Denmark vs USA: Mom Life in General / American in Denmark / Expat Life

[@chengifoo7603]

I don't celebrate Mother's Day but apparently my son who is 15 does!! :-). Last year, he went to the florist and selected flowers to form his own bouquet and surprised me with that plus a card thanking me for being his mom and staying strong when it mattered most so that was really a pleasant surprise and really gratifying to know that he did appreciate me after all and took his own initiative to do something so sweet. Nice!!

[@j.j.3297]

Thank you for having a guest speaker with you; that was refreshing and insightful. I don't live in DK. So I just wanted to say I like how practical and logical she was. I hope you can have more guests on your channel from time to time.

[@martin_hansen]

My mom would be mad if we tried to celebrate moms day. She will not be bought out, by a gift and a thankou once a year. She wants to be treated nice all year :-)

[@MyNewDanishLife]

The point is that it doesn't just happen once a year, but having one day that is a bit more special than the others.

[@HejMette]

My mom is the same way. I usually just text her “happy mother’s day” and honestly I think she thinks that’s too much 😂

[@missannina100]

It's very different how mom groups works, in mine the children was 4 weeks apart, we met once a week, and our children are almost 3 now and we still have contact and see each others. So it's very different 😊

[@MyNewDanishLife]

It is nice you are still in contact! :)

[@jeanricard918]

In my famile we generally say that Mother’s Day was invented by the florists and Father’s Day was invented by the tobacconist. Generally in my family your day is your birthday.

[@yvesgysel9834]

My Mother finds this important and she really loves flowers. So I always make sure she gets her flowers with a nice card and we go out to a nice restaurant with the family. She's always so happy then. Family is so important. I respect and love both my parents. My Mom taught me Empaty, Compassion... My Dad taught me responsibility, fixing Problems and he set baunderies. Children do need both of their parents in their lifes.

[@sorensanderskov]

I think we look at stay-at-moms, same as the normal American look at stay-at-home dads. And I think less Danish women create their basic identity on their being "mother", but just "has children" as an element in their general life.

[@MyNewDanishLife]

Interesting

[@lisbethfrost5024]

Firstly, most Danish women want to work and have an adult life of their own. Secondly, it is important for the children to learn how to socialize with other children from different backgrounds. It would be hard to do that through private playgroups

[@MyNewDanishLife]

@@lisbethfrost5024 Not necessarily. Our playgroup was very large an very diverse. I guess that is not very common in Denmark, since even our smaller towns are bigger than mid-sized Danish towns. There is also not much diversity in them. I think it is very different depending on the country. Very interesting thoughts though.

[@lisbethfrost5024]

@@MyNewDanishLife sorry, I meant in Denmark where societies are very homogenous outside of the big cities.

[@jimmybaldbird3853]

Thats sad

[@pavelsmom1089]

Anne Dorte got jewelry too... go girl! 👍 Kelly, you are thoughtful and your videos are always fun and informational. 👍

[@MyNewDanishLife]

Thank you! :)

[@mlo3784]

Maybe it has to do with that danish women today have an employment rate of 79.7% and one employment frequency of 70.5%. For comparison is on average, only 55.1%of women in the EU are in employment. In the US it's 55,4% (before Covid) and the highest since 1990 was in 2000 were it was 57,5%.

[@MyNewDanishLife]

Very interesting! :)

[@patrickcraig6032]

When I was young we would visit my Danish Grandmother.All my Aunts and Uncles and cousins would celebrate Mother's Day there as well.It was an afternoon of great eating and singing.Miss those times. Royal Copenhagen used to put out a Mother's Day plate every year.My mother got one for my son 1977 and daughter 1980.

[@MyNewDanishLife]

That sounds very nice! :)

[@BrendaN-hs8kx]

I love this video and I love your friend. She is so easy going and is very good to te the difference. I think mothers day is like the u.s. some people go all out and some don't . I liked this video alot

[@MyNewDanishLife]

Thanks, Brenda! ;) This same friend just commented on my buckeye post that she wants to come over and help me eat them. LOL I have a feeling she might have to fight someone for a sample. Any guesses who!?

[@KHValby]

No real rules here. It "differs" from family to family ! My Brother and I (just) used to send Flowers and a box of good Chocolates ! I know..., we were awful kids 😪 ! Today! We'd invite her out to a good Restaurant and a night in town 😎 ! You never know what you have, until you lose it 😌 ! Totally agree! Mind your own business, if you don't know the full story 😉 ! Works in all parts of life 🙂 ! Happy Mom day to both of U 😎 !!

[@MyNewDanishLife]

Thanks! :)

[@sams3015]

Mother’s Day, tradional called Mothering a Sunday here, takes place on fourth Sunday of Lent here usually in March for Ireland, the U.K. and also across some commonwealth countries. It is similar to America but I feel probably more toned down. The advertising starts fairly early, often not long after Valentine’s Day. I think this partly because it’s a moving date so it’s a lot harder to drive it home. Usually we would just do a lunch or get a gift however in recent years some families would choose to do lunch on a Sunday before or After or another day during the week because it gets so crowded. There also rumours you get crappier quality food because it’s such a busy day, a few friends in the restaurant industry have told me never order the set menu that’s related to an occasion / holiday because it’s sometimes more expensive, rushed and lesser quality ingredients. So maybe it’s good the Danes haven’t set menus for it

[@MyNewDanishLife]

That hasn't been my experience (with the food) in the USA, but then again, we would tend to take her to her favorite places and get the normal menu! :) Thanks for sharing. I knew there were other dates, but I wasn't sure of when! ;)

[@tobimobiv1]

Honestly I wasn't aware of mothers day until the first mothers day had passed by after my oldest daughter was born and I didn't do anything about it. I learned the never to forget it again. Hehe.

[@MyNewDanishLife]

Oh man! That is funny! :)

[@fatimaolan3125]

I hope both of you enjoyed your day. Of course we all have to be celebrated. I always celebrated mom when she was alive. The least I can do for all the things she has done for me. It's not mandatory but I have an excuse for party or going out etc

[@Murky_Heron]

Mandatory spent time with me😂 this is pure gold))

[@MyNewDanishLife]

If you had boys like mine, you would understand! LOL :)

[@kirstenjakobsen1651]

My mother hated mothers day and wouldn’t celebrate it.. She hated gifts and would rather give me and my siblings gifts in-sted of recieving any.

[@hoxoh123]

What is the name of the town, you live in? I can't hear the name, when you mention it in your video"

[@lisbethfrost5024]

Ha ha ha, I was prepared to hear about sales tax (moms) and got something better. Thank you 😂

[@mortenlundbjrk7667]

,😄

[@MyNewDanishLife]

I'm not sure I know what you mean by "sales tax (moms)".

[@lisbethfrost5024]

@@MyNewDanishLife The difference between US and Denmark is that sales tax (valued added tax/meromsætningsafgift or “moms” in Danish) is added at check out in the states but is already included in the price in Denmark. I thought you were going to talk about that, not “moms” as in mothers. My bad 😉

[@MyNewDanishLife]

@@lisbethfrost5024 OHHHHH! I get it. I'm not that Danish to understand those things right away! LOL

[@johannesbjorner616]

Do American Mom’s always talk most of the time when there is guest?!

[@MyNewDanishLife]

I guess it depends on if that person is more comfortable in front of the camera like I am.

[@camillasaietz4856]

Always enjoy your infectious good mood 😃 wish my Danish friends were up for being filmed for youtube 😊 And No, there is nooooo escaping Karen - she's everywhere 😳

[@MyNewDanishLife]

Thanks! :)

[@jobs9096]

Wow

[@chengifoo7603]

Drinking cola is like drinking water here for most Danish kids. And also buying candy is part and parcel of the Danish life style for kids and adults. Parents love going with their kids on Fridays to the candy store to buy candy/slik. Slik Hygge :-)

[@MyNewDanishLife]

Believe me...I know. I have a Danish husband. I also have blood sugar problems, so it has been a struggle to lessen the intact of sugar in our house. I will keep trying though.

[@mumimor]

@@MyNewDanishLife My kids weren't allowed to drink cola either, and they survived the social stigma into adulthood, where they still don't drink cola. ;-)

[@MyNewDanishLife]

@@mumimor Rock on, mom! :)

[@martin_hansen]

Wauv are moms so judging? Im a dad an is often loud. Not angry, just loud ehen needed, ex. if we are in Bilka and i can't find them i just yel out, my daugters where quite embarrassed, so i had to explain to them "a dads job is to be embarrassing " 😊 But i newer got anything but a hidden smile from other parents.

[@MyNewDanishLife]

I yell too, and my kids give me a look. LOL It just saves time to yell "go back and get your coat" then having him walk all the way to me and have to go back! ;)

[@Nissebasse]

Er nogle dansker here

[@benthansen6961]

Nej, jeg er jyde. 🤣😂

[@Pippymint]

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[@MyNewDanishLife]

yes.

[@jesperlindbgmadsen6755]

Shame on you mom for not letting kids drink cola specialy for birthday parties ;)

[@MyNewDanishLife]

LOL. Yes...I can't think of anything worse. :)

[@humphreygokart2135]

CLICKBAIT WARNING!!! The comparison of the two different VAT systems promised in the intro image to this KZbin clip is NOWHERE to be found here. CLICKBAIT!!!

[@MyNewDanishLife]

Moms = Mothers...No where does this say anything about VAT. WTF

[@humphreygokart2135]

@@MyNewDanishLife Moms = VAT. If you want to be a Danish mum (check the spelling), you have to know about moms. It's 25 pct. on everything, incl. food, children's clothing, domestic fuel, books. All a bit more relevant to your average mum, I would say, than how to celebrate Mother's Day.

[@MyNewDanishLife]

@@humphreygokart2135 LOL It doesn't ONLY mean that! "Mum" is the British spelling. I know how to spell "mom" in American English. I could care less about taxes, so I am not going to talk about it. Sorry! Glad I could at least teach you one difference between British and American English. My work here is done. LOL :)

[@humphreygokart2135]

@@MyNewDanishLife There are geographically many different versions of English, including variations in spelling etc., but the version authorised for international use is British English, which is also what people are taught in Danish schools. Hence, when they see the word "Moms", they think not of some obscure spelling variation used in a far-off, former British colony but of the Danish word "moms", to a Dane meaning VAT. The word is in fact an abbreviation of "meromsætningsafgift" which, as you can see, is not defined as a tax in Denmark but a levy ("afgift"). So at least I could teach you something that might well be demanded in next year's indfødsretsprøve, like this: Is moms a) A tax? b) A levy? c) A US misspelling of the English word Mums? In any case, I was only "taking the mickey" in all friendliness right from the start, thinking you would get it. And perhaps you did, which would prove that Americans do have a sense of humour (or, if you insist, humor) after all. ;-)

[@MyNewDanishLife]

@@humphreygokart2135 I hate British spelling. As far as I am concerned, we improved that horrid word "mum". That would be what we call a type of flower. I also taught the Cambridge English program, and wouldn't you know that they accept American English with its pronunciations and spellings. I guess if they can, so can you. (All said with the most humor possible.) P.S. I am no where near close to taking the indfødsretsprøve. Even after 5 years, I am no closer to qualifying to take that test than a person who just "stepped off the boat". P.S.S. I don't know who "mickey" is, but I hope you put him back.