the stuff that nightmares are made of in human form...
@RioJudy Жыл бұрын
No kidding! Dangerous!
@Portia620 Жыл бұрын
Understatement of all time!!! Agreed!
@Portia620 Жыл бұрын
@@RioJudy very much so
@thescapegoatclub Жыл бұрын
YES! 🥴
@brianreed8271 Жыл бұрын
Yeah I was stuck in that nightmare for 14 years. After living through that I realize how strong I am.
@robbiePlanetaSano Жыл бұрын
A business partner lied, cheated and stole from me and pretended to be my best friend… I kicked him out of my life. I just found out that he was just excommunicated from his church for lying, cheating and stealing from all the members of the church. His wife left him. He lost his job and karma kicked his butt. I have been no contact for almost a year but he called the accountant and tried to rip us off again a few days ago. No amount of loss stops these people. His church chose “ no contact” to defend it’s members from a very dark personality . He tried to ruin my life, for fun…
@nodozhit Жыл бұрын
Passive aggressive tendencies should be the 10th trait for calling out these toxic types
@rachelwilliams3108 Жыл бұрын
Demons get pleasure destroying you. They can't change, that is who they are.
@carolmaplesden916 Жыл бұрын
straight up truth this is what i call shape shifters demons working through people the demons cannot change if a snake sheds its skin its still a snake im pretty sure this is what is referred to as demon possessed
@izawaniek2568 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Darren. There are a lot of people with These kinds of traits. They wreak havoc whereever they go.
@LR-yu3mx Жыл бұрын
Yes... Definitely!
@helenshg4580 Жыл бұрын
Thank you very much for this valuable guide to help me understand potential dangerous traits before I get taken in as a victim. I used to give ppl a huge margin for errors. I have been taken as a fool repeatedly. Now I give ppl one chance to show disrespect ( lie or cheat or steal or etc. ) before I do all I can to cancel connections with them.
@NoMoreHeroesAnymore1334 Жыл бұрын
I used to give three strikes, but I soon realized if somebody would do something that'd make me genuinely mentally give them one strike, they'd NEVER FAIL to do it twice more. Now I save the time and do what you do: One chance only.
@klattalexis Жыл бұрын
"When people show you who they are, believe them the first time". Mya Angelo @@NoMoreHeroesAnymore1334
@karenmcclellanmach7 Жыл бұрын
Very useful. One example is WIIFM..short for "what's in it for me?" or "me first". Danke.
@Just...Peachy8 ай бұрын
I think empaths should employ WIIFM to avoid becoming a doormat. I plan on asking that to myself when I enter into another relationship. I always bend over backwards and it gets me nowhere.
@thescapegoatclub Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Darren. It’s so hard to be on the end of any of these, let alone live with most of the traits in most of our family members. Awareness helps.
@Quazgaa Жыл бұрын
"the scapegoat club" lol what if i dont want to be in this club
@thescapegoatclub Жыл бұрын
@@Quazgaa Right! I totally agree. I wish I wasn’t in it either! Well, I’m kinda classifying myself as ex-scapegoat now. Takes time, but there is an escape. 💪🙂
@nicoledburns82 Жыл бұрын
I thought my sister was just narcissistic but I have seen her laugh at news videos of a kid being mauled by a dog and then saying the kid deserved it. She's told Me my kids were better off if I were dead. She has openly and blatantly lied to numerous members of the family. Started sending overly filtered pictures of herself to a family group chat used for planning holidays with my elderly grandparents. Refused to go to our brothers wedding because she wasn't the maid of honor. Constantly threatening to kill herself whenever someone offers criticism. She went from being a "save the world vegan" to a "BBQ eating lifted diesel truck driving carnivore" literally overnight. I have no idea what to call her but she scares the crap put of me. I hate being around her.
@thescapegoatclub Жыл бұрын
Your sister sounds awful. I can relate to feeling scared. Mine too, gives me nightmares. Literally. Having looked into her eyes and searched for humanity and found... a black hole... I don’t know what she is capable of. She has no moral filter, no concept of deeply hurting other people. There’s no soul there. It’s unnerving to be around and terrifying to be on the end of when she is crossed.
@LR-yu3mx Жыл бұрын
In my years of teaching, I saw people like what you describe. Even headmasters. I had such a teacher in the 5th grade. I saw karma catch ing up with him and others
@nicoledburns82 Жыл бұрын
@@thescapegoatclub yes its very unsettling. I always have to be a bigger person and not respond but man its hard biting your tongue.
@nicoledburns82 Жыл бұрын
@@LR-yu3mx I'm still waiting to see if karma ever hits mine lol. But in school that would be really horrible to see.
@midnightpaperparty9687 Жыл бұрын
@@nicoledburns82 Could she be a psychopath? The real deal is what I mean, and these, from what I understand, are born not made, and can be quite sadistic. Whatever she is, be careful!
@andreacarss4718 Жыл бұрын
I like that the main dark personality components have been broken down so easier to identify. I’ve been trying to recognise narcissism in people close to me but this is far simpler and identifies unwanted traits whether there is a personality disorder diagnosis or not - thank you 🙏
@Teacher369 Жыл бұрын
Darren Magee, I sooo appreciate you. ☀️ 💕 ☮️
@leapsill1969 Жыл бұрын
This was absolutely hands down one of the best videos I’ve seen. I’ve been studying narcissism but this video explains how all theses traits can be linked and how they are used. Thank you!!!🙏
@Portia620 Жыл бұрын
He’s the best I have seen on the internet!
@an-ic6gs Жыл бұрын
Dr Darren F Magee tell us please are you belongs to last zodiac sign ? Yes or no
@andydufresne8034 Жыл бұрын
I guess I'm still wrapping my head around this stuff because I've been seeing narcissism as the central core of all these other behaviours rather than just one of them.
@midnightpaperparty9687 Жыл бұрын
I think most, if not all of these traits, have narcissism as one of their symptoms - plus a slew of even nastier stuff. Narcissism is just one of the spices, but is constantly recurring ingredient in the recipe for each flavor of scary individual discussed here.
@Eighties-Jadie Жыл бұрын
Thanks Darren ☀️
@obieobrien5883 Жыл бұрын
Years ago, my ex complained about everything that was being done by the troop leaders in our sons scout group. He said that he could do everything better, he pushed out the current troop leaders, and ruined it for everybody. The former troop leaders went to the scout Council, asked to disband the troop and had a ton of evidence. The troop was disbanded, and I thought he was gonna blow a gasket he was so angry. I was thankful because three years later the troop reorganized and the former leaders did not allow him to come back.
@TrishLee Жыл бұрын
There are so much to learn, we need to learn about it so that we know the danger of those traits and how it could affect you! This is so informative Darren, thank you for sharing this video with us!❤
@DarrenFMagee Жыл бұрын
You are welcome Trish glad you liked it, still enjoying your content too 👍
@fidelmashelton9491 Жыл бұрын
Very good insight Darren, so spot on and hard to deal with.
@Portia620 Жыл бұрын
Thank you! These are the best videos I have ever seen!!!
@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753Ай бұрын
Yes, I totally agree! Darren has a very clear way of identifying everything and spelling it out, and stays on point while being comprehensive. I have to say, though, that I love his accent and voice tone.
@s.hicks7213 Жыл бұрын
This is hard to listen to especially when I have someone with at least 7 of these traits in my close family. It’s terrifying how “dark” people can really be but it’s even scarier when you’re unarmed without information so that you can protect yourself from someone from wrecking your life-then in turn blaming yourself because you’ve been programmed to do so. Thank you. ♥️🙏🏻
@TYGZus777 Жыл бұрын
I have gone no-contact with many family members. I receive a lot of criticism from my adult child about it, but maybe he'll understand when he gets fed up with it all, too. I just can't do it anymore.
@Butterfly-if1qs Жыл бұрын
This is a most excellent and defining video. Thank you Darren for putting this together for us! I have a new title for it though, "Don't Touch That!". It seems I have more than my share of experience with people in all of this. What I know for sure is, do not expect them to change!! They don't meet the requirement, in general, or are incapable of, being honest with themselves. Therefore cannot take an honest look at the situations and will not be honest with you, or anyone else around them. The video perhaps needs a trailer that makes it clear for victims to stop expecting them to change! Behavior tells the story. Not their words. Victims of these personalities cannot always tell they are being victimized if the abuser is so "nice" About their dismantling of you. Great information, thank you!
@carolmaplesden916 Жыл бұрын
all of it i went through the list agen and on a scale from 1-10 i rated my dad a 10 for everyone with past references in mind i saw some horrible sit growing up what made it so bad the most was he would be basically nice to my face and stab me in the back He went so far as to go to my school like around 2nd grade and talked to the principal and my teachers to give me a bad reputation growing up so confused you can't imagine what it took to over come the bs i could write a book of his horrible nastyness broken hearts broken bones and several lives has gotten cut off early i thank my God and Jesus Christ for beautiful people like this man God love you for your help
@cheriedekeyser8984 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the clarity
@aliceroberts1980 Жыл бұрын
This is my narcissistic husband I found out about him and double down on all of theses Traits just because I found out what he was what he was doing. And the nasty snicker on their face what do you know they are enjoying it and they think it a good thing
@Keys7 Жыл бұрын
When you know, you GO.
@michaelcorrigan4625 Жыл бұрын
Really interesting analysis. A considerable number of UK politicians appear to fit this profile. If this is an emotional derived condition, then behaviour can change. However, if this a mental disability then change is extremely problematic. Using certain UK politicians as an example, it would appear to be a mental condition in these cases. Fascinating series of programmes, many thanks for putting these on KZbin.
@thexpozer5389 Жыл бұрын
Scary! This is Narcissistic traits too!
@FilipRanogajec Жыл бұрын
I'm new to your channel (a few days ago), but I like these kinds of videos. All those traits are very bad for everyone. Narcissism, Machiavelianism and Psychopathy form the Dark Triad, and it's a relatively new psychological term (I think they said it was first introduced in 2002). There is a new suggestion of adding sadism to that bunch, turning it into a Dark Tetrad, and it's very new (some years back they suggested it). What is your opinion on those and how do they affect society in general, and individual people? Looking forward to seeing more. 😉
@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753Ай бұрын
Oh, dear God, no wonder my marriage was so confusing! I'm shocked to realize that my ex has exhibited all of these traits in the few months we were married. No wonder this has been so difficult and scary. He had blue eyes, and I could swear that they became very dark blue eyes when he was raging.
@christophercruz8359 Жыл бұрын
I've run into a few of this kind in my time.
@ponytail911 Жыл бұрын
They are evil to the core. 😈
@susancosgrove5010 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, another brilliant video and great insights. 👍
@ItIsJustJudy Жыл бұрын
Describing my elder siblings, yet again. 😢
@thescapegoatclub Жыл бұрын
I’m with you, sadly. I’ll throw my mum and dad in there for good measure too. ☹️
@midnightpaperparty9687 Жыл бұрын
I married into a mess of them.
@kennethlapointesongwriter3330 Жыл бұрын
No matter what you call it, it's continuous harmful/evil intentions against another. Can't stop, can't change, no responsibility, no conscience, no remorse, no contriteness, basically act all the time, approximate a machine or inanimate object as to how uncaring they are. Sociopaths, psychopaths, full-blown narcissists. Sort of like an animal with rabies. Terrible to say, but these are terrible human beings. Best to leave alone, cut all ties.
@winter-qd4yw Жыл бұрын
Thank you, this video is very helpful and cleared up some confusion I was having over a “narcissist” who had some of these other traits. By the way, I really appreciate that you let us know that there is not a “one size fits all”. When I finally started understanding and researching what I was dealing with I would get stuck/ have f doubts because not everything matched. Thanks again!
@sylvanaalbertsaade011 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, thank you 🙏🌠
@heathersoper69238 ай бұрын
You have just described the man I have put in court. The lies, the manipulation, the Ego, the Rage.
@TYGZus777 Жыл бұрын
My mom left her very nice house to one of my 3 siblings, in her will. This sibling was instructed to use this house for habitation or sell it to pay for habitation elsewhere. The contents of the house were supposed to be divided between the 4 siblings. Since she was the designated financial executor, she took our mother's will and rewrote it. Now it's set up so that when she dies the house and all of its contents will be auctioned off, and all the proceeds will go to a local doggy day care, LLC. None of the remaining family members will be allowed in the house, our own mother's home! What a bitter, spiteful person. And she did all this because she lost her control over us when our mom died. She used to be able to go cry to mom whenever we didn't act how she wanted us to act. Mom used to put a guilt trip on us, and make us apologize and then cow-tow to her demands. My mom's house and its contents were supposed to be divided up between all the remaining children if this sibling died before us. My mom would be very upset if she knew what my sibling did, just to spite us, but I'm sure she would still make excuses for her. This sibling has never made one mortgage payment or had any "grown-up" responsibility her entire 64-year-long life. She has always manipulated others to get her way.
@brianreed8271 Жыл бұрын
It took me 14 years to get to know her as well as you do Darren
@BubbaGump777 Жыл бұрын
All I ever hear is, well, "I'm just different from you and you don't like that"...yeah, whatever.
@therealspixycat Жыл бұрын
Hi Darren, could you also discuss the immature parent? Thanks
@DarrenFMagee Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your suggestion 👍
@footsock2811 Жыл бұрын
Hi Darren! These videos are really interesting, I’m wondering if you could do a video on recurrent depressive disorder?
@DarrenFMagee Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your suggestion 👍
@via25ballarsa Жыл бұрын
Good info
@mhopkins9071 Жыл бұрын
If somebody has a combination of these traits, what are they? Can someone exhibit all 9? And finally, What's the difference between a covert narcissist and a sociopath?
@Portia620 Жыл бұрын
Good question!
@midnightpaperparty9687 Жыл бұрын
What's the difference between a covert narcissist and a sociopath? The former is my MIL, and the later is my husband. Lucky me. 🤭Any other questions?
@heartburn6160 Жыл бұрын
Does anyone genuinely understand personality disorders and their traits? Even the experts can't agree, and often the experts exhibit the traits themselves. How can someone determine the lack of empathy in others when they don't feel empathy themselves?
@AndrewNuttallWearsPants Жыл бұрын
I really appreciate how well you explain these topics. I wonder if you have looked into the effects of mislabeling patients this way? For example, because of how information is shared in the medical system, a false diagnosis of sadism or psychopathy would result in extremely uncomfortable encounters with doctors and nurses for the patient - and have the same effects as medical gaslighting. How would a patient fix the problem? What are the ethics of these misdiagnoses?
@DarrenFMagee Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your question. I'm hoping to have a psychiatrist on my channel soon to discuss the diagnostic process so stay tuned hopefully your questions will be answered
@Portia620 Жыл бұрын
@SilverSerpent64 nailed it! Medical gaslighting happens and is dangerous when they say it’s in our heads!!!
@Rasheens-Story Жыл бұрын
This behavior Sounds like my mother and the people who’ve been harassing me on my success journey
@TYGZus777 Жыл бұрын
Gotta watch out for the jealous frienimies!
@carolmaplesden916 Жыл бұрын
man.. man o man i have to listen to this agen but i think my dad ( im in my 60s) hits all of these like for real
@patriciafry863414 күн бұрын
To me, these traits are all possessed by the Malignant Narcissists I know. Dark Triad and Dark Tetrad often present. Destructive, hurtful people
@trkernan321Ай бұрын
To undergo the Mighty Changes: Labor in the Vineyard
@jamigaither Жыл бұрын
Why do we not shun these behaviors out of fashion? How do these folks manage to remain engaged? Are we all sadists allowing them in our lives?
@Keys7 Жыл бұрын
I don't allow them in my life anymore. We must be " watchmen at the gate" once we begin to notice these negative behaviors ans we KNOW we haven't done anything to cause them, time to go....
@janedoh1232 ай бұрын
I believe that it’s not empathy that they lack as the dictionary definition is that you can mentally identify how someone may be effected or feeling about a situation, how someone with normal empathy would feel compassionate towards someone who has been in an accident or something whereas the narcissist would have empathy for the themselves in how their partner should they be bed ridden because of an accident they would feel empathy towards themselves and how their supply is going to be affected I think that they should change that narcissistic personality disorder sufferers lack compassion
@taom9004 Жыл бұрын
I suppose if they can get better with a lot of hard work, then they can get worse with the wrong feedback loop around them? My mum, at 80, has become a monster. But I don't remember her being like this, well, momentary lapses perhaps, but she was generally agreeable when I was a girl and my dad was the huge stressor. She got pretty abusive when she left my father to remarry her lover, and shortly after I had my first chlld, but she hid that resentment and those delusions from just about everyone but me, her only daughter. Now her grand kids are grown, she's pushed everyone away. She's just poison. She can't seem to control herself. How common is this, I wonder?
@TYGZus777 Жыл бұрын
Sounds like one of my sisters, she's 64. I think bitterness just grows and grows until it eats you up.
@big_sky_country Жыл бұрын
he had all these traits. tried to kill me at least 3 times.
@thescapegoatclub Жыл бұрын
Hope you are ok 😍
@deetheman3508 Жыл бұрын
You previously made a video about the cancel culture. Would you do one on the personality of the social justice warrior?
@SueDenimDomDenim Жыл бұрын
You have described my stbex husband
@carolmaplesden916 Жыл бұрын
my prayers are with you
@janedoh1232 ай бұрын
Once a narcissist lays their hands on you you’re going into the psychopath realm
@tudormanor5459 Жыл бұрын
They can change! That is if they want to change 🤦🏻♀️
@marrlena947 Жыл бұрын
No they can't and don't want to change.
@bornagain2890 Жыл бұрын
What we don't see is the demonic activity behind it.
@Maja-re4mq Жыл бұрын
Great 👍🤩😍
@ianstewartorr8455 Жыл бұрын
My brother to a tee
@ktryushi4744 Жыл бұрын
One thing I don’t understand about ‘’dark triad’’ is that it doesn’t fit to secondary psychopathy but it fits to primary psychopathy. Interesting…I mean secondary psychopathy can have dark triad as well, no? So basically a sociopath can’t have dark triad? But ASPD individuals with primary psychopathy can have dark triad? Never understood this…It’s basically the same. The other is born that way and the other is made by environmental, genetic. I believe sociopaths can behave like a psychopath as well. And most licensed psychologist don’t know this. I know some of high-functioning sociopaths who are diagnosed one behave like a psychopath…Calm, cold, indifferent, calculated…And they have Dark triad as well 🤔 but most psychologist says ‘’dark triad’’ fits more primary psychopathy and I disagree with that…
@janedoh1232 ай бұрын
They are not always as clever as they think especially when underestimating the strength of their victims friends when they try to make them their flying monkeys
@worldsyoursent.1635 Жыл бұрын
🙏🙏🙏💚
@kathleenbristol6747 Жыл бұрын
my husband narc.has all of those traits
@ClaraMagdalenaofQumran Жыл бұрын
🙏🙏🎯💯✔
@basketballfan5763 Жыл бұрын
Hi Darren...wanna let u know I've been2months criticizing my ex calling him a vulnerable narcissist.....only to discover some horrific news I will not divulge....we can b SO wrong.....😥😥😥😥😥 the dangers of us diagnosing people off of KZbin videos...tho I did start to get suspicious I was wrong throughout...and I did need counselling I could not afford...so u did help me...and I thank u....I've been wanting to post this comment the past week 😥😥
@symbolsandsystems Жыл бұрын
Is consciousness even possible without ego?
@janedoh1232 ай бұрын
They are envious and want rewards without effort
@amrapalibhagat1111 Жыл бұрын
Our PM, Narendra Modi is the best candidate for these traits.
@emilytaylor1001 Жыл бұрын
❤
@Elizabeth-y6t Жыл бұрын
Marry and be Mary
@mzliberty7647 Жыл бұрын
merry .. ?
@janedoh1232 ай бұрын
The person with npd can make hell feel like home
@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753Ай бұрын
I think rather, they make hell out of your home
@leestrz4153 Жыл бұрын
Wondering where masochism exists within this.
@dalestaley5637 Жыл бұрын
Sounds like Trump, Putin, Kim.
@midnightpaperparty9687 Жыл бұрын
Yes, dictators (and wannabe dictators) all share some scary psychological profiles!
@symbolsandsystems Жыл бұрын
The Center is missing.
@lenihassveasphaug96344 ай бұрын
It’s demonic!
@Elizabeth-y6t Жыл бұрын
If you are single, Will you Mary me I'm, black Kenyan born Irish.
@deeboolove1301 Жыл бұрын
I think a lot of people do things that are dark but they think it’s light they feel justified because they believe that their idea of art and life is the only way to be and they’ve limited God and that’s just the way they are and I think that you just have to except you’ll never be a part of the world because you could never fit in their world and you would never compromise your idea of God and the loveliness that God expresses through you whether it’s art on the wall or fashion designs on your clothes or just your make up and hair it’s like God is everything and how you perceive of God and what you believe about God really determines the circles that you can really socialize in and if you don’t fit into people so ideology and you don’t you don’t share their same values absolutely impossible mix I appreciate this video I’m hurting a lot I really wanted to be a part of this world but I just I do not believe God is out absent from the art that goes onto the loveliness of the body as a woman and I don’t think God is absent there it’s like he does not express himself in your clothes he does not expressed your make up he does not expressed himself in your hair you are not inspired by God in your appearance he is void there is a big space God is absent and that is with regard to your parents and I just don’t believe that I think God is in everything including the way you look so I have to just really heal myself from wanting the love of these people that are really not loving to me at all if they did they would care about how I feel but they hold their limited myopic idea of physical parents virtue signaling simplicity and impose this simple idea of art and God on to everyone like a communist country and it’s just show demoralizing humiliating and soul crushing and I’m just sick of it I really appreciate your video it’s a little bit of hope in a very dark world ❤️🔥🖼🙏😌🪺🦋🎉
@cbnovick Жыл бұрын
Trump
@AndrewNuttallWearsPants Жыл бұрын
AOC, Trudeau, Kamala Harris.
@ar4122 Жыл бұрын
Just what i was thinking
@RioJudy Жыл бұрын
Yep.
@RioJudy Жыл бұрын
@@AndrewNuttallWearsPants Donald Trump, Mitch McConnell, Ron DeSantis, Greg Abbott, and more…. The GOP is many many older males who are infected with full on mental illness. A cult of ugliness.