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Emotional intelligence is a range of abilities, self-awareness, emotional self-management, empathy, social skills. Women tend to be better than men on average at empathy, particularly emotional empathy, sensing in the moment how the other person is feeling and also, at social skills, at keeping things feeling good between people in a group. Men, on the other hand, tend to be better on average at self-confidence, particularly in groups, and at managing distressing emotions.
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DANIEL GOLEMAN:
Daniel Goleman is a psychologist, lecturer, and science journalist who has reported on the brain and behavioral sciences for The New York Times for many years. His 1995 book, Emotional Intelligence (Bantam Books) was on The New York Times bestseller list for a year and a half.
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TRANSCRIPT:
Question: What is emotional intelligence?
Daniel Goleman: Emotional intelligence refers to how well we handle ourselves and our relationships, the 4 domains. Self-awareness, knowing what we’re feeling, why we’re feeling it, which is a basis of, for example, good intuition, good decision-making. Also, it’s a moral compass. Say, in part, is self-management, which means handling your distressing emotions in effective ways so that they don’t cripple you, they don’t get in the way of what you’re doing, and yet, attuning them… to them when you need to so that you learn what you must. Every emotion has a function. Also, [marshalling] positive emotions, getting ourselves, you know, involved, enthused about what we’re doing, aligning our actions with our passions. The third is empathy, knowing what someone else is feeling. And the fourth is putting that altogether in skilled relationship. So that’s what I mean by emotional intelligence. There’re many definitions out there. The part of the brain, it turns out, that supports emotional and social intelligence is actually the last circuitry of the brain to become anatomically mature. And because the neuroplasticity of the brain shapes itself according to repeated experiences, so my argument is, hey, we should be teaching kids regularly overtime, in a systematic way, self-awareness, self-management, empathy, and social skill. In fact, there, now, enough programs and they’ve been around enough in schools that they’re about to publish a huge meta analysis, looking at hundreds of schools and kids that had the program versus those that don’t. Guess what? All anti-social behavior, you know, disruption in class, find that… it goes down 10%. Pro-social behavior, liking school, well-behave, up 10%. Academic achievement scores, up 11%. So it really pays. Executive function, which is mediated by the prefrontal lobe, both helps you manage your emotions and helps you pay attention. So as kids learn these skills, they also learn learning… basic learning skills. I think that the fact that that was an argument was one thing that caught people’s attention. Then, there was a little chapter on… called managing with heart, which argued that leaders who were sons of a bitch were actually defeating the company’s own mission. And I think that made a lot of people happy because they work for people like that. I don’t know… Some people gave it to other people because they thought they needed help in this domain. I’m sure there’re a zillion reasons why people like the book.
Question: Are we becoming more emotionally intelligent?
Daniel Goleman: I hope more. I know IQ has been going up for a hundred years as children encounter more sophisticated cognitive environment as they grow. I don’t know that we’re becoming more emotionally intelligent. I like to hope we would but I think that the number of intergroup wars going on, the intergroup hatred going on, the, you know, levels of familial abuse, in other words, indicators of emotions out of control in dangerous ways don’t look that great, which is why I’m a very strong proponent of getting these social, emotional learning programs in every school worldwide.
Question: Are women more emotionally intelligent than men?
Daniel Goleman: Well, I get asked that question in a different way, which is, are women more emotionally intelligent than men? And you have to remember that emotional intelligence is a range of abilities, self-awareness, emotional self-management, empathy, social skills.
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[@Ramadmurthy]

@Hank Acham Good morning

[@cartergomez5390]

I'm gonna jump at that.

[@rubicunduseratiudas1264]

Enough already!! Cut it out, will you? There's no such a thing as "emotional intelligence" or "almond milk" or "white chocolate" or "trade deficit"... We no longer know what universities are teaching. We got people all over the place calling themselves "scholars" or "experts" who publish and write in academic journals and sit in scholarly or academic seats; they give speeches, they head departments… And you know that what they’re saying is COMPLETELY FALSE. THE TRIUNE BRAIN THEORY AND NEUROLOGY COMPLETELY DEMOLISHES THE CONCEPT "EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE"...

[@rubicunduseratiudas1264]

"Emotional intelligence" is like "almond milk" or "white chocolate": IT DOESN'T EXIST.

[@Samrules888]

real smart or "emotionally" smart

[@Powergirl11177]

who's watcting this for class

[@jordymartinez1178]

me :/

[@oshane2012]

yep for snhu

[@fromaddicttostatic2549]

right here brother lol

[@Royalty_girlie]

me

[@CrisDontMiss]

Let me get them notes

[@paulthewarrior8141]

Honestly once you become emotionaly intelligent nothing or no one can shake your happiness no matter what they say

[@JLDReactions]

+secret person Yes, I think the bad stuff is there to teach us lessons. That's the only way we grow.

[@ritahart2249]

Paul the warrior Also no one can lie to your face and not be "sniffed" out. What does that say for 62 million Americans who voted for the lying orange clown faking it?

[@lyfecast6960]

Paul the warrior AGREED! That’s why it’s our first Principle at LYFE CAST for that very reason!

[@normadeluna3349]

Paul the warrior I want to practice emotional intelligence. I want to have peace.

[@shazzkhan2201]

@@normadeluna3349 the first step is self awareness. We need to understand our feelings, emotions and over all personality and conduct a SWOT analysis first

[@Sharafatsohail]

emotional intelligence refers to how well we handle ourselves & our relationships: the four domains; self awareness, self management, empathy, putting that all together in a skilled relationship

[@royward410]

you an idiot being clever is more important than being a little sis do you think wars are won by being EMOTIONAL?????

[@demianfraserdarling]

sharafat hussain u literally copied this from the video

[@liamc1102]

@@royward410 emotional intelligence is crucial for great success it often brings greater health and success than IQ

[@riyasahamedpoolakkal6641]

@@royward410 IF YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY ENTELLIGENT , YOU CAN EVEN AVOID WARS

[@tyreid3560]

poggers helped with my college hwk chad

[@ICONIQPsychology]

Emotional inteligence should be taught in schools. Starting to learn these sort of things in adulthood or in your professional career through "soft skills" workshop is NOT enough. We should all know how to deal with our own emotions and how to respectfully communicate with others. It's a skill to be learned and our children need to learn it now.

[@susydyson1750]

as small a skill as taking a conscious breath before doing anything helps enormously!

[@anupbhatt8643]

Yeah it's good to have subject like emotional intelligence in school but at the same time these are the things that cannot be learnt theoretically or it should have to more of practical.

[@ben_alfred]

they teach it at mine. exceptionally irritating pseudoscience

@@ben_alfred Yours is the only sane comment here!

[@jackjack4412]

​@@ben_alfred it's not pseudoscience. Share one argument for your opinion.

[@CYBG_]

SMART START: ANSWERS 1. Recognize your EMOTIONS. 2. MANAGE your emotions. 3. Motivate self to ACHIEVE GOALS. 4. Recognize emotions in OTHERS. 5. Manage your RELATIONSHIPS. The video our teacher chose didnt have the answers at all 😅

[@cantthinkofaname3995]

Camarito Cyborg omg please help me with this for school!!

[@kisholoygupta588]

The talk makes a lot of sense and makes the understanding of the subject more complete

[@AlbinosaurusR3X]

I honestly think social media has been the most destructive force for Emotional Intelligence our species has faced so far. I'm quite curious to see if/how we'll adapt to it.

[@jeremyjery01]

There is evidence to suggest that excessive use of social media may have negative effects on emotional intelligence. Social media can lead to increased feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and depression, and can also contribute to a reduced ability to empathize with others. One reason for this may be that social media platforms encourage users to present a curated version of themselves, leading to a lack of authenticity and empathy in interactions. Additionally, social media can create a sense of FOMO (fear of missing out) and social comparison, leading to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. However, it's important to note that social media can also provide opportunities for connection, community-building, and learning, depending on how they are used. It's all about finding a healthy balance and being intentional with our social media use.

[@KhachikKarakeshishyan-ny1zp]

In this point I should oppose with you. Before that, I want to mention that the social media is not for adaptation it was created for information availability and everything in internet. Our goal should be to manage that information by being Emotional Intelligence.

[@AlbinosaurusR3X]

@@KhachikKarakeshishyan-ny1zp It's a poor argument to say what it was intended to do in the fave of the obvious harms it *actually* does. The informational aspect of the internet does not require social media to exist to fulfill its purpose, for that matter.

[@jimiboi87]

I honestly think that emotional intelligence has been the most destructive force for social media our species has faced so far. I'm quite curious to poo on it. 🙉💩

[@njongige]

​@@jeremyjery01I agree with this idea. Social media has created a barrier to more human direct interaction. Why do we call it social media? There aint a thing social about it if our children cant spell their names correctly without asking google or siri (Secretary of Secrets)

[@5MinutePsychology]

I believe EQ is what makes true leaders as opposed to only managers.

[@Kurio71]

Empathy?

[@huh7708]

@@Kurio71 emotional intelligence.

[@nupian06]

Thank you so much Prof. Daniel. Now says, I we see many people esp young people lacking basic social skills, they need to learn " emotional intelligence".

[@theemotionalintelligence3171]

Simple words to understand yet very powerful knowledge about human emotions. Thank you for the video

[@mr.iforgot3062]

Great stuff! My emotional intelligence has improved significantly since applying myself and understanding that I NEED to do it! Put the work in! It pays dividends!

[@Ray-rc3rw]

Best book I read during my undergrad studies. Thank you, Mr. Daniel!😉

[@SamSaf1762]

Thank you very much for such simple explanations!

[@TheVibeMindset]

Self-awareness is key!!! Ask yourself, "What's my current emotional state?" Most people struggle to answer this question even with conscious effort. That being the case, those living their day on autopilot (unconscious) will be nearly impossible to become self-aware.

[@yasminaflifel1698]

the book is really precious...it affects my own life in a positive way

[@balakrishnanb9424]

Many people lost their position,job,promotion,because of not controlling their emotion and fell prey to their enemies.Balakrishnan

[@rameshbabu2088]

True

[@tonyr.2321]

I am one of them,

[@ntg128]

Well said!!

[@anikchowdhury9708]

True,I am a victim of that

[@Ramadmurthy]

Good morning . I do agree with your opinion.

[@JohnKooz]

Wow! Daniel Goleman has EQ expertise and I genuinely was soaking up every word. I absorbed and highly enjoyed this educational snippet. Thanks!

DANIEL GOLEMAN IS THE BEST! (WELL, ONE OF THEM). MY ETERNAL ADMIRATION AND GRATITUDE. I'VE LEARNED A LOT FROM YOU THROUGH YOUR BOOKS FOR BALANCING, INCREMENTING MY EI AS WELL AS MY STUDENTS'!

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I am a paid member of Big Think Edge, and I must say it has changed my life. Thanks a lot to the entire team.

[@maddabee5511]

Thank you for good read!... difficult to find browsing shelfs things that speak to you... very clearly winner.

[@enterthecringe7552]

He's a good speaker. I like the way he simply broke this down

[@effectivetalks_withfalguni7401]

This was very helpful. Crisp and clear. Thank you.

[@ShadowsOfTheParanormal]

My business tutor showed me this today, im doing a diploma and emotional intelligence is the key to success.

[@BeingBrilliantEveryDay]

very interesting and so so important. Great channel.

[@nosyt87]

I respect him so much. He understand when to emphasize the important shit with intelligence.

[@SelloJacob-is5zn]

Wow these was very helpful and understanding on my module that I'm busy with it thanks

[@mssarvepriya]

simply awesome hugs n love to u i can see an amazing and strong person in u God bless you

[@eng.renatocarvalho]

I am really excited to learn more about it and become and emotionally inteligente person. I just started reading his book and I am enjoying it a lot!

[@lianzad.6788]

Truth be told, I'm only watching this to pass my finals since I don't copy notes. The joys of college....

[@TheCyberG]

same here po.

[@hafsaboutzakate3853]

Same here haha.

[@aryamansingh7105]

Same ...

[@adeadeniji3883]

Lianza D. I

[@GauravKalyan]

same here but they are really helpful in life as well.

[@maxc1870]

They say grief is the root of compassion. Once you get in touch with your emotions and understand them, you can use them to read people etc.. ADHD is also correlated with EI

[@dudutv4769]

Tell me more about how it relates with adhd ..please

[@khunpingpong]

@@dudutv4769 2 schools of thought. nature and nurture...if your brain is only 50% the surrounding is 100%...the result is 75% no regret.

[@danimiclaus7597]

Thank you to share your knowledge and deep feeling with us!

[@manju.suthar5240]

Heyy

[@KhachikKarakeshishyan-ny1zp]

Emotional Intelligence is one of principal method in our life and everyone has their own method in order for being individual. However we know a lot of people whose call emotional and quick to anger, so it's never too late for changing yourself by managing your emotions.

[@eleniramos8389]

Muito bom a colocação das palavras ,tive que vê várias vezes para ler mais deu para entender , obrigado

[@Bronxbombers161]

very interesting topic. The military when training senior NCOs, Officers, help them in their war time Peace time missions. Solid presentation and well appreciated!!

[@clagu]

Muy bueno! Gracias por los subtítulos!

[@conorhealy3375]

I've had Daniel Goleman as my Hotmail avatar since 2004, when I was 12. I see his face every time I log into my laptop. Never knew who he was and only found by google image searching him. What a discovery. I feel like I'm meeting up with an old friend.

[@chitterville7599]

Working on this myself, never too late if the Millenniums “ get it”. ❤️

[@ViralFunnyMeme007]

I read many positive think like book but emotional intillegince very relibale and practical.

[@jaytettehquarshie1522]

Im using your Theory of Emotional Intelligence as the main model for my theses in my MPhil.

[@AbhishekSingh-iw5gn]

very useful videos thanx alot

[@waxfalcon]

2:30 LOL. I have had lots of close encounters with those entities in my job and because it. Sometimes I have won, sometimes it has been a big fail!

[@normadeluna3349]

Mr. Daniel you are a genius.

[@BodyAndMindWithSage]

I would love to see how this could apply to our teens in high school, to promote better image positivity.

[@syedahmed8270]

The idea that EQ can be learned is so encouraging.

[@CelticRaE19]

I think this is not taught nearly enough in our educational systems. It is a huge problem.

[@vallon1225]

agreed

[@MrAVNHER]

Ive learn this skills as I stater practicing meditation.

[@marialambell3774]

To every culture emotional intelligence can be learned with practice, but in saying that some are not very open and flexible

[@qinqinxiao516]

Very interesting and useful analysis.

[@sangitasarkar7407]

EI is an attempt to encompass the values we follow , in terms of our culture, intuitions, intentions and discipline to confirm how capable we are to control ourselves and then the other's issues come

[@Burak-is1po]

I'm reading this book now and it's a real eye opener.

[@stephennn403]

What's the name of the book

[@megan-ms8kj]

Emotional Intelligence is most important! I agree

[@luckygirliie]

I love your pfp

[@stefaniepodlog1714]

Great video! The speaker is referring to a meta-analysis. Does anyone have the link or name of the article?

[@emanalsulami3827]

All this sounds good as long as we respect those who have different EI than us

[@vaskar420.g9]

I always think I had some special power😂😂 I could literally tell how person is feeling I was fascinated to know what was it. Thank you😊

[@normadeluna3349]

Vaskar420 .G me too. I am an emphat.

[@illeone5433]

Very useful thank you

[@cristina_2796]

Go get his book! 11/10 recommended!

[@somepersonalconsiderations]

Emotional intelligence: self-awarness, self-management, empathy, social relationships.

[@infini_ryu9461]

All of which can fall under the umbrella of General intelligence, so a separate theory is not required. Low IQ people have low impulse control, we already have a working theory for this stuff. EQ is just a cope. "Well, you might not be academically gifted, but you're emotionally gifted." is just complete nonsense. Feeling feelings is not intelligence, either.

[@AlbinosaurusR3X]

@@infini_ryu9461 Spotted the guy with low EQ. =P

[@infini_ryu9461]

@@AlbinosaurusR3X I would be offended if EQ meant anything. It doesn't.

[@AlbinosaurusR3X]

@@infini_ryu9461 It wasn't meant to offend. Was simply a joke. =)

[@qiushizhang9681]

I think a lot of cultures have a misleading perspective about emotional intelligence. for example, in my region in china, people associate emotional intelligence with not being authentic, and always focusing on social skills. I think it's dead wrong. just as daniel mentioned in his talks, great leaders have both inner awareness and outer awareness that make them drive high performance in teams.

[@serenellam]

Okay, you're the new Einstein, no doubt anche it. You saved my life years ago, but only now I can really understand why.

[@MrAVNHER]

To became awarded of your own emotions and pick up more emotions in your surroundings

[@12coaching]

I'm in. We need more training on Emotional Intelligence.

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[@5MinutePsychology]

I often wonder why we don’t teach Emotional Intelligence to kids at school. At least not intentionally.

[@augustusself8119]

IQ is definitely only one aspect of intelligence. EQ is not something that is naturally taught in school, but extremely important.

[@jeremyjery01]

There is evidence to suggest that excessive use of social media may have negative effects on emotional intelligence. Social media can lead to increased feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and depression, and can also contribute to a reduced ability to empathize with others. One reason for this may be that social media platforms encourage users to present a curated version of themselves, leading to a lack of authenticity and empathy in interactions. Additionally, social media can create a sense of FOMO (fear of missing out) and social comparison, leading to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. However, it's important to note that social media can also provide opportunities for connection, community-building, and learning, depending on how they are used. It's all about finding a healthy balance and being intentional with our social media use.

[@giselectric3986]

Great video!

[@iqrashaikh604]

A theory to put on into our lives to learn, to control, to succeed in your life 👍

[@konulaslan]

Thank you so much, you explained it very clearly. 👌👌👌09.07.2022, 21:20

[@laurieless1]

love this

[@lolalola8918]

Meditation books like Practical meditation and The way and goal of Rajyoga can help in similar ways, they are at 'omshantistore'.

[@sanatani9753]

Thanks sir

[@balasubrahmanyamkovvali]

Thank you for uploading this wonderful video-Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. It is a good idea to teach these Soft Skills in the Schools and Colleges.-Dr.Balu.

[@motivationalquotes6154]

Ok, are you still alive

[@darkbanditxd2763]

This says a lot about the schools I went to

[@tussharsetia8894]

Self awareness Self management Empathy Putting it all together

[@anikchowdhury9708]

Handling own and customers emotion is the key to success in customer care

[@AlbinosaurusR3X]

True. Sales is like this too.

[@whoda3499]

I could listen to him talk for much longer :D

[@Easylearningeducation]

Nice explanation

[@aasthadabla6046]

Daniel Goleman a whole legend

[@markusarocious8994]

Doing research on emotional intelligence. Thanks for this video

[@hiwadjallya264]

Would anyone know the name of the report where the meta-analysis he refers to will be? Thanks in advance :)

[@beezorz]

Love how he juked that question about cultures via cultural relativism, smooth move dodging the bait, well played

[@professionalhermit4592]

Interesting how society has rediscovered this concept. I would suggest this is a natural corrective reaction to the PC trend that tends to negate individual responsibility for what they do with their emotions and places it on everyone around them - the "I'm sad and its your fault, so fix me" attitude. Focus on emotional inteligence allows critique of individual reactions born of emotional impulse. Hopefully it will give acceptance to the notion of individual responsibility in pulling ones self out of a sense of victimhood, but without destroying the concept of justice needed for social order.

[@maheshub]

Im watching to better my life

[@Argelv16]

Just today, in the moorning, i've discover this freaking topic, and it freaks me out, i feel just powerfull like a fk god, like when youre a kid and you know your body can whistle.

[@LunaAccardi]

Managing distressing emotions… but it’s sounds very much like “don’t ever have huge outbursts”. Just to confide in some definition. But feeling and expressing feelings expressively is what makes us humans, but yes, let’s all be ashamed of certain public emotions. If you listened carefully that’s essentially a nutshell.

[@eleniramos8389]

Obrigado Daniel 👋👋👋👋

[@Skateforlifelad]

Thinking back on my upbringing and it shaped my emotional intelligence being challenged mentally by my Mum

[@remrust]

2:30 love him for that

[@Humanitarian_Tv]

I think a practical model should be introduced in every school and organization curriculum.

[@twilightsoldier007]

I agree we should be ble to measure EQ in different cultures. religion, cultural limitations like a gendere segregated societies surely will impact, for example, a person's ability to exercise great listening skills or empathy. Also, surely in autocratic societies or countries it would be compounded by authoritative leadership and even dictatorships?

[@ANGEL-eh6pd]

I discovered my EQ is a 135 after doing an extensive 1 hour test. Im blown away. And my IQ is 130 plus. I am blown away. Do you have any tests? By the way I am 56 and a half, so I contribute the number from my street smarts and experience. Plus, I am an Empath, so my social and self awarness and management is near perfect. I am glad that I did these tests during covid. I even outscored Dr, Phil once, 160 EQ. Good to know where I stand worldwide. I just thought I was me. I was a singer and drummer in a band, mental health care worker and Mom. Im glad I know how important it I s to just read anyone. I think, it can be a negative thing too. I feel things that aren't always good. Good to know

[@granthowlett1487]

Hi Daniel I began your book this day. And despite not having read too far, I concur. Problem? The folk who need to learn from your book will rarely read (if indeed they can read!) Oh incidentally I am a mere 15 months younger than you. I do not mean to detract from your wise words however as a bloke (I an Aussie living in Thailand) who did not complete secondary school, I support your words. I revert to my second sentence. Cheers, with respect from this fella whose nickname is Grumpy.

[@EmoPsychIns]

Best book I have ever read

[@tvasu2698]

Thanks

[@laodehusrin7871]

how about the emotional quotient for student?? how to measure that?? related with their achievement in school??

[@safirahmad5191]

Hello everyone... i need ESCI measurement scale given by Goleman... kindly help me in this regards

[@lyfecast6960]

This is an AWESOME video Emotional Intelligence! Emotional Intelligence is the first of the eight Principles we teach! Thanks for making such a wonderful video!

[@baothebijin]

i firmly believe it is a skill still not widely taught in schools but should, many teachers themselves are lacking emotional intelligence so how could they teach the students? great intro video on emotional intelligence :)

[@rubicunduseratiudas1264]

Well, to me "emotional intelligence" is like "almond milk" or "white chocolate": IT SIMPLY DOESN'T EXIST.

[@chuantong191]

Excellent

[@leenawalker753]

Self awareness Self management Empathy Skilled relationship

[@deepdas8339]

Very good advice sir Sir try for the best not for your For us Form assam