Destroyed: Narcissist's Brain and Mind (Infant Amnesia, Psychotic Grandiosity)

[@einstein63]

Brilliant!!! The language deficit makes so much sense as I now see why the two narcissists I know both seem to use robotic speech or repeat inappropriate phrases that don't seem to correlate with what's actually going on in the real world.

[@ckcares8067]

How good this lecture is in helping me to understand how my 3 siblings turned out to be narcissistic. This shows how abusive parenting damages young, innocent children, stunting healthy, wholesome development. Tragic. Sad. Thank u Prof. I love ur presentations.

[@lili79136]

This makes a lot of sense and can explain why they constantly are projecting

[@classicmicroscopy9398]

An eclectic analysis as always. Vaknin never ceases to captivate us.

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

And when they switch they forget what they are doing

[@4sovereignT]

magical thinking, sounds like the new age movement.

[@heredith]

yes, the ideas about space and time are very interesting. this shows how damaged they are.

[@ladyree7575]

My son has NPD he also has adhd and learning disabilities. ADHD has memory problems. I believe you have hit the nail on the head again Sir. Thank you for this explanation.

[@newearthnaijavibes7275]

I wonder what the solution to this is.

[@fairy12324]

That sounds incredibly hard ❤ i hope you are able to get self care first and foremost because i found out the hardway by giving so much, i brokedown and needed a hospital stay, because of the mental and emotional toll of at least 3 narc family and 1 expartner still ongoing legal abuse with that one. Sam vaknin been the best source of info so far ❤take care x

[@ladyree7575]

@@fairy12324 so True He's the best on Narrisism . I trust in God it took a toil on me but I've been no contact for 5 yrs now. My son is 48. My life is peaceful now

[@ladyree7575]

@@newearthnaijavibes7275 No Contact.

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

There is different personalities in one body and they switch

[@lisaisgrig7636]

It would be interesting to know what brain damage occurs in adults who have been abused by someone with NPD. I've been out of a 20 year relationship with one for going on 3 years & even though I feel recovered from it, I don't feel the same. It's as though I've suffered a form of brain damage. I'm not experiencing PTSD, but I've recognized I'm experiencing memory difficulties covered in areas of blankness. At other times I've recognized some mild dissociation. I had none of these difficulties until meeting the narcissist. I'm trying to "exercise" my brain by learning new things & trying to build more positive memories with new friends, hobbies & schooling. But I'm wondering if my brain will ever heal or if any brain studies have been done on those adults recovering from narcissistic abuse & trauma. Thanks same for this very interesting video. L. Isgrig in Northern, CA - 8/30/23

[@samvaknin]

Search the channel and the playlists.

[@Theysee1111]

Your not alone it's truly debilitating 😢hey from northern Cali what part I'm in fresno

[@athenabaker6359]

I am grateful for having outed the liar. Commitment was never 2 way street as they concern themselves with being an energy vampire, intitailed, only child. Hating your step mother, ignored by a working mom. NO GUIDELINES. Who is this? Masked hero of devious intentions. SO GLAD to BE ME .....Truthful life living well. Moved upstairs

[@jainorr4915]

I would imagine you’re right - 20 years is a long time and brains are so plastic - it would be interesting to see if those kinds of changes in the brain are measurable …

[@bettyboop5177]

I have these thoughts too, I struggle to word things properly. Thank you 💖

[@mygirldarby]

Well, there's the famous Helen Keller who couldn't see or hear. She had memories from before she had language. She was 7 or 8 before she knew language existed. Her writings on what it was like before she developed language are fascinating. When her teacher, ann sullivan, finally got through to her that things have names, helen said she had a deep sense of "remembering" because, I suppose, we are hard-wired for it.

[@samvaknin]

Helen Keller was not born that way. She spent the first years of her life with her senses intact.

[@JenGarciable]

I recommend the Yorgos Lanthimos’ movie “Dogtooth” to understand today’s lecture.

[@bldbar118]

This is the only video you need to watch on Narcissism. I can confirm he is right on for so many points here. Good to see the research has come such a long way to really shed light on what we all suspected. The relationship between spatial reasoning and memory is fascinating. Totally get the lack of differentiation between self and external world from child trauma is right on: child “rejects space.” I think that’s right on.

[@bindibud23]

20:20: Freud's theory of infant amnesia is poetically portrayed in the "Mary Poppins" stories: the twin infants John and Barbara lose their memories (including, as I recall, past lives and the inter-life existence) and also their ability to talk with birds, when they start acquiring human language. Only Mary can keep all these capacities..

[@albert.33]

That’s really informative video besides narcissism it’s full of valuable information about ourself

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

She's the only one who recents me the most

[@AyniArkana-st6bk]

I was thinking at that time always: why ist that guy not doing anything with his surroundings, nothing with his body, always in one position in bed? Why isnt he referring to any object or subject in reality in space around us? Now its clear. Thank you. Your videos show whats really behind/inside those poor people😢. And if we look closely we can clearly see how such a psychlogical state plays out in day to day instances. With a bit of observation we can be warned earlier.

[@sallylibby8254]

I’d like to know why some siblings become narcs and others don’t after growing up together.

[@samvaknin]

Search the channel for “gene”

[@bettyboop5177]

Thank you for raising this question and Thank you for the pointer for answers. Very grateful 💖🙏

[@jimnichols999]

Thank you Sam....I'm learning.

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

And it keeps repeating itself

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

They are not in control of their body

[@thewaywardtrio]

Wow!!! Fascinating subject

[@LoveEm-r9i]

My daughter gifted . She always was the best in school. Suddenly she got sick 😢😢😢Never abuse , never trauma

[@jessidae6332]

Thank you Sam!❤

[@darleenmcbride8900]

Hello Professor Sam nice to see you today ❤️

[@Kestrel99]

Thé x fiancé seemed to be unable to remember horrible things she said about me to my son and his wife. When I confronted her 9 months after discarding her about it she said my son would never lie but did not remember saying it. It seemed like her brain turned off at times.

[@prairrie]

Yes ex husband now deceased , could not remember his bad behaviour and words.

[@ShuaibuArome]

How i wished i have listen to this message,i will not have been so hash with my narc gf,i will have love to help or manage her condition.

[@catherinedunne1799]

Holy cow- what you just said. 2:33 yes. This happened. The abusive family language- negative affects on everything. Withdrawn from the world, I was small and suicidal. Both parents were depressed, dead parents to a stranger’s bastard. I was a disassociated child. I would say as a child I hated living the lie that I was their child. Reality was my mother’s fantasy- the fantasy of what she wanted me to do or act-not my world in my mind. And later 27:42 - no space for me, we “reject the space” space is where bad things happen you said. THIS. My parents expected me to move back in with them after college and even financially abused me to make sure I would but I did not and I refused and I still refuse to go back and now I do not talk with them. I suggest that we are mammals, we are territorial. We have memory and it’s ridiculous for them to want me to live with them and take care of them when the only way they communicated with me ever was with weird bananas abuses. I put myself in my room box and just tried to be a goldfish until I could leave. I told my mom as a child via probably your work on the internet how her inability to introduce me to the world because she didn’t like me was abusive. That she wouldn’t like any of my friends so she wouldn’t let me have friends, she didn’t like the spaces of my friends houses so she wouldn’t take me back to them and she would criticize my friends, their parents, their homes. Anything. Negative view only because she wanted me to only be her friend. But she only wanted a disassociated doll that wanted to do what she wanted the way she wanted and that was not me. I had no sense of space, I’d say I was directionally challenged. Until college in Baltimore- then I was walking everywhere and slowly learning a map for the first time (I refused to drive because I felt handicapped and did not want to be on the road thank good sense or instincts I was still feral in college at 21) reality in my world were grandiose- became grandiose- I was in art college, narcissism college. And then I joined the in-house circus and joined the theatre circuit, faerie festivals, became a clown and parade leader. How could I ever fit back in the closet?

[@wojciechwajda114]

I laughed in sync with you! Thank U!😂😍

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

He doesn't feel bad for others

[@bindibud23]

9:25: "You have the capacity to induce change in the external environment just by thinking about it." That's what T---p said about declassifying top-secret government documents.

[@RaisingMyWildflowers]

It's hard to say if he actually believes his own b.s. or not. Wasn't he aware that he didn't win the 2020 election when he was in private? Maybe he eventually convinces himself of his fantasies. Either way, these people are so difficult to deal with.

[@bindibud23]

I think maybe objective "truth" means nothing to them. Truth is what they need to believe, and what they can get others to believe.

[@Reddervetter]

Tupac?

[@jsheldon]

This is so interesting!!😮👍 Thank you so much for sharing this.

[@raninogrusso9761]

Extraordinário conhecimento, excepcional professor louvo ao Criador de todas as coisas por você existir.

[@tamtamX-cq8or]

Omg now it makes so much sense

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

I just to run away from home daily to get away from her

[@catmomjewett]

Well, I made it. I love listening to you. I like to think it stretches my brain, but 🤷🏻‍♀️. I tend to need examples, scenarios, illustrations. But, I AM a youtube watcher, so…😉

[@Tejavantu]

Fascinating!

[@privatez6967]

Sam, how are you going with your health?

[@horse286]

Thank You master🥰🙏

[@theloveflows8773]

❤Thank you Sam❤I'd look them up if i knew how to spell them😊❤

[@samvaknin]

See the description for literature.

[@aswathya7525]

Prof. Vankin is it possible for a child to fixate at childhood amnesia phase because the child had some extremely debilitating physical ailment which could render the care given be not enough?

[@samvaknin]

Vaknin. Yes, it would be a traumatic experience.

[@Nope-ru1rd]

Can learning a foreign language be of any assistance to the narcissist?

[@irielion3748]

Haha. What kind of question is this? Imagine speaking a valuable language your peers can't. Imagine having access to better jobs and more opportunities because you speak a valuable language. Imagine being able to date and have access to another pool of people because you speak that language. I have just described my nex.

[@janebrown7231]

Excellent question. It would be particularly interesting to know how the neurological changes in the brain's language centres from very early learning of a second language might tie in to the whole developmental picture of a narcissist. The language centres are cortical and not directly related to the brain structures in the content of this video, but it's possible to imagine potential influences.

[@nin3755]

I am in a living facility for women escaping from abuse and am about to commence a program of therapy and supported living. Any more relevant info regarding abuse by a narcissistic alpha male please add links to this comment , thank you

[@samvaknin]

Watch the videos in the healing and recovery playlist.

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

How can he love others

[@JohnWayne-86ed]

I don't know why but that clear coffee mug makes me uncomfortable, otherwise great upload as usual. Other channels on NPD are like elementary school classes taught by 5th grade students in comparison to your content.

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

And giving it to you for 10 years

[@MrIsmailkhalidi]

Can you talk about the connection between narcissism and addiction?

[@samvaknin]

Can you search the channel?

[@JohnWayne-86ed]

He already has multiple videos that explore narcissism and addiction.

[@JohnWayne-86ed]

@@tmrsfitz1967 That isn't true, I've known many alcoholics that don't have narcissistic tendencies.

[@GrgAProduction]

@@JohnWayne-86edaddiction in itself is Narcissistic 😂

[@JohnWayne-86ed]

@@GrgAProduction Please elaborate on your perspective/claim. Every narcissist is an addict, but not every addict is a narcissist or narcissistic.

[@eschretz5363]

I’m benefitting so much from these videos, but have a question about this one. I have two narcissist friends who each have enviable recall back to early teen years and beyond, to primary school days. Up until what age is memory consolidation blocked? Both are writers by vocation and avocation and one of them is published internationally

[@samvaknin]

You are not qualified to diagnose mental health issues in others. It is narcissistic.

[@janebrown7231]

Thanks so much Dr Vaknin! Is there more detail somewhere relating to 'space'? Any links would be gratefully followed. I understand your terminology, spatial orientation, spatial perception and functioning in space.... I just can't quite take the leap to understanding what that deficit looks like pragmatically in this cohort, particularly in a child below 36 months who is developing in a narcissistic direction. But the connections of memory with spatial factors, and the language factors, are absolutely intriguing! Are there any obvious spatial deficits which are visible to a clinician (proprioception anomalies for example) which might be diagnosed in a young child, which could be indicators that memory might turn out to be limited? I am now listening for a third time and maybe I'll get closer... this video is so densely packed with information. I'm new to your channel so need to come up to speed! Thanks so much for your work. It's this deep level of detail, at the intersection of psychology and neuroscience, that I find really useful. I would absolutely LOVE to know how trauma-related spatial-memory deficits relate to the known deficits in autism, ADHD and neurodiversity generally, but I know that would be asking for a whole new video.😊

[@samvaknin]

Start with the book listed in the description.

[@janebrown7231]

@@samvaknin OK, thanks, and thanks for the reply.

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

And she thinks she deserves everything I owe because she took care of me since I was born

[@sandalkasimi2354]

with the same abuse why is one experiencing the BPD and another person NPD?

[@samvaknin]

Search the channel.

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

She took it out on me

[@z.s7328]

I am wondering if a specific type of abuse would produce a specific type of narcissistic child (although narcissists can oscillat between type)? could be any direct correlation, like if a child was too spoiled as a form of abuse would he be more covert or overt, cerebral or somatic etc ??

[@samvaknin]

Search the channel for peer rejection.

[@z.s7328]

​@@samvaknin Thank you so much - didn't know which key word to search for.

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

I told them the only things I cant save them from is karma

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

He doesn't even love himself

[@estelhagdorn7455]

"😊Freud died, ... like the best of us."

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

She is putting everyone against me

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

And they thought it was funny to erase my name from KZbin

[@Thomas-k5b]

Could you diagnose my wife or what ever she is, I don't know what she is anymore.

[@Hederaastro]

Yessss, i will always stay till the bitter end 😂💯✌️

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

And since she had to work 4 jobs to support me and her kids

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

Not even his own child

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

They don't feel good or bad about nothing

[@lo6516]

Might this be a reason why narcissists have a hard time driving?

[@irielion3748]

Many drive. What are you talking about? If yours didn't, maybe it acted like it should be driven - grandiosity!

[@rachellesmith1600]

My narcissist gets angry driving he thinks he's the best driver obviously, toots his horn, has no patience.🙄

[@jamesgomel]

Sam Is there anything that’s been studied where the fragmented self is repaired ? I have the feeling that you may say that this ideal of being able to repair the fragmentation as yet another confabulation. What are your thoughts on this ?

[@samvaknin]

My thoughts are that you should search the channel.

[@SereneHorror]

​@@samvaknineverytime 😅😂

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

That's what I was doing that's why I left my kids

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

And only take my information

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

He's a deamond no emotions

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

The gaia program is nothing with out me

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

My name is Stephanie and Stephanie means crown

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

Actually they are all been getting treated by me

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

Because portfolio Diaz left and left me with her

[@mauj2844]

31:25 😂 🤣 🤪 💡

[@lo6516]

He just offended all of us!

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

Because she thinks I belong to her

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

Because she's not my mom

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

It's a circle

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

Ive been feeding them inormation that betters their programs I made

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

Ur a special kind of deamond

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

Not because they are hitting puberty

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

For this and money

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

So I can study you

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

I was the babysitter

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

So I can take them to Disney land but not no more

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

Not my mom

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

He has no emotions

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

That's from the devil not from God

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

And punching bag

[@Josiekapach]

אתה ממש חמוד..פנוי?❤

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

How much you want to bet these karmics are not even guna mention my name

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

To be protected like ur mom u need to listen to me

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

And I was always the black sheep cuz I didn't listen to her

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

And I'm a masculine

[@salibacchus7197]

nice laugh

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

Cleaning lady

[@latenightyoutubeviewer7981]

Please elaborate

[@StephanieDiazcortez-r5r]

And u guys have been trying to kill your mom