Why do players try to make nice guys into womanizers 😢
@Denmosocial9 ай бұрын
Socializers*
@Nickbronline9 ай бұрын
God forbid someone try to fix the dating scene
@randomsports52479 ай бұрын
@@Denmosocial dude why don't you do a collab with FNF?..it would be great
@DarkEagle999 ай бұрын
I do, and Ive been sucsessful at it. To see my man get revenge is very satisfactory for me, even if it wasnt me who did it. I just want the good guys to win, even it means them going bad.
@michaelmurphy87369 ай бұрын
@@DarkEagle99🐺👹🐺
@katnisskill10 ай бұрын
As a woman I approach a guy and told him i was interested, and was promptly shot down. All the green flags were there, we had talked and hung out a bit. Im just a fairly average looking 5'7 woman who doesnt wear makeup. Double checked for advice online and was told to just tell him, so I did. Absolutely ruined my courage to be straightforward again. Mad respect to you guys who keep at it.
@jot34619 ай бұрын
Don't worry some people are just not interested. Not worth to kick yourself for it. And honestly average looking girl with good personality is more than enough for most guys. For me it is important she is trustworthy and has some hobbies so we can talk about something interesting😀
@Barcodez55559 ай бұрын
I remember my niece saying that she wouldn't put her hair in a bun because one person said she looked like a chav..... the key word being one... bad experiences are also 100x times more powerful than good ones... they influence us way more and we tend to reflect on them way more when compared to good ones.... personally I love a girl without make up... for me a face full of make up shows me that she probably isn't my type.....
@zRendeRz9 ай бұрын
You sound wonderful 👑 Keep improving on yourself 👌🏼
@HaraShankar9 ай бұрын
honey...honey... another one
@CleverCheetah9 ай бұрын
I know exactly how you feel as a guy. Nothing we can do about it but move on if you meet another guy and are interested in him it’s okay to ask him for a date. You will get used to that feeling of no like I did.
@stormfury8910 ай бұрын
It’s simple, if she is REALLY into you, she would be the one to initiate a conversation, stand very close to you, and will be generally smiling no matter what you say to her. That’s basically as close to green light as you can get, speaking from experience. Otherwise, keep the convo short and keep it pushing. 🙂
@charlestaffe581910 ай бұрын
Yes, but if you’re not an extrovert she will lose interest quickly.
@stormfury8910 ай бұрын
@@charlestaffe5819Not if she is already attracted to you to begin with. The more attractive the guy is, the more girls are “forgiving” of his shortcomings.
@orange_turtle341210 ай бұрын
Its worth noting not all girls will do this. Its very much dependent on their personality. If they do initiate conversation, it is a huge green flag. But if they dont, it doesnt necessarily mean they dont like you.
@orange_turtle341210 ай бұрын
@@charlestaffe5819Being introverted isnt an objective turnoff. Some girls like them. Its a personal preference thing. I personally love introverted girls but I know damn well that isnt true for a lot of people.
@Fenuxx91110 ай бұрын
99% of girls don't do this unless your a jacked Chad. You have to be extroverted, talk with everyone *including* the girls you like. Learn how to banter with everyone, guys, girls, ugly girls, old women, old men, but close on the girls you like by setting up activities you want to do with them for a date. (Only ask for socials if the girl is actually receptive though - use common sense a little bit you can tell if a chick is interested in talking unless it's her job to be nice to you, don't waste your time on front desk girls that every dude in the world is also hitting on)
@hutaotao32668 ай бұрын
As a girl this is pretty accurate! Im glad you mentioned that most women are nice, cause many guys think I like them just from being myself. I am a naturally curious and happy person, I am also somewhat bold and will talk to most people but when I like someone I get very nervous and the best I can do is look in their direction/smile or place myself in a their space
@meeese6_8 ай бұрын
talk to girls that seem scared of me ✅ 📜 ✍️
@hutaotao32668 ай бұрын
@@meeese6_ LOLOLOL 😭😭 WELLLL THIS MIGHT NOT APPLY TO ALL
@mrosskne8 ай бұрын
must be nice to not have had your soul crushed by real life
@GUITARTIME20247 ай бұрын
Save the curiosity for females. Men will definitely make assumptions (I'm one).
@suspiciousstew11697 ай бұрын
Will keep this in mind
@Norrr310 ай бұрын
I hate when I have flash backs of a chick and realized months later that a girl liked me 😂😂😂
@alfredtheassassin_10 ай бұрын
The worst feeling ever lmfao
@georgecisneros528110 ай бұрын
All the worse when you get around to 40 or so, and the number of those missed opportunities rises into the dozens!😳😔
@nathan_something10 ай бұрын
You should try three years...
@ilovebutterstuff10 ай бұрын
Spending too much time in your head can lead to madness.
@Norrr310 ай бұрын
@@ilovebutterstuff really? That’s my safe space 😂😂
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
Let me know if you enjoy the whiteboard videos I love doing them haha
@64x8310 ай бұрын
yes do more daddy denmo
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
@@64x83 will do son
@ShredzShorts10 ай бұрын
Love it bro keep them coming 💪
@marius339110 ай бұрын
yes more please, not only is it useful but very entertaining
@failuretolaunchdrums10 ай бұрын
@Denmosocial collab with Hoe_Math! He does this type of shit all the time and it’s incredible.
@anthonylivingston799010 ай бұрын
he said most guys assume the girl is attracted to them, but Im the opposite. I always assume they're just being nice. Probably missed some opportunities.
@angel-k5j5j9 ай бұрын
Same
@ClintonMcCutchin9 ай бұрын
I see you like to 3 bet sir hahaha
@Denmosocial9 ай бұрын
all good bro now you know
@someguycalledcerberus98059 ай бұрын
Statistically, you probably didn't miss anything, and no girl was ever attracted to you 🥲
@anthonylivingston79909 ай бұрын
@@ClintonMcCutchin mainly OOP haha
@TZeldaOo10 ай бұрын
The only thing I disagree is that it’s not laziness that makes us want the girls we meet regularly through work or class. It’s because you can gather more information about person even without directly talking to them, you can already know if you two might be compatible, if she is single, how she acts with different people, etc. Then you can filter if the effort is worth it. It’s not lazy, it’s smart.
@elijahnierstheimer967410 ай бұрын
there is also a familiarity bias that can play into that as well
@poliglotajardineiro9939 ай бұрын
Sure! I agree with you! It does make a lot of sense.
@CleverCheetah9 ай бұрын
Efficiency is clever laziness - Echo
@everope8 ай бұрын
Familiarity supposedly makes your attractiveness go up in women, except if you're in the friendzone ofc
@MoonWalkerTexsRanger8 ай бұрын
It’s more possible because as far as I know, most of us are not model looking dudes. So the warm approach (don’t know if I use the right term) will be more likely to work: more time and occasions to display our personality, humor, skills, etc.
@BunnyWatson-k1w8 ай бұрын
If she mentions a "boyfriend" she is not into you.
@Ozdyy8 ай бұрын
or she is into cheating fantacies
@BunnyWatson-k1w8 ай бұрын
@@Ozdyy Women who mention the boyfriend rarely have a boyfriend. That was facts in 1986 and same in 2024.
@8HcT7 ай бұрын
It is hard when it is the opposite, they like you, you start to like them, no mention of boyfriend EVER, and you have to realise the bad way. And you end un feel like shit, because you are into her, she is into you, but not possible. Happened me like, lost count. Shit.
@prodwazzam7 ай бұрын
nahhh who would’ve thought
@maxhung697 ай бұрын
if she mentions she has a bf, reply "he's a lucky guy" n get her number as friends (more likely she'll give it to you). can play the long game
@Tsathogguah9 ай бұрын
If you ever doubt that being a man is hard, know this: we get kindness so rarely that we mistake someone being nice to us for being attracted to us!
@Kuruno_Stasis7 ай бұрын
For me I don’t assume they’re attracted to me, but rather I assume they’re trying to manipulate or play around with me. Maybe I just had too many encounters with fake kindness as a kid.
@ChrisPBacon-lu6wd2 ай бұрын
@Kuruno_Stasis yo same. I also feel bad that I think this way because it's not fair on the other person.
@lechero429510 ай бұрын
video starts st 36:32
@hugoeriksson98310 ай бұрын
Thanks, Denmo loves to hear himself speak, all the power to him but I ain't got time for that
@hopefullyanonymous346610 ай бұрын
@@hugoeriksson983facts lmao
@Norrr310 ай бұрын
Lmao I watched the whole video but this comment made me laugh
@coryleblanc10 ай бұрын
yeah he loves wasting peoples time, hour-long vids proves he sucks at summarizing
@WolfearOfficial10 ай бұрын
Thx man
@BeeHiveEater10 ай бұрын
Listened to it end to end, and I must say you're amazing, man. It's your kindness and compassion for both men and women that make you stand out and do it much better than the average speaker out there. Thank you so much.
@yummydougie9 ай бұрын
TLDR of the vid: Use common sense and basic social skills, they probably don’t like you most of the time and being nice, keep your options open
@mrosskne8 ай бұрын
where do we learn common sense and social skills?
@deangregory10198 ай бұрын
@@mrosskneby going outside and interacting with people
@joshuaortega27087 ай бұрын
🤣👌 I came to the video and the comments for this
@justinbyrge899710 ай бұрын
This question is the easiest to answer: she's just being nice. But if you want to know for sure, ask her out anyway, or whatever you kids do these days. Not all risks can be, or even should be, mitigated. Get used to rejection and accept it when it comes, because it will come more often than not. Or just be you and let her approach. But then again, that's another risk, isn't it? 😂😂😂 Good luck boys.
@christiansnaturestudio659910 ай бұрын
I always asked women out I like anyways lol
@mrosskne8 ай бұрын
women don't have to do anything, of course. because they're human and we're not.
@franciscolabastida46407 ай бұрын
I met a girl at a hike. Went out with her every day for a week, had me over for dinner with her mum. We planned a 4 day road trip together for the next week. Had an awesome time, ups and downs you know. Last day we were talking about love and stuff, I told her I love you, she told me she loved me. We called each other “my love”. Went our separate ways for some weeks, she went to a different country and I had to travel to a different country. Kept in touch through messages and FaceTimes of 2hrs. Then she decided to ghost me, I kept on messaging her and she told me she appreciated our friendship. Like, okay girls…😂
@Denmosocial7 ай бұрын
thanks for sharing brother. This happens sometimes but it proves you can meet women and have adventures. Keep going
@lycan249411 күн бұрын
have some self respect
@ariqrestyawan239 ай бұрын
56:42 hits me HARD, this perfectly described myself. I pretty much had that sort of tunnel vision for years until that one girl got married to someone else last month. Here I am now slowly realizing that's one of the best things to happen to me and it's not the end of the world, all without any hard feelings nor regret for having fallen for her to begin with. I'm more open to the options available to me now all the while I'm doing so much more to focus on myself
@Denmosocial9 ай бұрын
all good brother, now you know :)
@Afonso.Goncalves10 ай бұрын
Now this is finally a class I'll enjoy listening to, not falling asleep, this is the way Denmo.
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
lmao about time eh
@TazManiaLLC10 ай бұрын
Holy shit DENMO! 4 to 5 back to back bangers? You're spoiling us, but please don't stop
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
everyday this month buddy
@Donkeytalkz10 ай бұрын
@@Denmosocial LETS FUDGING GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
@radfoo7210 ай бұрын
Soaking in the information! Literally taking my whole day off to clean house and catch up listening to every Denmo vid released last week! Thanks Jack, I'm gradually developing the courage to put myself out there and make the first move!
@ChristianVandaos10 ай бұрын
Denmo, your commitment to giving quality information to the public in a witty manner inspires me to find ways to teach the world self help that people need like you do.
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
i do it for guys like you
@Josh-fp2qn8 ай бұрын
I love how positive you are that men who have never had luck with women can change their situation. So many men are living a sexless, dateless, mediocre life and it is a modern tragedy.
@ragulanperinpanathan134810 ай бұрын
dayum Denmo with daily uploads 😍 By the way thank you bro for the free content. I approached 20 women last week and i already set three dates this week. If everything goes right, I will become a womanizer by the end of the year. Like Bro, I literally made in this two months more progress to my goals with women than in my 26 years of existence. It's f*cking crazy. I did not expect that most of the women are really chill af😂 Don't listen to most Redpill gurus who say: "You need to be 6 feet tall, make 6-figures per year, have 6-pack abs and have a six inch dragon under your pants". I had none of the these and still managed to pull some baddies. I wish I could have found your channel sooner, but nvm I'll catch up on everything.
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
my man, send me an email sharing your story. absolute W
@ragulanperinpanathan134810 ай бұрын
Of course, what's your email adress?
@Noname-zv9cz10 ай бұрын
all of them! @@shyam9853
@Fenuxx91110 ай бұрын
@shyam9853 they all help pretty good. I watched 100+ of his videos in 3 months before signing up for socializer. I have 9 girls' numbers now, in only 3 months, and I'm hanging with 3 or 4 girls this week.
@Noname-zv9cz10 ай бұрын
Fucking W@@Fenuxx911
@MMKnight_110 ай бұрын
Had a girl that was attracted to me, but I blew it cuz I had no idea what to do. It was my first time chatting up a girl. Learnt a lot from those interactions though
@JeanClaud310 ай бұрын
That's the thing if you take too long to make a move she will lose interest and move on. Good for you tho at least you learned the process.
@MMKnight_110 ай бұрын
@@JeanClaud3 I took 5 days to ask her out which might be fine for some girls, but in hindsight, I should've done it the first day to not waste time and decrease my success.
@orange_turtle341210 ай бұрын
Happens to everyone. Unless your lucky you’ll inevitably botch one or two attempts before you land a good one.
@MMKnight_110 ай бұрын
@@orange_turtle3412 Thanks, needed some motivation =)
@thelifewithnate10 ай бұрын
Mission failed, but we'll get them next time! Nice man, just use those interactions and keep the lessons in mind!
@benzinschnueffler18710 ай бұрын
I love this new type of video. No editing, just Denmo in front of a whiteboard dropping nothing but value
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
OHHH BABY more like this to come
@BrocksJellyFilledDoughnuts9 ай бұрын
Thank you for making this video. I'm afraid to talk to men as someone trying to be social. I also avoid being friends with them to get rid of any "friendzone" accusations as well. I try to sympathize at least maybe coming to the conclusion that most women don't talk to them. A lot of them put on a deucebag or defensive persona in the event a girl does talk to them. That's where my sympathy stops. I feel bad, but I don't think it's ultimately my burden to apologize because their personal feelings are conflicted and I got caught in the crossfire. As someone who's very shy, the last kind of guy I'd approach trying to be social is a guy I'm attracted to. I wouldn't even know where to start. I'm only usually social with people I have neutral feelings about. I'd also like to add that a lot of this is a result of poor communication skills, and setting proper boundaries. A lot of women have poor communication skills, though at the very least know how to be "nice." A lot of these men who are unsuccessful have poor social skills and poor interpersonal skills overall. Chances are, she's only being nice. This is just more nuance as to why.
@anyo_mations8 ай бұрын
Something that’s always bugged me: why there a 100s of videos out there trying to dissect how women think. Why aren’t they more straightforward. It’s too complicated 😂
@hasiko_58 ай бұрын
They’re as complicated as their anatomy
@Josh-fp2qn8 ай бұрын
Most of them play games for attention and to impress other women.
@LefeverDream10 ай бұрын
The longer the better Denmo. (that’s what she said). Even if I don’t need these as much anymore, your channel is like my safe space lol. Every 1hr+ video is an instant click from me and makes my day.
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
gotchu homie I'm gonna do videos on other topics besides dating
@vaughnauderer607110 ай бұрын
I love these long, raw, fresh, videos. Thank you for everything you do, because of you I've made so much progress with girls.
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
gotchu brother, cant wait to see your success story
@isaacyasiputap10 ай бұрын
Bro I've given up already. Being played with too much. I'm learning to love and appreciate myself more and take care of my own needs first and trust the universe things will work out in their own time 💯🙏🏿. Great advice
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
giving up is for quitters homie I hope you get back into it in the future
@isaacyasiputap10 ай бұрын
Thanks brother. Will get back into it. Need more self confidence and need to get my body in shape. I think because I'm the nice guy they treat me as a friend. Thanks brother for the encouragement will put it into practice
@Norrr310 ай бұрын
@@isaacyasiputaptake a beta blocker and approach a bad 🐩
@hellwire458210 ай бұрын
@jimbofisher8904 Your comment makes literally no sense at all. do you even read the comments fully before you answer? or is this some kind of bot account?
@adrianchico888610 ай бұрын
Me to bro I’m not really focusing on girls right now life is not all about getting women yeah it does feel good to smash bad bitches but there’s more to life then that so many guys focus on the wrong things and wonder why they’re not where they’re supposed be at because they get sidetracked
@Justissier10 ай бұрын
Honestly, this could have been a 10 min video, but I like to listen to you to relax so thanks.
@unholydiver109510 ай бұрын
I am oblivious the other way around lol I assume she isnt attracted to me and is just being friendly. But then a friend will slap me in the back of my head for not asking her for her number. He told me that ever since I got fit, and got my conversation skills better, I am more attractive than I think.
@erymano46710 ай бұрын
That is the best class of my entire life ! Thank you Denmo for this video ! I like this format, very simple, without extreme montage. Just a guy, talking about relationships between men/woman. AMAZING !
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
glad you like this, more on the way :)
@theultimatevita249013 күн бұрын
I’m speechless. So many of the things I’ve done wrong were described in this video, and described well. Another great video! Knowing how to correct these things is huge. Thank you man.
@Denmosocial13 күн бұрын
glad it helped you out my man
@whitneyangelie36828 ай бұрын
I’m a woman not sure how I got here lol but I have to say that it’s not always WHAT we do, it’s HOW we do it. First: *pay attention to her eyes* , if you get out of your own head and really pay attention when you’re talking to a girl, the look in our eyes when we like you is very telling- eyes say what the mouth can’t oftentimes. There will be a kind of “sparkle” or glint in the eyes, and you’ll just *feel* a certain energy. I notice when I like a guy I usually tilt my head to the side when talking to him and kinda peer UPward at him. I also widen my eyes a bit like doe eyes-none of this is purposeful it’s just biology (Most of us do these things btw not just me) I also tend to slightly raise the pitch and soften my voice. I might not give you crazy intense eye contact bc I can get nervous, but if i look down after meeting your eyes and look a bit flushed or even embarrassed, I prob like you.. If I want to know a lot about you (even the things you think are boring) I like you. Basically: If you see a girl kinda “posing” (or her body looks kinda rigid/on alert), widening her eyes, head tilting, giving “sweet/shy” smiles, looking down and peering up at you from under her lashes, looking a bit flustered/nervous during eye contact , laughing a lot more than is appropriate, talking too loud/excited or talking too soft- these are all very positive signs.
@cravcave10 ай бұрын
I dont know about everyone ese but THIS is the type of content Id like to see more of from you bro. Your other shit is good but very surface level self improvement stuff IMO. This is what I will binge all day long. 11/10
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
I enjoy this the most, definitely gonna do more
@retfird10 ай бұрын
Thoughts on the women that give indicators or interest but still reject you for some validation or ego boost? Shit is fucked up
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
if that happens just move on
@JeanClaud310 ай бұрын
It's called wanting attention. Move on to the next one.
@christiansnaturestudio659910 ай бұрын
It's her loss
@nik-challengeman38310 ай бұрын
@johnfoley4023there have been studies proving that women sometimes give out fake signals when it helps in social situations
@lapris73807 ай бұрын
Just don’t mess with those women.
@SrtaLJCarneiro10 ай бұрын
Listen to this man! He is SUPER accurate! His tips are spot on!
@setz726010 ай бұрын
Another sign is if you’re with a friend and she approaches him while EYEING you. She’s probably a bit nervous and wants to get you into the conversation without directly approaching you.
@StrangeDisposition9 ай бұрын
As a girl, this is actually helpful too 😂.
@clplayz63449 ай бұрын
i love this! No one else talks like its a class or a sport! Thx bro!
@Cody-f4w9 ай бұрын
Even if a women kisses you sits on your lap and lays on your chest. This doesn't mean she is attracted to you even if she does it several times. The evidence of her attraction is giving out her number and dating you and speaking to you out in public. Spending time with you. If she does not do that she is playing games nothing more
@adventure099 ай бұрын
Let's avoid the LSE-girls.
@Cody-f4w9 ай бұрын
@@adventure09 avoiding women in general is necessary if it is possible. I would rather talk to a BOT Droid then women.
@nanouberthe75988 ай бұрын
now what kind of girls are you entertaining for them to do all of that without liking you?... that might be your issue💀
@Josh-fp2qn8 ай бұрын
What about a girl at work who only talks to you when nobody else is around?
@sniper512620 күн бұрын
It's hard to realize this, I didn't even notice it's when happen to me. I was talking to this girl, her uni was near to my house so I went to pick her up a couple of times and take her to her Home Last time I saw her we had sex in the car. A The next day I asked her if She wanted to go diner, and she dumped me 😂. She was okay with kissing and sex in private but not okay with been seeing togehter out there
@TotoTotor10 ай бұрын
11:28 I feel that. In our classroom we often sat girls on one side and boys on the other (not because it was forced, but because that's how we chose to do it). And one teacher would always pair us up one from each side to "mix the groups well". I'm not sure how aware he was of what he was actually doing...
@ModernDatingMastery2 ай бұрын
*Knowing how to differentiate between the two can save a lot of heartache, and this video is a great guide!*
@mrosskne9 ай бұрын
are you under 6'2? she's being nice.
@Josh-fp2qn8 ай бұрын
If you have one long nose hair protruding from your nostril then she is just being nice.
@patrickc80075 ай бұрын
stfu bro, and work on stuff you can change, no one is perfect.
@SPACEDOUT192 ай бұрын
@@Josh-fp2qn cope more
@Josh-fp2qn2 ай бұрын
You believe in oofy doofy theory?
@SPACEDOUT192 ай бұрын
@@Josh-fp2qn i believe that she either likes you based on your looks, or she doesnt. its that simple. But your comment comes off as mocking to the original poster
@gumbilicious110 ай бұрын
An hour long video on if a girl likes you or if she was just being nice. That sounds about right, I bet it still heavily relies on “it depends”
@dogyourmom853110 ай бұрын
Didn't watch the video, point invalid
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
@@dogyourmom8531 yup what a knucle dragger lol
@user-ei4tl7qd2s10 ай бұрын
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
@MalcolmM.Stanton-hy4jb10 ай бұрын
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back
@user-ei4tl7qd2s10 ай бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do I reach her?
@MalcolmM.Stanton-hy4jb10 ай бұрын
Her name is Shelly renee white, and she is a great spiritual counsellor who can bring back your ex.
@user-ei4tl7qd2s10 ай бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
@bdel8010 ай бұрын
Your venting frustration
@tagunprice976229 күн бұрын
0:24 "That's what you look like", with a completely straight face. Thanks bro, preciate it, now I know why girls don't talk to me. lmao
@donaldwobamajr65506 ай бұрын
Asking “Does she like me” is like asking “Am I sober enough to drive.” If you have to ask the question, the answer is almost certainly no.
@SMG04310 ай бұрын
Great video, wish i knew all this 40 years ago, and had passed it onto my son, better to learn late than never
@itsonlyamazda467110 ай бұрын
I love your videos man. No BS, straight to the point and really relatable. You are helping me out so much man, thank you!
@ImTheRealAK472 ай бұрын
This is a lovely video, and you're a cool dude tbh, your way of explaining us men is so accurate and funny, this is the first 1hr+ KZbin video that I actually finished, cheers mate, keep at it👏
@timofey150610 ай бұрын
I do cold approaches because I scared to get in awkward situation with girls I know and will contact in future (work, university, gym). Strangers on the street will just disappear from your life if you will fail approach.
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
not a bad idea
@Fera-gr5mm7 ай бұрын
Generally if you are having good time with the colleagues, you can better pick up on what is meant as rejection - and to the outsider it might not seem like a rejection, that how cool it would be.
@amampathak10 ай бұрын
Absolute Gold Mine content mate!
@DrCharles0210 ай бұрын
I don't really know if a girl is into me because of my traumas from the past. I got to know a nice girl, she is pretty, cute, clever and she even gave me her number. We talked really much about our hobbies and what's fantastic we like the same things. I want to go on a date with her and I'm gonna do this:) Btw this video can't help me because I think every girl is so different but thanks for trying help us anyway ❤
@JohnnyBGoode-xn9mo2 ай бұрын
She’s a human being first and foremost. One you’re attracted to, yes, and that relationship is different than an acquaintance or friend, but at the end of the day she’s an individual. This experience is not a repudiation or confirmation of any beliefs or past experiences. It is what it is. To quote something Stephen King said to Neil Gaiman when he was suffering from success: “This is good; enjoy it”
@Dragon501dm10 ай бұрын
You're hilarious man. Passing on valuable wisdom too. Great job.
@nobodysperfect0610 ай бұрын
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, well ex girlfriend now, mainly due to not ha ing had one until late in life, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s. It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others. But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm. Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend. So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel. I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life. And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction. Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not? Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't. I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long. Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard. So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game. I get annoyed when people say go see a therapist because it's not like a therapist can reset my life or have me start my life all over again. I spoke in a few other guys who feel the same way in regards to being forever angry and upset, sad, over never having had a girlfriend until later than normal, until late in life. Probably because guys and men to learn and know all of these skills, all of these social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk a certain way or have a certain lifestyle, have a certain body, certain income, and more than that which I either don't know or forgot. Women are pretty much basically all set for just being born and just existing. Because being pretty and beautiful is not a skill and it doesn't require any learning, it's not a behavior that takes training. It just really feels me with anger and rage whenever people and Society have the mindset or still think men have it better than women do in dating or just human mating in general. I'll never forget what one guy said and this only added fuel to fire in regards to my anger and rage about the cards on dealt with for being born male. "Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together" Let's just say that pissed me off even further, got me so mad, that its no appropriate for me to say what was going through my mind when i read that comment that pissed me off even further. Yes I know there's no such thing as fairness but I'm not afraid to admit that over the years in my life I've hated being born a guy or I just feel that it is unfair being born a man. Yes I'm aware there's no such thing as fairness, I just get very angry and enraged whenever people and Society still think men have it better than women do. I know I'm not alone in thinking this way in which I have the mindset in which I feel that if I was born a woman I would not have been alone or single that long. I like to think this way and I know that a lot of people agree with this and that is being born a woman basically guarantees you will always have options because you are on the receiving end of sexual attention just for being born a woman because it's often said that women are in abundance by default but men are in scarcity by default because for all time women are the ones that get pursued and hit on or sought after or get advances made on them and when you are in that position, it means you are simply by default attractive to the other sex. I highly doubt I'll get over this I know I will be bitter and resentful about this for the rest of my life and I will always feel like an incel despite managing to achieve some success with some girls. I will never get over this but yeah the way it looks like is that men are the only gender that are meant to go through adversity and struggle or pain
@georgepanicker6191610 ай бұрын
Bro, if you really sit down to think about it, that struggle you went through kind of gave you essential life skills that helps you later. Charisma, resilience, persuasiveness, confidence etc.
@nobodysperfect0610 ай бұрын
@georgepanicker61916 well that's what makes me mad and angry because the way I see it or the way it looks like is that men are the only gender that have to go through struggles or adversity or hardship when it comes to getting better at interacting with or just attracting the other sex, it's like women are the reward but men have to work or do the work in order to get the reward. Another way to put it is like, women are simply by default good with men or just good with attracting men for just being boring or just existing but men basically have to go through training or trial and error or just a learning process or go through a learning curve in order to get better with the other sex. Yep I'm completely aware that it's just the way it is but that doesn't mean I have to like it or enjoy it, I assume you're like many men in the world who still thinks that men still have it better than women do when it comes to dating.
@nobodysperfect0610 ай бұрын
@@georgepanicker61916 nevertheless it still makes me angry and pissed off that I had to go through that
@Ryan-tr8vs10 ай бұрын
You might have autism or something dude 🤷♂️
@georgepanicker6191610 ай бұрын
@@nobodysperfect06 absolutely not lol, women are playing candy crush while men are playing dark souls. It's just these skills do pay off in many many other ways that work out for men in the long run. Even I'm angry, but the way I see it, when I reach the top, no one can shame me or cuss me out for holding any standard regardless of how hypocritical it is.
@fiestacrashers10 ай бұрын
Dude you're hilarious and a great teacher. Thanks for these informative long videos.
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
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@CleverCheetah9 ай бұрын
Ironically its the girls I thought that DIDNT like me were the ones that actually liked me. I asked out some girls that gave common signs like smiling, talking close to me, leaning, etc and got friendzoned. I asked out girls that gave me cold stares and didn’t speak much and got their numbers. Its all about eye contact. Some can be shy and look away but the key is how they react. Are they blushing or are they looking away in disgust or neutral. They won’t wanna keep looking at someone thats unattractive to them.
@garrettwilson26268 ай бұрын
Ok, humor me this: What if we are coworkers? What if she's expressed all the telltale signs of interest? Standing close to me, initiating conversation a few times, smiles and holds a gaze anytime we talk, laughs at basically everything i say and do, open body language, etc. What if we just hit it off all the time we see each other?
@abes39258 ай бұрын
She’s bored at work. First observe if she is constantly getting attention from other male co-workers and if she is then she’s just wanting to add you too her lift of orbiters.
@D4v3Serious9 ай бұрын
Every girl is just so nice at me, staring, looking, smiling at me, laughing at my jokes, yet never asking me any questions, fml. Another weird thing is that ESPECIALLY attractive ones are most friendly and smiley to me.
@mrboring655310 ай бұрын
Bro the boxing analogy is AGAIN fire and on point🔥🔥 you must be good at striking and grappling to make this analogies like that👍👍
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
haha I'm definitely better at analogies than mma 😂 but I'll keep doing em
@mrboring655310 ай бұрын
@@Denmosocial I’m something of a martial artist myself and I think you definitely got decent form!
@MisterRose909 ай бұрын
For real. I needed to hear this shit from a bro. The internet makes it seem like we all hate each other. Fuck.
@smellybearc741110 ай бұрын
A genuine question, is the ball shaving mandatory?
@scottanno88619 ай бұрын
Trim it, don't shave it
@someguycalledcerberus98059 ай бұрын
Nah, no-one will ever see it but you, so I wouldn't worry too much about it.
@HolliePledge-g8j3 ай бұрын
My stepdad who is 43 told me that in Mexico when he was growing up, you see a young woman you like as a young man, you tell her you're interested, and she considers you. Basically, then if you are agreed, you move into a house together. You're essentially married. There is no dating. (I'm sure there is now dating in Mexico, and also that the upper classes had longer courtship processes.)
@JeanClaud310 ай бұрын
Understanding women is like learning Algebra. Thanks for the math lesson Jack!
@FriendMariaAdrianna9 ай бұрын
"YOU have to ask THEM." I feel like this is a huge sign a girl is not into you - And vice versa. If only one person is initiating any contact, there's a good chance only one person is interested. Also, when I'm around a guy I like, I'm always wiping my chin to make sure my lipstick isn't running. It's a nervous habit that only comes out around guys I'm attracted to.
@Josh-fp2qn8 ай бұрын
Do women initiate contact by timing their breaks with you? I feel like a girl at work is trying to cross paths with me when I am leaving for the day or going on a lunch break. I've talked to her before and I'm wondering if that is her way of wanting to talk to me, even if only as a friend.
@roykalager236010 ай бұрын
If a dude is attractive enough. Most women will only care about that. The same thing goes for men.
@fattyjaybird750510 ай бұрын
I dont know how you measure attraction... but check how many girls are single, and for how long, compared to men.
@roykalager236010 ай бұрын
@@fattyjaybird7505 I was referring to physical attraction. So you believe what he said? Men need to be more than just physically attractive. In order for women to want them. That checks out with more men being single. But the men that are just physically attractive. Don't impact the data because those men are rare.
@fattyjaybird750510 ай бұрын
@roykalager2360 oh, i understand now👍i misinterpreted
@roykalager236010 ай бұрын
@@fattyjaybird7505 Thank you for making me write it better. 😊😐😫💀
@NormanBrandi7 күн бұрын
Good vid man, im sort of binge watching your content. I don't know why because I'm happily married, lol boredom... I used to find walking away for a while from a girl you're working is a good sh*t test. If you demonstrate you risk losing her, she's going to prove she's worth having.
@yellow_airman3 ай бұрын
This video convinced me not to ask her out
@FinesseHamilton9 ай бұрын
45:02 nah but the chick drama does be interesting, I really be listening like “nuh uh Becky did NOT do that” 🤣
@lapris73807 ай бұрын
Lol! Yess I’m a girl but usually stay to myself so when my friends tell me about the drama in their life I get so invested.
@piero_ce10 ай бұрын
Perfect timing xd, I was thinking about it 😂 thx Denmo
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
gotchu brother
@mikepro32718 ай бұрын
I did cold approaches, I did warm approaches. Nothing led to anything. Getting ghosted and getting left on read is today's normal case. Every girl has so many options from her work, her social media and friends group...you can be doing your dumb approaches all day long, it won't even help you. Peace out!
@Jay-mo6op10 ай бұрын
Bro, just found your stuff and i think your ideas are very holistic, and wholesome. Reminds me a lot of Mark Manson’s work
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
nice compliment thankyou g
@kennaw71988 ай бұрын
It’s interesting to watch this as a woman who tries really hard to be kind and nice to everyone. Men get the wrong idea all the time because my parents raised me to stop, take a moment, and be human with others. I think a good approach when you aren’t sure is just to try to spend time with someone as a friend with a group. It makes us feel a lot more comfortable to get to know someone a little bit without the pressure of a date. Also a good way to find out if someone is crazy without having to be alone with them. For example, you could invite someone to an evening out with your other friends. If you don’t have friends that’s step one. Honestly having friends can make more of a positive impact on your life than a girlfriend.
@hi_its_jerry8 ай бұрын
why am i even watching this lol she clearly likes me (she's just being nice)
@hasiko_58 ай бұрын
Real
@raphaelalavi93856 ай бұрын
lol wtf is that pfp
@wilafilms25615 ай бұрын
Bro so right, confidence will get you 9s n 10n. These days I get a girl in 3 days🎉I dnt struggle with girls
@TotoTotor10 ай бұрын
Note to myself: Design my schedule to have a lot of "convenient" situations
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
I like this. saving for later
@Totsy3010 ай бұрын
Honestly, getting into a hobby that creates these convenient situations makes this easy. I got into skating cause I love doing it. Turns out, plenty of cute women like rollerskating too and I get multiple days per week to potentially meet cool girls. If you become a regular, even better because hopefully you’ve gotten to know other regulars so you’re used to talking to people in that environment.
@ilovebutterstuff10 ай бұрын
I think you succeeded in laying out the differences between men and women. I think the biggest problem that men are facing in the dating scene, is the desire for financial security. Nesting instinct. It has become a characiture of what it used to be. The desire for wealth and status has been nurtured to a fine point these days, and that narrow focus makes someone's world a lot smaller. Whether that be the dating world, the public space, whatever. If she _really_ likes you, she'll make the first move, you'll be in her crosshairs and there won't be any wondering about it. If the thought crosses your mind that causes doubt, you're wasting your time. If you decide to be aggressively pursuing her, she's gonna use you, get what she wants and then move on. The takeaway is don't be a shut-in. Just a nice body alone will put you in a high tier. Work on your sense of humor, even higher tier. Stop taking things that people say so seriously, even higher tier. It's been my experience (and yes I have some) that when women see something they want, they come and get it. If she's playing games, she doesn't want you, she wants something else. Probably your money. Dude here is pretty smart, but still has a lot to learn.
@nelacaro5710 ай бұрын
With the one I like I can hardly maintain eye contact xD
@iamspencerx29 күн бұрын
I met a girl at some social gathering, we exchanged numbers and started talking and making plans, we went out many times, oftentimes she's even the one to ask me out. After a while she moved in with me, I'm thinking about proposing to her but I'm not really sure if she likes me or she's just being nice
@johnsmith-lv7zj10 ай бұрын
I can't tell the difference of when they don't want to talk and when I just need to lead the conversation more. Could you elaborate on this at some point?
@thelifewithnate10 ай бұрын
Not Denmo, but just wanted to offer some advice: - If they don't want to talk: usually signs with body language like she's looking away or over your shoulder half the time, pretending to be interested, feet pointed in another direction, etc. - When you need to lead the conversation more: She's more attentive but still slightly disinterested, ask her questions about her background, her goals in life, etc. Hope that helps in a small way!
@233kosta9 ай бұрын
It's not so much that they'd all do it (i.e. accuse a dude of something just for the fun of it), it's that the system enables it and takes no steps to punish those who abuse it. Doesn't matter how many _will_ do it, the problem is that they all *can* do it. It's like buying a lottery ticket. But if you win, you get thrown into a cage with a hungry lion. Why would any sane man take that risk?
@Eric.boozh10110 ай бұрын
Nice work bro, thanks for the gems you dropped. Took valuable notes - Eric the socializer
@mtndewisawesome39518 ай бұрын
10:15 come on dawg, why you gotta expose me like that? (i burped and laughed hella loud during top gun maveric)
@kay__51910 ай бұрын
I had girls who had crushes on me and i never seen them even looking at me. That's why i have no clue lmao
@squarecracker10 ай бұрын
those type of girls will just reject you if you hit on them tho. if they are too shy to make it known they're too shy to say yes
@varsa5078 ай бұрын
You remind me of myself in my early twenties, I pray you don't change.
@pisk6410 ай бұрын
women base their primal attraction based on looks and height just as much as men, if not even more harshly.
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
then how come less than 13% of men are over 6 ft tall? Less than 44% of men have hair by age 35? How are these other dudes reproducing? This logics dumb
@pisk6410 ай бұрын
@@Denmosocial the fact that a woman lets someone hit when hes 35, balding and broke, doesn't mean thats her first choice. Dont make me bring up stats regarding men who are raising kids that arent theirs (without knowing too)
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
again you are missing the point entirely you could argue women based their primal attraction on ability to provide resources & protect (little guy with lots of stuff or big ugly guy with big stick) and this is one of those cope comments
@pisk6410 ай бұрын
@@Denmosocial okay, so all the poor fellas who get limb lengthening surgery just do it for fun. Also you are missing the genetics thing altogheter. Theres kids born with down syndrome and autism. That doesnt mean women fuck men with downs syndrome and autism.
@vaderkurt78489 ай бұрын
@pisk64 Oh boy you be surprised that there are women like that.
@bunsenn50646 ай бұрын
Honestly, I always found that when it comes to meeting new people and forging new relationships, there are a few things that are fundamental to the process. For one, you need to be confident, not in the interaction, but in yourself and what you have to say. You also need to read the room, and roll with whatever happens. When things change direction, you move with it. And most importantly, don’t just acknowledge everything they say with a “yeah” or an “uh huh”, actually add to the conversation and present questions that encourage equal effort from both sides. Always have a good understanding of what you’re actually doing.
@brysonw295210 ай бұрын
If it takes an hour to say the answer we are all fucked
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
we are not tho lol maybe you because of your mindset
@cosmo992510 ай бұрын
It takes an hour because he’s explaining basic things to guys who have ZERO social skills and/or experience with girls. It took me years to learn all this on my own, I wish it only took me an hour lmao
@lillierose53048 ай бұрын
I've learnt not to be so nice to people. It almost always gives them the wrong idea.
@Virtusstrong10 ай бұрын
I personally really like these long informative videos Mr.Denmo!. Also Mr.Denmo may you make a video about how your occupation, calling/purpose can make your prospects view you differently I.e. the blue collar guy, the techy, the military guy etc.
@lapris73807 ай бұрын
Every woman is different so you really have to look at things based on the girl but for me the biggest sign i’m being just nice is the fact I’m comfortable around you. I can be myself and am able to treat you like i treat all of my other friends. If i like a guy i get shy and it takes me a lot of time to open up. This is the case even if me and the guy started out as friends and I developed feelings later on. Initially, in the friend phase it’s easy to talk, look them in the eye, and just be myself with them. When i start developing feelings however it gets difficult. I can’t look them in the eye anymore, i’m scared to banter with them as much, etc. So, Look at how she treats her other friends. Is it the same as how she treats you? If so she probably doesn’t see you that way. Or does she treat you differently if so she might like you. The only way to truly know is to ask.
@Tech-ot4iy10 ай бұрын
If a woman likes you shell make it easy for you
@cgspartan877 ай бұрын
that depends, fersure depends
@wheniztheend7 ай бұрын
@@cgspartan87 it depends. But really, as guys, we are never gonna pick up on the subtle social ques of a girl that is into you but too shy. So you gotta wait for the obvious woman. A girl that is straight forward with her intentions. That is when you know you've found wife material.
@cgspartan877 ай бұрын
@wheniztheend I get you I do, I've been more perceptive with the hints lately and yea I see that they are so subtle like damn, it's kinda funny actually, like really a "head tilt" and pulling your hair to oneside, this is the "hint"?! I try to just be of the mindset of not waiting to read signals of waiting for her to make the first move, but just being direct with your intentions, if she feels you then cool, if she doesn't then cool too, nothing wrong with being the first one to start the process and being a gentleman about it, but I get you, knowing which women are interested helps wifey is out there, but I understand she may be a shy one, that's why I don't like to BS with a girl I really like, I just try and work my magic and not be so concerned about them giving you signals, there is only one process towards bagging wifey, you see her, you talk, get her number, get the date, make a move, if at any point she resists then you got a decision, continue or pull away, like this is baseline for me, because trying to read signals or wait for a woman to reveal her attraction to you will just drive you mad
@veloxsterinkognito7512Ай бұрын
0:37 - 0:47 Not for me. Of course she has to be attractive for me from the beginning, but being interesting, nice and seeing similarities, gives me a huge attractiveness boost to consider (asking) someone (out).
@SSGGraphics10 ай бұрын
Any woman who works in service fellas im sorry to say but there's a good chance she's probably just doing her job, now. MAYBE if you catch her on a day off or something like that then you could gauge better. I've had people clown me cause I tell them situations like this and then they proceed to flame me so just keep that in mind
@thelifewithnate10 ай бұрын
That's not far from the truth. Buddy of mine always thought bartenders were into him but its their literal job to be nice to customers to get tips. Although at the end of the day, sometimes you may not know?
@SSGGraphics10 ай бұрын
I literally said they're doing their job... @@thelifewithnate
@byron96309 ай бұрын
Honestly, I feel like for more guys, whether a firm is 6/7/8/9/10 , it doesn’t matter. We just want someone that we can access ,befriend and bond with.
@atulbhatia41158 ай бұрын
Bro made a movie on this topic
@redblacktichy77135 ай бұрын
But a good movie
@unlimitedidiot980110 ай бұрын
There's no way I'm watching this video looking for answers for the exact subject in the title. The girl I like is called Marisa and then Denmo says this at 11:01. Surely just a coincidence right?
@Denmosocial10 ай бұрын
gotchu buddy, its a sign
@gabrielDasilva-vu6vp6 ай бұрын
The biggest joke is that the video is an hour long
@TheVladacar4 ай бұрын
What I used to do to find out if a girl is into me was looking at the way she treats other people, if there's no difference and if you're not special, it's bad news