16 Personalities Through the Eyes of the ENFJ

[@diaz6874]

TJ personality: *breathes * ENFJ: Hmm yes, childhood trauma.

[@WolfoxBR]

I mean, she's probably not wrong. ;)

[@bookpusher]

Im scared of enfjs lol

[@BombshElle_7]

IKR

[@Edith864]

@Moondust I'm ENFJ and have an INTJ friend. I love his Te Inspiration on me. :) He really likes my Fe Outlook.

[@Edith864]

@Josh Mulvaney I'm curious what are your main functions? 🤔

[@trinaq]

As an INFJ, I'm EXTREMELY guilty of compulsively psychoanalysing EVERYONE. But unlike my cousin the ENFJ, I'm more subtle about it. 😉

[@itspaperworld6821]

I thought you were an Enfj Trina

[@trinaq]

@@itspaperworld6821 I thought so too, but I have been using my FE function so much recently, that I likely mistyped as an ENFJ. I value my alone time too highly! 😉

[@indy_cwxyii5518]

hm, i'm ENFJ but i did the same

[@itspaperworld6821]

@@trinaq Me too Sis/bro! Also I noticed that you made some comments on Abbie Emmons' channel too, so are you writing a novel too?! (I've been into psychology and writing since always, I also make digital art, write songs and poems, so if you would like to check those out, I'd be happy to show you!)

[@trinaq]

@@itspaperworld6821 Coolness, very well spotted. Yes, I'm trying to, anyway! 😉 Congratulations, it sounds like you're making excellent progress. I'd really love to see some of your work. 💕

[@moonlight_cat_27]

No one has done timestamps yet, so... 0:02 ESFP 0:16 INFP 0:23 ISFJ 0:30 ENFP 0:41 ENTJ 0:58 ISTJ 1:08 ISFP 1:16 ESTP 1:21 INTJ 1:29 ENTP 1:53 ESFJ 2:13 INTP 2:33 INFJ 2:39 ESTJ 2:42 ENFJ 3:10 ISTP Hope this helps!

[@adamzak6055]

thx

[@lucyk2634]

Very much do!

[@joshuaarnold1895]

Thanks! Just curious but what type are you? I spoke with an istp who likes to make these

[@moonlight_cat_27]

​@@joshuaarnold1895 I'm not sure of my type, but it's probably a IxxJ type :)

[@joshuaarnold1895]

@@moonlight_cat_27 no problem :) the person i spoke to before is an istp, surprisingly

[@ZeroCr0w]

ENFJ (mature) x ENFJ (premature) Premature: You’re hiding something. Did that situation from before bother you? You should- Mature: Do not cite the deep magic to me, witch! I was there when it was written!

[@PeterJohnson-rh5hi]

During the ENTP's turn when it starts out with the warm smile and increased brightness; then the record skips and Kristin immediately turns the "ENTP face" on with their actual inner monologue made me shed a single manly tear. Each video on this channel gets put together a little better with the acting, production, writing, or all three. It's nice to showcase the tertiary Fe entertaining the possibility of getting unpacked. In my head, the ENFJ and ENTP go on to have a lovely relationship where the the Ne gets stimulated and the Fe gets to be a caretaker. I get a lot of warm fuzzies when the deeper possibilities of the types gets explored rather than the low-hanging fruit stereotypes.

[@tatyannafrancis9935]

I agree whole-heartedly! Kristin’s channel is one of the few places I can go on the internet as an entp and not feel like a everyone perceives me as a horrible person 😁👍🏻

[@LizApizaa]

Kristin understands us ENTPs perfectly. It is scary. Kristin has too much power! Lmao I love these skits.

[@ridi_]

@@tatyannafrancis9935 It is kind of a breath of fresh air, not gonna lie.

[@rosegoi360]

@@LizApizaa Is because her brother is an Entp, she has been watching the subject up close lol.

[@HannahNicollet]

@@tatyannafrancis9935 Right?! It's like everyone else just sees a 2D debate-robot.

[@thirstwithoutborders995]

The subtitles very well sum up my INFJ-ENFJ relationship with my best friend. While we spend 50% of our time talking and psychoanalysing other people, we spend 40% therapizing each other and 10% trying to keep each other from being a doormat for our other friends. She is my goofy, extroverted mirror and it's a thing of beauty.

[@karenhanson359]

I love this ☺️ - ENFJ

[@rosinante4738]

SAME T^T I love my INFJ best friend soooo much! We've been close friends for 8 years and I hope to cherish her as my friend forever

[@arrynliu337]

I’m an INFJ with an ENFJ bff as well and we’re kind of like this sometimes…lol

[@braxtonmills1235]

@@karenhanson359 Hows life going ; Do you want a ENFJ friend

[@thirstwithoutborders995]

@@otterinaballgown3703 Absolutely. I have never met someone who feels more responsible for others wellbeing. At times she gets pushy, if people are falling below their potential, but if you accept her help she is all in, even if she gets nothing out of it.

[@laithantucci5679]

I'm rather disappointed in the ENFJ for not being self-aware enough to realise they were overdiagnosing people. Might I suggest gradual exposure therapy? Or behavioural analysis? It'll help you 😊 - an ENFJ

[@maccurry4702]

Inferior Ti...maybe

[@112moch]

As ENFJ, the most infuriating part is knowing that I am self aware of what I am doing and constantly trying to improve myself because of knowing my mistakes

[@daphventurer7475]

Haha so just an ENFJ overdiagnosing other ENFJs. Anyway I hope you also try out the suggestions you gave. - another ENFJ :)

[@PhotoRubio]

I'm an ISTP. With a giddy heart and stoic expression, I SO look forward to seeing my type portrayed. It's the best! Went to therapy twice in my life. Both times, Through the back and forth of conversation, ended up giving them therapy. Stayed in touch with both of them since.

[@dearkristin]

This is amazing

[@LegolasPL44]

Istp 5w4 here Relatable, what's your enneagram?

[@Chillipep]

Quid pro quo, Clarice...

[@angelinap.3840]

"My emotional reactions don't have to be Kumbaya to be real" Ah yes, someone who finally gets that INTJs actually feel things deeply, we just don't express our feelings as overwhelmingly or as often as you might. Well done Kristin. I shall exclude you from my victims list when I and my mountain lions take over.

[@migsmethinks5801]

Nice callback. Also, the fact that you deal with mountain lions means you can't be a rabbit, so you're clear. I will find out who that Easter bunny is one way or another! -Also INTJ

[@xanthejai3002]

Sorry, when did she say that? I can’t seem to find it in the video lol. Anyways, that’s a very true statement. -also also INTJ

[@shanellemurrey9300]

@@xanthejai3002 go to the intj bit and turn on english(UK) captions. I think it’s around the end of it it says “my emotional reactions don’t have to be kumbaya to be real” -not an intj

[@angelinap.3840]

@@xanthejai3002 turn on captions "English UK"

[@BlowBow2]

Don't worry, as an INFP, I am also often infuriated with my reluctance to act.

[@offcoloratura]

STRUGGLE OF MY LIFE

[@NathanaelNaused]

At least you're honest with yourself. That's the first step to growing!

[@BlowBow2]

@@NathanaelNaused I've been stuck on that first step for more than 5 years

[@swatikumari1992]

​@@BlowBow2how are you doing now? Just curious

[@nickmerchant4588]

Next time I’m down, I’ll just hum the ESTP’s “suppressing wounds” song. Not only will the fun, cheerful tune put me in a better mood but the song will actively achieve what it intends.

[@restlessmosaic]

Similar energy to the James Acaster bit: "I bought some ready-to-eat apricots this week. They say you are what you eat, which is true. 'Coz as soon as I bought the ready-to-eat apricots, I was ready to eat apricots."

[@nickmerchant4588]

@@restlessmosaicI almost brought him up on the genie video.

[@restlessmosaic]

@@nickmerchant4588 I've watched "People Are Not a Fruit" a billion times. And typing this has made me want to watch it again. So, a billion and one.

[@dearkristin]

Hahahaha!

[@trinaq]

Yep, even when ESTPs are suppressing wounds, they are pretty cheerful about it!

[@LimegreenSnowstorm]

ENFJ here, personally I friggin LOVE the INFPs. We just vibe. I’m married to one! They have struggles unique to the INFP, but once you’ve met enough of them you become less annoyed with and more understanding of them. Maybe having ADHD helps me to empathize more as well XD but MAN that ADHD do not vibe well with my perfectionism… I also just ADORE INTJs! You can have the most fascinating conversations with them cuz you see things from different angles. All you need are mutual interests! Honestly I find myself more fascinated with other personality types than annoyed by them. The only trait that I really can’t comprehend is when someone has zero care for being kind to people.

[@jackies1729]

It is interesting that we INFPs aren't case studies for ENFJs....... They get us. And kind of respect us if we aren't mindless, unmotivated, and lazy ☺️

[@HooverJ.Bankbean]

The thing is, we totally are, indeed, mindless, unmotivated, and lazy.

[@jackies1729]

@@HooverJ.Bankbean 🤫😆

[@sofiaroura9652]

I think they just know that no matter how hard they try they won't be able to "fix us", plus trying too much might trigger our rebellious side -INFP

[@jackies1729]

@@sofiaroura9652 which does run far deeper and wider than most realize

[@gouki4u]

Ah, yes. The INTP subtext that they may or may not be putting out there. You'll never know because they will never admit to it before their safe word summons one of the extroverts who has adopted them to rescue them from this situation.

[@karenhanson359]

😂 -ENFJ

[@sirennexus1675]

OH okay, I was wondering what “pineapple” meant.

[@yoitssomething1264]

It's probably a code​@@sirennexus1675

[@kristenwhelchel9581]

And here I thought Kristin was just dabbling a bit into the ENFP personality type for the pineapple scene. (I'm an INTP who thought this was a funny, random scene until I read this comment.)

[@karablack8336]

I can't wait for the INTP one. The ENFJ will say something like "I make you extremely uncomfortable and my ulterior motives and digging into your personal life makes you want to avoid me at all cost."

[@r0bin_thund3r44]

I’m just glad she brought back “pineapple”

[@kcb_baebae5885]

Exactly what I felt when the INTP part of the pov played - INTP

[@je6a478]

@@kcb_baebae5885 Exactly what I thought what an INTP felt when the INTP part of the pov played - ENTP

[@adelaidekeys5244]

I actually got an INTP to cry about their psychological problems. Not in a bad way, but in a way that helped them. ☀😄👍🏼

[@JR-ow8xg]

Personally, this is how I see every personality: INTP: This is my boyfriend. Why is he always alone in the corner of the room? I’ll go talk and introduce myself! Later on I realize how intelligent and analytical he is to the point of intimidating me. He’s also highly oblivious to other peoples boundaries and social interactions. However, he’s a loyal and cute. Befriend him! ENTP: Wow that’s a lot of mental energy in just one person. Her quick mind is intimidating but sometimes she contradicts herself. Conversations are endlessly fascinating, and she challenges me to research and backup my thinking. ENTJ: This child is amazing at money management and he’s only 12 years old! Did he paid his own phone with his dad’s weekly allowance? I don’t even know how to manage my savings account and I’m 22! INTJ: This is my brother, he has this childish good heart inside of him. Moral standards are super high. Sometimes moody and irritating when things are not the way he wants. The funniest person, makes me laugh till my stomach hurts. INFP: Her presence is like a rock, quiet and hard not to notice. She has a pure heart and even though she seems oblivious to her environment, I know she is listening to everything. She hates criticism but accepts it to a certain level. ENFP: Her feelings are so energetic and contagious that it's hard not to love her for it! She is inconsistent with our friendship, but when we have the chance to be together, it's like we were never apart! INFJ: Why does she cares so much about her appearance? She is beautiful! And why is she with that boy? He is toxic but somehow she thinks that she is able to change him. ENFJ: He has such a low self stem but he is the warmest human being! I can’t stop laughing every time we have a conversation. He is very thoughtful too. ISTP: This is my mom. She is diligent, caring in her own way, and endlessly creative! She is so strong, I wish I could have such logical mindset for everything. However, she is so oblivious to herself to the point of irritating me, go to the doctor please! ISFP: Wow! Her creativity with make up amazes me! She seems such a delicate human being. She cries a lot, few people are strong enough to express their emotions and I admire her for it. ESFP: This is my sister. OMG she is so selfish and unappreciative! But she is funny, lovable and my life with her has never been boring. SHE NEEDS A LOT OF ATTENTION. ESTP: Why people misjudge her? Yes, she has no concept of her morality but she is very caring. She is intelligent, and an amazing friend but people can’t just handle her truths. ESTJ: She seems shallow but she has a lot of depth inside of her! You just need to have a one-to-one conversations and she will talk about the meaning of life. Controlling and overbearing but a loyal friend. ESFJ: This is my dad. The kindest person, pure heart and loyal to our family. He is intelligent, and he remembers something from 20 years ago, that’s impressing! However, sometimes he is annoying and repetitive. ISFJ: There is something in her that makes me respect her to a high degree. She has such a strong sense of duty, but I wish she can do something nice for herself. ISTJ: He is rigid and overly organized. I don’t like it but at the same time I admire such strong sense of routine. I can have a lot of fun with him when he let’s himself go with the flow. Sometimes he seems sensitive, moody, and good-hearted.

[@driftingpaperboat]

I prefer this to the tired tropes of this video, thanks for sharing!

[@kevinlulu6683]

This is beautiful. You couldn't have done better in creating a small positive description of every type. Thanks for your thoughts and for the time you used to write this. All da best.

[@AbbasAli-ib7lb]

im convinced that you are a true enfj from the amount of text in your comment 😅

[@restlessmosaic]

This video taught me something about my family - the one of my grandmothers who was narcissistically evil might have been an ENFJ. (Not to say ENFJs are all evil, to be clear.) My likely ISTP dad said one of his biggest beefs with her is that she thought everybody had problems, and if they said they didn't then that was the worst thing because they were denying it. The favorites of her own children were the ones who did the most messed-up things, and her favorite above that (so my dad tells it) was the foster kid named Tommy whose life goal was to kill the non-foster kids. Said grandmother also had no comprehension or love for my likely ISTJ mom. All of this (in theory) led my parents, in finding each other, to go anti-ENFJ so hard that admitting problems was a dumb idea, in a "why would you do that?" sense. So my INTP problems were mostly just considered weakness and things to cover up and bottle up. Fun fact: that turns out to be toxic! Wheeee! I do genuinely love that this channel is sometimes poignant in the comedy. I just didn't expect it to be through this series. :-)

[@PeterJohnson-rh5hi]

Yeesh, I'm sorry your family had to go through all that. I hope you've been able to find relationships where you get to be vulnerable and talk about your problems in a safe way, too. I think it's important to remember and discuss that all types have potential to be evil so we can work past those dark sides in ourselves. Feelers can have a strong tendency to rank people and pick favorites, and it becomes toxic if we haven't worked through it before having children. Thinkers can have a "problems need solutions" mindset that turns toxic in the other direction if they raise children whilst treating their emotions as problems.

[@restlessmosaic]

@@PeterJohnson-rh5hi Besides my marriage (although it took awhile before I sifted through all this junk), this community has been my safest place. So thank you. And you're on the money with everything you just said.

[@arunimachakraborty4596]

How are these comments from 22h ago? It is showing to me that the video was posted an hour ago🤔

[@restlessmosaic]

@@arunimachakraborty4596 Patreon supporters get an early release!

[@nerysghemor5781]

I think my own family has an unhealthy ENFJ in it too and it sucks. We also had a severely unhealthy ESFJ too. I did fortunately have a sweet ESFJ grandma but she was the only positive Fe role model in my family. I honestly think the unhealthy Fe doms in both my parents’ families may have made them go Te-dom instead. And then they raised me (an INFP). So I not only am low in Fe to begin with, I actively distrust it a lot of the time. (Though I CAN be won over by genuinely sweet XSFJs.) -INFP

[@paulimorph.1]

As an ENFJ I think this is a far too analytical approach to how we operate. Yes we have introverted thinking but it's not operating at the forefront of out minds. We don't analyse people we gage them based on how they are feeling, we externalise so we can gage their response. We're not systematic we are adaptive. Yes, we like to help people, but we are more about connection rather than fixing people. I don't see people as patients or cases, I see them as potential friends which I can build a long lasting relationship. Just my quick thoughts on the subject.

[@karenhanson359]

I’m don’t agree. I’m 100% ENFJ and extremely analytical. However, I think we use our analyses to better understand humans and ultimately, connect with and help them.

[@EmyN]

Agree

[@iwashere583]

ENFJ here and you can't say it any better

[@analways]

An ENFJ as well, I agree with what you have said.

[@ashleysings2734]

Agree 🥰 - A fellow ENFJ

[@thomasswrisky6734]

As an INTJ, while I can certainly understand and appreciate the humour about there being no good in us, despite our ability to be evil (I think we would be quite good and efficient at it), it is also the case that INTJ’s tend to have a very strong sense of morality that guides them. I think one example that would make an INTJ appear “evil” when in fact they are attempting to pursue the course of least harm, is in regards to addressing problems early. Someone too empathetic may let an issue fester, until it gets worse, and ultimately more people must suffer, while an INTJ is more likely to recognize the potential future problem/ threat, and address it. It can be difficult to know for certain when early action is necessary or not, and taking too much early action can also be a problem. I suppose the moral of the story is to look beyond the immediate future, and be proactive in addressing things before they get worse, even if doing so may make you come across as cold or harsh to others. There are no doubt many whom in hindsight, would agree with this line of thinking.

[@-emir5484]

Tertiary Fi 👍👍👍👍👍

[@joshpatrick8809]

What did you say? Just curious...

[@sydneycarton4106]

That was my first thought as well, but then I realized that Kristin's point was probably that an ENFJ cannot comprehend the Te-Fi axis and would be hyper-aware of our ineptitude in Fe. The ENFJ's idea of morality would be (partially) limited to "keeping the peace" and "being nice to people," and so he/she would see us as evil because the way we understand morality is very different (though it may occasionally overlap).

[@YellaSpiceFamily]

I'm an ENFJ who's been married to an INTJ for nearly fifteen years, and Kristin's bit here really made me laugh: as an initial/occasional reaction, it's quite accurate, for two reasons - 1) I still regularly find it absolutely mind-boggling that someone will dig their heels in and absolutely refuse to do or say something nice purely and solely because they resent the expectation, and quite regardless of the fact that it would save everyone SO MUCH TIME if they could swallow just the tiniest bit of their pride and be kind enough to move things forward in goodwill - so much for "efficiency" **every of the facepalms** 2) there's an alarming fixation on power and/or retribution that surfaces now and again which is pretty hardcore and I tend to find it genuinely shocking. But I know it's not his main running program so I just blink at him and he laughs and we move on. He reacts with somewhat similar shock to my more hardcore Ti judgements. But an ENFJ who's willing to put enough effort into the relationship will be able to see that these things are occasional frustrations, not deal breakers - there's an awful lot we actually have in common.

[@m4lev0lentdem0nknightamv5]

Gandhi prolonged Independence for 30 years ... If he had Te .... Could have prevented a lot of deaths

[@JackyVSO]

This is brilliant. I'm beginning to think this "goggles" theme is going to be your real magnum opus (so far). I know you're sweating about our episode and will probably leave it for last, though ;-) Maybe it will force you to finally really understand the INTP and that will be the moment all the 16 crystals light up and you finally achieve perfect third-eye personality vision.

[@rickandrygel913]

I'm an INTP and I don't even know how I view people

[@Catralasarguido]

@@rickandrygel913 INTP too, I use that "stats" google very often but in my googles the stats are "intelligence" (how good is at understanding things in my dictionary), "interesting" (will this person be worth my time? shared interests, knowledge that I would like to have), "intrusiveness" (how much does this person respects others privacy and free will of others), "energy" (how likely is the person to talk and take action, the balance in the group on this point is important to me, I want an EXXP in my group if I wanna laugh, an IXXP if I wanna indulge in nerd stuff, etc), and "sheepness" (how proclive is that person to just accept everything that they are told or actually think for themselves if it has any sense and why)

[@JackyVSO]

@@rickandrygel913 Why do you think I'm so interested in that video? 😂

[@SimoneEppler]

Woah, third-eye personality vision!

[@wassermann2911976]

@@rickandrygel913 As INTP I don't wank see a lot of people / but seems I am a heavy mix INTP/INTJ.

[@Moovanna]

Ahahahahahahahahahaha. I'm an ISTP and I love this. It's nice to have our wild card selves acknowledged. That's also the exact face I make when I'm extremely annoyed so well done on the portrayal

[@LegolasPL44]

As a fellow istp I can concur.

[@tatyannafrancis9935]

Not gonna lie, I thought the ESTP might have been ENTP for a second there 😂 Though I did love the ENTP starting out all promising and delightful then breaking the fourth wall with the truth of the matter 😂😂 Speaking of, does anyone actually happen to know the sleeping patterns of gerbils? Do smaller creatures need the same consistent long intervals of sleep, or do their small bodies recharge faster and they can take sort of power naps whenever they feel like? That would be a fun way to exist.

[@HannahNicollet]

🤣🤣🤣

[@DarkBlazeLeggendaxu]

As many other small mammals, they follow a polyphasic sleep schedule, based on an ultradian rhythm: they often sleep for an hour or two at a time, and then they're up for an hour or two. This cycle occurs throughout the day and night. However, gerbils who are raised in captivity tend to adapt to human sleeping schedules. R.E.M. sleep and slow wave sleep make up a higher percentage of the total sleep time of smaller mammals compared to bigger ones. Also, predators usually have longer R.E.M. sleep than prey. Some of this I'll have to know for my psychophysiology test in about 10 days.

[@TAB00]

@@DarkBlazeLeggendaxu thank you

[@FirstNameLastName-of7to]

@@DarkBlazeLeggendaxu Ooooh and to add onto what you've said, I recently read a study that found that the size of the creature doesn't directly correspond to the hours of continuous sleep it gets. They suggested that maybe the complexity of the central nervous system might be a better indicator of how much sleep a creature needs and how much uninterrupted sleep they tend to need too.

[@DarkBlazeLeggendaxu]

@@FirstNameLastName-of7to Interesting! Makes perfect sense.

[@MichaelGrundler]

PINEAPPLE

[@mattevans6752]

The subtitles for the ESFJ are on point. Especially "You're determined to keep fishing, but you haven't even brought a rod." Good stuff!

[@hj_lostintheinternet3754]

I like that you've started to use stuff like fogging speech some types speak because the ENFJ wasn't interested in hearing them, or multiple effects/soundtracks and so on, it makes these videos much interesting 😆 And I also like that the ENFJ looks at people... well, as a psychologist, but in a harmlessly good way 😆 - INTP

[@orphic6120]

I have a list of tips I personally made for myself (Enfj). Hopefully some of these can feel helpful or relatable. Read at ur own discretion. ❤️ -When someone is talking about their problems don't give them your unsolicited advice. Most ppl just want someone to listen. -Dont laugh at things you don't actually find funny (Work on being more genuine) -Stop looking for external validation all the time. Try to work on things independently without needing to tell anyone abt it. -Don't force ppl to hang out with other ppl, "alone" doesn't mean "lonely". -Dont be friends with someone purely out of pity. "Aww they look lonely. I can be their friend". You're doing a disservice to them. -You would be so much more attractive if u knew how to say "No" more and not fighting for harmony all the time, I promise. There's a reason Ti users are hot. -Mind ur own business, sometimes we do too much fr. -Don't feel bad if someone doesn't want to be ur friend, they have the right to do that. -Stop trying to lecture everyone 24/7 to make yourself feel smart and superior. (Inferior Ti) -Take criticism better, it's ok to not know everything and to be wrong sometimes. -Be more open minded, even when you think the situation is unfair. -Dont take information at face value, do your own research. Don't trust what ppl say blindly. And ask yourself "Does this make sense to me" -Something embarrassing happened.. okay and?? Move on. Stop overthinking everything. -Dont give your opinion on something without knowing the full story. Get context. Understand both sides. -Spend more time with Istp's. They teach you a lot of things. You grow a thicker skin with a stronger mindset bc of them. -There are 3 others types with the exact same cognitive function stack as us (enfjs) but in different orders. Istp: Ti > Se > Ni > Fe Estp: Se > Ti > Fe > Ni Infj: Ni > Fe >Ti > Se Enfj: Fe > Ni > Se > Ti If you want to understand your other functions, try hanging out with these types more.

[@kdancerz]

List appreciated. - ENFJ

[@YellaSpiceFamily]

I'm married to an INTJ: they push you in this kind of growth, too - more than ISTPs, imo, because they *excel* at throwing cold water on you. 😂 INFJs can also be good for us: my INFJ mom taught me to boundary-up reeeeaaaallly well. The way she'd say it was to know when things are "not your job" - you just can't afford to take everything on AND stay sane: conserve your energy for the times when the circumstances construct themselves - that's when you can actually help. (Incidentally, a lot of time with an INFJ will also cure you of an embarrassing overindulgence in Ti: *insert the "aliens" meme here* )

[@orphic6120]

@@YellaSpiceFamily Being married to an Intj sounds awesome, and what you described about them is very true. They teach you to think for yourself and help us grow in many other ways too. But I can't agree with the Infj part too much (only from personal experience). I think I've had bad experiences with them, they come off as manipulative/covert narcissists who enjoy to humble brag, who give unsolicited advice allll the time, and they overthink situations TOO much (which is something I'm trying to get away from). Maybe I need to keep looking for better ones. But the Istp's I hang out with are so authentic and genuine, who don't sugar coat things or try to agree with you to "make you feel better". That's something I personally strive to be like, (especially since our cognitive functions are reversed). Overall I respect your opinion and agree with most of it, ur comment is much appreciated, congrats on ur marriage! 🙏

[@kristen4022]

On point!!! I’m cringing at younger me.

[@Name-ki1xi]

You are so right. My best friend in school was an istp and we learned a lot from each other. Generally, as I grew older I got more chill about everything and learned that sometimes there is no right or wrong. Just because somebody doesn't act the way I would doesn't mean it is wrong... I still have to learn a lot (I am only 21 so I bet in a few years I will talk about how I saw the world in a different way as I was still studying in university). I don't need to be perfect (this is also something I learned and still have to remind myself sometimes) but I really enjoy improving myself. And the best way to do so is by learning to see the advantages of the way of thinking and acting of personality types that are not our own. It also helps a lot with appreciation for other people in general :) My intp dad also helped me a lot with seeing things from a different perspective. My sister is an infj and my mother an xnfp, so through live he got really good at dealing with emotions of others haha. When I have an emotional breakdown I call him and he helps me getting out of my Fe-Ni-loop and seeing the world more through Se and Ti again...

[@ali.q6927]

As an INTJ i can say actually we're the prove of "don't judge by the look". I think we have one of the most unrelated stereotypes in 16 personalities! Ok enough about us! I can say ENFJs are rare and hard to find (at least for me) but when you meet one you easily get them by their unique traits. One of the smartest types not only in feelers but in all of the 16 types. Usually it's cool and nice to talk to them. Can get a little nosy and it's uncomfortable for an introvert like me but you can be sure even at their lowest, they mean well. As an intuitive one, an ENFJ probably is the best person to seek through my mind and analyze my feelings better than I can ever do. P.S: these are just my experiences by knowing a few of them and my opinions by my own informations, surely there is nothing as "always true" or "fact" in my opinions! P.S 2: Really like these kinds of videos. Give me a new vision about each type. Thanks for another wonderful video❤

[@LimegreenSnowstorm]

Oh my gooooosh as an ENFJ who LOVES INTJs it made my day to hear from an INTJ that the feeling is mutual! I’ve just had some of the most fascinating and intelligent conversations ever with my INTJ friends; it just feels so mind-expanding because we’re both bouncing off the same subject and giving different perspectives

[@nolanj.3897]

Can you imagine not watching these with United Kingdom captions

[@trinaq]

Precisely it's like watching a whole other storyline going on! 😉

[@Isaac-tp7hr]

With the ENFJ user interface I can barely read everything

[@PeterJohnson-rh5hi]

@@Isaac-tp7hr You can slow the playback speed down to x0.75 and drag the captions to the top of the screen. It's what I have to do sometimes.

[@ceilinh6004]

I watched it once with the captions, and once without. LOL

[@suburbohemian]

dear kristin, I think you and Frank James should do some of these together. You're both brilliant and then he wouldn't have to wear wigs to do the girl side. LOL

[@widewailcorduroy7278]

I don't know how you do the INTP "dead eyes" so well, but it's freaking me out.

[@trinaq]

ENFJ are totally the therapist friend. As soon as they're introduced to someone new, their first question is "Is it because of a deep rooted issue from your childhood?"

[@indy_cwxyii5518]

but i'm not, i'm ask them a simple question

[@5idi]

Yeah, unless you're an ISFP and then they go... 😨 "Better not ask..."

[@Ant-ux9wh]

As an ENFJ, I would never ask someone that😂 Maybe I'll have some ideas in my mind of why someone may act a certain way but I would never outwardly ask them. Usually my open and friendly energy is enough to get people to open up to me, without me ever even trying. Like it happens all the time where I just go about my day and suddenly someone's telling me their life story and while I'm honored, it's also a little bit much

[@aprilhelm518]

I do like to point out, as an ISTJ with an INFP sister: 1. I am much quieter when out and about (especially around loud people) than I am at home/with friends/people who know me better. 2. My INFP sister has never been lazy or unmotivated that I'm aware of. This stereotype of INFP really bugs me.

[@ayla8d]

i know, as an INFP i don't like to brag but i get anxiety when i sit down doing nothing, im always obsessive about what i do and can work way too much i don't sleep. It's a waste of time to try and convince the mbti community that we're not idiot/children/emotional babies, it's frustrating.

[@persia2188]

ugh as an INFP it bugs me too. I’m very motivated and passionate to go after my dreams. I’m also pretty hardworking. So yh I rolled my eyes at this one. I have an ISTJ brother & he’s not quiet around me at all. We talk for hours at a time about everything under the sun & his humour is top notch. Introverts just need to be with people who make them feel comfortable, that’s all :’)

[@mikan0mochi]

@@persia2188 Same, if ENFJs are really looking at us like that, I'd be shocked😅 It's more like a comedy so this is somthing to take with a grain of salt, though. I am pretty passionate and I have worked hard to achive my dreams, too.

[@bellaramsay2724]

@@ayla8d I have an older infp sister (I am an istp) who the rest of my family makes fun of of for being a hyper overachiever, but she is a *hyper* overachiever, almost as if the deliberatism is compulsive as opposed to my Esfj sister and friends who hold themselves to a degree of perfectionism which leads to motivation. Basically it seems to be the difference between personality and behavior; my esfj sister us productive because of her personality while my infp sister behaves in a way which results in productivity

[@5idi]

While I do agree, I think "the ENFJ" in the video didn't mean the INFP to do something with her life in a Te sense. It's probably about the Ni focus. Same about ISTJs, I think the Fe perspective was implied. ISTJs are highly emotional and INFPs do a lot, but in a very different way.

[@Siansonea]

People always want to figure out ISFPs, but can't, because we already figured out ourselves.

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

True, because we are very introspective ISFP and INTJ (Ni-Fi).

[@EbieApple]

I have several ISFPs in my life - they're all as transparent as air to me. And in the most delightful way. Never met one that was ever even slightly difficult to figure out. The toughest nut for me to crack so far - which wasn't exactly difficult - was an ESTP. Guess what; he's suppressing wounds lol. People are just very, very easy to read, and I don't know if that is more a blessing or a curse. -INFJ

[@Siansonea]

@@EbieApple do you think you could be more condescending? Because I don't. Good luck with your ISFPs once they get tired of your bullshit.

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

@@EbieApple Yes, very easy to read. I asked me the same question yesteday, if it is a blessing or a curse to know things, that most of people will never know.

[@EbieApple]

@@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes I suppose if one were to acquire this knowledge only for themselves, it would be only a blessing, but when you want to use what you know to help others, it can become a curse because you understand that not everyone wants help. Some people cling to their ideals and their feelings and their personal perspective of those feelings so fiercely, that trying to shift that perspective, even if it is to help them, is seen as some sort of attack. That's where seeing things deeply and in a way other people don't perceive, can be berh difficult and isolating. My ISFP sister is the person most close to me. I love her with all my heart but so many issues arise because I see things she doesn't want to see - she holds on to her perspectives with all her might and feels it all so personally that it becomes difficult for me to help her. She'd get upset or feel insulted if her values or way of choosing to see things is challenged, so I have to remain quiet and watch her suffer because that's what she wants. She doesn't want help or advice. What makes it even worse, is to, later, be proven right every single time, even by the very person who wouldn't listen themselves. That may seem as though it would be rewarding but it isn't. An INFJ's super power is to help and strengthen people. When they're deprived of that, it feels like a curse.

[@blitzer8793]

You might hang out with me (an ENFP) only because I'm an "interesting case study", but you, my dear ENFJ, are free therapy, so...

[@-emir5484]

Honestly I (ENFP) think the same for ENFJs, like, they're an enigma and I wanna figure them out bc they're so different from me. Also yes, free therapy 👍

[@evarootbeer22]

I never thought of that but that explains why I love my ENFJ friends! HAHAHAHA! - ENFP

[@catchingstars7]

Agreed. Just mirror my thoughts back to me so I understand those, and in return, I'll be useful. In the rare case when your plan A to G all crash down and you are bamboozled and need time to reset, I will be the one who adapts quickly leads you and the group from chaos to a semblance of order and fun again. You can take it from there, ENFJ. Love ENFP.

[@jazzystarlight-i7i]

🤣🤣🤣

[@Meg_intheclouds]

ENFP was too on the nose. I love the stats at the side- and look ok I wouldn’t say I’m in denial, It’s more optimistic thinking because you can be happy with the possibility the best case scenario will happen (I do also think of the worst case scenario- but I know I will spiral if I do that so optimism is way better). There probably is a lot to unpack and my INFJ Gf has defo tried several times but I am also finally starting counselling/therapy and I’m scared because for an fi user I suck about talking about emotions and facing psychological wounds- but at the same time I know it’ll probably just be me talking and unravelling my own brain with Fi as I externally process 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@zzzcocopepe]

" so you're saying there's a chance" 👁👄👁

[@evanmcfee5139]

I had a similar experience to you. It's vital for our growth that we develop our Fi Parent properly

[@Meg_intheclouds]

@@evanmcfee5139 yes 100%- I think my istj mum kind of stunted the growth a bit and instead I ended up developing Te and falling on that but it is uncomfortable and Fi is my most natural state and what I love being in I just now struggle with letting myself feel emotions without it going to the Te response (how i was taught to deal with emotions by ISTJ mum) of “I need to fix this now”- even if I want to deal with emotions I’ve never really been taught how (which is why I’m going through the process now of going to counselling and being recommended to do emotional regulation exercises)

[@keitsukishima1852]

Oh another ENFP here, i usually prefer the worst case scenario so that my expectations are low and the results are def better than my expectations, and i end up being happy . Other points i totally relate to

[@Meg_intheclouds]

@@keitsukishima1852 interesting, I mean I am also an enneagram 6 so I also see the negative possibilities and everything that can go wrong, but I feel a lot of anxiety from it so I try not to. But also for an ENFP I actually like some boundaries and parameters so then I can be sure that I’m not going to mess anything up when I explore the possibilities. I am the most comfortable when I don’t have to worry about limits- which often is when I’m on my own or with someone I’m truly comfortable around and can bounce ideas off of. But in a lot of situations I need boundaries and structure so I can thrive within it while still being able to Ne out which is constantly- I just need to know boundaries and rules and other peoples expectations so I can still do what I want and explore to my hearts content- but need structure to do that within to alleviate anxiety that I’ll do something wrong and mess it up and people won’t want to put up with it anymore, Which Wow that was a tad bit of an Fi rant, but luckily for me in KZbin comments social rules don’t exist, well they might do but oh well. I am really not great at social rules and have always been considered weird (which I just own now) but i still need boundaries and rules so I can feel more relaxed about screwing up. I want to explore possibilities and say every random thought that comes into my head and freedom to be myself, but I don’t always trust myself in that I’ll be able to do that and not make a complete mess of a situation. Like the fear that One day my scatteredness and clumsiness and forgetfulness will stop being endearing and people will just leave… Anyways again sorry lapsed into Fi monologue 😬 which I find myself doing a lot more recently as I’ve been trying to properly nurture my Fi (like going to councilling) and it is where I feel most comfortable- or exploring possibilities of how and why I feel the way I do and unpacking myself and then talking about it with someone else (though that’s taken more work but I’m starting counselling so :)

[@peli8luca]

Yeah, as an infj i must agree. I have an enfj friend and mom. They always talk, i mostly listen and get hyped if we have an interesting topic like personalities or theories. Also, i love their loving atmosphere around them! I just instantly feel better and healed. Thanks for being!

[@jacobpineda5380]

We love your sense of being as well! You help us explore slow down and explore our untapped Ni and Ti. Thanks for that! - ENFJ

[@rosinante4738]

That's funny! I'm an ENFJ and I have an INFJ mother and best friend. I can totally tell them things I've learned or my observations and when they have an interesting thought about something I said, we just descend into a long deep conversation. I love talking with them! XD

[@brauliozt8754]

I know that we don't do much with our lives, and you may find great potential in us to achieve big things, but some of us just wish for a quiet, peaceful life - INFP

[@mikan0mochi]

Your description is so to the point. As an INFP, I love to lead a quiet and peaceful life but also tend to dream big many things at one time.

[@emilys3638]

Yes! As an ISFP, I relate to both of you here. Dream big, live peacefully, and therein find contentment.

[@INTP_Apologist]

As an INTP, the Ti doms are very relatable to me, especially with the jokes in the UK subtitles. Also, ENFJs, you terrify me.

[@ramzansson395]

My high school counselor is an ENFJ and one day I remember coming to school with messed hair cut (the barber accidentally shaved too much on some parts of my head) and the counselor noticed me and she grabbed me into her office and starts grilling me with personal questions about my life which is irrelevant at that time because she thought that I was somehow abused by other people and wanted me to unpack that trauma with her 🙂🤣

[@infernal..]

🤣 the haircut was that bad?

[@ramzansson395]

@@infernal.. yes. It was so bad 😂

[@karenhanson359]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 OMG I would totally do that. And yes, I know it sounds insane 😆

[@ramzansson395]

@@karenhanson359 Gosh I like Halsey too!!! She's one of my favourite singers. I love her music. Sorry if this making you uncomfortable I'm just curios 😌 I guess you can already tell my mbti type already 😂

[@ramzansson395]

@@thecod2345 Gosh. Although I will be lying if I say I really understand how you felt at that time but I do get what you're trying to tell 😂

[@nerysghemor5781]

I love how in the captions for the ENTJ you showed that Te-doms can and do love people; they just show it differently. My parents are both Te-doms and it’s very true of them. ❤️❤️ Also the EXTJs do have feelings to hurt, which the ENFJ doesn’t seem to realize. The sheer pain my ENFJ aunt managed to inflict on my ESTJ mom was really sad and it took my mom (IMO) too much time to set healthy boundaries. I think it took my ENTJ dad getting fed up with the BS to get HER to finally let rip with the much deserved explosion. Yeah…I don’t have a good association with this type unfortunately. 😞 (Somehow, though, my INFJ cousin turned out super chill despite her parents, so we have a good relationship.) -INFP

[@LimegreenSnowstorm]

Gosh this is so tragic to hear 😭 I’m glad she set up boundaries and your dad was able to help her. If there’s any advice you have for an ENFJ who really doesn’t want to hurt people like that, I’d love to hear it. I’m always terrified of hurting people without realizing it.

[@nerysghemor5781]

@@LimegreenSnowstorm TBH my mom won’t tell me everything that went down between her and her sister. But one thing I can tell you is don’t be catty and put an article in a public newsletter with a huge part in it about resenting your little sister for getting you in trouble, and not even running it by said sister first. (Honestly I think she DOES resent my mom, for a LOT of BS things.)

[@LimegreenSnowstorm]

@@nerysghemor5781 Holy Guac! Yeah I think I can successfully avoid doing that 😵‍💫

[@aubreys1675]

This video is like 3 in one! First, listening to what they’re saying, 2nd reading the mental notes on the side, and 3rd with the joke captions. Well done, as always!

[@whitneyd6827]

ENFJ 2w3 here, aka the classic. First of all the way you put the Ti "facts" about people over to the left is hilarious. That's exactly how my mind works. I'm going to go through and give my personal thoughts on each type cause why not. Sorry for the essay ESFP: I'm jealous of your dom Se and how you captivate people with no effort INFP: not sure I know any. You seem kindhearted and low Te doesn't bother me much, it means I won't be hassled ISFJ: you're really sweet and when you're willing to open up it's very special and introspective. Remember to stand up for yourselves (as I don't take my own advice) ENFP: your creativity is unmatched and that's super cool. The ENFP in my life has *strong* Te and it's threatening lol ENTJ: a good friend of mine is among you. She definitely thinks I'm weird. Right back at her, your priorities confuse me ISTJ: idk if I agree with this interpretation, you're very comfortable with yourselves. Step dad is one of you and we get along ok. Your inflexibility does annoy me I'll be honest ISFP: I admire your passion, FiSe is a really interesting combo. Your creative projects can be fascinating ESTP: you're insane, it's kinda hot INTJ: you're intimidating but I'm impressed ENTP: 💜 let's have talks about random things ESFJ: sorry, this is accurate. I don't dislike you I just want to know what you're thinking and you refuse to tell me INTP: please put up with me long enough to have some deep talks. Inferior Fe is adorable. INFJ: I love you with all my heart 10/10 would recommend ESTJ: if you hassle me I'll procrastinate even more in protest. You have the potential to be so fun, let loose a little ENFJ: a good friend of mine is an ENFJ 9w8. We'd do anything for each other and I appreciate that. We can be obnoxious and we know it. We do in fact have piss poor memory. ISTP: side descriptions are accurate. The ISTP in my life is one of my favorite people. Love your goofy side and how passionate you are about your interests, I'm down to experience them with you. We're both ride or dies, I dig that.

[@HaHaHaLMFAOtv]

Umm, excuse me but how did you get inside my head?? I’ve been watching so much of this content I could easily recognise almost all of them! The ENFJ one too… and I had good laugh at myself, so thank you 😂😂😂 p.s. I think there’s not enough content on ENFJs on YT ☹️

[@HaHaHaLMFAOtv]

Also one of my best friends is ISTJ. I like how different we are and there’s so much I can learn from them 😊

[@karenhanson359]

@simply_A because we only view it we don’t comment on the content or engage as much, so creators don’t make as much content for us. We don’t get the same enjoyment from the digital world that other types do; we’d rather have an irl connection etc.

[@kashishrawat6947]

@@karenhanson359 totally agreed

[@WolfoxBR]

Well, I'll just say that the world is lucky I'm suppressing stuff! Brilliant as always, kristin. Cheers!

[@cathyhart3946]

Best comment ever! 😆

[@KierstynStJohn]

You do a great job of showing every personalities’ strengths and flaws equally. There’s a lot of low key roasting of the ENFJs here (especially in the captions) and I love it haha. Often the ENFJ is portrayed as our (ENTJ’s) much more likeable cousin, but they definitely have a dark side too.

[@cathyhart3946]

I hate to admit that I got my "feelings hurt" a bit while watching the captions. Probably because I needed to hear it. (ENFJ)

[@LimegreenSnowstorm]

We definitely do! (ENFJ here) my favorite villain I’m writing is an ENFJ. He knows exactly how to be likeable and gaslight and he 100% uses it to his advantage. Meanwhile I’m here constantly worrying that I’m doing that on accident😫

[@empressofhearts7300]

@@cathyhart3946 Haha this is a comedy skit, you silly, it can't hurt us. Surely.

[@betz5359]

My enfj love and I (infj) are always psychoanalyzing each other and our relationship. Like, we share our analysis with each other, ... it's honestly such a joy and so fun... never loved talking with someone as much as I love to talk and spend time with him.

[@emilys3638]

I do the same with my INFJ husband! I'm an ISFP, but have always been interested in psychology, and his influence has definitely enhanced that. There's something so satisfying about an Ni-Ni connection, even though mine is tertiary! Really great to be able to use one another's insights to more effectively and compassionately navigate the world together.

[@YellaSpiceFamily]

My parents are this pairing, and I (their oldest) am another ENFJ. Psychoanalysis was THE mode of dinner table conversation, every night. For some reason the other four siblings were a lot less keen: no idea why. 🤣

[@ginocastillo8272]

The heads up display text just goes to show we ENFJs are emotionally congnizant robots sent to this earth as reverse Terminators... Affirminators

[@danielabenitez1264]

I love the fact that these goggles are now updated, more advanced, and come with the analysis of each type, besidestheir own speech

[@nospecialmeaning2]

That’s because one cannot fit everything ENFJ thinks about a person into 15 seconds :D

[@gorgonheap9770]

Immediately considered Googling the sleeping habits of gerbils. Restarted the video with UK captions and forgot about it until a caption reminded me. Trying to remember to do so as I type this... but I've found some really warm receptions as the fully engaged ENTP. "My boyfriend doesn't like to hear about my job," a friend once told me after spilling for a half-hour about how her company was helping market and distribute COVD vaccines. "Well, it's very interesting, and you're doing something important and helpful to the world," I said while thinking actually *doing* that job would bore me to death.

[@BrodieBr0]

LOL I love the text overlays like the ENFJ is using their ''observation computer chip'' in their brains. Being the ENFJ introverted brother (INFJ) I've often felt my brain was like a PC with backgroud processes always running behind a main process. 😂Great work as always Kristin!

[@scottlang7271]

As an INFP, it probably depends upon what mood I'm in as to whether I feel I have achieved anything of substance. If I'm feeling externally focused, such as for an upcoming high school reunion, then, yes, definitely not. But at other times, when I'm really engaged with what I am doing, then it feels like progress and substance. My art work is a lot better than it was 20 years ago; even though I do it for fun, the practice of doing it has improved it. And then there are the moods I get when I'm in the clouds. At such times, I tend to think "well, what would a lion care for the opinions of the sheep?" I am old enough to realise that all of us see this differently at different times, and at the end of the day, I'm on my journey, achievements or not, and others are on theirs. Acting with kindness, compassion and patience is the way to go.

[@dvdraymond]

Thank you for including the reference for PINEAPPLE in the subtitles. On my first watch through without subtitles I fondly remembered it, but thought "man, I'm gonna have to dig through half her videos to find it again". So when on my second watch with the subtitles you gave the reference it was awesome :)

[@CamzCritiques]

ExFJs being critical of IxFPs is so true. when you know us long enough you have no choice to resort to tough love and then our relationship will never be the same

[@Caleb-zl4wk]

Yet more proof that the istj is awesome and underrated

[@tatyannafrancis9935]

Watching your videos (especially the goggles ones) a second time with the UK captions is such a treat! You really outdo yourself Kristin! 💛

[@juricatomicic4829]

INFJ: there's a person I suspect is ENFJ, and we often deep dived into psychoanalysis of someone we know, who recently did something bad. Always trying to find reasons why someone did that bad thing, and what's his/her background story for that.

[@karenhanson359]

Yes, this is my favorite activity on earth: using my superpowers to draw a multitude conclusions about someone based on an extremely limited interaction 😂 That said, I’m interested in analyzing both the bad AND the good…but same concept. -ENFJ

[@truepeace3]

Ok, this was hysterical! The beeping data in the head as we ENFJs size up the people were around. 😂 The ESFP had me LOL, cuz that’s exactly how I feel about a close family member! Hahaha! The rest are spot on too. Great insights! And the PROJECT ALERT 🚨 had me rolling on the floor laughing!

[@simbax710]

I feel like our best quality can also be our worst quality. Caring deeply for people is so crucial, but when you're just invading peoples personal space, it can be incredibly heavy and no one wants to be around you in casual settings. Keep it to a minimum, and catch yourself when you feel like you're overstepping and tell yourself YOU do NOT need to be the hero of everyone's story. Our job isn't to fix people, especially to people who don't want to be fixed, you're only going to drive them away. Relax and focus on yourself! Create those healthy boundries! -Also ENFJ

[@bellaramsay2724]

Se savior

[@Spectacular-Spider-Dan]

Hey Kristin! I loved you singing a couple videos ago! So, "16 Personalities In A Musical" is happening when?

[@BillyBob-lt5nr]

This must happen. -ENTP

[@TheSimplelifemama]

I love this idea!!! 😍 That would be so cool!!

[@WolfoxBR]

Oh, you can be SURE it's coming. ;)

[@emilys3638]

OOOOOH yes please!!!! I don't always like musicals but I feel confident that Kristin would do it VERY well. High hopes now!!

[@dearkristin]

It's a "goal" on my Patreon page!

[@jacobwiren8142]

"I'm starting to make you doubt there's good in everyone..." Yessssss... as an INTJ I can confirm...

[@-emir5484]

ENFJs tend to be Enneagram 2s and this really fits well with the Enneagram 2 vibes, especially the ENTJ where the ENFJ feels prideful for "doing good in the world" by putting up with people like the ENTJ. For 2s, doing good is a way for them to reassure themselves of their benevolence and superiority hence their vice is pride and you can see similar concepts throughout this video

[@pedrolap5473]

Honestly, glad I'm an enfj but not a 2. Being a 2 seems exhausting. Being a 6 is so much better, you just spend ur day overthinking 😅

[@-emir5484]

@@pedrolap5473 Lmaoo how does that even work, ENFJ 6? I'm guessing your wing is 7 rather than 5 then. That's so interesting

[@pedrolap5473]

@@-emir5484 Yeah I'm an Enfj 6w7 tritype 641. Imma rly out of the box enfj actually 😅 but u can think of it as if I'm an infj who can't stand one day without social interaction

[@-emir5484]

@@pedrolap5473 Lmaooo thats awesome

[@pedrolap5473]

@@-emir5484 Thanks ig 😅

[@Lilly_annn]

As an intj, I do do this. I also analyse people and situations so I can see if they are worthwhile.

[@firtp5209]

Hey, INTJ do have good in them ! Just because I'm planning world domination using microshiped montain lions doesn't mean my intents are evil !

[@chronattx]

Aw, I need 10 hours version of "I'm suppressing wounds"

[@hildyjohnson692]

These "through the eyes" vids are fantastic, esp. as someone who's not sure what type they belong to (probs xnfj of some kind)! Any chance of doing the INFJ soon? I'd love to get a sense of how they see others too, and if it might be less INTENSE and "boundaries? what boundaries?" than the ENFJ!

[@Smd3580]

I love how much thought & effort you put into these. You never go for the low hanging fruit. It's a bonus that you are also contradicting the ESFP stereotype.

[@anival9576]

3:18 ENFJs and ISTPs share all their cognitive functions... they're just in the exact opposite order.

[@PockyFiend]

I knew you'd hit the nail on the head with the ENFJ.

[@melissaholm1988]

I love these. I can’t wait for the ENFP one.

[@RavenStrawman]

I just know I'm going to love the crazy Ne moments as much as that dark realistic empathy that pops up when we encounter Fe doms with our Fe critic function 😂

[@sudowpa2]

Yup! I am an intj. Did exactly that to my enfj wife. I tested people around her to show her that most people are only thinking about themselves and told my wife that you should only make yourself happy and not others because they honestly don't give a damn about you.

[@cathyhart3946]

It's hard on us ENFJ's to realize that people are only thinking about themselves. We are SO interested in people, that we can't imagine that and it throws us for a loop.

[@nerysghemor5781]

People assume the ENFJ and INFP would be a perfect pair but nope! It’s funny how the ENFJ finds the INFP infuriating but I’m sitting here finding the imposition of their psychoanalyzing annoying as hell. Not to say we INFPs don’t psychoanalyze…we do, but we tend to not like the idea of *imposing* solutions on other people. The ENFJ on the other hand…oh God I have the most inappropriate comparison coming up…it’s like what they really want to say is, “STOP RESISTING! STOP RESISTING!” 🚔🚓🚨 (Just like a Te dom and their plans but with feelings instead.) -INFP

[@cathyhart3946]

ENFJ here - I've never understood why people say INFP's are my soul mate? WHAT? I don't understand them at all. I find Fe and Fi to sometimes be a toxic mix. Fe thinking Fi is self-centered and Fi thinking Fe is fake. I appreciate INFP's, and can learn a lot from them, but I would never say they were my soul mate. 🤔

[@nerysghemor5781]

@@cathyhart3946 I think it’s nice that you can see that it goes both ways. Unfortunately most of my Fe-dom experiences haven’t been good, except for a couple of really sweet ESFJs (they tend to stay away from the really deep psychoanalyzing and focus more on creature comforts, so it’s not quite as scary). I know there have to be cool ENFJs…I just started out with bad luck.

[@cathyhart3946]

@@nerysghemor5781 I think I'm a cool ENFJ. 😎 I've learned over the years how to read people more and more. I know when to back off when not wanted. I also had an INFJ Dad who taught me some things about understanding people. Not every ENFJ is a manipulative psychoanalysing nutcase as portrayed in this video. 🤣

[@nerysghemor5781]

@@cathyhart3946 Don’t worry, I know any type CAN be a healthy and balanced one even where I’ve had bad experiences. (ESTPs are the other ones I’ve had only one possible positive experience with.)

[@johnknight9150]

[INTJ] My ENFJ (we have extroverts who adopt us) uses me as a resource of weird outsider perspectives and technical help. I think he likes me in small doses. Always comes back to check in though.

[@artemissrijan473]

Enfj here, can confirm I've used my INTJ friend for weird perspectives.

[@YellaSpiceFamily]

@@artemissrijan473 exercise caution: that can become addictive - an ENFJ who went and married her weirdo INTJ 😜 (but seriously - no regrets)

[@johnknight9150]

@@artemissrijan473 Oooh, another male ENFJ - greetings, Mister Unicorn! I'm older than the ENFJ, so it's more a big brother to little brother kind of thing, but I think that age difference gives me a kind of mystic oracle vibe to his naive puppy dog eyes - I don't know what the dynamic would be like if we were the same age. He does infectious enthusiasm, I do detached logic. I think we secretly recognise each other's utility. Is that how you are with your INTJ friend?

[@johnknight9150]

@@YellaSpiceFamily Oh, that sounds like a nightmare, arrghhh! I'd marry an INFJ, but an ENFJ marriage sounds exhausting... :-P

[@YellaSpiceFamily]

@@johnknight9150 we prefer to think of it as "ambitious" 😜 - But really and truly I think it's more complex than cognitive function matchup somehow; I've a lot of INTJ friends, too, many of whom I've known from very young, and there was never any romantic potential with any of them: we definitely drain one another. But this INTJ and I were such sure and total friends, so fast (although it took us a while to date: it was utterly platonic for a couple years), going everywhere together - there's something unaccounted for that makes it work here: life contexts and goals, overall energy levels - something. I'm glad I didn't know anything about MBTI back then (we've been married fifteen years this summer): it might've biased me.

[@kyurei4478]

I really like how very simple, yet potentially polysemous the INFJ' sentence is. It can simply imply that ENFJ and INFJ are excited to psychoanalyze people together but also ask the more profound question of who actually psychoanalyzes the other in the same time. Knowing Kristin's attention to details, I would say it was intentional. If so, she gets the INFJ's wittiness very well. Also props to her for finding a good way to translate ENFJs mind concretely in video because I think it might not be that simple to figure out. I'm only an INFJ, which means Fe isn't my first function so I don't actually know if informations appear that consciously in ENFJ's mind since it's like a second nature for them. But I can definitely tell that it's quite close to how that would be in my mind with Fe as a secondary function.

[@emilys3638]

Whoa! That's a deep insight into a double meaning there, and I love it! Thanks for sharing that! And for introducing me to a new fascinating word, "polysemous". I'm going to have to see if my fellow word-loving brother is familiar with that one yet! (He's INTP and I'm ISFP and we sometimes exchange newly-discovered words. Actually, most of my family members enjoy that. Our favorite game growing up was Boggle.)

[@zzzcocopepe]

I kind of think she doesn't like xNFJ types after reading the captions on these.

[@cathyhart3946]

@@zzzcocopepe I felt the same way. I'm an ENFJ and I felt a wee bit misunderstood. Maybe I'm just being overly sensitive. 🤔😆

[@cathyhart3946]

Oh my word, I love INFJ's SO MUCH!! I love their use of words (polysemous ❤). I love that I understand them so well. I love that they tickle my Ti and help to draw out my inner logic. I love their use of Fe (not "extra" like my tendency). I just love, love, love them. I wish I had an INFJ best friend. I only know a few casually.

[@kyurei4478]

@@emilys3638 Thanks a lot for your comment. You're welcome ! That's just common Ni thing really: deep insights, connecting the dots and seeing all the possibilities. It's all about underlying meanings. People with it as their dominant function easily see and usually talk with double meanings so they're really witty people. The downside of it is people usually think we're a bit crazy for seeing connections "everywhere" when they don't see it as concrete or justified so we're usually misunderstood. But that's because we live a lot in the abstract world so we can identify the chain of events that leads to a real consequence. That's where the Ni "seer" reputation comes from, precisely because we don't draw conclusions out of nowhere and we're usually correct. But just like every prediction, it doesn't always happen. We're just good bettors ah ah ! Sometimes I end up finding new meanings to other's ideas but maybe it makes it look even better in the end. So maybe there wasn't a double meaning but the sentence can still make you think of it so I would say it still represents INFJ pretty well anyway. I'm glad to know someone find it interesting. I'm also proud if you've learn a new word, glad to help ! I bet an INTP would know it, they're so knowledgeable. Loving to learn endlessely is one thing INTPs and INFJs have in common I think. Learning more useful words leads me to more precision, which I love. It can also give an old school style and I find it funny. And thanks again for making me discover Boggle. I didn't know about this game. It sounds very fun to play. I think I'll try it.

[@Freshfish111]

I love ISTPs! But, they are challenging nut to crack for this ENFJ. That's one thing I like about them. Once you figure out what they like, or better yet, what they don't like, they are easy to talk to. They are the best for practical, to-the-point advice and observations. Also, once they decide they like you, they are loyal!

[@Perpetually_curious0511]

The animations were really creative and fabulous- would love to see more of them. Love seeing you trying out new styles in your videos💖

[@talllighthouse]

I'm a mix between the istp and the enfj. I do a quick analysis of everyone to know where the trauma lies in order to avoid it. I generally neither want trouble nor connection, I just want to be left in peace.

[@Ant-ux9wh]

ISTP is the ENFJ subconscious. When an ENFJ is in grip stress they can act like an ISTP. I've gotten both ENFJ and ISTP when taking the test before

[@rachelrichey8567]

ENTP here...I often "connect" with people who think all our interests are common and we should be best friends. I try to be really up front that we will have amazing conversations but are extremely unlikely to end up as long term friends, but they rarely take me at my word. I can't tell you how many people have ended upset with me when I don't want to make plans with them or even exchange numbers. I just love a good concept discussion.

[@BillyBob-lt5nr]

I had a conversation with an older acquaintance at a house warming party once, he and a friend of mine were trying to make an interesting tool he'd come up with for his guitar. I joined in out of curiosity. After a couple minutes my friend left to talk to his wife or something but I stayed in the convo for another 20 minutes at least, bouncing ideas off of each other, I was very pleased, felt like I was connecting with the guy, but then he asked something very specific about actually playing the guitar like "do you ever get blisters right here" or something like that, and I said "no I've never really played guitar" He laughed uncomfortably and said "You don't even play?" and I said "not really, I tinkered with one for a couple weeks once a few years ago, but..." Then he cut me off, "Why are you even interested in this whole conversation then?!" He seemed confused and angry. I was pretty taken aback at the sudden turn, it was kind of funny too though. I never had another conversation with the guy. -ENTP

[@rachelrichey8567]

@@BillyBob-lt5nr story of my life. Perfect example.

[@draspotnuk]

I used to have an ENFJ boss that would bring candy in the mornings or treats. in morning meeting he would pay attention to anyone who takes them. Then later in the afternoon he’d approach anybody who took the snacks to talk with them and get them to open up. Then once the coworkers were softened he would ask them for favors, like pick up extra shifts etc. then if they said no, he’d bring up the fact that he brought in snacks and that he cares about you. I never bit because I never took the snacks. Every nice action seemed to always have an ulterior motive so I just shut it out. He would always get upset and be like “how come we never talk? You never tell me about anything.” And I would tell him “I don’t like to mix my work life with home life.” Which would be enough for the dude to think something’s wrong but enough of a rule to respect. Little did he know, I am just the most boring person alive.

[@trinaq]

Yep, that sounds like a quintessential ENFJ move, alright. They can be VERY cunning and manipulative if they want to be. I suspect that INTPs and ISTPs are the least likely to get along with the ENFJ, because they possess inferior FE, and see things more logically, as opposed to emotionally.

[@ceciliaw1065]

That just sounds like the most manipulative and toxic person ever lol. I’m an ENFP that’s super super open and willing to talk about anything, but I always intuitively kept a distance from this ENFJ friend, i could just see how she has a mask on 95% of the time. I really cannot stand disingenuousness.

[@cathyhart3946]

That is a very immature ENFJ. I am one and most decidedly DO NOT act like that. A mature ENFJ would understand that others aren't fooled by their manipulations and will care enough about how they are perceived not to do it. (I feel like my weakness is more in wanting people to like me than to manipulate them.)

[@karenhanson359]

There are toxic/unhealthy versions of every type and you definitely found an unhealthy ENFJ. Because we understand other people so well we can use that info to manipulate them. A healthy ENFJ might use manipulation on occasion - but almost always for the greater good. An unhealthy ENFJ can use their powers for evil & you’ve seen that, unfortunately (& it sounded awful) 😬 I think our type is most likely to be a cult leader (when comparing unhealthy versions of all of the types) 😂🤷🏼‍♀️ - ENFJ

[@chakawhyte5753]

Just been looking up sleeping patterns of rodents, apparently chlorpyrifos and a high fat diet could affect their sleep and could lead to sleep apnea…I once spoke to a guy about steam engines for ten minutes in the end he invited me to a steam engine festival and even said He’d arrange it with his sister so that I could stay the night at hers.

[@rickandrygel913]

Did you go to the steam engine festival? Did it manage to keep you entertained?

[@chakawhyte5753]

@@rickandrygel913 Nah, I just have a talent of knowing just enough about something that lets people open up, I have zero interest in steam engines it’s just I like it when people have passion for something

[@soapmaker2263]

@@chakawhyte5753 A steam engine festival actually sounds pretty neat.

[@kwilk1984]

Well done again. Absolutely love the UK subtitles in combination with the stats on "ENFJ vision".

[@cleoross9595]

I'm to have to watch all your videos twice! Once without subtitles, once with. Twice the jokes!!

[@louisamitchell3295]

I am an ENFj who occasionally morphs into INFj, and I approve of this video. 😉 The descriptions for ESFp, INFj, and ENFj are especially accurate. 😂 I love the typed-out analyzes! There are sooo many times that I visualize words in my mind that way, as I analyze people.

[@maiki5962]

As an ENFJ, I'm telling you that you're pretty accurate.

[@iwashere583]

It's funny because we really do always look for what must be really deep inside people huh? To be fair, I still do believe everyone is a complex human being but us ENFJs just gotta face the fact that we cant unpack everyone! Btw kristin, I love how you put our psychoanalysis in the video as sort of a side thing happening as we interact with ppl, it's quite accurate lol. I'm also the type to not openly 'give therapy' like the ENFJ speaking in the video because it's obv making other ppl uncomfortable (the Fe still sticking it out haha)

[@phoebeokoomian4103]

I am really loving these "Through the Eyes of" videos!

[@robmangeri777]

Your take on ENTP is accurate. Therapy would be fun and an interesting learning exercise. Lots of things are also interesting. I pretty much confront hurt and wear it out I think so if you dig for it you might find it somewhere hiding from me lol!

[@averagecatlover4635]

lmao - I'm an ISTJ and my ENFJ mother sometimes gets annoyed with me and views me as apathetic when she can't get an emotional reaction out of me, I just go 🧍‍♀️🗿 every time and it confuses her lol

[@heidilauser3199]

Okay, that's it! I am an ENFJ and to my knowledge I Don't Psychoanalyze everyone! And I do try to "figure out self" a lot! And if I do happen to think something about someone I'm not going to say it out loud! To my knowledge, I'm not creepy or super intrusive, and one of my nightmares is being manipulative, so I try not to be! So there! Watching too many of your videos today and had to say it 😅No hard feelings! 🙃💙

[@aoifeoconnell]

Me trying to listen to Kristin, read the Eng (UK) subtitles and watch the text appearing on the left hand side while also trying to guess the types before it pops up all at the same time 👀👀👀

[@zzzcocopepe]

Are you ENFP

[@aoifeoconnell]

@@zzzcocopepe INFJ 😂

[@Heliorhodonite]

Love this video and the ENFJ on "analysis before unpack or not" mode. Thanks for your work and the subtitles again, they are great. O/

[@hallyhop]

As an INFP with an ENFJ mom, that statement was 1000% accurate to my mom. We always push each other’s buttons. I love her and I know she loves me and we do have good times. But my gosh we really clash all the time

[@Soy_boi]

As a INTP, I audibly started chanting no when my section came up. I didn’t realize that ENFJs are to be avoided.

[@peachesandcream8753]

The INTJ resonated with me. I am the very being that is making you aware that not everyone has goodness inside of them.

[@johnsanders8379]

Gerbils have a unique sleeping pattern that is neither nocturnal nor diurnal. Gerbils are metaturnal, which means they sleep and wake up at different times throughout the day and night. They usually sleep for one to four hours at a time, depending on the temperature, light, and noise levels. Gerbils can sleep in various positions, such as on their backs, sides, or with their heads tucked between their legs. Gerbils need about 12 hours of sleep per day to stay healthy and energetic.

[@defmaybe-s2u]

In my experience, ENFJs are master wound-suppressors..takes one to know one ig

[@cathyhart3946]

Naw. Not all ENFJ's are like what she portrays. I'm not at all into psychology. I do, however, naturally pick up on the personality of a person. I can easily tell how they are feeling.(I tend to use my Ni to guess "why" they may be feeling or acting a certain way, and I've been known to get in trouble doing that). But overall, it's not about "wound suppressing" for me. I think that stuff is annoying.

[@lovelywizard-i2c]

I see a lot of memes shipping ENTP × INFJ.... But bro they gotta watch this video!!!!

[@antizero7604]

"...But probably still suppressing wounds" 🤣🤣🤣

[@dsnunez09]

The DKU (DearKristinUniverse) is consistent. I spotted the INFJ by their sweater 🤭 The INFJ is always wearing clothes that I, myself an infj, would happily and most definitely wear 🤣 Seroiusly now: I love the attention to deatils and how your acting begins way before you put yourself in front of the camera, when you choose each outfit and do all the preparations

[@zzzcocopepe]

I am an infj, I always wear gray and light blue. But I am a male. It's funny because I only noticed a few years ago that I always wear these colors. I tried branching out and now I have some maroons also lol

[@zzzcocopepe]

Apparently esfp is detail-oriented, maybe that's why she does these so well. It's kind of baffling to me how good she is at this

[@ullaireneeriksen7473]

😂😂 HOW did you nail this SOOOOO perfectly-!?! Love, an ENFJ 😂❤

[@TaunellE]

It's okay. I kinda like being roasted. To be truthful, I psychoanalyze everyone.. Everyday. I do it involuntary. I like it. 10 out of 10 people, I do it so I can understand and be on your side. I exist to stand up for people apparently. 💙

[@cathyhart3946]

It's not like we are even TRYING to psychoanalyze people. It's just natural. I find that people usually appreciate that I understand and genuinely care about them. There are times when I realize I need to back off, but most of time my social encounters are good ones.