Dating a Crystal Meth Addict Part I // Codependency

[@mizzhott1661]

U posted this at the right time in my like where I needed to hear this.... My boyfriend is an addict who doesn't admit he's an addict. Meth.

[@Chantalthiel]

That means a lot to me, thank you! If there is anything I can help you with let me know.

[@SerenityOasis444]

I don’t think any of them admit it . My ex will take it to his grave I’m sure

[@tayoriginal4067]

@@SerenityOasis444 yes! Deny it to the death.

[@tayoriginal4067]

Same. They are in such denial. It's so sad to watch. Especially when it's the father of your child and your husband. 😪

[@MiaMacklin]

I felt like I was only the one who was going through this with an addicted partner. I love him so much and to see him going through this and doing this drug hurts me. It’s like he’s draining me. He won’t admit he needs help, and no one knows he does this drug in particular other than myself and his “friends”. He hid his pipes from me twice and our relationship tanked ever since he began using really in January. I just pray he stops.

[@tayoriginal4067]

This is heartbreaking. This drug is evil. There is nothing worse than watching the one you love the most slowly dying in front of you for a temporary buzz. It's broken me before, and I refuse to allow it to happen again.

[@Chantalthiel]

thanks for watching and yes totally agree! lotsa love from Germany :)

[@naomicrowder3444]

My fiancé looks like she’s physically dying. She’s sick almost all the time. I know she’s doing it and she Denys it. I have to let her go

[@miriamrios5820]

@@naomicrowder3444 let her go

[@miriamrios5820]

@@Chantalthiel my husband does it snd it's like hell in life

[@Phoenix-tq8lt]

@@naomicrowder3444 or try to help her

[@sukhjinderdhaliwal5199]

Thank you for sharing this! The way you mention about crying for your true love hits me really hard.

[@deshawnaprice6840]

I met someone.... Fell in love. It felt soooo deep! Fell pregnant. He got cold. I've spent basically these 31 weeks alone. I just realized he's on meth. I should've seen it. I didn't. I feel all kind of ways. But ultimetly he denied. Tried to convince me that I have a mental issue. Denying all the paraphanalia. The picking at his face. The dentures. He had an excuse for everything. Then he just stopped responding. And that was it. It's like it never happend. But my belly says otherwise. I'll take care of my child. But this is another world I knew nothing about. I don't trust him at all. It's all sooo crazy.

[@Chantalthiel]

I am so sorry to hear you had to go through all of that. Some people will never take responsibility for their actions unfortunately. I hope you and the baby will be alright in the future!

[@tayoriginal4067]

I can totally relate to this story. And at the same time. I was pregnant last year and my husband was on meth my entire pregnancy. I was alone, broken, scared, sad, and just devastated. He denied it for so long. He lost EVERYTHING in 9 months. It was the saddest time of my life. But I am now stronger than ever from it. I have a beautiful baby boy and thats all that matters. I pray that you and your baby are doing well.

[@deshawnaprice6840]

TayTay 8887 Thanks! She’s great!!!! I’ve moved on and my estranged husband has accepted her as his. I’ve been blessed!!!! It’s crazy how strong we become when it counts!!!!

[@tayoriginal4067]

@@deshawnaprice6840 that's awesome to hear! Meth is the literally the devils drug!

[@MiriamMartinez-qt3et]

I hope you are ok with your baby.

[@Rebecca-GLaines]

14:24 "I think it's a dangerous path to see an addiction as a disease" Cold hard facts. I agree 100%. Disease is not a choice, its something that happens to you. Addiction is something that happened you do to yourself. People talk about "narcissists" all the time, but to call addiction a disease is an act of narcissism. You are such a beautiful sould btw, Im not done w your story yet, but Im here because I find myself in a similar situation, I had no idea he was using that crap... until I seen the bad effects of it... a person cant stay up that many hours and be sane. A person on substance up for that many hours is a disaster waiting to happen.

[@fifthat]

I also believe dating someone who was addicted CAUSED my co-dependency, but after knowing about it I realized that the "love" withdrawals I thought I was feeling were probably second-hand drug withdrawals. Knowing that set me free, I feel like it was all a trick and now I feel like I dodged a bullet. I'm much happier by myself. Thanks for this video!

[@Jasminecbisme]

I resonate with this deeply. I’m healing from dating a meth addict and felt way more secure before him. The withdrawals are so painful but I was losing myself trying to save him. I was losing my light, my compassion and love for self and others. It’s one of the most dark but beautiful experiences I’ve ever had. Only those who have gone through dating an addict will understand this….glad to hear you found some happiness in solitude. Hope all is going well! 💓

[@randallmencl5881]

You're story is 100% the same thing I have gone through! I was in a marriage for almost 10 years and dealt with the same things! More awareness needs to be brought to the world, so many people suffer as addicts or as people in a relationship with an addict. So many relationships and/or families could be saved if there was more awareness! Thank you for sharing!

[@Chantalthiel]

Thank you for watching and your words :)

[@randallmencl5881]

@@Chantalthiel Absolutely! I try everyday to find organizations where I can volunteer to help others that have had to deal with this in their life! It's such a battle!

[@justjen4561]

Abby Aders what did you do? I’m in the same situation currently and it’s tearing me apart

[@southtownsd619]

Thank you for these videos Chantal. I’m getting out of a 4 year marriage with a life long meth addict. A lot of what you’ve shared in these videos really hit home. It hurts but it helps to hear your stories. I used to blame myself for a lot of our problems and I’m not saying I’m perfect, but over time I had to see things and her for who she is. Thank you again.

[@Chantalthiel]

Thanks for watching and yeah and 4 years is quite some time. Lotsa healing to you! and Lotsa love from Germany!

[@abdohabdeldaim9044]

Finally I stopped this crap now two weeks no craving no anxiety no fatigue any more thanks god any advice need it or any support it will be my pleasure to help any one wanna quit meth with low low withdrawal in short time.

[@tayoriginal4067]

Please tell me, how long did you use? And what does it take for someone to want to quit and STAY sober? I'm living in a nightmare right now and I've never even touched this drug.

[@Chantalthiel]

It takes a lot of willpower and to WANT to be sober....Try to find a way out. If the person you love will be sober one day, you can make whatever relationship you have work. (If it's a family member or a partner) There is no way for you to help, other than listening if they want to talk, but otherwise the danger of you being the victim is too big.

[@thedharsheena5103]

This is so inspiring and opening. I just go out of an abusive toxic relationship with who I thought was the love of my life. The lies and the manipulation is exactly the same as your story. They all behave a way. It's sad that I thought he was the love of my life. All he did in the end was manipulate me and hurt me.

[@Chantalthiel]

Thx for commenting, and yes I can relate to what you're saying.... sometimes they don't know how to deal with life other than doing what they do and it's mostly a reflection of who they are and not who you are! You are worth every ounce of happiness even if he tried taking it away...

[@thedharsheena5103]

Journals of Codependent yes it so true but how did you manage to heal I’m still healing everyday and it was honestly by far the most traumatic year of my life

[@Chantalthiel]

@@thedharsheena5103 well.... my childhood taught me to not face my emotions and bury them somewhere...just to be released later on in a different form. It's also been a long while back, which helps...time heals and unfortunately it just takes long. It was also easier to hate him in order to process and heal...now I don't see him as that.. I am pretty indifferent, but again it takes time.... talking helps... I hope your wounds heal quickly :)

[@serenitydimitroth3665]

They're so good at hiding it. You're strong I left after finding him buying pills off coworkers and risky text on his phone. A year later everyone tells me he's strung out on meth bad. It breaks my heart, he was a good guy. They need more easy access to treatment and resources for families. Like $7000 for a month stay is ridiculous! Prayers for all.

[@SerenityOasis444]

I just got out of a relationship with an addict and being a codependent this video popped out at me so much . Thank you for Sharing your story . That’s so brave 😭

[@Chantalthiel]

thanks for that! That means a lot to me.

[@lonewolfadventures0187]

After hearing your story. It sadden me. You deserve so much better then that .. You are such a beautiful/strong woman. And wish you the best.

[@Chantalthiel]

Hi Paul, thanks for watching first of all and thanks for your kind words. I think I deserved what I got. I think we all do.... had I just stood up for my boundaries and left right when I noticed my boundaries were crossed, I would have never had to go through that. But now I won't ever because I can finally say no. Wish you the best too :)

[@chucksheppard5927]

Fell in love with a beautiful woman who showed me a picture of her ex. Wow he was older and looked like meth Frankenstein. She thought he’d stopped but he hid it well and for two years she was manipulated, beaten, raped, and sexually used constantly for two years. She thought it was just his past meth use that made him so weird, and he did have terrible psychosis, so she thought she was helping him when in fact she just enabled his meth habit and fed his cravings for sex. She somehow loved this man and tried to satisfy all his needs and the thought of this kills me. I now have OCD so bad that movie reels play constantly in my head of her time with him. Sometimes I just want to die to end this pain, but I truly love this woman and cannot leave her. IMO meth use should be a mandatory 10 years in prison because the damage the users do is horrible and permanent. I hate these people and have zero compassion for them.

[@MiriamMartinez-qt3et]

They should all be in jail, never thought about this way but my ex husband does deserve it from all the damage he did to me and my mental health

[@SelinaMeier1986]

Good job love. Sharing your experience might help people see things before it's too late. 👍

[@Chantalthiel]

thx :* this means a lot to me! I laaab joooo

[@SelinaMeier1986]

I labyuuu tooo

[@SelinaMeier1986]

As a former addict, I do not believe that addiction is a disease.

[@joejoe5673]

My crystal meth using ex has left me in the cold as he presently hooks up with random men on Grindr. Because of this past/failed relationship I will never, NEVER fall in love or be in a relationship again. I hate him so much. He was so selfish and heartless. I will work to go back to being alone for the rest of my days on this Earth. He really hurt me.

[@Chantalthiel]

Hey Joe, thanks for watching first of all. I am sorry you have to go through that! I hope it's ok with you if I share my opinion with you?

[@joejoe5673]

@@Chantalthiel sure, please share?!

[@Chantalthiel]

@@joejoe5673 well, hating someone is always easier when you've been hurt and it certainly helps in getting over an asshole rather than a nice person. One of my closest friends once told me that we do things either because of fear or because of love. Your fear of being hurt may drive your hatred, and it certainly will drive so many other things in your life that you wouldn't have done if you hadn't met your ex. By closing yourself off, you made him win. Win in the sense that he still influences how you feel and how you will behave and he shouldn't have that power over you. Only you have the power over your own emotions. Healing takes a loooong ass time but you will eventually forget or forgive even if you will never seen him again. Just for your own sake and sanity and for your own healing. I hope I didn't overstep with sharing this, but it'S something that has taken me a long time to realize and I wish back then I would've been told what I'm telling you :)

[@joejoe5673]

@@Chantalthiel Thank you so much! I suppose that I'm so consumed with his actions that I've forgotten what's true. Although everything you shared makes total sense and deep down I knew all of this, it's nice to receive reminder from others with shared experience. I have a lot of work to do and honestly I need to move on and not give up! I just feel so mentally and physically exausted I can't see past his narcissism, lies and deception. 😞😢I'll be fine someday...

[@Chantalthiel]

@@joejoe5673 you will be fine! And yes replaying shit that someone else has done to you will also help and as long as you can vent, it will be like a spirit that will eventually be exorcised from your system :) all the best to you :*

[@ashantigreen5872]

Your story made me cry you have no idea how similar our stories are.

[@Chantalthiel]

Aww I hope you will be alright! Remember that your story is probably shared by some and there are people out there who understand you. Lots of strength to you.

[@angelsheffield5612]

Amen my x was the say way I’m always think everyone doing it he messed me up sometimes I say my husband on it but he’s not because I made him get a drug test made him get in the closet And put a flashlight to his ass to see if they were dilate that’s how bad my ex is messed me up

[@adelaide1446]

Helping my partner through his detox has been the hardest on my mental health in my whole life and I've helped him get sober twice and now he is doing well very well. I feel so unappreciated, everything is my fault my mental health is so bad these days and it's not helping when he calls me a crazy bidh I dont think he realizes the pain he put on to me, he says that I have no idea what it's like to be addicted to meth and I have no reason to be hurting and my feelings arent validated because i have no idea what he is going through. I am here for him constantly I take care of him so much I forget about ME. but i deserve so much more. I wish he could see how much it hurts me. It's so hard not to take it personally I love this man more than anyone more in my life. He is the love of my life. I just want to be happy with him. No fighting I need time to heal my mental health. But I want him forever. It's hard hard as hell. Sorry for the rant I appreciate your video If you can send me some advice I would be very appreciative for some advice from anyone.

[@Chantalthiel]

Hey there and thanks for sharing your story. Let me ask you a couple of questions so that you can reflect on the answers without me telling you what to do. Do you really love him and all of him or do you love the idea of being with him or how he used to be before the drug usage? An addicted person initially chose the lifestyle so why should you even care about him and take care of him? (This question can be asked to him when he doesn't validate your feelings) Do you actually already know what you want and are just seeking validation that what you feel is ok? If he is not giving you validation, what is still giving you? Is what he is giving you toxic because he needs you? No one deserves forever when they treat you like that. And it's not about blame or who's the bad guy... it's about being respectful to each other and if that base is not even there, do you think that's going to change? Or better yet, will distance help you see things clearly? I hope these questions will help you find peace along the way! Stay strong and YES your feelings are ok! It's completely ok to feel overwhelmed! You carry just as much stress as the addicted person you are with. Lots of love!

[@mizzhott1661]

Please keep posting this material

[@erikahernandez2025]

I became addicted to meth after I fell in love for the first time at 27 years old it was a long distance relationship and all of the sudden he was living with me then the fights came and I would try breaking up with him and kick him out Everytime and the pain I felt was so great I was in such a toxic relationship but so so in love I couldn't deal with the pain alone I had lost my close friends because of my new relationship ! then I remembered I had a friend who did meth and desperate to lose the pain in my life i asked him to come over and I did it . I would call it turning off the switch because I would stop being myself and go into the trip for 3 days then when I was finally coming off it the depression and need of his love would become bigger and would get back with him . That's how I became addicted and now two years later I've been through so much negative stuff. I'm still with him and we keep trying to better our relationship but I still ran to the drug from time to time then cheat on him like there's no tomorrow 😭😭 I want this to stop but I don't know how I'm so unsecured ! Sorry I wrote so much I'm basically letting it out for myself . I'm gonna get professional help today.

[@Chantalthiel]

No worries and thanks for sharing! I hope that you will find what you are looking for and that you are looking for that within. It's so hard loving yourself and it takes forever but I am sure you will be able to get there in time. All the best to you

[@erikahernandez2025]

@@Chantalthiel thank so much ♥️

[@Liv-dw6hb]

Do you feel like you will still always love Him now Matter what? My daughthers father is an addict and it breaks my heart everyday now that he is practically a stranger and not being able to save him , knowing anyday he could die or be back in jail kills me. ill always love him with all my heart ill always want him to get better and knowing that he might never get clean and eventually die breaks my heart. People say Ill get over him but I dont think so; He is the father of my first born Ill always love him, it breaks my heart he is forever suffering and I cant change it.

[@Chantalthiel]

Hey there, thx for watching first of all. I used to feel that way long time ago... he will always be my first love...but I stepped out of the illusion of it...I think it's not your responsibility to take care of him and somehow it may make you avoid looking at yourself and your own issues. This is what I used to do....I still do though. I could be completely wrong though :) I hope you will have someone in ur life that is an even greater love. It happened to me too :)

[@lytzarobles643]

I completely understand I can relate

[@edvinaskrocas6490]

when you described first love... it hits differently.. thank you for this video

[@Shirazie98]

I'm in the similar toxic relationship. Pls Pls pray for me.

[@stakado17]

Omg you're gorgeous!!! Thank you for sharing your story.

[@Chantalthiel]

Thanks for watching :)

[@Ben-kb6vi]

He ASKED YOU TO TRY IT?!! What a piece of shit i can't believe he would compromise your innocence with methamphetamine of all drugs :( Thats not love... Im sorry girl, im glad you gained the courage to leave

[@Chantalthiel]

Well, a lot of drug addicts try to have the partner join to alleviate their own guilt and have that partner in crime so to speak. Thanks for your words :) I wouldn't say it was courage...at some point it was just contempt and hatred but necessary for me to leave.

[@ShackCrewInc310]

My Bm is on meth it's so difficult to deal with her. I don't know what to do.

[@Chantalthiel]

Hey there. What is it you want to do? I think it's important to keep the child safe from her because if she can't face and deal with her own problems she will surely not be able to cope with a child on top. Make yourself and your kid the priority whatever that means in detail and whatever you have to do is up to the circumstances and details. All the best to you!

[@lillyvgutierrez9685]

Thx, u so much in which my husband n didn't realize he was this bad I am recovering from pills my husband on meth. I've done couple times but don't care I been clean for 4 years now

[@Chantalthiel]

Thx for watching and lots of happiness for you :)

[@aly1297]

I need someone to talk to. My boyfriend is addicted to meth and if he doesn't do it for days he start to get angry and be mean to me. I cant take the way he treats me so I will let him borrow money to get it so he will stop being mean to me. I know I am only contributing to his addiction but I'm crying all the time whether he does it or not because he treats me horribly when hes not on it and going through withdrawals

[@Chantalthiel]

What would you like to do if everything were possible?

[@brookeash7675]

How’s it going now?

[@yodabtch21]

I’m you but he was addicted to crack .. I’m so sorry cause that pain is rough but I feel that the co dependent love .. like we failed idk how to explain it .. we loved and we enabled and they just don’t care in the moment && we have to cope with the pstd and get our lives back together when they find someone else and don’t care anymore cause it’s all about the fix

[@Chantalthiel]

hey there thanks for sharing and I hope the coping gets easier for your day by day... lotsa love from Germany :*

[@thaiexpert8413]

Addiction is a disease, but you can overcome a disease. Meth is a sex drug, so he was always horny. Unfortunately, he started stealing. That is a really bad sign.

[@zachimm4750]

Its never been easy to be in a relationship with a addict. I have a friend who have a relationship with a guy who is severe addict who uses all types of drugs, from meth to barbiturates and so on and so on. He was so nice at first and he chased her first then later on he confessed to her he’s a drug addict and that he wants to change. Her life went on like a roller coaster. He stops then he do it again. She keeps the relationship strong she tried to make herself strong but she didn’t succeed making her self strong, she got super depressed and frustrated about their relationship. She wants him to feel emotions, be strong, and to face problems and she just cannot make him do it coz he gets mad and so on. I pity her. She’s still in that relationship waiting for him to wake up, praying for his conversion. The good thing about that guy is he always tell his girl to do the things she love to do, focus on her life and be that girl she has always been when they first met

[@Chantalthiel]

oh wow, yes absolutely.... that's how it felt for me too...not everyone has the strength and the self love to see what's happening before you get into a relationship... Thanks for sharing! Lotsa love from Germany!

[@zachimm4750]

Journals of Codependent she’s really brave. I remember her telling me how afraid she was when the guy told her that he is using drugs. That guy even told my friend that she should keep distance from him coz he’s hard to love and to control. I don’t know what’s going on between them most specially the guy but i can see from my friend how she makes her self super busy just to distract herself from feeling many emotions or thinking of him. That guy, he is different. He can even take care of a kid damn! And he can take care of people even if he is using drugs. Lol but bless him. I hope God will bless and enlighten him so he will find his way out of it

[@eugenebarnes1943]

Definitely inspiring story I am going thru something along those lines and definitely could use some help or words of something before I throw in the towel and end it all. I was born in the Manila and have family there haven't been there because of scared of flying lol. Only question I would like to know how good would you say your lumpia is? But if possible a Way to get some help from you or words if possible?

[@tyronew9530]

Don't be MAD don't get EVEN just HEAL..glad you're in a better place now thanks for sharing .. LOVE is powerful you will do just about anything to please them but when that day comes when you say I'm so good on you.. I've been there done that like you...

[@Chantalthiel]

Getting mad and trying to get even seem like such a good option to get over your anger and disappointment...but at the end of the day it's pain you are left with and yes totally agree with you, you have to find ways to heal.... Thanks for sharing and lotsa love from Germany :*

[@tyronew9530]

@@Chantalthiel Be Blessed Enjoy the day Love...you're Beautiful 🙂

[@tyronew9530]

Thanks...

[@a.dmagbatt9311]

All those red flags and you still got involved with him I don't understand

[@lillyvgutierrez9685]

Thanks for being so honest

[@Nessamoniiqueee]

My boyfriend Is addicted to meth. He's manipulating me. Accusing me of cheating. When he went behind my back and met up with his ex for emotional support...he says. He sold his family and his stuff online for offer up for meth. He is always asking me for 💰 and I'm tired of it but I love him so much but I know I deserve better also very selfish even during sex

[@Chantalthiel]

Hey there, thanks for watching and commenting. Do you really believe you deserve better? We all can rationalize and reason, but when it comes to our heart and emotions it takes a lot of pain in order to cut the ropes. You will probably go through this until you have had enough and you can really let go....it's not about him...love somehow is not always about the other person but something you might feel you cannot give yourself yet.... I wish you all the best! If you need anything let me know :)

[@Chantalthiel]

@UCiqSCmZW0h2pJl5orkloknA I understand...you always have a choice! you are robbing yourself of choices by staying.. based on all the things you said, what is keeping you? he will live on without you and you will live on without him and find what you are really looking for! the answer is already within you but leaving will be hard and you will have to make a hard cut...he is not responsible for you giving into him and helping him because you are. I hope things will be better for you!

[@Nessamoniiqueee]

@@Chantalthiel I am not sure what's keeping me it's because I love him but people say I don't love him

[@shilpars29]

My boyfriend was same but he committed suicide

[@77SunnyDazeInDecember]

Thankyou beautiful, brave, Chantal!

[@nagasetony]

Please help me I’m dating a guy that’s addicted to meth and I just kicked him out and I’m feeling broken…

[@Chantalthiel]

it's totally normal to feel broken...just take it a day at a time to get over it. You know if it's the right choice..just keep staying strong

[@avonkillion4992]

I feel your pain thanks for sharing

[@bentrillanestv5363]

ako lang ata pilipino dito. nag subscribe nako.. and i love your story .. i actualll can relate to it..

[@lillyvgutierrez9685]

A man I was with was on Crack but meth worst it's been 11 years iv been w 2 men on drugs

[@shilpars29]

I was in a relationship since 5 yrs nd he was very good nd good looking but during covid he became drug addict nd he didn't told me he hide everything which was not good he was so manupilative but atlast he committed suicide and before that he called me one last time nd i couldn't pick nd he atlast also he left me manipulated......

[@lillyvgutierrez9685]

Just 2 times day. Use merh. N u will be doing it for 2 data straight

[@PeteFish-b1f]

Twice a day isnt alot for men , Men want more than twice a day ,

[@luisenrique5334]

8.56-9.12 Lol haha got me cracking up

[@PeteFish-b1f]

I wish i was ur man , during those times , i would have been good to u . Ur so pretty

[@redneckshaman3099]

Will you marry me?

[@yonosupri879]

That's narcissist

[@lillyvgutierrez9685]

I didn't know meth. Or heron not til 27 28

[@totonilcochavarrete4711]

You should of hit the pipe two sweety. If you loved him that much?

[@Chantalthiel]

This is a place and safe haven for people who want help, need someone to talk to or need to find a way to cope. Your comment is extremely inappropriate and I will not tolerate any malice or coercing someone to take drugs on this channel.

[@totonilcochavarrete4711]

@@Chantalthiel Thank you my friendly cooperative channel owner. I'm sorry for my earlier mocking. I understand.

[@JehovahIncreases7]

Are you the devil? Lol