How To Keep Calm During An Argument - Joe Rogan Method

Ever wanted to know how to keep calm during arguments and confrontations? Joe Rogan is a master at keeping his cool, having debated and argued with 1000s of guests on his podcast. We can learn a lot from him. This video is a case study demonstrating some of the methods he uses to maintain a cool head in the midst of chaos.
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[@therealizedman]

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[@psychospartan3007]

He smokes weed gets relaxed

[@therealizedman]

@@porsche200471 Thank you very much.

[@therealizedman]

@@psychospartan3007 It could help, no doubt.

[@therealizedman]

@kroooassant Thanks for the insight. Welcome to the channel!

[@iand.4593]

So he breathes through his mouth because his nose is busted.

[@Pirake123]

Joe maintains his cool because he knows that he can roundhouse kick the majority of his guests into the next pandemic.

[@rut3ch]

Hahahe

[@butterflybei265]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💃🏿😂😂😂😂🤭☺️

[@k3ff793]

and, he is stoned :)

[@lgtwzrd]

He can actually imagine that as he is closing his eyes.

[@robertgriego5903]

Actually Joe only picks fights with guys he thinks he can beat up

[@kourosh234]

How To Keep Calm During An Argument (Be like Joe): don't raise your voice don't move too much control your breathing attack the argument, not the person Be humble and modest

[@raulenoisevois8197]

Smoke weed as well

[@Lytewerkproductions]

never lose your temper never lose your head and if you want to be a highlander be balanced

[@Lytewerkproductions]

and don't get involved

[@marinaSassygUrl88]

Thank you 💚 was looking for this💕

[@mishellekochel4510]

Wow...I think there are three men that should have grasped this prior to the debate. That being said, some people act excited and aggressive to throw their opponent off guard.

[@blixasice]

It's so hard not to get nervous and my heart racing when arguing with someone. Especially when they are being totally unreasonable

[@tannercoomer6952]

I get this, I my voice starts cracking and hands start shaking, sounding and looking like a wimp lol

[@bobinthewest8559]

It isn’t always important to win an argument. In fact… the majority of arguments are literally pointless. In most cases… you can simply walk away, and the argument (win or lose) will have zero impact on your life.

[@honeyfungus4774]

Not raising your voice and keeping calm often drives the person you're agruing with nuts and makes them even more angry.

[@777tillinfinity]

😅🤣😂🤣😅 True! I've been accused of being a snartarse, because, I chose to remain calm and not blow up lol

[@bcor4219]

that doesn't make it a bad idea

[@calisongbird]

Sometimes that’s the best reason to do it! 😂👍🏼

[@patrickcenkush519]

I'm surprised more ppl can't relate. Maybe it's because a Lot of ppl don't practice this method.

[@TheLafain]

I think its not as easy as it sounds. Because u can come up as arrogant and standing above the others. So to have the described effect you have to stay calm but let your "opponent" feel respected.

[@MichaelCorleone654]

All you need to do is question him on weed and he forgets all these calm techniques

[@bagster60able]

or DMT

[@hunterwildes3646]

Trevor to be fair it was one argument over many and they both came out and said that they regret getting heated like that

[@sasquatchmindcontrol]

Earth is flat

[@KaninTuzi]

“You're adorable, you're adorable"

[@mr.turkey3960]

That Hanna Montana weed

[@MysteryMouseketool]

Joe: Have you ever tri- Neil: The mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell

[@noname4u2see]

Joe couldn't get a word in with NDT cuz he lowkey got him hiiiiiiighhh and towards the end of interview he was gone!

[@arieljesuscolon7723]

😂😂

[@wiseonwords]

@Philo Beddoe - Unfortunately, that's true. Nice bloke at times, but sometimes NDT can be a real jackass.

[@Musaaaa653]

@@wiseonwords r/iamverysmart incarnate

[@terrytummons8898]

Ndt thinks he's so smart, he is really a dumbass that doesn't understand basic conversation and cues of irritation

[@freefallin6871]

I learned decades ago on a debating team that self control was even more important than material knowledge of the subject. The trick was to be measured and calm, even when being made uncomfortable, and it will happen. Joe does a great job with interviews, not just by his questions, but by his reserve and professionalism.

[@ValiantKnight7983]

the thing i like about joe rogan is that he wasn't always like that, which means he figured it out and made a conscious decision to conduct himself this way

[@mechailreydon3784]

1. Don’t raise your voice 2. Watch your posture (don’t take up too much space and don’t move to much) 3. Control your breathing 4. Don’t attack the person’s character 5. Understand your ego (don’t cling to who you think you are)

[@Lmaoooohi]

Brian Prior underrated comment

[@scottlee38]

Thank you for this!

[@dad4378]

@R J why you need shortcuts lol

[@LilouChupie]

Try having a sister like mine, you'd have to add: 'don't punch them out' to your list.

[@Liverpool1616]

7. dont call them racist, xenophobe, homophobe, and ect if you dont agree with their opinion.

[@0ptimal]

Joe is a good example of a guy who has his shit together. A guy who's shaped himself into his best version. It's admirable.

[@baziantoniadis543]

sinkingships offools So just because he never worked at a job that makes him something less?

[@0ptimal]

@sinkingships offools idk what you are but I'm going to assume Joe is far more successful than you will ever be. In probably all areas of life. "real job" is a subjective term. All that matters is he went from an average guy to one of the most known/successful people on the planet. How about you? Have you done so much w your life that even Joe rogans journey looks pathetic? Or are you just a whiney little twat?

[@---ff4to]

@sinkingships offools he's extremely successful and seems genuinely happy with his life. That's the best it fucking gets. Not successful and suicidal because you hate your job. You have the mentality of a child if you think money and social status is what makes a person. You act like calling him a stoner is an insult, nothing wrong with smoking; he doesn't seem like he's hurting anyone around him because of it so why talk shit?

[@feuerfrei719]

@sinkingships offools becoming a neurosurgeon doesn't make you relevant either. You're just jealous.

[@Mnyu]

@Mmm 333 Which scientists?

[@MikinessAnalog]

"If you feel the urge to prove yourself right, first try to prove yourself wrong." This helps to eliminate any counter arguments against you.

[@Viv8ldi]

I dont get this ro be honest

[@friedmandesigns]

@@Viv8ldi Analog is suggesting that "steel-manning" the other side(s) of your position -- e.g., finding the fault(s) and errors in what you think is "The Way" on a given idea -- is the best path to see how others will argue *against* your position on that thing. 'Find what's wrong with what you think is what's right.' It's also a terrific and instructive way just to be a wiser, cooler human. ❤‍🔥

[@AUSSIEMADMATT]

I don`t deliberately raise my voice, i don`t like to intimidate people, i get too emotional when its something i am passionate about.

[@MichaelHoward-td9qm]

Raising your voice doesnt intimidate people. Being calm when they are are screaming at you about how theyre going to kick your ass is what is intimidating. When you know you can ragdoll someone, their threats garner no emotional reaction from you as you know that ultimately, you would destroy them if they decide to get stupid

[@n34z3r]

Same here AUSSIE

[@friedmandesigns]

@@MichaelHoward-td9qm 'zactly. Which is more powerful, and nearly always accompanies someone who actually has the skill-set to execute on it: A person screaming across a room, " _I'm gonna get you!_ " ... or the person next to you who *whispers it* ? 😆 Cheers.

[@plandl1]

He who raises his voice first, loses the argument- Ancient Chinese proverb

[@IRONTOSS]

You mean “ancient Chinese secret” or is that from a detergent commercial??

[@Lytewerkproductions]

anyone that dares to critic the chinese government not a commie

[@quantumthoughtspodcast]

We agree!

[@glenncater1]

HE WHO HITS FIRST WINS -Albert Einstein

[@plandl1]

Sorry. Not true. I've let other hit first, they did not come back for more.

[@MisterLumpkin]

Here's Joe Rogan's mantra for staying calm during an interview; "Spotify is paying me 100 million bucks. Spotify is paying me 100 million bucks. Spotify...".

[@ash___777]

that was good lmao

[@vampiriann]

For 100 million bucks I would also be a fucking Dalai Lama

[@jeffreybarkley8735]

Lol

[@chc2650]

I mean..he goes through a lot to bring the guests onto his show. He might as well let them talk, the people want to hear the guests not Joe.

[@carolyne9564]

@James Two weeks after applying his method to my life, my life has completely changed. Public speaking, social anxi ety problems, and various types of addi ctions have begun to disappear. search youtube "paradox of I can do it"

[@deepanjan.sengupta]

After searching and going through several videos on this topic this video comes out as the best , it’s not too long, not too preachy, provides practical advice with enough scientific and visual evidence that convinces me to work on my inability to win arguments productively, thank you so much.

[@thekitchenoccultist]

wow I really needed this. Im in a situation where I am chronically interrupted and been losing my cool lately, which is something I've been extremely self-aware of in most situations in the past few years, but this one has been a chronic challenge and I do not want to be reactive. TY for this gem.

[@buddysmom9494]

Me too! I'm in a situation atm. I have bpd so I'm just keeping calm and watching youtube until these houseguests that have worn out their welcome leave. Not sure I'll ever offer to help anyone again after this experience lol

[@YouDontKnowMebro69]

My girlfriend gets even more mad at me when I stay calm and she says I’m too nonchalant about it. I can’t win man

[@justagerman140]

Sounds pretty toxic to me - you should drop her ass while you still can, my man. Women should not be a burden

[@kiattim2100]

@@justagerman140 Well, it also depends on the context, like I dont know he did and you probably don't so you shouldn't say that.

[@AboveElevated]

Had the same thing with ex wife. Complained I was TOO calm when we fought and argues. They associate it with being cold with no feelings.

[@holoholohaolenokaoi2299]

mine too. and then when i do try to get a word in 'edgewise' she say's "don't interrupt me"

[@NoWr2Run]

WOMEN ? AFTER A WHILE I'LL STICK WITH MY 60'S CAMARO'S, MY JEEP, MY DOBES., MY LOG HOUSE IN THE MOUNTAINS & MY LEFT HAND. WELL LUBE & PORN OF COURSE TOO ? YOU DON'T KNOW ANY BODY TILL YOU LIVE WITH THEM & THEN, " WHAT DO YOU REALLY KNOW " ? I THOUGHT IT WAS BO KNOW'S EVERYTHING ?

[@JJPHILLYLG]

You can tell Joe wants to slap the universes out of Dr. Neill DeGrasse Tyson.

[@em2012ish]

I like Dr.Tyson but damn he was being a jerk.... he should have at least picked up on Joe's annoyance and made an adjustment to be more respectful.

[@JJPHILLYLG]

@@em2012ish His observation skills were stuck in a black hole. It's one thing to interrupt once or twice but damn!!!

[@ScubzMcTalBowling]

Yea, I like listening to NDT when he is doing lectures or when he is speaking on his own, but when he is forced to interviews or lectures with other people he comes off as an egotistical a-hole always needing to be the focus of attention.

[@user-sw1wq8lh2w]

@@ScubzMcTalBowling he talks for a living and he loves rants and tangenhs, I think it's really a bad quality that he doesn't understand how to hold space for Joe in the conversation.

[@SquashGuy02134]

Dr.Tyson is probably so smart in other ways he may be a bit lacking in the social department, but we don't need him to be a gifted socialite, we need him to be a wicked smart space guy

[@subongo]

Isn't the simple answer to Joe's calmness all the weed he smokes?🤣👀😂

[@gmont5082]

I wish that worked for me... I smoked 20 years ago and im still paranoid

[@jadzia42]

Nope! I smoke a ton and am angry AF.

[@noahconnors8001]

I smoke so much and it makes me calmer

[@JJohnston4Life]

My thought when I read the title

[@scooby-doodoo5885]

Hahaa lmfao! 😂

[@TetuShani]

Every single one of these points will only escalate an argument with my wife 😂

[@Name-el9ps]

Staying calm will make her mad haha

[@phantomhawk01]

@@randomopining even yes dear is me being patronising 🙄

[@bravoalphahk]

My wife, obviously descended from a line of ferocious warriors, enjoys arguing against every tiny little thing she possibly can, and I usually gratify her. Her weakness is when, after my own vigorous resistance, I suddenly clam up, keep calm and smiling, but completely drop my side of the argument and just look at her. This spooks her and she's not sure whether she just won, or lost the moral highground by offending me somehow. Still in the mood to spar, she then starts questioning and debating herself, her brain short circuits, and all the fight drains out of her.

[@theonewhobullies]

@@bravoalphahk brooo 😂😂

[@orangeiceice12]

@@phantomhawk01 hahaha "patronizing"-- the term of doom

[@stuartclark2784]

I've been practicing just not raising my voice for a week now, not just when actually talking to people but more importantly with the self talk in my head and rehearsing arguments. I've found it amazingly powerful for reducing feeling anxiety and anger

[@marinaSassygUrl88]

Same! Coming from someone with anger issues.

[@glenncater1]

rehearsing arguments is useless ! people only do that after the fact.

[@davidgroom9667]

Nah, do the fucker

[@an0therdimensi0n99]

womder how that is going 3 years later

[@chaostrading]

ive now learnt that because i workout 6 days a week and know how to fight that i have an ego on that and get very mad with alot of people when they disrespect me. i dont dominate them or challenge them to a fight but i get so mad in my head knowing i could do some damage to them and "teach them a lesson" this video has taught me i really need to work on my ego and accept that not everyone is going to be respectful and i need to be ok with that

[@tomaswoksepp]

Also something that wasn't mentioned - If you're in an argument and you keep getting cut off while talking, just sit silent and let the other person go on a rant. Once they're done they'll realize that they're very loud and detached from the point of the argument.

[@kencyhailey5839]

This happened to me few days ago, I was sat down and the guy was standing and too fidgety, talking with his hands way too close to my face. I used to be very short tempered but for some reason, I was so shocked by his reasoning and his monologue that I ended up not replying anymore....At some point he stopped talking and left....

[@dwaynesbadchemicals]

Tyson doesn’t like anyone else talking but himself.

[@danielmiller3596]

Rockstar science. If he had stuck with how to make it fun to correlate science with odd neat stuff, he’d be awesome. Now it’s kind of a shark jump and hearing how correct he is.

[@JKDMan2000]

tyson is a windbag...hes annoying

[@Nexus-hh1lx]

@@JKDMan2000 agree. as smart as he may or may not be, he's not as smart as he thinks he is.

[@dbrad5197]

Tyson is an egotistical fool. Can't listen to him.

[@kingmason145]

Funny seeing probably non publishing people talk about an astrophysicist 😂. Maybe if you actually listen to him you would actually learn something.

[@Themis33]

This has been so enlightening. My mother hijacks my amygdala on a daily basis and in response I always say ridiculous things i regret. This is made worse due to my chronic cortisol issues which are due to being severely abused in my childhood. I'm so fed up of her bringing this side out of me. It's a vicious circle. I want to keep calm and not let her get a rise out of me. She has this power over me that must be stopped. I will practice these techniques. Thank you.

[@spacemanpope1805]

He's calm until somebody gets knocked out. "OHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!" - Joe Rogan 😂

[@Bloodyknukelzz]

That’s a celebration 🤔 he’s referring to arguments

[@VincentVangough15]

Haha He loves a solid leg kick too “OOOOOHHHHH”

[@fragrooster375]

"OHHH" Rogan

[@Madness1299]

He tagged him

[@operator0]

@@Bloodyknukelzz Yeah, but it's also part of his job. Joe Buck is hated as an NFL announcer because he's so f'ing boring. Joe is loved as an announcer partly because he gets excited at the exciting parts.

[@ericmartinbosse8405]

It is the mark of an Educated mind to be able to Entertain a thought without Accepting it. Bravo Joe.

[@tsfbaf303]

Cameron West Who pays 100.000$ for education? lol But education can also refer to private education, reading etc. so you’re wrong

[@itheuserfirst3186]

Educated? Bwah!

[@ShanshanZheng]

Agreed except I’d change the phrase educated mind to a trained mind.

[@josephwillis1581]

Lol... Joe is an idiot.

[@georgeb8637]

1:45 - keep control of your voice 1:53 - amygdala hijack (oldest part of our brain, seen as an emotional Center) 2:11 - in a stressful situation, our brains cut off the slow thinking - and access amygdala 3:01 - awesome way to handle someone (ok keep going) 3:14 - Joe is defending himself here (does he need to do that? Is he just responding) 4:28 - arguments is not the time to assert dominance 4:33 - control your breathing 6:05 - avoid ad hominem attacks 6:13 - character attacks by Trump 6:32 - Joe Rogan does a grate job at dissecting the argument 7:40 - your world view is not always correct (observe another’s persons perspective as a 3rd party observer) 7:47 - objective is to discover the truth - not to find ways where you are right 8:05 - understand your ego - your minds representation of yourself (which is not always right)

[@fhvschnvc3411]

Thank you 👍

[@H982FKL-TG]

Thanks a lot

[@ryanmolnar6783]

I love Joe, literally listen to him every single day hes one of my role models. That being said, these interviews were hand selected. Joe loses his temper alot too. I can show 4 podcasts off the top of my head where he used NONE of these tactics.

[@ryanmolnar6783]

@Hashan PeirisLiterally type "Joe Rogan Losing His Temper" in the search bar and hundreds of hits will appear. Click on any.

[@ryanmolnar6783]

@Hashan Peiris kzbin.info/www/bejne/aXm1hqiYir6MsLc

[@ryanmolnar6783]

@Hashan Peiris those are just the podcasts, you can go listen to the full ones, the Steven Crowder one is a really good example. Joe even later apologized to him for how poorly he communicated. I believe Joe himself would admit to you hes not perfect at controlling his emotions.

[@zippyz4170]

I think its good to raise your voice when in a confrontational situation when someone gets in your personal space...it shows you are standing up for yourself. In normal conversation, if you have to raise your voice to talk then it could also mean that you think your not being heard. Some people repeat what they are saying while others raise their voice. Some are just manipulating the situation to later say the person who raised their voice has a "problem" and nothing they did caused that problem. It's all about perspective on what is going on in the situation. Some people just get into debates to win without hearing another persons perspective unless it benefits them.

[@larryhinze9314]

Those were the one's he did all those horse tranquilizers. lol

[@geromejohnnygranada]

Whenever I realize I'm talking with someone that likes to interrupt i start to interject less and less until it's just them talking to themselves. But I hold eye contact with them with an expectant look. Eventually most people realize what they're doing and start to let me talk. But if they don't I just say, "hey I gotta go" and double jet.

[@Mark-yb1sp]

jackybs Excellent comment. Thank you, sir.👍🏻

[@jdrodrigues7]

I strongly suggest not going through that process in the first place and just listen more than talking. Understanding that such a thing is rare in this world and allowing others to speak the entire time if they won't stop will be recognized at a huge gift which will be reciprocated by the talker if you see them again. If not, you are maturing. One of the reasons why people must keep talking is because of the rarity there is for listening. Most people on operating on a flowchart path where they must battle to be heard and interact with others who don't care about self-improvement so they battle back. Once they meet you starting off listening not going through a shut down process, they'll instantly notice and change before you leave giving both of you a higher quality discussion. Of course, others will abuse your silence which causes them to remain poorly developed as you grow.

[@blackpagan100]

jdrodrigues7 That is only true of considerate, introspective and reasonably intelligent people with the ability to look back at events without personal bias. Unfortunately, in my experience at least, most people aren’t like this and perform all manner of mental gymnastics (South Park 👍🏻) to see themselves as the victor. People kid themselves and avoid taking an honest look at who they really are.

[@oliverf944]

me too lol

[@jdrodrigues7]

@@blackpagan100 You are right! I mentioned that in my original comment. I fully understand. My neighbor is one of the worst types of those bad types you described.

[@josef9988]

never realized that Neil does that a LOT

[@jamesp1661]

Causes he's overcompensating

[@optimchs]

I like the guy generally but HOLY SHIT what an asshole he was being there.

[@FOH45]

he does cause of the rate of things he's trying to put out at a single moment, and which is impossible, brain moves faster than the mouth, paired with the fact that its confirmed at the very least in his mind that he knows more about what they're talking about, cause its usually science, only time ull slow down to think is if ure not sure of what to say, now problem is he should calm down often, if uve seen alot of his videos, ull see he's hyperactive especially when its science

[@unwase]

Yeah neils a pos

[@plugsplug8546]

zépedro 8 for sure

[@1amazingtutorialchannel380]

I know this is an old video, but I was looking for this because I wanted to know more about how to handle confrontations. I think that a lot of this is common sense, but at the same time during the confrontation, I think that goes out the window. I think that you did a really good job of putting all of these ideas together

[@cuzinofie6]

He’s fully in control of himself and it’s AWESOME. That is where your real power is, is when you don’t let others actions or words control your actions or words. I’ve stayed calm with mild responses with people yelling in my face 😳 it’s hard but it’s about know you’re in control of yourself…helps to be secure and confident in yourself too.

[@SomeJustice19k]

The main thing: don't debate with your emotions, educate yourself and use logic and facts. Conversations are derailed when people get emotional and Joe would agree.

[@danielj233]

People debate with opinions and usually state them as logical facts.

[@adaml3774]

Bro just watch joes debate with Steven crowder on marijuana. Any time joe gets into an actual argument he goes hulk mode

[@islamdo]

U r damn right

[@teriinclan8757]

Mike Justice well said

[@SomeJustice19k]

@a-Tron if someone argues that, then it sounds like a person that I don't want to talk to anyways. Those types of people are only out to 'win' and discussion and usually they only exist on the internet and aren't use to having real life discussions.

[@paulm.5192]

"You can tell from his micro-expressions"... micro? Joe is literally rolling his eyes at one point when Neil interrupts him :D

[@dblackviper2k3]

I guess macro would be flipping the table?

[@survivaltipsandtricks4042]

Well seeing how he could have yelled at him or started a fight, I think eye rolling would count as micro-expression

[@justamanchimp]

...and the guy still didn't catch on 😅 Goes to show how smart Neil really is

[@lionforlambs9167]

@@dblackviper2k3 that would be spin kicking them on the ass

[@krane15]

Exactly, you can see that from across the room.

[@dayloz9683]

This is exactly the video i needed. So well informed too! Definitely earned yourself a new Subscriber!

[@talannamckim1271]

This was a great learning tool. Thank you. Even though we think that we know how to handle ourselves.... it becomes apparent, at least to me, That we let our emotions take over . To have these simple tools are a great way to maintain some control, or at least make us aware, that we can let things get out of of control so easily. I know more than at least a hundred times... that I've fell into this emotional trap and just tried to over talk someone, and I hate myself when I do this . So... to have these tools and to make oneself aware of these flaws, is a great step forward, and should hopefully help to learn how to keep emotions out of a debate or an argument. Again, thanks

[@yewmiii]

"He keeps his mouth open all the time... I suspect that this helps him breathe." i don't know man i wouldn't go jumping to conclusions here

[@capatheist]

No no! Let him work through this, I think it’s going somewhere...

[@alfreedom3971]

You breath thru your nose, exhale out your mouth. That's the proper way to breath.

[@mmaaddict78]

He's also had his nose broken numerous times.

[@TR-gg5er]

@@capatheist 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@bercor6014]

"I suspect, this is how he breathes" Turned into a biology class right there.

[@Sugefut]

Yea, if you ignore the basic biology of the human respiratory system and the fact that the maker of the video implied that humans pant to recover when exhausted because it is more efficient which could not be more wrong (humans sweat, it is humanity's superpower, to recover and panting is what animals who do not sweat do to recover when exhausted)... then yea, this was still a bunch of bullshit because the guy never even mentions that Joe is smoking weed before the interviews and that the arguments are taking place in a controlled environment.

[@graysonchavis]

Sugefut Sugefut these are still applicable tips that can especially help people with issues controlling their anger

[@genxd977]

The problem with playing it cool with an angry person is, they become more frustrated because they feel that your trying to be the bigger person and it makes them feel like they are the bad person and makes them more inflamed and they attack harder because they are not able to suck you into their mindset of being angry and the conversation goes on for a very long time as they try harder to make you mad also, which kind of crushes your soul to a certain extent while trying to be nice.

[@Simon9Mr]

True. Also avoid very long sentences.

[@RitsychServare]

sure but that's when the other person is investing more energy to the argument than you are by trying to remain calm. In the end, the other person will just grow exhausted by stressing themselves out instead of trying to remain cool. Letting go of your own ego once you realise that the other person is just looking to win against you and it's not benefitting them in the end shows that you've won.

[@Rhoadie1]

Thanks for the run on sentence. It was agonizing to read. By the way, if you get mad, that shit is on you and your fucking sickness. Don't put that on me. This is where law steps in. It's why we have it. If you can't fucking be grown WE will make sure you do! Don't give me that cop out shit. You are responsible for what you say dude. You are free to say it..... But that shit comes with repercussions sometimes. Free speech doesn't mean consequence free. Be a person........ You might like it.

[@Damesanglante]

Most calm people don't try to calm the situation. They do that for their ego. To be the one that stayed cool. Most of the time, they aren't genuine. Just condescending and passive-agressive.

[@MaxMax-th7uz]

I was the angry person trying to get my recent ex to argue when clearing my stuff out after being 17 years together ! Staying calm when your world has been turned upside down is not easy ! The inner chimp came out !

[@serget2168]

Self awareness comes from being in uncomfortable situations position in martial arts and that translates into life

[@somequasiparticles]

The true power is the self esteem Joe has cultivated by working out, chasing his dreams, growing spiritually. He also focuses on truth, but also recognizes he doesn't know everything and wants to give people the platform to express themselves.

[@bluwng]

Over analysis, he’s just chill because he is stoned.

[@herogibson]

he's not usually high for the podcast. every once in a while he will take a couple puffs on the podcast, but thats rare anymore.

[@ivanvasilev95]

Most definitely

[@predater5017]

@D C no he isnt, hes defo stoned tho

[@bonappletea7294]

@D C amen, dumb loud ass people can be even dumber and louder sometimes when they get high. we all wish it could, but the truth is weed can't fix everybody.

[@MrMotivator-vy9cw]

@@bonappletea7294 we can only fix ourselves.

[@lj1721]

Thank you for the wisdom. We have all been wounded greatly. Making changes to how we unconsciously react to anger is a huge step to healing these wounds.

[@kristinludlowUX]

Great video. I love Rogan's podcasts and have really come to admire his style of talking to just about anyone.

[@Max-he3ji]

This video came out in 2019 but all the comments are from like 3 days ago

[@hectorcardenas2171]

Max Google Algorythms want people to see it, in these days.

[@dblackviper2k3]

KZbin algorithms

[@grub1c805]

KZbin do be like that

[@travismonahan7225]

And now I see this comment.. 3 days after you posted it :o

[@nickturner8057]

Travis Monahan same

[@majorkade]

A lot of this is just maturity.

[@Mark-yb1sp]

Major Allen Espy Bingo.

[@Peakfreud]

Yeah, but in our over analytical word you get Podcasts on Podcasters 😂

[@Peakfreud]

Someone needs to do a video on this dude breaking down another dude disguised a dude.

[@SilentKnight43]

Maturity, yes. But also takes a measure of self-discipline at the same time.

[@majorkade]

@@SilentKnight43 yes

[@ninemilesgtrplayer]

It helps when you know you can kick whoever's ass is arguing with you 😂

[@starseed45]

I found this very helpful. I don't raise my voice but I keep a commanding authoritative tone and keep control of the argument

[@marsexalted]

They're not arguments, by any stretch of the imagination. Joe is almost never emotionally invested in any of the things his guests talk about. He has them on for a reason, to let them share their opinion, views or expertise. This is his podcast, no one is coming on to demolish him or dominate him in an argument. They're simply fired up about a subject they are passionate about in that moment. Joe is also usually stoned or has a few drinks in him. He doesn't give an F, nor should he. He has this platform for a reason.

[@bernal.aguilar]

And besides, that's the point, it's a podcast, you can have a debate every once and then. Joe I bet he learned how to control the flow of his podcasts, he is a comedian, he knows how to prepare.

[@SAV1080p]

oh he definitely is emotionally invested in many things, for example, the transgender issues, when eddie goes off the rails, when the sjw topics pop up. and most recently his thoughts on Covid-19.

[@Gzurek71]

@@SAV1080p weed is the best example ,like with crowder

[@SAV1080p]

@@Gzurek71 oh yeah, I forgot about that one. Joe is cool, but he doesn't like to feel stupid or less than any guest he doesn't take seriously. He even does it to fellow comedians, like Theo Von.

[@wilfordgrimley4339]

Jesus Dude shut up

[@monolevitski8866]

"Getting ready to fight" *plays clips of people bussin a move*

[@mr_diatribe2324]

The advert of an online casino before Therealizedman stuff started wound me up! ;)

[@oolala53]

When you really believe that you can be safe internally because you feel either very right or you are not attached to your point of view can make all the difference. Most of us have felt wounded early on and adopt ways to cope. Some of us feel we have to fight, likely from many early situations of having been dismissed. I have to admit Joe looks often like he feels pretty safe, but it doesn't mean he isn't affected by biases.

[@aqjr.6205]

As a lifelong martial artist, I can tell you that his background in martial arts plays a major role. A truly refined martial artist understands that 'calm is the ultimate superpower'.

[@Misheezee]

Very interesting perspective, thanks.

[@NoWr2Run]

@@Misheezee IT'S TOTALLY TRUE, YOU LEARN " DISCIPLINE ". You also get very humbled at first starting out in the " ARTS ".

[@FrankHudsonbass]

Very interesting. Thanks for sharing, Al.

[@neilosbeverly7462]

Ouu. I like it.

[@perfecto25]

I love an entire video braking down Joe's "monk like" interview style, his complex breathing and talking techniques, in reality Joe takes 2 tokes before each interview. Thats the entire technique.

[@Msosbog]

Right on time with this! Excellent insight, thank you!🙏

[@kalebgetoffit3529]

Bro I fucking appreciate this video on so many levels. Not only are you vividly descriptive but you also explain the biological science behind the feelings I’m trying to keep in check. Much respect man and many thanks 🙏 I do like learning about myself and our past as a species and not only how to fix the problems I face but also why we face them in general.

[@chrisking1035]

1) Weed. 2) He prioritizes hearing the other person's perspective over winning an argument...which is in part because he runs the podcast and can broadcast his thoughts later.

[@notfrm2006]

3)DMT 4)Elk meat

[@arthas640]

Yeah, it's easy to come out ahead in an arguement when you get to make a final statement, get some level of control over the subject matter, and get power of editing the entire argument while your opponent doesn't

[@adumbberg]

@@arthas640 I'm not a JR expert but I don't think he (or his team) does much editing of his guests ever. I think he's a good listener and is usually genuinely curious about his guests opinions. That's why they're on his show- because he wants to talk to them.

[@ether6136]

People who think over simplifying things makes them sound more “honest” and genuinely intelligent are so annoying. I think his 5 point break down is simple enough without reducing everything to a gross observation like yours.

[@chrisking1035]

@@ether6136 People who inject their own assumptions of others' motivations into inflammatory youtube comments are definitely not annoying.

[@mikebuchanan6164]

Always remember. It's a practice. Every day. Good luck everyone!

[@krispysback]

It's always easier said than done

[@smaytaganya1446]

Thank you for this.

[@smaytaganya1446]

@@krispysback true but practice is the only way to get better at anything..

[@girohead]

Impressive, I've not followed him much, but I immediately caught this about him. In today's age, while everyone is triggered and immediately ready for the fight and all amped up, often with false facts or premises, I thought I should follow him to learn his cool responding. It's nice to see every step illuminated.

[@trumpelstiltzkin9068]

Much respect for Joe Rogan and Russel brand I was lucky enough to have learned many of these mantras at a young age and feel I have a higher understanding of my place my self but I aspire to be like Joe and Russel one day there is always room to improve

[@jesusbrown9276]

Imagine if he just round house kicked Tyson’s head off.

[@philipmills7784]

I would pay to see it. Can he do Bill Nye next. Psuedo Scientists.

[@katiejo1095]

Tyson would regrow two heads 🤣🤣🤣

[@loren7753]

Please be specific which Tyson not mike 😂😂👀

[@can-ws8hn]

Loren rogan can beat mike's ass tho

[@bamm86]

I kinda wish he had. I couldn’t even make it through the episode. He was cutting him off and insulting his intellect. It was really weird cuz they were always good prior to that.

[@ronaldwolsey3058]

Damn do I need this badly. So tired of people knowing the buttons to push with me.

[@LDarlong]

It’s been a while but how’s it going?

[@Mocoso7]

what b0ttons do u have

[@krystingrant6292]

Walk away I did it last night with my adopted mother. Say it one word and move. One word is no

[@larryhinze9314]

Wolsey? NAH NAH NAH NAH NAH...sorry, I was just trying to push your buttons.

[@Leitefsj]

10:02 - Kobe was a cold blooded killa! RIP

[@downtoearth5108]

COLLECTIVE WARRIOR. Joe you are a model of a person that can cope with life at the coal face. You've instilled the teachings to stay calm and collective, maintain your forbearance. They say follow the word and not the person. True that, but you can follow people who walk their talk. Excellent Joe.

[@DanielKlierP]

I doubt Neil is ever invited back on the show.

[@hamhamable]

Are you sure about that? He's already been there 3 times...

[@Ahmed.Adil.]

Amirul exactly

[@andygarcia9477]

Lance thats what "POC" means 😂

[@chowmane9584]

@Lance that doesn't matter at all lol

[@AnthonyL0401]

Cite your evidence

[@scc107]

He also always looks down or at Jamie when he’s annoyed with his guests.

[@decacards5250]

Joe Rogan is a martial artist, they are trained in aspects of meditation and inner peace. I once worked a very stressful job, while other people were always freaking out, one guy always kept his cool. He had been a martial artist for many years, and he taught me meditation and how to handle confrontations with others. This probably explains why Joe always kept his calm.

[@adnaanu]

'Raise your words not your voice, it is rain that causes flowers to grow not thunder"- Rumi

[@jasonpresley7293]

He's fighting. He's using the same techniques fighters use to keep themselves calm and thinking in a fight rather than devolving into frustration and fighting on instinct. You have to be able to adapt as you go just in case someone is using a technique that's been tailor made for you.

[@toofattoskate1]

This is such good advice. In my office each day alone i witness at least 5 arguments involving raised voices. Mostly to do with Ego and people identifying with their position too much.

[@GenZGuy1]

This is a phenomenal video your channel is going to grow big time.

[@embracethemystery]

Well done video, Therealizedman. Appreciate that you got to the point, stayed on topic, and used examples. I can tell you right now, if Neil DeGrasse-Tyson was interrupting me like he did Joe, consistently and loudly, I would call him out on it because that is so rude.

[@mitchpowell608]

Neil tyson is the most annoying guest Rogan has ever had....dude loves listening to himself more than anyone

[@DanielKlierP]

He's a great narrator for shows, but definitely has no communication skills. But I guess every genius has his flaws, right?

[@RafikiafReKo]

I really prefer Sean Carroll

[@dondasher58]

Pixeltainment yep. It doesn’t make him as good as he thinks he is but people who get so much praise get an enormous ego and they forget respect for others. I see it in many IT professionals.

[@sherlockhonks2514]

@@dondasher58 Most IT people are introverts that don't like attention.

[@victoriouse]

@@DanielKlierP Imagine implying Neil is a genius

[@ashleysmith91]

He is a life long Martial Artist. He is trained to stay calm during stressful situations.

[@costazurra]

No. He is not

[@antoinek.]

Right on the spot!

[@taharqa332]

@@costazurra Actually; He is. He even fought competitively

[@lawrencelazaro8400]

wow this is such an incredibly helpful video for this random KZbin addict that stumbled across it. This will probably have a significant effect on how i communicate with people. Thanks man

[@shreyaupadhayay938]

"Living and dying well" was so well executed and suited at the end of the video😯😯

[@pHilL1008]

bruh the amount of times neil cut joe off, it seemed like a prank

[@TheEternalOuroboros]

Don't raise your voice, improve your argument.

[@ghostup101]

Unless you’re a woman because Islam is right.

[@harrygooch8943]

ThePsychopath MGTOW Wat

[@vamheredur413]

@@ghostup101 bruuuh

[@eduponzoni]

This was great! Thanks a lot for sharing. I have just had an argument (a fight with a stranger who threatened my son and that for just a little didn’t become a battery) and all and absolutely all things described through the video could be seen in practice. Luckily for me (or both) that none of us took the first hit, because this is usually the one that goes to jail here in New Zealand. Though internally my fight or flight kept telling me to fight, I managed not to, but decreasing the hart beat is taking longer 😤😕

[@qracer1555]

The way you said “I appreciate you”. That’s why I hit subscribe.

[@CanadianMang]

Joe is almost an enlightened being without being aware of it.

[@kingwolverine32]

Erik Westerveld he is aware of it but he doesn’t like taking responsibility of it you’ll notice a lot of the time he makes the effort to say he has a brain of chimp and downplay his own knowleadge but that’s just him being humble

[@victormagnum8359]

Find the video where Alex Jones thinks Rogan is one of the smartest people he’s ever met but is a master at concealing it

[@YetiRC]

🤣🤣🤣

[@davidwilliamson5406]

He’s like 90% there. But like every 100 episodes he has one where he’s just an absolute ass. Like he just has to get all the pent up douchiness off his chest and he just vomits it onto the poor unsuspecting but usually deserving guest.

[@friend7535]

Erik Westerveld he’s very smart. he has hundreds of discussions with very educated people. he takes lsd which also helps him understand concepts. he knows a lot but his pride can overcome him at times. if you knew you were smart and could kick just about anybody’s ass you talk to, you’d become a bit prideful too lol

[@Peakfreud]

In Short "Im a dude playing a dude, disguised as another dude".

[@SkateSurfSnowTV]

I KNOW WHO I AM! 😂😂

[@Peakfreud]

@Suq Madiq Nope Never 😆😆😆

[@charlesbentley6033]

Tropic Thunder should be protected at all costs

[@franciscoaldeao]

Great video, loved the harmony between the music, voice and footage, subbed ;)

[@slorter10]

Joe displays a good demeanor in conversation!

[@Sinful_Solution]

How to keep cool by Joe Rogan Joe rolling a blunt: Here we go again folks

[@GrantFerdinandsen]

Thank you for this. I got into a argument last night with someone I really care about and I don’t want to lose then due to my own actions taken during a conversation. We are talking today taking notes on this and re reading them over and over again helps me prepare for our conversation.

[@FireFox-nu5fd]

How did the conversation go?

[@lurenacornella6588]

Wow this is so true about most arguments I've had with close minded people.

[@crisj7704]

Every person on social media needs this video, lmao. This what causes our polarity now, cause we don't know how to argue with class and calm.

[@scottleft3672]

I'm fascinated with the "slowed down to a crawl" effect, that occurs in an accident, when i was 12 we were clipped by a car as we drove through a intersection, as we spun around 360 degrees, i remember how the world slowed down at that moment, it doesnt occur in a fun park ride or any slide-outs in cars that are predicted...the suddenness is the key, and is just amazing.

[@armind7]

Joe is disciplined,he’s a martial artist so he has to be.He’s confident because he knows that if a guest was to get in his face & get aggressive,he could fuck them up without having to think about it.

[@vaibhavgaur5268]

These are the exact overly generalistic assumptions (and yes, I know how much sense it makes to jump to it) that one must stay away from. Critically analyse or shut up.

[@MichaelHoward-td9qm]

exactly....

[@armind7]

@@MichaelHoward-td9qm Yes

[@FergusScotchman]

Crudely put, but yes... knowing kickboxing and BJJ really gives confidence that reduces the fight/flight response. And also the ego response.

[@fatalcrack3600]

I truly enjoyed this video ty and great work.On another note I have never found Joe Rogan stand-up comedy to be any good that being said I think he’s hilarious on his talk show

[@benjmiester]

It's funny how if you suffer from generalized Anxiety, you know most of these concepts and techniques already. They're definitely legit. I can certainly see how they apply here too. That fight or flight mechanism is a real double edged sword. Sucks when it wants to kick in just whenever the hell it feels like it though 😔

[@girlscoutdisguisedskinwalk9551]

This was my first video by you and I have to say you do an amazing job of breakdowns and I loved the how you used the 90210 instrumental in the background

[@ZoroasterMusik]

To the people thinking that Joe is only able to do this because he gets high, that may help to some degree but if you're a confrontational person then the weed will only allow you to maintain the illusion of calmness for so long. I've seen others still get into heated arguments while they're high.

[@u_luv_mulattos1879]

Weed is a great drug if you know how to control it.

[@heroineson9119]

u_luv_mulattos 18 i recently had to take a break from weed because I would still get anger issues no matter how much I smoke

[@katersization]

This is great. I'm not part of the "cult-like-Rogan-following" but I love the way Rogan directs conversations. This helps me understand why.

[@Len_J_]

Good video backed up with evidence. I learned something. Thank you. Although I suspect in this case he has no need to take people on verbally, because he has an inner confidence of knowing he can kick their asses (to be blunt). I suspect that helps massively.

[@levibarton9707]

He looks like a monk because he’s bald, not his breathing lol

[@jeffbalcombe]

And cause hes stoned all the time lol

[@Sugefut]

Ikr... this guy even goes further to extrapolate that breathing from your mouth is also more efficient than inhaling through your nasal cavity. What a moron.

[@saumyasaurav159]

Ganja.

[@queenofthebutterflies5212]

HAHAHAHAHAH YES!!!!!!! TOTALLY :'D

[@SovereignStatesman]

IKR? How many monks smoke weed.

[@isaacosterreicher4028]

A big grin usually keeps you calm in an argument whilst making the opponent less calm and appear the aggressor. Play the fool, defeat the fool

[@MarlboroughBlenheim1]

I remember Obama did this to McCain in the debates back in 2008 when McCain tried to link him with terrorists. Very disarming.

[@anaa1]

Great material, learnt a lot! Thanks and all the best to you!