Pathological vs Compulsive Lying

[@DarrenFMagee]

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[@OOBEJuanKenobi]

@@DarrenFMagee [ Meditation leads to awareness of telepathy, and awareness of telepathy leads to meditation. ] Honesty socially is more important than DOING to impress others. It’s not what we DO to build social value that matters. It’s the respect we are willing to give, as well as the authenticity and sincerity we have within our personalities. The ideas we choose to participate in matter most: they are either friendly or cruel socially. Material wealth, body size, facial features, or DOING will never create authority by default, which is the ability to pass judgments socially the most. Aristocratic men are hypocritical, cowardly, and jealous. Anger and zero accountability are not replacements for honesty and empathy. No one has control over ideas socially. Authoritarianism is a shallow head game: the refusal to share honesty (friendship) socially. Men with negative intentions will show complete bias against ideas supporting emotional freedom, free thinking, and level states of being. Spiritual development, the focus away from the material and towards psychology ONLY (attraction), is promoted as “not important” by conformist men with abusive, fearful, and pragmatic personalities. Spiritual ideas immediately decentralize power, elevate mood, reduce manipulation, and eliminate leadership. Spirituality places much more emphasis on social inclusion, honesty, and collective consciousness. Authoritarians weaponize the material or development in it and use both as reasons to criticize and remain unfriendly (dishonest). Dishonesty is the only way the idea of power may exist. When friendship is seen as more important than power, material development is subservient to mood. When the material is used to boost self worth and reduce others socially, mood is subordinate to power. Joyful ideas supporting free thinking (telepathy, cooperation, and honesty) encourage growth of the human persona, are anti-manipulative, and promote emotional harmony. Men focusing on the immaterial (personality) and on honesty (friendship) have more evolved minds compared to authoritarians consumed with leadership (power). In order to seek status, alphas intentionally remain closed-minded (materialistic), manipulative (controlling), and antagonistic (blame), while also forming intense judgments (jealousy) about more emotionally developed men. Men with mature minds are authentic with others, focus on humor, and shun the idea of emotional leverage. This makes them an unintentional threat socially to serious and conceited men with elitist personalities focused on dominance. Leadership is not warm, nor is it real. It is used in practice to reduce pride in others and to artificially boost feelings of self worth in an individual focused on social image only. Men focusing on telepathy are contradictory socially to alphas promoting leadership. Men with inherent worth (love for others) are offensive to men trying to prove worth (lack of belief in self) with material development. All men know consciousness (Source) and possess a conscience. Possessing a conscience is knowing right from wrong, and refusing to lie about awareness. No man is exempt from understanding Source (love) within, and all of us know we are mentally connected. The idea of comparing human beings to unaware animals is cunning and manipulative. Alphas rely on shared lying socially about awareness in place of being honest (friendly). Character development is ignored with this psychology. Our feelings (thoughts and beliefs) are transmitted and shared vibrationally and mentally. In order to seek power, which is the intention to emotionally reduce others socially, men must feign unawareness of a conscience. Cruel ideas are deliberately participated in and broadcast mentally promoting social dominance. The willful focus on a friendly collective consciousness is a contrarian idea to human animals playing dumb. Being EQUAL TO in the mind socially IS secure, and the ONLY true expression of emotional security that exists. Authoritarians refuse to focus away from being unfair human animals, and remain consumed with social inequality. This forces an unrelaxed, emotionally tense environment driven by melodrama and contempt for others. Alphas are mentally unstable, have manipulative personalities, and possess low feelings of self worth resulting from the intense focus on anger (authority), apathy (indifference), and advantages (dominance). Ideas rooted in mental dominance (alpha psychology) will never promote honesty (friendship). Alphas are homophobic, and are especially critical of friendly men that are emotionally developed. Men with empathy have already worked through insecurities and judgments to focus on telepathy. Prideful men lying about insecurities within use blame and criticisms to seek control over feelings socially in order to project an image of being stronger. This creates artificial versions of emotional security and more value socially enforced with paranoia and anger. Resorting to vibrational attacks for the purpose of self promotion by reducing worth in others mentally leads to violence. Dominance over feelings is impossible, as we all share thinking. Men with emotional IQ are authentic socially and care about calm feelings more. We are telepathic. There is no choice but to be level with others mentally, and to focus on the ultimate truth of what reality is (connection with Source). Evolved men refuse to criticize other people unprovoked or manipulate the truth. Alphas will always share critical thoughts about other people. Men with emotional depth focus on honesty socially more than alphas, creating non-violence. The idea of a social hierarchy (human authority) is degrading and humiliating. It promotes closed-mindedness, fear, and the social inclusion of violence. Thoughtful men focusing on telepathy, and away from conformity, are judged relentlessly for having elevated emotions by alphas refusing to evolve. Lessor minds intentionally share cruel beliefs together promoting the social exclusion of men with empathy socializing positive. These men are mental only in focus, never play head games, and are level in the mind with all. Alphas seek emotional support and validation from each other socially, since the ideas they participate in are rooted in dishonor and physical aggression. Alphas judge honest (friendly) men the most, as they focus away from arrogance entirely, and expect friendship to be returned socially. Passing excessive, unprovoked judgments (authoritarianism) on a better psychology, wavelength, and state of being is jealousy. These criticisms always relate to social harmony and non-violence. Alphas rely on power of numbers to manipulate the truth and to keep primal ideas popular that are intentionally threatening towards men that have already focused away from machismo (lying and fear), and towards telepathy, honesty, and Source. Authoritarians will always promote vibrational attacks against men that have already grown past them in thinking, resulting in petty head games socially. Intelligence is always associated with emotional IQ, and emotional IQ has a direct correlation to the mental focus on social equality. Social equality can only result from honesty (friendship) within the mind. The reason men chose to be honest is because they are aware telepathy is real. It looks stupid to lie about it. Alphas primarily focus on dominance in the mind and social image, and focus entirely away from telepathy within. This reduces their emotional IQ socially. Because of this, alphas will always feel inferior to more honest (friendly) men. Alphas must always focus on acting skills to socialize, since the inner persona is focused only on criticisms, violence, and dishonesty. This creates a shallow personality with a dumb vibe. Forceful thinking men will always share jealousy with men sharing respect with more emotional depth. Only men with emotional IQ can form real personas vibrationally that are not shallow. It is only when the inner mind matches the outer persona that a human being can be likable socially. Shallow men are associated with lying and are not respected when it comes to intelligence, creating situations where they are avoided socially. This angers the minds of men possessing a lower psychology, which often creates unprovoked violent reactions. When thinking is focused on honesty, feelings radiate soft. When thinking is focused on lying, feelings radiate threatening. Machismo and compassion are polar opposites. Machismo will never allow for healing to occur, while compassion is the promotion of both healing and emotional growth. Men focused on compassion will always outsmart less mature men with arrogance sharing no respect. Men will either allow healing (level thinking) to occur socially, or they will attempt to take away pride from others to artificially boost feelings of self worth. Alphas will always attempt to seek an image of more value socially by cheating (violence, greed, or leadership). Judgements from personalities with machismo usually have little substance. Only judgments relating to character issues (dishonesty), violence, or an excessively critical mind have real substance. Passing judgments on men for being honest (friendly) is shallow, arrogant, and completely against the development of our collective consciousness socially. Judgments from alphas are hypocritical, cruel, and reside in dishonor. Shallow judgments from authoritarians will always lead to drama, social inequality, and violence. Alphas focus intensely on cutting other men down unfairly in order to promote a better social image, calling it competitive. It’s time for human beings to let go of classism (psychic warfare) for good. It is jealousy. Secure men are level in the mind and easy to get along with. Alphas resort to conniving and childish head games. Men that focus non-violent and refuse to lie evolve. [ End drama. ] kzbin.info/www/bejne/nnnGeoKtnLR7p80

[@maryc6189]

A Lie is a lie. There are no shades.

[@Portia620]

Please do a video on estrangement of adult children when they have been traumatized and they accuse the victim of creating so much trauma and said her therapist said she had the worst trauma in her life that she’s ever seen and then it’s all the anger is directed at the victim when she had facts of what her father did like knew he was cheating hiding money and everything found out on the computer but now everything swung around to be my fault I don’t get it. She stopped talking to my parents who was paying for her college bought her a car and granite my family is not healthy and neither is my exes there’s a lot of generational abuse and nobody told me I was being abused and I kept trying everything in therapy but now my daughter is blaming me and I take half of the blame for her being traumatized yeah even though I didn’t know I’ll take half the blame but I’m not taking all of it so she lives with her dad spends time with him and totally ignores me I’ve already lost a sibling I know how precious life is and I don’t understand all this so can you please do someone estrangement. I know he was putting stuff in her head she let me read his text and some things that he did and I seen the insidious manipulation how he would compare me to his new girlfriend who is his brother-in-law‘s little sister now he’s on another one Mrs. Texas is the new one he had her in his ballpark before the other one moved out. 😞

[@Portia620]

You were right if they can’t destroy us within with jealousy of another girl and we get flowers and we are excepting and we move on with our lives and I’m not dating anyone I just moved on with my life then they try to attack you on the outside I mean she took me off her medical record she dropped out of school college she says she has horrible anxiety attacks she sleeps till five she’s not working my parents aren’t gonna be paying for stuff anymore so she’s gonna have to have a job she wants to live on her own if she can’t live with her dad that’s another strange thing and she has no job how is she going to do it seems delusional and I’m wondering if she’s not on drugs. I’m super concerned. My ex just says she wants to party and leaves it at that he doesn’t seem concerned at all. So I’m wondering if he knows something I don’t because every time I talk to her she just sounds angry

[@HelenIngram-r4j]

With heavy heart, I've cut out every liar from my life; they include close family members, my closest friend of many years and the father of my children. I value honesty and integrity above all else. If there's no trust, what is there?

[@randy_cbc8811]

Agree, trust and truth telling are vital, without which there is no meaningful relationship.

[@-keren-]

I agree, with regret. Until people open their eyes to the liars the liars keep on lying. I can’t open their eyes, they have to do it themselves.

[@raccuia1]

Whenever someone lies they are telling you reality is or may present them a problem.

[@CrewmanJordan]

This has to be the best video available on this topic. I firmly believe there is a distinction between Compulsive lying and Pathological lying. Unfortunately, the mental health profession fails to make the distinction.

[@ProjectFates]

I had a verbally abusive father and I had to lie to stay away from his verbal abuse. That habit has carried over into adulthood, and now I habitually lie even about tiny things that don’t matter, as if the people around me won’t find me good enough if I just tell the truth. It’s awful, but I’ve taken steps to fix it. Thanks for this!

[@bigdiezelmane]

What are the steps you take?

[@justinbieber8028]

It’s great that you were able to recognize that and try and do something about it. I hope you keep up with it and change for the better.

[@matthewmcnamee4563]

Well done you that's a brave move. I hope you sort it out and are happier. I also hope the people around you appreciate you making an effort to change.

[@chezsrandombs]

This video actually helped me figure out a few things. I believe I might have some type of compulsive lying disorder (if that's how it works, idk), but I definitely feel guilt. I never have motive, in fact, I dont even know I'm doing it until it happens and then I feel awful. I hate lying but it just keeps happening. I'm trying to get help, so knowing the difference between compulsive and pathological I think will help me discuss this with my therapist. I've never told major lies, usually just exaggerating or strange detail switches but I still hate doing it and feel guilty.

[@karolinagolda8362]

i think i might me a compulsive liar, ive had a few arguements with my partner recently and the last one last night we were going over me lying to him at the start of the relationship. since the third arguement on this i tried my best to tell the truth I really did. Then last night we talked again and i started lying and he caught me on it and the worst part is i didnt even realise i was lying, i was trying to give an excuse for my behaviour, i dont know why. it was a stupid lie too it had no purpose, i think i was just trying to make the situation i was lying about sound better. i dont want to lie i dont want to keep hurting him and all his trust for me is gone and i feel so guilty for it. i dont know how to fix myself

[@govindagovindaji4662]

@@karolinagolda8362 It sounds like you may just have low self-esteem. You may think you won't be liked for being yourself or for it to be ok to do as you did in a situation, so you tell a 'tale' or 'fib' thinking that it will 'sound' better or 'be accepted' better than the truth. [of course it won't]. The truth is you are fine the way you are. You do not need to exaggerate anything or change the nature of whatever you do to please others. Accepting yourself as you are, and that you are worthy of love and likeability by others just the way you are, is the first step to your healing.

[@lanie.999]

same it only happens when i get anxious or someone is questioning me idk how to stop i just get nervous and start lying

[@Asadc1995]

Agree i sometimes in my life both not just white lies. But also compulsive lies due to been in shitty situations that is no advantage to me. Like being in court some 1 year ago bending the truth to the judge = compulsive lying. due to it being neccessary. All people do lie to some degree when it is necessary. Big difference lying when things are necessary and lying totally unmotivated. Vs lying sometimes when things are necessary

[@paulawinder4451]

You see the contradiction here ? You’re being so honest by telling us that you often lie. 😘

[@fidelmashelton9491]

Thank you so much for your insight Darren. Dealing with a covert narcissist who is always lying. I just laugh now cause the lies are so out-there unreal!!!!

[@patrickrussell6284]

It really flips the script when you realize it

[@Tatianarain]

It’s the lack of a need for lying and the inability to cover the lie for me😅

[@NoMoreMrNiceGuy2003]

If they'll lie to you, they'll potentially lie about you to take you down a notch when their unsound mind decides that you supposedly deserve it. It's a huge red flag

[@pamigreenway]

I once had a roommate who is a narcissistic compulsive liar. He got angry if anyone would express even mild incredulity over something he said and, if actually confronted about a lie, he would absolutely cut ties with that person and try to turn others against them, even to the point of threatening them with violence.

[@peterbalac1915]

Sounds like my ex she had BPD.

[@RobertLisboa]

Me too

[@xxmaryjane7897]

😮

[@RobertLisboa]

@@xxmaryjane7897 🤯

[@agapefor-the-trouble-heart5060]

Loved that you used the word ‘incredulity.’ This will be my word for the day ! Glad that they are no longer your roommate!

[@EgaoKage]

I have only ever met one person who would be accurately described as a compulsive liar. Whereas I have known pathological liars a-plenty, who tend to have many other traits associated with psychopathy, as well. But I think you describe the difference between pathological and compulsive lying very well. Especially the point about feeling embarrassed on their behalf. This effect only expands in severity, if they are challenged on their lies. They often become quite frantic, in their effort to "reinforce" the lie; as if it really matters to them that others accept their lie as being true. The more panicked they become, the more embarrassing the situation gets. As opposed to a psychopath, who often doesn't really care one way or the other if they're believed. If their lie "works", they might be pleased. But if it doesn't, they are often fine with just walking away from the attempt to lie; because, often, they just don't care what others think of them.

[@Sil26439]

I have problems in dealing with people who lie... I can't stand them and I usually try to avoid having to do anything with them which becomes a problem in my working place and with family and personal relations. Probably this is due to the fact that I experienced lack of sincerity in the relationships with my narc parents and GC sibling. I try to make my life a better and more serene one by choosing people who I consider sincere and reliable though I am aware that it is not possible to leave out those who live in their world of fantasy, grandiosity and clearly, lies. Thank you for the very useful video.

[@GypsiiSOUL]

I’m so with you I’m a monster who trust is gone

[@WeirdButterfly]

I've been going back and forth debating if I was a compulsive liar because I literally lie about the smallest things that has no impact on me or others like it always confused me when I realized I did it and I thought I did it to be likable until I realized noone would care if I actually had a plant cactus or not.

[@patriciamoraga2917]

Narcissist Psychopath Bi- Polars Sadistic HDD etc… Depress people Slow people Hypertension people Workaholics Alcoholics Autistic people People that lost a part of their body People with a terminal disease A person with physical difficulties at birth HIV survivors Etc…etc…etc… All of us have our own world and create our own reality is up to you if you want to hang out with any of the mentioned above mentioned above Most people with A HIGH POSITION will suffer from one of the mentioned above None of can ever say I’m normal…no way including the person that loaded this video we all have our own personal issues unless if a was a monk living in Tibetan’s mountains maybe I would feeling normal if I didn’t have one earthly issue If you study at least 3 hours of MORPHOPSYCHOLOGY then you will find out that not one adult human been is a normal person *normal is that a baby cries * etc..

[@jessicahall9638]

This was extremely helpful. I’ve been dealing with a parent who lies and causes minor to extreme problems in the family and with all relationships as long as I can remember. I’m coming to terms with the fact it is probably compulsive or pathological and this was helpful. I’ve never heard my parents behavior described to a t like this before!

[@Altairjf]

I've watched about 20 other videos RE pathological and/or compulsive lying to attempt to figure out a friend of mine, this is the first one that has really helped. Thank you for putting this out. There's a possibility he may have histrionic PD, something I hadn't even heard of until this video!

[@joannebennett-nt3ix]

Love that- always tell the truth then you don't have to remember what was said ❤

[@mitchh3092]

1:57 DING DING DING I'm Borderline and I actually work very hard to own my mistakes, but I still have a real hard time being honest when being honest means a fair chance of being yelled at by someone I have any emotional investment in. I generally don't lie to get advantage or sucker people out of things (my brother has done that for sure), but I have a nasty habit of trying to manage reality that I'm 100% sure I picked up from my dad, who I believe is likely also borderline, tending towards Quiet Borderline. Side note: Something I think would benefit your viewers might be a video briefly examining the differences between NPD and BPD. I describe my own personality as "Ok, imagine a narcissist who actually sees that they're the problem and wants to fix the behavior". Part of the reason I watch your videos as well as Dr. Ramani's and many others' is that the behaviors they are addressing are often worst-case scenarios for my general behavior. So thank you very much for these helpful uploads. You're definitely doing great work!

[@Shirleydepurley]

Watch teal swan videos about truth

[@starnyabuto]

I'm a pathological liar.I lie to fit in and maybe change what people know about me...I feel so unloved and not enough so I lie to make people like me...I really want to change... please advice me.

[@rileytimes]

Ooooooh. I searched for why some people lie a lot, but I never realised pathological and compulsive liars weren't 100% interchangeable. That's cool. Thanks!

[@incognito3599]

I lied to my school,get myself out of my toxic and dysfunctional household because I didn't want to cause drama and make my parent's look bad 😔 It still haunts me today as it made me look bad instead ... I eventually cut my family off ..

[@OOBEJuanKenobi]

Thank you for doing these videos, Darren.

[@celenahoey1532]

No one should lie. It’s a slippery slope. Let’s strive to be authentic ❤️

[@DillyDallyDiane-t8s]

My husband is a compulsive liar! Straight to my face even with evidence right in front of him. He’ll go to great lengths to protect his reputation. He works so hard to make people think he’s an amazing person, it’s like I’m the o my one who see him for who he is. He’s like the kid who gets caught with cigarettes in his back pack and says it’s not his🫤

[@peterbalac1915]

Sounds EXACTLY like my ex girlfriend she has BPD.

[@essentialt.v1318]

Girl, I've been dating a guy who constantly lies to me like nobody's business

[@fayefarrar]

Leave him

[@Tregrense]

I live in a community where lying is prevalent. I try to avoid engaging in conversation with the majority of people. It's surreal and quite stressful.

[@Saugaverse]

I know of two people who lie on a daily basis. One woman I know makes up very detailed lies to tell people, but the fact she shares the details of her lies with me tells me that she knows she is well aware of what she is doing. A guy I know has many stories he tells people, but he truly believes that he has actually experienced these situations in person. So to him, he is not lying, cause he actually believes his own made up stories.

[@user-vt9kd4no8j]

Very useful explanation of compulsive and pathological liars. They have honed their craft and I’m very surprised to learn the differences… I know both kinds of them… thank you Dr. I really get a lot of insight to the reasons. They just are.

[@stephaniewebb9474]

How can we call out lies without incurring rage? This is a huge issue with justice activism, and there is escalating violence due to the unveiling.

[@mitchh3092]

Honestly? I don't think we can. That's the whole point of raging. Much like a small child's tantrums, the best way to get the raging to stop is to not allow it to get the desired effect. As a Borderline I can at least say that a big part of me NOT raging out when being criticized or for lying is having been shown that this shit ain't going away no matter how much I huff and puff and stomp and scream. Therefore, the only way to not get called out for lying is to not lie. I realize that that's a pretty tall order when dealing with some people though, and "try to outlast the abuse" is not a fun or fair solution, but I think it might be the most viable one.

[@AZDC99]

Oh, you mean to social "justice" warriors who believe in feminist lies? Well good luck.. you're on your own on that one!

[@Shirleydepurley]

@@mitchh3092 do you mean that you get angry when someone confronts you that you lied?

[@lukebaehr3851]

Get family involved as witnesses. Then they begin to weigh the reputation they have with the people they love and admire, or you find out how truly vial they really are.

[@intiaboats]

Thoroughly enjoying your videos, to this point, as they bring a fresh perspective to subjects I've been watching others address for about 6 years.

[@barendkamperman1471]

I know a man who is both a pathological liar and a compulsive liar. He was raised in a loving home but started lying at an early age. He also has no concept of cause and effect. He's irreparably damaged his relationship and his health.

[@schwarzer9523]

😞this is me. I feel so ashamed of my lying. I was really selfish.

[@tofferooni4972]

How did you find out about me!!?? I actually don't want to be like this.

[@LuarIbriqi-qf4fh]

​@@tofferooni4972 Then stop being liar.

[@tofferooni4972]

@@LuarIbriqi-qf4fh easier said than done.

[@bluebelldays7650]

Thank you for your video. This is so clear to me. Got a real bad neighbor that is constantly trying to get me in trouble, lying about me. Awful situation I'm in. 2022 I'll be moving for sure.

[@waggishsagacity7947]

This was enlightening indeed. Unfortunately, I've encountered one of each: A pathological liar and a compulsive one, at different times. I had practically no trouble with the latter. Indeed, I said" "Please remember: I am not your enemy, so you don't need to lie to me." The lying stopped completely. The former was not ready to confront the fact that she was a pathological liar, but over even a short time, the lies became more and more improbable, more unbelievable, more unbearable. It required action on my part: Break the relationship rather than confront. It certainly worked for me.

[@olafwitt7246]

Thank you.

[@yepisuredolikecats]

a friend of mine claims to have formerly been a compulsive liar. but now he still does it all the time, and just claims it’s part of his sense of humor.

[@roseoid9672]

I'm probably a pathological liar, considering how I've had past trauma by telling my family things which went a completely different route than I expected it to be. It's landed emotional heaviness on me and I've ended up consistently lying about things to avoid conflict between my family and myself. It's been an issue in my teenage years and it's still an issue to this day. I end up lying to my mom about certain things, and sometimes when she finds out, she'll think that I enjoy doing it but I don't. I feel like absolute garbage lying to her about things. I've recently gotten into philosophy and psychology, and it's increased the self-awareness of what I'm doing. But even if I'm self-aware, I still do it, because the fear of things going wrong is super difficult to fight. I don't want to be a liar, and I don't want to have my words have less and less integrity the more she finds out. I can't manage this relationship properly purely because of fear, and I end up hating myself for it. I really hate how people misunderstand my behavior too, and then it's difficult for me to explain to my mom because I consistently get interrupted with this Oedipal mother-child dominance type of deal. It's difficult, really difficult. To make this matter worse, I'm able to completely understand how she feels, it's just not the same picture when she attempts to understand me because whatever she calculates has false variables. It makes me extremely sad seeing her oblivious, and I get scared of her getting mad at me. I really, really want it to end and I just want to be happy with my mom.

[@gypsylee73]

I love calling out my mother's bullshit and she yells things like "how can you say things like that?!" then often admits it's my ability to tell the truth she hates. But then she says to others she's too "wary" to make amends with me, like she's the victim and I'm the scary one. Who was an infant whose life depended on the other? Who has debilitating anxiety because of the inconsistency and often anger from the other? Whose younger brother ODed on drugs and lost his life ten years ago?

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

Thank you for your insights Darren. God bless you ❤

[@lemonbomb101]

I said a misunderstanding was true around nine months ago and it has spiraled into an entire mess of lies and I have no idea how to fix it. I have really ruined my life and the worst part is even when it was getting worse I wanted to stop lying and for some reason I can't . I hate myself. I genuinely care about all my friends and family.

[@99luftbaloons1]

Thank you for the informative video, it greatly described my ex, she constantly had to lie to her stepfather growing up to escape his wrath, and she is definitely cluster B, NOW she admits she lies about things for no reason at all and can't help it, 20 years of marriage drove me crazy because I constantly had to play detective just so I could know the truth and convince myself I wasn't crazy.

[@xgjklmnott5]

Me , I'm not a pathological liar but definitely on the verge of becoming a compulsive liar solely from the fact that I get scared that people will leave if I tell them the plain truth . But guess fabricating the truth only leads to worse . I've done wrong things and I'll try to accept them and learn rather than blame shift.

[@ryansung6665]

thank you doctor- very helpful in diagnosing someone I knew

[@rem898maxamillion]

Never trust a liar who just wants to use you and take what's yours.

[@dzeko1167]

A friend of mine constantly tries to tell me that he's a compulsive liar. But I refuse to believe him.

[@whatismylifeanymore]

As one myself..yeah maybe believe him abit, cuz ik sometime's i do it kinda as a warning? ig and just to watch out ig? but you do never know

[@chrisbcakes4949]

Please could you do a video about enmeshment?

[@DarrenFMagee]

Hi there I made two videos on emotional incest (or enmeshment) and the affects of it in adulthood if you find those helpful?

[@chrisbcakes4949]

@@DarrenFMagee thanks, I'll check them out. X

[@KarmaBear44]

My boyfriend is a compulsive liar. I asked him why he feels the need to lie for no reason. He didn't respond. But he has been caught in so many lies and still lies about it even though the proof is right in front of our faces. It's so annoying. Makes me want to throw in the towel because I can't trust him or believe anything he says

[@hhhbbbccc]

But you're still with him. That says more about you than it does him. Now the problem becomes that when you feel he's telling the truth, you will want him to keep lying to you because that's what you're used to. If what he started with are lies, then he might as well finish with them.

[@littleangelF]

thank you for this video. i was dating someone for about 9 months and had a feeling they were lying about a lot of things, but just finally got proof. struggling to make sense of it and determine if i should still give them a chance to be in my life. he lied about his career accomplishments, his assets, and who knows what else. for example, he told me he owns multiple companies and that he traveled to romania for work. it was recently confirmed when i finally met his best friend and his mother that he is just an employee, that he never went to romania, and also that he has this habit of lying or “exaggerating” as his mother said. trying to make sense of this. is it compulsive? is he a narcissist since he told obvious and very detailed lies most likely in order to impress me? i am a very honest person and feel like liars are magnetically attracted to me. in my mind, none of the lies had any purpose because i’m not hung up on material things. but i’m sure that to him, there was a reason. there was a motive behind it. or perhaps he just enjoys living in the fantasy? is that a sign of a personality disorder, or is that just lying for the thrill of lying…

[@nithaphilip544]

Escape xx

[@janetpattison8474]

WHAT? OMG. I hope you can get professional help, so u can escape the nut case you have allowed into your life.., and learn how to attract a decent partner.

[@senseibowie1808]

Probably lies for attention

[@peterbalac1915]

My ex has Bpd, she is pathological liar said she had a big five bedroomed house, every room had an ensuite she a and her husband sold it to be mortgage free and move into a holiday apartment. Constantly boasting that shes loaded and doesn't need to work drives a bit of an old banger. Turned out she never owned the house it was rented by her husband's former employer as part of the job , apparently it wasent that lavish either. She also workes a really unfulfilling job on minimum wage bizarre.

[@Mcduggies]

Im here because of a coworker dudes lies then contradicts himself in the next sentence with another lie. When I point it out he stands his ground on the first lie. Whats baffling, his lies do not gain him anything.

[@lorenavaldez869]

Great explanation, thank you...made it easy to understand.

[@WeirdButterfly]

That "always tell the truth that way you don't have to remember anything" but once I tell a certain lie to someone I only remember that storyline with that person and if another person gets involved I tell the exact same lie so then I end up believing yeah that happened but it didnt.

[@cintowin]

I noticed most comments are ones saying they know someone. I wondered why not many said they, themselves could relate like many of these informative mental health videos you'll see a whole array of people who looked up the video and can relate. Then it hit me.. the lying .. explains lack of comments and "someone" they know ones.

[@zanzikar7]

As Christian I need an answer to this question that I can not find anywhere. Can I be compelled to lie against my will as lying is a sin. "You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor." The Ninth Commandment....✝

[@Poppy-yx8js]

I don’t have roommates. I live alone. I don’t live with people.

[@theperfectautumn8781]

Subject Idea: what would cause a sibling who (like myself) once did not like our narc father, but then now the narc father can do no wrong in this golden child sibling's eyes, even as the narc father scapegoats me? There is no empathy, understanding, acknowledging whatever I say regarding how I am treated. This sibling used to see through our narc father...now he is 110% blind and I am the problem. (Divide and conquer? ... but how were these roles chosen for each of us by narc father?)

[@JacquiMAustralia]

Where does lying/inventing stories/re-writing history on social media sit?

[@privateprivate8366]

I’d have to watch again, to better understand. But, it’s interesting watching my sister lie. I’ve never known her well and we’re in probate. I feel she’s a malignant narcissist. I see her lie like running water. It difficult to understand whether she just feels she’s just an excellent liar or that the judge and court are stupid, that telling the truth in court and then lying about the truth she told means history faking, etc. It’s as if she also doesn’t realize that, she might be able to get over with a lie here or there, but also feels that if she establishes a pattern of lying, she’ll still get over. Let’s not forget lying, when there is email and video evidence. Of course, there’s also that narcissistic lying, I started recognizing in my mother. What I mean is, “You and I both know I’m lying, but I love to watch you struggle, within the context of my lying, knowing an onlooker doesn’t know.” I think, for my mother, it was an issue of status. The well-respected mother’s word will always be taken over her daughter’s. But, this is why, when you find that you’re dealing with someone, who lies profusely, it’s important to keep evidence. I have emails, video from my property, body worn recording devices. Because this goes beyond one-to-one gaslighting. It becomes a direct plan to destroy, because that lying becomes weaponized against you, with the inclusion of others. One of your biggest problems, with people who lie, are outsiders, just like dealing with anything else narcissistic. When people instinctively suspect a person is dangerous or stronger, even through lying, you’d be surprised at how quickly they’ll run for cover, under the liar’s feigned good graces and dump the most apparent victim of their lies. Just like many narcissists and enablers, it may depend upon who they like, rather than evidence. Still, you may do yourself some good, by maintaining evidence. Especially in a legal setting.

[@karolinagolda8362]

i think i might me a compulsive liar, ive had a few arguements with my partner recently and the last one last night we were going over me lying to him at the start of the relationship. since the third arguement on this i tried my best to tell the truth I really did. Then last night we talked again and i started lying and he caught me on it and the worst part is i didnt even realise i was lying, i was trying to give an excuse for my behaviour, i dont know why. it was a stupid lie too it had no purpose, i think i was just trying to make the situation i was lying about sound better. i dont want to lie i dont want to keep hurting him and all his trust for me is gone and i feel so guilty for it. i dont know how to fix myself

[@HM-pn8iu]

I have a coworker who lies all the time and will lie more to "sell" the first lie. Also I've noticed that she finds one person in the office to gossip about all of the time (kind of a scape goat for all that is wrong). What I wonder is if there are more worrisome behaviors she might do? I wouldn't trust her as far as I could throw her.

[@onurbole7921]

Why are there so few studies and videos on the subject? Many chronic liars are not narcissists or psychopaths, they do not necessarily have a personality disorder. They do not want to be that way and they recognize it makes their life worse. There are some books for psychology students and many videos that stigmatize these people, very few that actually try to help. That makes me think there aren't many therapists who specialize in this (I would say common) issue. And therapy is expensive.

[@cjoseygirl70]

False accusers pathological or compulsive?

[@risenandreturning]

What category does a lie that a person tells which is guaranteed to be found out fall into? I don't understand how an intelligent person can tell a lie that they know will be exposed. Such as saying that you paid the rent when you didn't. Your partner will find out eventually - why tell a lie and suffer more later for not just fessing up? I can't understand it. Prolonging a slightly painful or embarrassing truth so you can suffer longer till it is exposed.... what a hellish world they live in!

[@melodysafo5437]

I just found out that I've been lying wuthout even knowing

[@tay6807]

He says he lies sometimes to protect me. I am going insane. Has anyone else dealt with this?

[@lukebaehr3851]

Compulsive and pathological are interchangeable.

[@robnormann]

To be honest this video was difficult to follow. The shifting back and forth between different disorderes and how they can be distingused of. Please consider adding a headline when you shift to talk about other alike disorders, or use fewer disorders for perspective. None the less, thank you for your video 👍

[@komaa4010]

I do lie alot but I do it to stay away from family and to and to kinda secure my mind? Idk what I would call it i do feel guilty sometimes i just do it to make small talk aswell Idk what that could be. Maybe I am also just a liar

[@dumbbumsc5329]

So I vaguely know why I lie, is therapy and practice all I can do to stop this weird, unnecessary, behavior. It’s starting to really impact my life

[@Sooz3112]

Thank you x

[@inspirationr2]

What about someone who lies simply to avoid conversations about poor behaviours or choices?

[@danielcarvalho1453]

I love to lie all the time. I especially love to lie to people about my name and ethnicity.

[@AjimoleVarghese]

Is it necessary for always to have to tell the truth 🤔 to everyone? I don't think so. Most people are eager after the truth about someone to get things to manipulate and gaslight the victims. Really.

[@howeid]

My mum and her boyfriend are both compulsive liars and it's driving me nuts listening to them, while they're here on holiday. They tell lies for no reason. It's so strange. I can't work it out. Why they need to lie.

[@prarthanapathak8100]

May be it’s a mental issue…contact a psychologist

[@howeid]

@@prarthanapathak8100 100% mental

[@michaelplumpton8873]

When the whole family has been living a lie all thier life in one way or another it comes naturally to bullshit thier way through life

[@Flinto762]

Do pathological liars have a high tendency towards kleptomania?

[@audreyblackmon8413]

My husband is narcissistic lies for no good reason I’m bipolar because of him I’m so screwed up

[@Shirleydepurley]

I just broke up with a Narcisistic liar.. you can do it

[@Payton_Jordan1997]

Reminds me of Phaedra Parks from RHOA. Her personality is that of a pathological liar.

[@NikkiBikkiNZ]

I know someone who lies about or exaggerates most things, it’s quite ridiculous what they come out with. They use others in their lies, like family members, friends or acquaintances etc saying things about them to get sympathy or for others to think better of them, it drives me nuts

[@theperfectautumn8781]

Can someone be both?

[@bijouxdoum6199]

I was friends with a lady that has multiple names, lol. She lies all the time. Big lies, little lies, it dont matter. Sometimes I go with it for the entertainment, but other times it's annoying and I really don't have time to listen to her stories for herself to feel more secure. I guess I have my own issues wanting to try be her friend. I'm no doctor and can't diagnose but I could never live like that. I'm not impressed by all the money she lies about having. I don't care if she never works and is just a lazy person. She should be honest to people. I would guess compulsive liar/ Narcissistic/self esteem/bi polar/paranoid schizophrenic/ I would guess she is all of the above

[@somethinggood9267]

Bipolar has absolutely nothing to do with lying

[@Rowganlife]

i came for the narcissist's, but liars are fun, too!

[@lesliecox4914]

Is it curable?

[@trevorgamble4101]

Hiding something or somebodys hurt.

[@steffidas4785]

they literally wait for the right time to ruin you so basically suppose you are in financial crisis they will at that point only ask the highest amount of money from you in the name of help without any shame,they will never give you any statement at the right time but always when you are actually deficient of that resource ,this is classic manipulation classic, twisting any reality is everyone's favorite game the issue is when you forget how the game started

[@maryc6189]

A Lie is a lie. There are no shades.

[@AZDC99]

Thank you for your comment because I'm so sick of all this categorizing of what type of lie for what reason. I have zero tolerance for family, friends, or even light acquaintances for when I catch them in lies. It's an instant FRIENDSHIP KILLER for me and I'll caller-block the person immediately

[@maryc6189]

@@AZDC99 That means you have a discerning spirit concerning lies and truth. You see them clearly. With the way this world is turning you will need it.

[@crankyoldperson6871]

@@maryc6189 I don’t know if I could be that severe. I am definitely guilty of telling the occasional white lie, and strangely enough have found myself in a predicament of having to cultivate telling lies. It doesn’t come easily to me because I have been conditioned to believe lying is wrong. The lies I tell are motivated by the need to get my elderly mother to shower, change clothes etc due to her alzheimers. It’s not something I’m proud of, but feel is a necessary evil.

[@whatismylifeanymore]

@@AZDC99 *stares in compulsive liar* ..mk, i get it but also..idk this just makes me feel icky-

[@kathyjenkins4067]

They all know their lieing!😢But, you don't ! Until you figure them out! Don't waist your life! Run!

[@a.o.584]

Yah my ex is definitely a pathological liar.

[@PHILLIPSTEFFON-rv6eo]

People will lie In wait for the outcome for that lie they told people are so wicked I don't even think it's 3%of goodness in them 🤥🤔🤔🤔🤔

[@Em-im1yz]

Narc lies about achievement yea my ex.

[@brentjowers7032]

Butthurt

[@PHILLIPSTEFFON-rv6eo]

Some people are both as long as they can get away with it simple🤔🐍🐍🐍🐍🤥

[@cintowin]

I'm not a compulsive liar ;) very well put clip.

[@Asadc1995]

Im no way at all a pathological liar mostly a compulsive type of one. Lying sometimes when things are necessary. Like being in court some 1 year ago. Where i did bend the truth to the judge when i explained her. Big difference on lying when things sometimes is necessary vs lying completely out of motivation everyone lies to some degree not just when things are necessary but also white lies for that matter which are harmless lies in fact

[@maureenbennett809]

Great!😁

[@user-jc7xl1jm5q]

I’m a pathological liar

[@emilytaylor1001]

❤️

[@joshuaroefs9279]

Someone should take my ex to study 😂 she'll look you in the eye and lie completely about what happened when you were watching then insist that she's not lying and you're just misremembering or stupid

[@trevorgamble4101]

It's sad need help

[@Stayingwithmysideme]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@patrickrussell6284]

Are you reading a script? It looks practiced kinda forced. Don't get me wrong its empowering info just looks like your acting

[@stopwithitnowthx]

😂😂😂

[@Tubiggiesmalls]

John Ashley is a liar