How to Forgive Others | Coffee with Hampton

[@HybridCalisthenics]

UPDATE: Had to run, but thank you to everyone who dropped by! Hey all! Doing a live audio room in our Discord at 6:30 PM Central Time (30 minutes after posting this) to hang out with some of you wonderful people and do Q&A. www.hybridcalisthenics.com/discord Have a wonderful weekend!

[@Pettan_Supremacy]

Cool, have a wonderful day too

[@Pettan_Supremacy]

@whatshumor what do you mean lol

[@anthony42-]

@whatshumor wtf 🤨🤨🤨

[@readmyprofiledont5060]

Don't read my name:"-$+#++1+$7$

[@LookupintheAER]

Hi! Do you have any advice for menstrual cramps?

[@jamesellis983]

Man's is really helping us heal body and soul

[@HybridCalisthenics]

Just sharing from my mistakes and experiences. Hope it can help some people.

[@e_t_t9553]

@@HybridCalisthenics it does…tremendously.

[@ferg4759]

@@HybridCalisthenics I really needed this video today... someone close hurt me very badly this morning. Thank you

[@Sumit_y]

@@ferg4759 Yesterday I was hurted in the morning 😊. If this similarity can just give us smile what else do we need 🍀.

[@teslasummoned4434]

@@HybridCalisthenics definitely helped me.

[@javelin6831]

Hampton, you are a precious cinnamon roll who is too pure for this world. It's rare to find content makers like you. Thank you for being here.

[@HybridCalisthenics]

Thank you for being here as well! You all make everything possible.

[@GaryPwner]

"Holding onto anger and resentment is like grasping a hot coal just to throw at someone, you yourself will get hurt"

[@yael4627]

Ninjago

[@daleunderdue6935]

Wisdom.

[@M2Mil7er]

"resentment is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die" - St Augustine, Nelson Mandela, Carrie FIsher (depending on who you attribute the quote to).

[@toad6919]

Wow thanks for posting this it rlly helps

[@DanShinozaki]

Yeah, but I can hurt the other person, in theory.

[@FlygonSal330]

Saw that title, and i instantly clicked. Got a person i reeeeeaaaally wanna forgive just to move forward myself, but damn is this tough.

[@HybridCalisthenics]

It's really, really tough sometimes. I share a few stories from experience, and I hope my method can help you at all.

[@arezpirveceani]

I haven't seen the video and I will because I love Hampton. However, I highly recommend the link I'm about to send because of the perspective it gives about forgiveness. That forgiveness is important but it's really about being able to move on and not have resentment, even when it comes to not forgiving. kzbin.info/www/bejne/rn-6m3itqbOAqMU (20min 40 sec is the part about forgiveness, it doesn't go on for that long.)

[@marimota5083]

Is a Spanish movie in Netflix about the time this girl is giving in her thoughts to her ex and how little by little she thinks less and less about this guy and is sooo true. Eventually you'll see that you think less and less about that person and been able to forgive

[@ddd8-]

I struggled with this too. I wanna share my experience with you. My dad is who I couldn’t forgive. He did me and our family many things wrong, I ended up having complex PTSD and I was addicted to many drugs at a young age. He never knew, because he was never that concerned even tho we had contact. I blamed him for many things in my life and for the things he did. Yet, I noticed the hate in my heart only bothered me, he was living his life. So I googled a lot. And I found and read about compassion. To yourself and others. I tried to understand why he was such a d*ck, why he wasn’t a good father. And finally, I accepted that he was sick and couldn’t help it. My hate is over now, and 2 years ago he even got cancer and I was there for him. Even tho he was never here for me or my brother. I still did the best of what I could do as his child, and I feel good about it. It’s bit a long story, but if you made it this far. I hope you can forgive whoever hurt you. It’s the best for your own heart and health. Forgive but not forget. Don’t get fucked over for the second time. But never carry the hate with you and in your heart. I wish you all the best ❤️

[@k8eekatt]

​@@ddd8-thank you so much for sharing your experience. I continue to work at forgiving a parent. I realized or it was shown to me in prayer, to "drop the rope" and stop the tug of war. They will never be capable of taking responsibility for their actions but I can be accountable to myself for my actions. And I don't have to keep stepping into the line of fire.

[@zachtrek]

Well, I started out with pullup advice and ended up here! Great video. Forgiveness is a favorite topic/practice of mine. Here are a few of my thoughts: First, when I set out to forgive someone, I find it important to first acknowledge in minute detail every way I feel the person has wronged me. If I forgive the action but not the bad attitude, I may find later on that I haven't really forgiven. Second, I only feel justified in forgiving what has been done to me. If you punch me, I'll forgive you. If you punch someone else, I'll probably come swinging to their defense. Third, I completely agree with "forgive, but don't necessarily forget." Lastly, forgiveness isn't always a one-time process for me. If I try to forgive, but later on find out that I'm still holding onto that grudge, I repeat the process. When I forgive successfully, even for small things, it often feels as though a physical weight is lifted from me. Not that that makes pullups any easier...

[@HybridCalisthenics]

Love this! Really good points. I also like how you brought it back to pullups at the end, haha.

[@llewisdolphins]

So true. You can feel when that forgiveness is the real deal. It really does lift a huge weight. And that person that you forgave is no longer wasting precious space in your mind and no longer hijacking your emotions. Feels so good to be able to give that to yourself. Some are harder to forgive like you mentioned. As long as we keep going through the process, you are freeing your mind, one by one. Kudos my friend.

[@huawang5472]

Well said! Simply love the last pull-ups part!

[@LudovicaParziale]

But how do you do it? How do you actually forgive? I don't know how to do it. If I say to myself I forgive it's not actually genuine. So how do you genuinely forgive? I rationally want to do it because I was the weight off my shoulders but “emotionally” nothing happens

[@ApexHerbivore]

Thanks for this, Hampton. You're so right. I held a grudge for 20 years against a family member who wronged me. It bothered me deep down even though I pretended it didn't. I was holding out for an apology that never came. Eventually I decided I had to forgive him and let go. So I did. I didn't tell him. The act of forgiveness was for me to let go, not for him to be absolved of guilt. But anyway, after I forgave him he noticed a change in me but couldn't put his finger on it. Something inside him clicked and the guilt became too much. After 20 years of nothing happening, that internalised forgiveness that I gave started something in him and he ended up writing me a 10 page letter apologising and asking for forgiveness. I told him I'd already forgiven him. Our awkward family meetings were over and it brought our family back together. One of the best things I've done. All the best to you and thanks for your continued quality content. Much love.

[@vanbees4261]

That is amazing!! It is inspiring to hear how you made that decision for yourself. I am happy for you!

[@buddycollier5056]

I absolutely understand not wanting to make a situation worse. I understand letting it go emotionally so that it doesn’t damage you as you live your life. However, people who abuse their positions need to be stopped. If they did it to you they will do it to someone else. Sometimes you have to wait until you are out of their line of fire before you act but if you have documented everything you should use it to protect those that may have to endure what you did.

[@cde184]

oh my... this man gives proper workout and relationship advice... all we need now is business advice. A good full circle. Keep up the awesome work. Best regards from Portugal

[@Cheza001]

True but it feel like with good workout and personal advices business is also kinda good to go

[@HybridCalisthenics]

I actually have a business and personal finance podcast coming out soon with Humphrey Yang.

[@GabesHacks]

24:50 - "Someone who hurt you is often hurting themselves. Someone who has gone through abuse is much more likely to abuse you." Very timely. I'm going through this right now. It's hard to let go, respect that person's free will, and let them make the decisions they're making even though it's hurting you and everyone around them, while at the same time feeling like you need to protect yourself from someone you love.

[@llewisdolphins]

That is a hard one. I have been in that situation before with my own son. The best I could do for him was show him and tell him that I love him and will be there through the thick and the thin of it. I had to make choices I hated making. Fast forward and he is doing so much better and we talk and goof all the time. He no longer hates me for what I had to do and understands it more. Sometimes that loved just needs to know that he/she won't be abandoned, needs to be told they are loved and people care, and maybe just a solid person that will always be there to support and help in anyway possible through what ever they are going through. Never sugar coat anything, call it like it is and even offer solutions to think about. Having those conversations can be more productive than we think. But I found that the more I supported my son and the more I reminded him how much I love him and that he will not have to go through this alone, seemed to help the most. Thinking of you and hoping you get a positive outcome hun.

[@GabesHacks]

@@llewisdolphins Thanks for the kind words. A year later and I'm still in the thick of it, but there has been _some_ stabilization.

[@timothye.2902]

The fact you grew up in the American Bible Belt and not only maintained your faith into adulthood, but developed such a humanistic, loving, Christ-like worldview is astounding, and it makes me so happy. I'm glad to have access to your wisdom and encouragement through KZbin, and I hope you continue to do well in life.

[@outorii4659]

We’ve all been Alex the baby dropper at one point in our lives, I generally choose to forgive because I’m sure I’ve done things I don’t even realize that someone had to forgive, and I should show the same generosity to them. It helps me to think in most cases people don’t do things out of malice alone

[@narakabladepointplayer1]

so sad to hear that your mother died :( hope you are doing well my friend, if you mentioned it before my bad. you are a great man i wanna strive to be more like you

[@dalemcgonigal8763]

Forgiveness is not about the other person. It's about you letting go of the pain. The need for acknowledgement, or restitution. You don't need prove that you have forgiven to anyone

[@thehypest6118]

We hear about and discuss the concept of forgiveness in the CPTSD communities a lot, it's a very difficult concept to wrap your head around when you've had unforgivable things done to you, I myself haven't been able to navigate past the anger yet but I hope to find peace one day, if anyone reading this can relate to a general aversion to even just the term forgiveness, try working with acceptance instead, that's what I've had to switch over to, Really appreciate your take on it Hampton, hope you're keeping well

[@Pinkfrosting962]

I’m so sorry for your loss Hampton. She surely was an amazing woman by the man you turned out to be. God bless you! Thank you for being here.

[@dawoudalam3347]

I refuse to believe this guy hasn't been enlightened in some way this dude an angel

[@kati-ana]

Bravo Hampton. Forgiveness is giving oneself life and freedom of the soul. It's not about giving the hateful person a pass, it's about giving yourself love and respect.

[@an0n7mo7s]

You can do that after you revenged.

[@doeboi82]

God bless you. Sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how proud your mother was of you and would be now. I really appreciate all you do. It’s nice to be able to slow down and actually put some things in perspective! Again thank you sir 🙏

[@daleunderdue6935]

He's cool. You too Mr. Dustin 😀.

[@theyohohoho6247]

Hampton love ♥️♥️♥️

[@doeboi82]

@@daleunderdue6935 the positivity of this channel is like no other. I don’t see trolls. I understand why though because I don’t work out or eat right at all and I still can’t get enough of this dude lol 😝

[@sachinsinghchauhan9861]

Dude is gem. Got 4.0 gpa and is so humble. Literally could have got any job but chose to follow his passion. What an inspiration

[@צריךלהיותשלבראשון]

“Every one says forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive”- CSLewis

[@HybridCalisthenics]

Having had many things to forgive over the past few years, I still think it's a lovely idea. The turning point was really that it helped me move on. I didn't have to let that person back into my life, or act like their actions don't have consequences. I just try to absolve the negative emotions that hold me back.

[@צריךלהיותשלבראשון]

@@HybridCalisthenics Couldn’t agree more brother. This is the secret to progressing triumphantly in life. Not easy but wilfully possible. Keep shining the light ✝️🙏🏽

[@EricDongh2p]

It's hard because we are imperfect. Showing forgiveness is an example of love. True love keeps no records of wrongs, like what Jesus did for us. He paid a heavy cost to die on the cross for our sins. If Jesus was able to forgive our sins, we should be able to forgive others.

[@cardricalvarez]

I'm sorry for your loss, sinceramente I lost my Mom last year and your video reminds me that the place my mom was at just worked out. Virtual hug from the heart and I sincerely hope you continue healing ...and thank you for reminding me to do that right thing

[@_alex_y.not_]

Wow this is so timely to me. I'm 52 days into recovery and forgiveness is a big stumbling block for me personally. Thank you for bringing your stance about it forward Hampton. feeling a little called out as a baby dropper tho

[@lilongge1304]

I was looking for the Alex comment. 😄. Best of luck in your recovery. Sending prayers and universal positive vibes your way!

[@chelseastephens8924]

Hi Hampton, you story about your mom resonated with me so much. I was the 24/7 caregiver for my gram through the end of her life, and we worked with so many wonderful loving people but also so many people who seemed to go out of their way to harm us, or were totally burned out. She ended up being ineligible for longterm care because of some careless financial advice given to her by a professional, bc the rules are different for longterm care than for Medicare. I sometimes wonder if she would have had a longer life if she could have been in a professional facility (though that isn’t always a good thing either) than with me caring for her, if that person had really put the effort in their work to help my gram and had followed through, but I also believe that my gram was happier that she got to live with me and we had a beautiful life together for at least a few extra months. I still feel angry sometimes at all the folks who shrugged us off, or thought awful things about us to try and make them feel better about not knowing how to help (they’re taking advantage, or they’re lying about what they need etc, as sometimes folks in social services who are burnt out think). Anyways this is a long ramble to leave but I don’t hear people talking about this experience very often, and I’m still working on forgiving others and myself for how things went down, so thank you. My husband is asking “is the fitness guy making you feel again?” As I write this 😂

[@mikethomas4570]

Just stumbled on your channel since starting calisthenics, and now realize you got other helpful things to share. Don’t stop

[@antokaknee]

I swear you always know what I need. I’m currently going through a mental shift of how two of my closest friends have hurt me but I want to get back together with but I can’t pull myself to forgive them when I know we both want to be friends again. Thank you Hampton for your words and affirmation.

[@PRATERVXEX]

I know we don’t know each other personally but you feel like a close friend. I’m sorry about your loss but admire your stoicism. Keep doing what you do, you’ve really helped me through a dark time recently.

[@Q_N-]

I believe forgiveness is a somewhat gray area for a lot of people. If someone wronged me, they’d have to earn my forgiveness. And not all forgiveness can be earned. Also, I’d like to add that even if I don’t forgive a person or I’ll hold deep resentment, but I’ll never be vindictive towards them.

[@redyar1750]

YES, islam taught me to forgive others, honestly it was difficult at first but i swear to God that the relief you feel after you forgive those wbo wronged you is AMAZING Alhamdulilah

[@alimaloney218]

Forgiveness is a gift, not for others, but for ourselves. In getting rid of the negative effects of anger, hate, hurt, etc. we let open a huge amount of space in our psyche/spirit to allow in better things. Of course, it’s important to not forget, lest we allow that harm to happen again. You are an amazing person, I appreciate your ‘old soul’ mentality.

[@Randolph_]

I'm dealing more in struggling how to forgive myself for letting me down in so many ways

[@llewisdolphins]

You need to look at the things you did to yourself as lessons. You have learn to not let yourself down and the only way to get there is by making those mistakes. It sounds that you know now how to stay true to yourself. That means you learned that lesson. Forgive yourself for not knowing the answer sweetheart. We can't learn to walk without falling down a lot, but then we do learn. Don't be so hard on yourself. You learned to walk. Mistakes will happen and we will all make mistakes when faced with choices. Sometimes those choices are the lesser of two evils. It sounds like you are stronger now and standing on your own two feet. Don't look at it as failure, but a success. The only thing you need to forgive yourself for is stumbling and falling whilst learning to walk. Stand tall and be happy that you successfully know how to walk head up, standing tall and one foot in front of the other into your future. We aren't all given the best choices in life to help us walk on our own. I know this from experience. You got this now and all those fall downs made you stronger.

[@MrsFord2009]

I was literally praying for this message 2 hours ago. Thank you and bless you for being amazing 👏

[@truewantsaband]

I’m so sorry about both those situations you were in. That’s so incredibly frustrating and disheartening. And i totally get focusing on you and your feelings rather then writing reviews. Im glad you took care of yourself ❤️

[@johnconnor2402]

Is anyone else working out or jogging while listening to Hampton? It's quite calming and motivational.

[@alucard73]

I have a loved one that was wronged several times in a hospital recently. Forgiveness is something I am really, really, really struggling with as of late. So thank you for bringing this up. Things are dealt with in my case, but forgiveness is just so hard when I want them to pay more for what they did.

[@vickywasisht]

Hamptons really out here being a parent figure, not that we deserved, but we needed. I love you Hampton, thank you so much for being so honest

[@hollowknight479]

I have been crying after I finished this video, I don't know why , I don't know what I was feeling but when you said " some people aren't happy with themselves , that's why they try to push that misary onto others" it stung me so hard . But it gave me a sense of relief too .

[@joeyblowguns4070]

Thank you for clarifying that forgiveness doesn't mean you have to put yourself in a situation that puts you at risk to be abused.

[@amirki11a]

Watching this guy makes me feel relaxed

[@lilacflower3072]

I've seen a lot of heart wrenching videos on KZbin but this video was beyond heart wrenching both of those situations were not small by any means especially your mom may you have a life full of blessings because you deserve every blessing God has to iffer

[@DvDCooldown]

I know that I will come back multiple times to the video just to remind myself to move on. Thank you so much the world needs more people like you.

[@javivizzy]

This Video Really Helped Me Forgive Those Who Wronged Me, Petty or Painful, & Really Let Go. Once You Look At Those People As Lessons Instead of Trauma, It’s a Breath of Fresh Air. You’re Really Doing God’s Work 🙏🏼💯 Thank You

[@chrisk3097]

I personally don't mind longer videos. I listened and watched this video while cooking, eating and doing the dishes.

[@justwill8239]

It is true that holding anger and resentment to others is bad. But this is for events that happened to you which you had no control over. In all other cases, Please practice Minimal necessary force self-defense so that people do not take advantage of you. Show others that you have a boundary they cannot cross, and fight against the evil when directed at you. When you have anger in you, vent it out if you need to, but not at those who you love. Do not be weak or be a coward! It is different from being vulnerable which is accepting your own flaw.

[@LadyAlligator]

I am so sorry to hear about your mom, Hampton. I know it was tough when my dad went in 2019. All my love to you and your family.

[@Jay_Hendrix]

To forgive is to heal in a way. It heals the malice from your heart and offers healing through redemption to the sinner.

[@saikawa2024]

You sharing this was very courageous and it helps a lot to hear that others suffer the same as us I love your channel, for the fitness and the life bits ❤️

[@samanthah2226]

You can't control when someone hands you pain, but it is up to you when you put it down. Don't wait for them to ask for forgiveness for you to set the pain down.

[@basel4610]

I thank god this is a thing that I already have, but sometimes I feel I'm being too nice for people who don't deserve it

[@lasithajayawardana9559]

Don't underestimate how much spite and revenge can fuel a person. Just remember to dig two graves. One for your enemy, and one for yourself.

[@Doomlord77]

Sometimes forgiving people for bad things they did will make them continue doing it to others

[@lilongge1304]

Forgiving, doesn't mean not holding them accountable for their actions. I think that is the point Hampton was trying to get across with the "baby dropping" analogy. It's the long-term hate, revenge and negative energy we hold on to, that is wasting our time and energy, and is potentially eroding our health. I think it is ok to have all these feelings short-term. Our negative emotions are signals to set boundaries, but they are not meant to be on full-time and long-term. To not forgive at some point, is emotionally draining for me. And when I eventually forgive, I can sleep at night and I feel more lifted/free in the day and I find this person(s) no longer has me chained. Also, if they see you angry all the time, they see it as your problem, but when you stop being angry (and that doesn't mean you have to be nice to them or even engage with them), sometimes they are left to see it is really their problem.

[@Doomlord77]

@@lilongge1304 great thanks 😊

[@hugobot20]

The videos that start off bright and the sun sets over the course of them are so great. Love all the content Hampton!

[@CreationsOfAMoonChild]

This is huge. Forgiveness is everything for healing. Forgiving others is crucial for your own benefit, and very helpful to others to be able to extend that forgiveness if and when they ask for it. I grew up learning that I was entitled to my grudges. If a person wronged me in anyway, I had every right to never speak to them again, and remove that “toxicity” from my life. If we have a little more empathy and understanding for what is causing those people to lash out and hurt us in the first place, I think we could really help each other out in so many more ways than just forgiveness. But it’s a great place to start! And sometimes it starts and ends there.

[@youtubeisdead1858]

You definitely are entitled to never speak to them again though and to remove that toxicity from your life. Forgiving others just means letting go of your negative emotions towards them. You can still learn from the experience though and no one is entitled to your time or attention.

[@durere]

Someone abused those geese, and now it's their turn. Condolences broHam, and thank you for being ''too good for this world'' as the saying goes.

[@thefaceofbobby509]

“A person of very modest intelligence” I’d take that complement

[@achalvenkateshk717]

Thanks a lot Brother Hampton That was a great eye opener. I thought I am a great 'forgiver'(?), but listening to your examples, I figured I haven't forgiven some people as well. The last thing that you said, what the nurse said to you, I will never forget that. I'll remember that for the rest of my life. I am really glad that i found you. I Thank God for helping me find you. May God bless you Brother. KZbin needs more content creators like you, who are more focused on the content itself, rather than the time taken to make the content. Thanks a lot Brother.

[@met4lz]

Hey Hampton! The more I watch your videos, the more I see how good you are as a person. I struggled with my mind when my mother passed away, I wish I had seen your videos at that time. Keep up the good work at making the world better!

[@YouReallyDontKnowMe1]

My mother passed in 2010, and she was a service and support admin for mentally disabled adults.... in your case, you had an overworked social worker, and probably used google to find locations. There are better than other social workers. This is why they were so far away locations. More money from those locations, to Google brought them to the front of the ads... I'm so sorry you dealt with this. I now am a father of a child with autism. And though drs hold a lot of power for his care, my wife and I, are his greatest advocates. You have to learn from these moments. I use my mother's process to learn. I have learned to speak up more. I'm sorry for your loss, your a great guy. I love hearing your wisdom, it's refreshing. God bless!!

[@icowle85]

I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that. It's sad that we have to advocate so hard for ourselves. You are an amazing guy. I love what you have to say. I really appreciate you talking about stuff like this. I have some stuff to deal with and this is exactly what I need to keep in mind. Hurt people hurt people.

[@WanderTheNomad]

I'm getting second-hand frustration hearing these stories.

[@shirin8609]

i hope you can come to terms with that. i've been wronged in many disgusting ways, but i'd only be harming myself by holding on to the frustration. i think this is true second-hand. peace and love 💚💛💙

[@WanderTheNomad]

@@shirin8609 Well, since it is Hampton's stories, the frustration only lasts as long as the video. I don't have to deal with the memories and feelings of those events myself, since they are not my own. And for that, I am grateful.

[@egsauce2911]

Definitely in the same boat. Especially with the second story. I understand his choice to let it go for his own mental health but that is also, like, a huge safety issue for the community. And that’s what frustrates the fuck out of me. That people like that continue to get away with being that way Because.

[@kartikaysingh5746]

It's cute how you put your two plants in the background where there is a huge forest already 😂❤️❤️❤️

[@shirin8609]

lol the bamboo is regularly featured and has a name... forgot it tho xD

[@Minney-Me]

With forgiveness, you are introducing a new life filled with ataraxy. Letting go and allowing things to move accordingly is indeed freeing. To anyone, please learn from your mistakes and share the wisdom. Great talk Hampton.

[@Rosegarden327]

💝

[@kiquian2voy245]

thanks, for reaching the younger generations. and making the fact that this is actually something we should prioritize not a taboo.

[@LS-sh2st]

Man I appreciate this so much. It moved me so much. My father suffered stroke for 20 years before he finally passed and I been through to similar situation as u did and it's hard to be forgiving

[@nobo1682]

Your right, forgiving makes you happier but forgetting is stupid, it's best to learn

[@wakajumba]

Forgive but NEVER forget

[@BesannaRael]

Hampton you are a joy and light in this world

[@HIR0mtz]

You are the most pure hearted person I've seen in a very long time man. I'm glad to see there are still people like you put there.

[@A-SahilJadhav]

once again hampton feeling deep and giving life lesson and i felt like i am there sitting in front of you and listening to these deep talks You truely reach out to those in need

[@marimota5083]

I absolutely agree with you, forgive for your own good but do not forget so that person doesn't hurt you again and again

[@PunaPf]

Hi Hampton, I've haven't commented on your videos yet so I'd like to first thank you. You have really helped me with my mindset around exercise, and even though New Zealand has been on a strict lockdown for 12 weeks, I can't wait for the country to open up so I can apply all your advice to have a healthier life! Your focus on mental health is also very close to me and I am currently on a path to make myself like myself and others more; I really appreciate that you bring some of that discussion to KZbin so that more people can better their lifes this way also. I had a small question, and after this video I really want to ask it: Would you currently call yourself a follower of Christ ? (or Christian, Protestant, Catholic or whatever term you are familiar with) It seemed to me that your philosophy of life was heavily influenced by the Bible and Jesus. The follow up question is: If so, why are you so careful not to identify yourself with any religion or denomination? I'm currently thinking about this topic as I am a Christian high school teacher who teaches in secular contexts, and I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Thanks for your time, I love your work. Ulysse

[@HybridCalisthenics]

Hey Ulysse! Great question. I consider myself a non-denominational Christian. I don't talk about it that often, but I also don't hide it. I've mentioned it before. I'm happier to talk about the philosophies that have helped me more so than identifying the religion to which they belong. Firstly, because many religions lay claim to them, and this creates unnecessary friction for those of other religions. Secondly, religions obviously have stigma behind them that I can't always clarify. I'd compare it to saying I was a certain political party. Mostly, out of all the things that this channel is, I wouldn't consider it a religious channel. It's not really what I'm here to do. I want to help spread some health and fitness knowledge, and this sometimes involves some philosophy.

[@MechakittenX]

💜Thanks for sharing, Hampton! I'm always interested in the perspectives of others. Forgiveness is something I struggle with because the Anger and Fury helped me survive through a childhood of constant abuse-- I used it as fuel to keep going, to keep safe, to protect myself. I'm in my 30s now and it's pushing a rock up the hill, watching it roll down, but still trying. Always trying.

[@Health-is-Money]

hampton i think god bring you tu us to become better persons not just in calisthenics but also, to know how to live in this difficult world we are living in today. you deserve to live a very happy life because you are trying to help people because you have a very big heart. I wish you a beautiful and long life.

[@ycey11]

I love this video! Finally someone who educates others about compassion, which from my pov makes us better human beings. I'm sorry for your loss!

[@silg7262]

The most important thing is that forgiveness is for you. If you don't find it helpful to you or you aren't ready, or even if you will never be ready, that's ok. Because all of this is about what's good for you. There are plenty of people I've forgiven. That's good. I will never forgive my abuser or my rapist. And that's ok too.

[@babisjo]

So sorry to hear about your Mom's passing. My Mom also paased a couple of weeks shy of a year ago. You're very blessed to have had so much time with her. My Mom caught covid and I didn't get to see her until her last half hour of life. There are a lot of things I've let slide. I'm always worried they'll become a physical thorn. I have not forgiven many people in my life for wronging me and I remember everyone who has. I'm not about to air it all, but I'm glad you can. You always seem at peace. Even just listening to you is peaceful. 😊😊😊

[@garrettmartin4750]

This is a SUPER important lesson to learn as a human. I have been teaching my niece and nephew about this concept. They are such good kids. They really seem to listen when I talk with them. They cannot wait to see me when I tell my brother I'm coming by. These kids mean the world to me. We have had good dialogue and discussions about Happiness, Sadness, Struggle, Success, Forgiveness, Kindness, Maturity, Experience, etc.... My brother and his wife are super great parents, and I'm so grateful I've been given the chance to be a part of all their lives. My brother calls me, "the cool uncle." Haha, his kids fill me with joy. Thanks for sharing this video, Hampton. I'm gonna share it with my niece and nephew. Thanks for everything you do. I promise you it doesn't go unappreciated. Cheers, brother!☕👍

[@1cindy8552]

Forgiveness gives us access to peace, and peace like no other. The greatest example is Jesus, who forgave those who mistreated him and crucified him. We can forgive others too, it’s hard, but it’s possible if we follow his example. Thank you for addressing this topic on your channel, it’s truly important to forgive but also to know the ‘why’ behind it. Jesus talking to the apostles: “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” ‭‭John‬ ‭14:27‬ ‭NIV‬‬

[@OpalBLeigh]

Hey Hampton, I appreciate if you aren’t able to keep up with all the comments on your videos:) but I’m hopeful that you may see this! I just wanted to say thank you for talking about “hard” cases of forgiveness. I know I can feel like I’m a bad person when I struggle with forgiveness, and I appreciate you being vulnerable and speaking about those feelings! I think forgiveness can be more complicated when there is a power imbalance and a vulnerability. My own “hard” forgiveness story is about a former manager that I worked under in a not-for-profit who was preying on the homeless women who were in our care. It took a year of many complaints from staff (myself included) for the person to finally be let go. Watching them prey on people in their most vulnerable state, to have no means to defend themselves broke me and I lost my faith. If I was driving down the street and saw this person today, I would still swerve to hit them. It would make the world a kinder place for them not to be a part of it anymore. But I promise to try to find some forgiveness.

[@smallfootprint2961]

People forgive way too easily. It's not good to carry resentments, but don't let people off the hook. Your feelings can tell you about other people. Trust your feelings.

[@grixxy_666]

I feel like true forgiveness is a cooperative effort. You have to be able to find it within yourself to forgive them, but they should also put the effort into showing you your forgiveness is justified. Being able to move on is one thing. But the "clean slate" has to be earned.

[@anewagora]

I had a hard time understanding forgiveness for a long time because I didn't hold grudges. I had different kinds of suffering and struggles depending on the person. And the only situation that would come up even in the same realm would be with people where their horrific actions destroyed their own life and our relationship in the process. I was too close to the chaos. Now I've started to understand that at a base level it has to do with letting go, and a grudge is holding on. Now I understand better, and that might explain why forgiveness is about freeing yourself. Clinging is the essence of suffering. Also the two examples you gave really involved a core person's job. A lot of people are intensely confronted with their suffering directly in their jobs. The job is not a cause but an environment for it. They are called to take responsibility, which is extremely painful when a person is suffering. That antagonizes and activates that part of them. What you describe is a refusal to take responsibility, which can't be forced on people. They have to learn lessons on the path like you did in what you learned from it, and in your breaking the cycle :)

[@thomdushane]

Good message. I'm still bitter at my ex-wife, your point about forgiving for yourself not the other person really hit home

[@CheryleJanasiak]

Someone told me that hanging onto anger about someone treating you badly (parents, siblings, other relationships) is like waiting for someone to repay a debt they will never have the money to repay. They took from you and only gave what they had in return. It wasn't enough and you were harmed. It's like borrowing money: they took a dollar, they owe you a dollar, but they will never have more than 50 cents to return. You can take the 50 cents and call it even, or stay angry that they don't have the other 50 cents. It was the first time I understood forgiveness.

[@an0n7mo7s]

Sometimes it's more than just a few cents. I would never forgive someone if they bullied me, I'd beat the fk out of them and then cut them off my life to heal.

[@papaya9357]

24:57 the moment the nature answers you: you did what you can. Good job and keep going, Hampton!

[@susowellington5447]

Thank you for sharing your stories and thoughts. The argument that forgiveness is for youself and not for the other person is so important. I sadly see that in my family where a person suffers so much because he can't forgive wrongdoings from more than 20 years ago. I'm also glad that you had a good time stuying abroad in my home country despite that unhelpful advisor.

[@evasccl7846]

Thank you Hampton for touching on this subject and sharing your experiences and how you overcame them. Very heart, mind and soul enriching. God bless you 🤗

[@kathleen5456]

Such a great video, thank you, wow, you are better than my therapist!! Thank you. So grateful for this. I’m a case manager. What happened to you and your mom is so sad. Thank you for sharing, my condolences. Sending love.

[@tomatyde3424]

This is literally just what I needed, you not only made my day but my whole year, thankyou

[@kurisu1204]

But what if I made mistakes that I can't forgive myself for? That's one major reason why I struggle to forgive others. Thank You for this video Hampton.

[@alexk798]

Forgiving oneself is sometimes challenging too.

[@ahditah8102]

OK he calms me down, I think it is his voice

[@SamanthaGobert]

It's okay if you cry, I cried

[@martinnagy9916]

Friendly reminder that it is always okay to cry

[@ofa2743]

Corinthians 16:14 - "We accept the love we think we deserve. Write troubles in sand and blessings in stone." Great video. Have beautiful day as well.

[@tosinsanusi8025]

“We accept the love we think we deserve” is literally from the book The Perks of Being a Wallflower 😂

[@alicecampos6104]

Watching you describe theses storys in so much calm shows me that Im not so forgivefull. If the same events happened to me I would be mad until this day.

[@akai5550]

Thank you, now I have a new perspective and hopefully I can turn myself around to become better and not fall into the worst case scenario.

[@zombieboyxx]

“Forgive them for they know not what they do.”

[@Andrew-A]

First of all, i am truly sorry about your mom. I hope she is in better place now and find peace. Secondly, your such a good person, your soul are very pure. Your body also is humble and not some fancy muscular guy trying to show off his body or his 6 packs, which this exactly the reason i like you and give me hope that i could be more healthy person by working out and having fun of my fitness journey without worrying to much about results. Health is way more above than growing some muscle in order to impress other people. I know that i took this away the topic of your video, but this is reason why i like you. I think if i found someone like you in my country (which is Egypt by the way🇪🇬) i definitely would choose him to be my friend.

[@Dexterity_Boost]

I had a very similar situation with my grandma who felt like a mom to me because my real mom left when i was 8 and im 17 now and my grandparents always took good care of me and i love them so much and seeing my grandma lose herself mentally and physically slowly each day because she needed a new liver and unfortunately hospitals were not cooperative at times and got her a appointment for a new liver but when we travel 3 hrs over there we were so mad to hear that the “new liver” was a bad liver and they didn’t check it before hand and 1 month later my grandma passed.

[@lightyagami1772]

Islam taught me about this since i was little That's my secret that make me always happy everyday

[@user-yt2mo8ze7y]

Alhamdulillah 💚