Dating while Deployed | Talks with Tony

[@Dr.Elaine1]

“Whether you giving it up or whether you preserving it, if he’s not for you, he’s not for you, and you got to gone ‘bout yo business.” TG

[@corlenciabeamon2]

I was in the military for 8 years. And those men are something ELSE. If you in a relationship or married and your significant other is going on a deployment overseas then 9 times out of 10 you getting cheated on. They have literally be in whole relationships with people within the unit or battalion ON BASE. I’ve seen it first hand. But Goodluck sis 🥲

[@tialaboard3222]

So true... for the men and women both. While serving my time in the Army I experienced very low morale people to say they were fighting for this country . I saw everyone as cheaters and not having the proper integrity to say the least. There were also many soldiers who wives were cheating on them while they were deployed, as well as, married female soldiers getting pregnant while deployed... very sad. In that environment I saw men and women as one in the same I placed nothing pass anyone that’s how low the morale was. It was like cheating was a culture in the military, and, due to, being in that environment of people to this day I would NEVER marry military.

[@MizzWiggy]

I was the wife at home and you ain't lying sis!

[@loveyb3347]

Yup i know someone personally who has another family

[@FeelingFitFabFun]

I was in the military for 6 years and this is absolutely true.

[@patricemurray6412]

Oh yeah, I done seen it all when I was in the military. And it ain't pretty!😏

[@Megaun]

Tony I was coached by you and your wife while I was in Kuwait on my 4th deployment and I can confirm that you are completely correct! Can’t wait to finish my life coach certification. Thank you!

[@karamelbuttafly3624]

Sis, you haven't lossed a thing. The trash will take itself out. Keep your standards and thank you for your service to our country.

[@LakeishaGoudy]

Being a military spouse was difficult especially during deployment and I definitely got cheated on. It was a horrible experience for me. My loyalty was with someone who’s loyalty was never with me. I was so focused on trying to be a good wife and mom that I lost who I was. The marriage was abusive and toxic. I filed for divorce 5 years ago and my life has been blessed every since. I’m happily single now and abstinent. I’m focused on my relationship with God , my kids and personal growth. Be careful when dating someone in the military. We knew each other since childhood and I still got dogged out. 🤦🏾‍♀️ I had to choose between God and him… I chose my relationship with God. Pray and keep God first! Guard your hearts ladies! 💕🙏🏾

[@FeelingFitFabFun]

Deployment for a lot of married men is like “what happens on deployment stays on deployment”. They literally take off their wedding rings and have girlfriends. The married women do it do. I was in the military for 6 years. There are some faithful men but many of them are not. And they are open about it.

[@bbstar2254]

Tony you’re spot on with this verdict lol. I’ve been active duty military for 7 years and seen it ALL. Deployment is just code for “break from my relationship”. Don’t fall for it if you want something serious.

[@mscassama]

So many things to be learned from "Talks with Tony". Even if you can't relate. There are important messages on how to talk🗣 to people, how to understand a situsituation Clearly👂🏾, and definitely how to coach potential clients👩🏽‍💻! I am always a student ready to learn!📚📖

[@IshanaeS]

You are beautiful sis, the profile picture is giving. Keep going 💪🏾💪🏾

[@mscassama]

@@IshanaeS Thank you sis! 😊

[@miaallen6012]

Thank you for adding another requirement to my list: no military men!

[@elicore.biz81]

For me no military, law enforcement, Fire Fighters, FBI, Secret Svc etc...."most" not all of these kinds of men, are the same when it comes to toxicity.

[@saramatthews7159]

No I was in the military and those men were trash

[@beefaye18]

Lol....😂😂😂

[@beefaye18]

@@elicore.biz81 Yes Lord 😁

[@beefaye18]

@@saramatthews7159 ohh weeee....true!

[@ashleybeverly7328]

Tony is not kidding when he said when you leave the Military, you have to start over also. I separated last year and it felt like I was growing up all over again. The Military grows your business mindset, but shrinks your ability to navigate in regular life. 💯

[@saramatthews7159]

I felt the same way when I separated from the usaf a decade ago

[@ashleybeverly7328]

@@saramatthews7159 Aye, thank you for your service, sis! I wish the Separation process focused on the mental aspect of it. Not just the resource portion of it.

[@saramatthews7159]

@@ashleybeverly7328 thank you for your service as well! And yes sis, I really wish they focused more on the mental aspect of being in and separating from the military. That environment messed me up in alot of ways.

[@ashleybeverly7328]

@@saramatthews7159 I just got your reply, sis! I do too. I remember how hard the Military focused on just the VA portion of separation. But little on how to improve our mental development and well being.

[@topazgraham2643]

Tony right...He already was in a situation-ship. Thank God she was smart enough to keep the cookie jar closed! Amen sista!!!!

[@thegoddessempirelifecoachi6298]

“Do not sit still, stagnant and complacent trying to wrap your mind around what a man or a woman is doing. AKA gone bout yo business. Sometimes you will never understand other people’s actions and that’s ok especially as long as you stay true to yourself, your boundaries and standards.

[@CarmenLifeCoach]

Always guard your heart, body and mind by saving parts of you that you don't easily give to a man, specifically for situations like this, so that you won't be hurt. Don't build on weak foundations with men who have complicated ties and situations, who seem lost and unsure of who they are, who they love and what they want in life. Choose true proven love.

[@Shae_3]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@CarmenLifeCoach]

@@Shae_3 Thank you !

[@breannn]

I wouldn’t even want to date/marry anybody in the military. That is just too much distance for a relationship. Living with his child’s mother is a big red flag.

[@Leelang931]

He’s definitely Married men in the military do this a lot when they PCSing, we see see this a lot. I work on post. I’m so glad she’s disciplined and didn’t give it up

[@orearabilekgotle8690]

That 7th minute had me on so many hallelujahs🙌🏽.. If he's not for you, he's not for you.

[@taynaburton5828]

It sounds like she's in Korea. They call Korea, TDY meaning Temporary Divorce for a Year. He was with his baby mama the whole time. This same situation happened to me. He wanted him a boo for a year he's over then go back home to his wife or girlfriend back in the States. A lot of military people do this to include military women also.

[@glendanesmith]

I learned something new today lol

[@shelitaj.1479]

I'm gonna finish my certification Tony, so I can help these Soldiers out. I have too much experience to let these ladies fall for the okie doke.

[@cherh]

13:22 Tony is sick of y'all!!!! Baby that took me out! "Shut ya mouth" 😂😂😂

[@Dimples3434]

I’m hollering 🙌🏾😂😂 “ Shut ya mouth “

[@cherh]

@@Dimples3434 I was too! 😄

[@vanessasoto2928]

All these videos is amazing!!! So grateful to be able to keep up 😂

[@reinaquisha9418]

God bless you for all of the (Extra) work you've been putting in lately. We see and acknowledge your efforts. 🗣️ Thank you💯

[@ladyb3796]

I stopped at 2:20. It’s time to move on sis. He’s withholding information. He lacks transparency. He’s backing away from what seemed like organic growth. He’s showing you because he lacks the maturity to communicate his intentions. 🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️

[@ladyb3796]

@@AndreiFantastic So true.

[@becky3087]

12:05 Not flying home with the hand out of the window of the plane now 😂 😂 😂

[@LadyTrucker43]

Not his hand hanging out the plan window! 😂 wow ! The extreme things some men do to keep the ring finger looking like it’s in use.🤦🏾‍♀️

[@ThisIzKena]

That TICKLED me..🤣🤣🤣

[@mitz1919]

Yes I love that, regardless of what u do how u act legs closed or open , if a man is not for u he is not for u !!!!Might as well act right and wait for the one!

[@ThisIzKena]

"Flyin' home with dat hand hangin' out dat plane"..😩🤣🤣🤦🏾‍♀️

[@knowyourworth2213]

😂😂😂😂 the ring situation

[@chocodiamondjewels3403]

Tony is talking the Truth. Many military men if they are honest will agree too. The real reason is for the benefits unless they have a death wish.

[@sylviasalcedo8569]

I'm here! Ready!

[@ShermekaG]

The way I see it he was still with the baby mom but just deployed but now it’s time for him to come back home so he goes back to his family and she was probably just something to do on the side in his free time.

[@chowbay-la4248]

I used to follow a FB page that was for military people. Mainly it was women posting but when I tell you the drama that goes on on those bases was unreal. Never would have thunk it.

[@_zina9054]

Thank you for all the uploads, hopefully I catch your live this time. Just noticed you give us a notice before you go live 😊🙏

[@lehellewilkins3238]

Be bless.

[@nextstep9266]

Tony, can you do a video on why the guys you like / attractive to never like you but the guys you dont like always likeing you @tonygaskins

[@kilimanjaro5537]

I really needed a video on this because the guys I find attractive I believe are equally yoked with me physically. They’re not fall over heels handsome but they aren’t unattractive either. They’re good looking to me and still within my reach but it seems like I can’t even attract guys who I’m physically yoked with.

[@Dr.K.H]

I need to go ahead and finish my certification so that I can be added to the military coach list 😩 There are so many caveats and nuances to military life...including enlisted vs officer entry points....Soooo much to deconstruct and process, particularly as it relates to our Black American men.

[@nettaterrestrial86]

He just isn’t your person!! Keep it moving Sis...

[@Shanice1]

God Bless You Tony!

[@baileysraves9861]

Glad it took a different direction. That was some good insight!

[@sherrynelson365]

Preach Tony!

[@brendabeautiful3096]

A 3week old want to play with a ph , c'mon now..shes either his lady or his wife...one or the other...he just need to b honest...point blank PERIODT ...blessings to u @ your family Mr.GASKINS.🙏🙏

[@InsideSophiaM]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@naomiwillis1057]

All Facts Tony!

[@tinajones4506]

Listening.

[@bridgetteteapp]

tony always coming in at the right time 😂😂🤦🏽‍♀️ now how did i meet a navy man and this suddenly gets posted

[@iga2226]

God bless 🙏

[@2LoveJones]

Hey Blessed Tribe 🤍 🕊

[@_zina9054]

@13:31🤣🤣🤣 Yea we ain't talking to you !! Lol

[@ashleybeverly7328]

99% of people marry in the military for convenience. Your pay can literally double when you marry. It's sad.

[@saramatthews7159]

Yes esp these kids straight out of high school

[@ashleybeverly7328]

@@saramatthews7159 Yes, ma'am. I knew someone I worked with who got married with someone that worked down the hall from him. Both were living in barracks. It happens all the time.

[@saramatthews7159]

@@ashleybeverly7328 its just crazy in that environment

[@jenniferthompson5146]

"A whole wife for $1200 a month" Can't see the forest through the trees. That is CRAZY 😳

[@ashleycbla]

Why do men who are being sneaky give you the important detail right before the event happens? Because they got something to hide...

[@jlo80]

Stay away from active duty military men!!

[@amandabretch85]

When I saw the title for this video I thought it might’ve been a duplicate from the video I watched yesterday where you get off the chair literally and put your legs in the air LOL

[@dashafenty9969]

Heyyyyyy im here early again finally lol

[@stephanietinoco1565]

To help my parents w their citizenship ☺️ but God has blessed me sm and this is only a part of my journey.

[@19Hollisterchick90]

Don't date men with multiple mothers for their children and don't date men with infants. Women get with these men then act surprised when they're still messing with the mother or they're babymama #3, alone and pregnant just for him to be in another relationship by the time the baby is one.

[@aubreysellssofl]

🗣you preaching sis

[@Dimples3434]

Ready for the lesson 🙌🏾

[@ysmithriley]

He wasn't ready to be a DAD! 🤣🤣🤣 THIS IS ALWAYS A DUMB STATEMENT. A man should always be ready to be a dad when he sleeps with a woman. It's AMAZING how many men will say they can't possibly be the dad, but they slept with the woman at least once during the period in question.

[@qscott888]

👋🏽

[@SimplyFitwithJay]

How is a newborn playing with a phone? 🤨

[@karamelbuttafly3624]

My thoughts exactly.🤣🤣🤣🤣 Those weak lies!

[@elicore.biz81]

LOL that sounds so crazy right? 😂😂😂

[@MissTracy-Ann]

That happened when he went to the babys 1st bday.

[@glendanesmith]

@@ the tan line 😂😂

[@corlenciabeamon2]

They also get married just to get BHA 😕

[@jlo80]

Yup that BHA is pretty good especially overseas!

[@LadyAngela678]

Uh, he told you he was getting back with his babys mom. What part didnt you get homegirl?! 🧐

[@shanessabrown8856]

L😭L dt guada cak 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sherrynelson365]

Girl you can do better he lying