Dating rizz in your 30s

[@jomopod]

the real ones will get to the finger mouth part 👀

[@Calebclee]

Literally the most unhinged strategy I've ever heard

[@Iamclawed]

😳

[@krisq9252]

I. Screamed.

[@jomopod]

@@krisq9252 HAHAH 🤣SAME

[@colour.retreat]

Eric's faces during this part. Glorious.

[@Calebclee]

Recognizing that you aren't the only one in the picture is huge! I got married at 22, and have never once looked back--my wife and I have the understanding that no matter what happens in life it's us vs. the problem. That mindset shift makes a world of a difference.

[@jomopod]

us vs. the problem mentality >>>

[@jjswigger8591]

its literally all soiboi azn skidmarks that have no game and their only hope is to drive a girl home and make her feel awkward like she owes you something GHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[@fatalsg92]

I really like the topics of all the episodes so far! Good job guys. My take on relationships and life in general, I always remind myself: "The constant pursuit of something 'better' can overshadow the happiness you already have. True fulfillment might lie in appreciating what you've got." Always chasing for happiness even though you've already got it makes you think that you're miserable.

[@jomopod]

so much wisdom in this comment ~~ 🙏

[@forthepeople-r4p]

being okay with your partner being sexual with other woman can also be a defense mechanism you set up so that if your partner ends up "cheating" on you, you can just tell yourself you gave that person permission to do so. Being okay with this dynamic also means that you are actually afraid of full on commitment and thus not ready to be in a fully committed relationship.

[@danielhatcherII]

Chloe, Kevin is actually a super rare guy. His love is much deeper than you know. Faith in love is in short supply in the world. Don’t mess it up. You all really need to listen to really old people that have truly lived and been with someone for 35-60 years. I’ve met some amazing people. The most important aspect of life is to find someone that truly loves you. Career means nothing!,…. money, travel are all just fillers for the love and acceptance we all need. People in the late 80’s have such loving stories. None of those stories start out with “we where a great power couple”. 🤮 The friendships you make and the love you share is all you can take with you. Kiara, as a Dom I can tell you that yes, what you have is a kink. As long as you and your man are happy, nothing else matters. You will probably find your love will be deeper than most other couples. Sharing a kink can bond two people in a way that is much deeper than the average couple.

[@jomopod]

Thank u so much 🥹🥹 I love Kevin with all my heart. He’s my best friend and the best thing that’s ever happened to me in my life 🫶 - chloe

[@jomopod]

Also Kira is def a dommy mommy 🤣🤣 knowing both her and her partner - they’re very on the same page and have deep mutual love and respect despite some wild preferences haha. Theyre growing a lot together in ways I also find incredible as a friend! I cherish both of them deeply - chloe

[@JustinThorntonArt]

Such weird ideas about dating. The only hard and fast deal breakers should be loyalty, kindness and willingness to work through problems. Those are the indicators of a long lasting relationship. This is gender independent. High income, perfect looks, height, hair color, preferred activities and similar qualities don’t matter if the other person isn’t a good person. If someone is kind, always give them a shot regardless of any other preferences. If it doesn’t work it doesn’t work, but you might be surprised by how happy you might be with that person. Chloe in particular seems to have almost missed out on a really good guy because of wrong dating priorities.

[@Afrotistic]

The story started off cute but I honestly feel bad for Kevin. As long as he is happy though

[@csachen3823]

This is the first video on this channel I listened to, so idk if Kevin is a reoccurring character. I feel bad for Kevin too. I've been a filler friend, the extra friend you didn't originally intend to invite to a group event, and it's a bad feeling. Being described as the reliable guy who will do anything for someone gives me sad placeholder friend vibes. Happy to hear Kevin's value is fully seen and appreciated in the end.

[@grownsimba8120]

Definitely like the podcast overall. But I think what got me the most during that portion of the segment is her wording. And this is not shot at her, she was just being accurate with her words. But her using phrases like, "leading on", her being the one to break off the dates, seeing Kevin as the reliable guy for things like the Facebook event, etc. Edit: Kevin was 40% of things on the list of 25 after she came back from Lisbon. Oof. Man. Respectfully, that was tough to listen to.

[@Duperman2494]

And she was so nonchalant describing him like that, if the tables were turned and kevin described her in the same way, watch the me2 movement go ballistic.

[@fatalsg92]

He won though. A girl wanting to be with you for life even though you dont have all of the qualities she wants already says a lot. It just means a deep connection you can't clearly notice from the outside is much more important than a shallow list.

[@Afrotistic]

@fatalsg92 Sure in some ways. I would just rather be the person someone is looking for it feels more secure to me that way.

[@KevinYang]

"Odds are good but the goods are odd" is what I hear all the time in Seattle too! Also the point about us vs. the problem instead of me vs. you, 100%! Loving these episodes more and more, can't wait for next week!

[@jomopod]

aww thank you!! appreciate you watching and commenting - if you're ever in LA - dm me and come say hi!! -eric

[@AA-is4qr]

As much as I appreciate how candid everyone is, feel like a fly on the wall listening in on someone’s private/personal convo. Feels like I’m eavesdropping 😂. Big up to Kevin tho, he’s a real one 🫡

[@jomopod]

😂😂😂 well you are invited to our conversation 🫶🫶

[@JoshuaFoley-t1x]

33. Married with 4 kids...I found this discussion super fascinating.

[@ekysiuau3226]

I like the level of honesty and self awareness you guys displayed

[@stephenzeng]

I haven't spoken to Kevin in over 15 years (since middle school) but it's so heartwarming to see Kevin hasn't changed since then (and how Chloe talks about him)! Wishing you guys all the best from afar! ❤

[@jomopod]

Awww! That’s awesome! Kevin says hi!! - chloe

[@stephenzeng]

@@jomopod Aww tell him I said hi back! 👋

[@yky01]

4:29 huge respect to their openness !! Opening relationships often has a bad rep and i find it really eye-opening to see couples that feel comfortable in doing so, and even talking about it to create more discussion on this topic

[@jomopod]

it's truly eye-opening! it's not as uncommon as you would think, but also incredibly nuanced to navigate. glad it's helping with creating discussion!

[@micheburrito6784]

loved thissss

[@Aeliixt]

This is the best podcast to have in the background when I work from home! Can’t wait for this episode!!

[@jomopod]

CANT WAIT FOR U TO HEAR IT TOO ~ perhaps my fave episode thus far 😂😂 - chloe

[@augystudio]

I can't just have it in the background, it's too engaging 😂

[@Kuromiicat]

While it was an engaging conversation, I walked away feeling a little depressed after listening to the two dating episodes. I know the covo is meant to be unfiltered…but some of the comments def gave me the ick/made me feel sad to hear how smart and talented people are still attached to hurtful gender stereotypes. For example, when Kiera says cuddling with a shorter guy feels like holding a baby? Like…how is that supposed to make someone feel if they’re dating a shorter guy? It comes off as super disrespectful even though it’s meant to be a personal preference.

[@jonformantes4910]

I mean I think your reaction to that is something you should look into/reflect on for yourself. There's no reason to really be upset with these people for having these preferences. I'm a short guy and it's literally never bothered me. I don't really care if she is attached to gender stereotypes. Like so what if a girl might initially feel that way. I'm confident enough that if I was interested in a girl - I would try to make her look past that. If she can't look past that no matter what, she's being judgemental and missing out on a great catch. Her loss not mine y'know?

[@dlprkwt]

As someone in an open relationship I really relate. I feel like human connection is so diverse and love can be so expansive and it sucks that we feel self conscious because of the heteronormative judgement from others.

[@shabalabae8775]

this guest is sooooo good, have her back for more eps in the future!!

[@Shmityorshen]

This episode and the next one were how I found this channel and were wildly helpful for me as a 29 year old who is about to let himself date for the first time again after 12 years. The candid whys and hows of it all were so awesome to hear, really confidence inspiring.

[@valentineqin2608]

this episode is hilarious omg!! so much laughs intertwined with splashes of true wisdom lol love the thoughts of act of committing and 1/3 of "no. N". Also the episode shows true color, eric and chloe both teddy bears but eric a cuddly one and chloe one with a knife for surrrrre, a true savage 🤣

[@chloeshih]

hello, it is I, the true savage 🫡

[@jomopod]

Haha yes we love the little pieces of wisdom and interest tidbits as well as the chaos of everyone’s vast dating experiences 😂😂

[@chloeshih]

I COULDNT WAIT FOR THIS EPISODE TO COME OUT

[@jhervis_]

Omg what a great episode 😂 the finger to the mouth story of course had to be mentioned , ultimare rizz move 😂

[@Teslatainment]

I meant to play this episode in the background ended up sitting down and watching all of it 🤣 Great episode y'all!

[@notreallycassie]

i learned so much about kevin against my will lmaooo but fun episode

[@jomopod]

IM DEAD 💀 - chloe

[@greysonbennett6788]

I feel like Eric Wei has a lot of satirical and sarcastic remarks that can fly under the radar to a lot of people.

[@mallew32]

This episode is so funny, it’s like actually sitting down with friends and getting into some really good tea, and getting to see another side of your friends. Thanks for inviting us in y’all, my shoes are off and I’m having a great time!

[@jomopod]

haha this episode took me outtttt!! Glad u enjoyed listening from the comfort of your home!! ❤❤

[@_Tizoc_]

9:10 as she makes this point it feels more like that was her conclusion and he had to go along with it because he cared about her and wanted to be with her moreso than he also felt that way. especially since he doesnt have the experience to be sure for himself.

[@SunriseKid13]

Loved the podcast, definitely had some funny moments in there but low key made realize how swallow you gotta be in the dating world, you would think just be truthful would be the best thing to do

[@jomopod]

The amount of crazy dating stories we’ve all heard in SF, NY and LA have been absolutely wild. Dating is definitely a complicated thing :( everyone has their own stories. glad u enjoyed this episode!!

[@ガンコ]

I feel so old listening to this. I'm also in my 30s, married a few years ago. Had 4 years of dating around before I settled with my current partner. I also felt that without that dating period I would have not figured out what I wanted from relationships.

[@withthetrans]

Love your vibes! You guys are so fun to listen to; it feels like chatting with friends over lunch :) Just wanted to share a thought on open relationships and sexual purity in general. Please know I'm not here to shame or judge anyone, including myself, as many of us have imperfect pasts. Personally, I believe that sexual purity, or saving yourself for marriage, is incredibly sacred. I see sex as something deeply intimate, reserved for that special someone (aka your your husband or wife through marriage). While open relationships and casual encounters might seem fun, they can have lasting impacts beyond the moment. From my experience of waiting until marriage (which wasn't easy), I can say it's been incredibly rewarding and well worth the wait. If you've already gone down a different path, there's no shame or guilt AT ALL. Just consider the value of staying pure moving forward (and avoiding porn). It's truly worth it! Remember, your worth and how much you're loved aren't determined by anyone else. You are inherently loved and worthy just as you are.

[@keglitjoreb]

The finger thing thing definitely works. I know they're joking around a bit afterwards but honestly it's down to timing as well, similar to the "come home with me" line. Had that line been used at the wrong time, or had the finger suck move been done at the wrong time, it'd be quite different.

[@kaikomedia]

15:00 - That movement is "ice in my veins". Where did the “ice in my veins” celebration come from? D’Angelo Russell (LA Laker): It’s something my dad said growing up. He always said you have to be prepared for big moments, you gotta have ice in your veins. You have to have no feelings. You have to go out there and play your hardest and do what you do. That was the celebration what I performed well and knowing he prepared me mentally.

[@Diicasti]

I'm a little behind so I'm listening to this one today and the newest one tomorrow. WOW I did not know we could have another level of experiences in JOMO. My face was literally Chloe's! Although I'm curious to see that documment you sent to Eric since I'm too helping a friend who's turning 30, NEVER dated, and is in need of advice! If you have any data, contact me please :D I feel like a part of a gang now, love this! Thank you all!

[@jenkins9711]

“you need someone that makes rubric not matter anymore” W

[@jomopod]

dub

[@chris.3213]

TUESDAYS ARE THE BEST DAYS

[@jomopod]

YOU KNOW IT🥰

[@Maxsword88]

Kira is such a spicy and fun guest can't wait for next week's episode!!!

[@jomopod]

YESSSS it gets even better~ -eric

[@kristinahua_]

Love this episooodee!! so excited for the next one! love the topics and the hosts!!

[@jomopod]

Yess part 2 coming next Tuesday!

[@tuanho87]

That’s so weird, my ex used to want to see me flirt and talk to other girls. She admitted she felt in power and control.

[@letsgowalk]

To be fair, that 49er thing only applies to transplants, and the term was coined by a transplant from New York. Locals who grew up here have never even heard of such a term (other than the football team). Also, Kira reminds me of a local news reporter here in the Bay Area named Betty Yu.

[@letsgowalk]

Overlooking nice guys… that’s the story of my life! 98° Invisible Man is my theme song! 😢

[@isaacespinal131]

A collab between you guys and 949 would great to see! Would be a mix of perspectives and life experiences.

[@darkwizx1541]

Smh its not gonna end well in these types of relationships someone will be hurt at the end and feel forced to accept such toxic relationships dynamic😵‍💫

[@lylyginny]

Ikr I don’t understand open relationships 😭 I understand her kink but wthhh that’s a major relationship issue

[@jl8257]

I’ve seen these all the time. 10/10 they all fail in the long run.

[@johnly_]

Thank you for the podcast!! Really loved it!!

[@jomopod]

yay!! we have new episodes every tuesday!!

[@clintonobi124]

finger to the mouth with covid still present is diabolical work LMFAOOOOOOO

[@jomopod]

Wildest strat in the MARKET

[@Matt19l]

Wasnt sure about Jomo when you guys first announced the channel, but ya’ll came out swinging. I love it 😂🔥

[@FilmwColleen]

I thought the first 3 mins was spicy then it ended with the FINGER THING

[@chloeshih]

THE FINGER THING DESTROYED ME 😂😂😂

[@annietruong94]

I had so much fun listening to this episode!!! And everything you guys said was super relatable too. Thank you so much for this!

[@jomopod]

Awww yes! We had a ton of fun yapping on this episode as well 😂😂😂 come back for part 2 next week!

[@maggiechan8477]

Loved this girls confidence

[@augystudio]

Wow what a great episode. Really funny but also lots of good advice!

[@jomopod]

🫶🫶🫶 hehe this episode was WILD

[@AyleeWonder]

This is so cute!!!! Totally made my day!

[@jomopod]

hehe part 2 will be next Tuesday!!

[@zehahaha603]

Kira basically said “is somebody gonna match my freak” cos damn🥵

[@jomopod]

kira is our queen 👑

[@RoseanneRanada]

Love this episode! Can't wait for the next part. So many juicy details! lol.

[@jomopod]

Yesss part 2 coming next Tuesday!

[@hchung155]

Wow, I truly love how unfiltered, entertaining, but real this episode was. Kira's perspective on dating is so interesting to hear, would love to have her on more as a guest :-)

[@EmilyPNW]

Such a great episode! 😂 Can't wait for the next.

[@jomopod]

The next will be part 2 of this conversation! It was WAY too steamy for one episode so we split it into 2!!

[@breathininluxembourg]

Love this episode! So fun!

[@jomopod]

🫶🫶 glad you enjoyed!! Part 2 coming next Tuesday!!

[@andrewpagan]

Chloe out here married to the Rizzler himself.

[@chloeshih]

damn straight I am 😂😂😂

[@jomopod]

WE LOVE KEVIN

[@yanggang1068]

I have the same thought/kink like Kira.

[@unit333angel]

LMAAAAO THE FINGER SUCKING 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@greenappo]

loved this episode!

[@kiwi-ne2cg]

loveeeee this episode!!!

[@jomopod]

🫶🫶🫶 we had so much fun in this episode! Come back for part 2 next Tuesday!!

[@ravesi88]

Loved the episode!! Does Kiera have social media? She was great!

[@jomopod]

Shes an offline girlie so no socials atm, but appreciate your interest!! 🫶🫶 - chloe

[@jomopod]

I also love her ~ she is absolutely wonderful!!! - chloe

[@ultimadrift]

Kira story is like Single by 30 show lol

[@Ghost-sz7uo]

we've got a new meme!! last week we got the hawk tuah girl and this week we got the finger to the mouth girl.

[@jomopod]

NOT FINGER TO MOUTH GIRL 😂

[@Startupsandsushi]

Tastefully shirtless at 40:32 is 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤

[@jomopod]

😳 -eric

[@pmp1340]

17:20 LMFAO

[@jomopod]

twitch happy hour was p lit, ok? 😂 - chloe

[@drshowman]

Im really enjoing this podcast

[@jomopod]

🫶🫶 we enjoy having you here!!

[@gardecg1]

I was born and raised in SF and never in my life have I ever heard the term "49ers" in terms of women LOL

[@jomopod]

Someone else mentioned it is probably a transplant thing 🤷🏻‍♀️ but yeah crazy term!! I was v shocked when I first heard it - chloe

[@Sam-by3kk]

6:17 - Exactly, and you should want to know that your man is desired by other women, it's female nature - this is not toxic at all and it's such a shame anyone tells you that

[@GaniMusings]

This episode was spicy!! Now I gotta get some help with my Hinge profile lol

[@jomopod]

Soo sooooo spicy!!! And yes get your girl friends to help with ur hinge profile!! Very helpful ~ - chloe

[@karstenberning]

What are Kiras socials?

[@jomopod]

she's asked us not to share! -eric

[@jl8257]

Boo!!!!!!

[@wame930]

Hahahaha I'm 15 minutes in and already had so much laugh, you are all amazing 😂

[@jomopod]

yeppp I was as shocked as u are when this happened 😂😂 - chloe

[@Not0nce]

45:10 - 45:20 my fav part of the pod lol

[@chloeshih]

😂😂😂 wingwomen at your service 🫡🫡🫡

[@jomopod]

we support one another 🫶🫶

[@Music88Rock]

same!! this was a great episode. The banter/convo is so fun btwn the 3 of you!! Kira is really funny and seems like a sweetheart, would love to see her come back for another ep!

[@micheburrito6784]

stop now i wanna see what kevin looks like 😂

[@jomopod]

He’s all over my social media! - chloe

[@audreynhupham2877]

Where can I find me a Kevin? He seems like such a sweet and wholesome guy.

[@charmainechin9249]

The advice on the height was off. You know on the other hand girls complain about guys lying about their height right 🤣 I'm with Eric on this

[@jomopod]

fair point fair point!! not gonna say it's the right thing to do but it's the one that gets you on the feed 👀 also my taller girlfriends who match with guys "the same height" would explicitly ask if they're actually that height or not haha. it's a thing! - chlo 😅

[@MrZola1234]

A nan that tries to get a woman to go home with him when he knows she is in a relationship is a peice of garbage. Turn it around, if it was a woman offering her boyfriend the same offer, would she attach such a positive conotation the proposition.

[@cynmarcyn]

What was the book title Chloe mentioned about the psychology thing?

[@allanpeter7700]

I wonder if the reason you like chucking is because of your first relationship, it happened before but you were taken gaslighted instead of actually acknowledging the real situation

[@Sam-by3kk]

5:03 - This shouldn't be controversial because one-sided open relationships are actually the healthiest set up for most women and there's good reason for it. Most women who 'lock down' their man end up feeling not attracted over time because they're castrating his natural masculinity and outwardness, and the man also ends up dissatisfied. A man should have multiple women that he is _devoted_ to and wants to have kids with - not just be open for the sake of sleeping around. Also it's beneficial because if the women like each other, they can help each other raise kids. Call me crazy, but that's exactly how human tribes were before.

[@swatilekha_roy]

Interesting!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@jomopod]

🫶🫶🫶🫶 welcome back!!

[@itssharonma]

finger to mouth is crazy 😭

[@jomopod]

😂😂😂 the wildest strat

[@jarrens]

LOL

[@jomopod]

😂😂😂

[@adiosamigos4907]

It got so wild at the end 🤣

[@jomopod]

I KNOW AND IT CONTINUES FOR PART TWO -eric

[@JustinRiray]

The perfect woman doesn't exi........

[@geasderlinasdwsxcdeasd]

?

[@Estrella-wh6li]

Da best ❤

[@jomopod]

glad u enjoyed ~~ 💕

[@plumezy]

What is Eric’s Zodiac sign?

[@BladeAurora]

43:08 there was a guy walking the background

[@after.allison]

GIIIRRRRRLLLLL

[@jomopod]

MAAAAMMMM

[@klu.official]

interesting take...

[@stanjungoo5940]

Finally some Koe lore!

[@jomopod]

oooh i kinda love this name for them - either that or Chlevin which just isn't good -eric

[@TheBtw1998]

W to the gf 🔥

[@wrenchguy2937]

LOL fun podcast

[@jomopod]

🎉🎉🎉 thank you for tuning in on day 1 of upload!!!

[@Porcelynnn]

Crazy that making out with someone isn’t cheating lollll ummm 😅

[@jomopod]

hey hey it is consensual!! gotta listen to the whole thing! But more elaboration in part 2 next week 👀👀👀

[@Jun0-b1i]

bro WHO is Kiera ☝🏾🤨

[@jomopod]

She’s our good friend!! We love her ~~

[@jhervis_]

Omgg kiraaa ❤

[@chloeshih]

KIRAAAA❤❤❤

[@jomopod]

Kira is wildin out here

[@Meatp0pp0t]

with the simps part... Women tend to be overly attracted to a guy who will push the right buttons at the right time. Some awkward men probably dont know how to or are afraid to do it and therefor will be overlooked a lot more. If Women learned to be a little bit more pragmatic in their choice they will find a good man for them a lot sooner. These days its really easy for men to be afraid to do certain things because you see a lot of women complain all the time. But I firmly believe the women complaining are also the women who choose very poorly a lot of the time. So it's a vicious circle which needs to be broken. And the only way I see it is for women to start to make better choices for men. And to make better choices they need to be a little bit more pragmatic

[@avilalovee]

Fazes are interesting!

[@ladyployploy]

Ughhhhhh im tired

[@jomopod]

🥲🥲🥲🥲

[@calvindthao95]

23:41

[@bossgains]

bro with that hair I honestly thought JOMO was 5'10 lol

[@marienoeI]

Koe 4L ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤