How I'm Doing Postpartum and Must Have Items

[@daxxark1165]

Me, 23, single and not pregnant: wow I kinda want everything

[@DesiPerkins]

😂😂😂

[@jojootero]

SAME!!!!

[@giocondamirra8222]

Literally same😂

[@olgalucianaranjo7987]

Me, 26, single af: same.

[@jackojackk]

😂😂💀

[@melindahernandez5629]

I actually don’t care if this whole channel doesn’t even mention makeup anymore. I love watching you and Steven and baby O❤️ And of course the doggies. I love the stories the story times and all of that. Don’t rush back into makeup girl don’t even worry about it. How about a story of all of this from Steven’s point of view? How is Steven doing?

[@servinnancy7]

Yesss very well said and yes that would love to see that a guys perspective on how they feel going through or seeing their significant other in pain or what goes through their would love stevens side story

[@samantha8031]

AGREEEED! please bring steven into a video like this or ask him to upload to his channel :) i think a guys prespective should be heard

[@almasandoval670]

Then unfollowed. You are in the wrong channel. Where are you going that you have to do your makeup anyway.

[@samantha8031]

@@almasandoval670 why comment? are you looking for someone to beg you to stay? off you go!! theres plenty of make up channels for you to get lost in. drama!

[@melindahernandez5629]

@@almasandoval670 alma baby i think you read my comment wrong hunny! but go awf

[@intendandinspire]

I’m so glad that Steven advocated for you. I’m also a nurse, and I’m very familiar with nurse Ratchet’s like that. Not only do they make their patient’s life difficult, they also make their coworkers lives difficult. Any whooo... I’m super happy for you guys. ♥️

[@melissanewman1247]

Ugh my experience.🙄 I had my husband ask for a different nurse. She really made me feel horrible maybe it was because I just had a baby idk but I cried.

[@BeautybyLianixX]

Wow thank u for sharing this ! My son is now 8 and I had a bad experience with nurses too. I thought it was just me.. I’m 4 months pregnant and scared because I don’t want to switch doctors but she’s affiliated with the same hospital where I had my bad experience. This time around I will speak up if I’m feeling mistreated!

[@PharaohJay417]

As an expecting father, this was super helpful. It has provided me with some different things to look out for with my fiancee. In addition, it gave me a bunch of helpful items to add to the baby registry for her. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

[@giovannaelyssaacuna348]

sir, you dropped this 👑

[@PharaohJay417]

@@giovannaelyssaacuna348 this made me literally LOL at work, so thank you. Hope you have a great day.

[@giovannaelyssaacuna348]

@@PharaohJay417 lol I love to see it! Same to you! 😊

[@claramunene9629]

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[@Sona77.]

You’re such a good husband!

[@XforeverXyoungXbabeX]

Would Steven ever film a video of his side of the postpartum experience? I know you touched on somethings that he does to support you. My partner and I have been watching your parental journey and he often wonders about dad tips. Love you guys and congratulations again!!

[@SaharaColeman]

Just to hear Desi talking about Postpartum after being pregnant, she’s come such a long way and I’m so happy to see a little mini Perkins 😇

[@amberj3941]

Girl this was the most REAL postpartum video I’ve ever seen, I mean that in the best way. So many moms will need this, you’re being that person who is breaking the barrier and letting women know what they need postpartum but also letting them know so so many moms go through hardships right after a baby comes. It’s the most amazing time but at the same time a mix of emotions with ups and downs. I’ve been super honest with friends and give them lists on what to get etc. Anyway I just want to say we love you desi! Big hugs! You and Steven are doing amazing!

[@nagyluca5917]

Agreed! Love her honesty and talk about everything! ❤️

[@Jolenuzza]

Agree! Such a great video!!!

[@TheSharandJoeShow]

Agreed, my mom stayed with me for a few weeks after birth and when she left I bawled my eyes out...and the thing is I am not an emotional person..

[@kyliedelgado3146]

Please do baby must haves 🙏🏼 and what you bought and didn’t use/didn’t need 🙏🏼❤️🦋

[@rosemarygutierrez6747]

Yes!!!! Please!!!!

[@mariaLOVE1212]

Yesss!

[@alysha5214]

Yes!

[@SusieColmenero]

Society is so pressed on women “snatching back” post partum. Not all of us have that bounce back ability. We have to as a society accept women where they are and not pressure us to becoming that perfect magazine mom everyone is so obsessed with. Own your transition and let women ride the waves of coming into motherhood! No postpartum experience is linear.

[@katrinamartinez1144]

Couldn't agree more, thank you for saying this.

[@tailorandmakeup2212]

Ride the waves of coming into motherhood. That’s is the best description I’ve ever heard about it. 🙌🙌

[@linneawesterdahl2375]

I’m pregnant for the first time and since I’m so young everyone tell me you won’t even be able to tell I’ve been pregnant after birth. That freaks me out. I don’t want aaaany expectations on me and my body. It is what it is and it will be what it will be. :/

[@MichelleOrtiz3417]

It's like people we carried and grew our baby for 9/10 months it doesn't take a week to bounce back everyone's body is different. At about 6 months postpartum I started feeling like myself again it was a roller coaster no doubt

[@celinachavez5757]

I actually never wanted to leave a comment because I figured “they aren’t going to read it or care” but I had my twins on the same day you had Ocean so we were pregnant at the same time. I also had a hard time breastfeeding and my babies also lost weight. It was such a break down for me, but knowing that you went through the same thing makes me feel a lot better. This is also my first pregnancy so we are in this together. Your videos have definitely helped me as I am a first time mom as well. I remember on your fertility journey the IVF DR asking you how many eggs you wanted to be implanted and you said having two the first time around is going to be hard....well let me tell you it was a good choice. Having twins is soooooooo hard. So glad you have all the help you need. Stay strong mommy.

[@juleswick]

Hi! I just read your comment and I’m not a mama BUT I was 6lbs 5oz when I was born; my mom had the same experience with me when I was a baby. She thought that I was latching on and getting enough milk etc. I was her second baby so she thought things were fine and had no idea that in fact I wasn’t feeding correctly and had lost weight. I dropped down to 5lbs or something. Her doc told her to switch to formula (which TBH she was totally ok with!) so she did and it was smooth sailing. I turned out great LOL 😂 and my mama is AMAZING and strong & the BEST MAMA, just like YOU!! 💖

[@janinebean4276]

That’s so rude that the nurse rolled her eyes at you and said “it’s normal” when you were SHAKING like that and so scared, like it might be obvious to HER, cause she sees it all the time, but obviously YOU don’t see that all the time, it’s your first time giving birth or seeing someone give birth!

[@almasandoval670]

I opted for no epidural. The nurse for my First born was a champ. The nurse for my second in a private hospital told me if you don’t want the pain that is why there is epidural. My mother in law said is it sometimes some repercussions after that. She rolled her eyes and said people all over the world came to us do you think we can tell you to do something if you have repercussions after that.

[@shellseabruffett3055]

Take all of the “free” things the hospital provides for you. Once its been taken out of its original shipping packaging and placed in your room its deemed a biohazard. They just throw it all away opened or unopened.

[@honaishlove]

Postpartum nurse: I second this. I literally make all my patients take it home even if they don’t “need it”.

[@dnrainwater]

Yep. This! They also factor it in to the cost of your hospital bill. TAKE IT!

[@ashleyswierpel6608]

I had horrific postpartum to the point I almost committed suicide. Thank God I have the best husband. No one tells you how hard your first child is to adjust to. I always tell people how wonderful it is to be a mom, but it is also the hardest thing.

[@mariewhoo7616]

I am so glad you’re here 💜

[@ashleyswierpel6608]

@@mariewhoo7616 ❤️❤️❤️ thank you! me too! It’s amazing what a support to can be to mothers when you have a story like mine❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@DesiPerkins]

I’m so sorry! It is so hard to go through such a huge shift. I don’t think anyone can prepare someone until they have their own baby. I’m glad you had such a great support system

[@ashleyswierpel6608]

@@DesiPerkins it is. I had babies 17m apart so it was a journey! We ended up stopping after two, because of how hard it was on me. But then we fostered babies for 3 years in flint and that was a blessing!!!!

[@marylu2216]

🤗 BIG HUG!! Its so incredibly HARD to be a mom!! You are VERY lucky you had a supportive husband. We were on the same boat.... I have postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD. My husband thought/thinks I made it all up and was and still is horrible with me. He absolutely does not understand anything nor can I make him understand. I can't even talk about it because it enrages him. My "best friend" just disappeared so I felt abandoned, lost, and lonely. My only support system was my mom but unfortunately she passed away the day after Christmas. You can imagine how I felt and still feel. I push through for my kids but that first year was HELL to say the least.

[@annie22901]

I am literally so happy that someone is talking about everything! Because a lot of women make giving birth like the most amazing glorious thing in the world, and let me tell you it is not! There is a lot that goes on and a lot to learn and know that no one talks about! I am so happy you are explaining everything to the tea!

[@fernandagonzalez7270]

For real! Like the Women That get special pretty gowns to give birth. I’m like.... girlllll you are NOT ready for the body fluids about to exit you. Lmao 😂

[@annie22901]

@@fernandagonzalez7270 Hahahah exactly! when I had my first baby, after my baby came out, the doctor told me to push again! I thought I was having another baby (twins), but it’s was for the placenta, I had no idea hahahahaha so embarrassing

[@madutz00]

As a FTM, this hit hard for me. The story about the nurse, the breastfeeding struggle and just mourning the life pre-baby was all relatable. Now at almost 5 months post partum, I feel much better about myself.. And now I cant even picture life without my baby.

[@geobruin]

I’m always amazed at how much hate there is for mothers. Breastfeeding? Great. Formula? Great! C-section? Awesome. Vaginal birth? Cool! Women are already subjected to so much hate and negativity, if you do your best every day for your kids, that’s what matters. Happy for you and your growing family! ♥️ thanks for sharing your story.

[@ErinKathleen]

Seriously! ❤️❤️❤️

[@_zina9054]

For real everyone is different idk why we are always competing with each other 😔

[@shulamitkalish3060]

👏 🙏 👏 🙏. People need to hear this. The mommy shaming, the woman to woman shaming just needs to stop. We woman are amazing, what we’re capable of us amazing. Ok that’s all.

[@Sara-vj3md]

Yes!! “Breast is best”... please, “feed your baby and mind your damn business” should be the phrase!!

[@chxrrio]

I love how I don’t even have a boyfriend but here I am, learning what I need post pregnancy 😂

[@Taylorlevine0920]

Girl same. No plans to have babies for years but here i am 😂

[@Berkaniaa89]

Same😅

[@xSoReckles93]

Same😂 I love watching baby and pregnancy video’s but no baby’s for me right now

[@NasiaGeorgakopoulou]

Sameee

[@Smt_.x]

Same. But I think most of us haven’t been taught about any of this. And I personally need to know what I’m signing up for before I even consider having kids 😭

[@simonedasilva751]

IM 23 AND DONT HAVE KIDS BUT IM HERE FOR THIS

[@juliasophie7897]

Me too 1997 Team 😍

[@simonedasilva751]

@@juliasophie7897 I’m not ready to be 24 ugh

[@Jclyyn]

@@simonedasilva751 I’m 22 and not ready to be 23 🥲

[@areebaaziz6389]

Sameeee

[@p0keDAmo0seyXD]

It’s insane to me how mommas have done this on their own for centuries...so much info and support out there nowadays! You are a warrior, and I learned so many new things in this vid that people haven’t shared. Thank you!!

[@unerevuese]

I can't stress enough how important it is to have a labor nurse who you vibe with honestly. My labor nurses were incredible.

[@daisyavila9653]

I’ve never cried so much, I felt this so much. The tears hit hard about breastfeeding for me and having to supplement with formula but I tell myself everyday that she’s eating good and happy. Being a first time mom isn’t easy but like you said so rewarding!

[@nicolepaciello9466]

Your hair!!! Obsessed with the 90s Mariah Carey curls 😍

[@mirnyagabrielli]

I’m not planning on having kids anytime soon but that doesn’t mean I didn’t watch this ENTIRE video minute for minute lol. This was so interesting!!!

[@rosieperaza1728]

I had my baby 4 months ago and one thing that was a GODSEND after pushing and tearing was a numbing spray. I highly recommend using one especially to help with the sting of the stitches!

[@capab4633]

Girl, I can't imagine how tough all these things have been, but you are BURSTING with confidence talking about them now, you sound like you've given birth 20 times already. Your kid is lucky to have you as a mom!

[@savannahnisble4505]

I’m not pregnant, nor will I be in the next 5 years but I just loved watching your whole journey from the beginning to now motherhood!! So proud.

[@beebri14]

The whole time I was pregnant, I told myself I wouldn’t put pressure on myself to breast feed or feel guilty if breast feeding didn’t work out for me, and then my baby was born and I did exactly that. I felt like such a failure but the fact is that he’s healthy and happy and that’s all that matters. Our mental health is so important as moms and although I am still ‘mourning’ over not being able to breast feed, I know I’m still doing my best for my baby. And you are too!! We have to support and uplift each other!

[@adrianashallys]

I recently found out that I am pregnant, I am just about six to seven weeks, and it’s been a very tough and stressful week. You sharing your story has helped me put things in perspective and provided me with hope that even through difficult times we can and will come out of it strong and empowered. Blessings to you and your family, and I pray you continue to feel better each and every day and get through those tough days❤️❤️❤️

[@Reenigrl22]

I’m going to be a first time mom and it’s so wonderful to hear you and everyone in the comments sharing their experiences and advice. Definitely makes me feel less lonely! Also would love a baby must haves!!

[@taraanthony6326]

The best advice I can give to new mothers is, don’t be so hard on yourself. Perfection is an unattainable goal and you will question every decision trying to achieve it.

[@AlianaR]

I’m so happy to see you back on KZbin! Ocean is such an absolute cutie, you and Steven are amazing parents 💙

[@xoAlanaa]

Pleeease do a baby must haves! I really appreciated this video- I'm pregnant and due April 1st. Trying to mentally prepare myself but also freaking out. Thank you!

[@Ash2121Mass]

Best wishes to you especially for a safe delivery! God speed.

[@sarahcolonia8906]

You can do this, Mama! You are literally MADE for it ❤️ Trust your Body and your Baby ✨ (My son was born April 1st! But 11 years ago already 🙂)

[@jessiikerz]

Listening to your breastfeeding journey was like reliving my experience I feel like a lot of women go through the same thing but no one talks about it, thank you for this

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[@laBuffiesuzanne]

Desi this is beautiful! I’m 67, mother and grandmother. My advice is: cherish every single moment, because one day you will turn around and be me. Time goes by so fast, enjoy the journey!!! Blessings to you!🙏❤️🙏❤️

[@hidyy]

The nurse you get really makes a difference. So sad you had a bad experience with that nurse!

[@MM-gz7oe]

It totally does but we have to remember that some people respond better to a more direct approach. She didn’t and so she got another nurse and that’s okay.

[@Queenjackyy07]

I literally just broke down when you spoke about breastfeeding. I had a similar experience as yours and I can totally relate it was one of the hardest things ever. Girl I love how transparent you are💖

[@c_starzaragoza7482]

This video helped me so much, motherhood is so hard mentally and physically but so rewarding. Feels nice that I’m not alone. Thanks for sharing your story , Ocean is so blessed ❤️

[@sandraleitelt2223]

Thank you for sharing. I’m 2 weeks postpartum with my second and literally every emotion you described about breastfeeding, body image, and hormonal shifts I’m feeling. You put into words what I’m having trouble verbalizing. You have no idea how much I appreciate not feeling alone.

[@dnrainwater]

Also, to any new moms watching, FED IS BEST. Period. If anyone tells you different, they’re wrong. I promise you when they go to college, they don’t ask your kids if they were breastfed or formula fed. Motherhood is hard enough, make it easier for yourself where you can ❤️

[@HolaPriscilla]

Such a beautiful soul you are. Thank you truly for sharing your whole journey from beginning until now with us. You are truly a beauty to watch.

[@mariewhoo7616]

I have been waiting for this!! I LOVE watching Ocean grow. His smile, his deep dimples, proud tia over here!

[@JenniferLopezJ]

Same!!!

[@ariannag2402]

I’m a ftm & gave birth in October. The labor & delivery nurses are angels. I know it’s their job to help every step of the way but it felt extra comforting to have them since my mom couldn’t be there (only one support person which was my bf) When they showed me how to use the bathroom/all the ins & outs, I legit felt that motherly energy I needed. The best ppl!

[@DesiPerkins]

Yes! I ended up with such an amazing nurse in the end and she felt like a mom. It was so nice.

[@petrarosenqvist1394]

Hi ☺️ I am a mother of 5 children, of which the oldest is 23 and the youngest is 9. This must be the best childbirth, post-childbirth and breast-feeding etc. video I've ever seen! You tell all the less comfortable and painful things that come with having a baby! You are an absolutely inspiring woman! This video should be shown to all the first-time mothers!!! Congratulations to the whole family on the newborn boy 💙! Greetings from Finland 🇫🇮, which is located near the North Pole ❄️⛄️(where Santa lives 🎅🏻)...

[@Sofia-ee6yc]

Terkkuja toiselta suomalaiselta 😊

[@petrarosenqvist1394]

Terkkuja sinullekin ☺️

[@aylindelgado125]

Tengo tiempo sabiendo que no quiero ser mamá, pero ver este video me hace asegurarlo más How strong you are Desi, full respect for you and all the mamas out there

[@laurengrimaldi2422]

Congratulations on baby Ocean and for your new journey of motherhood! Your happiness and warmth is contagious 💙

[@mkievit325]

This is sooo helpful Desi! Please please do a video on what you are using vs. what you're not! Ocean is lucky to have you as his mommy

[@DesiPerkins]

This I have to do because I feel like I got so much that I never used!

[@masonsadventures1692]

Breast feeding was the thing that messed me up!!! I felt sooo bad that I failed my kid that I gave in and gave him formula! I was in so much pain and literally sat there crying feeling like the worst mom for giving him formula! But my son is fine he’s healthy and people need to stop making moms feel bad for not breastfeeding!

[@marials9245]

Dixie Garza same here! My delibery and post partum went perfect, but breatfeeding was a nightmare and I gave up. With my second child I did not even try breastfeeding. There is a lot of stigma arround women who dont breastfeed.....

[@sjn141]

Dixie Garza I definitely agree with you. My little one is 2 weeks & 6 days old and he can’t latch on correctly. Every time I had to breastfeed I would go in so confident after watching videos and what not and told myself this is it we are going to latch correctly but @ the end of it I would just end up in tears. I thought it was my fault he couldn’t latch on correctly and that I was letting him down. I wasn’t opposed to formula but it felt like I had failed my son. It took my mother in law like Desi said to say it’s okay if you can’t breastfeed or baby can’t latch. It’s okay to give him formula, he is still going to grow up healthy and strong. At the moment all my mommy guilt went away and I felt relieved to hear someone say it’s okay if you can’t breastfeed. I read so many articles how it’s best to breastfeed to be completely honest those article and support groups only made me feel worst. So it’s refreshing hear someone say hey everything is going to be okay ☺️☺️

[@sandrasolano8189]

I FEEL YOU THANK YOU FOR SAYING IT OUT LOUD😍🙏🏻❤️ you are not alone Desi

[@victoriam2267]

Same

[@masonsadventures1692]

@@sjn141 yess trust me it will be okay!!!! I sat there a mess for a couple days after making my decision but he is okay!! He’s is 1year old now and the same size and weight as my friends son (same age) who was breastfed. My son couldn’t latch either and I was bleeding and clogged ducts! It was a mess! There’s just too much pressure from everyone and other moms shaming others like “oh wow you don’t breastfeed?” But you got this mom!!! 👍🏽

[@BloodSweatandFears]

I did not know you could request another nurse! Thank you so much for that. Im 22 weeks and very anxious over the delivery process.

[@samanthaclaire6449]

i’m 22. two cats, one dog. and i’m SCARRED. all the mommas out there are true super heroes. congrats desi🥺

[@jordenwadley7438]

Omg why are nurses either absolutely god sent or the devil themselves 😩 no in between

[@mariepier9016]

I’m a nurse and 100% second this unfortunatly.

[@bRE3zYx3]

half of them are the people who were bullies in high school

[@jordenwadley7438]

@@bRE3zYx3 LITERALLY

[@amberj3941]

I had the same experience as Desi only I had 2 nurses during the 7am-7pm shift. Marie and Wendy. Marie was the nicest person ever, and 2 years later I will never forget f’ing Wendy. I wish we would have thought about sending her away she was HORRIBLE, even my sister who was in the room said anytime Wendy walked back in you could feel the whole mood shift. My husband just stayed quite and didn’t really notice much. Wendy’s comments were rude, short, and she was just straight up mean. Cant even tell you how much pain I was in but Wendy was the worst of it. However thank GOD for Marie and she was there when my baby was born, he came in with good vibes and happiness, also Wendy was gone for the last few hours I was there yay!

[@Silvee0713]

Half do it for the money and job security and half do it because they have the heart to help people.

[@joeyshyarchuleta1020]

I just had my baby girl in October and to know that you are experiencing the same thing makes me feel so better

[@callmeclaireee]

Am I ready for a baby? No. Am I taking notes? Absolutely. And I’m so happy that your friend was able to make you feel ok about having to formula feed. Formula feeding is still feeding and that’s all that matters. Moms shouldn’t feel ashamed for having to supplement. All that matters is that your baby eats. 🖤

[@talisiasandoval1597]

me watching this at 18, with no kids and not planning on having any for a long time: “wow. this is good to know” hahaha you’re a warrior desi, all moms are

[@calyssalongoria3596]

Thanks 💞

[@brennabishop3580]

You were my favorite you tuber before you were pregnant, and now that you’ve had Ocean your videos help me so so much. I found out I was pregnant unexpectedly last November, and every single video you’ve posted has helped me so so much because i feel completely clueless. Thank you, Desi

[@nailsbysenia_]

That’s crazy, I didn’t know the trembling was a thing. I had an induced labor on October 24th but I wasn’t planning to take the epidural till my whole lower body was in shakes that I was in more pain from that than the actual contractions. That was the worst feeling but got through it. We women are amazing!

[@jenniferaragon9]

Labor hormones along with side effects from the medicine in the epidural can lead to shivers/shakes. Uncomfortable but normal. There’s medicine that can help counteract the shakes a bit if they get too intense.

[@nailsbysenia_]

@@jenniferaragon9 My legs were trembling before the epidural or anything was given to me, when they put the balloon catheter in me and right after they had taken the balloon out of me. The shakes I got from the epidural were completely different. I think it was just my body’s reaction to preparing for the baby.

[@BeautyByAnneMarie]

Always love your videos and I'm so happy for you and your husband!

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[@mairav1]

The breastfeeding topic really hit me as it was so difficult for me. I was judged by family and I felt like an even worse mother. Now pregnant with my second and I really pray that someday people will stop looking down upon moms that can’t breastfeed. Much love to you as you are doing an amazing job with ocean ❤️

[@lealiwag]

When you got to the part about breastfeeding. I actually got emotional and was holding back tears. My son was born exactly 1 month before Ocean. And breastfeeding was one of the hardest parts of postpartum. I never was able to do it. It actually was the main factor of my depression ): still talking about breastfeeding gets me emotional because my baby wasn’t gaining weight either.

[@melissacoviello2886]

It’s a hard thing to go through for sure, but even if you had to use formula, you did what was better for your baby. I’ve had 4 boys. With my oldest had no clue what I was doing, I was 19, I went from a B cup to a DD and no one I knew had any experience with breastfeeding. With my next the baby had such a small mouth he literally couldn’t nurse, the next 2 were 4.5 oz, and 4.8 oz, and needed higher calorie intake so after the first two weeks in the hospital they needed formula too. So I pumped ever few hours, and then added formula and then fed the baby. My youngest was so small, and struggled with latching even on a bottle because he was tongue tied (but not in a normal way that was fixable) so I had to feed him a bottle every 3 hours until he was 6 months old, even in the middle of the night. Ugh.

[@jasminbautista5856]

Don’t worry ! You’re not the only one girl.. I couldn’t breast feed either. I keep telling myself maybe I didn’t try hard enough and beat my self up over it. But we shouldn’t. 🥺 We did what we could.

[@kellzatron]

Awwww same babe, I felt so horrible and still sometimes do that I couldn’t breastfeed but at the end of the day our babies are healthy and loved and that’s all that matters!

[@lealiwag]

@@kellzatron exactly!!! 🥰🥰 wow I didn’t expect my comment to even be seen/read by anyone! Thanks for commenting and sharing your feelings too 🥰

[@juleswick]

I’m not a mama yet but I just gotta say that reading everyones comments is so heartwarming! It’s been a minute since I’ve read such genuinely kind & supportive comments on KZbin! No matter what obstacles we go through in life it’s ALWAYS nice knowing we aren’t the only ones! You all are incredible MAMAS! 💖

[@crystale5625]

Thank you for sharing girl. Motherhood is so hard and it can feel lonely sometimes. The truth is all those feelings for the most part are normal just no one talks about it for fear of being judged.

[@kaileeslife]

I’m not pregnant, haven’t had a baby, don’t plan on having a baby any time soon but I’m sure gone watch this whole video

[@vanessacastillo8191]

MEEEE

[@jocelynverduzco4095]

Same 🙌

[@izamarsolis5296]

Same

[@lashawnamoore8374]

Me too😂🤍🤍. I'm so appreciative of her sharing her experience .

[@thesinglemomsummit2618]

Omg I just got so emotional when you were talking about breast feeding. The same exact thing happened to me. I tried so hard. My breast hurt me so bad. I had a horrible time. Then finally I just decided I was not going to keep torturing myself I supplemented as well and took that pressure of of myself. I learned to give myself grace! You should to sis

[@christiniajennison9751]

Talking about the milk supply and finding out you weren’t producing enough that hit home. Same thing was happening to me 😔🥺. Thanks for making us feel not alone!

[@MariamNouser]

Same here!

[@sandrasolano8189]

Same here🥺

[@sm8315]

Fenugreek seeds really help in milk production. In India we have a whole diet for post parfum milk production

[@sabaviles]

Thank you for this, Desi. This video should be seen by every mother-to-be for its honesty!

[@Lucassebastianmiller]

I also had the trembling with both of my pregnancies after getting the epidural.

[@hkhgkrb]

I’m due in 3 weeks and I’ve been waiting for this video since ocean was born 🥺

[@jocelynb14]

Thank you for sharing your breastfeeding story! I’m struggling right now trying to breastfeed my newborn. And knowing I’m not the only one who felt like a “failure” is comforting. Thank you Desi💙

[@elizabethsagarnaga201]

Congratulations desi on baby Ocean he’s so precious, and so glad you’re doing well. I’m so sorry you had a bad experience with that one nurse. When I had my daughter my nurse was amazing she wouldn’t leave my side and without her and my husband I don’t think I would’ve been able to do so well. I’m currently in college and hoping I get into the nursing program I want to major in Labor and delivery or Postpartum. My goal is to help other mothers bring their babies into the world. Sending so much love you’re way❤️❤️

[@tessajericho]

What an amazing story! I wish you all the best in your pursuits 😊❤️

[@elizabethsagarnaga201]

@@tessajericho Thank you so much for your kind words.❤️

[@kelseyd8661]

You can tell Desi is a true gardener because she pronounced it “perennial” instead of “perineal” 😂

[@nickybenher595]

Women that haven't had a baby yet! KEEP THIS VIDEO FOR REFERENCE! Ya'll are SO LUCKY. KZbin wasn't a thing back when I had my first baby and the feeling of having no idea what I was doing consumed me. Thanks Desi for posting this! I am so happy for you 💜

[@Maya-rp9im]

This makes me appreciate my mom even more if that’s even possible 🥺❤️

[@jenabeagle6189]

I’m so opposite, I literally loved how I felt after giving birth (beside my body) and had so much energy to now feeling lack luster and missing that feeling. I’m so beside myself in moments of being a mom I wish I could get back to that energy! .. and happiness ugh

[@jessicaportillodeleon4395]

I found out a week ago that my baby's heart stopped beating. Due to how far along I was, I was induced. I was in labor for three days. Not having my daughter with me is the hardest thing I've ever had to endure in my life. When my milk came in I bawled my eyes out. PPD makes everything a little worse.

[@abbey-rose]

Sending you lots of love ❤️❤️❤️

[@jessicaportillodeleon4395]

@@abbey-rose thank you ❤️

[@bd96151]

I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you all the best 🖤

[@natalialopez987]

Sending you love

[@ZeroHootsGiveth]

I'm so sorry 😥😥😥

[@caitlinthye]

Girl! I got the chills and trembles right before I delivered 2 of my kids and I HATE that feeling. I didn't know what was happening the first time either but fortunately I did have a nurse explain it all to me and what my hormones were doing. You totally did the right thing with the nurse situation. Nobody needs negativty during such a huge moment in their lives

[@Aprilsworld25]

Yes, exactly how I feel about sleep. Pays off when my babies smile at me. Mommy of 2 under 2. Motherhood is precious!

[@amishakumar5714]

DESIIIII!! Your subscriber count is 333 right now which is an angel number. It literally means ''Take this as a sign you’re on the right path, your prayers have been heard, and you’re heading in the right direction''. WHICH IS CRAZY because Ocean is a little miracle baby we all know you waited forever for 🥺🥺🥺❤️

[@katiebrown259]

I’m 19...single and pregnant and it’s been sooo hard but these videos make me feel like things will be okay❤️ thank you I hope you continue to do good :)

[@kristinadjordjevic4775]

I wish you all the best♥️You can do it girl♥️😊

[@amandathechaos2022]

Congratulations on baby Ocean, he’s so adorable and your rockin the mom life 🥰

[@stephaniefarrell3496]

I’m almost 3 weeks with my son. Every dad should watch this. It’s hard for a mom to express but it shares everything you want them to know and how your feeling.

[@Aaliyah-dn7jq]

I’m 8 weeks pregnant and the people in my family haven’t even been this real with their births! Thank you for being so honest through your motherhood journey 💕😭

[@vongaimaphoo]

I’m almost clocking on my 1st trimester and it’s so true this journey can be lonely because nobody is as real to sort of prepare you for the journey 😢😢. These have probably been the loneliest 3 months of my life .

[@Juanrebram]

@sheikarose not everyone goes through this. This is dramatic. It IS painful (I didnt get and epidural with any of my kids, THATS painful.. but when you're numbed with an epidural, its so not). The afted care is definitely not a that and going to the bathroom does not hurt.. only with a c section as I did with my last. Your vagina does not hurt afterwards either. Stitches, if you have them feel uncomfortable but is definitely not painful as she describes. You've got to remember some people define discomfort as dramatic pain. It really is NOT all that she is sharing. Do not get scared or anxious about childbirth. Its the most beautiful experience ever and everyone I mean EVERY ONE is different and has a different experience. In my opinion, she is being way to dramatic. Or perhaps maybe she is not, she just may be one that is hugh maintenance and does not do well with discomfort.

[@RicanStarz]

I felt the same way about how my body looked at I had my baby and I still struggle with my body image even though my son is 2 now. I had a c-section so my lower belly is like a saggy pouch that I can’t seem to get rid of even with exercise and diet. I have come to the realization that it’s something I will have to deal with unless I do a tummy tuck of which I don’t really feel brave enough to do since you go to sleep for it. Thanks for sharing.

[@itsJudysLife]

YES YES AND YES! Our poor coochies

[@theeluannesantos]

Yet we keep doing it 🤣😂

[@Fellyfell2012]

😂😂😂 JUDY 😂😭

[@Jenilovr]

🤣🤣🤣

[@missliz85]

😂

[@CassandraGonzalez]

Exactly thissss!!

[@jennaameedi]

I'm so genuinely happy for you desi your pregnancy has been the happiness and light of my 2020 year 🥺

[@rosecourtenay1753]

Omg my baby is now 4 and hearing you speak is having me relive all those feelings. Motherhood really is a transformation. It tears you down and builds you in to a new person. Congrats on baby O love

[@corinaguerrero5460]

This has been the most honest post-partum video I’ve ever seen. Thanks you for being so vulnerable and honest with us. I went through all the same thoughts as you so you are not alone. My daughter is now 5 and I will say sleep will come. Hang in there. 😘😘😘

[@jackieb1495]

I gave birth at 22 to my beautiful son; my parents were both there I wasn’t even embarrassed giving birth I embraced it!! I embraced how powerful and gifted women are , we literally give birth to new generations. I felt so powerful and amazed of what my body can do! So congratulations to you Desi✨🦋 welcome to motherhood 💗💗💗

[@almasandoval670]

I gave birth to my son at 21 and my mother in law was there for him and my daughter 4 years later

[@melfemat]

Desi!!! You were literally my inspiration to get pregnant. You made me realize how beautiful it would be to be a mom.. and now, i am 23 weeks pregnant, expecting a baby boy 🥰 Thank you!

[@daisyreyes9399]

I agreed about how important your nurse is to your delivery. I don’t think I could have done it without her. Shoutout to my nurse Brenda. As a ftm, She told me everything I needed to hear.

[@kiranguyen4898]

I love your real ness and openness. I am in the midst of family planning and have been watching videos nonstop. I’ve been watching you for years and feel like you are my older sister! I’m the oldest in my family and no one really talks about these things so I’m very grateful for you. I love you Desi! 💕

[@misspurple2224]

I am being induced in 2 weeks and will be giving birth at Cedars myself. I love how real you are! My friend gifted me the Frida Mom postpartum box, and thank goodness she did.

[@marilynlobo8192]

This is so accurate, that lazst push when you feel like you're about to give up they come out!!

[@xomarinanicole]

I literally didn’t know how to describe my hormones and feelings after birth because it wasn’t necessarily PPD but you described it perfectly like a shift of identities and becoming a new person almost was spot on

[@maycea.6654]

What i learned in school is that some people can have Post Partum Blues, which seems to be what Desi described (off days, where you feel super bad, but it’s temporary and you get better) VS. Post-Partum Depression which is more serious and does NOT get better with time

[@biankiz86]

38 weeks here and I already don’t recognize myself at times when I look at myself some days. I can’t wait to meet my baby girl! Pregnancy is hard and I could just imagine how postpartum/breastfeeding is going to be like. Sending all the beautiful mamas a big hug! We got this! 😘

[@TheCris26tina]

I'll be giving birth in couple of months and you don't know how grateful I am for this video, I thought I was prepared but there are so many things that nobody talks about it. Muchas gracias

[@shelbywayman8264]

I am currently pregnant with my first and I can’t thank you enough for this video! It eased so many of my worries!

[@Undercoverneird]

I got ripped off, for our first child, our son, I had to have an emergency Csection, then with our second our daughter I also had to have a emergency Csection 2 wks before her due date. So both my pregnancies I had Csections. I really wanted to push! Lol I used to practice when I was going to the bathroom🤣🤣🤣 while I was pregnant with our son, I seriously would pretend when I was alone in the bathroom using the potty that I was pushing the baby out. I really wanted to experience the whole birthing process. It’s great hearing you and the baby are adjusting well and motherhood has come naturally to you. 💙💙💙💙

[@SixFortySeven]

I couldn't push, and had to have a c section because of medical reasons. Not pushing does not make us lesser.

[@MeredithHammett]

You are still wonder woman in my eyes.

[@Embraceyourcurls24]

Yeah two c sections as well. Emergency c section with the first and then medical reasons for the second.

[@tbori180]

❤️ the trembles I had only with my daughter when I took the epidural, when I had my son I didn’t take anything and I had no trembles. Detmaplast and witch hazel with a squeeze bottle helped me. I loved those undies.

[@kiaragrullon7719]

I was wondering the same thing because the same happened. First baby plus epidural, I had the trembles. Second baby, no epidural, no trembles. I think it’s the epidural, not the water breaking

[@ashleyoh9613]

Yes, anesthesia makes me tremble and cry uncontrollably. Even though I'm not in pain 😄

[@tbori180]

@@kiaragrullon7719 it most definitely was from the epidural the nurse told me.

[@SuperPrincessdm]

Currently 37 weeks pregnant with my first baby !! Little boy due February 18th 💙 This video was hands down the most informative one !! Honest and real which is what I’ve been looking for... I’m really scared not knowing what to expect and if I can handle what’s about to come. Postpartum is what’s freaking me out. Thank you so much dezi for going in depth on what goes on and your recommendations on what to get. If anyone else has any more to add please comment ! ❤️

[@amymacmillan5673]

I'm due Feb 18th with my first. Good luck!!!

[@Virgoae]

Good luck! Watch madelinedominguez post partum things video. That one helped me when i had my daughter 2 yrs ago

[@SuperPrincessdm]

@@Virgoae Thank you !! I will definitely watch it !

[@SuperPrincessdm]

@@amymacmillan5673 Congratulations !! Good luck to you too 😊

[@maleriemafnas5010]

Ive watched for years and this journey has brought me to tears! I couldn't be happier for a complete stranger that shared so many beautiful vulnerable moments~ If God gave Desi a message and opportunity to make her mark, she has this world in graffiti lol! Thank you guys, so much love and blessings!

[@morganmerriman2454]

Desi this is SO relatable, and my journey was similar post-partum. Thank you for helping to normalize the pain, fear, depression, that comes alongside the bliss.

[@haliparham4375]

I relate so heavy with the whole breastfeeding situation I remember going to my first Petes appointment in tears because she wasn’t getting enough milk