❤️ DATING | in my 30s ft.

[@soobeanie]

Feel like we could have talked for hours on this! 😛🤍

[@joan_kim]

Always 🖤

[@nataliea968]

We wouldn’t mind a part 2!😂💛

[@CrashOverride332]

I think I disagree only on the family one at 17:03, some people have toxic parents and need to cut them off. I overall enjoyed this and would watch more!

[@Piotr-f9o]

@@joan_kim Hi Joan kim do you maybe have friends from Poland ?

[@Piotr-f9o]

@@joan_kim Joan do you maybe be in Poland ?

[@elvinrichard5882]

The biggest thing about being 30 is your standards increase but the dating pool shrinks as people pair up/ stop dating. However, if you have a healthy social life you eventually realize people can be happy without a romantic relationship.

[@joan_kim]

🫶🏻🖤

[@LamAnopro_]

Eh

[@slu9329]

That’s a sad existence. People are too into themselves these days.

[@alexlilano1931]

Maybe for women. Men dating pool gets bigger when they age. Women tend to date older while men tend to date younger. Men also get better looking and make more money in general, so men have actually have more and better options as they get older.

[@arundhatifit]

Yessss 💃🏻

[@thanhbuutran4101]

My friends keep asking me why I don't date, not on apps, not wanting to meet anyone... It's because I want to meet them organically hahahaha... In your 30s, it kinda doesn't happen especially when you work, exercise, and hangout only with your friends. I love you JOAN, we are the same. ❤

[@doujinflip]

Organic meet cutes only gets more difficult the farther you get from school, meanwhile the other alternative of churches are increasingly seen as toxic and limiting. This collapse of safe spaces to regularly meet and potentially get to know random strangers is a big reason dating apps are becoming vital to rebuild a social network (not just for romance either) as old friends move away or start families and fall out of your circle.

[@nathanp2007]

@@doujinflip Collapse of safe spaces? Huh? Take up some hobbies or go to classes/clubs for your existing hobbies! This goes to all the boring women out there whose personalities and hobbies revolve around shopping and the guys who spend all their time at home gaming: pick-up social hobbies!! Wanna meet people? Take cooking classes, baking classes, join a running club, join a hiking gym, take dance lessons, there are tonssssssssssssssssssssss of places and things to do/learn where you will be surrounded by single adults. And imagine how easy it is to break the ice with someone who shares a hobby (like baking, movies or hiking) with you.

[@thanhbuutran4101]

@@nathanp2007 Women usually have so many hobbies and we build such a strong network of women. ❤️ Also, doing hobbies to meet people isn't a very introverted thing to do, sounds like an extrovert. I do hobbies because I genuinely love them. 😁

[@nathanp2007]

@@thanhbuutran4101 if you don't get out of your comfort zone, instead just hiding behind being introverted, you literally won't meet anyone ever. If you're looking for organic encounters they won't happen at home. You HAVE to put yourself in situations where men can be proactive and spark up conversation. Hence going and doing something you enjoy, like taking a community class, a running club, or something, where men also attend and you'll have that thing you're doing in common. I'm literally saying if you don't even do the bare minimum, get ready to be single forever. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@thanhbuutran4101]

@nathanp2007 SIR, no one is hiding... I like organic encounters, but not wishing, longing or hoping to meet anyone. Being single forever is OKAY. That's the point that I was connecting with Joan about... There is so much more to life than just getting married. Career, travelling, social justice, knowledge, higher education, hobbies like you mentioned... Life is beautiful, why are you lecturing some stranger on the internet about finding someone. Did you not listen to the video? Women in their 30s are happy without problematic men. If you want to seek someone out, you can. If you don't care like myself, that's okay too. 😂

[@ashleybchoi]

MY GIRLSSSS 🥹🥹 LET ME JOIN YALL NEXT TIMEEEE

[@joan_kim]

YES PLEASE 🖤

[@TygerBlueEyes]

That would be crazy fun to watch 😊

[@kimmielulu2293]

i would love to listen to one with all three of you together!

[@glutinum]

“You’re less tolerant to bullshit” The older I get the more I can relate to this phrase I turned 21 this year and I’m so thankful that in 2019 I discovered your channel and instagram Joan is the BEST unnie🖤 Have a happy September :3

[@joan_kim]

🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

[@chloes5043]

The longer you're single and enjoying it, the more independent you become and your standards for dating get very high so it's even harder to find someone you're ready to adapt to. But I found that I started thriving in other aspects of my life, in my friendships, so now I'm like you Joan, I'm not looking for it and if it happens, it will happen. If not, I'm fine with that too.

[@ADifferentVibe]

@@chloes5043 are you sure about that?

[@CNT536]

lonely cat lady cope is real

[@ADifferentVibe]

Appreciate your thoughts. But I don't believe you...

[@hoamy9405]

94 liner here and turned 30 in Feb! Just want to say, I'm such a 'Joan' vibe girl! So glad someone feels and thinks the same about relationships! 💝Love this and missing Ashley in the convo! 😀

[@kasia7743]

currently in my 20s (almost 24) but I can relate to a lot of the things both of you mentioned!! definitely my favorite episode from this series 🫶🏾

[@jdz95]

I'm nearing 30 and I just had a breakup a few weeks ago (right a day after my birthday gosh). Even though it was a peaceful breakup in which I got the clarity and conclusion I needed, there are times when I resent myself too. I felt like I shouldn't have put that much effort in that relationship to the point I felt like I was losing my self worth. And now that I'm single, the problem isn't about moving on, it was more on how to find the right person and where to find it. Because just like what you guys have discussed, as we age and as we went through different relationships, we ended up being more picky with our next partner. The part where you guys talked about how I will find someone better for sure hits me right through though. So thank you, for that talk! Wishing everyone here much happiness from within

[@erinnberryy]

Joan the hair is hairing!! Also I’ve missed Soobeanie!! Please reunite with Ashley and make a vid with all 3 of you plzzzz

[@youniquelyy]

Joan you and i are literally the same person HAHAHA when you said the reason why you're single is because you're not open to anything, i laughed out loud because that's literally me 😂 thank you for this episode! Truly feels nice hearing 2 other single ladies' perspectives on dating in their 30s because turning 30 next year and still being single freaks me out esp with the society's expectations on getting married sigh

[@BourneDigital24]

Pretty interesting conversations! Good topic to discuss openly to everyone. Appreciate both of your insight and perspective.

[@Hakuismyman715]

I'm 28 so not yet there in my 30s but I've definitely learned a lot throughout my years on what I'm okay with in relationships romantic and platonic. Thankfully as you get older you take less shit usually too. I want to add three other things to examine in a relationship to see if someone is a good partner or red flag is how they are with their finances, how they treat those struggling and their friendships. Do they impulsively spend? Are they secretive? Do they always save and never spend? Do they treat waiters terribly? Do they make fun or hate on unhoused people? Do they have friends? Do they take badly about their friends? Are their friends decent people?

[@ryu-x7ctsuki]

It was so short! Girls could talk more. Absolutely loved this one, audio is so good too😭

[@puritakongim9960]

joan you always be glowing!

[@joan_kim]

🫶🏻🖤

[@PFG888]

Thanks for the video. Definitely want more videos like this "Dating in my 30s". It'll be nice to get more perspective from more girls about dating in 30s.

[@mesencephalon90]

please have a part two!! this is so insightful

[@CarlaLciel]

Really enjoyed the talk! ✨ I would like to share my perspective on dating apps. As a user it becomes very discouraging seeing all this single ppl and matching or not matching bcs you know they wouldn’t be your type. And it takes a lot of tries to find someone you’re actually interested enough to go an a date (could also be dangerous… etc). When I was single I always said I’m not playing games, dating apps it’s just a vehicle to meet someone who you wouldn’t meet on your day to day (specially if you’re introvert, busy with work, or hobbies that don’t include the other gender). If you decide to go on a date is bcs there’s mutual interest so no point in playing games. I think it’s good to be straightforward about what you are looking after (serious, thinking about marriage etc) so you can weed out all the ppl with different intentions and values. Of course, not all ppl have this goal when they use dating apps, that’s why we should always keep our standards high!

[@ADifferentVibe]

Standards high.... What does that mean? Expect princess treatment in exchange for nothing? Expect the man have to make more than 6 figures? Be specific.

[@christina4465]

I can relate to the both of you! When I was in my late 20s, I felt the pressure, but not anymore. I think of it as a part of life, which things don’t turn out the way as expected. I guess marriage and children are not an option for me, but I am really happy for others who found their person. This was a really interesting and important subject to a lot of us, so I appreciate this conversation a lot! Thank you, thank you to SooBean and Joan! 😄🤩🩷💝💕👍🏻

[@miryeongk]

"I guess marriage and children are not an option for me" ... but are you sad about this?

[@christina4465]

@@miryeongk I’m at peace with that decision many moons ago. I have a great support system, my family and loved ones. We are all responsible for our own happiness. I am grateful for what I have! I hope you all the happiness in the world! 😄👍🏻💝🩷💕

[@miryeongk]

@@christina4465❤

[@miryeongk]

❤

[@miryeongk]

@@christina4465 ♥

[@monicarith4838]

I saw “dating” i clicked immediately

[@joan_kim]

🙈🖤

[@Santiarizam]

27:00 Not to bring bad news, but studies have found the following: Once you reach 26 years old, you should identify who your best partner was up until that age. Then, after 26, if you meet someone who surpasses that “best” partner, statistically, they are likely to be the best partner you will ever find. If you are over 30 and have already missed those two “best” partners, statistically, it becomes much harder to find someone better. Haha, so maybe it’s time to start compromising on some standards, I guess! Find it in one of the episode from the ceo diary podcast

[@ADifferentVibe]

They will wait and settle for a simp because they can't find anyone better and later on, likely regret they picked someone they can't respect. That's what will happen.

[@tinkernell]

i don't usually watch contents about dating coz I feel like I can't relate much UNTIL THIS ONE!!!! Joan you really put into words everything!!! I'm like yup that's ME TOO every time she shares her POV..If someone's gonna ask me what I think about dating, I'd show them this. 💯

[@reginapoblete161]

As a 50 year old married woman. I had a blast during my 20’s and 30’s. Did things like had a lunch date and mid day date and another dinner date in one day. It was fun and exciting and clean fun. My friends and I always talked about how the 90’s was so much better than today. My advice is you have to be whole as a person before getting into relationships. Imposing what you want is not always a right thing. There should always be a give or take on both. Sometimes you should allow the men to be the leader or the alpha. It is what makes them men. The worst thing that happened in the 90’s is Sex in the City. It really made naive women think that fun is sleeping around and being too carefree. It actually makes women more unattractive and insecure. So love yourself. Enjoy but be safe and and stay happy.

[@FindingThumos]

"Did things like had a lunch date and mid day date and another dinner date in one day. It was fun and exciting and clean fun." Meanwhile 90% of men can't get a single date in a year...

[@ADifferentVibe]

@@FindingThumos women will always have more options than men, even the very ugly ones...

[@marisol.gum87]

What an amazing episode! It was so short and interesting! Need you guys together again on another video! 🇲🇽🤍 So much love from Mexico

[@joodi8888]

i loved this episode so so so much joan i can’t thank you enough for starting this series cz even if im 21 it’s helping me prepare for my 30s and i’ve taken so much helpful advice honestly love you so much love your personality and mindset and all your guests as well i wish i had u as a friend irl ur the best😭🫶🏼

[@cor_cordium]

the more I watch and listen to your videos the more I get the feeling it might be a scorpion thing? especially your reasonings and mindset on dating it was super relatable for me hence why I'm also single for so long :D

[@CSL_IndependentGirlie]

This is so real and so true. As soon as I hit my 30 my list is now very direct, longer, and pretty specific as to what I would be willing to consider in a companion. Because I know myself a lot more, so I know what would work best for me. If a guy doesn't meet that, it takes two seconds for me to make an excuse and run away😂. I'm also not on dating apps, the quality of guys on there is way too low. The women that usually end up marrying guys from dating apps usually end up having to compromise way too much of their life .. mmm nope, I just couldn't 😖

[@ADifferentVibe]

OK good luck.

[@CSL_IndependentGirlie]

@ADifferentVibe thank you 🩷

[@johannsebastianbach3501]

Yes but no one cares. You don’t hold leverage after 30. “If a guy doesnt meet that” you’re 30. A guy will just go for a 20 year old. You grossly overestimate your value in dating at 30. The fact that you’ve lost your youth and sense of femininity is precisely why not only will guys not care, they may purposely do things like that to push you away. A lot of you 30 year old women are clueless

[@krstnanana]

Its a fun topic to watch! I cant wait for the next one! Thank you!!

[@minhthifresh]

27 and got broken up with, decided to postpone dating until my 30s and this video affirmed to embrace my singlehood :)

[@ADifferentVibe]

Soobeanie says don't look at the potential and don't try to change the other person, but on Korean Pizza Club podcast, she says she'd try to change the other partner's parents if they are overbearing... So, idk

[@soobeanie]

In the way of “ changing the other parents” I think people took that out of context . It was in the context that I would try my best for them to like me “if” they didnt like me. Ideally it would be best if I meet future in laws who would love me for me, that would be the best..

[@RinoaHearlty]

Loved this episode 🥰 more of this pls!! Also Joan I gotta know what lipstick you’re wearing 😍

[@thanhbuutran4101]

Also, please more of these series! I always rush when you have a video up! ❤🎉👏

[@TheiaShi]

My girls rock! Loved the subject and your matureness!!

[@genuinetallguy6318]

Joan you are truly a sophisticated, beautiful woman. You make thirty look like 20. Great interview with Subin. She's a cutie too. Great job. ❤❤❤

[@Sarahalfal]

Joan your literally glowing

[@facebooksmith1269]

My favorite philosophy when it comes to dating is - "Men are as faithful as their options" - the Great Chris Rock.

[@miryeongk]

Joan, I was just like you in my mid-thirties and had the same philosophy on relationships. For me, I never really struggled with loneliness or the desire to get married or be in a serious relationship. Part of that was because I was more concerned with my career, financial security, and discovering my identity. But that all changed and now ... 🙃

[@ADifferentVibe]

Now what? Are you unhappy?

[@shotdang12]

@@ADifferentVibeshe’s focused on finding someone

[@miryeongk]

@@ADifferentVibe Not at all, only that mindsets can change.

[@miryeongk]

@@shotdang12 No, more like letting people find me 😇

[@marccolomayt82094]

Love and enjoying this!!❤❤❤❤

[@joan_kim]

Hehe thanks for watching 🖤

[@elizabethsseoul2382]

Joan, we are the same age and I have to say that we are vastly similar in terms of being self-sufficient and independent. I lived in Korea all throughout my 20s and let me tell you the amount of bullshit I encountered from men. I just returned to the states this year and have taken a break from being single, lol. I am dating now, and let me be honest it's been a STRUGGLE. I've been incredibly selfish because I don't want to end up where I was in my 20s emotionally. But I'm dating a person who's emotionally intelligent and he's teaching me how to love again. I will say the Korean dating pool damaged my mental health and I'm slowly recovering from it. Right now I'm learning to trust again, but it's going to be a long process.

[@beneathesea]

As a person who just turned 29 and has never been in a relationship, I feel y'all.

[@jamilateef6392]

(best wishes for your septmbr)

[@PurpleDoritos666]

Jeez how high are your standards?

[@beneathesea]

@@PurpleDoritos666 I'm asexual/demi-sexual.

[@Crystalbomb321]

@@beneatheseaHas anyone decent asked you out? Are you just not giving anyone a chance

[@beneathesea]

@@Crystalbomb321 Outside of the occasional creep w/ catcalling? Nope, never - I WFM as well, so I'm not outside often like my early 20s. I've only found ~3 men physically attractive in my life. 2 are idols (in NCT), 1 is just a musician (who idk irl). I mostly just experience aesthetic attraction and exercise at my home-gym. 🤷‍♀ lol

[@lovehope2877]

Oh my God! I'm going to binge this whole series

[@diw2756]

2:52 I am 100 percent like you, the guy has to seriously tell me “ I like you “ or I can’t sense it for many years

[@blancabaeza5541]

I was waiting for this video ❤

[@joan_kim]

Hope you enjoyed it 🖤

[@rez9126]

I learned a lot in this video especially about the red flags! Opened my mind 🤯😂

[@btlimaa]

I loved this episode... I identified myself in so many parts and loved the advice!!! I found it a little funny and interesting also because the dating culture here in Brazil is very, very different. Congratulations on this episode, I loved it. More and more your fan. 🖤😘

[@PadeeTinaKong]

30 flirty and thriving✨🎀💗

[@trinakins]

same here.🙃 i have no game, not flirty, and also can't catch if guys like me. even when they told me they like me, i still have no clue... i was like-- you like me? as a friend???!🤣 i seriously need help.🤣🤣🤣

[@joan_kim]

Hahah wait same 😅

[@aininadhrh]

When joan said she like to meet person naturally I was like girl we're sister I mean for me its ok to be late as long as Iam happy with the process..

[@todayis_Rachaa]

Happy bday for Christine 🎉🎉🎉

[@joan_kim]

Our Virgo queeeen🖤

[@todayis_Rachaa]

@@joan_kim hearts for both of you 🩷🩷 . And i'm an Aqua Girl in my 30s 😬 . Soon 35 ✌️

[@ADifferentVibe]

I think Joan has become the man she herself is looking for...

[@kenneseyl2819]

i’m relate to Joan soooo much literally we’re same person 🥰🥰🤍✨😄

[@nrxtkh]

Loooooove this so much 🙏❤

[@user-we9lx2si3z]

so insightful & ur both beautiful

[@lovetheory]

Omg never been so early 🥰 perfect timing for my lunch break

[@joan_kim]

Hehe enjoy your lunch break 🖤

[@GoodOldCinema]

You're getting more and more beautiful every time I see you, Joan.

[@arahlimm]

watching this right after i turned 30. and the thing I'm most curious about people in their 30s was asked "do you remember your 20s?" lmaooooo okay I'm normal. love this in my 30s segment!

[@손새봄-b1e]

늘 잘 보고 있어요 조안 님 목소리가 너무 멋있는 거 아시나요..

[@chains1436]

let's get ashley with u both next time 😭😭♥️♥️

[@yanggang1068]

I'm in my mid 30s and I'm giving up on dating. People can't still carry conversations and most importantly they do not know what they want. I do not want to waste your time so please do not waste mine.

[@narunikonaru]

Omg love this girls talk… Im a very complicated person and i just date to date and I hope in the process of dating I fall in love…. Wich never works and I end up breaking the relationship because I just can see my future with that person and iIm in my 30s, Im 30😅 all the person that i have dated want to get married in a future but they just don’t know the mess I am, I just think I have never fall in love with somebody. And the problem is when the family have money have to be extra careful who you date. So much in my head, dating in 30 is better but complicated.

[@MidlandsTraveller]

Missed those convo, girls. :) Love Soobeanie's energy!!

[@hchung155]

I love Joan's alpha energy hahha. Please do another episode on dating with Ashley!!

[@ADifferentVibe]

Her alpha energy is gonna make her single for a while... Sorry. Men want a partner, not a boss.

[@dgonzales9360]

Loovveee this❤

[@ariayang2980]

You have no idea how fast i clicked when i saw the notification 😅😂

[@joan_kim]

Hehe hi🖤

[@techgiantfan7014]

Soobeanie checks all the boxes for a ideal GF for any guy ( Sweet/Extrovert personality, Family/ Career Oriented), wonder if she would give a Latino guy a chance, cuz im all in!!! 😉

[@ADifferentVibe]

Nah. She isn't. What does she have to offer an independent man?

[@BfeverYara]

Joan im totally you when the subject is Dating. ❤

[@oogalee]

I feel privileged as a guy to hear this and what girls are thinking about lol

[@ADifferentVibe]

Because you what to avoid to save yourself trouble...?

[@heyitsrosie]

Joan is so relatable 😅

[@ec5318]

It’s okay to have babies in your 40s but… I am 48 (my youngest going to be 13) and I am starting to think ahead to retirement plans and what I might want to do once that time hits in 10+ years. Mainly bc I will definitely be ready to be retired or slowly gear up for the retirement life by about then and I am tired (good health but 40s and beyond body needs rest and tlc!) so..

[@starkiller_alex1606]

I feel like if you want to get married by a specific age you lowkey have to “settle” for someone.

[@ADifferentVibe]

For women, yes. And the problem can become they end up lowkey upset for not getting their first choice... And that someone ends up getting punished for it.

[@DaizyandMelon]

The amount of “YEAH” in this podcast hehe

[@mklf626]

Soobinee, with all due respect, please be mindful of the overuse of the word “like” in your conversation. It gets a little distracting and can be reductive.

[@soobeanie]

Omg I 100% agree I didnt realize til I wanted it.. we shall be fixing that in my 30s ❤

[@mklf626]

@@soobeanie It’s awfully sweet of you to reply so positively!👏🏻 The substitute teacher in me….😁

[@NiolaVianni]

Wait until you hear a Singaporean speaks 🫣 Anyway, love these women 💓✨

[@rizwanainam2349]

I'm there with you on wanting to meet someone organically but i also never leave the house and dirty stare at anyone that shows me interest lol

[@daryllavapiez]

I can definitely relate to everything Joan said. haha!

[@Garnishes]

How old is Joan Kim? She said she was single for most of her 30s

[@joan_kim]

32!

[@doomdadadida]

It’s oddly cute how Soobeanie often tries to finish Joan’s sentences. 😆

[@thanhbuutran4101]

Okay, sorry for the all comments, commeting as I watch hahahha. Anger, arrogance, avoidance, addiction, and abuse.... This got my dying lf laughter. Thank you though, so good.

[@peterau1720]

Put it on 2x to save time. They talk so slow

[@MadawaskaObservatory]

You girls are stunning :-)

[@ernah55]

Omg love the boots! 👢🤩

[@kimmielulu2293]

okay, but why am I like Joan? 😅 I cannot pick up cues when someone is interested in me 😂

[@lmaoitsover]

I'd feel immense pride for my daughter if she doesn't fall victim to content like this.

[@inquisitvem6723]

What is the age limit that you will date? How old and youngest will you date?

[@soggybiscuit6098]

Feminism has single handedly solved housing for stray cats

[@viviselvia4927]

IM NOT 30 almost there but i already feel like how joan feel is the SAME, I thought its only me :(

[@by.jyamae]

Lol, I am Joan. I won't know or assume unless you say it verbatim 😂

[@joan_kim]

🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[@DavidDerryberry-h3m]

I dated a few girls in my 3os

[@_caitlin_]

I feel like Joan is my extroverted twin. our views are the same on so many things outside of dating too 😂

[@juliaohnmar4178]

I miss your beauty and travel vlog😢Why don't you take those vlog😢😢

[@dunaduna2686]

how are you going to find husbands in korea

[@ADifferentVibe]

They aren't. They will find simps...

[@pinkyyuka9940]

Less tolerant to bullshit. Well said 😇

[@maknaeficent1]

Me too 😢 you have to be very specific with me that you like me or else I would think you’re just being friendly. I cannot flirt to save my life.

[@KJY-07]

IE represent!

[@Lawrencedimayuga]

Soobeanieeeeeee! Take care Joan.

[@soobeanie]

Always 🤍 she takes care of me a lot

[@jeeen8]

you girls are so funny!

[@juliaohnmar4178]

Are you with rosie theam .I am so excited rosie album I can't wait I like too much APT❤ Actually I wanna know you and rosè relationship because you are my favorite KZbin vlogger you are my first who watched KZbin vlog and rosè is my favorite Blackpink member Please could you tell me you and rosè relationship friends or cousin ❤❤

[@juliaohnmar4178]

I watched five times in this vlog 😂every week I checked your account but no update anymore 😢😢 I am so upset unnie❤

[@monicam11]

Hi Joan. My sister, Katie, is a fan of yours. She loves your videos. But she was diagnosed with cancer recently. She was going through treatment, but her cancer ended up getting worse. So she probably doesn't have much time left before she passes away. Would you like to leave a message for her?

[@lukevo6485]

2 single chicks in their 30s giving dating advice. Horrible, don't listen to people who don't know anything about successful dating.

[@ADifferentVibe]

Ouch.... But true.

[@todayis_Rachaa]

My mom gave birth to my younger brother in her early 40s as well . About dating Apps for me is a biiiiiiig No