Dare to disagree | Margaret Heffernan

Most people instinctively avoid conflict, but as Margaret Heffernan shows us, good disagreement is central to progress. She illustrates (sometimes counterintuitively) how the best partners aren't echo chambers -- and how great research teams, relationships and businesses allow people to deeply disagree.
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[@critical-chris]

Why has this talk accumulated less than 500,000 views in 10 years?

[@TheJoestier]

"You won't commit that kind of energy and time if you really don't care." That is the reality of it. Nicely put!

[@razaleann6265]

I am a highschool student and I cannot agree more with this. But throughout my schooling I've seen less and less of my peers questions things and methods and anything the teacher may say that does add up. The reason I think that causing this is whenever a teacher is questioned, they don't try and explain or even think about it before saying 'it's just how it works'. Even on small things. I once asked a teacher if I could do a diagram a little differently in a way that makes it (to me at least) less messy and easier for me to understand to study later. Well I got turned down and told I needed to do it the way my teacher explained, when I asked why I got 'because you need to follow directions, we do it this way for a reason.' I'm constantly told to sit and follow directions, never question, and told thats what employers want, thats what will get us through in life... To not think, to just follow. Never be a leader. Never be different.

[@jerichomorcilla2790]

please keep doing what you are doing, you will go far in life.

[@tiaturnbullchampionscoachi9587]

Keep being your wonderful self. I recall being confused when I got to math answers in a different way than I was "supposed" to so I was told my way was wrong. When I was in high school I was told that I think too much. Today I am so glad that I followed my heart. I have read thousands of books and I worked with thousands of people. Today I understand so much more than I ever would have if I had listened two others instead of finding out for myself. Sometimes it can be sad and difficult to see how the world and people really are especially in the way we treat each other. But at least I am not confused, depressed and angry at myself. Follow your own curiosity and keep using your mind according to what makes sense to you. Thanks for sharing, your life is and will continue to be amazing and satisfying.

[@Twisted_Code]

the fact you object to this "just follow the rules" mindset makes me think you would make a better leader than a follower. I find myself in the same position at times, and if I'm told to just follow the rules, I'll do the exact opposite and make my own rules instead. It's why I'm not sure if I could ever really be comfortable as an employee of a company when I think I'd much rather start a company of my own if possible. Kinda makes you think, doesn't it? (With apologies to Shakespeare...) to follow or not to follow, that is the question.....

[@ncoaAAAA]

believe me friend, if you follow you will be a leader, if you don´t be prepared to end in a rubbish can.

[@atulbhide8162]

Apart from a fantastic presentation of her basic topic of 'Dare To Disagree', the little fact that caught my attention is Dr. Heffernan's mention during her talk about how Dr. Alice Stewart could continue her research about cancer in children thanks to the Scholarship from Lady Tata Scholarship caught my attention and made so proud to be an Indian. The Lady Tata Memorial Trust was established by Sir Dorabji Tata in April 1932 in memory of his wife, Lady Meherbai, who was struck with leukaemia in 1930 at the age of 50, and succumbed to the disease a year later in Wales, when she passed away on 18th June 1931.

[@mickeysmyspiritanimal223]

This video needs to be posted again and shared with as many individuals as practicable! Especially within the US Government! Our politicians in Congress could learn so much from her exquisite speech! 🥰👩🏽‍⚖️

[@janicehawkins9338]

My absolute favorite video. It is the foundation of my core belief system. “Dare To Disagree”

[@DAVIDEMMANUELFRAUSTOVILLAREAL]

Este video ofrece una perspectiva reveladora sobre el valor del disenso en el ámbito laboral y más allá. Margaret Heffernan destaca cómo la diversidad de opiniones y el debate abierto pueden conducir a una toma de decisiones más sólida y a una mayor innovación. Su llamado a "atreverse a disentir" desafía la norma del pensamiento uniforme y fomenta un ambiente donde se aprecien las voces divergentes y se promueva el pensamiento crítico.

[@Mark-yw4cm]

Amazing...one of the fundamental principles I use in all of my classes I teach. Embrace those that disagree. Be willing to learn from those that oppose. There is a huge skill set as she mentioned that is required. However, that skill set is well worth the investment. Thanks Margaret for your powerful story!

[@SKF358]

"Skill set" or "skill?" Think about the difference. "Skill" is the same as "skill set," except "skill" is less words, but "skill set" makes people feel they're onto something even bigger than "skill." But, they're not. It's just pretentious to add words to communicate the same thing.

[@AcappellaGamer]

I love this woman. What an EXCELLENT and EXCEPTIONAL speaker she is.

[@schoolofmasteryformindfull1417]

That has so meaningful for me a game changer to real openness. Many thanks Joseph .

[@abdulkadirnoorahmed8281]

As for me, it is the first speech I ever came across! I gained a lot of experience from Margaret. Thank you Dr. Abdulkadir from Somalia.

[@ileanagarcia4856]

This video is so amazing, i´m really excited for listened this speech, i love how she use the example for give us better explanation! thank you!

[@nataliafrausto8675]

Creo que es uno de los mejores videos de superacion que eh visto ya que me encantan los videos donde me ayudan a seguir con mis metas y son inspiradores

[@SudhanSuyambulingam]

Openness is not the end, its beginning....its so great and useful one......

[@Twisted_Code]

I always like when, as is the case with this video, the BSIT degree program I am working through includes TEDTalks as part of the reserve readings/resources for a particular week. A lot of them provide really good food for thought, and I often find myself joining in the applause at the end of the lectures and validating the claim "ideas worth sharing". This one, in particular, struck a nerve with me when it explained the issue of executives being afraid of conflicting with the higher-ups of an organization, and I pause the video long enough to make a mental note to avoid that problem as best I can with a small business I want to start up after I've earned my degree.

[@boonster2010]

A great talk that has that inspiration for everyday about it.

[@marianaromero2152]

Totalmente de acuerdo "debemos de estar dispuestos a cambiar nuestras mentes", para el bien común y de la organización que formemos parte, con el fin de mejorar y crecer de la mejor manera.

[@ariesfairies]

Fantastic point made here, excellent speech!

[@anneoleary3875]

What an inspiring talk and so relevant to the last few years. Highly recommend Margaret Heffernan's book, Wilful Blindness, 2011, which expands on this subject. Categorised as a business book but it's so much more.

[@ricardoruiz127]

This is an amazing talk!

[@MrDavePinner]

Really interesting and explains a lot about how my relationships with my bosses works so well. I'm from a very different background than they are and I'm a forward person who is comfortable speaking my mind in most environments. Including questioning almost everything. I'm probably somewhat frustrating to them at times but from those open discussions have come real progress in the time I've been there.

[@courtneys3822]

I absolutely love this!

[@arafatmy]

Thank you very much, for giving my a life quest to follow.

[@BillyMitchellJr]

This is so powerful!

[@shango02005]

Great talk! Very inspiring!

[@Lovebug8779]

A very good talk! Thanks.

[@aneekis]

Superb! I get so much reassurance from TED and know why I love watching speakers such as Margaret. Awesome one. I wish my boss would watch this...I wish world leaders watch this....I wish people in power watch this.

[@fredericdumortierbonduelle2375]

Thanks for that, good input for transformation journey

[@kayleightaylor2726]

my good sis, Margaret.. you preaching.

[@itzelgonzalez9693]

Me gusto mucho esta conferencia ya que nos da ejemplos claros de este tema, además de que es verdad que debemos de estar dispuestos a cambiar nuestra mente, para así poder desarrollarnos de una mejor manera, y abrimos a los comentarios de otros

[@Niallphillips]

great talk!!

[@user-be7ox5oi7k]

Esta conferencia es muy interesante, y tiene razón en lo que dice. Hay que saber incluir las opiniones de todos para poder solucionar algún problema.

[@XsweetstarliteX]

Another inspiring video. Thank You.

[@dooovde]

Brilliant talk

[@judyann1969]

This lady is Awsome! Good one TED!

[@LookingGlassUniverse]

This video challenged me. It wasn't like a lot of ted talks that I just nodded along to, it made me think.

[@AisyahShakirah]

This is indeed inspiring.

[@markanderson9123]

This is a lesson in becoming present and listening before feeling.

[@GigaBoost]

Great talk.

[@TracyConnellan]

Just love this

[@jessicaalexander5872]

This girl is awesome. Well done, ted talks, well done. I thoroughly enjoyed this video!

[@etherealdaisy4540]

Woa. That was really good. I got shivers.

[@allinicole7133]

I have always felt like debate/conflict is essential to being better in life, but have never been able to explain it as well as this.

[@WhiteRussianBC]

Amazing speech

[@mdkhalidrahman2832]

Agree to disagree - very painful, yet necessary practice.

[@riddler251]

Dare to stand out, dare to be different, dare to be wrong; else you will never be right.

[@ShiftyMongolian]

that would have to be, without a doubt THE wisest thing i have ever read on youtube

[@energizandomentes]

Perfect placement.

[@nolanmiskimmin]

Wow... good spot!

[@pseudogenesis]

Reminds me of some crass elderly teachers I had when I was younger. Only intelligent. Good talk.

[@nidiaagilm3745]

I appreciate your invitation to practice courage!

[@shorelineactors]

Fantastic.

[@chrismalingshu]

"The fact is the most of the biggest catastrophes that we've witnessed rarely come from information that is hidden. It comes from information that is freely available and out there, but that we are willfully blind to because we can't handle it. don't want to handle the conflict that it provokes. But when we dare to break that silence or when we dare to see and we create conflict, we enable ourselves and the people around us do to our very best thinking."

[@ManLikeMatts]

loved this :)

[@rosaaugustojezukuzo21]

Muito impactante

[@abdelrahmanfathy]

Really Fantastic

[@graybeard4962]

What a interesting accent, a mix between US and British

[@moodywheels84]

Dare to speak. Dare to stand. Dare to be! Love this talk: TRUTH! Amen sister.

[@anjanettesmith8014]

Brilliant!

[@carlitosvodka]

this is great mindset. i agree 100%. but you have to understand that instances like these are outliers. i face the same dilemma at work. i am always forced to conform. there are catalytic things that are essential like emotional maturity, great drive and exquisite intricate communication. mostly people react negatively. i am also branded a whistleblower or an eager beaver and i am always forced to conform to rules set by reclusive people. thumbs up if you agree.

[@geezeweezebabypls]

openness is the beginning.

[@098anne]

Amen! Awesome!!!!!!!

[@stephanearthaud8308]

I really like the subject which is burning and eternal. I'd like to listen to poetry now. And never to be back to school. I know I'm wrong, and I know why: it costs more than I could play, and I'd like to be the master, sometimes. So I'll be back if I change, if I can affoard, not if I'm dead before.

[@Pendragonthegreat]

AMAZING

[@FoldedArt]

That's exactly what I think before discussing a subject with someone who's view I disagree with. What kind of arguments could he bring up and what should I respond with? It really makes you think and do some research.

[@ClaLu]

Beautiful!! and she`s wearing a Isaac Myaki gem!! :)

[@captnhuffy]

I see your point, as that is what the Marketing arm of TED bills themselves as.... But MY point of the matter is that they are NOT that, in my opinion. I'll judge TED by what they offer, not by what they SAY they are. As a College grad, an Engineer, a Businessman / Marketing Manager, & a World traveler, I am VERY well rounded, & very much aware of the differences between what people/businesses say they are - and what they REALLY are. CLEARLY: They are *firstly* a Political platform

[@DrMike002]

I think you will find TED is more a business than an academic platform. The confrontation they describe is not limited to engineering but common in the physical and social sciences as well as the arts. Academic is all about robust, vigorous debating of ideas

[@sonnybrown4758]

Ah, that was great.

[@ExclusiveManual]

I saw from another TED video that when you are in fight or flight mode the rational part of your brain is blocked by the part that is associated with your instinct. I forget what the parts are called but it is true for me because I can't think when I'm in any sort of conflict.

[@ZeroKey92]

That's not what I meant but that will help getting it more recognized.

[@arande3]

This reminds me of how someone might "look bad" in a piece of clothing, yet no one tells them and so they keep wearing it. A superficial issue, but similar.

[@obeb787]

We do have to learn it!!! But where??

[@Paintislikemyblood]

"UNLESS someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not." -Dr. Seuss

[@Wongfufever]

Beautiful :)

[@Emilio-ys5bj]

Este video es un recordatorio poderoso de la importancia del conflicto constructivo y la comunicación abierta en la toma de decisiones y la solución de problemas. La historia de Alice Stewart es un ejemplo inspirador de cómo desafiar las creencias convencionales puede llevar a descubrimientos significativos. Aprendamos a abrazar el conflicto como una oportunidad para el crecimiento y la innovación en nuestras organizaciones y en la sociedad en general.

[@kimstephen4736]

Contrast good!!

[@aramagoo]

The more cogent skill is to truly evaluate the other person 's thesis so that you know what you are disagreeing with.So many of today's arguments are without substance that many people will refrain from disagreement out of a sense of dignity.

[@honeymonster147]

Unlucky... Its 6:03 here... i can watch all day :)

[@sugminbajstolle]

Yes, lets all of us rate it positive :)

[@GigaBoost]

00:15 You're welcome!

[@cityofdestiny9039]

Nice comment! I couldn't have said it better!

[@fuzzehCANTdance]

It's the hint of UK in there that confused me. Thanks. (:

[@saturnsbogbook]

CEART na SUAGH ABÚ! ("The right of the Scholars to Victory!") I Medieval War CRY of the Ó HEFFERNAN Clan, Learned Families of County Clare, Ireland 🇮🇪. Irish language translation.

[@TheCoconutCookie]

O my god..... that was good.

[@ZeroKey92]

This channel needs way more klicks. The world would be such a better place if people would actually listen to allot of the things that are presented here.

[@atlaspressed]

Wow a tedtalks video that wasn't just leftwing propaganda, i knew there was a reason i subscribed to this channel.

[@toblakai]

Good talk

[@rebekahr2017]

This is why we don't just "listen to the experts"

[@sracecilia]

Incrível

[@Themasteroftimes]

love this shit

[@FSrevolution]

damn that was good

[@kingofbacon8876]

This is pretty neat

[@roidroid]

ah, fair enough

[@MarleyRootz]

There always someone sleeping among the audience... 01:47

[@FroehligGirlz]

I don't dislike the conflict, what I hate is the same d* argument (you know what it is), and still having my power stripped (fired, not 'invited' back, microagressions, rumors or misinterpretations) as a result of raising the issues. Sure, we need courage, but what we *really* need are people in power (have money, for example) to lend credibility to habitual problem-spotters, to champion ideas not their own. Successful organizations will be the ones who truly grasp the dance of ego and power, and will set either or both aside for progress toward a more distant vision. Corporations can't pass the marshmallow test.

[@samanthamcgaughey9693]

wow

[@DreGRiley]

🙌🏾

[@jackjack8844]

I neither agree nor disagree with any of the viewpoints given in this video because they are strictly those of the person who gave them and have nothing to do with me.

[@MarkoKraguljac]

Daring to disagree is not a choice for too many people. Along proper mental conditioning people need economic maneuvering space to be constructive and honest. Pretty option-less wage slave (majority of people) dependent on other's mercy (to individual or group) will most likely not find strength to go against the grain. Its only natural. Hungry people - die. Wage slaves - obey and dont care for anything beyond paycheck and survival. That obedience is main stabilizing factor of current society.