Join the conversation on Twitter/Instagram: @jockowillink @echocharles Excerpt from JOCKOPODCAST 79.
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@maire833 жыл бұрын
"Let's say you and me are husband and wife." "Let's not say that." LOLOLOL
@ohhplurism6403 Жыл бұрын
My father loses his temper often. Daily. And it becomes mentally exhausting and emotionally towards my mother, my sister, and myself. This has helped me have a small insight on what to do. Thank you Jocko…. I would love to hear someone ask a question specifically about how to deal with an abusive broken father from his childhood and how he cary over his pain and insecurities onto us. Thank you.
@juddotto36602 жыл бұрын
Jocko as a baby ; "Mother, I'm chilly, may I have a blanket and a bottle please"
@n1c7045 жыл бұрын
Laughing because I can think of plenty of situations this applied to me.
@WhoIsAmaze5 жыл бұрын
n1c you must be dating a Latina girl too
@kramercarter3733 жыл бұрын
Literally too many
@SKBottom4 жыл бұрын
This advice only works with a sane, rational person with a short temper. When they are mentally ill, you are just screwed. All you can do is leave.
@ZombieLincoln6663 жыл бұрын
Valium would do the trick (I speak from experience). SSRIs actually really help for anger too imo
@BrandonP432 жыл бұрын
Some people are just so far down a rabbit hole that you can’t revert A B C D and E by telling them D and E are wrong. To them D and E are the only logical steps because A B and C are in place. Real growth comes when you shed every bit of what you think you knew from the last decade and relearn the world. I think as your brain develops you start to have realizations and catch up to everybody else’s way of life. That’s why so many people look bad and think they were dumb because they followed the alphabet for so long then realized everyone’s numbering things.
@cammeysigfridson76092 жыл бұрын
Plenty of people who have no reason to be mentally ill do downward spiral so badly that they're about as easy to communicate with as a drug addict. A lot of people can rebound from being irrational. A lot of people are just delusional because they're so far into denial. The issue with that is they need to endure an intense break away from cognitive dissonance. I don't recommend trying to induce that. It could be extremely dangerous to both parties involved. I did it to my sister but I have known her my whole life. And guess what? I was terrified.
@Vamatt9921823 күн бұрын
People that dont understand that they lose their temper are probably narcistic because they think they are always right. I wish my family member understood that they lose their temper over petty things
@heysweatyguy45365 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I needed right now this applies to my father
@gsus7235 жыл бұрын
n you too, i take it on myself. and ask my father and conversate
@bhuveshsharma74255 жыл бұрын
He is good at family tactical operations
@neilghosh38214 жыл бұрын
Applies to myself and my father
@aaronwilliams88595 жыл бұрын
I was in serious need of this video. Thank you Jocko and Echo Charles. Much appreciated, nothing but respect for what you guys are doing.
@MoonChildMedia5 жыл бұрын
Anger is the worst, but people who were abused in childhood often do have out of control anger. Not violent, but more like rageful...And you are right, it doesn't look good on anyone. It's because the adult is actually throwing a tantrum because of the needs that were not met when they truly needed someone to care for them. So as long as they are not violent, try and understand what might be driving someone's rage.
@seekn.destroy40645 жыл бұрын
I don't believe that. My dad called me a cunt so much that it became my first word. Was locked in a closet by my grandmother many times. I have a bad temper and all but I'm also a nice person. I like children. I like to see them happy. I don't want any bad in this world.
@MoonChildMedia5 жыл бұрын
That is exactly what I was saying....people with anger issues were often abused....I didn't say it excused any type of violence...I just said if someone knows someone with anger issues...there is probably a reason behind it. Not everyone experienced the same type of childhood abuse nor will they be effected the same way. There is no level of childhood abuse that is "worse" than others....all childhood abuse and neglect is horrendous.
@seekn.destroy40645 жыл бұрын
@@MoonChildMedia uhh I would say sexual abuse is worse than emotional abuse.
@themsensonny5 жыл бұрын
Was beaten half to death once a week until I was 12 years old. I'm SUPER calm and a great father to my son. No anger issues whatsoever and never had any. But I get your point and you wrote "often" so you didn't imply that the rule applies to everyone.
@charlotteice57045 жыл бұрын
@@seekn.destroy4064 I'd say emotional abuse is bad in other ways. Even though it might not hurt as much, it changes you. Not suddenly, but bit by bit. You start to believe what the abuser tells you and it convinces you. You start to question your own perception, everything. It drives you into self-hate and suicide. It took me until last summer to realize it shouldn't hate myself. Making it not affect you in such way is HARD. EXTREMELY HARD. But let's not argue about which type of abuse is worse.
@sublimechimp3 жыл бұрын
It's not complete lack of emotion that's impressive, that's just dissociation and aloofness. Having the full presence, full awareness, and full power of the emotion and directing it the way YOU want to... that is impressive.
@austinblackwell91413 жыл бұрын
HOW they have achieved that and cultivated that skill is what is beyond my understanding. So true.
@sublimechimp3 жыл бұрын
@@austinblackwell9141 My presumption is that it took them years of discipline and training and exposure to individuals who already possessed that skill.
@austinblackwell91413 жыл бұрын
@@sublimechimp if only we were as fortunate to have those kind of people to learn from.
@sublimechimp3 жыл бұрын
@@austinblackwell9141 Seek and you shall find, my friend.
@graytshirt5 жыл бұрын
Echo Charles is JACKED!!! I've been practicing pivoting a ton this year. One thing I need to get better at is not coming across as arrogant in these situations. Thanks for all of the content you all have given us.
@frinkpoofer33755 жыл бұрын
Sometimes it seems like my phone is reading my mind and giving me what I want or need to hear.
@alielrefa3y8005 жыл бұрын
respect from Egypt Mr Jocko ... u r a great addition to our global homosapin specie .
@patriotsandtyrants3 жыл бұрын
Level eleven scorched earth rage explosion aimed at a printer is totally legit. Printers are the dichotomy of temper.
@puresafe20115 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jocko & Echo ! Needed this !
@Ostpreussen-km8rd5 жыл бұрын
"Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering. I sense much fear in you." -Yoda
@aylssacontent10922 жыл бұрын
I know how this feels, my father always does this. I always try to make my family happy, but it turns me down........ I'm very sad. Crying right now
@camo15532 жыл бұрын
Keep going man your not the only one who feels like this
@joenicholes773 жыл бұрын
I think this is one of their top 10 best videos. Good advice and funny.
@danialteaches4 жыл бұрын
This is fantastic. Very insightful.
@4LayersOfStrength5 жыл бұрын
I used to find small events [when people didn't lose their temper] to reward "others". The more I Go My Own Way, the more discerning I am with my conflict management skills. Great video!
@fahb685 жыл бұрын
Im 50 and have 25 years of mareiage and now im learning all you say.... and is working,..... when we are young we dont think the things as well as now.... men youbare makimg great work shaein all this to the young .....👌👌👌
@nmarrs85392 жыл бұрын
Seriously ever time I listen to Jocko all I see is my dads face. Cause he’s almost the same person. 35yrs in the service taut him a lot.
@voidvakarian82195 жыл бұрын
You the man Jocko!
@gregwillard49345 жыл бұрын
I'm dying!
@rawrawra84555 жыл бұрын
Flanking great advice!!! thanks Jocko
@joeythechin88704 жыл бұрын
Jocko, Ever since Iraq and being blown up 6 times and watching brothers die without having the capacity to give a shit due to our circumstances; I came back with an explosive temper! I am going to the VA psychiatrist and psychologist but I’m not seeing any light. I was never bothered by my wife’s voice or her hand motions when she talked BEFORE I was deployed; but now I get furious with her due to both!! I’m not sure that it’s an Ego issue because it’s instantaneous. What if anything do you have in your Awesome experience and advice for Veterans who are diagnosed with PTSD and TBI; who are dealing with explosive tempers post war. I served in Baghdad 06’-08’ pre and during the “Surge”.
@globalprofits1014 жыл бұрын
This will help a lot of people! Props mr.willink
@TacoMexxx2 жыл бұрын
Loved the video, Thank You Guys 💯💯💯
@halfgallon6743 жыл бұрын
Gonna be 100% honest I saw the muscles and immediately assumed you guys would be ‘meat heads’ but this conversation has blown my assumptions out of the water. Like I really do feel dumb as fuck for allowing my preconceptions to go unchecked. Also I love these kind of videos because I can feel them slowly repairing pieces of emotional trauma.
@AgeofMachines4 жыл бұрын
Needed this.
@RohanKayani3 жыл бұрын
Completely agree. Kids will learn from parents and elder siblings
@NikkiNexo7775 жыл бұрын
PMS stands for "Pack My Suitcase", because that's what I want to do whenever it rolls around once a month.
@tvern774 жыл бұрын
It’s no fun for us either 😕
@NikkiNexo7774 жыл бұрын
@@tvern77 I'm sure it's not with the cramps, and bloating, and what not. My hats off to all women who not only put up with that once a month, but the willingness to carry a child for 9 months and give birth. I'm pretty sure women can tolerate pain better than men.
@moreflexmoresex30113 жыл бұрын
@@NikkiNexo777 that depends on the kind of the pain...
@NSRageLog5 жыл бұрын
video was straight facts.
@naveonejakson23052 жыл бұрын
This my family
@alexbird56285 жыл бұрын
Even Jocko is a guy who has no idea what he did wrong!
@DalTron0014 жыл бұрын
My sister in law came into the kitchen and we asked her where her fiance was. She said that he was sleeping and she didn't want to wake him up for dinner because he acts like a toddler when you wake him up from a nap. This blew my mind, no one else even thought about it, but I thought how in the world is that okay? Throwing a fit should be embarrassing beyond belief.
@dimeolas7774 жыл бұрын
Ego and not being in touch with themselves nor able to express themselves, add a pile of insecurity and people get mad. They dont always see the truth of whats going on or recognise a true threat. they see and hear thru their emotional filter and all combined can make it hard dealing with people and create some messes. Thats why the most important thing in a marraige is communication.
@JohnnyMulder2 жыл бұрын
These guys break me up me while teaching me! If you haven't been over to Victory MMA in San Diego you need to go.
@ArrowSalad5 жыл бұрын
Congrats to the new couple, Jocko and Echo.
@ridamalik5815 жыл бұрын
The only thing that calms my anxiety is rational talk. Namaste
@georgemargaris5 жыл бұрын
Really important discussion. Unnecessary anger issues plague all of humanity... It wouldnt hurt if we learned to be a little bit more Vulkan. Not all the way, but a little bit. Why always make bad situations even worse? So stupid.
@Gilbertmk25 жыл бұрын
"Let's not say that" hahaha.
@usbgus5 жыл бұрын
More short clips would be nice
@aphysique5 жыл бұрын
Echo, Looking Swol as Farrrrrrk! Echo camp check in.
@seekn.destroy40645 жыл бұрын
Can't see his legs. Echo doesn't squat.
@jakeedgell5913 жыл бұрын
@@seekn.destroy4064 Charlie don't surf and echo don't squat
@blazegarcia56075 жыл бұрын
Jocko is so smart, my ex made all these mistakes, giving no emotion when I was upset about something, letting his ego get in the way, not wanting to look "weak" in his own mind, but really just coming off as cold and arrogant.
@exzavier83393 жыл бұрын
I feel like I am the only one in my family who can control their emotions. Actually, my dad stays pretty controlled but in extreme cases, he will start yelling. When it comes to my mom and brother, they go ape shit. It's actually insane sometimes.
@gavins9846 Жыл бұрын
Same. Good God the anger, angst is just through the damn roof here.
@pranavs845 жыл бұрын
Love the term "student of your podcast"
@juss21334 жыл бұрын
Holy fuck, this was equally helpful and funny. Thanks. 😂
@jackemarleeyoung5 жыл бұрын
Pen (check) Paper (check) Ego (....umm..)
@bhuveshsharma74255 жыл бұрын
Lol
@c431inf5 жыл бұрын
What escalates is when they realize you have your ear plugs in 😂 then it gets violent
@sMiLe-tp5gq5 жыл бұрын
Mind Games by Pamela Kole, i think this is the one Echo was talking about.
@stephenkramer82832 жыл бұрын
10:12 LOL. Jocko's "Echo what are you even saying" face.
@evanfriedman77515 жыл бұрын
Who could dislike these videos?...
@bhuveshsharma74255 жыл бұрын
We have some ISIS supporters here
@evanfriedman77515 жыл бұрын
🤯 ... you’re right... I forgot how the wisdom of love and freedom is unlike any other wisdom; it is the purest type of wisdom. Unique and Personal, yet Courageous and Relentless. The wisdom of Isis is plainly death and loss... may Jesus continue to bring hem dreams of His Glorious presence so that they will all be saved!
@mmolina8695 жыл бұрын
Echo 'Dr.Phil' Charles.....damn son!
@officialyoutubecommentator43575 жыл бұрын
About to post that, check.
@officialyoutubecommentator43575 жыл бұрын
Many similarities. .......SWOLE
@bobbybush17505 жыл бұрын
When I got out of juvenile my junior year, I was living with my dad and he said something about my mother. I put about 3 holes in the wall that are still there.
@RustyShakleford14 жыл бұрын
my dad spit in my face after slandering my mom and wanting me to hit him. instead i laughed and called him a coward piece of shit. i then proceeded to punch a hole in the wall as well. thank you for sharing your story. all the best to you in life
@johnlow39095 жыл бұрын
Echo. Did you ever remember the author of mind games? I would like to give it a read. Keep up the good work gentlemen!
@robwahl4 жыл бұрын
Guessing its Mind games by Pamela Kole or Michael Powell.
@LanceSnowFeb14794 жыл бұрын
When you search for mind games the book there are many from all different authors. Do you have a link to the book on your amazon account? I wonder how much you would make from giving the links to the books on your amazon resellers account? Just an idea... It would help.
@TheCashfile3 жыл бұрын
I think he is referring to The Mind Game by Devika Das
@clareahtee2 жыл бұрын
Yes I was trying to find which author as well. Can anyone else confirm? Thanks
@shawngatke36855 жыл бұрын
I want to know more about the mind games book
@TheCashfile3 жыл бұрын
I think he is referring to The Mind Game by Devika Das
@BattlefieldSailor5 жыл бұрын
Fight fire with fire! -SLAM Layers...
@jameswilson93065 жыл бұрын
Can we get the book title and author by any chance?
@TheCashfile3 жыл бұрын
I think he is referring to The Mind Game by Devika Das
@adamsoto64665 жыл бұрын
@echocharles who is the author of the book mind games? I want to make sure I get the correct one. Also a big Thank you to jocko and echo for these podcasts. You're helping me be a better man and most importantly a better father to my son.
@TheCashfile3 жыл бұрын
I think he is referring to The Mind Game by Devika Das
@adamsoto64663 жыл бұрын
@@TheCashfile thanks I'll look for it.
@jasonplassaras25645 жыл бұрын
Biceps all over the place.
@brianbradley19522 жыл бұрын
❤️
@benpixx26784 жыл бұрын
You mention a book titled 'Mind Games'; can you tell me the author, please? Thank you for the interesting content on your channel.
@DennisManey5 жыл бұрын
Does anyone know the book Echo was referring to? "Mind Games"
@akshaybande48362 жыл бұрын
Awesome thumbnail😂
@hounddog29525 жыл бұрын
Echo angered over Jocko blocking him on his wife's fakebook page 👀 😂😂😂😂
@seekn.destroy40645 жыл бұрын
Stay in your lane Echo
@BrandonP432 жыл бұрын
Tempers look cool to people who haven’t lost their one too many times.
@crystalchandler67425 жыл бұрын
Hangry is real!
@Carbondan5 жыл бұрын
Please have DRAGO on the podcast.
@emberjaxx5853 жыл бұрын
Does anyone know the author of the book “mind games” the echocharles talks about at 12:31?
@luke170319875 жыл бұрын
jocko. what book is it at the end?
@TheCashfile3 жыл бұрын
I think he is referring to The Mind Game by Devika Das
@robertgaissert72904 жыл бұрын
If you think about it this is the solution towards world peace
@TheMaaark4 жыл бұрын
I think the author of the book Echo is speaking of may be, Kayode Enwerem
@andersbjorklund26233 жыл бұрын
Haha Echo and Jocko look like they’re arguing in the thumbnail
@123yea4 жыл бұрын
Where can I submit a question??
@JarretMinkler5 жыл бұрын
Jocko has to weigh in on killshot 😂😂
@rabidwolf9313 жыл бұрын
Jocko just put me in a rear naked choke, then Echo punched me in the face. GOOD!
@user-ob3gy3zo6y5 жыл бұрын
You brilliant bastard. Would you recommend furthering your education to learn more about human psychology? Considering getting my clinical degree, if you found an alternate route to getting this smart I’d love to hear
@daviddeleon31545 жыл бұрын
🤔 2 X's cheeeck 🤣🤣
@jondeason11605 жыл бұрын
Epigenetics
@IvanHasADeathwish5 жыл бұрын
11:48 hahahah
@officialyoutubecommentator43575 жыл бұрын
Flank
@donalejo18895 жыл бұрын
THE MARINE CORPS IS MY FAMILY
@vincentcrowley51963 жыл бұрын
I don't want to lose my temper but sometimes you need to show your teeth , or people will walk all over you , I would rather talk calmly or walk away if I feel like I'm going to lose it
@OneNordicWarrior5 жыл бұрын
Why would 1 person dislike?
@arvidfalk57195 жыл бұрын
Probably drunk, possibly confused...
@D3ADSY5 жыл бұрын
They were HANGRY
@metalslug385 жыл бұрын
You know me just me and my temper, yeah I do know you I wish I didn't lmao that shit made me laugh. Hate when people say dumb shit like that.
@Kittonwy3 жыл бұрын
STIFLE THOSE EMOTIONS
@darealaustinlee2 жыл бұрын
I have a temper and lose control. I’m also a communication major that’s been in the army, going through 3 dui’s, and if you call me a baby I should slap you. My tempers not for power, it’s for you to leave me tf alone. My power stems from my IQ.
@gavins9846 Жыл бұрын
Yea you might as well shit your own pants to get people to leave you alone. 💀
@mikkohiironen68214 жыл бұрын
There is "anger gene" well actually many but just go google "darpp-32 and anger"
@slayer040319742 жыл бұрын
Rule No.1 being married and with Kids. Don't forget you are Married and No time clock.
@tijerinaivan5 жыл бұрын
if you don`t cry while whatching "a football life" u are dead inside..or am i a cwy bby?
@seekn.destroy40645 жыл бұрын
Been juicing 5 years. I'm totally fucked lol
@sublimechimp3 жыл бұрын
Adults lose their temper because they don’t know how to talk about their emotions.
@highconfessornicodemus16135 жыл бұрын
Trust in Christ, forgiveness and patience is almost always the answer.
@WhoIsAmaze5 жыл бұрын
High Confessor Nicodemus truth
@bobbybush17505 жыл бұрын
If that's what helps you brotha, do it.
@gimmeyoursnacks5 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@horchatadiver2 жыл бұрын
At&t
@andrefaaa5 жыл бұрын
I don't agree with what Echo said at 10:36. I grew up watching people close to me losing their temper all the time over the littlest and most insignificant things, and I thought that was so stupid and bizarre that I would behave and act exactly the opposite. I rarely lose my temper.
@jonathonfrazier66224 жыл бұрын
There are temper genes. Echo needs to watch more Jordan Peterson.
@dave1927p3 жыл бұрын
Echos got to learn to just keep his mouth shut and ask jocko questions.
@sublimechimp3 жыл бұрын
I disagree with Echo’s comparison of losing your temper and not being able to read. Reading is taught to every child over several years in every school system. Emotional regulation is not mentioned at any age in school. Children without emotionally competent authority figures are left far behind and lack the language to even ask the questions to catch up.
@rabidwolf9313 жыл бұрын
Jocko just put me in a rear naked choke, then Echo punched me in the face. GOOD!