Dealing With Resentment & Anger - Sadhguru

[@annettehansen6047]

I've always had problems with resentments and forgiveness because of the things some people did to me especially the major things. I went to treatment for an addiction problem to get sober and in recovery where I had a therapist and a sponsor I did the steps with. My therapist told me that resentments only hurt you, not the other person. You do it for yourself. The steps are all about letting go of bad behaviors, making amends, becoming a better person, and helping others. I had to write down all my resentments, how they affected me, and my part in them. When you see your part you know what to change and make amends if needed. I also try to understand why people are the way they are and do what they do. Not justifying or condoning their behaviors but we act how we do for a reason. Then it helps have more compassion and pray for them. If they change be happy for them, if not, don't stoop to their level and get revenge, but be the bigger person and be kind. They will get their karma whether from an experience, another person, or God. I wouldn't wish that. It's good to heal and protect yourself.

[@jeyanthiramanathan8619]

Thank you sadhguru I made a change today. I stopped taking the poison and tried to make myself pleasant. And it helped me change my surroundings pleasant too. Thank you once for helping me to make better choices.

[@johnignacio856]

I needed to hear this so badly right now

[@redgemini9851]

The more outlets the better: talk, exercise, write & even sing. Time will forget the transgressions. focus on your goals! Thinking about it too much is the worst part!

[@baylee8659]

Thanks

[@Olduser34]

So the question remains, HOW do you release the anger? Telling us not to feel it is counterintuitive.

[@bimalkumar8152]

You can release anger in various ways such as exercising, shouting in closed space(but not at the person) etc. You do have 3 choices in such situations - 1) remove yourself from the situation 2) Change the situation 3) Accept it totally and release your expectations

[@100XPercentX]

@@bimalkumar8152 acceptance is the best lol it has helped me

[@ashwin_mahajan]

Shambhavi Mahamudra helps me alot. Looking it up would be worth it. ✌️

[@robertimmanuel577]

Kill someone

[@redgemini9851]

The more outlets the better: talk, exercise, write & even sing. Time will forget the transgressions. focus on your goals! Thinking about it too much is the worst part!

[@ujjwalkumar2410]

simply i love you sir for your every contribution that you have made millions of peoples lives better i am one of them i am very much thankful to you sir i love you ..... i hope one day i would get a chance to meet you once .....

[@R4lee444]

Hatred-anger-resentment act in ways very similar to alcohol. So far it has been impossible to quit both because I still enjoy their effects on me. So choose your excesses wisely.

[@joe_131]

I believe Sadhguru failed to address the different severalities of resentment. While he seems to have attained a master-level where he can treat an abuser, a coworker, and a spouse all with the same techniques, it leaves lower-level and younger people without a sense practicality. "How does 'not resenting an abuser' help when I resent my 10 year old for getting all of my spouse's attention?" Resentment begins with unmet expectations. When we move the responsibility of meeting those expectations (we loosen the expectations or take on the responsibility ourselves) from the person we resent, we can start healing. The level of speech with that person is also a sliding scale i.e. to a stranger: "can I really not rely on you to use a blinker?", to a coworker: "others are relying on you to get here on time. It's not just your schedule that's affected", to a closely related abuser: "I can't rely on you for love." The transition of expectations doesn't have to be private. You can tell a neutral 3rd party or the "resentee". Open the dialogue and make genuine efforts to keep it open. The time to "quit giving the person chances", i.e. forgiving a toxic person, will feel natural. Or you'll have "outgrown" the person and the separation will flow more smoothly. Most importantly tell yourself that this person is not responsible for those expectations anymore. Repeat it to yourself. Soon you'll be an expert at relationships. Platonic relationahips are kept cordial because you don't expect too much from them and romantic ones grow because you little by little give more responsibilities openly (through conversations). Sorry so long.

[@aishwaryaparthasarathy349]

So beautifully you described

[@woosongs359]

Yeah i felt that too😊😊

[@buddingnaturalist]

'It's up to you'. Didn't actually explain how. Great.

[@nivrh8155]

In my experience which I still practice, It all starts and ends with the mind, Try to stay present and notice how you feel and when does it strikes. If you are building anger, let it out. Punch the wall, break something, And once it's out, observe your thoughts while meditating , see what comes up in your mind and just try to recognize what angers you about it, in meditation it's easier to look inside us even if it hurts. Try to stay out of your mind by letting it flow and think what it wants, while you pay your attention on something else, your heartbeat, your breathing, and the mind will dissolve by itself. Read the book "be water my friend" by shannon lee. It speaks about how to empty yoir mind of sticky thoughts. FYI anger and stress can actually kill you, it could cause you heart conditions and cancer. So ask yourself if those who harm you truly worth your life? I hope it helped, stay strong.

[@beckysilky2868]

@@nivrh8155 Thank you so much. This is helpful.

[@ayeitme6773]

@Niv Rh I notice that for some reason I was thought not to release the anger and the time I did as a kid and teenager the consequences took me to a worse scenario... I felt I have so much to release. Today I felt that a part of me was missing and I start remembering all the situations where that made me felt this type of way, my eyes got wet and now that I saw and read some of the comments I never cry out my anger Thanks you

[@insightstar]

Makes total sense on all levels.

[@evenshine9515]

I love this so much!

[@jarvisbinks7576]

So either be above it already or perish. Great. I’m absolutely doomed.

[@Mohamed-bm6yk]

i wish i have something or know something to get rid of arrogance and resentment in humanity but i didn't know wether this rise from my compassion or my arrogance I'm not innocent

[@Joaquinho]

He's the best

[@sophiearif1802]

simply love ur motivational talks love n light and 💥❤

[@PPPPSSSSCCCC]

if it becomes too much pleasant, we call it MANIA

[@jvolc]

0:55

[@evenshine9515]

This is so true!

[@AndriCloud]

Fair enough Sadhguru. For years I've been stupid enough to take the poison with my unconscious choice. How can I remove the poison from my system? Because if I can't remove the poison then it will definitely hurt me, but it will also hurt my target as well as other unrelated person accidentally

[@ajayvj8661]

Namaskaram Sadhguru! But what if he/she is your family member always putting you down and using abusive language in front of others all the time . it's easier said than done. Need a solution to deal with such people.

[@dr.j3685]

It's time to grow some teeth It's time to take a bite Anger is natural emotion to save yourself from these kind of situation Sadguru talks only sounds good but not applicable

[@JoseFlores-ey9ls]

I just want to learn to forgive.. Easy but how do you forgive

[@robertimmanuel577]

I resent this world because everyone's better than me

[@miityela]

This life isnt fair

[@meganmarie2173]

yes but how do you not feel what you are feeling....if you are feeling angry saying dont feel that way doesnt give you anyway to change that, it just makes you feel more powerless and that is where anger comes from is from powerlessness......................

[@rainmanj9978]

I can't control my anger I feel it's not my choice

[@davecash7669]

I thought we were going to learn what to do about resentment, not just be judged and ridiculed for having it 🤷‍♂️

[@cesarsanchez7029]

He pretty much said that it takes skill and effort to have things around you come out to a specific outcome. Even then certain forces will never cooperate completely and we must accept that. But what we must do is be responsible for ourselves because we're 100 percent responsible for how we are within ourselves. To do that we must build ourself up in mind body emotions and energy. That way no matter what situation arises we can respond rather than react. I hope this answers

[@davecash7669]

@@cesarsanchez7029 thank you Cesar. Still don’t know what to do when the mind is full of resentment. I guess I’m just missing something

[@MyVlogTherapy]

@@davecash7669 he’s saying release it.. let it go.. resentment causes disease and just perpetuates the problem. I’m going through this now, every night I KZbin a meditation to release anger and bitterness, I think about the people who have abused me and I say, I let it go, I let it all go,, draining it from my body., it’s to free myself. I have to forgive them to be free. Even though it was horrible treatment, But I found myself getting ill because of resentment and I wasn’t living. So every night I release more and more until it’s gone. Come up with a freeing statement to say when you feel angry during the day. Say it over and over until the thought passes.

[@davecash7669]

@@MyVlogTherapy thank you. So for you letting go means asking for it to leave. That’s what I need. Ideas of tactics of how to release. Thank you!

[@MyVlogTherapy]

@@davecash7669 definitely👌🏽. I wish you the best. Also can search for letting go meditations or ho’opoopono meditations. It’s a forgiveness prayer.

[@lovetruth249]

First of all, what is the poison ? How can you get away from it ? What if someone closer to you is the poison ? Resentment can be that someone is oppressing you. It can also be your thoughts. It is about what you are facing and it is something occurent what can you do ? Whether you like it or not anger is part of your feelings, expect to experience it somehow

[@Outrageprovocateur]

Every time i go to myself sadhguru is just a con, he says something like this. Damn bro.

[@shashi_6]

For the first statement the question is... What about the person who infused the poison in you which lead to think of them to be hurt back and die...!?!... Is that how it works then?!

[@july713x3]

He gave u no tools to deal with it. just judgey imo. O.k. We know we are.messing up our lives having it which is why we ask u how not to have it.

[@niecynee206]

Agree!!!

[@MalavikaS100]

Tool is yoga

[@elricstars94]

What is the karma of imagining killing people?

[@robertimmanuel577]

In my humble opinion, I think that imagining it would increase the probability that you're going to kill someone and if you do kill someone that's where the karma comes. Or perhaps it's just a natural impulse and you don't really have to worry when you're indulging in it, but it's still impure, I think.

[@mariahelena-ck4sc]

Im having these feelings and I've never had it. I never thought that was possible to hate someone, that I think I could kill someone. That's so bad.

[@yochevedbrachasimon4979]

What do I do about racists that impede my human rights? Sadhguru how do I remember its illusion?

[@ATRTAP]

Pretty blunt

[@mikekinsella572]

This is not helpful advice. Skirting around the issue is a waste of breath in my opinion.

[@rashione982]

Maybe it's not helpful because the resentment is greater than the desire or the logic needed to come out of it. Happens with me :)

[@BigGamingBossMan]

The answer is not so cut and dry. If you’re looking for short cuts and quick fixes you’re going to be disappointed

[@marksage5722]

This was not helpful in the least.

[@robertimmanuel577]

What do you think? He's only trying to fulfill a religious role. Go to Jordan Peterson or David Goggins if you want some advice

[@marksage5722]

@@robertimmanuel577 What do I think?? I think you are just as helpful.

[@robertimmanuel577]

@@marksage5722 I don't give a shit. I'm not trying to help you. Look, There's probably a reason why we both ended up in this video. I'll say mine: I hate myself and this world because I can't escape my mediocrity, I'm a huge, I mean a REALLY huge fucking idiot, and I know everyone secretly knows it and hates me including my parents and relatives. You probably don't give a shit, or probably think I'm a little immature and just needs to grow up. But if you can't be anything, if you can't be like Freddie mercury or Einstein what could possibly the point anymore? I mean really! I'll just go out and drink beer and do drugs then shoot myself in the head