Dan Soder on his dad and sister dying

[@TDOLLA]

damn “when I was a kid I wasn’t allowed to be myself a lot” hits pretty hard. I’ll spare anyone from reading paragraphs about my less than desirable childhood but that whole feeling of being deeply unhappy but also not really allowed to express it or being dismissed hits close to home man. And that feeling of wanting somebody to be on your team.

[@Idotisme]

You need a licence to drive because life's are at stake. Anyone can have a kid without any test. Im braking the cycle by not ever bringing life into this world. Let the Muslims win i say. 😂😂😂

[@rilzerg]

@@Idotisme I was on board till the disgusting, pitiful last sentence...

[@colbydobbs6399]

This is eerily similar to my life. My sister who was 15 years older got killed in a car wreck on I-95. Died instantly. My dad, who had an alcohol issue, had more of a cigarette issue, went into the hospital two days after Christmas one year, was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer, and died five days later there. Actually carried his bag with a pack of cigarettes out of the hospital in the middle of the night an hour after he died. My mom got cancer from smoking, was 87 pounds with a feeding tube for a year, and my dad didn’t quit smoking ever. My mom survived and has been in remission for 17 years. When you lose people like that, it’s hard on everyone. Your life isn’t ever quite the same. I feel for Dan.

[@Geirgh]

holy fuck. you're a soldier. love you brother

[@sheridan891]

Damn. This makes me so sad for him. I takes a strong person to hold it together to the extent he has and keep your head above water.

[@pjmmaloney4458]

There’s such a soul to every Neal Brennan podcast. He’s the best.

[@KINDAtheexpert7608]

Great clip. I didn’t know soders whole backstory. My dad also died very young. U feel helpless. U HAVE TO BE A MAN wayyyy before u know how to be a man. Respect to soder for being HIM and props to his sis for being what he NEEDED. I’m 34, my dad died 12 years ago and I’ve just created my own family and shunned EVERYONE that turned their back on me when my dad died which includes my dads entire family. Sad as it is, that’s the truth. Seeing these clips gives me hope. Thanks fellas!

[@uns33n]

Dan and big Jay have done a bit of material about being the son of an alcoholic bum dad. Son of a gary is what they call it as both of their dads names were gary

[@THE_BEAR_JEW]

Same man. My dad had a massive stroke and became completely disabled when I was 26, then he passed away 6 years later. His entire side of the family couldn't have cared less and I still haven't talked to them in what is now about a decade. You don't need those kinds of people in you life, even if they are family.

[@davidswanson5669]

Still, leave some room for reconciliation. That’s my advice.

[@ConfinedInMyMind]

@@THE_BEAR_JEW​​⁠I feel you. My dad had me late, youngest of 3 kids. Wasn’t a perfect father or husband but he did the best he could because his father died young and from a third world country. I’m grateful because he kept a roof over our head and taught me a bunch of lessons. He was flawed but I learned the best parts of him, because he wanted me to better. By the time I was 18, he retired and was diagnosed with Parkinson’s. And my two brothers who had it rough with him but he never hit us; he was just a tough love kind of guy, because my mom would baby us. Had to take care of him, clean him, bathe him all while my brothers lived their lives. His side of the family would just use him for gifts or berate him because he was a quiet man. He passed away last year and I haven’t spoken to his side of the family since the funeral. Didn’t even want to invite them, even my uncle tried to upcharge for the funeral plot to make money. Nobody is perfect, and we want to put our parents on a pedestal but they’re humans just like us. I’m eternally blessed to have a dad like him when I know most people didn’t have one or an abusive one. Rest In Peace to your father. I can rest easy because I didn’t have regrets or let the time pass and think we always have tomorrow. It hurts but I cherish those moments even when it was hard. You’re not alone in the way you feel.

[@CraigMelton-jv6tc]

Imagine going from creating the Chappelle show to barely breaking 50k views on KZbin. Ouch talk about a crash.

[@mrdavidashley6892]

I listened to this episode and didn't realize who this was. Hell of a life. Strong dude!🙏🏾❤️

[@youtubedrifter5594]

Dan has always been my favorite. Not necessarily because he’s the funniest on stage…but everything else off stage. The Bonfire got me through a lot of long days on the road. Genuinely a good guy.

[@samanthab1923]

Didn’t know any of his back story. I can relate. By 30, I had lost my father & two siblings. My husband died when his son was only 13.

[@youtubedrifter5594]

@@samanthab1923 jeez! So you get it. Dan literally helped me with boundaries and putting my people pleasing qualities to bed. I live in Nashville TN…where are you from?

[@samanthab1923]

@@youtubedrifter5594 I’m on SE PA. Right on the Delaware River. My brother was living down in Franklin TN the last three years. Moved back to NYC.

[@youtubedrifter5594]

@@samanthab1923 Yeah I don’t blame him. I’m only staying another year and I’m getting out of here

[@samanthab1923]

@@youtubedrifter5594 Take care 👋

[@raydawg6364]

My dad died when I was 6. I stayed in the car while he was put in the ground. Can relate to feeling alone too young or that something’s missing and just wanting to make people laugh and have good times.

[@nq6508]

Its nice to see dan being serious on a pod.

[@MaximusDowns]

What I take from this is the quality of Dan's innermost character that when he by rights should have been a statistic he was somehow able to rise above it.

[@rilzerg]

Are you seriously implying that Satanism can be righteous?

[@juss8290]

@@rilzergwhat? stfu, you’re embarrassing yourself.

[@brittanycarriger]

What a fucking insanely good clip. Heartbreaking

[@guydutoit61]

So good

[@BryceChillis]

Damn I wish I had someone like Dan’s sister

[@C-O-C-K]

i had a sperm donnor for a father, i specifically waited till he was on his deathbed dying from liver failure to see him for the first time since i was 17. i let him know exactly how i felt, i told him hes a scumbag how deserved to die alone on his couch. i spent 12 years in foster care experiencing horrors i still can't talk about now at 31, but hey Budweiser right?

[@liadown9052]

😢❤ someday

[@rilzerg]

100% warranted

[@paulfroelich1024]

Never heard the whole story on Soder. Insanely tragic.

[@chrislambeth7367]

Having "someone on your team" is something I have been looking for, for a long time. Never heard it put like that. Really puts some things in perspective for me.

[@iamgates7679]

LOLOLOL “this is where papa roach is from”

[@kaeserd]

Interesting that he stated he had alcoholism instead of saying he was an alcoholic .

[@samanthab1923]

To this day the words “Mom’s boyfriend” makes me think sketchy. I would never let some random dude tell my kid what to do or put him down. Ugh

[@reach4thesports897]

Unfortunately, so many women feel like that is their only option. Trying to raise and support one or more children by yourself is so challenging that it affects your decision making. Doesn’t help when men mislead you into thinking that they’re something they’re not.

[@jameslrouse]

Yea they do it with everyone, and then wonder why their kid hates them when they move out.

[@RodFerroIGB]

He wasn’t random… it was his Godfather… his father’s ex best friend, Joe.

[@troybuchanan9980]

You guys can have my dad. He took his friends and their kids hunting and fishing and left me at home. Mad at mom for divorcing him so he took it out on me and my brother. Worthless piece of sh@@ is all yours if u want him. BTW he is still alive and wonders why I don't talk to him. Damn...not suburban housing either public housing projects kids cockroaches and all.

[@dustinolvey8877]

This is how you make a stand up comedian, porn star or suicide victim possibly two out of three.

[@bearursidae42069]

I think Dan soder has enough time he can hit the Trifecta 😅

[@maliiiwa]

8:14 All you can do is laugh in disbelief sometimes

[@urbansavage84]

Neal! There's a full theme song and I want it!!!

[@hermesmcclintok]

My bad father didn’t realize he was a bad father. You can tell him stuff like this guy said, but it’s not gonna make a difference and he’s probably just gonna get offended. He is what he was not what you want him to be. It’s your fault for trying and wanting a lie.

[@Cegros]

This is the first step. Every school of thought worth following stresses living in understanding and forgiveness. It doesn’t mean be a hippy. It means stuff like your comment. People aren’t bad, sometimes they just have zero idea what good behavior is. And sometimes they’re too old or hurt or set in their ways to change. And if I let that make me miserable and resentful, I’m just as bad as the guy I’m resenting.

[@liadown9052]

The word "fault" seems a little harsh. You can develop compassion for yourself, as well. ❤

[@hermesmcclintok]

@@liadown9052 "fault" and "words" doesn't have to come with "feelings". You're a girl, aren't you. Don't teach that to your sons.

[@DossSauce270]

Never realized how much i liked dan til he left the bonfire

[@mwatts6755]

Human beings can endure a LOT

[@KyleLucasMusic]

Great interview

[@tombosley3048]

Wow. This was incredible

[@trayyoutube]

You can’t tell me this isn’t joe list

[@Jake-ur5gi]

I’m so grateful for my parents, call yours if they’re still in your life

[@ASwagPecan]

My favorite comedian

[@glassboxes]

wish there was more of dan soder out there

[@jamied931]

You could literally listen thousands of hours of the bonfire

[@glassboxes]

@@jamied931 yeah thats why i said i wish there was more of dan soder out there

[@mass-cp6jf]

this is so sad WTF. why am i so depressed when my life has been so much better than most.

[@jameslivingston7159]

It's good to be able to see that. It's a step

[@ronaldbargain4925]

Bc u need some struggle

[@mass-cp6jf]

@@ronaldbargain4925 marine corps vet, divorced twice, kid dont visit anymore.. nah i dont

[@rilzerg]

​@@ronaldbargain4925 Hush poophead; No one escapes "struggle"...

[@yoda-e5w]

Its like if Dan Soder hung out with the Great Value Brand Mike McDaniels

[@liadown9052]

My mom died when i was 9 and i learned to cry silently alone in my bedroom at night (except for sniffles) so that my grief didn't upset anyone else. That's healthy, right? 😂

[@morrisc4624]

Wonderful clip.

[@wowsew]

holy shit soder

[@PariSitic.Pictures]

wii dont dye. we won't even stop. watch.

[@alexbaum2204]

Man… I’ve always thought Dan seemed like a good dude (besides being hilarious). Didn’t realize how tough he is. The loss of his sister is just getting your balls stomped on when you’re already down.

[@joeyott4772]

I love how veal is literally turning into a woody doll if I lift his foot up it would say Andy on it nice dye job veal looks like a 13 year old Egyptian boy that built the pyramids

[@willrowe6088]

I've never tried the veal.

[@user-uh5tb9er4o]

so good

[@mikesvids805]

lol soder sounds like Ari Shafier (sp)

[@dreamsoflorien8237]

Damn man - rip

[@cobrakaiX]

That’s disappointing to hear Chapelle couldn’t empathize with the movie just because the characters were white.

[@mitchbodnar879]

😢

[@novexp]

Woo

[@yansa1966]

❤

[@chrisbuehler6868]

Does Dan not know how lakes work? Stale water thats dead?

[@connorhall8463]

You must be great at comedy shows 😂

[@GearsJosh56]

As great of guy soder is I wouldn’t of thought he dealt with a rough childhood. God bless his sister

[@Error_404_Account_Deleted]

God did not bless her clearly

[@championsofodin9868]

Jesus christ man