If You're Feeling Behind in Life...You're Actually Right on Time!

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[@depressiontoexpression]

What if you are exactly where you need to be right now, at this very moment. Go at your own pace my friends and have some fun in your jungle gym and colourful path. Our next meet up on Patreon we will be sharing our drawings on a live call with me. Hope you can join here: www.patreon.com/scottstemarie Watch Scott's 6-part video series on overcoming anxiety with compassion: www.scottstemarie.com/freefromanxiety

[@imustaway]

This video comes exactly at the right time. I'm currently going through a difficult phase in my life where I'm not feeling well mentally. I'm 31 years old and have a large family and know a lot of people from before. I constantly notice that they get married, have children, build houses and are popular in their surroundings. I often compare myself with them and feel somehow sad about the fact, that I cannot achieve such good results. Most of my friends are in relationships and somehow successful in life. Recently I finally deleted my social media (Instagram, etc.) and that has brought some improvement. I have more peace of mind and don't think so much about other people anymore. I realize that everyone is different and we all have our own rhythm. Please don't be discouraged over such things. Don't think that a certain age decides everything... focus on yourself, take some time out and change your bad habits. Everything gets better with time...

[@stewart2517]

Same except am 35.

[@depressiontoexpression]

All in good time through the misty mountains

[@SiriusB88]

Don't let the internet rush you. No one is posting their failures. -Wesley Snipes 😉

[@tnt01]

31 is very young.

[@wadeparker8695]

Sounds to me like you’re right on time 🙂👍🏼

[@mariapiecuch417]

Chase the dream, not the competition.

[@xxAmyxx1120]

27 still living with my parents. I only just went back to school for my bachelors.. working part time in a restaurant. been single for the last couple years. it’s hard seeing your peers get the things you so badly want and just feeling like it’s not in the cards for you

[@inzichte]

I am 28. It is so hard to find something for yourself it is frustrate. It is the same with Jobs.

[@xxAmyxx1120]

@@inzichte best of luck to you :(

[@katherineustinova7924]

I’m 28 and I live with parents too. A can’t afford living independently (

[@shauntelgill9384]

Same I Feel like such a loser and failure for it too! Ive even cried about it ex friend hurt me with these words she said to me told me I had no life when I told her I felt behind in life! Basically I am a loser was what she was telling me was telling me things like I can't wait for your ass to get out of your stupid parents house! She texted me that to my phone in the morning It's SOOOOOO disgusting!!!! I have had days where I have broke down kept crying and feel like a complete loser and failure!!! And I haven't been able to get over it her words to me still stings to this day many months later! It changed me.

[@MP-ut6eb]

29 about to graduate just now... Never dated, depression hit so hard for 7 years, I managed to beat it (about time...😔) and started improving my life very fast. But the feeling of being behind in life is so clear and strong i see a lot of videos like this on the hope that one day i will learn to accept...

[@OlenaOlesandra]

Helping people to feel good about themselves is the most awesome mission in the world 🌎

[@AleenKurd]

I am now 23 years old and I have been feeling this feeling for four years. The feeling that you are not good enough, that you are not important, and that no matter how hard you try, you will not reach their level. The feeling that you are behind, even though I try hard to improve myself and my skills, but sometimes this kind of feeling makes me feel weak and helpless, life is a hard battle، I hope we all win the battle❤

[@depressiontoexpression]

you have SOOOOO MUCH time!!! 23 just keep learning and exploring yourself :) Time is your ally

[@blacklyfe5543]

I'm 24 and I feel the same way

[@DreamingwithD]

I'm 23 too.. I never experienced love. I yearn sometimes for it. I'm just tired to be alone now

[@AshTomatoeSauce]

Yeah you have time, but work at the things now already. Never think that you have time...and be responsibly naughty too🤭. Youth is to be enjoyed.

[@Mfr5519]

Today, I failed my exam and I have also felt a little bit lost in my life for 2-3 months. I think your video is there for me at the right time. Thank U.

[@LurkingLinnet]

❤❤❤ You still got this.

[@LurkingLinnet]

Hey people, wherever you are cherish it. Be proud of your body for being with you for so long, thaf mind of yours for still going on. The fact that you're here n alive. Yes you are resilient. Things happen. After years of struggling with a basket of mental illnesses and childhood trauma I've started believing in change and choices, i dont wait for good things anymore but believe in the strength that i have acquired through all these things that would surely make me last in the long run. Yuppp, im not the typically successfully person nor very skilled but I know that I no more self harm to feel things and can finally begin to see real joy in little things like fleetings of good times. ❤ YOU GOT THIS Cheers to the fact that you're hereeee!!! I'm really glad.

[@tarinaaleamoni]

Wonderful content as always. I’ve been feeling intense waves of depression lately because a lot of my peers are about to graduate college and go on to their chosen career paths that they’re sure about, and I have felt so confused about my long term career desires over the past several years. My 20s have definitely not been the golden years so far, but I’m realizing that everyone’s path is different and it’s okay to not know exactly what I want to do. It’s just hard to accept right now though. Sending love and acceptance to each of you 🙏

[@Ahbhswrzq9221]

My life, my mission, my rules. That feels so nice to say. Very liberating. I think the main thing that gets us to believe that we are behind is all these systems that have been put in place in society. Go to school, then uni then, get a job, then get married, then have kids, then raise kids, then get your kids married, then be a grand parent. And it’s like if you don’t follow the system chronologically you’re a failure. And you know what I was thinking too. God really wants to tell us that their is no one way of living life. That’s why somethings might not go as we plan, and God directs us to something else. For example, you want to graduate but never end up passing you last year and had to get a job instead and start earning money for a living. This was probably the best thing for you. For someone else the best thing for them is probably to graduate then get job. That’s why God is the best of planners. He knows what is best for each one of us. Same thing with getting married. Some people think I’m going to get married early so I can have kids and they get married but can’t conceive! Maybe that is what is best for them. Not to have kids. Yet an other couple might marry old and have kids, because that is best for them.

[@blacklyfe5543]

Don't get married

[@wwe412]

I feel that a lot I see my friends I see people and I see things advancing and just keep going forward and I feel like am stuck in the same place. Like going to another grade and your friends are going to college and you feel behind. Everything you mention I feel because I see it and I am a very observant person.

[@depressiontoexpression]

advancing looks different for everyone. I'm sure you've advanced in so many ways too

[@secretsound_]

I’m 27- I have no car because I cannot afford one which is a detriment to where I live since Texas is very car reliant. There’s public transportation here that I use but it’s not great. I work part time. I still live with my mom. I’m going back to college in August. Got dumped for my “lack of direction” in life and it did a lot of damage to my self esteem, especially bc most of my friends are married, in relationships, graduated, have a career and have become very successful so I feel like there’s a lot wrong with me. I’m just trying to pick back up where I left off because I want to prove myself wrong and that I can do it but I feel like it’s impossible. I feel unworthy of love and have basically banned myself from dating until I can get a stable career and have my own car/place. I’d like to be more graceful with myself but it’s hard when you have an inner critic that wants you to prove people wrong

[@vanessao9964]

Your commeng resonated with me a lot. I just want to say that you are worthy of love now just as much as you are worthy of love when you have a car/house. If your intention to get a car/house/stability is so somebody else will love you, then you'll never be satisfied when those things come. If you would love your significant other if they were in the same shoes as you, I promise you, you can find that love for yourself too. Not dating anyone until you find more love and respect for yourself is a much better reason than not dating anyone until you're "successful". You're awesome in your own way xx

[@secretsound_]

@@vanessao9964 oh my goodness, you dont know how much I needed this! I teared up lol, but I do need to give myself more grace. I guess it really is true that we’re all worthy of love regardless of the state that we’re in (as far as success goes) man this was so sweet to read! Thank you so much for your kind words.

[@caramoonlynn]

I worried about being behind in my graduate studies, but God whispered to me that I'm doing just right...just what I need to be. There will be SO many opportunities in the future for me. More opportunities than I can even accept! Thanks Scott.

[@danielagallego9875]

I know I definitely feel behind in life right now. I'm 32-years-old and have been dealing with being unemployed for more than a year now. I've put my application out there for so many jobs I've lost count, and have probably only got 4 interviews in return with no callbacks. It hurts when I hear people talk about me behind my back, call me lazy and assume I'm not even trying, and then say that I don't know anything about my field and that I'm not going anywhere in life. Even one of my parents has this sentiment. I feel this immense pressure on my shoulders that is slowly weighing me down, and that inner voice telling me I'm not good enough, and that I'm not wanted. It's haunting stuff. I'm doing what I can to combat those negative thoughts, and I'm certainly grateful for the people I do have on my side. Those are the people who always have a kind word to say and know how hard I'm trying because they've seen me pull long hours trying to improve myself. This video came into my feed at the right time. My life, my mission, my rules. Thanks, Scott, for always being here for us.

[@trewaynegittens3118]

Your Timing is perfect honestly I felt like my software has not been updated since early 2023 I am scared of what is going to happen next idk where i'm going I feel like i'm jist getting through life instead of living it.

[@stephaniegonzalez5982]

Even before you said pull out a sheet of paper I got up and immediately pulled out my art supplies! Thank you for this video- it helped me create a vision for the collaboration I'm seeking in my life! I'm not interested in the rat race and that's reflected in what I drew.

[@licmarthadiaz]

Yeah :) That s right! Life is not a Competition it's a Blessing.

[@mlnrzyy]

I'm 19 and 2nd years in college. Lately i have been feeling behind from people around me especially my closest friends. I envy that their life is like have a good family, find their passion, have people who really cares, even find partner early. This video help me realize that people is most likely just share theirs happiest moment, that's i compare it to my lowest state rn. That's just sound unfair to me. Thanks man for making this video, Appreciate it. *Sorry for bad English

[@euphonicbalance]

I was felling like this. I am now so happy and positive about life, just because I'm doing things differently doesn't make me wrong or behind! Mentally I'm now much happier. Thank you x

[@vedant1944]

God bless you

[@depressiontoexpression]

and you!

[@rafaelfelixamaral]

I watched this video on the right time! I'm 28 yo, living with my parents yet, I don't have a car or even a driver license and I'm constantly compairing myself with my friends that already have these things 😅 But your video make me see all this for other perspective ❤

[@rabiabelani1184]

I needed this rn, I was feeling extremely jealous

[@lizahuseman5214]

That was a really good whipped cream sound effect!!!

[@annatexas2974]

Just started watching, but wanted to tell u it is soo cool, necessary and original on this stage platform which is YT, good job! God bless!

[@depressiontoexpression]

God bless you - thank you!

[@DreamingwithD]

I'm 23 and i never experienced love..no matter how much i tried.. I don't know if i ever get some emotional support and love. I'm tired

[@nomsantshangase3819]

You're such a genius, you're brilliant! I wish I could have a chance to give you a big hug. We need more people who think like you. Thank you so much!!!

[@nikitadhere9536]

Thank you so much, your videos calm me down so much and are honestly a lifesaver. I recently turned 24 and am an immigrant in UK who's been denied/ 'waitlisted' of a lot of opportunities because of my status alongside dealing with an incident of assault/spike which caused me to leave behind a job that was my dream. It's been a year since I made loads of big changes to prioritise my mental wellbeing but am now feeling so behind in life because of the constant applying and interviewing but not getting anywhere. I know there is light in the end of this phase of life but it's hard waiting when you don't know its coming. Thank you so much for being a kind, non-judgemental voice that is reassuring and reminding me that compassion and kindness does exist.

[@veronicareka]

This video came at exactly the right time and this is so so true! I think we can all feel behind in life sometimes

[@MuntyStain]

Aw man this got my teary eyed, thank you, I needed to hear this

[@bonnibeltheclockgoddess]

Just a short few words here, almost got teary eyed at how beautifully you presented some of these words. ❤ It’s very true and practically impossible to ever “compare” accurately. I especially liked your race track analogy and thought it was quite funny and surprisingly applicable to many things in life. 😂🤔 (jungle gyms and colorful paths all the way 🙌🏻 childlike wonder!). I enjoy doing the things that really speak to me and gives me passion in life, and on the days I feel slow or like I’m wasting my time, this whole thought process rings very true to me as something beautiful to have. I can’t accomplish any and all things nor should I try to. I am living a different life and that is OK. I should be proud to be me, and that I fill this particular place in the world. The joys and the discoveries and the all too easy sense of “not being enough/going too slow” can all exist in a very fulfilling emotional space all the while. We are simply scared that we’re not “making it” whatever that means. I for one, don’t think that concept exists, and I think we are “making” a lot of beautiful things just as we are. 🤭

[@muhammadhamza4494]

I reaaalyyy wanted to hear this. So Glad I discovered this channel.

[@nitikasheoran9861]

No bf or children, quite my job, had to close my business. No rent money. Moving in with my parents st 34

[@yaniaja1918]

Thank you Scott. Just in time.

[@JaniceCarter-ws7lu]

That's a lie from the pits of hell😊don't ever let anyone use that to bring you down because when you begin to do for yourself, those same folks will still try to down you..God's timing is perfect Those who focus on your failures and success are the ones who are behind when they could be doing more, not you..Keep God first🇺🇲

[@amsd1231]

Life in its entirety isn't a race but certain aspects of life are. This is why you really ARE behind in some sense. Say you want to start a family. You can do it at 26 or at 50(this isn't even an option for women). The two situations are very different especially if you were forced to delay your family life due to factors like financial stability. How much time will you really have with your family if you started it at your 50s as opposed to in your 20s. With your grand children?

[@journaling.aw.vlog.37]

Happy to see you, the channel is really helping the talk on the Keto diet really awakend senses to the stress, I stress often about my weight my goal is to lose 50lbs it's been a goal for years have not been able to achieve but the heavy CARBS I am thinking could have something to do with it I believe I will really need to make some serious changes to my diet. My weight really affects my Mood.. & Stress this could have something to do with my Mental Illnesse I am listening 🎧

[@depressiontoexpression]

Nutrition plays a huge role. Carnivore diet did help me for a while to reset my entire microbiome. I wish you all the best!

[@Goodmorningyouall]

I do always feel like I have lost it all and so will never be happy and loved.

[@brokegirl1452]

Praying for you ive lost alot in my life. I dont feel like ive even gotten back up in a long time fully like i use to be and you know what im ok with it. I straight gave up. Lol I mean ive slowly tried i just feel like im not the same as i was. Try to do small things and do things that make you happy in small ways maybe itll lead you into a new thing i try to stay positive atleast even though nothings happening phenomenal and i aint wining a trophy or getting brownie pts. Love you and love what you love to do

[@Lifeactually2.0]

So very grateful for you. thank you for mending my broken heart one episode at a time.

[@inzichte]

Sometimes I feel like that.

[@depressiontoexpression]

same 🙃

[@miowes3473]

hey, Scott! I absolutely love your videos, they always make me feel safe. I just wanted to ask if you could share some advice on how to get through a breakup, it would be interesting to hear what you can share with us ❤❤❤

[@Rain-ec4jj]

Nobody want to collaborate or walk with me for success since they think they're too cool for me. How can I not feel left behind while working on goals by myself?

[@DreamingwithD]

Do it yourself. For you.

[@Dreamuntilyourdreamcometrue]

I love listenıng to you

[@jadeana0110]

Thank you Scott. I'm getting that feeling and your kind words in time help me ❤❤ Love from Vietnam

[@mimi-iy7jv]

i love how reflective u are

[@mimi-iy7jv]

thank you@James-gp5cw

[@KatM272]

The whoville part really got me. It’s 2am lol

[@k.6160]

That was funny 🤣

[@purgatorypotato]

thank you. im going through a really tough time right now these always help just a bit and it is so appreciated. keep it up

[@minouchekaftel6371]

Thankyou so much. I feel this a lot. Everyone I was at school with is married with kids. I didn't do that. I don't own property and although I've achieved a lot in my music and acting I feel behind

[@FilipTravnicek]

this video is great and you are actually funny

[@Onthe9thlife3730]

I don't compare myself to others, just myself and my goals. Lo and behold I am very behind and unable to ever get to where I want to be. I'm literally having to decide between homelessness and becoming deceased since I can't afford medication or trying to get a job that will just destroy my health again. I don't any savings left after trying to recover, I've always struggled to find suitable jobs, I've restarted 4 times already. 4! With nothing working oniy to find in my early 30s that I am autistic and ADHD and there are no jobs and the reason EVERYTHING has veen so hard is because of having a different physicality that just gets discriminated against. I'm so tired of being alive.

[@rb-44]

Going through something similar. I have no idea what I'm going to do.

[@tamerastone4732]

U made me laugh! Thank u!!! U r really helping me in a very hard time!

[@usernotfound232]

I am almost 20 and feel immensely behind, everyone my age have already figured it out are in great places in life yet here I am still roaming around with an unclear future path, it’s so hard because I often find myself thinking even if I achieve the greatest thing ever it wouldn’t count for anything because I didn’t achieve it “on time” so

[@user-un5ch8hq1y]

I love watching your Videos Scott. I've been watching you for a while you have really helped Me with my struggles. Love You Scott take care of yourself and have a Happy New Year💕💕

[@7dawid7]

I felt this way lately. Thank you 🙏

[@chromatinkiss]

I appreciate this talk. Thank you

[@stephaniezuercher85]

The bookshelf got me🤣👍🏻🫶🏼

[@Moncxenytecnomium]

2:21 Break the illusion😌🙏🏼🌌

[@rabiulislam2174]

Racing towards ultimate fate called Death

[@davidmares6053]

Well this is also not applicable to homeless people or in poverty , right? When the basic needs are not met no body wants to collaborate with you then😢

[@stevej.7926]

Sure it is. Seeking, pursuing available resources is a type of collaboration. Believing in God in the most dire circumstances is a type of collaboration!

[@DreamingwithD]

Man i love your eyes❤

[@Suziie_25]

thank you so much🙏

[@FuelforLife001]

anyone here all alone ?? 😣😪😪

[@baseche9253]

Yeah buddy .

[@2socksandahalf]

only its not others im racing with but my own fertility clock, if i'm too much behind i wont be able to have my own family anymore

[@annatexas2974]

In my previous comment, I wanted to express my happiness and hope which it gives me when you mention God's name, so brave!!! Really :* (wanted to write that but I was doing 100 things at once and didn't finish writing ahaha), see yaaaa

[@davidmares6053]

I'm rolling while singing to Adele 😂in the race of life

[@depressiontoexpression]

Lmfaoo

[@ccxfrank109]

My journey is fucked up

[@adachannmentalhealthcrisis]

Thank you Scott. How do we surround with like minded people? I find it difficult to find. How do you manage to motivate yourself, while other KZbinrs quit? Many thanks and best regards

[@user-hn2zb1sh4e]

What if I don't actually want to take life as a race but everyone around me does? so they try everything to stay ahead even when I have no intention to compete !... I don't know if you can understand!... It shows by their actions and speech. They don't want to collaborate because they fear to loose their rank while I think it would be a win win to bring eachother's contributions 😢

[@DreamingwithD]

I don't have anyone to collab!

[@blacklyfe5543]

Life is a race against time there's no time to waste you're either a winner and successful or a loser and a failure. Life is all about competition you have to compete to win and accomplish your goals because you are not going to be on this planet forever so it is a race.

[@kevinlenyatsa3648]

😢

[@brokegirl1452]

Maybe you just dont want it? Maybe its not your life? Let the person for you find you or go back to them in this stage in life think about that one person. Are they available? Find them. Theyre there abs you met them Already you just need to revisit them. Let it fall into place but take the leap. One day i decided id just leave my Moms and have nothing. I took a jump with nothing , nothing is scarier than that but having your shitty cavalier. Its like YESman lmao in this case. I want you to say yes and go find them again theres that one person you know you can meet in real life and do things. There has to be one.

[@nomg563]

🧸❤️‍🩹🙏🏽

[@bengrant1201]

Bullshit

[@John-ls1mn]

I quit on the military and also did nit finisb my doubke major and have no house or a lot of moneh now i have to finger out what to do

[@John-ls1mn]

Im 32

[@bigjerkface78]

This is a bunch of cat poster bullshit