Dealing with Change for Autistic People

Lots of things be a changing, but you can trust one thing that never will is me oversharing in videos
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[@michaezell4607]

Dealing with unexpected changes can be extremely frustrating at times.

[@emmam8829]

I'm in a similar position at the moment, been using micro-routines to fill in a chunk of time when I catch myself starting to indulge in bad feelings, like my gym-shower-cook routine. Another slightly weird one, I try to adopt the mindset that I'm currently on an adventurous holiday to Peru and that it's ok that I don't fully know what to expect because I don't know anything about Peru, but it will be fun because it's a holiday and I can just do what I feel like. Thinking about that for a few mins helps me to let go of the need to know what's going to happen all the time.

[@niloc4627]

Dana, it's wonderful to share in your epic journey through life! I was finally diagnosed at the age of 48, but the signs were always there to any psychiatrist with half a brain. Once you know what's truly going on in your head, you can enjoy your own company and stop gaslighting yourself. It's good to devise your own therapeutic activities and routines. My big things are photography and bread-making, but I do it in my own time and space, and I do it to please myself first: if other people enjoy my work, I will happily accept a compliment. In the past, I have been guilty of over-sharing, but now I will share my inner life with a few select people who I trust 100%. It's cheaper than therapy and you can just be relax and be yourself. There's no point in playing mind wars with yourself and those around you. Colin

[@Wotansfogal]

I traumadumped before for sure. Unknowingly of course. The online friend told me that I can talk to her whenever if something is wrong, which is took literally. Until suddenly she lashed out towards me saying that she is not my therapist. At the time I was pretty confused and shocked but I understand now. I just wish I knew at that time that people don't mean it literally and don't expect you to share so much personal shit and it makes them uncomfortable. Another online friend/person with whom I shared a lot of my issues was very understanding and talked with me about it, until we had a fight and she used all of that information as ammunition to try to hurt me as much as possible. Exposing myself and being vulnerable got me hurt quite a few times, yet still I overshare all the time things that happened to me and I'm not sure why.

[@DanaAndersen]

I’ve been in similar situations to the ones you describe, it’s easy to blame ourselves, but why wouldn’t we share things with people who tell us we can?! It’s fair to say ‘that’s a bit much for me’ or something similar, but it’s not fair to invite someone to talk when they need to, and then be mad about it! My last group of friends used a lot of things I’d told them against me at the end of our friendship, and sometimes when talking to my current friends I get super anxious about it going the same way, but lots of people mean it when they say we can share anything with them, and being vulnerable can be really powerful with the right people!

[@Wotansfogal]

@@DanaAndersen Thank you for sharing and listening Dana. I appreciate it

[@SweetiePieTweety]

About your journaling I don’t have my eyesight anymore to be able to write to journal but it is good enough to walk and talk, but I finally decided that watching you and adult with autism and a few other have their channels I thought I just need to record myself daily and then listen to myself back and that has helped me so much because it mimics the journaling yet is more effective for me because listening to myself helps me process all of it whereas telling someone else What’s going on in my head always makes me feel so vulnerable and then I ruminate that maybe they’ve misinterpreted it misunderstood end it just helps me see myself better as to how I present and who I really am versus how I think I am. So now on my daily walk instead of watching KZbin I record myself and then listen back the next day and it helps a lot

[@SweetiePieTweety]

@@artemisXsidecross Good luck I’m sorry to hear about your condition. I love the FreeFlo talk style of Dania’s videos and adult with autism and it does resonate for me to be a therapeutic work all of itself and I thought well I don’t really need an audience I can just do this for me lol had to work really well so good luck with that

[@Reed5016]

Honestly, for me, even when the format of a web page changes, it makes me cringe, and I feel like a part of me dies. Change of any and every kind pisses me off.