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[@RundfunkerOnline]

The problem with social media is that people think there is always someone better out there and that’s why it is very difficult. You are never treated as a catch, despite having a lot to offer.

[@aikighost]

Yep Socials and Dating Apps help create the illusion of infinite choice, and there is but only for hookups. Not for serious relationships.

[@citpelocitycit7663]

They think that because they self are not the best Version of themself, or they looking for what they not have... they dont know who they are .... they dont follow what they talk make you not a strong independent person 😂😂😂thats goes to All genders

[@Carlashnikov996]

on point

[@citpelocitycit7663]

Berlin is poor thats the offer

[@helloworld7818]

It's not only for hookups, that's what men say. Most girls I know using the apps want relationships. ​@@aikighost

[@paco9766]

I am based in Berlin and I think it is extremely easy to meet new people, go on dates, and have a good time. For those who are also new in the city, going out on dates is a good way to explore the districts and get to know bars and cool places. The problem I see with the dating scene in Berlin is that a lot of people have mental health issues and instead of going to therapy, they go on dating apps. Also, a lot of people after moving here, went out on dates with an open heart to genuinely find someone but after 3 or 4 ghosts, people think "Well, I also was ghosted, so from now on I also don't care anymore" and everybody starts looking at people as "discardable things". This probably has nothing to do with Berlin but with the dating app culture. From what I know, my friends back home (Portugal) also struggle a lot with dating and they live in small towns. Perhaps the problem is due to dating apps and social media. People have so many options that it seems impossible for someone to commit (fear of missing out). It is called "The Paradox of Choices".

[@vladcraioveanu233]

Why commit? LET'S HAVE FUN!

[@dontcare9005]

It's definetly social media and dating apps. All the scientific evidence points towards that. It's the pure accessibility that makes potential partners an expandable ressource which can be replaced with little effort. Thus the selective pressure on each individual spirals out of control. Humans are naturally not made for this kind and amount of mating possibilities.

[@aylincakir7298]

really well put together 👏

[@Ukri1]

It's hard to find someone who doesnt have mental health issues or some disorders which really drag you down. Better be single than being in a borderline crazy relationship

[@ccccccshi]

⁠@@Ukri1 I think most of people nowadays have some mental health issues, which I think isn’t the biggest issue. The approach to it is bigger problem, and also the fact that people don’t care about it and do nothing about it. Like person in the comment said “instead of going to therapy they go to dating apps”. And stigmatization of borderline personality disorder is another problem of our society. Of course it is hard, like in every relationship, trauma is a big problem and cause here. But if the person is aware of it and is getting enough help, therapy and works on themselves, then the relationship can work pretty well. Also other person in the relationship has to be very supportive, patient and understanding. Our society and mental health system makes bpd look very bad, incurable, crazy and the worst u can have. But thats just stigmatization of it and it is actually way more complex, trauma-based than just putting label “disorder” to it. So please try do bigger research before u just stigmatize it and write off people with some mental health issues.

[@mr6sg]

The guy holding the dog said it all.

[@wien1563]

Yeah he was so on point and very true in general concerning not only Berlin i guess but also the current lack of commitment/patience towards another person in the whole of modern society

[@somefiend5460]

@@wien1563yeah it’s been hard to make friends for the same reason

[@Brzusiosk8]

Dating in nowadays its almost impossible. Congarts to narcissistic social media and government you made it 👏

[@Rainer125]

But only because women exclusively only want 6‘4ft Chads

[@rockon8174]

😂😂😂😂

[@Dutch_Engineer_Piff_Dahnk]

It's because of liberalism

[@eksbocks9438]

The whole point is to take whatever is logical or ethical. And go in the exact opposite direction. Just so they can keep us in a loop. And not do anything constructive at all.

[@fatemad4012]

​@@eksbocks9438yes they are in loop😂

[@__moonlight__]

it's not just Berlin, these problems are common all over the US and Europe

[@Smartcom5]

Though the Big Cities represent the pinnacle of it, especially the shallow and meaningless lifestyle.

[@gabele2386]

Trust me, its way more a problem in Berlin then other German cities

[@melonytoni9016]

@@gabele2386 I live in munich. I dated quite alot through dating apps. People are just rushing through people. You get nexted for the smallest things. People dating multiple people at once, shotgun approach.

[@seahorse_rider]

I live in Oslo, exact same thing

[@NoctLightCloud]

​@@seahorse_ridereven in Oslo? damn there's no hope for Europe😂

[@nedthestaffieegan3452]

The chap with the poodle comes across as genuine and sweet. He's got a healthy attitude to relationships, it must be difficult when the dating scene is not conducive to such attitudes. Hope he finds someone who is on his wavelength 😊

[@JennaHasm]

Don't be fooled. Asian men ABSOLUTELY go for women way outside their league and are single because they only go for the top atractive women that pay 60/40 of the bills (not 50/50). I know several men that want women that will pay 80% of the bills and work.

[@Mya-Elba]

0:55 that’s an international problem it’s not only in Berlin 😢 dating apps are a cancer spread worldwide, each person in this video seems to be nice and genuine, I wish they'll all find their soulmate in 2024

[@TheMovementHub]

They make it easier and harder at the same time. I personally don't like them at all.

[@thomaseberhard9056]

I totally agree! They all seem indeed kinda sympatic, so what they conclude is actually very sad!!

[@aikighost]

@@TheMovementHub they make hooking up easier but they destroy the idea of actual relationships and give people the "too many options= no choices get made" issue. The sooner all dating apps are banned the better off the world will be. Either that or welcome in the coming worldwide population collapse.

[@ronnie5329]

Women who keeps meeting men, that do not want to commit, and just want casual relationships, need to understand they are "shopping" way out of their league, and it happens a lot on those apps. And men and women need to figure out how to flirt in real life again. I am late 30s in a long term relationship, and I notice it, women are not sending any choosing signals at all. And if they do, I have serious doubt that men know it, unless it is a very clear choosing signal. Also, gotta meet in local activities, volunteer for something, and if you are a woman, and find chemistry with a man there, please send a clear choosing signal to him. Looking at him will not do the trick. Smile, laugh at his jokes, and maybe even touch his shoulder. Ever since metoo i think men dont know how their advances will be looked at, especially those you actually want to be with, those who are considerate.

[@thomaseberhard9056]

@@ronnie5329 i feel this Statement a loot! It is very unfortunate…

[@DelasVC]

Why it‘s hard to find real commitment? For a multitude of reasons. Globalization, social media - but I’d say one of the most important ones is that everybody wants to be independent these days. Men _and_ women! Society desperately conditioned itself to not be reliant on anyone directly anymore, everybody wants to do their own thing. And therefore we get the results we (or the generations before us for that matter) were asking for, simple as that..

[@Hardawayfits]

So true. I only have youtube. I let every guy know who wants to get my number or take me on a date....That I want to get married. I'm not interested in anything else😊

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

Independence means loneliness

[@sabrinagonzales4456]

@@CIA.2024-u9bNo it’s not u incel. It means freedom, making your own choices, etc. U are supposed to be independent.

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

@@sabrinagonzales4456 We are supposed to become one.

[@sabrinagonzales4456]

@@CIA.2024-u9b No we are not, that’s prison. Freedom, peace, independence, and unlimited growth is the way. Nothing can’t compete with that.

[@user-zf9ir8kx3c]

I'm 27 and have never dated or had intimacy in Germany. I was too busy with university, family, and sports. It is hard to find a partner who appreciates your existence.

[@RundfunkerOnline]

Exactly. Nowadays due to social media, people often think there is always someone better somewhere and have little patience in getting to know each other. They want instant heat and then wonder why that doesn’t work longterm with persons who behave like that.

[@mattata-san]

If your blonde and blue eyed shush and make children. Otherwise no loss

[@vladcraioveanu233]

Why A partner?! HAVE SEX. ENJOY. EXPERIMENT. THE MORE SEX YOU HAVE, THE MOST LIKELY YOU WILL FIND LIKE MINDED AND F___ PEOPLE.

[@DanyLeeRoth]

male or female

[@user-eh5zk5bb9k]

totally understand, system is broken

[@kyonkyon2010]

Seems the 'Plague of Hookup' is a universal problem for most big metropolitan city. It's nearly impossible dating normally

[@Redangel.199]

Im a Berliner and my husband dated me 3 months before he received his first kiss from me. We are married now and got 3 children… We are together since 12 years. He’s my first sexual partner and I’m his second… you can find true love everywhere. Focus on one person and don’t date multiple people at once. Invest time and real feelings in the right person. Choose your partner not only because of their looks… search for a good soul… The problem in Berlin is that everybody has sex with everyone. No one wants to invest time and feelings in one person. They always think someone who is better waits around the next corner.

[@TheMovementHub]

Happy to hear. I wish you all the best!

[@Redangel.199]

@@TheMovementHub thank you ♥️

[@caribbeankpoplover]

This is so true!

[@Redangel.199]

@@caribbeankpoplover thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@lenalein5528]

how do I know its the right person?

[@S.W.-td2hk]

I was born in Berlin and most of my friends were also born here. Most of them are in serious relationships. The problem with Berlin is there are so many tourists and that a lot of people who move here don‘t plan to stay here for long, so they‘re only looking for casual things.

[@andreypopov6166]

there are also many immigrants who doesnt speak german so at least meeting locals is a huge challenge :)

[@dio2388]

@@andreypopov6166 nah its easy to find locals in friedrichshain or lichtenberg

[@andreypopov6166]

@@dio2388 i hope so :)

[@dio2388]

@@andreypopov6166 i live in berlin tho

[@johannsalzstreuer5006]

i call Berlin borderline city since over 20 years already. and it gets worse and worse daily. i just moved here to work as a relationshipcoach. what an irony.

[@frank7425]

Omg a relationshipcoach in Berlin…lots of work to do I guess😵‍💫

[@AnnaGrace603]

You will never run out of clients😂

[@annah995]

Please leave. We don't need any more shitty relationshipcoaches in Berlin, we really do have enough. And why you move to a city which you don't like is beyond me. (I am from Berlin, grew up their, am married.)

[@adeptonihilam3150]

@@annah995it’s not written here that she/he doesn’t like the city, it’s just an opinion which you took it negatively and too personal, cause the truth hurts he he😂

[@Zi_gemi8222]

I like how the guy in a brown coat speaks about trying. People nowadays change partners thinking it gets better, but not

[@Soooeren]

I live in Potsdam next to Berlin and after my last break up I dated quite a lot. I quickly realized how superficial and ego-driven the whole thing is. I remember: One of my first Berlin Dates "taughted" me, what Situationships are :D If you wanna have deep connections, Berlin is truly a struggle. Do not date there 😂

[@KatakataKata-ot6nw]

@Soooeren I would date you :)

[@lizzybuzzy3669]

,,Like lots of Egos nowadays“

[@carinah2212]

I found my love in Berlin. We are happy together. Don‘t give up!!

[@rosalink8964]

I am german and I live in Berlin for 15 years now, but I also met my husband abroad in a completely different culture. I don’t think in Berlin I could’ve found someone with such strong family/marriage values or such a ride or die personality like him. What I see as the problem here is that people are longing for connection and ignore their own needs and values. A lot of people want to have a serious relationship or want to get married, but don’t really have to courage to voice that at dates because they are nervous to be judged or seen as not „cool“ „edgy“ or „fun“ There is also so many people here both men and women who have unrealistic expectations line they will demand a lot of your time, emotional support etc but when it comes to commitment or an honest conversation about where the relationship should go, would rather ghost you and move on. It’s so strange. I am speaking from own experience but also from my friends circle. I am really pleased I am out of this game.

[@sandrinecacheton3909]

I found the love of my life in Berlin on a dating app. It’s the best, most understanding, loving, empathetic, funny person I’ve ever met. As someone else said in the comments, don’t give up!! ❤

[@TheMovementHub]

How amazing 😊. So happy for you and all the best to you

[@wolfeater4949]

The social engineers changed the system without tests. So the change did not work, and there is no backout strategy.

[@kennywon]

Found my husband in Berlin on tinder 😂 after 5 Date 🎉🎉🎉 got married after 11 months now is five years together still happy everyday ❤❤❤

[@TheMovementHub]

Congratulations 🎉🎉. Best of luck to you

[@sichtbeton]

I am from Berlin. Almost everyone I know is in a serious, long term relationship. These people are Expats and tourists and they work / party/ line in their own distinct bubble. The problem these people in the video describe is a problem of this bubble and this only.

[@godemperorletoatreidesii6971]

I’ve never really participated in the hookup culture cause of low self esteem but I would rather have random hookups than take someone serious who lived the hook up life and now wants a safety net that just seems like volunteering to be a sucker.

[@TV-oc4ml]

Exactly they’ve been independent their whole life and now that I have wealth I’m expected to share?? 😂

[@eichkater6928]

its funny that you mention low self esteem being a barrier to participate in the hookup culture. Its exactly the opposite. From a very deep psychological aspect -and this might hit you like a train wreck - when participating in hookup culture people objectify themselves and want to be used and thrown away. The smart ones become escorts and use money as a barrier, treat it like a business to avoid emotional damage and as a compensation for not being able to bond on the long run. Now why is that? Its because when having *low self esteem* we want to connect with people who treat us the same way we see ourselves - like trash, unworthy to love, being abandoned like parents did. Thats exactly the reason why women with low self esteem love bad guys, getting cheated on, tolerating toxic behaviour and getting bored by nice guys. Because nice guys treat women with respect, mutual understanding. Nice guys dont mirror what women - or men - with low self esteem see inside themselves so its off - putting. If they continue to be nice, eventually the partner will induce bad behavior by cheating, verbal abuse etc so they can finally be treated mean again. And attraction, albeit unconscious, increases. Furthermore, when there was no Me/mother but only Me/stranger because of no emotional connection when growing up its very easy to hook up with a lot of people, because they see the same distant parental figure in every new dating encounter. Thus, its easy use people as toys, break up and go on with life the next day, hooking up the coming night with a stranger. There is simply no " glue "

[@rockon8174]

????? 🤨 did you read what you just wrote.

[@TV-oc4ml]

@@rockon8174 read it again for clarification!

[@user-sz9lm9wb9d]

How will you ever know there past .. everyone is lying each other ... nobody can be trusted men should be ruthless in coping with lies , brkups , infedility etc ..and women should choose wisely have patience 😊

[@conbert83]

Great video 👏🏼 I can recommend asking women for a date on the street. After four tries I found someone very special ❤

[@ozkaa]

I live in Berlin and dated here for quite a while before i got into a long term relationship. One thing i was surprised by is the amount of German women i dated who said they don't date German men. Obviously there is a selection bias there but I lived in quite a few countries and never heard that before.

[@paulsmith5611]

The fact that people move around so much and there is so much diversity, both cultural diversity and diverse lifestyles, contribute to the decline in long term relationships. We are all strangers living close together that have very little in common, except sex and maybe one or two tv shows that we watch, and long term relationships are rarely possible when that's all you have in common. We really don't care about the people around us and why should we? They have nothing to do with our immediate lives and offer little to no emotional value.

[@marcusr3795]

Yeah I’m think towards the future this will not end well looking at the macro scale IMO.

[@NoctLightCloud]

exactly. hardly anyone cares about neighbourhoods and societal cohesion. Berlin is just a stop amongst many for a significant amount of residents.

[@pascalstraetmans5598]

I feel like it is a general problem for the younger generations nowadays ..

[@TheMovementHub]

That, and I guess it is even amplified in large cities. Less close-knit communities, more possibilities, and more independent thinking.

[@raze956]

@@TheMovementHub "more independent thinking" that last point is not true at all.

[@marcusr3795]

@@raze956I would say yes because there’s less community so your somewhat forced to be independent since you can only have small amount of close relationships. Look at Dunbars number for example.

[@az6462]

​@@marcusr3795 Absolutely!

[@natasciaceci5475]

I like the guy with the dog! I'm here :)

[@lamariposa5919]

He seems homosexual

[@metislamestiza3708]

that guy is holding on to the dog for dear life . kind of sums up his and everyone else's dating experiences. i feel for these people, and anyone who is trying to date, in general. i met boyfriends organically 40 years ago .... yes it's dating me but god, i can't imagine having the courage to do dating apps whatsoever.

[@agotahorvath]

I was thinking the same thing , that is his post dating therapy dog . The dog is squirming to get free and probably thinking glad I am not part of this nutty species .

[@michaelsonntag6792]

if you don't love loneliness, you don't love freedom either: because you are only free when you are alone.

[@simi4069]

It's the same everywhere. We have connection through the internet, but they are less meaningful. More people, yet, more loneliness. It's a universal problem.

[@Epoch-vu8cj]

Dating apps are majority male users. People are hooking up via social media, it's going down in the DM's. That's the reality. Getting rid of dating apps won't change anything

[@mosalami1548]

Berlin is a STD. People confuse it with a city often, no shame about it.

[@tasse0599]

Having grown up and living in Berlin, I find it's an amazing place to be. All these people complaining must spend their stays here in the metro at 4am or crawling through nightclubs, otherwise I can't explain how anyone could have a bad Impression of a great place such as this one

[@uve_viktor_doom]

Very accurate the guy with the dog. Everyone is busy and mostly in their own world.

[@antonrud]

Liebe kommt nicht aus Berlin.

[@amankumar5602]

Durch die Nase ins Herz

[@bugra320]

I don't think it comes from Dusseldorf either

[@gabele2386]

Kann dem zwar zustimmen, allerdings kenne ich hier halt auch hunderte Paare und Ehen, die das Gegenteil beweisen

[@mattata-san]

@@gabele2386 generelle Aussagen mit Ausnahmen widerlegen. Der 80er iq zeigt sich

[@unregierbar7694]

@@gabele2386 Gut für die hunderte Paare unter Millionen von Menschen. Wow.

[@Bishlambo]

Social media and dating apps ruined it for us. Girls started thinking they’re all models because of the constant validation of simps.

[@Früherwarallesbesserbre]

@@bugra320 simps can be incels too..

[@Bishlambo]

Yes i meant simps. I corrected my comment.

[@aikighost]

Indeed Social Media and Dating apps create the illusion of "infinite choice". But its only infinite choice for hookups, not serious relationships. Think of it this way. Who profits from hookup culture and not many serious long term relationships? Its not a conspiracy theory to just follow the money. The apps are engineered to keep you on them for as long as possible.

[@ronnie5329]

Women who keeps meeting men, that do not want to commit, and just want casual relationships, need to understand they are shopping way out of their league. Someone needs to tell them, because other women will not. As they see them as competition.

[@melonytoni9016]

@@ronnie5329 Everyone who tells them is labeled sexist or incel. The thing is women are not honest with themself in their circles. They gassing each other up how beautiful and pretty they are. Men jump in on it in hopes to get laid. So women never really face reality the way men are in the dating scene. If you are unattractive as a man, you will know very fast growing up.

[@Meyouletsgo]

People are saying Berlin and Germans I’ve moved to 5 continents and the dating crisis is everywhere ! 😮people are flakey and it’s weird etc same stuff happen everywhere from America to Middle East ! 😮 No place is ‘immune’ now ! With globalization the standard is the same ! Worldwide !

[@esahm373]

I'm a born and raised Berliner and I never had a hookup. These "Zugezogene" must live in some parallel bubble from my reality.

[@christianhabermann6527]

same brother, same

[@E.Mulchi]

I mean they make up more than half of the population and probably much more in the younger demographic at least judging by how surprised people are when I tell them I was born here. I think two or three people in my workplace out of 50 were born in Berlin haha

[@akinadcruz4128]

They actually do live in another bubble. I'm from western Germany and living here for almost a decade, but I'm blending in perfectly. People are surprised, when I mention that was not born here. Currently working in Gastronomie and I can differentiate a local from a "zugezogenen" almost directly. They tend to have this "now that I'm living in Berlin, I'm edgy now and people need to see it in some kind or form!" I love the city but these people are stressing me out 😂

[@esahm373]

@@akinadcruz4128 Yeah, they are totally annoying. Most of them actually come from very conventional, small town, upper middle-class backgrounds, but pretend as if they were the most unorthodox, avantgarde type of person, not realising that this poor attempt at being special is exactly what makes them so generic, predictable and inauthentic

[@Tanya.Tsarkova]

How is it that everybody is bragging about that everybody wants only hookups? Where are those “hookupers” if the only people who answer the question are looking for a serious relationship?

[@Smartcom5]

Where are the ones of those people who only want hookups? *Open your eyes!* _They're standing in front of the camera!_ *These are the very same, just at a different time.* Since the majority of _young_ people going to big cities to study, are going there, to experience the carelessness of the Big City Lifestyle, study and nothing else - What is always expressively attached to the Big City Lifestyle, is hookup-culture, and it always was ever since. Yet *no-one* actually dares to put it that way and keeps that part left out on purpose, to gloss over degeneracy. So when saying they're only going to study in Berlin, Munich, London, New York, L.A., Sydney or some places else, they're actually *genuine* and saying the truth, though only _half_ of it … Since what they're all quite eager and about to go 'studying' (next to their claimed subjects and pleaded area of studying), are actually _The free Spirits and Subjects of carefree sexual Carelessness_ and the resulting hookup-culture, which is their actual field of interest, and was from the very beginning. _The carefree _*_sex_*_ itself is their main field of interest and _*_actual_*_ subjects to go studying!_ Everything else like the pleaded 'fields of study' are just a lame excuse for it, and that's how it's often treated, let slide and oftentimes failed. Many of them even go so far and make their main interest and resulting sloppiness a habit, which results in acute sloopines, letting slide their claimed areas of interest to the point of actually failing it and and in life and get expelled from their universities for being too miserable to participate. This giant spring break of carelessness over years, is _always a _*_wanted and absolutely intended break off and break-up from their former familiar surroundings_*_ and familiarity of the small town they're coming from_ (which is *judging* them), to circumvent societal restrictions. It's a deliberate break from familiarity of their own home-towns into the anonymity of the big cities. That is maintained until everyone of them (especially the women) are running out of time and have to find a long-term solution for going forward in life. … and that's when they're often get back home into the familiarity of their home-towns, just to find a clueless guy or gal to get with - Just to act as if no·thing ever happened and constantly tell anyone how awfully tedious and boring it was studying in the big cities (… all that in noble hopes no-one ever finds out anything of what ever happened prior to that in the big cities). The worst ones, who deliberately broke off with their families and ruined all ties forever in favour of the lifestyle they urgently craved and wanted under all circumstances back then, are the ones who have to _stay_ in these big cities, since they have no longer any place of familiarity to go for - The Big City Lifestyle has become their most familiar surroundings by then. Before it was the unprejudiced anonymity and necessary open-mindedness they were looking for, to engage in bodily degeneracy without being called out for it … All this happening is nothing new and is going on since the full last blown century and started even around 1850 … Nothing new under the sun. *So where are the ones actually wanting all those hookups!?* _Ask the younger versions of them they were, when they came_ - Not only into the big cities but other casual acquaintances' beds! *tl;dr:* Sex and The City was never a movie, it's a documentary and it always was and never anything else - Just tailored into a movie-length film format for the big picture!

[@Tanya.Tsarkova]

@@Smartcom5bro, I’m not reading your dating PhD dissertation 😂😂😂

[@Smartcom5]

@@Tanya.Tsarkova To bad, you might have learned something new! Ignorance is bliss, right? Though don't come crying later on, where all the good men would be hiding. 🥰

[@Tanya.Tsarkova]

@@Smartcom5I guess they’re all busy writing longreads in the comment section

[@arian5126]

Good men write long. I give you a short one. Wanna hook me up?

[@lightoftheworld417]

I fell in love in Berlin. Her name was Berliner Pilsner.

[@user-gs8jv4oq6w]

😂

[@TheMovementHub]

😂

[@user-kv3rj4cv8i]

I disagree. It s also hard in countryside to date-people are also busy there. I see it as a dynamic in the society because of the changes ( families are not anymore simply pragmatic, roles of men and women are luckily not anymore split in one is earning money and the other one is emotionally and financially depending on the other one ), media changes a lot, but also working life and mentality of course. It s not only Berlin, I experienced it in small towns and in villages too and I know others make these experiences too.

[@Kmy-karlin]

What you said are truly right. So thoughtful. Actually everything are changing and some people will find way but some people can not. But i think love is alwYs needed maybe it changed into different forms but yes some old days love seem more romantic.

[@user-kv3rj4cv8i]

@@Kmy-karlin Old day love actually was not more romantic-it was more toxic actually: more dependency, more standards, more pressure of norm, ,more pragmatic. There will be new forms-there are already

[@Valkyri3Z]

I was planning to move to Germany from Canada until I met a bunch of people mostly immigrants ,who left Germany and came to Canada ,said it is impossible to make friends with Germans. I cancelled my plan for the time because Canada is bad enough but at least there are willing people and social groups where you meet friends , maybe not too close but still better than nothing. What i heard about Germany that it was worse. It killed my enthusiasm.

[@TheMovementHub]

Try Spain

[@Valkyri3Z]

@@TheMovementHub I could but they don't pay well.. lol also i think immigration rules are more complicated there

[@TheMovementHub]

Yes that's true. Only if you have an income from outside it's worth it. But if you could manage that, it's an amazing place to live in Europe. The immigration process is tedius but doable.

[@Laura-ic7ps]

Its true, i live here

[@DutchinBrazil]

Same for Dutch people

[@MrMadalien]

Hypergamy, worldwide problem.

[@DelasVC]

That‘s not the single responsible factor..

[@gmaxh4549]

That's not a reason for hookups...

[@jobser2k977]

​@@gmaxh4549 Yes, hookups arise from female hypergamy. Because women only mate with the best men. Most men who have data, however, do not have sex.

[@MrMadalien]

@@gmaxh4549 It is! Sexuality is connected with perception of value, hook up culture is all about women pursuing men of very high value that are never going to commit to them, so they just sleep around until eventually realizing this doesn't work. Every once in a while, a lower value person will get lucky. Of course this is just a massive generalization and of course every single person is different and there are many unique forms of relationship and romance which defy this reality. However this is the trend of the 21st century thanks to phones and social media.

[@patrix1987]

Stop basing your views exclusively on all the red pill content out there and get some real life experience..

[@airgaborpara3824]

The guy with the dog was freakin right

[@ammolator]

The more advanced the people are, the more ego they have and the harder it is for dating. Visit any underdeveloped country and you see people there are living happily as couple.

[@NatavanQuliyeva]

Couldn’t agree more👏🏻👏🏻

[@moneybunny4502]

May God guide all the young people in berlin

[@christianhabermann6527]

Impossible to date anybody in Berlin, it's so hard. And to be honest, most women are not attractive there, it's crazy how much lower the standard is compared to most other metropoles. I've never seen a women in a cute dress with long wavy hair in Berlin, not even in summer.

[@scratcharmstrong]

Haha. 1cm hair, random tattoos all over and "dont care attitude"? 😅

[@acissej_01]

Dating apps don’t work for several reasons. Despite this, you can find love everywhere. I know tons of people who have serious monogamous long-term relationships in Berlin. If you don’t find the right one, have a look at yourself and your own attachment issues. You always attract what you are ready for….

[@preciousmousse]

Because people go there to write angry slogans all over the walls, to do drugs at weekend long parties and to explore their sexualities in large groups and networks, that's why.

[@sebbedelle]

Nice program- serious and informative - good work

[@TheMovementHub]

Thanks a lot :)

[@dilyanadecheva8178]

I think the problem comes from having lack of understanding of our values. Majority people today , regardless of their location, are lost in knowing what they care about and what they want. Our basic human needs are more than covered and humans do not need to try so hard to make money in order to survive. We have all lost a purpose and a meaning, which is reflected on our job and and on our relationships. Some people might really not want to have a relationship, but they just need to face themselves that this is the case. We do not know ourselves and the focus on ourselves became more after the introduction of social media and peaked around Covid times. The more people get to know themselves, forgive and forget, the better it will be. But it takes time, effort and self awareness.

[@sotiriaxan1203]

A lot of well thought comments here. I think boils down to that people nowadays are overly narcissistic without even realising and too much diversity around us, different backgrounds and waiting for the better deal that never appears .

[@Rainer125]

Honestly dating just sucks because of womens unrealistic insane standards. Not 6ft can’t date, not a 7/10 can’t date. Average men literally can’t participate in dating whatsoever anymore.

[@nicolerodrigues23]

true

[@AsgardTheFatcel]

Exactly.​@@Rainer125

[@Mircea020]

Dating world is fucked. Most people are selfish and it's all about backstabbing and who does it first. There are alternatives #mgtow

[@Alazar654]

live on, mgtow!!!!!!

[@MrElectricSkittles]

I think the dating scene in Berlin has less to do with Berlin and more to do woth modern day dating as a whole. Short attention span, dating apps, instant gratification.. people and their time have become completely expendable which is absolutely the wrong approach and leaves people a very bad taste in their mouth after a couple bad experiences

[@marcokuhner2445]

Have high standards and healthy boundaries. As a Berliner I can tell you, it’s also our fault if we accept the wrong people into our lives, just because we want that baddie or whatever. If they have an insecure attachment type, they will polarize you into insecurity as well so you definitely know, you can’t get anything long lasting. Humans are not made for monogamy by design - it is a scientific fact. Does it mean monogamous relationships are bad because of this? No! Guess what? It means that relationships are actually hard work, it means that you don’t get overly vulnerable for sb that is love bombing you into submission or try to chase people that avoid emotional availability. It means you don’t sell yourself short and make sure that your vice versa is secure and capable of giving love. It means you make sure your long term views align and also that both of you don’t have a stick up their butt as they say. It means you focus on yourself And attract the right people because you wanna become what you wanna attract Move in that energy

[@TheMovementHub]

Very nice explanation

[@SimonB.]

Because Berlin is full of pretentious people

[@mikloridden8276]

Everywhere now, but for sure the Europeans are the worst when it comes to ego. French especially.

[@venomrx6442]

Sounds like NY

[@miamiheats9655]

What about London

[@opa8928]

I live in Dubai, have watched those daring videos about NYC and Berlin and Scandinavia, and I see the same pattern everywhere.

[@sibsibx]

So how is it in Dubai?

[@felixg.6493]

02:20 complete delusion. Loves hook ups and wants to find a partner through short time dating, but doesn't have the mental capacity to recognize the contradiction why her life is not working out.

[@shambhavipatel9183]

She doesn't want anything with anyone. She is a part of that exhaustive crowd.

[@az6462]

Exactly

[@az6462]

Exactly

[@citpelocitycit7663]

They order fast food but expect a 3 star dinner 😂

[@gintonicx6]

Moldy bread more likely 🤣

[@citpelocitycit7663]

@@gintonicx6 moldy bread is in Berlin 3 Star

[@citpelocitycit7663]

@@gintonicx6 as a Berliner i like it shady but now it its bit rotten

[@lucyblue7057]

Damn apparently this is international...

[@barryrahn5957]

It seems very fragmented and lonely - do a lot of people here die of loneliness and alienation?

[@az6462]

Yes, they do :/ By su*cide. Lots of mental health problems in big metropolitan cities nowadays.

[@semprefidelis76]

I met a girl from Berlin in Dominican Republic when I was traveling. I live far away in California. I think things are much easier when you’re in a vacation when there is less stress involved. I really think it was a missed connection as we didn’t exchange numbers. Met her at the rooftop pool of the hotel. I saw this hot af blonde by herself at the pool. I am only attracted to true blondes , it’s a curse. She was listening to radio in German. I recognized the German language. I am of Turkish descent, took German at high school long time ago. I have always been interested in Germany due to huge Turkish community there, I find it so interesting, nonetheless I wasn’t raised close to culture or its religion etc. So I approached and to keep things interesting, I asked in German “wo wohnst du in Deutschland?” 😂 She said Berlin, but she wasn’t friendly or anything, was almost like a rejection. I mean this girl is off the charts hot, a 10 in my book. I live in the land of hot Latinas, Asians and brunettes, I meet hot Latinas all the time but it doesn’t do the trick for me. Also, the fact that a huge part of the population is obesely overweight is a turn off for me as I am into fitness. So after her “Berlin” response, convo quickly died. I did several laps in the pool but want to approach again. And longer I wait, more nervous I became, but finally swam back near her. Was so hard to do so. Have no idea what I said, but this time she opened up. Was unbelievable, I couldn’t make her stop talking which is a great sign. So she was a German teacher, teaching to Turks and Arabs for integration or something. She was of Polish descent. So to make story short, I actually enjoyed talking to her. Not just super hot, but also she gave me insights about living in Berlin etc. Was amazing. She almost missed her flight if I didn’t remind her lol. So we both were checking out, I asked her name, she said Karin with R sound like how Germans say from throat, which is super sexy lol was shy to ask her no. I mean this girl is a true 10 for me and hot Latinas I reject. She left the pool. I was walking down the hotel aisle. It was off season and hotel was empty. As I just passed a hotel room door, I heard it opening. It was like slow motion for me. If I turn my head and look back, I could feel she was there. But I kept walking..And now I am writing a long ass comment about the missed connection…Tried finding her, sent an email to a German learning school in Berlin that I found on the internet, but no reply back. I wanna find her, but now I run the risk of looking like a stalker maybe. It sucks..

[@jantube358]

Berlin is different than the rest of Germany. Nobody likes Berlin except Berliners.

[@sotiriaxan1203]

...and foreigners

[@leedlbagginshield8492]

It’s a cool place for young people but you grow out of it quite fast. I don’t know of a lot of people that want to settle down on Berlin

[@globalone2819]

One of the main reason is: choice overload or called otherwise the paradoxe of choice.

[@airgaborpara3824]

Join to sport teams and find friends , partners with the same interest. Escape from cities.

[@michaelsonntag6792]

Isn't it surprising that the increased levels of freedom that people have fought for through various movements have apparently not led to greater happiness?

[@IMANVANRULER]

Why do I live in Berlin? Of course because of the good weather, nice people and the right politics.

[@tantemarianne1677]

If you want to date sexually active men and women who are easy to take home after a night out, Berlin is your go-to city, but finding love or at least someone who is mentally very stable, try again somewhere else

[@jagannath9038]

This city is horrible in every way possible. People don’t respect each other, elevated egos, unrealistic expectations, people drain your mental health and energy, women crave for attention from other men even though they have a boyfriend, hook up culture, everybody thinks they are the main character, STDs, Drugs, living life solely for the sake of attention and competition without a self driven purpose or ambition to enjoy what real beautiful things life offers. I regret moving here from Galway, Ireland which is such a charming town and full of friendly people where people lived their lives to the healthiest and happiest. Lost 2 years of my life into this shithole.

[@LamelKendrick]

In big cities in Europe and spreading to smaller ones the women now have most of the power in dating/reltationships. They are the choosers and keyholders. It's amplified in the 2020s. This is like people said Sweden was this way first, with more female led dating culture, but now its everywhere in the West, because women dominate online dating...also the marketing of culture is tailored towards women. Average Men are only providers and that nowadays. the bottom 40% of men are basically unable to have short term relationships these days, and women can whenever they want

[@raze956]

"and women can whenever they want" that is only true for pretty woman in the range of 7-10. all the others have the problem that they can only get men who they deem undesirable, and thus are dissatisfied. its only the prettiest girls who hold that power, a small percentage in the overall population of woman. and even that small percentage only has a few good years of that power, because beauty fades rather fast. in conclusion, the dating market is not that bright for woman either.

[@DelasVC]

@@raze956Agreed. Also it‘s easy to just blame „women“ for everything. Yes, the market is tailored towards them - but most men don‘t even know how to dress properly, let alone talking to strangers anymore.. It‘s not easy - but it‘s also not supposed to be easy..

[@Rainer125]

The bottom 90% of men literally can’t participate in hook up culture at all not even once in their life the bottom 50% of men are all Incels now and will be forever virgins or maybe luck out and find one or two gfs over their entire lifetime it is literally that bad now.

[@Rainer125]

@@raze956a 300 lbs extremely unattractive woman will still get thousands of matches on Tinder with guys way out of her league while average guy can swipe 10.000 times and not get a single match.

[@fatemad4012]

​@@Rainer125so guys are less attractive than overweight women guys should work on their looks more just like women

[@Endlessstory]

I think looking at Berlin and concluding the city is an accurate representation of Germany or Europe is very wrong. Don’t let social media discourage you. I lived in Germany all my life and people are definitely looking for serious relationships. European cities are culturally built so differently meaning there’s a lot more bars, cafes and places where you can meet up. Lastly I think hooking up is not a huge deal like it is in the US. Women aren’t shamed nowhere near as much, I’ve never been asked my body count and definitely barely anyone waits till marriage. Less incels because sex is just not seen as this huge deal.

[@Jean-Jaures]

Es ist immer locker bis man jemanden trifft, wo es sich von Anfang an natürlich und gut anfühlt. Eine Beziehung ergibt sich ohne es von Anfang an darauf zu forcieren. Das Problem der Protagonisten ist, dass sie versuchen eine Beziehung herbeizuführen, obwohl es offensichtlich nicht so gut passt. Einfach weiter suchen, reflektieren und lernen wer zu einem passt. ;)

[@Jean-Jaures]

@@elenahauser6617 die wenigsten Frauen wollen eine öde/leidenschaftslose/"lieblose" Beziehung. Meine Frau und einige ihrer Freundinnen haben sich genau aus diesem Grund scheiden lassen. Sie beschreiben eine Beziehung wie etwas Planbares, wie ein Unternehmen/ein Abkommen und genauso fühlt sich Ihre Beziehung vermutlich an ... falls Sie überhaupt in einer Beziehung sind. PS: wegen Abhängigkeiten ein halbes Jahrhundert "durchzuhalten"/den Schein zu wahren, hat nichts mit einer guten Beziehung zu tun. ;)

[@Jean-Jaures]

@@elenahauser6617 Viele, wenn nicht sogar die meisten Singles die casual-dating betreiben suchen, wissen nur noch nicht genau wonach. Sie suchen/lernen so lang bis sie "es" gefunden haben. Nur die Dümmsten wissen nach Jahrzehnten nicht was sie suchen und geben sich mit 0815 zufrieden.

[@soulstar3342]

Love is not something that you find it's something that you have ...

[@Judah132]

Born in Berlin. 23/m. I dated girls and guys, both on apps and by chance the last few years. I'm a nice and patient guy, but that's the problem, cause I'm not interested in hedonism, though I am quite open minded... I just favour sobriety. Love to me is reversed depression, i.e a sense of joy you cannot explain, just as you cannot explain the root of your depression. Being full of hedonism and lust is a very predictable move. Love however is wholesome while depression is melancholic. Too many Berliners fall in love with melancholy and romanticise misery - they either fill that whole for hedonism, or are hedonistic due to narcissism : I used to be the same, and used to have an urge to become narcissistic. But falling in love for the right people lifted me mentally up, despite the fact, that I never had a relationship.

[@iLoveLucy28]

I prefer a protective, masculine, jealous man any day over a man thats ok with me talking to other men.

[@Account-br9kc]

ABSOLUTELY

[@pete531]

yea but when you meet a guy like that, you say hes weak and controling. i have too much power over him and hes got no options

[@jonas7438]

Maybe you are the problem if you are talking to other men then.^^

[@bugra320]

3:34 That strong and independent woman thinks otherwise

[@derKosmoprolet369]

masochistic mindset?

[@rg2613]

Glad I met my wife and married her before dating apps were invented. Life was much simpler then

[@ty-zc6jh]

I was planning to date casually in Berlin but somehow the first man I dated ask for a relationship after a night together, he was so much younger than me so I quitted. Second man I dated he asked to marry me after 3rd date I had a relationship with him for a couple of months then I thought he is not for me. And then the 3rd man I dated, we are together for almost 2 years we got married a few months ago. So I do not relate to this interview at all. I see especially in Berlin men are so open to commitment and stability in their life. They are kind of tired of women who only wants casual things. That is my observation.

[@alexs.4209]

As someone, who is every weekend in Berlin, i feel Like the City is full of soulless people, every one of them is chasing the next type of high, the next kick or dose of dopamine, they think they’re interesting and have amazing personalities, but in reality their personality is bland, tasteless, boring. It’s exhausting to see so many people trying to fit in but also be different, special, unique. That is the root cause of mental illnesses in my opinion, I might also be wrong or have a different view on the world. But one thing I am sure of is that I want for my children to not experience Berlin or any other metropolitan city.

[@jordanleiva5562]

The way they describe it seem like the same thing in any others western country to me

[@neverokay8]

berlin is hell, you can't change my mind. you can't pay me enough to move there.

[@anatolischlee672]

who was asking you to move here?

[@1La2La3La4La]

love this video and information shared. Thank you.

[@TheMovementHub]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@gabele2386]

The problem is, that you mostly interviewed expats. Germans among each other act differently. Expats have a hard time connectinf in general, thats our bad German hospitality.

[@NoctLightCloud]

that's the case in every country. it's a human mentality and has nothing to do with German hospitality. Also, I hardly know any country that is more accepting of foreigners than Germany.

[@unregierbar7694]

"bad German hospitality" Stop the self-hate it´s getting pathetic. You voted to invite millions of them in and now you barely see any Germans in big cities. Foreigners are having the time of their lives in Germany feeling home. Meanwhile the homeless people in big cities are almost always German. Germans are left behind in your hospitality for foreigners.

[@SonyaUsmanova2020]

Good point, it’d be interesting to know how this works between Germans and if the challenges are similar to that of foreigners

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

@@NoctLightCloudyou have to be kidding Germany is infamous for being unfriendly

[@NoctLightCloud]

@@JeBusInYoutbe what does being friendly/unfriendly mean to you? and show me a country that is in its whole current system more accepting of foreigners.

[@Kmy-karlin]

Thank you for people who took interviews and I have some confusions/questions: that are all true (in their mind) but are you not equally same person or are you really a better person ? Did you really take first steps or just gave up really understanding and truly loving that person? The conditions and difficulties and differences you said are the root problems? Are/were you really be honest and do/did you really stand at the same positions to really understand yourself? ( lf it were right that what they want to express / see those are negative to themselves. So here "better " i mean more open minded or deeply want-to-know and people who try all they can to always find ways to make opportunities or efforts if you REALLY want)

[@th3orist]

Tried dating in Berlin for a couple years, its too flaky for me, people are non-commital in general (not just in dating but by how they live their lifes) and i have come to the conclusion that its a waste of my time and i'd rather focus more on other things. Plus most of the people i met were prioritizing social life over career or building something for the future, i.e. it was more important to them to how many events they go, how many countries they can travel to or how many friends they have. Hence why you never could meet someone just 3-4 days later but maybe 4 weeks later at best and thats just not working for me. On top of it comes, even if you manage to agree to a certain date, its also never really safe, it happend often that something was cancelled literally that very day. Which i guess all of it is a "whatever" or cool as long as you are in your 20s and have lots of free time and are in general in a 'searching' mode but at some point it becomes annoying if you are yourself on a different path. Due to my work i travel often within Germany also to smaller cities and all i can say is that the vibe on the streets and even on the dating apps for these regions is quite different to Berlin. Walking the streets in smaller cities i'd see women looking and smiling at me on the street relatively often. In Berlin people don't even look up when they pass you. My experience. Also when riding the public transports in Berlin, no one seems to look around, at least not the people i find attractive or interesting looking. Its as if people are scared to have a first contact, no matter how small, for the first time in real life and prefer the security of having made the first contact online first. Then you also of course have that constant focus on the phones, but thats a completely different topic.

[@emanuelcvikic8783]

"Egal wie meine Vergangenheit war“ hahahahhahaha

[@toki513]

People in Berlin live a solitary live. Berlin is attracting with superficial stereotypes those who fall for that. Find true love in big cities is hard.

[@papapavlov5407]

sounds dystopic omg

[@maciek6967]

Same in Barcelona and all modern and fancy cities. So sad.

[@mikep2272]

Welcome to the NEW AGE of socializing - it's like that worldwide!

[@Donnld]

Im not dating rn but i live in Germany and this seems horrible

[@noreason7587]

You have to fall by learning to walk. A few times , then you know how you want to walk. Relationship is like that, who told us ? Nobody , who know their limits , their real self ? You learn it in extrem connection where someone can trigger it. Those who wait and not try, they will have it hard. And ones you find the right feeling don’t fucking let it go or destroy it. Many people are afraid then. You feel the real person. Everything will feel right. Like you can really solve everything.

[@tianjohn.adventures]

Wie heißt es so schön - Gemeinsam Einsam 🥲

[@marvinlouis11111]

08:40 She says random encounters with other people don't really happen but If you are an extreme extrovert like me you can meet new people all the time and it does not stop. Maybe my experience is just very positive because I live in a different kind of dating scene. Overall I am just 19 years old.

[@NondoPondo]

Vegan smoothie shops are good places to meet ladies in Berlin. I met two. It didn't work out but those are better odds than in clubs. Plus when you can hear what a woman is saying you can respond better.

[@christianhabermann6527]

bro, have you ever seen these women in vegan locations? not what any decent man wants

[@agotahorvath]

Yes and 10 times more vegan women than men so if you are a vegan man you are in luck .

[@kolise_koll]

You can get a lover easily in Berlin. It is totally up to you. I suggest you to go out and don't use the apps. You can meet people outside or invite them to your house and cook for them. The problem is that you don't know what you want!😂

[@MegaLeoben]

Modern independent women is why dating/relationships/marriage have become impossible.

[@tinycatfromhell]

In Berlin, both men and women go clubbing and do hard drugs every weekend. I don't see how this is about independent women at all.

[@MegaLeoben]

@@tinycatfromhell Berlin maybe. Most people no longer go to clubs. Dating is online.

[@florianlion8215]

Berlin was about Hook-Ups 12 Years ago. Now Berlin is about nothing for many of us. Berlin is a place I guess where dates work the least.

[@MrHDProd]

Woman only want the top 10% of man (chads) and chads only pump and dump 💯 There you go 👌

[@alexvo3009]

Oh no.. Incel-Philosophy. I hope you learn to think clearly at some point.

[@MrHDProd]

@@alexvo3009typical npc ahh response 😂

[@saeidk736]

@@alexvo3009 honestly i do not care about this at all. but it is actually what statistics is showing. its actually a problem thats causing many experts talking about it cause its affecting everyone one. its a circle . I just watched a whole interview . the guy in the interview was saying how its making everyone lonely both men and women. the men end up being loners and less successful in life as a result and the women end up being lonely and without partners cause they are all chasing the same men who have no incentive to stay with a particular women. again its not my mindset or anything its just that its become a sad reality and i feel like only ration thinking and solutions could solve this issue , not incel shaming or slut shaming

[@jobser2k977]

And through female hypergamy, the hookup culture also emerged. Women only date the best men, i.e. the top 20%. Women immediately offer these men sex. However, these men are not interested in you for a relationship.

[@jobser2k977]

@@saeidk736 I think this generation won't be able to change that. I think that in people born now or 10 years old it will get so bad that in 50 - 60 years you will have to think about how to keep civilization going. Because in this young generation there will be no love or sex for the majority of men. A quick solution only works with a burqa, allowing violence against women and men have to earn more money.

[@Motoralist]

Forget Dating in Germany … stay single live your live

[@zoko25]

Online dating is a waste of time. I haven't done that for years. princes charming are definitely not in there, but those who don't want a relationship and have commitment issues. If you want a real relationship, you shouldn't date online.