Dealing With Toxic Jealous Muslims || Chai With My Bhai

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Timecodes
0:00 - Introduction
1:34 - Traits Of A Toxic Person
9:15 - Toxicity In University
[13:38 - 15:08 Umrah Set-Up]
15:08 - Imaan In Qadr
22:01 - Ingratitude
27:39 - Setting Boundaries
32:47 - When To Cut Them Out
41:28 - Most Toxic Experience
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46:49 - Transparency And Clear Expectations

[@NaseehaSessions]

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[@Yusuf__7654]

I met Adam during umrah and he was a very kind brother wallahi

[@Asaa_ad]

Get Adam & Muhammad on more episodes! Amazing combination. Loved it! Allahumma barik.

[@halloikbeniemand94]

Adam AND Muhammad 😍😍 favourite people to listen to Allahuma bareek

[@elitezafficobra2288]

“The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves”. William Penn

[@ezzll1136]

Who is this William penn guy

[@LL-yb6xl]

Aslm wrwb, these videos are so authentic and honest, they are truly helping me with my issues such as these. One tends to think there’s something wrong with just us, as we don’t think this happens to others much. I can relate so much now, very helpful. BaarakAllahu feekum. Please do more of these dealing with real life issues, and providing tangible solutions for current day Muslims. JazaakAllah khair

[@AANaeem]

Totally agree with the idea that toxic people exist and we need to learn how to leave them off. Really happy the brothers spoke about this. Just as important, I would add is knowing the difference between ‘having toxic people around you’ and ‘being paranoid’ (the constant feeling that people are out there to get you) It’ll be interesting if you guys would discuss that on a future ep perhaps

[@andalusistyle]

Yaa Ustadh!!! I love the vibe and the brotherhood. الله يحفظكم جميعًا

[@saarah4282]

Very relatable episode, JazaakAllaahu khairan

[@HassanAli-so2jh]

Allahumma barik Adam seems like a lovely brother. Don’t ever change bro, your reward is with Allah.

[@sulthanilahi]

Wallahi very beneficial

[@Goks135]

It’s very sad to hear that you left the university of Madinah because of a few toxic brothers as many brothers dream to study there. The best thing would have been to study and graduate by avoiding the drama and using the toxicity and hatred as fuel to study harder. Also, you cannot fully blame other people for leaving Madinah. Seeking knowledge comes will come with great tests and trials especially when studying abroad and this is well known from the Salaf. And Allah Knows Best.

[@alhomsiyyah]

Seeking knowledge doesn't only have to be in Madinah - I haven't finished the podcast but I assume the brother is continuing his journey seeking knowledge, but avoiding the crowd that detracts from it for him

[@user-yf5je1dn1q]

I do agree that knowledge can come with tests but perhaps mentally it was too much for him at that time. I do agree that university of madinah is a dream for many - it would be good to keep your head focused on capturing the blessings. But remember he dealt with a lot in his previous lifestyle too so mentally, we don't know how challenging the situation could have been for him. The environment may have become overwhelming. It sounds like he continued seeking knowledge in Egypt anyway, which is important as you're meant to be seeking ilm for Allah

[@Zazezoo]

You are right, but a toxic environment is very draining and time consuming. He went there to seek knowledge and not waste time listening to negativity, it’s best he goes somewhere more peaceful and focus on his studies.

[@Goks135]

@@alhomsiyyah Of course, he can study Islam anywhere in in the world that isn’t the issue. The brother said he went to Egypt and I assume he is studying with the brothers in dubai. The issue is leaving because of people you deem toxic or have done bad to you, as there will always be toxic people or people you don’t get on with almost anywhere you go whether it is work, study, family etc. which is why you must work on your intention and find ways to limit toxic negative people from your goals and aspirations. Also it is mentioned in the Hadith of Ibn Umar: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “The believer who mixes with people and is patient with their harm has a greater reward than the believer who does not mix with people, nor is patient with their harm.” Ibn Mājah 4032 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani

[@Goks135]

@@alhomsiyyah Of course, he can study Islam anywhere in in the world that isn’t the issue. The brother said he went to Egypt and I assume he is studying with the brothers in dubai. The issue is leaving because of people you deem toxic or have done bad to you, as there will always be toxic people or people you don’t get on with almost anywhere you go whether it is work, study, family etc. which is why you must work on your intention and find ways to limit toxic negative people from your goals and aspirations. Also it is mentioned in the Hadith of Ibn Umar: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “The believer who mixes with people and is patient with their harm has a greater reward than the believer who does not mix with people, nor is patient with their harm.” Ibn Mājah 4032 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani

[@user-mc8gf1ic1u]

Yes like this insight video….is needed JazaaakaAllaah Khair 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

[@johnelway9879]

Allahuma baarik great épisode a lot of good benefits

[@quranaffirmations]

May Allah keep you all steadfast. What you are doing for the deen is excellent and Allah knows your intentions. Don't listen to the naysayers. It's a characteristic of the munafiqeen to stay behind and criticise those that are actually doing something. Keep up the good work

[@appie210]

Maybe i see you guys on umrah im going in may in shaa Allah

[@mhersi2dude]

I don’t care what anyone says but I am still seeing beneficial videos from years ago with Brother Adam in them. His reward is with Allah inshAllah

[@meherun6005]

Allahumma Barik

[@mohammednuhumanm5887]

Ma sha Allah 👍 Baarak Allah ☝️

[@buyop9441]

As a woman, SO GLAD to hear get brothers talking about such matters that also happen amongst sisters night and day. But what’s really interesting, is how even as men, they let things slide when we always think of men as more pragmatic and clear in their intentions. But I have noticed that in some cultural background, like Dawah Man’s, there is almost a cowardice when it comes to dealing with issues head on from the start (I’m not calling him a coward in any way, shape or form) yet behind the backs of the disliked person/people, these communities usually gossip and backbite to the hilltop! Good to see these having a degree of self-awareness.

[@SihamAdan-pc8mr]

Aslamalkum.. just wanna say dealt with few toxic jelous girls espically in my Quran class it was bad experience… but allhamduallah am not in that place anymore

[@Skh86933]

Would be Good to do an episode on how do you deal with toxic family members who create alot of fitna. Easy to cut off friends but you cant with blood ties...

[@josefabrahamsson4661]

Akhi a lot of us have gone through similar situations, to be honest most of us forget that we a Allah that is available 24/7 and is the only one that can ease your situation❤

[@therussianemirati]

Being social is a skill. Do it long enough with a pure intention of "لا إله إلا الله" and you will realize no one is your friend except Allah ﷻ; Humans are inherently poor in all things: Wealth, Strength, Intellect, etc. While Allah ﷻ is the source of all such things and more, Exalted is He ﷻ. Never believe anyone is a true friend, for Allah ﷻ refutes that belief in-of-itself in numerous Ayat in the Great Quran. Your bestfriend will yearn to rid himself of punishment by throwing you into the hell-Fire on the Day of Judgment in place of himself, unlike the Most Loving, Allah ﷻ; Realize Allah's greatness ﷻ and you will see the insignificance of yourself, your parents, your wives, your children, your friends, your partners, and your enemies.

[@muslimislander]

This was therapeutic

[@abdellahmoukrim5677]

Abu bakr has a good point, only associate with brothers who will help you improve your deen. Allahu A3lam

[@ashifhassan1148]

Is the biography of Prophet (PBUH) by sheikh Muhammad al-Khudari Bak al-Bajuri good? The name of the book is Noorul Yaqeen Fi Siratul Sayyidil Mursaleen. I came across a translation of this book in my native language (Malayalam). Since I have no seerah books, I am of the intention to buy this book. Please reply. Thank you for your time.

[@user-wc9hm7jl5w]

Nah may Allah SWT grant him Ikhlas hes such a lite lite guy man he needs to do a UK tour

[@fathiaa6392]

People need to get off social media and actually focus on their lives. If people did this, wallahi, they would not even have time to focus on others.

[@therussianemirati]

Fully agree.

[@VeX00786]

Oh Allah allow us to overlook our brothers shortcomings

[@A_mere_slave_of_Allah]

Love the variety of the topics!!

[@Min-zk2rd]

Sad to know he left because of a few toxic individuals. May Allah make the rest of his journey easy . Bullies exist everywhere. The university should have policies and support in place tor students who have to deal with this .

[@lilekoe1]

This is so needed! Them religious dons think they’re so special. Everyone’s the same in all walks of life. You get wastman in so called practising groups. Just be good.

[@aoum_omara]

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته لو سمحتم نريد ترجمة للمقاطع للعربية

[@hannahahmed7602]

I recommend reading more on Emotional maturity books. A lot of these issues are very common challenges but very fixable

[@kaykay9280]

Which books do you recommend?

[@Brother_mar]

“Alhamdulillah You can learn the real sunnah now” can be interpreted in many ways. Many good ways. I was not present in the situation but in general I believe it can be interpreted in a good manner, For example “Alhamdulillah you can now learn the real sunnah (according to scholars in order to further benefit the people through your social media)”. We need to give people the benefit of the doubt, we are men ikhwan. Don’t let little things completely change your reality or your perception of individuals. We all are prone to mistakes and jealousy at times. I’d like to end with some verses, “To forgo is nearer to piety. And forget not kindness among yourselves.” “Kind words and forgiveness are better than charity followed by injury. And Allah is Self-Sufficient, Most Forbearing.” “None the less, forgive and forbear, until God shall make manifest His will: behold, God has the power to will anything”

[@bmedic7162]

I thought the same. We can't hold people to our interpretation of what they say. There needs to be overwhelming amount of good assumption in our dealings. Especially with people you don't know who have no reason to assume bad of, different places different character different ways of expression. Peoples' differences are vast we can't hold them to our world view.

[@bmedic7162]

@@PrisonerOfWar99 ridiculous of you to throw out the word toxic when he's advocating for good assumptions and tolerance. He never justified oppression of any kind.

[@therussianemirati]

​​@@PrisonerOfWar99 You understand that his statement is ambiguous, he said it in a serious tone, no clear evidence of bad behavior. We don't judge based on intention, we judge based on what is said and done as Umar ibn al-Khattab, Allah be pleased with him said. Don't conflate negative experiences with reality as that is injustice, Allah bless you with good.

[@Anonymous-yh4ho]

​@PrisonerOfWar99 Stop being emotional. It's not "toxic" to encourage fellow Muslims to have good assumptions. In fact, it is quite literally part of our religion to do so.

[@ahmed3ab]

Can you guys talk about the following topics from an Islamic perspective: - The importance of seeking knowledge and the actual roadmap for acquiring it - Physical fitness - Making money - Mental health

[@eveibrahim7705]

Assalam aleykum

[@Tiger-2297]

“The worst kind of thief is the one that waste your time”.

[@NOIDTV915]

A gem 💎 “the worst type of thief is a guy who wastes my time”.

[@user-yf5je1dn1q]

or even a time-wasting activity

[@YourUkhtiR]

Asalaamwalaikum Just started to listen to this podcast series today and Allahumma barik great work! Super random point. Can the host brother pronounce the word ‘Bhai’ correctly pls ? The ‘h’ needs to be pronounced. The way he says it is ‘Bai’ which in Hindi also means ‘maid’ Not a huge deal but I have been listening to your podcast and it bothers me each time. Jazakallahukhairan to all of you for your efforts May Allah accept it from you

[@Anonymous-yh4ho]

You're not even Indian, why do you care?

[@YourUkhtiR]

@@Anonymous-yh4ho literally not the point or your concern.

[@Anonymous-yh4ho]

@Ukhtirose If you're not Indian you have no say in how Indian words are pronounced, so yes, it is the point. Funny how you want to correct someone who actually comes from that part of the world about their pronunciation. Humble yourself.

[@YourUkhtiR]

@@Anonymous-yh4ho and who gave you my birth certificate as to where I come from ? Are you actually seriously this confident or are you here to pass time ? Humble yourself. Won’t be communicating further so pls continue speaking to yourself about my bloodline. And it’s not funny that you disrespect people online by meddling between matters that have nothing to do with you. Literally this matter should not be of concern to you. Ignorance and arrogance. Peace!

[@Anonymous-yh4ho]

@Ukhtirose Who gave me your birth certificate? Are you being serious right now? I can clearly see from your PUBLIC KZbin channel that you're subscribed to channels that make videos in Somalian ONLY! You're clearly not from India, so don't speak about how Indian words should be pronounced. Period. Fear Allah! Stop pretending to be something you're not.

[@briffasebastien7135]

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته Honestly where is the sincerity do you went to the university of madina for allah or for the people seriously what the people thinking is not important anyway we know the kind of people that you are when you speak is looking like you believe that you are the best of Muslims go back to quran and sunnah in the understanding of the salaf and fear the day allah is going to ask you for you action People advising you but you don't listening والله المستعان نسأل الله السلامة و العافية و الفهم في ديننا

[@sadafahmed9563]

Toxic people: step dad 'Jamal'. Janummi people: no fear of Allah azza wajjal.

[@zahidmuslim6560]

When ppl start Worshipping so called..... leaving/ besides ALLAH !!!! When land of Tawhid been spoiled by van guard of dajjal !!!!! When imam Mahdi took the priority (1st ) to cleanse "the human filth" from Arabian peninsula & nearby region !!!!

[@patel..665]

If you don't pronounce haa properly in bhai, it becomes "bai" which means maid 😂😂 And nearly every time you say bhai in that accent, you pronounce it as "bai"

[@rhlrhf]

35:10 miskeen 😂😂

[@lamontwest2089]

I hear you/(beenie)/HAHAHa-

[@Meliodas_Mk]

It's funny how u guys say a good looking Muslim brother get's a lot of hate just because his good looking or he has a good looking wife. Meanwhile thoses who have everything that allah gave them, the arrogance they have is crazy, just cuz they r big, tall, wealthy, good looking and have good looking woman....and u guys don't say anything about that, why? They look down on Muslims brothers who don't have what allah gave them....and yet they call them self Muslim while think that they r better than others 🙄🙄 JUST KNOW THAT WEALTHY OR GOOD LOOKING MUSLIMS CAN ALSO BE TOXIC TOO 😒 if u don't understand its fine....I get this is ur world and the next 😂😂

[@umulsabaah5492]

Allah knows best, but it seems that videos like this are revealing too much of your personal life and are only to increase likes...not a good choice. Don't give the evil a platform.

[@hassanomar2141]

Really really is that what you guys talk about he is a good looking omg ……. you guys are messed up

[@appie210]

I like how you always bring hadith to the talkshows its good but i prefer the old imran he was fire masha Allah

[@appie210]

Not the rapper imran but the dawah man imran so dont know what your talking about

[@appie210]

​@@PrisonerOfWar99 talking a lot about money is toxic and not from the sunnah

[@12Hydrocarbon]

The brother didn’t want to talk about his experience from Madina Quran teacher, but the host kept pushing the brother to that side. And handsome brothers get hate comment was girlish. Fear Allah brother, and don’t push people to something they don’t want to talk about. The whole thing was cringy and unnecessary. Please reflect on yourselves.

[@12Hydrocarbon]

@@PrisonerOfWar99 it’s just weird angle brother. I like the show and I enjoy it a lot wallahi, but this episode was below average. We dont need to bad mouth the learning community in Madinah. Human beings misunderstand each other and it’s normal. Just dont let devil use you. Somethings require manhood to resist.

[@user-yo2bo1ms1s]

Wallahi i love every single one of you brothers but Imran my shaykh my Ustadh we have never met but wallah I would kiss your head wallah may Allah keep you steadfast and on salafiya and spreading tawheed.❤