How to be high value in dating, explained like your 5 years old

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[@Denmosocial]

This might offend you at first, but by the end of the video, you will be like wow this guy is spot on haha

[@exsosus5002]

It's so true, that sex from women controls men so much. at about 20:00 minutes. This one girl I know from Sweden, she had an interview at a really classy hotel, the manager went ahead and said 'Sorry you can't have this job, I have another girl who is going to take the job you would have received.' So she _______ his ________ you know what. He said, "OK you've got your job!" Hired.

[@AR7271]

​​@@exsosus5002market manipulation 😂

[@PanPan42069]

That seems a little egotistical but great video nothing less!

[@lyricz4224]

This was mindblowing brotha Jack. It's amazing the way you can express your deepest thoughts in a video.

[@Smokepitpodcast]

Can we get an honest opinion on open relationships? Your ability to see both sides of the story is awesome and I’d love to hear your take on more taboo situations

[@user-xs8fd6nq8o]

I don’t believe men are in decline. I believe they are living in a new environment with old mindsets. It’s like they spent their whole life studying for a math test and show up and it’s actually a geography exam. Your channel is one of the only channels that are course correcting without the toxic misogyny that is the source of most of these guy’s problems. I salute your efforts. God bless you.

[@Wicknarr6909]

Decline in value would be relative. Since value is defined by the person receiving the value. Something can stay the same and the environment makes it lose value.

[@fallen546]

I think you're right that men are still socially adapting to the new dynamic, but I don't think it's misogyny that's the problem. I actually blame Disney and romantic comedies. The narrative that you can just be yourself and a wonderful woman will fall in love with you is complete nonsense. Men thinking they will be loved simply by existing as they are is not how the world actually works for us.

[@trinsit]

​@@fallen546 Name one movie where the guy had to just be themselves and no other effort was required?

[@Dehota]

“No you wouldn’t, you’d be dead”

[@Denmosocial]

unfortunate truth about most of us tbh too impulsive

[@MiloSatori]

“Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.” - Someone who contributed.

[@R3RS2024]

Life goes full circle :)

[@Laissez-faire402]

Such a useless quote that people simply toss out.

[@MiloSatori]

@@Laissez-faire402 What about “Some people talk too much and say too little”.

[@Twisthiphop]

​@@MiloSatori I love that quote

[@douchebagpatrol7237]

@@Laissez-faire402 good times = deluded/low quality women = mgtow (weak men) weak/lazy/useless men = hard times

[@adamd9166]

I suppose it's a blessing in disguise. High value men are more high value since so many men are just ducking out

[@mishan3168]

"man win trough action . Not arguments ." Thats just beautiful .

[@Denmosocial]

yup, robert greene 48 laws of power

[@theblerd1889]

Men win through*

[@palmitexx]

i wrote down when he said that

[@unbiasedbios00]

I am 23, getting my shit together, and I'm on hour 5 of my animation journey. ( At least I think it's hour 5)

[@MarekStefanski-ws7ul]

Hey man Friendly reminder to keep going ;)

[@Jhizzle473]

Can you share your work on insta if so I’ll follow

[@josesalgado7082]

Probably the best video out there on modern dating/sexual dynamics. Just the raw truth. Please keep doing these types of long format videos Denmo.

[@Denmosocial]

glad it makes sense. will do

[@Mojoboy_bloxfruits]

​@@Denmosocialis 2010-2012 gen alpha or gen z

[@danteeightsix9069]

I've done all these things and worked on myself all throughout my 20s and 30s. I am greatly needed, but no one seems to want me, that I deserve. I'm surrounded by people of low value, so I'm still opting out of society. I will always be hopeful and do what I can contribute, but I'm tired of people that have been in relationships all their lives telling me, a nearly 40 year old to be patient.

[@-whackd]

Maybe youre not as high value as you think you are.

[@youtubebannedmymainchannel]

I am genuinely curious about your situation so that I can navigate my own life better. So I have a few questions if you don't mind: -Where do you live? -Are you a multimillionaire? -Are you in great physical shape? -How are your conversational skills (humour, storytelling, body language reading, active listening)? -How many different cities have you visited in the last 5 years? -What are your hobbies? -How many books have read in the last 5 years, and how many of those books have you summerized?

[@danteeightsix9069]

@@youtubebannedmymainchannel I live in a small town close to other larger cities. I am not a multimillionaire, but these past few years I have focused on becoming finanacially stable and have significantly increased my net worth. I will be a millionaire by the time I retire. I am a Veteran so I am in fairly decent shape. A few medical conditions, but I stay active and drink a lot of water. Based on reactions of others, I seem to come off as a person with great communication skills including the ones mentioned. I have travelled across the northern hemisphere during my military career and have been to at least half the country (US). My main hobbies are related to cars, finances, and entertainment related to both. I always bring a book with me to read when on break at work. I am always trying to learn and only read non-fiction books. This year alone, I am on my 4th book. Quantum Physics, Astronomy, The Art of War, curently on Minerals and Gemstones, and next will be about the Periodic Table of Elements.

[@norseman-ns5tq]

Im 33 and got pretty lucky finding the right girl at a early age. I have been married for 10 years now and have 2 healthy kids. Based on the quality of younger women i see now, it's getting harder and harder to defend the idea of long-term relationships with these women that have slept with 20+ guys. I dont care what anyone says, but women mentally change depending on the type of guys and how many guys they've been with. Tic Tok and social media in general have really damaged a large part of Gen z, and it's sad to see happen. One thing i can recommend to guys in their early 20s is to avoid debt and build a good physique. Part of that stays with you forever if you lay the foundation when young. My v shape back is still there even though i had to stop working out for almost 3 years because of a car accident. Even though im married, i still get more attention from young women that i did even in my early 20s. Life in your 30s is a cheat code if you dont screw up in your 20s.

[@Undeadsweater]

I think social media may have warped your perception of what most young women are like. It is still pretty uncommon for a woman in her 20s to have slept with that many men. Obviously it happens, and I think our cultural shift towards sex work being normalized is bad, but it is not at all difficult to find women who don’t think that way and haven’t slept with a lot of people. If anything, it’s harder to find men who aren’t brainwashed by porn culture.

[@norseman-ns5tq]

@Undeadsweater maybe my perception is warped but you gotta understand I was the last age group of guys that didn't have to see if a girl had an only fans or massive instagram account. Hot women still had to go outside their homes to find guys so the game has 100% shifted now

[@prizethought]

This video summed up the entire past decade of the manosphere. Hope every Gen z boy, pre teen, teenage, and young adult man finds this if they’re struggling with their love life.

[@pushkarkhadase9809]

Hi denmo I keep grinding every day and my normal job timings are 12 hr a day as a software Engineer. But it's you who motivated me enough to even after my job to contribute to society. Really appreciate you brother.❤

[@imadebouaoun8160]

All You Sad Is The Ultimate Truth, As Man We Have To Stend Up And Work On Ourselves And Level Up In Life

[@Denmosocial]

facts

[@MerleBeaire-bd7kh]

Thank you denmo I've been working on my anxiety that's my biggest issue but you've been a big help thank you

[@Denmosocial]

keep going bro you got this

[@Undeadsweater]

Making money and having skills is not something men struggle with now or historically, so doing that now isn’t really what will increase most men’s value. The lack of money is due to the economic situation currently, and is affecting both men and women. The history you describe is correct, but you miss key details that I find more revealing about the specific areas in which men are lacking in today. When men worked, and women were not able or allowed to, women’s only jobs were domestic and family duties. Men only had to work to provide money for the most part. Now, women both CAN and MUST work, but they still do unpaid domestic work. Men have jobs, but have not adapted to the fact that women do as well. So now, working women don’t gain much from a partner that ONLY works a job. In fact, they end up having to do more domestic labor, as the man creates more work for her at home, but doesn’t contribute in this area. Now that the roles are more equal, doing domestic labor and having good communication/emotional skills is necessary for men to add value to a woman’s life, but men are not taught these skills and do not know, want, or believe they should need, to learn them. If you treat a woman like she is a normal person (an equal), and display good interpersonal skills, you will find a relationship. You will (probably) be able to keep a relationship if you contribute equally, communicate well, and remain empathetic and reasonable with your partner.

[@thinkforyourselfyall]

Yesssssssss, this is all that needs to be said. This is what women are looking for. How is this knowledge so rare????

[@Undeadsweater]

@@thinkforyourselfyall It’s rare because many men (especially influencers) don’t look for or listen to women’s opinions about what women want, LOL. They also don’t empathize well with women. They also only look at stats in a way that confirms their own biases.

[@brandonhonaker5493]

This video and a lot of your content clicked with me awhile ago , needed it to get back on track . Thank you !

[@Denmosocial]

my man glad to hear

[@legitsu_]

bro dropping bangers

[@Denmosocial]

every day

[@ramiroofaragon9323]

Denmo hit the nail on the head with these harsh truths. ... Thank *YOU*, good sir. ✌

[@clubberdan7524]

you said leave a comment if it clicked. i stumbled across you, hormozi about a year ago and my life been on the upward trajectory since then. its been a 2 step foward 1 step back process the whole time tho. the inner bum in me vs my external consciousness (mozi,denmo)

[@Denmosocial]

glad to hear that bro

[@jonp.1084]

Excellent tough love approach sir.

[@Denmosocial]

gotchu brother trying to help

[@user-ch8ku6qe3x]

hmm , so .... While I agree with what you are saying ,this is VERY simplistic . "I gotta level up " you fail to realise though that currency debasement has been rising exponentially since the early 2000s . So your example of make money provide value , you fail to neglect the intervention of the state, in the UK today your bills and rent and tax is about 70% of your money housing is out of reach rental the same way. There are 50 year olds renting and house sharing bro . These people aint loosers nor did they not try hard ....they are simply in a position of financial hardship caused deliberately . The state is actively punishing men at every level ... We should never be lazy or sit and do nothing , but the birth rates are dropping , why? is it just women? no.... is it just men ? no ....We have to go to work to pay in the UK for illegals to come into the country they will be given jobs over the indigenous at 80% payrate ... which will surpress the gdp per capita .... which means living standards fall further ... families cannot grow in this enviroment my man . The ONLY way this ends is 1people work out why all this happened 2 stopping it .

[@AR7271]

Lazy weak men created this problem. I have been trying to form a local militia for a few months now and it's been difficult because people are so afraid of the government. These people are literally stealing our money and we're doing nothing to stop it. But people are afraid of the thieves it makes no sense to me from a logical standpoint. The only sense that makes is it is easier to go along to get along then to confront thieves head on and make history.

[@milanpospisil8024]

I knew several people earning a lots of money, but they have no women. While I know men with low money that has plenty of women (and no kids because they cant afford to start family)... Problem is that you need to build both value to attract women (thus doing some sports, become interesting) and at the same time you need to be very good at your work to afford family. Those things may be mutually exclusive, because being in the work from the morning to evening will decrease your value in dating, while having a lots of free time and doing something interesting will increase your value...

[@zakhendo5061]

Dude you've come so far, you're making over 80k a month now just from this channel. Huge props to you bro, definitely motivates me a lot and shows the power of the internet and certain business models

[@bineam116]

i f**king get it now, thank you

[@Denmosocial]

gotchu homie

[@kairausch1462]

I cant thank you enough! Great explanation!

[@Denmosocial]

glad to hear bro cheers

[@MAR2TV]

Holly shhiet, things are making click rn, great video as always, thnk u Denmo 🧐

[@Denmosocial]

gotchu bro

[@Cpt_Quack]

Man, fuckin love you Denmo, always on point with ur mentality. Good video bro.

[@Denmosocial]

username checks out cheers bro

[@mishan3168]

What separate you from most of similar self improvement guys - you tak A LOT about what guys actually NEED TO HEAR . Not about they want to .

[@zevac]

I think this channel is the only thing that's given me ego death besides shrooms back in 2018. Glad I'm subbed

[@Denmosocial]

did not expect that but glad it helped

[@laddrusso5243]

"You'd be dead" 🤣🤣

[@BrutalOrc]

I don't feel like I owe society shit.

[@miniaturejayhawk8702]

What about the water you drink, the air you breathe and the food you eat? All of them are afdected by the laws of the society thatyou live in. Also taxes.

[@bennoreuter4393]

@@miniaturejayhawk8702 Brutal raises a valid point. Given that all of that has already been extorted from you using taxes and laws, with the little power you have left, you say "I was robbed enough, I won't rob myself of the only joys I have left as well just to make some lazy cunt happy. Serving society rubs me the very wrong way, serving the society that gives me misinformation about where it's better, spreads lies about other countries to keep you in, and to change you just need a little bit of encouragement which nobody gives you. That guy in the video all he wants is to sell his courses, so he creates a lack in you, he probably doesnt even have a girl or serves society in any way.

[@oklife2183]

Thanks bro🎉

[@demven04]

Such an incredibly episode, very interesting thoughts. I’m literally impressed. Thanks for chewing this for us and putting in our mouths.

[@user-uj9cc5ch5p]

Bumbs are Dumb Bumbs are Dumb. I hold my breath all the time waiting for something really big to happen. Thank you Denmo. Mr. X

[@erenjaeger6928]

Thank you bro I get ur points

[@marvin2484]

It hurts waking up everyday knowing that your problem won’t be solved too soon.

[@Denmosocial]

so keep going anyways brother

[@selfcaresally]

the whole “value” discussion always omits the secret that there are “levels” of value that can’t be detected just by looking at a person. And also the best long-term partnerships increase the “value” of both partners and their family, if they make one. I’ve initially overlooked men as partners who, as I got to know them over time and interaction, demonstrated qualities (like personal integrity, quiet wittiness, relational attunement, supportiveness of kids, etc) that were far more valuable and sexier to me than being the best -looking or highest-income or whatever. I’m married to a man who dismissed me initially as a partner (and I him) but as we got to know each other over a year of being sort of coworkers, we discovered really amazing qualities in each other. I made more than him when we got married and now he out-earns me, and we support each other’s growth and development and our kids’ too instead of competing with each other.

[@catalinpausan2135]

It is, you really made me to open my eyes. Thanks

[@rodrigohenrique5782]

Bro, why would i even care about having kids and passing genes? the world is fucked, why would i put another soul in this world to suffer just for my ego?

[@-whackd]

Most people aren't depressed losers like you are. Some people like life, but you wouldn't understand.

[@miniaturejayhawk8702]

Ironically with that logic you will just be a dead end for your family tree because of your ego. Of course you will probably react with how you dont owe anything to anyone however that would only contradict your original statement. Please stop acting like you are some altruist and just say that you dont like having kids arounds. The world is not coming to an end and you are really helping nobody by having less people around to solve the existing problems.

[@rodrigohenrique5782]

@@miniaturejayhawk8702 Bro, who cares about their family tree, In 3 generations nobody will know your name even in your own family. i dont know the name of my great great grandfather And 99% chances that the men in your family are not some super important human, just normal people. There are a lot of normal people in the world so why would you even care about bloodline like your are some king, duke of England that the kingdom needs a sucessor Second of all, chances are my kids would not be some Enstein or someone like that to solve a big humanity problem. There are plenty of people in the workspace to substitute one another

[@d.dr.v42]

@@rodrigohenrique5782things are different now with the internet, you can register a video talking about your life and conserve it for future generations. If someone cares about you enough your video could be seen by people from 1000s years in the future.

[@danielvillagomezrazo1225]

I'm just starting a well pay job as a Technician but I'm new, I have a lot to learn and improve, every day all expect that I perform good, life is hard

[@LiGHTProductions]

You are on a good path. Keep going!

[@Sh0ckmaster]

Reminds me of an expression I remember hearing at school: Oppression is the mother of ingenuity.

[@EbayvideosR]

I’m a low value man and dated a high value woman. I felt bullied and insecure because she kept comparing me to her ex’s and other men. This was the first time I dating a woman at the age of 41. I never realised how weak I was as a man otherwise I wouldn’t have done anything. I have zero friends and extremely lonely, so I’d probably be better off dead as I offer no value. I ended the relationship out of love because I was too negative and insecure. Broke my own heart and it took 10 months to heal. A man must always be in par with a woman or smarter. If the woman is smarter than it’s virtually game over

[@Undeadsweater]

I’m sorry that she hurt you by comparing you to exes. That is not fair to you, and I think that it’s generally toxic for someone to do that to their partner. Ideally two partners should be roughly equal in intelligence, but the idea that only the man should be smarter is ridiculous. You would rather date a dumber, less interesting woman, just because you’re insecure? Instead of dealing with your insecurity, you’ve decided to date worse women so that you can always feel like you’re better than them. This is not a healthy way to deal with it, and pretty sad and pathetic. Maybe you can rethink your approach, and improve yourself rather than seeking dumber partners.

[@EbayvideosR]

@@Undeadsweater I feel it was more of an experiment on her part because I was 41 who never had a gf or been on a date before. We were great as friends and made each other laugh all the time, but my lack of experience and confidence messed everything up. On a positive note, she taught me about heartbreak, grieving and being played. Although it’s bad, I’m more the wiser and decided to retire from dating/finding someone. If you feel your not good enough for any woman, best to avoid because a better man can take your place. It’s taken 10 months to heal my broken heart. Some may take quicker to heal but breaking a heart isn’t a nice feeling and that’s why I had to retire. Men should be in par or smarter than the women. If women are smarter than their partners, they are going to make them feel insecure and that will lead women to keep their options open/cheat. Men will always feel inferior when women are significantly smarter than them. I’m not after anyone and retired after my recent experience.

[@abhijeet8718]

Wow that's the best explanation to this topic i have came across you not only covered the REAL problem with everything but gave the solution to Back then men didn't had any dopamine stimulation like we have so they resprted to being the best at what they do and eventually they would end up with women and fet that dopamine kick which all chase but now we are bombarded with dopamine so we don't have a good reason to approach women So if you cut those dopamine stimulation and work hard on yourself then you will be able to approach women and get the REAL dopamine kick Bro that some amazing insight ❤🎉

[@sfrealestatedealmaker6001]

I like your channel man, you’re the most intellectual pick up/red pill dude on KZbin

[@bboynewsboy991]

I just got through telling a man this last Friday

[@elitepuncher]

Hey Denmo, appreciate the video. I currently am 24 years old and I’ve been working for a security tech company for about 3 years now making a decent living. I work 44-50 hours a week depending on overtime hours and things of that nature. I cold approach but not as much as I should be because I look for ‘ choosing’ signals, is this the wrong mindset to have? Just confused on what to do because there is a lot of advice out there that just contradicts eachother

[@poodabran]

I have two dates lined up this week. You're right, I was an incel at one point.

[@Denmosocial]

proud of you brother. huge progress. amazing

[@poodabran]

@@Denmosocial Fast forward......when we got home, let's just say.......that was the best penile message I have ever had. 😁🍑🍆

[@robertfullone9032]

Morals, ethics, and values...

[@LeaderfasteR]

very helpful

[@jonp.1084]

For all you younger guys that feel like by the time you get to where you want to be (because it can be a lengthy process for some, myself included), just know that at the finish line you can still date young and beautiful women well in to your 40s and 50s. I’m 43 and it’s almost creepy how many sub 20 women make it apparent they are very interested in me. That’s a bit young for me but the offer seems to always be on the table. You have plenty of time if you decide to commit to becoming the best version of yourself that you can. Just commit to it and know it’s not a straight line. There is not a ton of competition because of the weakness of modern men.

[@-whackd]

What are the ages of the last women you hooked up with?

[@jonp.1084]

@@-whackd 24 and 27

[@panagioti6371]

This mf spittin

[@DavidW-ux2gc]

Dating coaches often use Jabba the Hutt as an example of a guy to emulate as he's physically unattractive but is still surrounded by multiple vvomen.

[@Denmosocial]

lmao thats funny

[@moussaahmed4675]

I’m still young but I’m tryna make the most out of my time while still having fun

[@Denmosocial]

great mindset

[@yuno7825]

yo Jack, I was with some friends not too long ago and there was a girl that I didnt know who she was or where she came from. We were 4 guys just talking and having random conversations and I noticed she wasnt engaging nor speaking with the group, so I tried to have a convo with her. I got her attention and asked her what her name was, if she was friends with a guy in the group and if she was studing or working. All I got were 1 word responses for each question, so I just quit. Should I have done anything different? Its not like I was attracted to her or anything I was just trying to have a chat.

[@AR7271]

Nope

[@user-ce7jc9xj4o]

Thanks 🪄

[@OceanicEstate]

Western clothing collapsed upon it's own merit.

[@user-uj9cc5ch5p]

Denmo I am really catching on to what your saying. For me I am a dumbass I'll keep pushing a door when it says pull but I need a woman and blatant stupidity is not attractive. I need you to give me a One sentence answer to me as what I should do. Mr. X

[@neilwaterson2487]

Thank.

[@tatertots5006]

You Should Write a Book!

[@milanpospisil8024]

Leveling playing field by forbidding dating apps and onlyfans is not really communism, but it was also common in capitalism in 19th century. Its just thing about moral rules of relationships. In 19th century, capitalism was in its highest, but still, women were forbid to do sex outside of marriage and there was moral punishment from society. There were also arranged marriages. This has nothing to do with communism. I was born in communism, sex outside of marriage was common and no arranged marriages.

[@lordgrim355]

As a 28 year old man I agree with most of what’s being said I think men who leave these women alone and grind and make money. Like you said contribute to society still regardless. Making life about getting women is pathetic. You should be wanting to make your life better period. That should be the only focus.

[@tamayohutton8965]

There are several flaws in the argument: 1. Democracy: there are more women than men and they have and continue to vote for more socialist system that reduce meritocracy by taxing the more productive and these taxes go overwhelmingly to women. 2. Social Pressures: Women despite having more rights than men still overwhelmingly make less than men on average because there are mating pressures on men to do so because women are hypergamus. But they still complain and put social pressures on schools, businesses to give more opportunities to women even though women don't want to do these jobs or degrees, or are just not as good, hence the development of DEI and quotas etc. These are massive problems. We need men's labour and creative power to move society forward because women overwhelmingly haven't created the same amount of value to society in this way, and by moving in this direction they aren't creating the value which only they can which is through making children. We are seeing this play out through massive drops in birth rates as well as a decline in economic productivity. This is way more than just dating, this is the survival of the human species. We need meritocracy so women who are capable and want to do traditionally masculine things should be able to. But when all women are being pushed to waste their most fertile years through propaganda and government invention, while simultaneously demonizing and alienating young men traditionally the biggest source of productivity and innovation (destruction too) we are literally destroying the future.

[@badchinchila9799]

Your lesson is all great but you forget one simple idea. If everyone is high value then no one is, and that becomes the new normal and the cycle continues like a bubble that will have to pop eventually.

[@shadow_0929]

“You choose to be stupid” Damn, you're right

[@Denmosocial]

not meant to offend, just educate. hope it helps

[@shadow_0929]

​@@Denmosocial Your videos are definitely helpful. I just thought the way you said that was on point and quite funny at the same time

[@Yuri-nc9vl]

What I can say AI gf business will gonna be huge and I want a pie from it 😅 Being succesfull & rich is much better

[@danielwer6488]

thx

[@luqmanahmed3191]

i don't man i am 24 right now i am going to be a doctor next year yet i have a porn and masturbation problem and ever time i talk to a girl and i get to a good start i just can't continue i feel stuck and act weird and then the relationship goes down the f"ucking graph chart it just needs consistency and time and effort and i can't seem to give it what it takes i just feel i bit lonely and i have become kind of complainer i complain about everything when i take steps to change bro it lasts a few weeks and i am back to the same place, in the long run, i think it is just spelling out disaster i think i need help like serious mental help i am becoming more of a patient than a doctor but i just have a hope that things will turn around and i can be this confident block that is contributing positively to himself and the society

[@Pile55]

The best is to get higher rate women then mens value go up. But politicans want more men to lower mens value , to force men to work hard.

[@palmitexx]

it makes sense

[@user-uj9cc5ch5p]

Denmo, I am the chimp or less than a chimp. Mr. X

[@United_Wings]

Interesting 🤔

[@tamtenchalan6425]

What should I do when girl is stalking me?

[@theblerd1889]

Ignore her

[@anthonyscameraaa]

Shoutout denmo

[@Discoverchris]

Denmo women been fucking shit up since the fucking beginning of time In the garden of Eden

[@trinsit]

Looking at the world through the lens of comparison can be problematic. Value is subjective and thinking yours are high causes you to look down on others and EVERYONE is doing this to each other. You are an insignificant speck in this existence and the universe will not notice nor care when you're gone. And everyone holding back does make a difference because a big cause is that no women has to care if they lose a relationship. Some other yahoo is always willing to sleep with them, even if they're in a relationship. No one cares until the get consequences. And even then, you ALL will make excuses as to why you're right rather than be humble and learn from it.

[@cardeajackson7644]

You never talk about how guys are suppose to get a boyfriend like why is the advice only catering to straight people.

[@theblerd1889]

I think you guys got it on lock tbh

[@TehGoldd]

Was it 50/50 back then because divorce rates were 50%?

[@boblee3322]

preach

[@skkadoot9533]

i have to disagree with the point that people won't lower their level. Women might have more choice when it comes to dating, but they still need it, there are still a lot of frustrated women out there complaining they can't find a worthy man, and that's the thing, sure they can aim at the very top of men, but the math simply won't work because there would be such an over abundance of women targetting the top that it's just impossible for the majority of them to succeed, this creates frustrated people, and frustrated people change culture. We are only looking at this through the lens of dating and sex, but when it comes to actual life long relationships men do have a lot of power, we can delay raising a family for way longer than they can, a men in their 30's aren't desperate to have children, but a woman would be. Eventually the realization comes that if you only aim for the top men, you aren't going to have children, or at least are going to be raising them alone. Both men and women still have their heads in the past, and i expect both of us to change our mentality as time goes foward, i see this power inversion like two springs oscilating and losing energ with every swing, i don't think women have as much power today as men had before, and that furthers my point that we are going to be doing a few cycles of power swing losing energy with each turn until things stabilize close to the center. Edit: i 100% agree people should rise their level, that's just straight up good for you regardless of women, but my point is that a society can only work if the average guy can get the average woman, and i don't think the average guy is a basement dweller who puts no effort, but if women tend to pursue people with higher value than them and their own value is now equal to guys, then the average women will be pursuing the top men, and that's the problem. We can't reverse to a society where the average women has less value than men, and that means the only solution is for people to lower their standards, not to people below them, but for people with the same value as them

[@skkadoot9533]

also, while biological desires are strong, they are still influenced by culture, if the situation keeps getting worse for men we are probably going to have boys being taught that pursuing sex isn't worth it, and this doesn't mean happier men, but it does mean women will also start loosing access to sex, both sides will get progressively less satisfied

[@jvaga]

Cold approached 34 women in college the past 3 months, got 5 Instagrams but no relationships. It makes 0 fucking sense, I’m average looking but not ugly and I have a sense of humor. This shit is insane

[@theblerd1889]

Focus on you bro make that money and go to the gym 5 days a week

[@hyperstorm7636]

I cold approached 5k to get 1 relationship

[@bh-rf9dd]

I recommend going for warm approach over cold approach. You can do this by developing a good group of friends where you hangout doing wholesome stuff like sports which other girls might also like to join. You can also invite girls to hangout in low pressure scenarios which will help just build a network of girls that can simply be friends. Eventually you might meet a girl in that network worth dating. It will also set the relationship for success from the beginning because of the social network which connects you.

[@user-uj9cc5ch5p]

Hey Denmo like wow man I don't want a woman in my life, I'd much rather play Madden Football. Xman

[@initiatorhater0688]

It shouldn't be a surprise... women don't need to know or learn any particular skills or behaviors in order to have men want to date them, just be attractive and available... But men have to demonstrate value right from the beginning in many ways - so we as men have to end up having to working on ourselves a lot more than women do just to get dates and be able to attract the other sex. Whenever people say that women have to know or learn skills or learn certain behaviors in order to attract men, have men want to date them, i get very annoyed, it just makes me laugh and cringe.

[@jessieloise2152]

"Just dont be a bum bro" as if a lot of us are successful w everything except women... Stable job, fit, not a douchebag, the results of my labor? Nothing, but maybe if I take steroids and make 6 figures that will fix my problems...

[@donkeyparadise9276]

Is lust a vice or a virtue?

[@eduardogonzalezguerra]

a sin.

[@insidetrip101]

This isn't the point of your video, but it is a point that irks me. Do people Romanticize the past? Absolutely. The mindset that ancient people had would have horrified us in so many ways with the depths of their intensity. The past were full of literal people who had no other option but to live out their values with intensity--otherwise, as you say there would be ostracization i.e. death. However, I am perhaps more annoyed by demonizing the past. Just because there were lots of rapes and murders, weren't because of anarchy. In most all states there were plenty of serious laws--and perhaps even more threatening--moral imperatives, that kept men from acting in the ways you described. Now, in many of those cultures (the middle ages not being one for their devotion to Christianity), would have believed they did nothing wrong if they could get away with it. But I would say there are plenty of people like that today, they're just either in jail, at the pinnacle of power or likely not in the west. Don't get me wrong, people got away with bad shit long before. But the real truth is we have an abundance of food, which causes very few wars, which causes not so much state sanctioned violence--and here's where we start to get political. In lots of the world where there is real war torn countries--we make the past look like heaven...... Like you said, we have many of the same problems in the past as we do today, we just have technology help us with them. But that doesn't mean that I think that its cut and dry that technology has aided humanity. I think the lack of suffering has really weakened the western moral fabric more than we would like to admit, and its not easy to phrase that without coming off as some sort of fascist. I'm not saying that we should try to "go back in time," but I am saying that I question the modern believe that prosperity actually solves all the problems. Bad education? throw money at it. Bad Health care? Throw money . . . throw money . . . throw money . . . as if that's the all powerful force in the world. Wealth is a great force, but I really do not think it is the end all be all, and though the rich and powerful threw around their power the best they could, when they could . . . the overwhelmingly poor majority did not. "The strong do what they can, and the weak suffer what the must." I don't see that being anything but a universal human truth--that even exists today.

[@Nightwalker1105]

Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. And, weak men create hard times. - Dunno where I heard it

[@Laissez-faire402]

People need to stop parroting this useless phrase.

[@patrickhook4424]

This goes beyond the blackpill. Jesus...

[@ZXNTV]

Unsubbed, from my point of view the only path forward is technologies like AGi and humanoid robots. You're right we can't go backwards but changing yourself for the "good of society" or women isn't going to convince men who've been scarred, especially if you just call them cockroaches who will be forgotten. (We all will at some point) Make no mistake when it comes to dating it's a competition so it makes sense to be aggressive, just don't hate people who decide to opt out, no one owes anyone anything.

[@gougouga]

what the fuck

[@theblerd1889]

Self report

[@Wicknarr6909]

Way better explanation on dynamics. I really hate seeing the “hunter-gatherer” comparisons from a lot of online losers spout. As if dynamics aren’t totally different and better now. They all look with rose colored glasses as if just cause they’re a dude meant they’d be entitled to shit, but they have a job like “influencer” or “podcaster”.

[@planu9031]

11:44 hahaha so random😂

[@Demonvii7]

Women will benefit most here, alot of men will get fit and get better paying jobs and then provide even more attractive options for women to cherrypick 😂

[@albirruakbar]

is okay if poor guy approach woman?

[@AlekNovy]

Here's the part that your "solution" MISSES. It's not mathematically possible for guys as a group to reach the new ASK. The issue is not that that women merely ask for more than they used to. That's not the issue! Women have always gradually increased the ask with each generation, which is what drives human evolution. THAT PART IS FINE, but you're MISSING something... The RELATIVE ask has increased. This instinct in women had always been calibrated via looking at the bottom 50% of men and asking them to level up and get over that 50% threshold. This meant that most guys could become worthy if they just put in the work. The issue is that today that SAME instinct in women has been mis-calibrated (due to algorithm brain) where women confuse the top 50% of their social feed for "what worthy looks like", not realizing it's the top 1% of the actual population. The ask today is "stop being in the bottom 99%" Even if ALL MEN LEVELED UP, NOTHING WOULD CHANGE, because we'd just have a new 1%. It's not MATHEMATICALLY possible that men simply become dateable by becoming a 1%er. By its very NATURE the goal is unreachable no matter how much work men put in, because as they level up, the goalpost just moves (due to the fact it's always calibrated to the new 1% via what women see on their feeds).

[@LeoLau-jw7ji]

17:08 ai girl friends

[@minhtu7123]

Big balls

[@Lordani66]

Yes it was better that way, because it was the only way the society prospered. That's just the way nature made us. Anything else is causing the current downfall.

[@graceblomberg614]

what is bro babbling about

[@AR7271]

If you already commented, you did not watch the entire video.

[@Denmosocial]

yup

[@slvrstake]

What does that say about you? Lol

[@Hennessy1111]

This is the most depressing video I have ever seen

[@LeoLau-jw7ji]

Genes that make you like have a ton of s## if you think about it would pass down very quickly whait thats an amazing p### show/movie plot

[@endzor]

18:53 :communism is not making everyone same, but giving everyone same fair opportunities