what I can at home. Hang in there and do what you need to to feel comfortable exercising. Love you two!

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks so much Cindy, nice to know I am not alone!

[@colleenag1]

I’m soo sorry about your experience at the gym Erika.. I understand., the one and ONLY park run I did was back in 2017 in Glasgow. I was probably one of the younger runners running the 5k. I don’t know what felt worse.. being at the end with folks running with prams/pets or being asked to change direction halfway thru coz I followed the crowd and that crowd had already finished one lap and were heading towards the finish 😅 and all the time there were volunteers egging you on, but you’re feeling bad coz they’re only still there coz you still haven’t finished. I never went for another park run again. Even if I can run much better today, it’s a different story when I’m running with people. I know it’s wrong to compare but I do and it takes me back to that place. On a positive note, thus just inspired me to sign up for a park run somewhere in Sydney.. let me do that now before I change my mind! 😁 Take care Erika.. I hope things get better for you at the gym!

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Oh that is definitely horrible. Sorry you didn;t have a good park run experience. I don't think some people are aware of the fine line between support and being patronising. Please reach out if you want help picking a location for Sydney.

[@sharonmiller7823]

I feel for you Erika. If you feel like you can’t talk to them, then write it down in an email. I’m sure they would appreciate the feedback. Our internal talkings to ourselves are the worst.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks so much Sharon for your support.

[@janettemitchell1176]

Hi girls, Yes I would love you to keep showing the Newcastle area. I live in Hamilton South and don't really go out that often but your excursions (especially todays) give me inspiration to get out there. I did not even realise that "Elma's" existed so may treat myself and my son to that next week. I also feel very proud when you show our beautiful parks and beaches to others who don't live here. We are blessed. I have a cat who looks just like Gem and she also goes through stages where she throws up for a short time. I wonder if it could be from ingested fur from grooming (fur balls)? Keep up the good work girls and chin up Erica, you are very loved.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Oh we hope you enjoy Elma's we love it. Newcastle is an amazing place. Gem def gets more sick than Scout.

[@JLR1957]

Yes, I am interested in places to eat in Newcastle, thank you.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks for letting us know.

[@amandae1994]

Your feelings are totally valid Erika, Dan is right if you feel comfortable then you should tell them ❤ your happiness is always a priority! Congrats on the 10km Dan 🥳 I’d love recommendations for Newcastle, it is a day trip away for me but I haven’t gone yet. I hope Gem is feeling better, please give Gem and Scout extra pats ❤

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Don't Worry Scout and Gem get plenty of pats already.

[@theresadapra1972]

Yes please share Newie restaurants

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Will do!

[@SuperZimpatico]

😹😻😹😻😹😻beautiful cat 🐈‍⬛, lovely video. Congratulations Erika you doing really well.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thank yoy

[@kellyfalco9120]

There would be no way that you are the only person feeling that way Erika based on what you described on how they are now running the class. Also.... Even if you were the only one feeling that way, that doesn't make it any less valid!! You should talk to them. The fact is that they have made changes and this is a direct impact of that. If they don't get the feedback they won't know. But of course it's easy for us to say you should tell them, I completely understand why you don't want to. I hope it all works out somehow, and we're always here to support you x

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

I really do think they would be very open to the feedback.

[@kaybrisvegas1099]

Def give them feedback, no one should be made to feel like that. Let the know it impacted your mental health.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks Kay

[@ElaneAngelo]

Erika…no man, I feel upset for your sake!! 😉 Think they do need the feedback so they can make some changes. Will be a tragedy if you get put off your workouts that you enjoy so much. Virtual hug for you 😊 And some Newcastle reviews and suggestions will be cool 👍🏻

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks so much Elane 💜

[@FlobberwellGweneveve]

LEGENDZZZZZZZZZZZ!!!

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thank you

[@MADCREATIONSPTYLTD]

I hope you have spoken up babe. These places don't realise it often or feel it because they haven't been in the situation. I hope things have improved for your class x

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

She did talk to them

[@barneystreetband1]

Thanks for this lovely video. I love Newcastle and am always very interested in any eateries there etc, as my partner and I visit Newcastle from Armidale every few months. I'll be there in a few days, hitting Muso's Corner, off Hunter Street, to buy a new djembe! Take care.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Oh nice!! Hope you enjoy your stay

[@angelinadrobina5037]

Might have a good tip for you ! When we were shivering outside my mums nursing home yesterday waiting for our rat test a lady came up and pressed the buzzer and showed the nurse a photo of the test she just did at home - and was let straight it ! I guess because photos are time and date stamped it’s ok I’ll be doing that from now on for sure ✔️

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Oh yes, I think we can do that.

[@feeswellnessjourney]

Dan is right u should talk to the gym of how u feel i am sure they would love the feed back to make their gym better unless ppl say they cant fix things dont feel bad if u get upset talking to them about it just shows how it is for u and they will understand more. When u r not feeling great in side ya self ya mind can play funny buggered on u and not be nice to yourself so don't listen to it the fact u r turning up is a huge thing so pat ya self on the back for showing up well done. Dan u did great cooking i too find it hard when u have a few things going on to have it all ready at same time so u did well.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks as always for your support Fiona.

[@ch17ly]

Omg finally, someone else agrees with me. I thought Maverick was terrible too. So bloody cliche, and yes, practically all the scenes were just re makes of the original. Very disappointing. Dinner looked good. And Erika, I agree with Dan, for should talk to the staff at the gym. Just let them know how it affects u. You never know they may be able to make some subtle changes that will help!!!!

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

I am glad we were not alone with Maverick. TERRIBLE!!!!!

[@theresadapra1972]

Erika that’s not on you, the gym should be better organised according to the number of people. I agree with Dan. Your feelings are important ❤

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Thanks so much Theresa 💜

[@elenis.786]

What kind of place is this that doesn’t assist with set up?

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Think it was just a combination of circumstances, I have spoken to them. Thanks Eleni

[@bartel-shop]

👏 👏

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

=)

[@poodles188]

I suggest you do not join a group at this stage, could you get them to set up a program and then do that at your own pace. This works wonders for me and keeps you going. Just a thought and sending a big hug.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

I think Erika enjoys some aspects of the group, I think she can do her own program on her own schedule as well if she wants.

[@JLR1957]

Erica, these groups are set up for you to compete against each other and perhaps not the best option for you. I know someone whose anxiety increased momentously taking part in such a group to the extent she was having a panic attack before each session and couldn't even go into the gym.

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Honestly I don't think this gym wants the competitiveness at all. But they couldn't accommodate all the people any more one on one and they needed to come up with a better option. It's 4 people in the group so small group.

[@lotsoffun-jb1es]

💔

[@HaveButterwillTravel]

Erika is ok. She just doesn't like showing her emotions.