Dealing with Loneliness

[@HybridCalisthenics]

There are people you haven't met yet that will love you. Thanks for waiting everyone! I'm back and will be making content on the regular schedule.

[@kairudesu6423]

Welcome back!

[@CL0UD143]

_Noice_

[@hellion6737]

Thank you, I'll be more active on discord... See you there!

[@unpeudevin3837]

congratulations on getting married!

[@JuneHstanvanRiel]

So true.

[@javelin6831]

What a strange coincidence that I've been feeling nothing but loneliness lately and this video shows up. Hampton, you are a blessing in my KZbin feed.

[@sleepystaxks5942]

tbhh

[@waffle1291]

Saaame

[@92EEM]

Ditto

[@timchaser5957]

Same :c

[@sujaysaathvik5341]

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@callmemobile5956]

People always say how kind and positive Hampton is, but I don’t see many about how well spoken he is. I feel like his words make me feel like I’m not alone when I feel lonely. Thank you Hampton

[@bigsadge]

wut

[@_Wai_Wai_]

Hi bro. No homo

[@callmemobile5956]

@@_Wai_Wai_ why’d you say no homo after saying hi

[@_Wai_Wai_]

@@callmemobile5956 I know you are lonely, but please no homo

[@FitnessFAQs]

Welcome back Hampton. Enjoyed hearing your perspective on this topic, it's bound to help at least 1 person 😉.

[@HybridCalisthenics]

Hahaha thanks a bunch Daniel! I hope it does! ❤️

[@nadiryoung9925]

This video was already great but daniel being here makes it even greater!!!

[@harbinger710]

Wow, Daniel watches Hampton, that’s awesome!!

[@nadiryoung9925]

@Intertwined Rain If u don’t know daniel from fitnessfaq then idk what to tell u

[@snowfang5734]

I feel lonely long before covid, but it got worst during the pandemic and the worst part is that I prefer to be alone. With all of this, I created a social phobia. The more lonely I feel, more away I am from people.

[@thenayancat8802]

I can empathise, I've always been pretty solitary but this last year or so has been much more solitary than usual. And even now it's hard to break that because the habit of being alone is so engrained, and things are still not really "back to normal" where I am.

[@kunalanand4781]

I can understand it happened to most of us. What helped me was to look at the bright side of things. I became more health conscious, be grateful for little things, started looking for good hobbies. Cooking was the first one and today it is such a stress buster for me. There's nothing wrong in saying that you prefer to be alone sometimes because that's where you learn more about yourself and try to self reflect instead of having someone else's judgment or validation. If you don't love the person when you're alone then it might be more difficult when you're with someone.

[@collinharris4848]

For a lot of my life I've considered myself an introverted person who prefers to be alone. But because of that assumption I never tried breaking out of my shell, and when I did I felt so ALIVE talking with people. Not for everyone, but always make sure. Always try new things and do what you like more, do what you don't like less - but at least try it out.

[@bigvision2058]

Me too! I think of myself as the loneliest loner. And like you said, its a spiral. The more I stay alone, whether by choice or coincidence, the harder it is to be around other people. But as I write this, Hampton is saying it only takes one good friend. So, I’ll pray for that one person to come to me, and that I will not somehow drive them away when they finally come.

[@Ladyrosethewitch]

Loneliness is not about being alone, it's most likely about not being around the right people.

[@radon4163]

Totally agree

[@irenemax3574]

Not being around the right people is part of it, but it’s also feeling the loneliness that comes from being separated from yourself, where you feel like you could say, “I’m not myself today” but maybe you desist because the expected contemptuous response might be, “then who the f are you? Get away from me, ye freak!” So you feel even more lonely because you think there isn’t anyone who understands you, who knows what it’s like to feel like 100 percent yourself one day, and the next day like 30 percent of yourself.

[@ltb1345]

Yep. I'm around my parents everyday, and I love my parents, but I'm incredibly lonely all the same.

[@oxxy6678]

@@ltb1345 dont worry you'll grow up eventually. Passes fast

[@Marialla.]

Loneliness is like hunger. Even if you're eating, you might not have the right nutrients in your food to be healthy. It may not be fair to expect any one relationship to feel ALL the parts of your soul. But if you recognize the value in many different people/relationships, you will probably find ways to be fed enough for all your needs. You won't feel unloved or bereft.

[@JP-ve7or]

I recently went through my mom's old pictures and was struck by how long she kept a core group of friends who stayed in the neighborhood and they all got together on a regular basis even through middle age. I actually envy that. Also, I just realized I'm overdue to invite some friends over for a night of crafting. 🙂

[@JohanTwinsen]

True

[@FabreezeFresh1337]

Couldn't have picked better timing my friend, still reeling from a long term relationship that ended, this definitely helps me on those nights that are harder than most, thank you Hampton.

[@CSMrBalls]

Stay strong friend. Wishing you all the best

[@ivancladeramartin1428]

I'm in one of those nights right now, and truth is I feel better after watching the video. Really hope you are doing good man

[@lwallace3842]

My honey passed on 9-21-21. And I am lonely. So I look forward to hearing from you.

[@HybridCalisthenics]

I'm so sorry my friend. I hope and pray for you and your loved one to be well.

[@jonasn7739]

My condolences, wish all the best for you and your family.

[@hribhudebnath7946]

My Condolences😔

[@samrowe4682]

Loneliness is an excess of love inside you and no one to give it to. Some people feel more deeply than others and that intensity can be what is pushing them away

[@OnyieOnyeabor007]

That's so on point, it's scary. Thanks for putting words to that.

[@MissM_PsychCrime]

Congratulations on your wedding. I hope it was everything you both wished for and more. I seem to have been guided to your page at the exact right moment. I have felt truly lonely lately as I was diagnosed with a medical condition that causede to give up my career. Your words helped me so much and I truly thank you. I could honestly listen to you all day, and I like everyone else, look forward to many morning coffees together.

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

My dream is also to get married to the woman of my dreams at my future wedding. I would love to get married in Japan. I love the Japanese culture since I was a boy.

[@alis3726]

yo, hope you're doing good now!

[@depressedrat7804]

This has came at the best time really, I just have been giving my whole life, and everyone I’ve ever helped has just left me. And although this may seem like an exaggeration, it’s not. I’m just so lonely all the time, and have no idea how to stop it.

[@ajoyfullsound]

I can relate to you soo much! You're not alone!

[@ripvanwinkle1537]

Idk if this helps lately these years I've been alone too, what I've done to forget that feeling I've been teaching myself martial arts, learning a new language and started a tiny business. Idk it helps sometimes or write your thoughts on a journal I used to do that to drop some weight off my thoughts sound stupid but it helped. I hope this tip will help you

[@depressedrat7804]

@@ripvanwinkle1537 thank you, I’ve have been doing this, and it helps. But I think the constant giving of favors and helping with nothing in return has been kinda keeping me down :/

[@773superprguy]

Trust me is not. People does this to me all the time. Look for good people that give than take.

[@773superprguy]

@@ajoyfullsound your page looks cool

[@RiskyStrats]

I've always been alone and enjoyed it. But lately I've been feeling very isolated. It makes me worried because I've been neglecting building relationships for years and almost feel like that ship has sailed. Thanks for making this video. It has helped put things into perspective.

[@subhasrevankar2430]

I literally was crying about being lonely hours before u uploaded the video. Thank you Hampton.

[@cecillewolters1995]

Something really helpful for me was the book ‘How to win friends and influence people’ by Dale Carnegie. The title may sound extreme, but it really made me aware about how to talk to people. It also helped me to understand other people. A big step for self growth and being social for sure! Good luck all and feel free to message :)

[@Kris_Makes_Videos_at_3am]

Oh yes! A great read! "Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise!"

[@cecillewolters1995]

@@Kris_Makes_Videos_at_3am You got it girl ;)

[@lowercase_ash]

I was gonna put my phone away for the night but like, dang, I gotta watch this

[@Squeeble00]

It really do be like that

[@oh_no2]

All the interesting videos come up when your putting your phone away😭

[@frickmaddox827]

Hello Hampton! Congrats on getting married!

[@vivi-ms2gr]

“We are all working on ourselves. We’re all on some path of self-improvement, in some way. So it’s okay. You’re definitely not alone.” Your words always give me a different perspective on things, thank you so much for the time you put into helping other people such as myself :)

[@antokaknee]

This is the video that I needed since I feel so distance from my friend group and I had to cut off two of my closest friends since they got into a relationship and basically forgot about me. Thank you so much Hampton and I aspire to be you. And I hope everyone can overcome their problems alongside with me

[@sophtware_slump]

Dear Hampton, I've been watching your videos quite a while and I'd like to personally thank you for somehow knowing my problem and helping me with em. I've been terrified for several years with being a loner (with grad school and all that) and I really wanted to give everything up altogether. I guess it's fight or flight kicking in. Making effort back then, and even now to make acquaintances seems futile. But these videos about fitness (I'm still obese tho') and personal care, I can't thank you enough for...everything.

[@HybridCalisthenics]

Thank you for being your wonderful self. I'm cheering for you on your journey and in super happy for every step of progress you've made. Keep it up!!!

[@ryanoko7577]

I’ve been feeling lonely, for a very long time. It’s hard to find anyone who even wants to talk to me. I’m 16 and I’m on my third high school and I’m a Junior, it’s just hard. Ive been working out and just doing good in school and you know, I’m happy I think, I work out everyday and I play video games, I just it’s sad to wake up with no texts or end school with nothing or going to bed with nothing. I don’t have anyone lol. But I’m glad my mom and step dad are here for me and that’s all I need I think. I don’t know.

[@jostrr]

it’s like we’re the same person man…

[@lowercase_ash]

Parents are definitely helpful but I'm in the same kind of space in life and I think that you and I both kinda need more. Parents are like a foundation we can return to, but we need friends to build relationships with, you know?

[@panzerjagertigerpelefant]

You're ok my friend, you'll be ok. I'm 19, very much the same issue, had it back then, kinda have it now. I too am lucky to have good parents and a few good friends. You will find someone, I don't know when but you will. Till then, keep working out and playing good games and studying. Good luck and I wish you the best my friend.

[@ripvanwinkle1537]

You'll find a good friend it took me years to find a legit friend. But now he got a girlfriend u know what that means so yeah right now we're on the same boat. But the guy I'm talking about he is good guy I just wished he visit once in a while

[@ryanoko7577]

@@jostrr man, we got it, I’m just waiting for college… well after I graduate I’m going into the military to make me better as a person and to find more friends hopefully lol.

[@OZSA87]

Wow, my loneliness has been peaking day by day to insane levels these past few months, seen one friend a week ago and 3 weeks ago, that's about it and the more I'm at home the worse it gets...I gotta go out for a walk tomorrow. Thanks for the upload!

[@anthonypizza179]

One thing that made me feel real lonely is that even though I had a couple good friends, I felt like they had more friends and closer friends than me. That thought was always the worst.

[@samhita-]

wow the algorithm is getting more and more precise lately. this is exactly what I need rn, thanks a lot Hampton!! :)

[@krishmsharma4726]

Hope you are feeling good now :)

[@krns1695]

Being alone is like quitting a bad habbit. Its painful in the beginning but once you embrace it you cant go back

[@HybridCalisthenics]

I enjoy my alone time too! But in my opinion, you don't have to be lonely to be alone.

[@lhardingham9014]

when I was a child at school I used to stand with groups of people to not look out of place but was too afraid to converse so would seem awkward and the group would gravitate away from me.This would lead to me becoming depressed throughout my school years. I also have ODD so when I was younger I would release my anger in the toilets by punching the walls. I think I was looked on as the weird, introverted kid at school and have never been able to shake it even as an adult. I work as an artist/animator so have never found friends from work because I work from home. I have tried to connect with people over social media including other artists who do similar work but have mostly been aired or have had short conversations which have led to nothing. I feel very isolated and lonely but I will start implementing some of the things from this video. I started watching you when I started getting into shape in 2018 but my favourite videos are your coffee with Hampton videos.

[@Nemo37K]

This will likely sound weird, but I spend a lot of time alone, but I am significantly less lonely than I used to be. Partially because I found some friends, and people I enjoy spending time with. But by far the biggest thing that ameliorates loneliness is a concept few people understand: you are a form of company with yourself. When you are alone, for better or worse, you are spending time with yourself. That is a form of company. You are only physically alone; mentally you are plural. When I don't like spending time with myself, and I don't enjoy my own company, that is when I feel most lonely, and isolated. Often this springs up from negative self-talk, or malingering on my failures, deficiencies and what I lack. Once I learned how to enjoy my own company, and find peace with who I am and what I enjoy doing, not only did I come to enjoy solitude more, but I also found people who also enjoyed my company. Not many, and not often, but enough to feel a little less alone. Start by learning to enjoy your own company, then the rest will naturally follow.

[@zacurrya9485]

This literally came out at the perfect time. Was searching forthis exact video last night. Thanks.

[@terrimartinez6547]

I'm new to this community. I love your heart and lovely spirit. I look forward to watching more. Loneliness has been a big thing for me because of trauma and recently making a lot of tough decisions. Trauma tends to create isolation. I'm doing well and am grateful for the awareness of what's going on inside of me. And when I am able, I truly enjoy reaching out to serve someone else. So, here's to healing journeys! 🙏🤗

[@PKTTAIWAN]

The first time I saw your video I subscribed immediately. Your flow and vibe, everything about you is just so comfortable with me. This is the first time I left my comment on your channel. Thank you for making these videos and making me feel being understood. Thank you for telling me that it may be my fault or not that it's hard for me to have deep connection with people. But most important is that we don't have to be so hard on ourselves and it there's something we know we could do better, then we could always make self-improvement.

[@cuppakek]

I am so glad I came across your channel!

[@Justin271828]

Thank you for making a video on this Hampton. I think one problem currently is pretty much everyone is lonely and depressed, so it is hard to even be the one to reach out. Everyone always looks down, like they got somewhere better to be, like they have their own lives they’re rushing to get back to. Why would anyone even reach out when everyone just looks like they can’t be bothered?

[@syasyaishavingfun]

They get home to connect with internet friends. Because these are the only people you can say whatever tf you want and they won't judge you. Everybody harbour deep and dark secrets and desires and it's great you don't need to put on a mask like in the real world. Of course I'm talking only on anonymous forums like Reddit or 4ch. Everyone seems to lie on social media like instagram or Facebook because people can see your face and you are actually responsible for what you say.

[@redsquare4835]

Coming from a Christian perspective, I remember a time when I felt lonely. I was around a lot of great peers and friends, yet I was convinced that no one truly cared about me and I felt I had nothing unique or special with anyone - I was feeling pretty cynical about friendship in general :/ but I went home and went to a random vending machine, bought a chocolate bar and to my surprise 2 came out. I started crying! I thought ‘who’s going to eat this other one?’ I felt in that moment God coming to my side to remind me that He is always with me, my closest companion and that being close to Him was most important. And that from closeness with him I would be able to unconditionally love and give to other people and that deep friendships would return to me. To this day I really feel blessed in my friendships :)

[@GlynScotford]

This put the biggest smile on my face! The universe judged you and decided you were worth 2 chocolate bars. Love it!

[@redsquare4835]

@@GlynScotford ahaha it made me so happy! 😂

[@twistedpeanuts6958]

Amen, thank you very much for sharing :)

[@Choutam]

I watch your videos to practice my English. Love your calm voice and beautiful messages. I've learned a lot throughout Coffee with Hampton series. Thank you so much and have a nice day too 😇

[@rickyknives9550]

When I moved away for university in 2019, I moved to a city where I was completely alone. I knew no one, had a couple of friends in cities a few hours away, but in the actual city I moved to I was completely alone. So when I met my class for the first time, I saw a girl who had bright neon green hair, and it's a very trademark colour of a specific brand. And I recognised it because I had used that colour myself in the past! So I started talking to her, and we bonded about having funky colours in our hair (mine was electric blue at the time). It turns out she did have friends in the city, lived with them, even, but they were incredibly toxic to her. Yelling at her for little things, belittling her, all the textbook manipulation tactics. She was so beat down, depressed, and felt so hopeless about everything. I was a lonely kid living alone for the first time, but I had already gone through manipulation and toxic friendships before, and I recognised what was happening to her. We became each others lifelines - I helped her leave those old friends, helped her gain new friends, helped her gain stability with her own place (and even lent out my couch when she needed it), and she helped me feel less alone as a fresh-faced 21 year old living alone for the first time in a city bigger than anything I'd ever lived in, coming from a small countryside village. Then came lockdowns, and we stayed together - we were each others social circle, kept hanging out, going for walks in order to not make each other sick, just in case - and we're still best friends to this day. She graduated this year and is going for her masters, I'm still working on graduating due to my disability absolutely wrecking my grades at one point, but we stuck together. We chose each other because we could grow together, and today, three years later, we're both much more stable, grown people with ambitions and hope for the future. Dealing with loneliness is tough, but once you find the people who will love you just as much as you love them, you'll never be truly alone again.

[@JoshuaMcTackett]

Thanks for speaking on this Hampton, I'm personally married, have plenty of coworkers, a few friends, and see hundreds of people a day working in a vaccination clinic, yet I'm so lonely in the last year or two. I don't connect strongly with friends and that's definitely the problem. It's also true that I find myself being choosy about friends, and I think others being choosy has meant our connections have become tenuous and faded. At least knowing these things means taking some control!

[@thewizward9800]

How the hell can someone have such a soothing voice no matter the topic? I swear I’m both being put to sleep while being drawn into the conversation so deeply. Also who knew I needed this so much

[@user-hc8mp9vc8g]

I have to agree with Hampton. When I started my first professional job, i felt incredibly lonely. I couldnt even think of who to have lunch with. I worked with older people who were busy and didnt have a reason to hang out after work. Colleagues mybage seemed to already have their social groups and even when I was invited to parties, I didnt fit in. It was awkward and uncomfortable and took a lot of time and effort. But I made myself go talk to people, host lunches, go to parties and social events, volunteer for things. At some point, I did start establishing closer relationships with the people around me. I did this by being continuing to attend social events, by being more open in my conversations, by being more willing to initiate by offering to have coffee or lunch, and mainly by working on long-term volunteer activities. Remembering that experience of loneliness as a new hire, I make it a point to reach out to new people with a friendly face and connect them to resources and community where I can. It reminds me to keep myself open to new connections even if I have enough connections that I dont feel lonely.

[@salt1404]

A great point brought up is that those you think are happy, may not be as happy or "put together" as they seem. We are all struggling to find our way in this world. My advice to my younger self would be to not worry about what others think. Don't stop yourself from being immature and goofy just because you're afraid to look dumb. Those who become comfortable looking silly will find much more joy in their lives. And those who put you down for being yourself are usually insecure and upset, looking for any reason to put others down for a little ego boost. I found myself gaining more friends when I realized that I am not the center of everything. When you realize everyone is more concerned about how they look rather than your dance moves, you can dance like nobody is watching. And even if your dance moves are bad, your confidence will draw people in. Life is short, enjoy the hell outta it!!

[@panzerjagertigerpelefant]

This is weird, I have been having a hard time coping with this, and it came at a very opportune time. Thanks brother Hampton.

[@talteves]

Why do I find your voice calming and convincing... I will start listening to this guy, what he says make sense.

[@Idontknowsomethingcute]

Amazing perspective and eloquently spoken! Everyone here is benefiting from this modern world because it brought us the chance to hear all your insights through the internet when otherwise we never would have gotten the chance. Thanks for all your content.❤️😃

[@nekaudi4372]

Hampton, I found your channel a few months ago & I'm glad I did. You're very wise my friend. We need more ppl like you in this world.

[@bltsevdallarfanclub641]

Welcome back Asian Jesus

[@heinrichharkonen2084]

I actually feel very comfortable with receiving no messages for hours and hours. Now I have time to work out, study, read a lot of books and watch movies and series

[@welckin]

You can see Hampton puts a lot effort in his videos and words. Just look at the sky in the background.

[@bentam1516]

I've grown up in a way that I was barely connecting with other people and only place I was socializing was school,always had one or two good friends and never felt lonely,until lockdown arrived and with no trust to my family,I don't really have a strong connection with them,but I have a precious grandma who encourages me every time I run out of steam and has helped me a lot and because of her I don't feel lonely despite having no 9ne to talk to other than her,and I'm grateful for that

[@Alex68dash]

I needed this video, this hit my soft spot and I feel like I pushed one of my closest friends away and I've been feeling terrible ever since. They were one of my true closest best friend I've ever met and I miss them

[@cypress3137]

With the point you made about just enjoying having someone to message through your day is 100% I absolutely love to have that someone who I can just message anything to and it's so great! Glad your back man I love your videos, whether it's these ones or you calisthenics ones, much love man👌

[@alifalif6986]

Your video always come at the right time

[@AfroKarlman]

I really appreciate how you present hard questions with such love and touch. Thanks for your content. Resonates a lot

[@KK-cn6jv]

Hampton, I have so much love for you. Thank you so much for who you are and what you do.

[@cr1nklecutfr1es72]

Great upload time. Having no friends in a new high school is starting to take a toll on my mental health.

[@trajectory7235]

Thank you, Hampton. I come back to this video every now and then. I've struggle with social anxiety since I was 13; whilst I've improved a lot in that regard since then, I still struggle with connecting with others and keeping friends. I'm still happy for all the interactions I've had, I just still have a lot to figure out and improve on. I like your positive outlook, and you have a lot of wisdom that I find helpful. Thanks for being there for others, even strangers on the internet that you can't see haha.

[@Sumnerstrain]

What!!?? I didn't even know about you marrying,I guess I'm kinda late but Congratulations man!! All the best!!

[@mikeoxlong7607]

I really need this right now. It's really hard for me to socialize either physical or in the internet. I have acquaintances but they don't really care about me. I went to gym last Monday for the first time and it's also the first time for a long time that someone talked to me first. I hope things would be better now.

[@jacob1369]

I know this is 8 months late but WOO CONGRATS ON YOUR WEDDING DUDE THATS AWESOME

[@datmangotho9618]

saving this for when school starts!! hoping I won’t have to come back and watch this tho

[@Dylan-mo6bm]

In regards to you saying people are naturally more lonely because everything is spread apart (because of the internet, and transportation like cars) I really feel that this is so accurate in feeling lonely. I was just thinking recently that I've been getting all my fitness information from you and other parts of the internet, but what would I do if I wanted to learn this stuff before the internet? You (or some other fitness teacher) would be someone local that I would get to meet and learn from, in person. Instead, I'm learning from you but I'll never get to meet you or spend time with you, or express my gratitude (THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR EVERYTHING!) Another similar thing is ordering stuff online; recently I made the decision to actually go to a music store instead of ordering something from home, and even just being in the atmosphere of the store and talking to the people who work there was great.

[@rakshithkakunje621]

12:24 True . I had one close friend that I could talk to during my teens while my other friends had none and I did notice that having just one friend made such a huge difference. I would have been so much worse if I had no one to talk to then. I would say that none and one are only a letter apart but when it comes to friends it's a huge difference :)

[@erickmendes3329]

I am in a very dark place right now and your video really helped me. Thank you.

[@adult_nubian]

Wtf, why are you so wholesome bro?🥺 I only discovered your content last week and each video just makes me like you that much more. Keep winning bro, you're such an inspiration :)

[@kay8379]

try to love yourself and be a person who you are proud of, when i did this i stopped needing so much attencion from others

[@mariak2379]

After watching this video I've just realised that I should appreciate what I have now. I have a wonderful best friend who always supports me and helps me to hold on. I've recently met a good person online and we have nice conversations. And it feels alright but it seems that everyone has a lot not so close friends that company who they can hang out with. But not me. And when it pops up I start to think that something's wrong with me. Sometimes I don't even know if I want to have more friend or is it just a social pressure. I'm trying to let this situation go and just let things go how they go. Thank you so much for this video, Hampton!

[@sahebbansal780]

Thank you for this video Hampton, I'm right now in college, I have people around me but I still feel lonely, this video really helped. Again, thank you so much.

[@sid1234213]

I just need a deep warm hug from someone right now.. :/

[@ultragio3983]

Hampton, Thank you for doing this. I have been alone for a few years after my divorce. I do have my kids and family that I visit whenever needed, but what I've learned from living alone is that there is strength with being alone. At times, it feels empty but the rebound from those periods create a mentally stronger mindset when I am around people. Thank you for all your kindness and sharing of love. You are a kind fellow human.

[@sethstile1201]

Good morning What a way to start a day

[@MituDjakarian]

This is a super important video. It's not often you hear that people who are NOT acting well still deserve compassion (I would even say they might be some of the ones who need it the most) and a chance to improve themselves. It's true that you can't blame others for your own actions, but it will be easier to improve oneself if there are still people who believe you are not irredeemable. Also YES to the internet making the friendship pool bigger. I grew up on a small island and all my life I've had amazing internet friends. I never understood people who claim that online friends are not "real friends". What do you mean? From all the world, these were the people I really CHOSE to talk to. No geographic limitations! And to all of you out there feeling lonely, I really hope you can find real connection soon. Despite being overall a happy and bubbly person, I've also sometimes felt very lonely in life. But then I eventually find some nice people! Some stay, some go, and new ones come! A big hug to you and good luck ♥

[@rowe7267]

A couple months ago I was feeling really lonely, and I just noticed this now. I’m watching this now so that I can be better with this later if it comes back, so thank you!

[@yeetyeet3440]

having been struggling with some severe lonely problems lately this helps, no its not an instant fix but its nice to hear about ways to move forward

[@なにいってんの-s5e]

People say that I never talk... well try to engage in something I like, I will talk for hours if you don't stop me. I am trying my best to find someone to talk to about the things I like, sadly around me there is no one like that but I will continue trying.

[@javierruiz8576]

I've been almost completely alone for roughly 10 years i thought I hated it and felt displaced because it seemed like everyone in a relationship, and some show I was watching sorta made it seemed like you were incomplete without someone to love or share affections with I thought I was incomplete. Then got into a toxic relationship for about 3 years, it sucked, broke it off not too long ago, now I'm in a bunch of debt, my house has been left pretty barren (furniture\tv) I'm roughly at rock bottom and I've never been happier to be alone I'm building myself back up, getting myself out of this massive hole I've slowly dug myself into, I have a son I love dearly and I'm gonna do my damndest to make sure he has a good future and honestly that's all that really matters to me making him and myself comfortable and happy.

[@cecilyerker]

Family is everything, you have the gift of your son

[@rhubaruth]

It's maybe good thing this is not about self-love. And about that everyone feels lonely sometimes. Because I just realised I am not weird. You think about friendship and loneliness a lot like me. I want to text someone through out the day, about simple things, about my accomplishments, about theirs. I kinda want from them the same, which I know I can't force them to do. And it's okey. There probably somewhere is another person, that will think about friendship the same way. Having somebody to talk to when you need it is something beautiful. I wish everyone to find that somebody:) Thanks for reading my rant

[@Vandalier74]

I very much enjoy your positivity Hampton. My experience is exactly this one, I feel very lonely, I have no one to talk to or no one that understands me. And I usually don't mind, but like you said, humans need to connect. I just feel it's unfair, because I've always tried to live my life being the best I could be to others and myself. I'm still hoping I can find this 1 person that will change everything. Thanks for this video and your content in general.

[@kunalanand4781]

Thank You Hampton for bringing this topic. I don't have a lot of people in my life but I am glad that whoever are there I can reach out to them if I ever feel the need to talk to someone. With that being said I love my own company. I firmly believe that if you cannot love yourself when you're alone then it will be even more difficult when there will be someone around.

[@robgucci7663]

really enjoyed this video, even though i already managed to overcome my loneliness, don't have the largest friend group but they're very close to me and I can easily have a rewarding chat with a total stranger. i think it wasn't so much loneliness as it was shyness, i had (and still have to a degree) confidence/esteem issues, and always thought no one would care all that much about me, even if i did muster the courage to talk with them. but i was incredibly wrong, everyone tells me i'm one of the nicest and funniest people they've met, don't really believe it but i'll take it lol. unfortunately this kinda opened up another problem for me, on the opposite end of the spectrum. now that i'm more comfortable socially i end up creating connections with people i end up regretting afterwards, be it they display some toxic traits or just simply not worth the amount of time they demand from me. i know i should not give these people my time, but most of the friends i do make are people i see often such as in school or work, and are hard to avoid. i also sympathise and have felt the pain of being ignored when just wanting a friend, so it is extremely difficult for me to push them away. any advice for this would be appreciated

[@talknight2]

I feel this, all the people I've connected with most live in other countries. I feel very disconnected from the country and culture I actually grew up in... Most locals are impossible to befriend, except the few with a similar background.

[@KS-qz2nx]

This was incredibly validating. I cannot stress how much I needed to watch this today. Thank you, Hampton.

[@PurpleRainyClouds]

Congrats on the marriage! I've just been getting into the cali game, and your videos have been super helpful and encouraging!

[@johnnycalderon8656]

I recently got a new job in call center(first job) and in breaks and lunchtimes, all my teammates always picks their phones up and use them like they never used them before.. as I watch people and how they hang out in site wondering what if I socialize with them you know, I find it sad, people just in the phone when they can, while I reject the use of my mobile in work trying to socialize, but I guess this is it now.. still I am optimistic, I hope I find someone that likes to make friends and have a good time without a phone, and I will do my best in my job. :)

[@ripvanwinkle1537]

Yooo we share the same last name

[@Kaledrone]

Your last name sounds similar to my username.

[@acrez3260]

That’s modernity for ya

[@JemilioJ]

When it comes to expecting things in return, I feel like people act like that because they're dissatisfied with something about their relationship. I used to be like that for some time where I thought if I just acted friendly and made an effort to be interested in someone, they'd want to be with me too. But that often wasn't the case, and while a part of dealing with that is knowing to just accept it, it's also about knowing what you really want out of a friendship with someone and what kind of person would give that to you. Because it's not worth spending so much time and energy only to be rejected all the time and feel bad about one's self; it's easy to feel that a lot. I just wanted someone I could play games with every so often and talk about life over a call or something, which was fine, but I realized I also wasn't being as pro-social as I could be. I came off as quiet and passive to a lot of people, which is something I'm working on now. I missed out on developing my social skills effectively when I was younger, and it's a lot to make up for now that it's so much later, but this video helped put into perspective there's a lot of factors that make a relationship work that aren't in anyone's control, so it's important to just be the best person you can.

[@justahamsterthatcodes]

I'm in kind of the in-between place. As you said that it might be that people get s weird vibe off me and actively don't want to be with me. It's not that. I regularly go to a camp run by the church and work there. And the people there are my friend group. People do enjoy my company. But they don't enjoy it enough where they would want to meet me outside the camp. Im unable to get over the "I'd like to meet you elsewhere too" barrier. Allthough I do have fairly weak social skills so I might read the situation wrong. But I do believe I have enough social skills to read atleast this right. It's kind of weird being in this in-between place.

[@tolleri90]

My experience is that the feeling of loneliness eases up, when you shift the focus away from you and serve others. Find some way to do good and in time you'll feel less alone nad more connected. 😊

[@nonyabuznes8606]

Hampton, I just moved to new states to start college and have been feeling a little lonely lately. Thank you so much for this video!

[@parkingtikit]

This video came out at the exact right time

[@jobertvillegas8269]

how can even people dislike this? this is good. thank you for this

[@joeyyy369]

I know it helped me a lot cause this helped me to break my bubble, i really wanna say thank you...thank you so much 😀.

[@Listenclearly1979]

I am an Aussie, I live in Victoria Australia. We have been in lockdown for so long that even as a loner I am craving human contact. Online contact only goes so far before you need to actually see someone, touch someone (a hand shake, a hug). Thank you for your kindness🧡

[@MissLizaYangonMyanmar]

I used to feel lonely when I was young. It passed in time and my life moved on. Then recently I was feeling lonely. Suddenly I got into meditation and now here I am living and working in Myanmar. I had a spiritual awakening I guess. I realized the lonely was about separation from source. That's just me. Everyone will have their story

[@kandihinshaw1870]

Hampton congratulation on the wedding. That's awesome.

[@phatbui1246]

a lot of things i have felt from several video of you that i just watched within a week, english is my second language i am not good at express the thing i am feeling now, just thank you Hampton

[@yoboi5182]

I recently got broken up with and I’ve been feeling very lonely because she was the only person I thought understood me but she didn’t feel the same way I guess. Now that she broke up with me I got no one to talk to really. I needed this video. Thank you Hampton ❤️

[@ImMisterEric]

I could write a book on lonliness and being alone in life. The people I used to call friends, I never hear from. As in, someone connecting to just see how I am. I reach out, and if I hear back it's to be told they are too busy right now. I live in an apartment community where I do run into other people, but no one wants to know who you are. They are polite, but only for a minute (hi how are you, have a good one, etc.). I am new in the area and don't know anyone. Thankfully, I can watch Hampton videos and pretend I am connected if only for a few moments.

[@amphiibiia]

Many years ago, before I met my husband, I had to leave my hometown partly for work and partly because of an abusive (non romantic) relationship. For me it was bearable as long as I had my dog with me, but after a while I realized that he was miserable being home alone while I worked. So he moved to my aunt and I was completely alone. It was a hard time, but I started dating and it became a way just to meet people, even just for an evening, and to have someone to chat/text with for a while. I worked nightshifts and weekends so it was hard to meet people since I was up all night and slept most of the day, and worked when everyone else was out and about. After about a year I met my (now) husband and he had just as weird hours as me, so It all worked out. But I still remember (11years later) that almost paralyzing and depressing loneliness. Don’t think I really understood how extremely social creatures we are before that. Thank you for a great channel!

[@evilpac2327]

The issue is that at some point you just lose hope in people. It's then that you feel really lonely, because you feel it has no sense to keep looking for people, either they'll disappoint or leave you, or you will. You are a great person, thanks for your content, and congratulations on you marriage.

[@GreggC16]

Why did this come out at a perfect time 😭😭

[@darren_cx3]

I'm incredibly thankful that I don't need the video right now, I still really enjoyed it tho! I and so many others are always rooting for your self improvement journey!

[@justhereforthevideos2798]

Quality vs vs quantity. Ybh ad we age we see the value in that. 1 or 2 or 3 TRUE friends is all we need truly. Friends u can call/text about the mundane stuff and the big stuff where we can vent, and who......even if it's been months......just picks up where u left off. It's not how many people show up to your funeral, but couldn't tell the director a single meaningful fact about u. It's about having a single or couple persons who can recount the important things and some small details. Because u truly can feel alone in a room full of people. Unless that one special person is there ❤ We're all deal with loneliness at some point i think. But there is always hope of a better tomorrow. At the very least we all have THIS friend giving us great advice. Keep going.

[@bread2951]

I feel lonely because my father lowkey hates me and makes a disgusted face whenever he sees me. I am not a bad child, I just didnt want to study medicine and pursue which a career which he wanted. He always wanted me to be a doctor but I dont have the passion for it. I will be studying Engg because he will never allow me to study Psycology or Economics This career choice is killing me inside.

[@pamelahornick8108]

Study what you want even if you have to work and pay for it yourself. Your father doesn't have to live your life, you do. If you don't do what you have an interest in then you'll be miserable.

[@pamelahornick8108]

Also, you are not a bad child for wanting to pursue your own career goals instead of your father's.

[@bread2951]

@@pamelahornick8108 I cant work because I dont have any employable skills. Also, I am from Asian country and society will f you up if you dare to live against your parents wishes. I will be doing Engg and try to get passionate about it (I tried to build interest for medicine but I just couldnt) Unless I get a job in Europe or America, I dont think I will be able to marry as well as my country doesnt recongnise same-sex narriage. Another reason why I am not getting into a relationship now. My parents dont know about my sexual oreientation, coming out to them is a nightmare. Regarding not being a bad child, I have never smoked, got drunk or did drugs, never had sleepovers, attended late night partys, stepped outside the house without their permission. I only talk back when they go to extreme lengths to humilate me. I was beaten up for slamming the door hard once. Even though I am an adult now my phones are checked. I am not complaining but treating me as some sort of evil child and blaming me for everything that goes wrong is making me lose my confidence. If only medicine was my passion, things would have been right but I cant do nothing but study a course he is willing to pay for, other than that and find a job outside Asia.

[@bread2951]

@@pamelahornick8108 Sorry for the rant. I was all bottled up and had no one to talk to about it.

[@pamelahornick8108]

@@bread2951 Yes, I'd find a job outside Asia and leave all that parental nightmare behind. No one has the right to abuse anyone(including their child) no matter what country you live in. There is always work you can do just to earn money and finish your education- wait tables, cashier, scrub toilets, etc. You just have to get away from your family first. No one(including your parents) has the right to force you to pursue the education for a career you don't want. I hope things get better for you and you can get to a country where you can be yourself, get the education you want, & love who you want. Maybe you can try to become a citizen in one of the countries where education is free.