Deaf Person in a Hearing Family Part 1 - Thanksgiving Dinner

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[@SilverFlame819]

OMG, this thing Ryan talks about where Deaf folks have to look up while eating to keep track of the conversation!! I was just trying to play a game on my tablet while "watching" KZbin vids (I listen to them, and look up often)... I was like, Holy shit, deaf people have to REALLY be *in the moment* while existing. Because I couldn't "watch" your channel while playing the game. I had to physically be looking at the screen to see everything Ryan was saying. Like, driving me crazy when I want to multi-task, but it was a REALLY clear example of what it's like to be Deaf in the world. If you're doing something, you have to fully be doing that thing, if it requires your eyes.

[@elxptr_]

I thought I was the only one haha which is why I really enjoy their video and why I'm trying to be more mindful and grateful for the things I have in life

[@miishoiiscool7]

You honestly could’ve posted the whole thing & I would’ve still watched and loved it! Thank you to you both for opening up and giving us another perspective 🤘🏻

[@SignDuoChannel]

Michelle oh okay. Good to know :) thanks! Of course! We love sharing our experiences with you guys ☺️🤟🏻💕

[@maoriprincess_1624]

Totally agree!

[@OjibwaKennels]

Agree completely! The suspense is killing me! :'D

[@miafireheart2467]

I absolutely love that you two are spreading Deaf awareness. Yes, it is important to inform this topic because I feel like a lot people are just genuinely uninformed of the Deaf culture. I'm sure this will educate a lot of what they do not know. And I do agree about being tired after having to focus on what people are saying to you at parties. Thank you for taking the time to make this! Can't wait for part 2! 🤗

[@SignDuoChannel]

Mia Fireheart thank you Mia! That is exactly why we make videos! ☺️🤟🏻💕

[@OurSignedWorld]

We can also relate with zach wanting to leave at the end and me wanting to stay for family events. We are learning how to compromise and communicate before hand knowing that that will happen.

[@ildi2023]

Similar kinda to brining someone who doesn’t speak the same language.. and if grandparents etc dont speak English and it’s a lot of mindfulness and translating

[@sariuca]

Honestly guys, I understand you so much. My boyfriend is British and I am Spanish. My family can´t speak English and my bf can´t speak Spanish. It is EXHAUSTING to interpret all the time for him and most of the times I have to speak for others but I don´t have much chance to speak for myself. It is definitely hard...

[@OurSignedWorld]

I CAN TOTALLY RELATE WITH THE NERVES!!!!

[@Boygasm]

Ive always avoided family functions because of the communications. Even now i get scoffed at because they made it sound like im being a big whiny 37 yr old kid. I got sick and tired of explaining or arguing my side from Deaf point of view. So i just stay home. Sad but thats the reality for most of us Deaf individuals.

[@shannonfairywalker2466]

Are you kidding me, that's so rude! I'm sorry you have to put up with that :(

[@Boygasm]

Shannon Fairywalker well i would imagine that most of us would like to pretend that theres nothing wrong with them or considered them “fixed”. We have Alexander Graham Bell and others of his ilk to thank.

[@OurSignedWorld]

Its alot! I TOTALLY GET THIS!!!! I love that you have this experience just as we do! I FEEL EXACTLY THE SAME

[@donnafiebigshababy5918]

Ryan it’s great that you even want to go to holidays at family events. It takes a lot and I know my husband (hearing) would use (if deaf) that as a reason not to want to go. You have a great relationship together and I enjoy your videos.

[@SF-op5ix]

Appreciate you guys! Also thanks for taking the time to create closed captions!

[@jessicashlager7193]

This is a great start to what promises to be a great series. Hearing from both sides is very interesting and informative. Thank you.

[@Missbirdd]

I love when you verbalize what is being signed. I'm trying really hard to learn and helps those of us who are. Love the videos! I have been bingeing them lol

[@marilyndesantiago6095]

You guys are so absolutely considerate and understanding of each other is so sweet. I feel like you really get one another. I hope the rest of the holidays are great for you guys!

[@TopNotchPick]

Excellent video giving us insight on the holidays being deaf. I love, love the way you ended this video on a cliff hangar, for part 2! Looking forward to it. Great segway for the next part.

[@alexandrakuvalanka5528]

Thank you so much for posting this. I'm hearing and my husband is deaf. We sometimes feel alone because it's difficult for people to understand the struggles that come with our relationship. It's comforting to know there are other deaf and hearing couples that are going through the same thing and understand! Great video!

[@ria8136]

This was so interesting!! Spreading deaf awareness is so important and you guys do that. Thanks so much for the amazing content ♡ Waiting for part two now ♡

[@gracefriend951]

Thank you for making this video! It was super educational and helpful to learn a little bit about Ryan's experiences on the holidays. And it also helped me to practice my receptivity. Thank you guys, can't wait for the next two parts!

[@debbiegardner2040]

Thank you Ryan and Ellen for being so honest. I felt my anxiety was misplaced because I'm HoH. But you are right, it is exhausting, and yes, my neck does hurt too. I am learning so much from SignDuo about negative assumptions I made about myself when I can't cope.

[@Sarahlinii]

I am so happy that one of your videos randomly showed up in my recommended feed somehow. I have been binge watching so many of your guys’ videos and you two just warm my heart in so many ways. I remember learning basic ASL when I was a kid and I was just enthralled by it. I loved it. I think it appealed to me much more than the average hearing person because due to some pretty intense verbal/physical bullying, I became so quiet, socially awkward, and shy that it felt like I could finally be myself when I signed instead of spoke to people. Overtime I unfortunately lost track and stopped practicing as I didn’t know anyone who signed back then, so I don’t know much ASL these days at all, but your videos have reignited the passion and love for it that I had when I was a kid! Sorry for the long comment, I have just been enjoying you two so much that I had to say thank you for spreading such vital information and being a tremendous support for not only deaf and hard of hearing folks, but for us hearing folks who have such admiration, love and respect for you all. ❤️👍🏻 Keep up the great content, we appreciate you both immensely!

[@rabeccaharrington7651]

I love that you addressed this subject. Also, it’s nice to see both hands when you have the camera set up like this.

[@babala3008]

You are awesome together - thanks for sharing

[@fgbtv3803]

I'm an ASL student learning to become an interpreter. I just want to thank you guys for helping me keep going on this path. At times I think I'm wasting my time learning ASL but then I see you guys and it reminds me of the impact I can have on someone's life and that keeps me going. You guys are INSPIRING! -With love, Frank G.

[@borbyWanglu]

Oh...I’m an introvert with a little bit of social anxiety and already feel like I can relate😅even though I will always stay friendly and engage with people, but it can still feel overwhelming, and afterwards in my own time I get so exhausted sometimes...!! And often I just don’t feel like going in the first place (even though I really enjoy other people’s company!). It must be so much more tiring for Ryan, with the physical aspect and not being able to instantly hear and know when a conversation starts, or who’s talking at who, etc. I say I can relate, but there’s no way I can really understand how you and other deaf people feel, and the amount of effort you put in. It’s kind of you to share these experiences on KZbin. Thank you both so much!!

[@jov6859]

You guys come across as a very caring and patient couple 💙 I wish you well

[@kimcordova5807]

it's so interesting learning the complications that can occur with a deaf & hearing relationship. I mean communicating with non deaf people is hard in general i can't imagine how hard it must be for couples like you two. awesome vid ! thanks for sharing, this is super educational. can't wait for part 2 !!

[@SignDuoChannel]

Kimberly Cordova thank you! I'm happy it can help people learn a little bit about Deaf life. Part 2 will be coming soon! ☺️🤟🏻💕

[@user-ke8bz2bw1k]

I love watching you guys. I am hearing and dating a deaf man. He is so patient with me and it really helps me to understand our relationship by watching you two. Thank you so much for all the info!! Keep it up! I need to learn more!! LOL

[@sarahzahir5582]

I have deaf cousin in our family. When It's just our family... It's normal.We're talking with her at the same time We're eating. But when we go out or go to other relatives house we don’t see often,she goes quite.She's really cheery and eager to talk when It's just ourselves.but in outside she just goes quite,she doesn’t use her deaf voice.She just politely eats and we would occasionally translate words for her.It might sound like we're ignoring her.It's not that.She doesn't mind.She's 17 and really don’t want to be part of adults conversation. And we have an extended family. So there's always someone with her to accompany her.We never let her feel isolated.

[@swisstrader]

Her voice is so beautiful....and so is his

[@paitenceisthekey3572]

This video had me tear up a little bit. Because I can relate to Ryan. Cant wait for part 2!

[@griffindavis7972]

I’m only going into my 3rd semester of learning ASL but I’m so glad I came across y’all! Definitely subscribing! Also if y’all haven’t already, and if y’all partake, do a video of what it’s like to sign while drinking. I’d imagine it gets slurred just like when speaking

[@Tw0Dots]

Griffin Davis How lol Isn’t it the same as non deaf drinking? How can you slur something that isnt said? Probably disoriented movement

[@belladigioia]

i can relate to this! i am trying to learn spanish and whenever i speak to fluent speakers it can be very exhausting to translate and think of responses in a conversational manner. it comes with learning/understanding any language. i love your videos! :)

[@xxyeezyxx8307]

my was born deaf, and from a young age i was learning sign in order to better communicate with her. my entire family and i have done a lot of work to get ourselves decently fluid in ASL, as she is extremely important to us and we care deeply about inclusiveness. she has two beautiful children (my cousins) and a wonderful partner who is now a professional ASL interpreter. all humans deserve equal opportunity and i am so glad to see you all continue to spread awareness !

[@chloenicholemusic]

Definitely my new fave channel!!

[@SignDuoChannel]

chloe furlong awe! Thank you! ☺️🤟💕

[@twilaslease9859]

Same I love it

[@emel5094]

This is really important for everyone to know and pay attention to. Not exactly the same but my boyfriend doesn’t speak my family’s language and so I can relate a bit to the exhaustion of being a translator and also trying to engage independently. I look forward to part 2 :)

[@madisonpinkey5814]

Cant wait for the other videos!

[@SignDuoChannel]

Madison Pinkey part 2 is coming soon! ☺️🤟🏻💕

[@atlaslex]

As someone who had in laws who speak a different language I can relate. They were super nice and accommodating and I tried hard to learn and understand, but at big family gatherings It's so exhausting by the end of the day!

[@Emanateyourmedicine]

Y’all are amazing! I loved watching your video on communication and resolving conflict. Have you guys heard of non-violent communication? It seems you two already have a general understanding of how important it is to communicate in a feeling-based way, and I figured y’all would really love it!. How amazing it is to witness you two! thank you for sharing

[@Microzub]

Ahhhhhh don't do that to us ! I hate cliffhangers :(.... mehh... *waiting patiently for part 2*

[@karinfoster5573]

Wow! Nice! I like how KZbin includes Signing. It means a lot to me! 😌

[@jackiedanz]

Awee thank you for making this you guys!! I relate with you Ryan when I go to my mom side and it just a big family with a lot of talking and playing games too which is hard for me to follow. And I end up being so exhausted mentally, physically and emotionally (depressed) because I wish I could be included playing this game with my family but I stayed back because it is a lot of work. My dad noticed and he felt sad for me because it too hard with everything going on at once and at least my dad noticed which means a lot. I just read my book instead or isolate myself whether it is alone or my future partner one day.

[@indigoluna7374]

Love your video! Thanks for the insight!

[@SignDuoChannel]

arezoo ojee thank you! ☺️🤟🏻💕

[@Kez_abi]

Omg i havent watched you guys in AGES!!! Loving the new vibe! X

[@baileymorrison2467]

Thank you for showing up the titles of the next two videos that is actually very helpful. But I would’ve watched the whole thing in one go if you uploaded it! I get Ryan feeling mentally exhausted, I feel like that after family events and there isn’t even a language barrier. I see how you two are stuck in a hard place. Would you ever consider hiring an interpreter to go with to big events like this?

[@anneuldahl]

This reminds me of my family (Danish/Spanish couple). When we visit Spain and family, I try my best to follow the conversation, but my Spanish is not good enough for the speed and volume of people speaking. The best is if there is room for a break in a couch with a book or a walk to get some rest, which helps of staying longer without getting grumpy.

[@CalebWolf]

I will try and put your videos in my daily routine so I can get used to reading signs.

[@debsavi4119]

I want to see Ryan’s family more!

[@kimberlyharvey8876]

Hello, explosion in Afghanistan had some hearing then woke up in the hospital nothing. lost hearing so this is my new normal. Thanks for sharing this situation I am fatigued reading lips all day. Learning to sign has been a struggle for me but I am trying came across your website here on KZbin . It helps

[@bakhtawarb9794]

Think about a cochlear implant! It was a big help to me. It was also exhausting for me to read lips, and i felt excluded sometimes. But it gets better. Hang on

[@billiezimmerman2506]

I love that your mom learned. My cousin is deaf and with him being 4 years older it's something i learned b4 taking. His siblings learned, his parents did not. And that's his own parents. I teach my kids the basics. ABC & numbers. My 3y old was only signing for a while. I wish more people would learn.

[@juliettelee8755]

Dear Ryan & Ellen, I can relate to this! I have an older sister who is deaf, just like me. Our parents and sisters are hearing, expect me and my older sister. My sisters would interpreter for me and my older sister. Most the all times, she’s getting sick of sign language for me because she easily get tired or want to talk with other people. And also I can related to Ryan, I really want to have a smooth conversation with my family too!

[@tsubakihanazono]

You both are so amazing, and holidays are always somewhat crazy. I cant imagine having a deaf partner and doing that myself because as a person of mixed heritage there's usually multiple different languages spoken at the same time, I'm blabbering but wow I want to learn sign language asap.

[@isabear80]

My ASL class is ending tomorrow and I have my final presentation. Through this semester you helped me learn even more signs. I'm so excited to move on to ASL 2!! Thank you both!! 🤟

[@SignDuoChannel]

Isabelle Roach ah good luck on your final presentation! Awe that makes me so happy. I'm glad we helped you learn a few more signs! ☺️🤟🏻💕

[@mariadelpilar2982]

So excited for you! I will also be moving on to ASL 2! Best of Luck

[@elmervallarta]

THANKS TO YOU GUYS , I AM LEARN MEXICAN SIGN LANGUAGE.

[@mycahwells5304]

I really like how you talk about your stories all the time. I haven't really had it easy either my family doesn't sign and they are not willing to learn sign language and I never got the proper accommodations in high school and I never got accommodations until now and I am in college. I've never had any good experience. Also its different for me I started to lose my hearing when I was 13 years old and now I am 18 and completely deaf now. I never had access to ASL and the way I learned was through my HS and now I finally have an interpreter which is something new and foreign to me because I've never had an interpreter before.

[@Lyd299]

Loved this video thank you for posting it!!!!

[@SignDuoChannel]

Angie of course! Thanks so much! 🤟

[@macfritz7013]

Sign Duo I've just started watching this channel Ryan is so funny

[@noellerumsey7176]

Love watching you guys! I actually just turned in an ASL assignment when you uploaded xD

[@lchen3]

You two are so sweet with each other and in such a healthy relationship. One of the commercials in the middle of our video was for people that are in love with convicts with whom they’ve never spent time with outside of prison. They are planning on getting married as soon as the convict gets released from prison. Funny juxtaposition. Haha

[@danielleleroy7528]

I understand exactly what it's like at events where people are talking all at once and you do you concentrate really hard watching lips expressions It is very draining Another hard one is on the phone Because you can't see the person's mouth you have to really concentrated I get very fustrated when I can't hear something. I wish I had Ryan's paitence! My partner just assumed if he tells I'll be able to hear It's not the case I don't hear anything when someone is behind me Or when they don't speak clearly or slowly. I am totally enjoying these sign duo videos Thankyou

[@miriamrobarts]

I have a big family, and even being hearing -- it's not really possible to keep up with all the conversations! Maybe it would help to adjust expectations, and focus on talking to the person having a conversation with you, & try not to worry about the conversations on the other side of the room, or the other end of the table. If you explain to them and remind them (since you don't see them often) they won't expect you to participate in multiple conversations at the same time. It'd still be hard, but at least you wouldn't have as much emotional stress & can feel more comfortable. They can also feel more comfortable knowing what to expect. You can also let them know how exhausting it is for you. It sounds like they would be understanding. Why not try telling them you need to take a break? You could go in another room or outside, or even just a quieter corner of the room, and then come back to the group when you feel up to it. That would give Ellen a break too, without having to leave. If you explain how challenging it is for you, they wouldn't see it as rude at all. If you just disappear, then they might wonder why, but if you say you are tired and need to rest, it would be fine. There have been times when a perfectly healthy person in my family decides to take a break for a little bit. Being in a big group can get tiring or overwhelming for some people even without physical challenges. No one thought that they were being rude or didn't want to be with the family. They just took a break & then came back later. If you explain that you need a break, it doesn't have to be a big deal. I have chronic illness and I get exhausted very easily. It varies from day to day, but sometimes just sitting on the couch talking for a couple hours can wear me out. My family knows about my physical challenges, so they don't expect me to do more than I am able to do. Sometimes I'm just too tired, and say, "I think I need to go lie down." Sometimes I feel better and can visit more after resting, but either way, they understand. I think as long as you participate when you can, and express your love for them and let them know that you enjoy spending time with them, everyone will be happy.

[@lisablanton1869]

I’m already so appreciating this video. I’m hearing but my husband is HoH (no hearing aids)and gets so exhausted lipreading everybody. We are learning sign but I have a hard time keeping up with all the conversations and makeing sure he doesn’t miss out. Then feel bad that I’m exhausted. Thank you so much for showing me we’re not alone.

[@SignDuoChannel]

Lisa Blanton of course you're not alone. I'm glad we can share our experiences with each other. I can't wait for you to see part 2 and 3. Let me know what you think when you see them! ☺️🤟🏻💕

[@alex0589]

lol, you sooo dont fucking have to worry about how you're exhausted just trying to listen (watch) a conversation, most sons in law dont last that long. I can't wait for the part 2 and 3 of this, hopefully it's still coming. Just be nice to each other, in case we dont get another ep before the holidays.

[@BergenholtzChannel]

Holidays are hard for everyone. I can you imagine how hard it would be with added communication challenges.

[@Zumcho]

I can appreciate wanting to leave family stuff early due to exhausting energy. I totally get that. My family and many families of color don't just get together for a few hours. Our events are all day events sometimes. I feel like if my partner wanted to leave after an hour or 2, I'd feel frustrated. But I can appreciate his point.

[@sweettoothmarie7304]

Wow...u guys make such a lovely couple!😊 I've subscribed...

[@chrislee1613]

most of time I stay for hour or less..Bec I always felt left out all the time..and my daughter helps me interpret what they are saying..not easy for her but at least she tried...

[@emmachitty69]

I love you guys. ❤

[@nancyross396]

You’re both beautiful loving souls....♥️thank you #loveasl

[@michellerice5046]

> hope to keep seeing more videos like this one

[@amyboyer8952]

Part two please!!!!

[@SignDuoChannel]

Amy Boyer it will be posted soon! 😁

[@JJ-yu6og]

HI Ryan and Ellen! :) I am learning sooo much about the deaf world and about signing, through your videos!! I enjoy watching you sooo much!! :) Ryan said he is learning so much about the hearing world through his relationship w/ Ellen, but didn't Ryan say he grew up attending hearing schools all of his life, and all of his family members are hearing, too. So, didn't Ryan already see it all and learn all about the hearing world from just the exposure to it for 17 years?

[@hungtrinh3898]

I love you guys

[@samevans1289]

I have social anxiety disorder and I SO relate to feeling exhausted and wanting to leave after a while not because I don't like the company but because I've just reached my limit and anything beyond that is painful and it makes me come across as impolite and uninterested. Especially if it's a medium-sized group (as is usually the case with gatherings), by the time I get home I'm sluggish, I can barely drag myself around and I'm so drained my movements are uncoordinated and my speech slurry you'd think I'm tipsy. I feel like I just finished giving a performance. And it's v hard to explain to other people, they just can't understand that it has nothing to do with them. "If you're having a good time, why would you want to leave??" And the more I'm pressured to stay over my "limit", the more I dread and postpone going over next time, and they take that as confirmation that they were right and I actually don't like going over, when everything would go over so well for everyone if we'd keep it "short and sweet"-then I would enjoy myself the whole time and I would go more often because I know I won't be suffering by the end. But some people are willing to understand, if you explain and then give them time to understand, accept, and see with their own eyes that it's true, and they try to accommodate me. For example, I usually go over with my parents and I feel so guilty whenever I want to leave and make them leave as well. So what we do is sometimes when I'm starting to feel tired, they let me go into another room to watch TV, be on the internet, read a book, take a nap, just allow me to be by myself for a while without getting offended. Sometimes I even come out and interact again if I'm feeling better by the end of it. Or if there's no other room to be alone in, they again, allow me, without getting offended, to retreat from the conversation and do all those things enumerated above on the couch in the same room or at the table, etc. Just being able to not pretend I'm comfortable and not exhausted is so important and appreciated, since keeping up the "facade" itself is one of the main things that contribute to my exhaustion. :)

[@aussieshelpinganimals9605]

You guys are great!...Ryan, why don't you just explain that you need time out from concentrating on focusing on so many conversations, and just have a walk for an hour or a nanna nap. I'm not deaf, but I find social interaction tiring and difficult and my husband wants to stay much longer at parties and catch up with friends. (We normally live in a remote area so catch ups are rare.) So I just started getting in to the habit of excusing myself and going to lie down for a nap for an hour or so, then came back into the party with a second wind and ready to go. Nobody thinks anything of it and now they just expect me to disappear and come back refreshed when I go to social gatherings.

[@tdjheli6121]

Love you guys !! 😘😘😘😄😄😄

[@SignDuoChannel]

Every Day Life / Vida Diaria Tj Heli 🤟🏻✌️

[@SaidiLouise]

My husband has serious social anxiety and MY family is a lot to handle. He will last as long as he can, then I take him home and go back. Fortunately, we live less than 10 minutes away. I understand any "pull" you may feel, Ellen.

[@Isabelle-ud2df]

they are so so cute

[@samholland3865]

Love that the intro has joakim or whatever the guys name is (the music, I think it’s called dreams??).

[@SignDuoChannel]

Sam Holland haha you're right! That is one of my favorite songs to use in our videos some of our older vlogs have that song too ☺️🤟🏻💕

[@freemekawaii2747]

He's so sweet but so are you. There was zero communication barrier w my ex but he never went to anything w my family

[@melaniecurtin6402]

Rikki Poynter just did a vlog similar to this. Her boyfriends family used Make it Big on their phones. She said it made a big difference.

[@chelseakevin3134]

My boyfriend is deaf as well he can talk and he has hearing aids he can lip read x but been learning some sign language x

[@merandareed2085]

I was watching another deaf/hearing couple talk about holidays also and they talked about an app called Ava you guys should check it out. It seemed to really help them be able to communicate with there family better

[@jininberry8204]

Sounds like introverts who get energy when alone and being with people is exhausting. My bf and I are the same so we show up late and leave early because company is so tiring especially a big family gathering.

[@10OF9OFBORG]

I understand what you guys going through. I have something that might help you. There is an apps called “I can’t hear” It can interpreted from voice to texting but it’s only work with the internet available. Try that. Take care guys!

[@BTEguitardude]

I'm not trying to tell you how to go about your lives. And I'm sure family is very important to you guys and you wanna be present the whole time. But maybe, Ellen can get there at whatever time she would normally get there. Spend 1-2 hours with her family by herself. Talk, catch up the whole thing. Then Ryan can get there a little later, and by that time Ellen maybe can have more free time to interpret

[@Ctrinny]

Ive watched many videos about how her family handles signing, but there is little discussion on Ryan's up bringing and how he dealt with his family trying to communicate at a young age

[@Dancing7Dolls]

PART 2 PART 2 PART 2

[@SCOTTISHGHIRL-jm6sr]

Awesom

[@3000NaniNicole]

Wow I can't believe this craziness but i can relate to ryan because i have hard of hearing but i dnt sign and i want to but i know my family won't learn it... anyways yeah i can get exhausted when I'm trying to listen in a crowded loud environment and communicate with my family and when someone says something to me I couldn't hear them just pretend that i heard them n just nod.... so yeah i would just be in the corner so i dnt be rude to anyone from how exhausted i am trying to hear my fam 😖 it's a headache. Well actually like my everyday life trying to be involve and included in the conversation but then i just fake a smile and just dream in my head that I'm talking to them back 😂😅😖

[@UkuleleProductions]

Somhow I know exactly how Ryan feels. I'm an introvert, I don't need to be deaf, to have the same experiences... But at least, you can put it on your deafnis, I only get confused faces...

[@dlmosaic]

I think it would be especially exhausting when you are with people that are important to communicate with.

[@twilaslease9859]

Love you guys #loveasl

[@SilverFlame819]

I'm exhausted just hearing about this. The next time the family wants a get-together, just show up, fill up your plate, hug them, and drive into the sunset. *lol*

[@tressahendrix0231]

Is it difficult to talk to eachother while either of you are driving, since you have to pay attention to the road. Do you have to constantly look at the person when they're signing or can you understand from a side view?

[@Omerineee]

booklover 4ever if you watch any of there other videos, you’ll see

[@himeyukimatsumoto994]

I am always pleased to see my regular customer he is deaf he takes almost the same drink sometimes he changes it so I always have a pen and paper ready! I would make sure since he cannot hear to wave at him so then he knows his drinks is ready ^^ Even if I am on the till I am ready to be on the hand of point because my colleagues sometimes don’t understand it very well they talk too fast/shout and most of the time have their eyes ready on the next drink 😔 so yeah I am the only one of my team deaf aware By the way is it weird to say I can understand some words coming out of Ryan ?like kind of a whispering voice?>

[@RapFanatic4ever]

I’m not an interpreter or an ASL student but I just find you guys videos interesting . I always wondered what being deaf was like . Like is there pressure on the ear or anything ?

[@kyliemack1131]

I call that face "the no comprendo" I make it all the time and I am hearing.

[@camaples]

My wife loves your channel and introduced it to me tonight. I'm a new sub, so apologies if you have communicated this before, but Ryan: can you drive deaf? I ask because when you were describing your exhaustion at constantly tracking multiple conversations with your eyes and trying to stay as involved as you can, I just wondered if you could head home while Ellen stays a while longer?

[@ashleighbradleys633]

Post Truth yes he can

[@essie5817]

Please write a book about your experiences And relationship!!

[@VulcanOnWheels]

It's so good to spread awareness of how communication affects someone who is deaf. 4:31 RYAN! STOP THAT! Sorry, but I do so hate that sound!

[@maoriprincess_1624]

OMG I didn't even notice until you meantioned it..😂

[@RoseHathaway12]

I just watched OurSignedWorld and they discussed a similar topic. They said they use an app called Ava that was very useful for communicating. I don't know if it's going to be helpful in your case but maybe you can try it out. :)