#92 The REAL Reasons You're Not Married Yet... || Chai With My Bhai

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[@TheLnini47474]

I think a important point to note is that no matter how much you tie your camel or put effort in, marriage is rizq. You can legit have looks,money, deen, good aklaaq but if it is not written for you or for that time it’s not happening

[@user-ib4qw2rb3o]

True

[@bengalmasala]

Wrong. It is only being a victim of black magic that can block a person from marriage. By the permission of Allah of course. For those people are greatest of rewards in this world and in hereafter for their extreme patience through that trial. Allah wants every human especially every believer to be married as soon as they have the desire for love from opposite gender. Don't say things you don't know brother, as if Allah gives whenever he wants even if it means a man or woman suffering loneliness for several several years. That is not the case. This world is a test, and marriage is mandatory for the cause of Allah and deen and tranquility of the mind and heart. I know Allah very very well. And don't act like Allah likes to test people by blocking them for years and that it is upto Allah when a person gets married. Allah does not prevent marriage. In fact he wants every body to be married early. Anyone cannot find marriage or cannot get married, it is a case of black magic and the evil aashiq jinn blocking it from happening. Not financial problems, not looks problems, none of that garbage scholars are teaching. Remove the magic and aashq jinn. And the blocked people will get married asap.

[@mohamedjamal585]

Salam aleykom akhi. How dare you to say that you know Allah very very well? Be careful brother

[@s.adnansami5106]

​@@bengalmasala Brother, be careful, let's not have this falsely-romantic type of outlook on the Deen. Marriage is a Rizq, just like having children. Isn't having children just as important as marriage? How else would mankind survive? But there are so many people who can't have children or don't want any. There are also people who don't want to get married and not everyone thinks the same way, like Ibn Taymiyyah who was too busy to get married. Don't say you know Allah very, very well especially when you make such a claim about marriage. Lying about Allah is one of the worst things you could do. “Say (O Muhammad): ‘(But) indeed the things that my Lord has forbidden are al-Fawaahish (lewd, evil sins of every kind) whether committed openly or secretly, al-Ithm (sins of all kinds), ath-Thulm (unrighteous oppression), joining partners (in worship) with Allah for which He has sent down no authority for, and that you speak about Allah that which you have no knowledge of.'” [al-A’raaf: 33]

[@lllkhu]

did omar suleiman plagiarize from you?

[@hm-hq4bf]

NOOOO WE NEED A SEPARATE brother love episode 😂😂😂😂

[@tarakkhandakar7332]

Love how Imran says something so obvious and then says "does that make sense" 😂 It'd become a habit now. May Allah bless you brothers and accept from you.

[@Kakeshii]

It's a habit from Abdulrahman hassan his teacher, he always says this in every lecture

[@ahlussabr]

I think also it's from saying things that maked sense in his head, but when he communicated it, it wouldn't make sense to others, so now he works extra hard to ensure people understand what he says so no one misunderstands him, does that make sense?

[@user-uy8pg4wv4b]

probably one of my favourite episodes ever please do a part 2!!!

[@LyticiaAMR]

Litterally, I'm meeting someone online and I couldnt care less. I'll get married InshaaAllah.

[@asif_zmn]

I could never but fair play to you.

[@roeen.]

I recommend still caring, as this will be the person you spend your life with and will raise your kids one day InShaAllah May Allah SWT bless and guide us all. Ameen

[@RighteousnRich]

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[@JAYX-]

Website doest work

[@user-ib4qw2rb3o]

Mashallah, you find so much solution for men. But for women is not easy like that because women can't take first step. Even as a woman if I told my parents I want to get married they going not to go around and say our daughter wanted to get married. I asked Allah to make it easy for everyone who wants to get🤲 married. جزاكم الله خير على كل شيء.

[@Zutti-4356]

May Allāh make it easy for our sisters

[@joshuamikail1474]

the guys seemed to enjoy this episode most excited I’ve seen them hahaha allahumabarik

[@KaifKhan-bk6bo]

Money is my main reason

[@elafzal5866]

" Listen I am Imran. Does that make sense?"- Brother Love

[@intendedexpression6609]

Imran and sometimes Abu bakr always seem very disconnected sociologically from the multiple factors that affect human beings on the daily. May Allah bless them with a more diverse and cerebral way on analyzing the human experience. Many of these topics they seem to think humans are willingly choosing to be and stay in negative situations from an Islamic perspective. Things like finances, marriage, and just a variety of fitna's are not black and white. I commend them tho for always advising upon the Quran and the sunnah but sometimes they are pretty dismissive about the complexities of people's situations objectively.

[@alhomsiyyah]

Any and all issues on Allah's earth are nuanced, and everyone's situation is different, but I don't see how that is a valid criticism of the brothers who are directing their message at a particular mindset or personality of the population. For example, motivational videos are often about getting up and working hard. Is the existence of such videos an affront to people who are trapped in abusive environments or suffering debilitating disorders, or are they simply not the target audience?

[@intendedexpression6609]

@@alhomsiyyah not saying that it doesn't benefit because for sure someone out there is changing their life because of their advice. My comment focuses on the almost lacking awareness of sociological factors that humans are weak to. For example in this episode Imran says "tbh getting married isn't hard" dismissing the obvious struggles being presented in this generation on the issue of marriage. I benefit alot from them i just think sometimes they talk very black or white or "its this" or "that" when life is alot more complex than that.

[@alhomsiyyah]

@@intendedexpression6609 I suppose it depends on what you mean by sociological factors. I understand physical and mental obstacles, but someone who suffers from habits or thoughts that are capable of being tamed through a combo of Islamic framework and willpower sometimes deserve cold hard truths. I myself have been having trouble getting married and can attest that while there are certainly some physical barriers, I benefit from talks like these about the things I can change.

[@intendedexpression6609]

@@alhomsiyyah allahumma barik.

[@alhomsiyyah]

@@intendedexpression6609 barakAllahu feek/i brother or sister, may Allah make it easy on all of the ummah

[@Liarasworld15]

as Salamu Alaikum, I'm from Germany and I always watch your show even though I don't understand more than half of it🥲 the text here has also been translated so don't be surprised. Keep it up, I hope one day I will understand all your conversations 😁

[@EnglishFluencyWithKarim]

Just keep learning. I was like that few years ago when watching Dr Zakir Naik (couldn’t understand English at that time), but I understand everything now Alhamdoullilah

[@samehaxj]

Always appreciate these videos.

[@TheQueen31127]

Hahaha 🤣 Mashaallah My brothers May Allah bless you ❤

[@shamsaansar2480]

I met my husband online allhamduliallah he lived in Pakistan and i lived in u.k and now 4 years later we have a baby boy both happy nothing rong in that doing it the halal Way 👍😊

[@asif_zmn]

Fair play to you.

[@Niqabimuslimahhhhh]

Allahuma barik

[@DrAdnan]

As someone who’s stayed halal, an episode on rizz would be helpful please

[@ihalludbA]

No seriously, Ik rn “women are scary” is a meme but I only relate to those memes, I don’t find humor in them 😂

[@zk321]

Pardon,

[@supawithdacream5626]

lmao ur suppose to never interact with strange women then one day become a rizz god is always funny to me

[@zahraabdullahi1601]

I am a Relationship Coach for Muslim Women. Overwhelmingly, the number one issue that my clients (and this is known among Secular Relationship Coaches as well) is that the Brothers are not interested in commitment. Too many Brothers are looking for companionship without responsibility, and their intentions are becoming more difficult for women to decipher. And so, much of my Coaching is in teaching women how to bypass low commitment men, and invest only in compatible partners worth taking seriously.

[@FxWhyk]

wallahi i love u guys for the sake of Allah

[@fadys3989]

Good tips Allahuma barik! PS: Soon-to-be-rich, mad scientist, martial artist - looking to get married 😜

[@mohammedkhan7753]

Ustadh Imran won’t like this, but he is “Akhi Amour!” 😂

[@ZeeshanHaydar]

We need more episodes like this, may Allah reward you brothers for these beneficial episodes ❤

[@hdA7573]

Why you want that? How it’s beneficial please? This opinion podcast you should listen to Deen podcast

[@johnelway9879]

Great episode allahuma baarik I’m my late 20s but I’ve given up on marriage

[@cOnfidentialcOrp]

Dont give up on marriage akhi Im also late in my 20s aswell , unmarried, but i have high hopes for myself and have taqwa of Allah and so should you allhi Jazakallah khair

[@Zutti-4356]

You should keep up hope that Allāh will provide for you. Otherwise, if you really have decided you won't get married, you'll need to do a lot of sadaqa projects to make up for the fact that you won't have children making D'ua for you after you pass away. May Allāh make it easy for you and give you what is best in this life and the next.

[@hbilbeisi1]

not gonna lie Imran is absolutely hilarious hahhaa

[@a_musafir]

Constructive criticism: Im not a hater, I sometimes find it very hard to listen to when multiple people talking, i even slow down the playback and cant tell what was said, i think maybe organising and letting people speak and finish more often wpild help alot or maybe good subtitles (Cc is bad imo)

[@NewBeginnings2.0]

Same I agree

[@samehaxj]

I agree.

[@joshbeatley6393]

Love the podcasts but Need timestamps

[@DBLUE-bo2qe]

I watched you when you started, I’m still gna call you Dawahman 👌

[@sbk6052]

My friends are practicing sisters and most of the brothers they’ve matched with expect them to go 50/50 or 70/30 in terms of expenses.

[@feliciathal4144]

I am sure the brother also wants to be in charge / control the wife and also take another wife. That is what I have seen anyway

[@SG-dw8jh]

I’ve noticed in the west that even practicing brothers often lack self-dignity and self honor. Honor yourself, Allah will honor you, and the people will follow.

[@AbuAnkabut]

More halal rizz videos ikhwa 😭 it’s hard for the single brothers here Allahu Must’an

[@SalemPhiladelphia]

Brothers, thank you for this episode. Can I ask for an episode about after one gets married? So this episode is about finding the one, but can you do the next step, please. Jazak Allahu Khairan

[@alhomsiyyah]

Check Relationship Goals podcast

[@taimurmirza7619]

Lol I’m short so the app won’t work for me brothers lol I’ll get filtered out from the start 😂

[@lightman2258]

I think Money (50%), Appearance (40%) and some other factors (10%)

[@kaishaifta7758]

Money 100%

[@johnelway9879]

I’d say Money (40%) Looks (40%) Religiousness (10%) Character (10%)

[@elafzal5866]

Where does deen fall into this?

[@johnelway9879]

@@elafzal5866 what women look for in men these days

[@Lina.acx_]

Religiousness is most important but putting that aside, character (40%) money (35%) looks (25%)

[@mehdiderrazi6880]

`Brother Imran's 'Awrah is showing in minute 23, please fix this jazzak allahu khayr

[@donlegend1169]

Imran is really stressing me out in all his video’s with his moving knee. It’s like he took an overdose of drugs or caffeine 😂

[@ayatnoor22]

Unfortunately careerism is a huge preventing factor. I’m a sister and my parents have prevented me from getting married because they want me to do X amount of years as a doctor/lawyer/engineer first. (Can’t be too specific to keep anonymous). Yet I’m nearing 25.

[@kaishaifta7758]

Your career will get rid of you one day! Get married to a man you love asap!

[@ayatnoor22]

I wish! Sadly not that simple when pleasing our parents is so important as a Muslim. :-( @@kaishaifta7758

[@harrisr1018]

I’ve rejected many proposals where the sister told me she wants to work x amount of years before having children, I just find it weird how career is prioritised over family so much.

[@ayatnoor22]

It's sad because many sisters don't actually want to work and would prefer to be married to someone that doesn't want them to work. Yet they're forced by their family.@@harrisr1018

[@kaishaifta7758]

@@harrisr1018 feminism! They only realize when they’re 35 and lonely!

[@sf-gs2mj]

I understand you are advertising sunnah match mashaAllah. But I think you should also highlight the importance of being the best possible muslim you can be as well as understand what it is to be a HUSBAND before you decide to hurry and get married. As fast as you try to get married the quicker it could end up in shambles as you have not worked on yourself.

[@alhomsiyyah]

Refer to Relationship Goals podcast - they've covered all those points and more

[@KaifKhan-bk6bo]

I agree

[@supawithdacream5626]

its called experience you will never be prepared enough you have to experience life lmao you cant study marriage

[@fulaan8784]

Part 2!!

[@MrsHsaid]

This was Hard to follow because you all interrupt each others thoughts. 😂

[@user-ml5hf9zb7k]

8:16 I totally agree with abbass

[@fakhriaalam5519]

Yeah very true, he said the actual issue

[@MegaKoolboys]

Just wanted to mention that the "caste" thing in Pakistan isn't the same as the Hindu caste system in India. In fact even before Islam its the caste system was weak in what is today Pakistan (Punjab, Sindh...) and was non-existent in Bengal. We have Biradaris (Rajput, Jutt, Gujjar, Arain, Awan etc etc) which literally translate to 'brotherhood' but is often referred to as 'clan'. For some reason, every uncle calls it caste in English lol it's a translation issue. You then have tribes within the clans (Bhatti, Janjua, Warraich, Bajwa etc etc) and also new clans have been added to Punjabi society (groups of Pathans, Baloch and Kashmiris have assimilated into Punjabi culture so much that they are each referred to as a 'Biradari' and their tribes from before (Yusufzai, Kakzai, Butt, Lashari etc) Point being, it's not like the Hindu one where you have Brahmin, Krashatriya, Dalit etc and they say they descend from this and that taghut lol.

[@elafzal5866]

I am sure they understand the clan/tribe structure of Pakistan. The point akhi is that the whole tribe mentality and the superiourity complex associated with it and preference of inter tribal relations and marriage is influenced by the caste mentality of the hindus. I live here and there are people who literally rank casts, not quite literally but point out which caste is the best and so on. And which clan, or people of that "clan" are less or different for whatever reason. I am sure not everyone thinks that way and there are plenty of mix clan marriages. The tribal structure also exists in India, after all, Pakistan and India used to be one country and the caste system is something different but their is some overlap in certain elements. Also certain cultural traditions lertaining to marriage and other things which are not sunnah are taken or influenced by hindu cuulture.

[@MegaKoolboys]

@elafzal5866 brother i've heard them mention this before and say its a shirky system like the caste one which is why I mentioned this. Clans being considered above others is something you find in other cultures too its not Hindu influenced, its unfortunately how most humans work. My point is the clan system isn't in itself problematic and Alhamdu Lillah things are getting better - people are now only starting to simply use their clan name as a way of identification or way of knowing their lineage, as opposed to for discriminatory purposes. Also, inter marriage not taking place isn't always due to ranking - most other tribal societies also don't marry outside their tribe. Last thing.....Pak, India and BD were never a single country. Might seem like nitpicking but this argument is used by Hindus to try justify their Hindu expanionism mindset. The British colonised the whole region and made it a single colony but it was always mostly a collection of states and not a single political unit

[@SpecialAgentTinkyWinky]

Lol no u punjabis beg us non-desi Pakistanis. Talking about Kashmiri, Pakhtuns and Baloch r included. 😂 Ask one on the street and ull get ur answer

[@oton-03034]

@@elafzal5866 Pakistan and India, both products of the British Raj, were under the same colony for 98 years. Not one country. True, there is a common cultural influence from Punjab to Bengal, but the Subcontinent was rarely a united political entity. Other than that, I agree. You can still feel the impact of practices from jahiliyya.

[@BuddyBro86]

Bradari or whatever is only for recognition, when we see, "this only" or "shiekh only" or "anyone other than arain ", these are the bias which aren't allowed, yani you can't discriminate on these basis. Yani Deen doesn't allow us.

[@bashir2795]

Players playbook course release 👀

[@Openmind2Openhearts]

😂😂 more like brother promotion may Allah increase you all

[@abidprottoy6134]

As salamu alikum, do you guys help match people for marriage?

[@s.adnansami5106]

they run sunnahmatch, check it out.

[@amatullah3491]

Brother love🤣

[@BigDuck786]

akhi upload in 4k please

[@shx1906]

What does he mean when he describes a woman as a high value woman?

[@mahadmohamed2666]

He means a woman who’s trying her best to be like the wives of the prophet SWS

[@SKawai-ym3gb]

Are there any Emiratis on Sunnahmatch??

[@s.adnansami5106]

Quite alot actually. As for arab emiratis, idk but there are loads in UAE. Lemme know what age grroup youre looking for.

[@SKawai-ym3gb]

@@s.adnansami5106 I mean Emiratis as in the locals nationals they are the Emiratis not the residents of uae. Yes please I would like that it would be a benefit may Allah reward you, age range has to be 24+ .

[@s.adnansami5106]

@@SKawai-ym3gb What's the maximum brother?

[@s.adnansami5106]

​@@SKawai-ym3gbI found one 29 yo but she doesn't have any details on her profile except that she follows Sh. Fawzan and there's a 49 yo Jordanian sister.

[@bmedic7162]

Honestly, pretty girls aren't using love finding apps to find love my akhs. They don't need to do all that. They aren't desperate enough to go through that effort. The best sisters are already inundated with opportunities. So if you're on an app you're gonna find a certain demographic of women. That's the idea of being put off from apps. (I say pretty girls because regardless of practicing level that's the main thing that determines how much opportunity they have.)

[@Amina-vo8vk]

That's not true many beautiful practicing sisters are looking to get married in a halal way through apps too.

[@bmedic7162]

@@Amina-vo8vk Maybe true but that's not the perception of the apps. Apps are seen as what you go to as a last resort if you have no other options.

[@Amina-vo8vk]

@@bmedic7162 Not true. How are people supposed to meet their spouses if they aren’t able to mingle with the opposite gender? With this logic, you can also say that seeking a spouse through others is desperate. Think people just haven’t got many options for seeking a spouse in the right way.

[@s.adnansami5106]

Why didn't I think of this earlier... (although I have found an extremely attractive sister on PureMatrimony)

[@UmOwlad]

The racism and colourism in the Asian community is very troubling. Alhamdulillah the sister didn’t marry the “10/10” brother

[@asimafsar211]

Yall need to stop laughing so much and interrupting each other lol. Solid information though but polish your podcast!

[@de5iner]

basically most of the brothers on sunnah match have no rizz lmao

[@s.adnansami5106]

well, that's to be expected if you keep it halal. You won't expect a guy to have experience in tech if he doesn't use computers. It's only become a western trend really that you need to really know what youre doing with females after going through dozens of women. The best thing I can advise to brothers is to be chill, mature and comfortable with yourself but at the same time likeable to other brothers.

[@bengalmasala]

Wrong. It is only being a victim of black magic that can block a person from marriage. By the permission of Allah of course. For those people are greatest of rewards in this world and in hereafter for their extreme patience through that trial. Allah wants every human especially every believer to be married as soon as they have the desire for love from opposite gender. Don't say things you don't know brother, as if Allah gives whenever he wants even if it means a man or woman suffering loneliness for several several years. That is not the case. This world is a test, and marriage is mandatory for the cause of Allah and deen and tranquility of the mind and heart. I know Allah very very well. And don't act like Allah likes to test people by blocking them for years and that it is upto Allah when a person gets married. Allah does not prevent marriage. In fact he wants every body to be married early. Anyone cannot find marriage or cannot get married, it is a case of black magic and the evil aashiq jinn blocking it from happening. Not financial problems, not looks problems, none of that garbage scholars are teaching. Remove the magic and aashq jinn. And the blocked people will get married asap.

[@Muslimah4856]

Firstt

[@rahimselmani8006]

You guys are acting childish ...laughing and joking and making stupid sounds when the Muslims are being slaughtered in Gaza. I'm not telling to stop living but wallahi your behavior is borderline disrespectful .

[@Aura04_]

bruv what are you on about…….

[@gogreen_0]

What???

[@gamingexpert7115]

marriage 🔻😂