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[@Daydreamerr13]

I’m 26 aint no way in hell i’m dating no damn teenager. I work with kids of all ages, the fact that at 26 you even think of them as anything other than a child is weird. He was just 16 last night waiting for mommy and daddy to pick him up from school . PLEASE😂 yuck yuck yuck

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

It's giving grooming and predatory whenever I see grown ass adults with teenagers... I don't care how people try to justify it. There's nothing in common and an adult that much older is leaps and bounds in life experiences and development beyond a teenager. That's a child to me and the legality is irrelevant. I agree with Cailen, the first response.

[@Hope4Life26]

Damn…now I know full well I was preyed upon when I was 19 vs a 26-27 year old man. To me he was my best friend, but to him I was a little snack in waiting. Good on me for never dating him and or giving away the goods.

[@sj5218]

This conversation is so intense and nuanced in soooo many ways because it’s def situational/case by case. But I wanna mention something I didn’t see too many talk about, and it’s gonna be a “tough one.” Although I personally would not date someone this young for soooo many reasons; morals and maturity being TOP of the list (I am 30 for reference)… I can’t lie, these YOUNG men pursue older women soooo hard and with so much intensity and effort. I’ve been wooed a time or 2 (never by someone this young). They come with more game, swag, energy, and sometimes even more money than the men in your age bracket. I’ve met a handful of young men who were ON THEIR SH!T and honestly you wouldn’t have known their age had they not said it, keep in mind these young men were 21-24 not 19, but still. For me personally, I feel like for the age gap we wouldn’t have enough things in common: life experiences, maturity, and mindset wise - even if they are mature for their age; but I can honestly see how these dynamics happen esp in Atlanta lmaooo. Idk this a tough topic right here for soooo many reasons but I don’t recommend or condone. If TEEN as at the end of their age it should be a NO, honestly.

[@autumnl5127]

Most women prefer a man that is a little older or the same age as them to date or marry. This particular 26yr old may be immature and feels happier with a male that is younger than her. He is over 18 and is a consenting adult. As a woman it is not something that I would do, but keep in mind that older males do this all the time with younger women. Minding my own business 💅🏾

[@NamasteInYourLane]

The real question nis why do y'all keep mimicking men's behavior? Y'all complain all day every day about how terrible men are but then turn around and copy their behavior. This is very silly minded and immature and all you're doing is creating more space for perverts and creeps to thrive. I'm so glad the birth rates are falling. Humanity needs a reset. 😣😮‍💨

[@puli_dreadhead]

Dating someone under 21 when I’m 26 feels forced to me. I have different expectations for different age groups. For 19 years old I expected them to still be in that teenage mindset. Not having a lot of money and getting used to new freedom.

[@relanaallen5513]

Men do it all the time. I think its kinda gross either way.

[@talkingtochapri]

Didn't males love to say if it's legal, then it's fine. Now deal with that 💀

[@NamasteInYourLane]

The real question is, why do y'all keep mimicking men's behavior? Y'all complain all day every day about how terrible men are then turn around and copy their behavior. This is very silly minded and immature and all you're doing is creating more space for perverts and creeps to thrive. I'm so glad the birth rates are falling. Humanity needs a reset. 😣😮‍💨

[@THEUNITEDFRONT777]

I dont she the problem. She's only 7 yrs older than him. He's grown ! This is patriarchal that the man should be older than the woman. So if he was 40 and she was 47 .... then what!? He should be in college & she got out of college recently.

[@seeleunit2000]

To be perfectly Frank with you, I think this has less to do with actually carrying about what a 19-year-old man does with his 26-year-old girlfriend, and more about respectability politics. They're both young and he is a literal legal adult in the eyes of the law. No one would care what he personally does in any other aspect of his life, except when it comes down dating someone who's 26. I find it weird and infantilizing. At this point he's old enough to make decisions on his own. This is not something anyone likes, but it is that guy's life. I would have preferred a much more nuance take on aide Gap relationships, but everyone's lost their mind. They only seem to care about dog piling on this woman and acting so morally superior. If this woman had been dating someone in their 30s or 40s, they would be calling her baby... Which would be disgusting and infantilizing as well

[@taybee4653]

Wait a minute, so she has a child?!? How old is her child and how long have her and this man been dating? Something isn’t adding up 👀

[@FireSilver25]

The human brain isn’t fully formed until 25 at the earliest. Teen guys were hitting on me until I was in my late 30s and I was like “HELL NO!!!!” What does a guy that young have to offer besides stamina? I’d feel so awful if I ever met his mother. And I’d be a stand in for his mother! And yes, a 26 year old man dating a 19 year old girl is GROSS and PREDATORY.

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

My thoughts exactly.

[@DANNYYII]

Some people just need to say the quiet part out loud when they come on the internet seeking attention. We all know what a 19 year old can do for her. I wouldn’t be surprised if she started messing with that boy before he was 18. GROSS!!!!!

[@seeleunit2000]

... While I am not necessarily defending this. They are both considered in the eyes of the law legal adults capable of making their own decisions. He's young and she's Young. In any other aspect of life no one cares what an 18-year-old or 19-year-old does because they are by law considered adults. It's only recently now when it comes to the aspect of dating and sex in aged is barely relationships between people are considered adults, suddenly now everybody wants to behave like someone who is 18 to 19 are oversized babies... when in all other aspects of life, no one really cares what they do or how they live their lives... I find that very weird. I also find it weird that people now compare 18 and 19 year olds to literal infants... They are well past the stage of needing a diaper. These are people starting their adulthood and while we may not like it, unless you plan on actually trying to gain custody of these people (which the logistics only would be improbable if not download impossible) then there's not much you can do. Add some point you can't keep in infantilizing someone who's a young adult living their own life. If it's a mistake it's a mistake they to get to make. You live, you learn

[@diamcole]

@@seeleunit2000 You are defending this.

[@samanthap.879]

Before my husband I was 17 with a 30 year old. Then 19-20 with a 35 year old. Now my husband is 36 and I’m 27. It was normalized for me growing up. It is not normal whatsoever. Please keep spreading this message!!!!!!

[@pink1237480]

I think at this point maybe we should raise the adult age from 18 to 21 or 22. Oh also age doesn't always equal maturity. Ive met some very immature 50 year olds and its very eye opening.

[@TheOriginalScorpioBelle]

19:11 I’m she’s stretching it. I’m 44 and everywhere I go there’s some 20 year old trying to get with me. I turn them down but I’m not going out looking for them.

[@sj5218]

Thisss! Even in the “grown folks” spots it’s some youngin finding me 😂 she def was overdoing it. We come across people of all ages every day in life!

[@AndromedonThanks]

That sht is gross. Idc. I know a lot of men who were violated by older Women when they were too young as well. They don’t speak on it fondly the way the movies would have you believe.

[@seeleunit2000]

Well that's sad for them. And this situation we're talking about a couple who only have a 7-year age difference between them. A 19-year-old is not a baby. He is bylaw considered an adult. She is 26 years old. If that woman was dating a man in their 30s or 40s everyone would be calling her baby. Which would be weird, condescending and infantilizing. Unless this woman has had a relationship with this guy since he was in middle school or high school, then there was no harm no foul. They're both legal adults who can do what they want. This falls under the category of stuff you don't like, but it's not hurting anyone and not illegal.

[@lostintranslation57]

No I don’t agree with it. He is a teenager. Even if he was going to turn 20 in two weeks and just just turned 25 last week it’s still a relationship here a teen and someone who is closer to 30 than 20.

[@seeleunit2000]

... By law he is considered a legal adult, she herself is also young. They're both to young people dating each other and while you or I may not like it, legally speaking there is no crime being done. Had this woman dated someone who was in their 40s, everyone would be calling her a baby (which would also be weird and infantilizing). There is a big difference between a literal baby, and a 19-year-old. In all other aspects of life, no one cares what someone 18 or 19 year- old-does, except when it comes to the issue of dating and sex. Especially, if they're in an age gap relationship. This is something that needs a more nuanced discussion, yet most people only seem to care about burying this woman.

[@pri.sci.lla.]

@@seeleunit2000there’s also a big difference between a 25-26 year old and an 18-19 year old… that’s college plus several years of working… those are two different life stages.

[@vsperatos]

Meh ..ive done it.

[@tashawilliams8093]

At 18 you're old enough to vote, but can't make personal decisions? 🤔

[@asia.t]

right? 💯 that's a fully justified point there. as long as both individuals are legal, aware, mutually consenting of this relationship and are not trying to deceive each other in any shape or form, then let them be, i'd say. if anyone here were *under* legal age, *then* i would have a different (and much more condemning) take on it. but of course, that's not the case here.

[@NamasteInYourLane]

Yeah and at 16 you're old enough to drive but not old enough to vote or smoke cigarettes. Why don't y'all understand that life comes in stages and every stage in life is not meant for everything. People should be allowed to grow and develop into themselves as an individual without being taken advantage of. Also, when are y'all going to realize "age appropriate" by law versus "age appropriate" by moral standards can sometimes be different? Yes a 19 y/o is legally old enough to date a 26 y/o but is it morally right or emotionally and psychologically healthy?

[@asia.t]

​@@NamasteInYourLane "everyone should be allowed to grow and develop themselves as an individual without being taken advantage of." i agree with this! but, i find it odd that you reiterate this point. i mean, isn't that what i *just* typed up there? lol, as long as they are "not trying to deceive each other in any shape or form". is that statement *not* synonymous *at all* ? as for morality, i personally believe that morality is subjective. for example, some people condemn sex workers. others may believe that they deserve recognition. or, some people believe that those who don't follow a certain, personal faith or ideology of theirs would say that they are "morally incorrect". if we as a people tried to mediate situations through only morals, in all honesty, i believe that we would be an absolute mess. morals are subjective, but the law is *objective* , is it not? this is not a matter of me or you deciding whether this is "morally correct" or not. what makes us think that we have the right to dictate whether something is "morally correct" anyway, when we both are born with sin? this is a matter of exactly what you have stated: that people need to let others rise, fall and make their *own* decisions on their *own* behalf and on their *own* ideologies. *not ours* . another example: i am not gay, but just because i am not gay, does not mean that someone else (aka: *not* me) who*is* should be a topic of discussion, judgement or debate to me. i believe that *so long as* legality and consent is in place, then i have no right to speak on the behalf and choices of others. no one is ever responsible for another person's health. we all should advocate for accessible healthcare and assistance, but when it comes to actually deciding to utilize said available care, a person must be in charge of their own life and wellbeing. some choose to improve, and some don't. it's unfortunate to see the ones that don't, but that is on them, not us. we can only inform and notify others. we can not change others and we never will be capable of doing so. the individual themself decides to take action or not. mentioning the additional conundrums regarding being old enough to drive but not to smoke cigarettes or vote, although true, is being used as a whataboutism here. if we begin to discuss that, we'll divert ourselves from the point of the video here. it's important that we remain focused on the primary situation and topic here. by the way, i really don't appreciate your diction in this comment here. "When are y'all going to realize that blablabla??!" will never convince most people to coincide with you. tact is key for effective communication. when you speak like that, it just makes people feel turned off from your view.

[@AlekcisIwiye]

If i wanted to date a 19y/o, none of these people have convinced me NOT to. Im in my late 20s, I've never had a bf, I've ever had s 3 x, i dont drink nor go to bars. Right now, younger guys seem to be my equals experience wise. Nobody here convinced me not to date younger.

[@DarKuz92]

Omg! I'm in similar situation. I would date with people of my age or younger. I don't like older men because of power imbalance and it's physical preference.

[@AlekcisIwiye]

@user-pe3it1iy7o sometimes I'm even scared to date my own age because I'm scared if I open up about my lack of experience, I'll be used too.

[@a1ntcry1noveru]

Gross

[@amandanxala2580]

a 70year old billionaire man married a 20 year old girl and they have 2 kids 🤷🏽‍♀️ So...

[@seeleunit2000]

That's the issue. People are giving this woman who only has a 7-year age difference on this guy, who is still a legal adult, and what to railroad her. The old man dating a 20-year-old has more money than Jesus and no one gives him any shit for his actions. That should tell you something. At least the 26 old woman is within his age bracket. They're both young adults and nothing they do is illegal. But because she's the older one, she's the one with the problem. But the man with a billions of dollars can away with his shit even if he's a grandpa. That should tell you about the about the double standards going on here. In any other aspect of life no one would be given a damn what this 19-year-old guy does. But when it comes down to him dating someone 26-years-old, everyone wants to act like he's a baby... It's infantilizing as it is nauseating.

[@Diana734]

She is waiting to cash in when he is dead. The obvious.

[@TheSomethingnew1]

@@seeleunit2000This is a bad faith argument because people complain about older men dating significantly younger women all the time. I mean literally all the time.

[@turquesa_8056]

What other people choose to do in terms of that is their business. Me personally, I couldn't because we wouldn't have anything in common.

[@prettynatural1973]

Also I had to date young because I didn’t have children and older men had 3 children already

[@Laoriginal718]

If he was 21 and she was 28 I wouldn’t see a problem. It’s the fact that he’s under 21 that I find unsettling. People need to keep their business off of the internet. They made that video looking for attention. Lastly, what does this boys mother have to say about this? 🧐

[@DANNYYII]

That would still be creepy. That’s just a two year difference in both their ages. That’s someone who’s almost 30 messing with someone who’s just reached the legal drinking ago. If he was 25 and above sure. That 7 year age gap would be just fine.

[@Laoriginal718]

@@DANNYYIIthat’s your opinion but as far as I’m concerned 21 and 28 is just fine.

[@DANNYYII]

@@Laoriginal718Then 19 and 26 should be fine for then according to you. He’ll be 21 in two years and she’ll be 28. 😂

[@lakeeshadavis1583]

Yikes

[@TURBOBEATZZZ]

It's perfect for BW. She can "son" him legitimately. This also allows supports the younger women to be with older men they'll have to respect, or otherwise be single.

[@THEUNITEDFRONT777]

He can go to WAR at 19 but not date a 26 yr old woman! Lol 😂 get outta here ! Lol

[@pri.sci.lla.]

He can and he is. People can think it’s gross thought because it is… and it’s not the fault of the younger person either. The adult with the matured frontal lobe is the one getting called out because that’s predatory…

[@seeleunit2000]

That's what I was saying. They're both young adults. He can do anything else as a fully grown adult man and no one cares about. Except the specific aspect of his life, the. everyone treats him like a. oversized baby... Now that's insulting as it is infantilizing.

[@seeleunit2000]

​@@pri.sci.lla.... I think your head's on backwards. The guy is 19 years old and by law is considered a legal adult in all things. No one cares what someone 18 or 19 does yet, in this specific incident when it comes down to sex and dating, especially in an age gap relationship, suddenly everyone wants to behave like he's a baby...? This is ridiculous as it is infantilizing. If this 26-year-old woman had been dating anyone under 30s or forties you too would behave like she was a baby... Which would also be infantilizing as it would be condescending. This falls under things you don't personally like, but it's not hurting anyone and it's not illegal

[@pri.sci.lla.]

⁠@@seeleunit2000​⁠​⁠ your entire comment was made in bad faith, but I’ll bite. First of all, I never mentioned anything about legality nor did I call him a baby. I am sharing my *opinion* It’s not for you to say that situations like these “have never hurt anyone”… truly delusional and not based in reality at all (read a law text book if you’d like). Never once did you address things I actually said which mentioned *brain development* people in their 30s-40s have their brains fully developed so age gaps are not as big of a deal. In the future, do not use logical fallacies. People do not have to agree but you will not lack logic and tell me my “head is on backwards” please

[@chosen1afrique304]

In my opinion, a human being between ages 0-19 years is a CHILD. If you're in your 20s you have no business dating someone under 20. It's gross.

[@seeleunit2000]

... Calling someone who's 19 a child is stretching it severely. In any other aspect no one cares what someone who's 19 does, yet when it comes to dating someone who is older nowadays everyone is jumping on the bandwagon that are 19-year-old a baby ? That's not a baby in any sense of the word. While there definitely needs to be a nuanced conversation regarding this I don't like the fact that people want to infantilize someone who's basically considered illegal adult. This conversation feels less like a nuance discussion about age disparities in relationships more like a witch Hunt.

[@turquesa_8056]

This is why we have generations of adults who can't function on their own. Even when they are in their 20's people still consider them kids. They have to take over for us and coddling them isn't going to help that.

[@vegannn7178]

Overall I agree but not completely because you’re saying it’s gross for 20yr old can’t date a 19yr old? Sounds silly lol

[@TheOriginalScorpioBelle]

Your opinion is ridiculous and extremely wrong.

[@SharonSullivan-q2k]

I agree, it’s two different sectors of life. Now if you’re 35 and 40, close enough in life experience. Or 40 and 45, but when you’re 19 and 26 one is fresh out of high school and the other may be out of school and in the workforce for a while. They are very far apart on the life experience scale.

[@donnamurphy8551]

Just because he’s 19 doesn’t mean he has no life experience. He could’ve traveled the world for all you know.

[@lookatyou5809]

I can't for the life of me figure out what a grown adult who's frontal lobe is fully developed would need from someone whos a good 5 years away from there's being fully formed. It's weird, no matter the gender.

[@seeleunit2000]

Well, is not something you care for however it's not something that's illegal because he's well at a high school and by law considered a fully grown adult. If this woman was dating someone in her 40s he would be considered her a baby too. Which is why is a more nuanced discussion is in order when it comes to age gap relationships. I get there are some red flag when it comes down to dating someone older or younger, however she's young and he's Young. What were you expecting ?

[@priscillaf9887]

@@seeleunit2000in the country I live in the legal age of consent is 16. I’m a 39 year old, so according to the law here and your logic (of not breaking the law), I could date a 16 year old kid. But there’s also something called morals and due to my own I’d never harm a child. I consider it gRape, I get, read under countless comments that you agree. But personally it’s a no from me, I don’t care what gender (identity) someone has. No to men grooming girls/boys & no to women grooming boys/girls.

[@user-br3ty9rt1m]

@@priscillaf9887 Exactly, the only point that person keeps making is that it’s not illegal. Ok, and??? I’m 28, ain’t no way I would be dating someone who still has “teen” in their age. At the rate men mature, I honestly wouldn’t date younger period, but that’s a different discussion lol.

[@peremoboeresd]

Regardless if it’s legal, it’s selfish and predatory. What is there except sex and her paying for his stuff

[@haahmayan9637]

Me personally I like a man to lead and if he’s 19 how he gonna run tings when he has no life experience 😂 and I’m 8 years ahead with life experience 🤷🏽‍♀️ he needa catch up but men will do this too get a younger woman so I’m minding my business 😂

[@donnamurphy8551]

Men in their 30s and 40s date 19-20 year old women and no one says anything.

[@KAY-sk6tk]

Women are always criticizing other women due to some higher level moral compass. Where has that gotten us? This is why we choose a bear because we continuously hold ourselves to higher standards than we hold men. If a man can date younger women, why can't women date younger men? He is above legal age and isn't being groomed. What's the problem?

[@seeleunit2000]

And that's why I'm more nuanced discussion must be had. It's not something that some would like for themselves or anyone else, however this should be talked about. When you're 18 or 19 you're not a baby anymore. Unless these people want to assume legal responsibility for someone who is 18 or 19 and their lives I think they need to take a huge step back. In North America when you hit 18 you're considered a legal adult. The real issue here is we don't go after actual adult men hard enough who target ACTUAL underage children (which we should). However, the people in this relationship are both 26 and 19. Unless this woman with secretly going out of her way to date someone already in middle school or high school, then this is something that we may not care for, however we can't exactly stop her because she hasn't done anything illegal. But I do think a more nuance take is important to have instead of a knee-jerk reaction.

[@Diana734]

I am judging....what does a 26 year old have in common with a 19 year old? Nothing! He has not experienced adult life yet!

[@SkyLove80.]

I hate the fact that when BW go through something or say something, it carries no weight until someone else says something. We hear the stories of young black women being r, sa, and everything under the sun. No one worries about the promiscuity that young BW will have to deal with or fight in the future. In fact, the blame is put back on the BW. But here we are @19:00 worried about the man's dealing with future promiscuity. And then put in back on the BW and how she effects the community We stay going hard on the BW. That's why BW end up leading and carrying the our community. While in other communities the men lead and take responsibility no matter whats going on. Re the age. This dating dilema happens to BW who chose not to open up their options to other cultures and/or races. You limit yourself to slim pickings when you do that.

[@honesteaparty]

I stand by my thought that if your age still has ~TEEN in it, you are NOT an adult. Likewise, if you can't legally drink (in US) you are NOT an adult! This coming from someone who as a 19F college student who dated a 29M (thought he was younger) for a week, and swore NEVER AGAIN.

[@nikag5217]

He been listening to that old school Chris Brown. That, that that Pretty Ricky "you saaaayaaaay it's because.of.my.age.girrrrrll BUT age ain't nothing but a numba. 🗣 IT AIN'T NOTHING BUT A NUMB.BER" lmao let me go have several seats 😅😂😂

[@asmlove32]

If your frontal lobe is fully developed you shouldn’t date someone who’s still over 5 YEARS away from their frontal lobe being developed.

[@nick4088]

So stupid. Not all people want to go to the "Bar". LOL. Maybe, they both love to hike and do outdoor things. You only mad, because you can't have what they have.

[@MisseverythingNewNew]

Omg… let that girl do what she want… 7 years isn’t that bad… y’all need to calm down. U date with ppl close to ur mentality not age. She need to worry abt finding someone for herself. How y’all mad abt it to ?????

[@a1ntcry1noveru]

The women explaining “take what you can get” in Atlanta giving “perspective” is still running interference for that 26 year old, no matter if she says she’s not

[@ceenichole6866]

I cringe at some of the age differences but this isn’t terrible. I just don’t think they’d would have much in common but he is an adult and the age gap isn’t that huge 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Hope4Life26]

19….19…it’s creepy no matter if it’s the woman or the man. 19 and 26 just don’t go together in my opinion.

[@rainerwells1573]

It’s soooo crazy how we continue to make a big deal of these things as if they is such a gap of maturity and life experiences. He isn’t a child shit she is only 26!

[@ccannon1]

I’m a woman in my mid-30s. I met this guy in his mid-20s through a social activity and we became literally just friends. Anyway, it’s like that man doesn’t think about ANYTHING. Like one time my sister, him and me went to a 4th of July thing and we asked him to bring ice, water and chips (something like that). When he arrived, he said he could only carry some of the stuff (even though we told him to text us when he got there to help him carry the stuff but w/e) and the thing he left? THE ICE! In July! In the American south! My sister and I sometimes give him suggestions but we let him figure stuff out on his own. Anyway being his friend made it pretty clear to me I can’t date too much younger. Honestly the youngest dude I’ve ever dated was only 2 years younger and he lied about his age because he knew I wouldn’t have dated him if I knew.

[@samantha9644]

Oh my God the way I felt this 😭 my friend is 6 years younger than me (we met through a mutual who was older than both of us) and I love him to death but I feel like his mom waaaaay too often lol. I'll be damned if I ever feel like that in a relationship 🫠

[@carenasmith7]

This is why shame is needed … I remember I was 23/24 dealing with a young man who was 20 years old. My cousin looked me dead face ask me “what are you doing with him? He isn’t even legal to drink alcohol? You’re robbing the cradle?” Baby the shame I felt lol I needed to hear these words. I fell back from young bull the next day. Mind you I was dealing with him for 3-4 before my cousin met him.

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

I’m going on a date on Friday with someone who is 27 and I’m 34 🤦🏾‍♀️ I usually date older and was worried about these assumptions…

[@THEUNITEDFRONT777]

Do u have a great date !!!! Forget these ppl

[@seeleunit2000]

Well considering you're both adults this is your own business. The guys 27 years old so he's a grown man. It's just a date, not a kidney. People can complain but he's a fully grown adult and I assume he's not mentally incompetent and has his own money. So, just enjoy your date and don't freak out too much

[@amandanxala2580]

Girl please im 30 and ill be goung on a date with a 27 year old, do what makes you happy! My second date is with a 58 year old man 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@sufi8903]

​@@amandanxala2580 whoa, is your 2nd date a hospice application??? Enjoy your 1st one 🙌

[@haahmayan9637]

Gyal this is nothing! Gone head and enjoy your date with the 27 year old my husband is 6 years older than me but we’re both grown. Do what makes you happy as long as you’re both comfortable and consenting you’re good to go ❤🎉 if you can please update us on your date 😂 I’m nosey but I wish you all the best 😊😊❤

[@dsanders401]

This age gap isn't that bad. Not all women mature by 26 and some 19-23 are more mature than 60 year olds

[@seeleunit2000]

Point taken. I think a more nuanced take about age gap relationships between adults is something that should be discussed. However, unless this woman was going out of her way to date someone in middle school or high school, I think people maybe need to take a step back here. This falls into the category of stuffing that you don't like, but it's not illegal or hurt anyone. She's young and he's Young. And if she was dating a guy in his 40s and people will be complaining about this too. Which is why I think a more nuance take is important. And also to stop and infantilizing someone who's considered a legal adult and well past high school.

[@Cocoshort2257]

Society is used to seeing it when it when it’s the other way around. Because women like “older men”. But 19 is still young, it’s not the age gap, it’s the age group. If he was 23 and her 29, fine whatever. But he literally could’ve just graduated high school a year or so ago. Smh

[@sugarwaterpurple5280]

The fact remains, the vast majority of 19-23 yr olds are definitely not more mature than 60 year olds. Maybe more than some 26 yr olds. I have no issues with the age gap, it's the age of the person in their teens who barely has life experience, likely has no real responsibilities, or relationship experience being with someone significantly older who will want them to settle into something they may not be ready for. A woman I know married at 19 to a guy 10 yrs older. 10 yrs later shes struggling in marriage and motherhood because she feels stifled.

[@Risse14]

Once you are 20 especially 21 any age that has the word teen in it should turn you off. What exactly are you all going to talk about besides sex....basketball wives?!?

[@seeleunit2000]

He's 19 and she's 26. They are both young adults. Both are considered legal adults in the eyes of the law so, since they're both young adults they probably have a lot to talk about within that range. She has no prior history with him and they're both legally of age. And he is not a baby. Seriously why do some people want to infantilize someone 18 and over ? It's condescending as it is weird. And no other aspect of this man's life do you any of you seem to care, except that he's dating someone whose only a bit older than he is, and this woman is still a very young herself. If this woman had been dating someone in their 30s or 40s, you would be acting like she was a baby... Which would still be pretty infantilizing and weird. This is one of those situations where it's not something you care for, yeah it's not illegal and no one's getting hurt. I would like a more nuanced discussion on this topic, but it seems like no one really cares for that

[@olebitty9414]

Unfortunately 18 is legal. If people have an issue with age gap then they need to argue with the feds. We all know if this was the other way around people who be justifying it. Its the internet and everyone has an opinion. No. He isnt old enough to buy alcohol but however he is old enough to make an ADULT decision. People need to get over it 🤷🏾‍♀️.

[@seeleunit2000]

... Dude I don't think being 18 should be unfortunately considered illegal adult. If you're old enough by that age to make decisions yourself and take care of yourself, then so what ? My real issue is people infantilizing someone who is 18 to 19 and over, when it comes to the aspect of dating and sex. I find it disturbing as it is sickening. In any other aspect of life no one cares what you do at 18 and up. But when it comes down to the the topic of sex and dating, especially when it comes down to age gap relationships, everyone somehow treats a 19 year old like a baby... It's freaking weird and condescending. But I do think a more nuanced to take about age gap relationships is important

[@vsperatos]

Unfortunately?.. what age should be considered legal?? No wonder so many people are still living at home at 25..everyone thinks theyre still a baby

[@lakeeshadavis1583]

My grandma was 9 years older than my grandpa, so...

[@WealthODoc]

Have you seen the over 50s,60s, and 70s coming to getting married to African young men of under 20s,30? These 2 people are just dating, and there are only 6 years of different 🙄 They are age mate! Maybe you should look into this & you will be able to get more comments & stitches ❤

[@soulanstreets222]

My two cents: If it’s really a bad thing…then we should be fighting for legislation to raise the age of consent and legal adult age to 21. Personally, I don’t think teenagers are adults. Teenagers are Teenagers. If we can’t even trust a 19 or 20 year old to consume or buy alcohol, why are we designating them as adults? We complain about this match but we’re not complaining about the laws that allow this to happen. If it really was wrong, shouldn’t changing the laws be the solution? I can’t imagine wanting to date someone that still gets seen by a Pediatrician though….that’s wild.

[@Bluntgirly]

3:24 why is this girl never well presented when she gets on camera??? Like ever. Always got pajamas and a Bonnet on And she's super famous

[@seeleunit2000]

I'm going to go put in my two cents. These two are both legal adults. This is something that people may not like however no laws are being broken. He is 19 years old and he is well past being an infant. They are both young. She's 26 years old. If she was the one dating someone in their 30s or 40s everyone here would be calling her an infant whicg would be condescending as it would be weird and infantilizing. I would like the more nuance take on a disparity in relationships. But most people just want to actually moral grand stand over this than have a real conversation over this. They're both young adults just dating and they're both within their age bracket. So unless some of you want to take legal responsibility for this 19-year-old man you know nothing about, until he hits age 21, (which would be as weird as it would be very improbable), then this is one of those things that you don't care for a comma but it's not illegal and it's not hurting anyone. However, I don't think it's right or wise to call a 19-year-old a baby. I've seen actual babies, used in actual babies, 18 and 18 year olds are not babies. They're young adults. They're going to make mistakes. That's just life and if this is a mistake for this guy, it's his to make. What is the need to infantilize the younger partner,if both parties are adults ? And I know some women keep putting in stories about people they know being molested as children and that is horrible. But that's not what we're talking about here. We are talking about someone who's 19 years old dating someone who is 26 who has no connection to his childhood. When cases of actual children get molested, hardly anyone ever seems to ever be interested or want to take it seriously. Which is disturbing. When actual flesh and blood children are being hurt there's no one there and no one comments on what happened to them or bothers to give them actual help. But when someone who's already 19 and not in your care, is having a relationship with a woman he's dating, suddenly you want to jump in and pretend he's an oversized baby ? I find that to be so disingenuous. When it comes to actual children being molested and injured but you're using that as a way to prove your point over a shallow argument, that is sickening. Real children's suffering and pain shouldn't be used as a soundbite just so you can try to win an argument online. Good grief.

[@nophiliamurphy8749]

Firstly, you people are young. Of working, child-rearing, college student, career building age. And you have absolutely nothing better to do than worry about who's dating amongst grown people?! That young man is 19 and she, 26 years of age. If he wants, and obviously he does, to date a woman barely older than he. That's his business. The same goes for her. I sense some young women jealousy.😅 He will certainly grown and learn from her. If he wasn't a man when she got him, he will certainly be afterwards. Please stay in the mind your own business lane. Because from my vantage point, thes white, hispanic, asian older women are grabbing these young brothers up like they've struck gold!

[@TheOriginalScorpioBelle]

13:39 I’m going to have to disagree. I have a 25 year old son and a 19 year old son. Plus I used to be a social worker specifically working with men. Mentally 30 and under are basically the same and they don’t change much as they get older.

[@M_G12love]

A lot of these people are acting like this didn’t happen before social media a lot of these millennials were probably in that scene being between 15-19 being grown talk to people older then them I know before I seen it first hand when I was young 🤧

[@rainerwells1573]

It’s so funny too that we think we are so much more grown due to age!! I think the sunning helps people feel better about where they are in life. ..

[@gurlwhowants2dj]

I have no problem dating outside of my race but age gaps is almost the same. What do we have to talk about on a deeper level. Our experiences are more than likely not the same.

[@farmhouseonthemountain]

I know a couple of men who lost their v to a friend's mom or mom's friend while in high school.

[@mac9683]

One name comes to mind: Mary lee Letourneau

[@ksis86]

I side eye it, but im gonna mind my business since its legal. As long as there was no grooming and weird power dynamics I’ll let them live. When i was 18 my boyfriend was 28 and it was a hot mess. Wouldn’t recommend age gaps when one of the people is still a teenager/college age. But yall do what you want 😬

[@seeleunit2000]

When your college age like in your 20s you can do what you want. This guy is 19. He is literally not a baby. He would probably laugh in someone's face if he were called a baby. There are both young and they're both legal adults. It's not something most people are interested in and might give some side eye, however they're not doing anything wrong. Did most of these people forget that the North America at age 18 you are considered an adult by law ? Or are they just looking to dog pile and morally grandstand ? There are literal couples with bigger age gaps than this that don't get this much shit. If that 26-year-old woman had dated someone who was in their 30s or 40s then everyone would be calling her baby... Which would still be pretty infantilizing. Because neither party involved are babies

[@marissa._]

Unpopular opinion: They're in the same age bracket and seven years is not that big of a deal. This age gap conversation has always left me conflicted. I see it from BOTH sides. Side A: On one side, people are talking about the power dynamic and how older people can easily manipulate younger people and mold them into how they want that person to act. Side B: On the other hand, folks are saying "mind your business! They can do whatever they want! Legality vs. Morality! Everyone doesn't share the same morals! They're 18+", etc. I'm personally on side "A" on this one because of the manipulation, grooming, molding and power dynamic that takes place. However, at the same time, even though I'm on side "A" when it comes to this argument/debate/discourse, between 19 and 26 is 7 years. I'm sorry, 7 years doesn't seem like that much to me. 🤷 When he's 22, she'll be 29. They'll both be in their 20s. A lot people were talking about how he's not old enough to go to the bar. Why do they "HAVE TO" go to the bar? Especially when everyone in the world doesn't drink? Dude is old enough to enlist in the military, drive, vote, sign contracts, enter the workforce, etc. But for some reason, being able to enter a bar or not is where people got stuck at. I don't know. That specific talking point was annoying AF and moot but I digress. I've personally NEVER dated someone younger than me. I'm 29. The youngst I MIGHT date is 24 at best. That's 5 years which isn't much in my opinion. This is conflicting for me because my parents had an age gap relationship. My mom was in her 20s when she had me, my father was in his 40s. The age difference was between 12 and 13 years. Now...I'M NOT doing that nasty "ish!" 12, 13 years my senior? No ma'am! 🙅 12, 13 years my junior? HELL NO! 🙅 I don't know this couple so only time will tell as far as how this relationship goes. 🤷

[@seeleunit2000]

As long as the older person was not personally involved in the younger persons childhood growing up and they didn't have a connection to until they were a legal adult then it's their business. On the one hand you may not like it, however on the other hand there's a point where you can't treat someone who's a legal adult like an infant, because it's weird and condescending. There's a 7-year age difference between these two and as long as she wasn't dating him during middle school or high school and they're both consenting to be with each other it's their business. Unless you want to take legal custody of someone 18 to 19 until they're 21 (which is weird in and of itself) then you best stay out of it. If that 26-year-old woman was dating someone in their 30s or 40s people would be calling her a baby... which would also be condescending and infantilizing. They're both within the same age bracket and they're having their fun. This should not even be news. Because the last I checked, someone who was 19 was not considered a child by any legal standards. By law they're considered adults.

[@marissa._]

@@seeleunit2000 I agree with everything you're saying. I don't like how people are infantilizing a 19 year old. I agree, it's condescending. That's why I said earlier I see it from both sides of the argument. 7 years isn't that big of a deal. He's at the age where he can: · drive · vote · enlist in the military · enter the workforce · make personal decisions · sign contracts The list goes on. I mean, he's at the age of entering college, while she's at the age of graduating college. I agree, they're both in the same age bracket. I get why people are concerned as far as the grooming and molding because we can't gloss over the fact that there's people that HAVE groomed and molded young people. Men have said all the time how they "prefer" younger women because: · they're "easy" · they're malleable · they're fertile The list goes on. So yes, as long as they didn't know each other when he was minor, seven years isn't that big of a deal.

[@malikj0517]

He is a consenting young man, and the age gap is not that far apart. When l was twenty I was involved with a 35 year old woman. Now the age gap between us was significantly higher but my decision to date this woman was of no one else’s concern.

[@DANNYYII]

He’s a consenting adult who can’t drink legally. And probably can’t get into most places that she can. What does a 19 year old have to offer someone who’s almost 30?

[@chosen1afrique304]

You were TWENTY. He's only 19. He's a child. Who knows how long they've been together. It's gross.

[@lakeeshadavis1583]

My grandma was 9 years older than my grandpa, so...

[@britneybroadway2555]

@@chosen1afrique30419 and 20 are basically the same… TF?

[@malikj0517]

@@DANNYYII he may not be able to drink that doesn’t make him not able to be with somebody who is an adult because legally he’s an adult. Where’s this same smoke for po*n stars who are barely 18? Also, he may not be able to drink, but he sure is able to go overseas and die so I think he has a right to be with somebody who is seven years has senior.

[@NamasteInYourLane]

Why don't y'all understand that life comes in stages and every stage in life is not meant for everything. People should be allowed to grow and develop into themselves as an individual without being taken advantage of. Also, when are y'all going to realize "age appropriate" by law versus "age appropriate" by moral standards can sometimes be different? Yes a 19 y/o is legally old enough to date a 26 y/o but is it morally right or emotionally and psychologically healthy?

[@nitapitts6407]

I'm going to get hate for this but here goes. I'm 70. When I was 46, I dated a 21 year old. But, I also lied about my age and told him I was 36. I could "pass" then. I dated him for fun. And, yes the sex was great. What did we talk about? Secret-men LOVE to talk about themselves. Ask a few questions and you are good to go. Plus, his experiences in life were different from a lot of other people I know. It only lasted a couple of months but I enjoyed it and have no regrets. When I was 44, I dated a 19 year old. He knew my age but didn't care. I used to be a beautiful woman. Same deal. He talked, I listened. He was a lot more interesting than most other men I knew. We're still friends. He married the love of his life, had children and is living spectacularly. And, yes I met both of their mothers. Neither liked me but neither told their sons to stop seeing me. And where I was living, 19 was old enough to buy liquor. When I turned 30, I started dating mostly younger men. Besides the obvious reason that the sex was good, there were a couple of other reasons for this. One, they were more fun. I dated a lot but I also had a busy work and study life. I didn't want to get serious with anyone. The younger guys didn't seem interested in "settling down." I also didn't care whether they were monogamous or not. But they ALWAYS had to wear protection with me. They didn't/couldn't make demands on my time/loyalty/affection, etc like the "older" guys did. I wanted everything light. Most of the younger guys were fine with that. I'm not saying I it was all rainbows and unicorns. I never experienced physical violence but I was stalked (before it was a crime) for about 6 years. Luckily there wasn't the plethora of electronics or guns like there are now. And, I also had good friends. So, yes I know that most "older" men date/marry seriously younger women for the physical pleasure and because the girls/young women are extremely naive. And the men take advantage of that. And I know there are women who do the same. Look at Pamela Smart and the other female teachers that have taken advantage of their young, male, underage students. What's the "answer" (if there is one) in this case? Same advice I'd give for any relationship regardless of the ages. Go slow. Just take time to get to know one another. Be respectful of one another.

[@seeleunit2000]

Honestly, this is the reason men date younger women. They're fun, energetic, and full of life. Just like any women who date younger men. I'm not gonna cast judgement on your life choices (you from your post you mentioned that these guys were legal adults). And it's rare to see a 19-year-old man want to settle down. Most would call this sketchy, yet if all parties involved were consenting legal adults then, there's no crime. I do think however more nuanced conversation about this topic should be discussed. I just find the infantilization of people well out of high school to be very strange & disturbing. In no other aspect does anyone care what an 18 or 19 year old does, except more recently when it comes to the topic of dating and sex. Especially, if it's somebody who's older. At some point, you have to allow someone who is considered legal adult, to make their own decisions even if it might be not something that you would agree with.

[@pri.sci.lla.]

Oof you were a whole predator to those young men… old enough to be their mother 🤮 that’s nasty

[@Amodernelder]

@@pri.sci.lla.I agree.

[@nitapitts6407]

@@pri.sci.lla. I went back to school at 42. I met the 19 year old in my Gen Chemistry and Organic Chemistry classes. We had students of all ages from what they called the "non trads" (older students like me) to the ones just out of HS. He was in one of my study groups. I met the 21 year old in a study hall. He was a 4th year nursing student, I was a 1st year pharmacy student. They both actually approached me. They were smart, fun, and I admired what they wanted to do with their lives.

[@DarKuz92]

In the world, where a 65 years old pastor marries a 19 years old girl, it shoudn't be a problem. But people have a problem, when women prefer younger men, huh.. Hypocricy at it's finest. I'm from Europe. Here 18 is full legal adult, so I don't see a problem.

[@LoveK1]

People were upset about that couple too so what’s your point?

[@KAY-sk6tk]

@@LoveK1the point is he is grown! She is 26 not 36. Who's to say he didn't approach her?

[@LoveK1]

@@KAY-sk6tk 19 is NOT grown, that’s why people want to date them.and can that grown woman not say no to a teenager approaching her? Do you hear yourself?

[@seeleunit2000]

In North America the age of majority is 18. The situation with the pastor is a bit different. He knew the girl since she was underage and then married her and proceeded to have a child with her. From this post the woman and the 19-year-old don't seem to have a prior history. The most likely met as legal adults so, the pastor deserves more scrutiny. The woman seems not have a prior history with this man. She's just dating someone whose only a little bit younger than herself. So context in this situation is everything. In which European country are you from ? Because certain European countries have lower ages of majority now don't they ?

[@seeleunit2000]

​@@LoveK1I think he was being a jackass. Context for the pastor and the girl were different. The pastor knew the girl from when she was a child growing up and married her. This woman is only a few years older than the 19-year-old she's dating and doesn't have a prior history with him it seems. She is 26 and he's 19. Context is important. And that's where we have an issue. Most aren't raising an uproar about what the pastor, but when it comes down to this woman everyone wants to dog pile on her. Both she and he are adults. And they don't seem to have a prior history so, that's a very big difference. People really can't take their heads from their butts

[@gurlwhowants2dj]

She has to be predator 😔

[@seeleunit2000]

... That's a very inflammatory statement. Unless you have any proof, you might want to be careful about saying that. You might get sued

[@NAla2526]

She looks like remy me

[@seeleunit2000]

Who's Remy ?

[@dearwhitenbiracialcommunit7924]

Don't disrespect remy like that. If anything she is the polar opposite of this woman, she's anti p*hilia

[@Naturallywench]

The chick who went off at the end talking about predators went way off topic and projected a lot of things that were never said. I don’t think a 19 year old and 27 year old dating is a good idea, it probably won’t last. Nowadays A lot of these people meet online and date for a few weeks before they’re onto the next one. Did they say how long they’ve been dating?

[@seeleunit2000]

She's 26, but people are forgetting a key factor. They're both legal adults. This might not be something anyone cares for, however no laws were broken. Did everyone forget that the age of majority in North America is 18. And that when you hit the 8 of 18 by law you are considered a grown-up. And no one really cares what someone 18 or 19 year old does, unless it's somehow seems to pertain to sex and dating. These two are both young. They're young and they're boinking each other. While I wouldn't mind a more nuanced discussion regarding age gap relationships, these people seem to only care about dunking on this woman who is dating a legal adult. I think infantilizing a fully grown adult is enough to make me sick. People have a big selective memory when it comes down to this fact that when you hit 18 no one cares what you do. Not in any meaningful way.

[@TheSuburbnBliss]

Honestly, I dated some 19-early 20ish year old men after my divorce. I was 26 at the time. I had a lot of fun sexually. Currently, I'm remarried my husband is 33 and I just turned 30. I see nothing wrong with it if it's just for fun. Nothing serious.. And "what do you talk about" Nothing , it's wasn't about talking for me 😁

[@prettynatural1973]

Its nothing wrong with it

[@BABYDOLL87LOVELY]

I LOVE THESE DISCUSSIONS!!! SOME OF THESE COMMENTS ARE HILARIOUS...OTHER'S DUMB & CLOAE MINDED. JULY 13th, I WILL BE 37! EVERYTIME I SAY MY AGE PEOPLE TELL ME I AM LYING BECAUSE I LOOK ABOUT 22-24 #GoodGenetics #Gr8SkinRoutines NOW I HAVE ALWAYS PREFERED OLDER MALES. THE ONLY GUY THAT WAS YOUNGER THAN ME RELATIONSHIP HISTORY WISE, WAS MY FIRST LOVE. AND HE WAS ONLY 1 YEAR YOUNGER. EVEN THOUGH I HAVE DATED/HAD RELATIONSHIPS WITH OLDER GUYS...THEY HAVE ULTAMATELY,NOT BEEN MATURE & A LOT OF TIMES ACTED LIKE KIDS. THAT 💩 IS VERY UNATTRACTIVE. WHEN I SEE IMMATURITY I CUTS THEM OFF. AGE DOESN'T ALWAYS MEAN MATURITY. WHILE I HAVE NEVER DATED/BEEN WITH YOUNGER GUYS BY YEARS. I HAVE BEEN APPROACHED, FLIRTED WITH BY YOUNG DUDES SECERAL TIMES...WHO APPROACHED ME LIKE A GENTALMEN & WERE VERY SMOOTH/EDUCATED SOUNDING. THE LAST TIME IT HAPPENED WAS WHEN I WAS 34. WHEN I ASKED A MAN (WHO GOT OUT HIS CAR AND WALKED OVER/INTRODUCING HIMSELF PROPERLY) I SAID HOW OLD ARE YOU. HE SAID 22...I SAID YOUR JUST A BABY... HE WAS LIKE I'M REALLY NOT. YOU CAN'T BE MUCH OLDER THAN ME. I TOLD HIM THAT WAS SWEET, BUT HON I'M 34 & HE STILL WANTED TO TALK TO ME. HE COULD NOT BELIEVE MY AGE. I DIDN'T GIVE HIM MY NUMBER BUT I TOOK HIS. AND I THOUGHT ABOUT CALLING HIM. THAN CHANGED MY MIND. HE WAS FINE TOO AND I SENSED A VIBE. THE AGE THING TENDS TO BE VERY TABOO. I THOUGHT TO MYSELF. UKW...IF I HIT #35 AND AM NOT MARRIED/TAKEN. I AM GONNA GIVE ONE OF THESE YOUNGER MEN A SHOT. #CougarMode BECAUSE WHY TF NOT?? GUYS DO IT ALL THE TIME. WHILE SOME AGE GAPS ARE FOR SURE CRINGY TO ME. LIKE 70 SOMETHING ALPICINO & HIS 20 SOMETHING NEW BABY MOMMA. THAT GAP IS WEIRD AF TO ME. BUT THAT'S THEIR BIZ. PEOPLE STILL ON DRAYA MITCHELLS BUMBER. ANOTHER BADDIE WHO LOOKS WAY YOUNGER THAN HER ACTUAL AGE. WE DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY TALK ABOUT. OR WTF THE CONNECTION IS LIKE. THAT'S HER BIZ. IDC HOW OLD DUDE IS. BASED ON WHAT I'VE SEEN ONLINE. SHE COULD HAVE PICKED A MORE MATURE GUY. DUDE ACTS LIKE A BIG KID. BUT AS STATED BEFORE. MOST OF MY EXES WERE OLDER. THE OLDEST WAS 16YEARS OLDER THAN ME... WHEN I WAS 23 & HE WAS STILL ACTING LIKE A TEEN. AGE IS NOT A FACTOR. IF THE AGE THING BOTHER'S YOU. DON'T DATE YOUNGER. AS LONG AS BOTH PEOPLE ARE LEGALLY ADULTS I REALLY HAVE NOTHING TO SAY. I HOPE THAT THE RELATIONSHIPS DID NOT START UNTIL THAT. BECAUSE THAT'S WRONG. IT IS GR00MING A MINOR. WE DON'T KNOW WHEN THEY MET SO 🤷🏽‍♀️ THIS WILL ALWAYS BE A TOPIC THAT IS CHIMED IN ON. YOU KNOW WHAT I NOTICED ABOUT THAT VID. OL' GIRL LOOKED HAPPY AF!!! 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@BimboCommentary]

I have an older age gap with my husband. He was 20 i was 24. The age thing was the only thing that kept me from dating him for a while (we worked together) but he was always around to make me laugh and be a genuinely good guy. Now at 28 and 24. We just says i look younger then him and no one will believe me I'm older. (Also at 28 a 19 year old seems like a baby)

[@adrianwillis66]

That is fine it is in the 5 year difference.