DATING & Predatory Behavior: A Lesson In What POWER Means To Men

[@tinachristine4573]

Oh my god! Thank you for explaining something I went through years ago. I kept getting into difficult relationships with guys, so when I took 'love' off the table and just wanted a lover with no strings attached, guys would literally act angry and depressed about it. Meaning it's not just sex they want from us, they want all of our feelings and emotions and the chance to manipulate them. If we take that power from them they don't get to have a power trip on us. Crazy!!

[@rebekkagasmi9451]

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@Greenplanet949]

This explains so much. They want us to love them so they can crush us. Revolting!

[@bdi_vd3677]

Maybe that's the people you chose? I can provide an example of my own. During the years the worse my mental state became, the more unstable girls I attracted. People mostly attract others who are at their level of development.

[@MS-sr6mj]

Shhh! Women are talking. ​@@bdi_vd3677

[@ssoomee]

I figured that out when I turned thirty. I called it ‘acting like a man’ and being as selfish as them and putting myself first. Let’s just say that the men were on their best behavior! 😂 Now I’ve completely decentred men and they FEEL IT. It frightens them that more women simply DO NOT GIVE A SHIT ABOUT THEM. Oh well 🥱 I hope they have the day they deserve!

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

Thank you for making the point that MEN love to submit, completely, for a rich man. And yet they scorn women for such behaviors. It's all double standards.

[@JKH-m4y]

Men make the best soliders, they like following orders

[@Raven.Madness]

@@JKH-m4ythey also make the perfect office workers, men really are more submissive naturally it seems lol!

[@kifi672]

@@JKH-m4y as long as they feel they do a "real man"'s job so...

[@PalisUK]

yv_edit was the first person to point that out for me

[@bdi_vd3677]

@@FishareFriendsNotFood972 you probably meant "to a rich man". I'm not enjoying submitting to anyone regardless status or money. And I know groups of people who do and who don't. But most importantly why do you feel the need to randomly defend a morally bankrupt position? 😐

[@Lysistrata2025]

You are completely right! They enjoy feeling like a conqueror and obsess about women who reject them.

[@Greenplanet949]

This explains my wretched marriage. This behavior started once I had a child. Years of abuse and infidelity followed my becoming a mother. It was like a switch was turned on. I didn’t even recognize this person. I am old and alone now but for years I asked myself why? Now, I know. By destroying women, they prove they are “men.”

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Masculinity is socialized in them as "not being like a woman", so they view women with disdain when all women are doing is existing.

[@readinggeorgeeliot1489]

Men don't even like themselves...

[@justhereforagoodtime88]

Everytime i read about or hear a man "apologize" or sing about putting his girl through hell, I've always known right off the bat thats not an apology thats bragging. Because the man gets off on knowing he made a woman suffer because atleast its some sort of mark he made

[@meli7315]

I had colleague in Barcelona where I lived for 5 years and another coworker stalked her, we needed to bring her at home daily after work. She was also German and she moved back to Germany because there was no one from her family and she felt completely unsafe. I felt so sorry for her. He was from the Italian team and he started obsessing over her. The company fired him and he stayed in front of the company with a knife and threatened to people to kill if they don’t let talk to her… it was horrible an absolute nightmare

[@britta030]

@@meli7315 that's crazy I also lived in Barcelona and briefly had a stalker there. I'm also Gernan and lived there for a year. Did you also work in a call center? 🤣 (because you said 'Italian team'). That's absolutely terrifying. Mine only stalked me for 2 weeks, he was near my job & I had already given my notice when it started. I became paranoid very quickly, so I can't even imagine what she went through 😳

[@meli7315]

@ I worked 2015-2019 for Colt technologies in Cornell’s de llobregat. How is the name of this person. The reason why I ask I had my own stalker in Barcelona. He almost unalived me, but it was outside of work.

[@meli7315]

@ I am really sorry for what you went through. I have lived in 3 countries in metropolitan cities as a woman always be cautious never say you are alone always say you have family there to men. ALWAYS

[@britta030]

@@meli7315 yes, I also worked there for Colt! Haha, that's funny! But I was there before you, I think 2012 or earlier. So we worked in the same team! I don't know his name, he was a complete stranger, he was in the train in the morning & would wait for me at the train station that was close to work (it was up on a hill). He looked Russian/ Eastern European. What happened with yours, do you feel like sharing that story?

[@tlingitgirl07]

Mel Hamlett just mentioned in her video the same thing about them not feeling manly when women just want casual hookups! It's so true!

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Or when women don't want marriage. I've always known since I was 10, that marriage wasn't for me. So, I've dated minimally even taking a 15 year long break from dating from age 25 ... Raising my niece from age 1-7, working, traveling, starting a business, now moving to my favorite destination for a job ...

[@Meow4B]

Oh I’ll have to go find that one thank you for mentioning it. I have a friend who literally just wants to be the cool girl and have hook ups and it’s so funny to watch men try to lie to her and finesse her when she’s like just come over. 😂 they can’t handle it, they can’t just be normal and have a good time with her they have to try to convince her they want to date her when she doesn’t even want to date them. Then they get real confused when she pulls back because that’s not what she’s looking for she’s just hooking up. Then they try to love bomb her it’s so funny.

[@Meow4B]

@@VeeKayGreenerGrass I have been vocally Childfree by choice since I was a child and the amount of men who have tried to baby trap me because then they knew they could control my movements have been astounding. I’m a middle-aged woman so my whole entire life I’ve been hearing about women baby trapping men and gold diggers and how we all just want to get married more than anything and that was never me. And men don’t know how to handle that, when you don’t really want anything from them like that they have nothing else to offer.

[@kittykatz4001]

Re Rich nerd gets “hot” wife trope: I noticed DECADES ago and several wives ago, that 🍊, makes NO PRETENSE of fixing himself up, trying to look “better, no concessions, whatsoever, to improving his looks, but each of his wives are extremely (by societal standards/metrics) conventionally attractive. Power move. Also, I have seen some really ugly, broke guys, seem to be resistant to improving their wardrobe, haircut, clothes etc., but complain about women don’t like them. I witnessed an older, wealthy, unfortunate-looking dude, who does everything possible to improve his appeal (works out, therapy, wardrobe, keeps his hair looking his best, personality) attempt to give “tips” to a younger guy. Young ugly dude rejected. The older guy literally was saying,” look, I was not born with an attractive face either…” Men really are invested in making their own problems and causing drama. Don’t get me started about the guy with the therapist who had no idea why he should leave a specific woman alone who refuses to cook, but THAT is HIS own standard of HIS own making…

[@TalesandtomeswithAmy]

Thank you for this. I love how you highlighted that men don’t like consensual casual sex because it removes the notion of conquest and control. Mel Hamlett said something similar when she recounted her dating experiences. I’m recently divorced and I’m considering that point very carefully as I enter casual dating for the first time.

[@BayouBarbie504]

Not even worth it. Get a thruster and a rose and call it a day❤

[@navideology]

You're so wise. ❤ I've learned so much from you 💯🙏🏻

[@RySL66]

Lots of insecure dudes offended in the comments. If you ain't about that life you got nothing to be offended by ❤

[@angieblake3424]

💯 THANK YOU.

[@chayo4537]

"About that life" is an american ghetto expression from the urban/black community. But you probably know that already

[@KhaMuh-c5f]

I noticed when I lost sexual interest in my ex, he no longer had any more power over me mentally or emotionally.

[@Plutos_Child69]

I was in a relationship with a man who tried to push my sexual boundaries. He manipulated and guilted me into agreeing to a threesome with another woman. I am bi but extremely monogamous. Even on the day we broke up he warned me that I either agree to threesomes for a man or he would cheat on me. A fool. My fiancé is the opposite, he respects my boundaries (he is the first man in my life to do so) and that turns me on the most and I experiment with him the most because I can finally trust him.

[@kittykatz4001]

If I were “bi” I would cross XYs out of all access to me. However, since I am str8, I stopped dating in the early 1990s. I guess I would have to be a bi XX to understand why bi women would tell str8 XYs that they are ( wmn) bi, unless you are dating XYs who are also bi. Pls Be careful.

[@seenbyseven]

Something similar happened to me.. but it wasn’t a threesome, it was violent stuff and I said no. I felt extremely pressured. Then he spiked my drink and did it to me anyway when no one was around

[@littleblackfox1]

​​@@seenbysevenomg I'm so sorry that happened to you.. I was sa'd by my boyfriend when I passed out after getting home from my 21st.. I woke up in the middle of it and he got kneed in a very painful place.. Caught me off guard because we had been dating for like 2 years and he seemed so nice and I trusted him completely.. I didn't even realise how bad it was until I told a friend and heard myself describe it in words out loud.. It taught me a valuable lesson about thinking you know someone.. especially someone who benefits from you "liking them".. I never considered someone could fake a relationship for over 2 years.. like why? Right? Now I know better.. I hope you got some justice for what he did.. all we can do is roll with the punches and try to learn from every bruise..

[@seenbyseven]

@@littleblackfox1 Im so sorry, that is horrific. I hate how common these stories are, but it is at least a blessing that people do talk about it now I think some men have proclivities that are truly violent, dominating, and cruel, but they try to pass it off as “fantasies” or “normal” … i personally am extremely interested in hearing about fantasies and interests, because some people tell you exactly what they intend to do to you, and they are just testing your temperature to see how much of it you’ll accept before they might have to wait for an opportunity, like you being really drunk. Or in my case, in the bathroom, so he could spike my drink I think a lot of men have lost touch with what a true, supportive, meaningful connection is, and they see that forming of a bond with you as a kind of “well, you’re not going anywhere, I just need to play my cards right so I can play out some of my fantasies” . Not all, I have met some fantastic men since, and one who has inspired me to start my own business. But a lot of these dudes who watch corn and stuff all day, this is literally ALL they think about

[@angieblake3424]

"Men don't see women as humans." 😢😢😢 REAL men view us as valuable humans who deserve dignity and respect. Just haven't met many of these men. 😢

[@msredcurtains]

Correction. ‘Any’ 😢

[@Zoraya4833]

They don't exist

[@athenavo627]

They do exist. They are just not quite as rare as unicorns.

[@angieblake3424]

@athenavo627 They aren't quite as rare as unicorns but almost. 😉

[@madeleinebeaudet3125]

Your videos helped me stand up for myself and stop excusing unacceptable behaviour from men, please never stop making videos it changes people's lives!

[@Plutos_Child69]

Bravo for you! ❤🎉

[@EmpressAshe]

Yesss 😌🙌🏼

[@kris_ty685]

This is a great video!!! Once I started understanding narcissism and how it has related to every aspect of my life. I have been single all my life because I just can't submit! Every relationship I've been in has seemed oppressive. Ugh!

[@csherman47]

Same here. I didn't realize until I was married that my role was to be a slave. I did not sign up for that.

[@Xianne027]

OMG! I'm old enough to be her mother and thought I had it figured out, and then this girl comes and puts it all into its place! What a wise woman, you are! ❤ I mean, I was always seeing it along those lines, but was afraid to really state it as such. And then you come out and tell it like it is! 💪

[@dragonfox2.058]

Patriarchy has ruined this entire species

[@lightofall]

Yup take a look around they label any woman connected to earth as a witch

[@max_the_mantis5173]

The 'nice guys' in the comments missing the damn point probably didn't even watch to the end or retain the main points. Way to prove her point. 🙄

[@---tc8km]

4 videos in 1 day!!! This feels like Christmas!!! Keep feeding us!! Such great, relatable content, so well explained and so HELPFUL!!!

[@citygirl713]

Anddddd this is why my psycho ex won’t leave me alone. I’m like fool you don’t even like me.. stop calling me from different numbers and stop emailing me!!!! He couldn’t act right in the first place which his behavior shows me he didn’t love me, yet he refuses to LEAVE ME ALONE! Like JUST GO AWAY!!!!! But it’s about conquering me and seeing if I will give in and go back. That’s all it is. The typical narcissistic pattern. The hoovering, the love bombing, he gets what he wants, and then the discard begins. He starts getting bored again and his behavior goes right back to how it was before. It’s literally because I’m being a bit€h, I’m ignoring him, I don’t want him so it’s like he gets off to that and wants to come back in and see if he can conquer me. That has absolutely NOTHING to do with love and everything to do with control.

[@WynnWynn-gl3fk]

Join 4b!

[@KTD888]

Pure truth, very sad because is big huge majority of man who has this program super engrained and are attached to it eith their life

[@Maria-b9m2q]

Everything in this world is about sex, except for sex. Sex is about power.

[@teresamagnusson]

Brilliant

[@SincerelyOfficiallyBlossom]

AMAZINGLY PUT

[@AE-wy7ze]

Oscar Wilde

[@blackorchid2494]

They want the GFE experience without a real genuine commitment!

[@tallyho2125]

Men don’t see us as human beings. Wow

[@artistasha9331]

Finally hit you huh.

[@bdi_vd3677]

That's such an echo chamber type of statement. Crazy.

[@ladybug3380]

Do women see men as human beings?

[@ravnidara]

​@@ladybug3380duh. They birth them of course they do

[@Himmiefan]

@@ladybug3380 If they act the way a great many do, then it's debatable. These are men who choose to be less than human.

[@thelau61]

Older than you and already knew all of this. But good that your age group is waking up to the reality dynamic.

[@RongRoseLiu]

Damn girl! This is one of your BEST! I’ll be re-watching on the regular to remind myself. 🙏🏻

[@Plutos_Child69]

+1

[@yv_edit]

that’s amazing!! thank you so much for the kind words 🩷🫂

[@ebonyjalivay3000]

Speaking real facts! 💯. Ladies, be careful out there and protect yourself!

[@grandmaymay8110]

I wish I could give this 1 million likes!!! Truth spoken!!!

[@TheRuthie30]

I love your videos. How you disect a topic, open our minds and articulate our lived experiences and observations. Thank you for this video.

[@Plutos_Child69]

Men in your comments: Men ☕

[@ThandoNdlovu-zr3ld]

I live for your videos each time you post it's another puzzle piece of my understanding of the patriarchy coming into place. Love LOVE your videos ❤️❤️❤️❤️. Please never stop I'm taking your teachings to heart.

[@EmpressAshe]

They probably jealous of the woman that she getting money from the rich man when They Can't even get Respect/Approval from Himm

[@richierich7384]

❤❤❤

[@lightofall]

So many are sex obsessed and there is no love making anymore very sad state of affairs. Can’t believe we are having to teach people heart centered connection

[@mmck2565]

There never was an abundance of love making. Ever in the history of men. And anytime you find it or see it is an outlier. And an example of a human who is in tune with their humanity and accepting and respectful of the humanity of others.

[@user-wx9xr8rl8g]

Great and wonderful video. Thank you.

[@JKH-m4y]

God your content is so gold.

[@chibap84]

So much wisdom in every video I watch from you ❤

[@Tata4d5dAscencion]

Preach sis! 🙌🏼

[@KatieMcManus-md4dj]

Great video. Crazy amount of wisdom here...

[@AnnSmajstrla]

Your videos NEVER miss.

[@Show_Love_Serina]

Facts! I thought I was heartbroken by man I was financially supporting. Now I know he was just mad he let me be his Sugar Daddy. XD

[@Meow4B]

Why would you financially support “the provider”? Ew don’t do that sis

[@Show_Love_Serina]

@Meow4B Clearly I figured that out XD

[@akshayaelango663]

So true and it's incredible that this is very common...these type of behaviors should have been stopped centuries ago

[@angieblake3424]

I know, right???

[@OfficialAuntieJenn]

Halito 👋🏽 You literally took the words outta my mouth. I have been formulating a very similar thought for a couple of weeks. Thank you for putting so much of it into words for me. 🧡

[@jones2277]

the key thing here is to be a grownup and look after yourself because no one will do it for you.

[@craigmusa2254]

Telling a man no is honestly scary .... oh btw I'm a man

[@bdi_vd3677]

How is it scary? Maybe you should spend more time socialising, doing some outdoor activities? Because you are establishing pathological behaviour while implying that others are responsible for your reactions. Gaining hobby or going to psychotherapy will help solving the issue.

[@craigmusa2254]

@bdi_vd3677 dude lol I'm literally a man. I work at a gas station and if u tell a grown man "no" or give them a slight inconvenience they freak the f out. Men are much more emotional than women.

[@craigmusa2254]

@bdi_vd3677 told a man we had a 5 dollar minimum and he acted like a child who had just been put in time out. Women are scared to say no because men assault them because of it.

[@bdi_vd3677]

@@craigmusa2254 that's a biological fact. Men are early imprinted to suppress emotions. But we are rarely taught to contain them outside of sports. You should practice some martial art of your choice. Not to be skillful in combat, but to develop a sense of deep self-reliance and control of a situation. Mainly emotional. Good luck.

[@bdi_vd3677]

@@craigmusa2254 meale children are more emotional than female, but they soon learn to repress those emotions. And we go with it through our lives, having no sympathy or even dignity of basic human understanding the likes you show. Thanks to being raised by females and rarely having male role models. Anyways, what you describe is a lack of perseverance and emotional control that you feel on those situations. Try doing martial arts or doing some behavioural therapy because you sound a lot like implying that other men are responsible for your emotional reactions (while they are not). Or don't do any of those and blame others. Your life, your choice.

[@marijamc6286]

This is scarys good. Those anyone have maybe book recommendations about this?

[@amypiddington6833]

This is excellent. The Game: 41 Shades of Men by Princella Clark. It’s on Audible.

[@Egg_Apron]

"The Creation of Patriarchy" by Gerda Lerner

[@stephaniewynn8291]

When God was a Woman by Merlin Stone

[@aawillma]

The Will to Change by bell hooks

[@Mikirono23]

There have been times when men have offered me food and I would decline and the would pretend to not hear me or try to convice of taking the food. While the their other male coworkers didn't receive the same treatment

[@lightofall]

Oh and there is no safety by the system we pay our taxes to

[@deanandruth7439]

Just random, but have you heard Labour by Paris Paloma?

[@EunMin-yt1xx]

Who hasn't?

[@deanandruth7439]

​@EunMin-yt1xx me for some reason, just heard it a little while ago.

[@no.6377]

@@deanandruth7439 lol glad you found it. It has a lot of different versions now that are equally lovely -- The cacophony, extended, acoustic. The cacophony is my favorite. But have you heard "Last woman on Earth" ? The line "for the first time since I drew breath, I'm undesirable again" hits *hard* .

[@tinkerbellrochester7021]

Great song

[@moonlightstargem1006]

This explains my whole life! Lol

[@janellemarierose]

I agree with this and I'm a Christian, because Jesus is the ONLY "man" for me. He healed me of what men did to me, He treats me like a queen, He lifts me up. In Genesis 3:16, after the fall, God says to Eve "Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you." It explains all our wounded, fallen relationships...I had a revelation of Jesus and His magnificent, pure, perfect heart. The patriarchy was created by fallen men, not healthy men who are whole in Christ. Period.

[@Vladd7]

I think a big factor that’s being avoided here is that there are a lot of women find “toxically masculine” men to be very attractive. As a man in the dating world, I’ve directly observed how temporarily embodying more of the toxic male traits is rewarded by women with attention and validation. Pushing this concept further, since women are the gate keepers to sex and reproduction in general, it is true to state that “toxic masculinity” and the “patriarchy” (if they do exist) exist because of direct support from women.

[@martibee8984]

Women are indoctrinated from birth to believe that's just how things are. They support it because they have been properly brainwashed to. That's a big portion of why men support it too other than the obvious benefits. There's a ton of things that harm men there as well, but they still support it as just how things are.

[@BL-sd2qw]

Thank you for this

[@szszszsz95395]

The candor you post is ✊️💪Keep it going!

[@VenusianLissette]

im so glad Melina left that psycho. God bless her.

[@clarissawittenwiller7221]

excellent content 🥰

[@Dsonsee]

Love your vids, but heavily disagree with you when you say the roots of patriarchy, racism, capitalism, etc is insecurity. I'm drawing here from what anthropological and sociological research says to say that it wasn't so much insecurity that was the root, but exploitation of labour. Patriarchy and racism are the post facto justifications oppressors came up with to justify themselves.

[@lucasbrake7851]

You're confusing the symptoms with the disease. People don't feel the need to justify a thing they are doing unless they feel insecure about it.

[@BayouBarbie504]

@@lucasbrake7851bars!❤

[@marcietownsend3635]

Agreed. Domination and exploitation need a mechanism to justify itself. Add dehumanization to the mix.

[@moniquem1873]

Excellent video ❣️❣️❣️🎯💯🌟

[@larifari776]

I love your content! Very true ❤

[@therealpancakegirl777]

4:30 yeah way to leave a mark on the world by ruining someone’s life. thanks. never again.

[@Rills4040]

Thanks for explaining this

[@Rhnhfmfjhrnnfgfjgjmgj]

Спасибо вам большое. Я думаю ваше видео спасет много жизней женщин. (я из Казахстана)

[@Coach-ks5yd]

He knows you're a human being and more evolved in him. He knows hecis less human beast

[@lightofall]

Rape is also being decriminalised

[@SamSpray-jg9hz]

? How is that

[@kamilahdavis1393]

@@SamSpray-jg9hz 🇺🇸👨🏻‍🦳 2024. Accused of gRaping a woman and he will soon be 🏃 the 🇺🇸! He has also said and done some very inappropriate things to women. Furthermore, 52% of women voted in favor of……… !

[@lightofall]

They don’t give trials and when they do in rare occasions they don’t use evidence. They are also not sending criminals to prison apparently due to lack of space and funds …

[@bleeblah3583]

Shes not describing men. She describing sociopathy and narcissistic personality disorder.

[@audreydoyle5268]

Which men more often than not exhibit

[@Undercovershrinkhere]

@@audreydoyle5268sadly so, most do fall on that spectrum

[@DeathFromAboveGames]

That’s what I was thinking too. These behaviors are not normal.

[@KossolaxtheForesworn]

so....men

[@DeathFromAboveGames]

@@KossolaxtheForesworn half of those people are women.

[@lightofall]

We need men to step up

[@kwyatt261]

Forget it. We don't want any part of this

[@Meow4B]

Nah they won’t that’s why we are 4B. We’ve given up on them. I don’t think they have the capacity to do better, so we are just rejecting them from our lives. And it’s blissful. I’ve been 4B since 2018 and my life has never been better.

[@MayDay-yn3bw]

Nah, they need to step off.

[@jaynfontain6635]

accurate

[@triloization]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@Meow4B]

I’m not saying you should accept this because he has ADHD, but leaving the cabinets open is totally an ADHD thing. I’m a woman and I live alone and I catch myself doing it when my symptoms are wild. But if he doesn’t have ADHD and he’s doing these things he probably is trying to assert dominance

[@imwatching2960]

Or he just doesn't give a fk about those being open or the fact that someone has to close them. My boyfriend does that and to me it translates as ingoring that closing them turns me into his housekeeper/mom.

[@happilyevernever4289]

It's not ADHD. Many men actually do that because they have been coddled by their momma or seen their daddy do that to their momma and want the same dynamic.

[@MayDay-yn3bw]

I'm AuDHD, and I often leave cabinets open

[@angieblake3424]

This is the complete opposite of what Jesus taught. As a leader, he taught His disciples to be a servant, NOT a dictator.

[@amyheckathorn7172]

3:38 leaving all the cabinet drawers open may be ADHD, because I do that, too.

[@MayDay-yn3bw]

This convoluted shit literally makes my head hurt.

[@gabriellacindyxoxo]

🤍🤍🤍

[@cassiedeehoo]

All racism, or only some racism.

[@KseniaKsenia6]

Do you want to be right or happy?? I prefer happy You can not win. I tried. We are all equal. And i am not talking about exeptions like narcissists, psychopaths and such. I am talking about the rest. Accept to be happy😉😉 Life is too short

[@Count990]

Rather be safe and alive

[@MayDay-yn3bw]

I'm happier without an XY

[@Id.rather.be.a.dragon]

🧡🧡🧡

[@xejelah]

FACTS

[@Mow-y6z]

Masc women too a girl tried to to this too me 😭😭😭😭😭

[@Sarcasmarkus]

🙄not much critical thinking here.

[@jasonashley4579]

For years I felt sorry for Tina Turner, but then I got married and now I understand where Ike was coming from.

[@playadre7431]

you are going to die alone 😘

[@MayDay-yn3bw]

Thank you for proving her point. You're all toe jam.

[@jasonashley4579]

​@@playadre7431 sounds less miserable.

[@051adam]

Mmkay... you've basically just described social ape behavior in a nutshell. Yay!! Listen... I get that man-bashing is a generalist's game... but not all men are actually like this... and the lack of proper understanding for people as individuals is kinda disturbing to me. Anyway, you seem nice... so I wish you well. Thank you for your content.

[@littleblackfox1]

I think the generalisations were in reference to the systematic nature of mysoginy throughout every culture in human history.. and how it plays out on a personal level, especially when entering into relationships with men, many of whom were raised to believe women are genetically inferior.. Of course "not all men" but the point is that its enough men to make being a straight woman trying to find a male partner who views her as a person (and isnt faking it) inherently more risky. I'm thankful I found a man who despite everything, is a great person.. he was raised by a single mom and saw first hand the bs she was lumped with daily.. Weve been together 10 years this year and I'm gonna do everything I can to keep him because he's proven that he's worth the investment. Good men do exist, I dont think anyone is saying they dont.. If you dont just blindly assume 50% of the human population is inferior to yourself, then congrats! you're probably not who this video is talking about..

[@dhopeyinyang4103]

Alot of insight here. But you are also very unhinged and hurt and sensing a level of deep resentment of men.

[@angieblake3424]

She is speaking the truth to bring awareness. Unhinged??? Wow, you se very triggered by her speaking the truth. I was nearly destroyed by a "mam" who terrorized me amd took away my freedom for 10 years. We NEED to raise awareness because women are not safe by these predators. Now you can call me unhinged!! 😂😂😂

[@CrAzYiNsAnEBaRbiE1987]

And? Yall act like yall don't resent women. Yall can't do half of what women can and are jealous of women. Resenting men us a plus now, doesn't hurt our feelings. Yes we resent you and going to help other women resent you. We don't need to be creating more useless men by reproducing with useless men.

[@angieblake3424]

Thanks for warning us that you aren't a safe man since you view this woman as unhinged. Why??? Just because she is warning women to be safe from predators??? Thanks for warning us to stay away from you.

[@angieblake3424]

​@CrAzYiNsAnEBaRbiE1987 yes!! We need to be VERY selective and be with REAL men who deserve us. NOT cowards who like to abuse and terrorize us. 👏 This

[@dhopeyinyang4103]

🫡 whatever helps you sleep at night.

[@kifi672]

I wonder where you get your facts from? Is it your own observation, or thoughts, or do you have actual studies on the subject and where are the references (tiktok does not count as a valid reference)? Because although I can follow your logic, the men I know do not function that way, and the level of insecurity/ need for control varies tremendously from one individual to the other. The "masculinity" you describe is a social construct heightened by social medias promoting toxic masculinity and incel culture. Thus, might be preeminent in young men in the US but it is not an universal.

[@TMeyer-ge5pj]

come on lol. There's no way you just know tons of good men who see women as equals. I don't think I have ever met one in my entire life and I'm 28 years old. Is it possible that you just don't see things as they truly are and that you live in denial? lol

[@DeChihauha]

You're asking proof and research for will to power? Ummm.. Otherwise, from sociological perspective, there are million historical and psychological research on the topic, from different cultures and time. It was even referenced in the video, when talking about resources. Plus, biologically, have you thought why we have female neanderthal DNA in human genome, but not the male? Hint: it's not because our species survival and spread depended on consensual, romantic, respectful, life-long monogamous marriage. Another hint: it's because our species's males are disproportionately much stronger than females, in comparison to other mammals, and most of apes. Also, prison r*pes, homophobia, honor k*llings and stoning are not new phenomena. The voting laws for women? The pro-choice movement? Don't you think all that might be connected.....??

[@kifi672]

@@TMeyer-ge5pj I've lived in Norway half of my life and I'm 51. So yes, actually, men do see women (mostly) as equals here and treat them as human beings.

[@notthequeen7733]

Wow. Let me move to where you live. Unicorns abound apparently! I don't know a single man that ISNT the way she describes.

[@kifi672]

@@notthequeen7733 very sad for you :-(

[@unicorn73212]

It really depends on the guy though its probably not wise to put in your bio that your just looking for something casual they know you are looking for a date otherwise you wouldn't have signed up for the site just give them an idea of what your ideal partner is and if they are looking for a genuine connection feel free to give you a call. Its still brief and it still leaves them wondering what the hell you want from them. The main thing there looking for is a pretty picture. If you look good on his arm then he might stil pursue you Because if he can take you out in public and your not really picky with men he might see that as a bonus if you didn't reveal much about yourself.

[@GracefulGardenia]

Get off dating apps altogether

[@Meow4B]

No it doesn’t depend on the guy, it’s never worth it.

[@endureross7431]

Be yourself. She might like u..... like seriously?

[@sb853547]

Yesss

[@trxxblx-wxs-hxrx]

Sorry but as a man, you as a woman didnt even say the whole idea abt men w power-women IN HINDSIGHT are v attracted to men w power. A lot of claims dont make sense hear bc i feel much of this is farbricated and parroted just like men not wanting to work-we want to work and live a meaningful life. We want to find a woman that cherished pwrosnal values vs items or things that have monetary value and all relationships come w monetary value. You rarely hear abt how women should reuqire a man to trest to soemthing to reciprocate their feelings tonthem while men dont get the same in return, except ask for the bare minimum (if you do the research, womens demands and daring criteria is far me superficial than what a man wants). I feel much of this is like the Redpill goons saying silly stuff 60% of the time except Aba and Preach, bc they actually look at the problme as a whole. Much kf this came a w narrow mind just bc Chad refused you, and women cant be honest about past relationships bv they know there will be reprocussion. How many stories do you hear abt the lonely giy and the woman that gets ina relationship to abuse him (this is a whole genre in manga btw keep in mind) but there is SUCH rare instances the average mid-sub4/5 hurts the good girl. But the reverse effect is more common trope than the ladder being mentioned in this video. Thats just my take but then again, you try to talk to women abt things to make sure thwure head on is striahft when thinking critical, and many attack saying youre bigoted for thinkig-saying otherwise. None ever stick around to ask "why you think such ways. Maybe i have so info that can be backed up and agreed upon, or dispute with legel headed arguments 💀 thats what happens in a pragmatic transforming world.

[@lorit4480]

most people in the dating pool are toxic, that’s why we keep thinking “men caused this” or “women are to blame”. The toxic ones are gaslighting us so we don’t realize there are kind people out there.

[@MrSdsok]

​@@lorit4480so true, most communities are toxic, dating community is toxic at another level

[@audreydoyle5268]

Sorry, I don't take advice from someone who is not careful enough to spell most of their words correctly, or use proper punctuation. It honestly only shows lack of discipline in eduation. Or lack of intelligence, take your pick

[@SamSpray-jg9hz]

You have ideas, what you dont have is experience being a woman, thats probably why women get mad at you trying to tell them what is they should and shouldn't feel based off of your ideas. Much of what is said here is consistent with real life experience unfortunately

[@MayDay-yn3bw]

"Men is too headache"

[@FaithwWorks]

2:08 what! lol what kind of men have you been observing? sure there are guys who really need to tighten up in many areas of life but if you think all men are like the ones described in this video I feel very sorry for you & I hope yall end up meeting some good, honorable respectable men, they are out there. just not always the ones in the clubs or with a big group in public

[@dyhia1311]

This creator has been married for years, and she isn't bashing "all men" she's just pointing out that this happens and that there are signs we can look for in order to avoid this tyoe of men

[@xysarenottheprize]

Hey besties ✨ This is your friendly reminder to ignore XYs in the comments

[@FaithwWorks]

@@dyhia1311 but she literally said “this is how men are raised” it’s a wild take. the 5 min I watched + the comments, even her reply are directed toward all men, not just the ones women should avoid. definitely avoid ones described in this video - but leading ppl to believe all men are like that is untruthful & deceptive. this video describes guys who have some serious issues they need to address that come from being spoiled & having 0 actual struggle in life (surprisingly THOSE are the “men” who get all the ladies attention) my generation chooses to be involved with the opposite of who they should be, someone who would actually treat them right. red flags usually show early

[@azidoe]

Not all men, but enough of them that it could be any man you meet. And the “enough of them” includes men like you who say “not all men” to try and invalidate the argument when you know damn well that she wasn’t saying it was all men.

[@FaithwWorks]

@@azidoe no one’s trying to invalidate anything besides the fact that she is directing this toward all men i’m gonna just ignore that last part you said, another wild take 😂 most ppl who stumble upon this video will see it for what it is

[@yellowmellow4753]

Those are all good points but we shouldn’t excuse ourselves from some of the blame. If there’s a woman saying casual sex is okay for her then that’s a problem for so many reasons, which is why he doesn’t know what to do with it. Casual sex only benefits a man- don’t be convinced by these songs and bs.

[@JohnDoe-ip2hx]

You are describing NARCISSISTS/SOCIOPATHS. Stop stereotyping MEN. Heal your inner child. Many women make the wrong choices AND they're either ignorant concerning red flags of narcissists/sociopaths OR they DESIRE the bad boy image.

[@CreamyBeige]

🥱

[@MomeGnome]

No she's describing a typical male. 💯 maybe you don't understand since you're not a woman, but this is very typical of what men are like.

[@Stormywaters13]

Telling on yourself, John? If it doesn't apply, let it go.

[@EmpressAshe]

Loll Atp you gotta say Alll Women make the wrong choices and if it's Alll or Most Women then what does that mean abt All/Most Men ??

[@kwyatt261]

You WANT all the things you say you hate, but ONLY from the one specific image of your dreamy knight in shining armor

[@KossolaxtheForesworn]

ok incel keep crying

[@Plutos_Child69]

😂

[@happilyevernever4289]

She said the knight in shining armour is a lie. Listen for once, babygirl.

[@SageLittleHawk]

Relax, we're just manifesting destiny over here.

[@SageLittleHawk]

But at the same time, for some women, it's about the Johnson. Plenty of videos of women saying money, Johnson, looks, then is he a decent person.

[@canesugar911]

I watched plenty of video where males were grapist, therefore, all men.🙄 Stupid thinking

[@khrisi9410]

Because she know most men aren't decent so she focus on the things that benefit her, sorta like men do to women

[@kushinaa1XD]

Johnson?

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

But a lot of y’all’s Johnson is diseased or you don’t even know how to use it.

[@SageLittleHawk]

@KurosakiLuvar01 mine is not, and the only complaint was that it wasn't enough. Not porn star material over here. 🤣 ✌️

[@yellowmellow4753]

Those are all good points but we shouldn’t excuse ourselves from some of the blame. If there’s a woman saying casual sex is okay for her then that’s a problem for so many reasons, which is why he doesn’t know what to do with it. Casual sex only benefits a man- don’t be convinced by these songs and bs.

[@larifari776]

So does marriage and relationships.

[@happilyevernever4289]

Then everything other thing benefits a man. 😂😂

[@MayDay-yn3bw]

Patriarchy has all the games rigged