Diagnosed with ADHD Aged 42 (how have I never known?!)

[@LauraTryUK]

Thanks to the people who recognised I had ADHD. Wow, I had no idea 🙏 Isn't KZbin a funny place. Only one person ever told me in real life I might have it. I make a few videos on here and I get several people tell me I have it 😂

[@tomasexteriors]

@@LauraTryUK trust me .do more digging I try find from tablet I saved loads ..there is no such. Thing.... ADHD It's made up shit And people fall.for.it.. Don't be silly ❤️ Get rest done you be surprised It passes to brain 🧠 (, Diet is the way to clean sugar from the brain 🧠 that's your ADHD 😄🤣 You do not have any illness Stop the bulshit❤️

[@glyakk]

@@LauraTryUK It would be difficult to see it unless you are already familiar with its signs. We are really good at masking, even from ourselves. Videos like this help spread awareness. I was officially diagnosed last year at 43.

[@RooRichy]

That's so cool!! I love the KZbin communities

[@GCSEmathstutorMK]

We love you Laura. It is your honesty and openness that is awesome. I’m so glad you have this now and it’s starting to make sense. I hope the medication helps you as it helps so many others. Your video was so amazing, I cried for you and rejoiced for you. Then sent it to a friend I know is struggling too and awaiting a diagnosis. God bless you LT ❤

[@spindletreestudiovideos]

@@LauraTryUK and that's not counting all of us who thought it but didn't want to say anything!

[@colinbrooks9724]

Laura, I've been following you since you started KZbin, you just made a grown man cry. You are the MOST honest human on the planet. You are incredible....

[@sallyday22]

Are you single? Perhaps you're the man she's been waiting for :)

[@OneOfThePauls]

I was diagnosed at 44 and it's changed not only my life since but how I relate to my whole life prior. Your habit of picking up new "hobbies" every other month or so (which you've succesfully made into a KZbin channel) is common in people with ADHD.

[@spindletreestudiovideos]

It also seems to be common in ADHD KZbinrs 😂

[@lindapruitt2656]

YES Once I knew, I was able to reflect on my early years and re frame the experience. Just KNOWING WHY is a huge comfort to me. My self image was greatly improved. I am must less severe with myself. I try my best to set alarms so I don't forget stuff.

[@SnappyGamingOfficial]

I have like 30 youtube channels and I gave up on them all 😕

[@spindletreestudiovideos]

@@SnappyGamingOfficial hard to stick to one thing and not get bored!

[@charlea6962]

Hi, Laura! I'm a high masking, late diagnosed autistic woman. I had a feeling you were under the neurodiverse umbrella, and here you are telling us about it. Wonderful video, love how honest you are. I'm happy to know you have supportive family and friends.

[@EverythingIsPhotogenic]

Your willingness to be vulnerable here with the understanding that it could help others is both heart wrenching and touching. Thank you for your courage. ❤

[@yunak9665]

Your videos help so many and this one is certainly no exception. Never apologize for putting yourself out there and being real.

[@HannesHeinsar]

Thanks for being so honest. I found my adhd at 43 and have not found validation for all my symptoms. Your video helped. Take care!

[@leighkinne8300]

I dont think Ive ever resonated with someone more. Im so overwhelmed over the simplest tasks. I feel like im constantly pushing through a brick wall of resistance. None of the people in my life can relate to my struggles at all and I often get labeled as lazy and apathetic. I was diagnosed a few years ago but unfortunately have not been able to overcome alot of the challenges. I end up in deep periods of depression that get worse every year despite taking medication and trying to be as healthy as possible. Thank you for sharing your story. It helps to know Im not alone in this.

[@LauraTryUK]

Keep working to find solutions to make life better for you. I believe in you 💫

[@lindapruitt2656]

YES I find it really hard to try new tasks. Heck even simple stuff, I often just keep getting distracted with other things till its too late to do the more important task. I can only do my best not to do that...but it happens. The thing is, NOW that I know, I am not going to run myself down about it OR allow others to berate me. That is the empowerment of knowing!

[@sarahgirard1405]

My tip would be to prioritize sport. It deals with a lot of symptoms of adhd and depression. More dopamine, less stress hormones because of increased circulation… and that in turn can give you energy to tackle other things. ❤ I wish you all the best!

[@visionvixxen]

Same here… wish there were a way out of this. I’m positive also, but this thing can steal your life experience for many

[@catherine3684]

I think I'm about to find out I have ADHD, at the age of 62. Your story is so similar to mine. The energy problem the bouncing around jobs,, depression (!!!!) emotionally sensitive, and loud noises. Thank you for making and posting.

[@SallyBunBun]

oh Laura, this sounds like me too, but I’ve been diagnosed with CFS. I too have a KZbin channel so I totally get where u are coming from. The way your mum and dad describe you is how my parents describe me! So sorry that you’ve been in the pits. Keep going my lovely x

[@glamdragon]

A big hug, Laura! Thank you for being so brave sharing such personal stuff, you have managed to change at least MY perception completely about what ADHD can be.

[@taoist32]

What she has is inattentive ADHD. There are 3 different types of ADHD.

[@juliefairbank1557]

Sorry Laura, those with ADHD are NOT surprised to hear you have ADHD. As they say, it’s takes one to know one! 😅 Welcome to the club 🎉

[@arlenenichols8418]

My mom had my brother assessed for ADHD and I wasn't. I was diagnosed at 36. You end up mourning what your life could have been like if someone had noticed you needed help sooner. I'm so glad you know now! It's such a relief to know you aren't broken, just different. ❤

[@CapMIam]

This is one of the more refreshingly candid videos I have watched on this topic. It hits close to home, especially as I wait to be assessed after 5+ decades of knowing something was 'off'. I feel it's fair to mention that ADHD presents differently in either gender, which is the reason girls/women often don't get diagnosed until well into their adulthood and beyond. I am reconciling with the thought that I could have been spared from a lifetime of wonder and heartache 😢 Looking forward to your journey moving forward (no pressure & at your own pace, of course)

[@ErinHoskins]

Videos like yours are so important. My son was diagnosed last year at 15. ADHD would not have crossed my mind because he wasn’t “hyper”. I happened to be watching a vlog that wasn’t focused on ADHD, but the person happened to mention how it affected them and how they became diagnosed. It really reminded me of my son, so I talked to his school counselor and doctor to help with the assessment. I was so grateful that person was open to sharing their story. I truly believe it changed the course of his life. Of course he’s not “cured”, but there is power in him knowing how his brain works and what things can help him manage and be successful at life in his way. He does take medication, but also takes breaks from it. Wishing you the best. Always appreciate your content.

[@zedatomic8342]

Amazing and very moving video - you are a very brave woman and I am very impressed with your honesty. I am 63 and have ADHD. Many of the things you have described I can relate to. We all experience this differently and we all have to deal with it in our own way. I would prefer not to think of my self as defective. I don't think of my brain as damaged or deficient. That's the problem with a diagnosis. We interpret that as meaning that there is something wrong with us. We should instead, talk about neurotypical and neurodivergent. There is a theory that having neurodivergent people makes a society - the human species - stronger and more resilient. When the tribe is threatened, it is often the neurodivergent people that come up with new and different solutions. We see this alot in our society. Often the most successful people are actually neurodivergent. The difference is these people have figured out how to make their individual neurodivergence work for them and minimise the impact. Consider that neurotypical people also have challenging lives. They make stupid mistakes and do dumb things so its not like having ADHD is a recipe for disaster and if you were a 'normal' person your life would be all sun and roses and chocolate and icecream! So this is our journey - to figure out how to capitalize on this and minimise the crazy and destructive elements. I think of my ADHD as a gift - there are some amazing upsides of ADHD. I can do things most neurotypical people cant do - I see things they don't see. But every gift comes with a price. I can tell you that medication works for me - it takes the edge off and modulates the highs and lows. Frankly, the world is more bland and from time to time I miss the real highs but I do not miss the lows. So your journey now - being enlightened - is to learn how to make your ADHD work for you! Looking for someone to love you is understandable especially with ADHD. We seek validation and acceptance because we don't feel like we fit in. We live in a world run by neurotypicals and also alot of neurodivergent people who are very good at pretending to be neurotypical. Actually you need to love yourself first and accept who you are. You will find love so focus on finding yourself. There are millions of people like you and me. So we are not alone. You are not alone.

[@Emmajaymusic]

Just in my 70’s and somehow the label of being weird and wonderful knowing i mask a lot, still has more appeal than another label. My children say i am OCD, and I say “everything needs place so that if i suddenly couldnt see, it would still be fine knowing exactly where to locate things” Fact is that once i accepted myself, life became easier in the main. I go with the flow. A diagnosis brings knowledge and understanding, however, I remain “me”. A scary realisation is that i could honestly never ever fit into a retirement care home. Neither would cope - without “dulling me down “ or “lifting me up” Thank you Laura- am going to have a conversation with my children- who always say I am different !

[@leannegander796]

@zedatomic8342 beautifully said. ❤

[@soggymoggytravels]

I would hedge to estimate that elements of ADHD are probably present in at least 50% of the population and that it's very underdiagnosed. I also suspect that I have ADHD, and that's only come about because of the increase of videos like yours that bring to light all of the characteristics that a "ADHD" neurotype has. It's been fascinating to connect how it links back to all the different things I've done and why I did them. I'm pleased to see that there are now also ADHD coaches around (some of them have KZbin channels) who get the differences when running one's own business and can help inspire people to perform at their best. Thanks for sharing - it will help many other people!

[@dstenberg]

This video was something else. It really describes ADHD so well. Thank you for sharing the awareness that Its not a hoax, its a very real thing. 🙏

[@tomaszszafarczyk4754]

Laura... As for the relations, from my experience - it is a blessing that my wife also has ADHD - as she knows what I'm struggling with and gives me "space" to calm down / decompress whem my brain is overwhelmed. Of course this goes both ways and I will "take over" the family duties when she is overwhelmed... We seem to synergy very well as most of the time! Double ADHD energy is sometimes hard to manage but we did it so far for 23 years together... With 3 kids (all neurodivergent) and 2 dogs... Life is never boring ;)))

[@dianelowe7027]

Hi Laura, I'm a late diagnosed (this year) 53yr old woman and relate 100%! My lifes struggles all makes sense now. The diagnosis has been life changing, helping my depression , anxiety & learning self awareness. CBT has helped a lot with coping strategies all thanks to an amazing therapist. Wishing you positive outcomes moving forward. Love your channel.xx

[@bikingthedanube]

How did you find your therapist?

[@annahunteranna]

This made me really emotional because I can relate to most of these symptoms. I know I have ADHD, I was never officially diagnosed, and the reason why not and why this video made me emotional is because I just accepted it. I never took it seriously, and watching this video made me realize it's not normal to live like this... I am looking forward to learning from you about all the ways you discovered you can manage or help it :)

[@Dessi101]

I love your honesty Laura! ❤ You are my favourite KZbinr and you have just leveled up in my eyes. Wish you the best of luck and I would love to follow your new journey with ADHD in you wish to share it 🎉

[@JonathanKorbRealEstate]

Laura, you're far from alone! Thanks for this video, your honesty and openness is commendable. You have helped me.

[@EcommerceClinic]

ADHD often occurs together with Autism (ASD), you exhibit some of the symptoms, ie sensory overload, social issues. It's worth also doing an ASD assessment to understand yourself better. Well done for being so brave and open, hope you find someone soon :)

[@crynolyn]

Got my diagnosis at age 45, and it explains so much of my life. So helpful to be able to forgive myself for things I thought were shortcomings. Understanding how my brain is different is a wonderful thing. Hugs

[@gracielagibson1]

I just want to tell you are amazing. So honest down to earth and relatable. Thanks for the information and education you provide and helping so many people. Thank you for being so honest. Greetings from Australia

[@mauraflynn]

Sending ❤ Laura. Your honesty and vulnerability is so inspiring ❤

[@katiesmith9482]

👏🏻 I just want to give you a round of applause LT, for your honesty and bravery. You've created such a great explanation video. This has helped me understand ADHD so much better. (And how lovely are your parents? 😍)

[@YogaZenDenwithAJ]

Laura I wasn’t surprise some how at your diagnosis because I have a daughter and husband who thrive in life with ADHD, I probably unconsciously spotted some of traits. Congratulations🎉 and what a relief for you to know your not broken. You can now focus on being the best version of yourself and embraced your unique authentic self. 🎉

[@ConsterL]

You are such a wonderful human being and I’m sorry you have suffered ❤

[@kildpopper]

I had to watch this in chunks throughout the day. I relate so much it hurts! Diagnosed at 41, am in the process of grieving how hard life didn't have to be. It's a lot to take in.

[@karinkunde1697]

OMG This is resonating so much with me. Got diagnosed at the age of 43. Finishing my PhD at the moment on which I have been working for 10 years almost. 😆 Always wondering what the heck is wrong with me that I can't just write that damn thing within 3-4 years like many people around me. But also: there are quite some people around me, PhD-ing in the same discipline and also taking a loooong time because: who can just do the work everydays consistently? I tend to ask people how they manage to do it but yeah...doesn't really help.

[@amanda7913]

Well, this was emotional to watch. I have never considered myself as having ADHD either because I was a quiet kid who did very well in school. Often prefered to drawing or reading over hanging out with people. But for the past decade (17 - 27) it just started going downhill. I just can't seem to keep up with my peers in university no matter what or how hard I try. Perfect grades in the subjects I like, the rest are like pushing through a brick wall. And then regular burnouts on top of it while barely managing every day life. A couple of friends recently mentioned that it could be autism, so I'm currently on a 2-year waiting list for an assessment (lovely healthcare here in Sweden). But the more I read about ADHD the more it fits. And I'm sobbing while writing this, because I did not expect to recognize myself in literally everything you described. Damn...

[@janetEC1C2]

@@amanda7913 So sorry you are having to wait! Check out the comorbidity of autism with ADHD -it's about 70%, AND it can be ADD (attention deficit) without the hyperactivity element too. It's probably worth checking out some of the information and advice for these two diagnoses to see if anything can help with managing in the meantime☺️.

[@taoist32]

@@janetEC1C2ADD is no longer a separate diagnosis. It’s now called inattentive ADHD.

[@ErinHoskins]

My son was diagnosed last year at 15 with inattentive ADHD. I remember talking to his doctor and describing that he sort of hit a brick wall his freshman year and shut down. She said she has many patients with similar experiences, even those that are diagnosed in college or in adulthood where you’re “ok” until you aren’t. She said it’s so much more common with inattentive type because it not outwardly causing issues for others like the typical hyperactive child, it’s more inward. Best to you. It’s worth exploring if you think it’s a possibility.

[@janetEC1C2]

@@taoist32 thanks - I wanted to say that with inattentive ADHD the H - hyperactive - element doesn’t necessarily manifest in typical 'hyperactive' behaviour but in impulsivity

[@taoist32]

@@janetEC1C2 That’s alright. You knew what you were talking about. They confuse everyone by continuously updating the DMS manual combining two or more separate diagnoses into one. Just like Asperger’s and Autism. I’m considered autistic level 1 which is pretty much Asperger’s.

[@stefmills308]

You are absolutely describing me LT! I've been considering getting a diagnosis, I think it's time I book that appointment.

[@ameelcarthan3897]

Wow, I cried because I'm like, that's me at 55, and I'm always telling myself to get my stuff together. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@MysticRiver123]

Yup, I don’t have the hyperactive type. So I wasn’t diagnosed until I was about 42 too. It explains why I struggle so much and it sucks.

[@yowie6747]

I watched this a few weeks ago and it spooked me. Everything Laura was saying in this vid was like playing ADHD bingo with who I am, I nearly cried . There was only one symptom where I could say ‘No that bits not me’ . I needed some time to get my head around it but feel I need to have some testing done. Having watched this Im fairly sure I know what the diagnosis will be. Having watched this it also made me feel ‘maybe that’s why I like Laura’s vids so much we’re dealing with an almost identical set of thought patterns and behaviours’ . Thanks Laura another great interesting , well researched and presented subject. 😊👍

[@marianclaassen8127]

Thank you for making this video. You are a wonderful person. I wish you the best. My family has several people with ADHD, and meds have really helped.

[@katiedoich5241]

Thank you, amazing Laura, for being so honest and vulnerable in sharing this part of your life. You are a true inspiration, thank you for all that you do ❤

[@dippedabroad]

I was diagnosed with learning disabilities and chronic fatigue in my childhood. Now in my 40’s I was diagnosed with ADHD I can relate to so much of what you describe, especially the energy depletion and recovery time.

[@leatherandlace73]

I'm 52 and have ADHD and grew up with my a sister and brother having ADHD and ADD. I am not surprised that you have it. I think of it as just a different way of processing information and a different way of solving problems.

[@VesMe-wj1oh]

Thank you so much for sharing these personal moments because it will help so many other people realise they should go have a check! ❤

[@flemminghansen7429]

Good for you Laura. I can relate to most of the things you’ve mentioned. I just recently got my diagnosis at 43, and is starting medication in a couple of days. For me, getting the diagnosis was really a big deal because I could let go of all the shame I felt. This means that it no longer drags me down. I find it much easier to let go of bad feelings. Hopefully the medication can help me get started, and sticking, with healthier habits. In any case. Good luck with your ADHD journey.

[@Lewis94w]

I’m currently in the process of being diagnosed and I’ve learnt so much. Thanks for making such incredible content

[@hctung85]

As an almost 40 year old man who very recently got diagnosed with ADHD myself it baffles me each and every time again to recognize so many things other people with ADHD are experiencing, and now with you and your story! Having lived so many years feeling divergent and “broken” but not being able to put your finger on it can feel so incredibly lonely at times but after the ADHD “stamp” to recognize that you’re far from alone is already so healing. I truly believe it’s only up from here for you as well and I hope you’ll be able to see the condition as a superpower rather than a disability. I like the metaphor that ADHD brains are like a Ferrari but with bicycle brakes. It’s a gift, a unique set of abilities that sets us apart from the neurotypical which once understood and controlled can lead to incredible things. Btw I think your channel has more than proven already what incredible things you’re capable of. Your honesty and vulnerability are unique and beautiful and the little window through which you’re showing us a glimpse of your journey has been incredibly inspirational (and makes so much sense now knowing you’ve been diagnosed as well). As for you being single, “unfortunately” I’ve been in a stable relationship for quite some years now (which at times is still unbelievable to me) but girl are you my type of dating material. I think you’re insanely beautiful inside out and it shouldn’t be hard for you at all to find someone, especially now that you get to understand more and more why you are who you are. That being said, to find someone compatible is really a matter of luck. Imo dating is a numbers game, the more you meet, the bigger chances are you find your match. And do not worry about your age as it truly is just a number. We all have significantly different starting places in the game of life and where we are now doesn’t define us, but how far we’ve come will.

[@stephanguitar9778]

Thanks for this. You are very brave. I do relate to this. When I was at school they had a cure for ADHD, Autism and Touretes, and that was a simple device called "The cane" Even after quite literally over 1000 applications of this cure, I still couldn't focus for more than a few seconds and the other poor kid still had Autism. Many decades later I still cant focus, always depressed and forget words within a second of hearing them. And yes the brain noise is chaotic. Also extreme insomnia and fatigue since birth. I do hope things better for you.

[@maja660]

I guess it is my case too. Because i was separated from my parents when i was 1 and put in quarantine in the hospital for about 10 days, being completely alone and after which i continued to be in the hospital for further 2 weeks having finaly introduced my parents again in my life ,but only for 30 min daily, i think this was a major trauma for me and the moment when my disorder was born. Thank you, you are the best!

[@pameladaley955]

I am sooo happy for you, Laura! Your openness and honesty is so rare and so wonderful! Your future is HERE! All my love!

[@slowlife2158]

I admire your immense vulnerability sharing your journey. Thank you.

[@pearlywhirl4]

I was diagnosed at 33. It's hard to deal with that grief. But medication HAS been life changing. I've been depressed, to varying degrees, since I was an early teen. Anti-depressants were a mixed bag, some good results, tons of negative side effects, but stimulants? Instantly helps. Turns out, not being able to do what you want to do and need to do? That's depressing. Feeling like you're failing, feeling like something is wrong with you, not understanding why things are so hard? Depressing. I still have bad days, but overall, the depression has almost completely abated. There is also the workbook, "Mastering Your Adult ADHD," I'm still working through it, but it's been really helpful, if you want to fold that into your list of things to try. It's CBT based, so may be helpful, or may be redundant.

[@Jodi-EllenSmith]

You have just helped me SO MUCH!…I’m less than a month into seeing the patterns of ADHD in my daughter and I, and accepting I probably do have ADHD traits, which has come up while helping my daughter, then discussing it with her dad/my ex partner, who said he thinks he is ADHD too… I’ve been on a hyper focus knowledge quest and each podcast I listen to/watch just gives more depth that this is it. Thank you for being vulnerable about the grief/breakdown… at first my response was humour as relief but that recently turned very sad and your empathic attitude has just helped me so much I can’t describe it. Thank you so much Laura! I’m just 44, been looking for answers for over 20 years to my mental health struggles and finding this is relieving and overwhelming all in one. God bless you lovely human - love your videos and passion - keep on keeping on!

[@jontnoneya3404]

Aww you brave woman! You once again open up your heart and life and just lay everything out for all to see. Bless your heart. I'm sorry for your struggles as I've struggled with much of the same all my life also. But watching videos like yours always makes me feel better about myself and my life and they have a very calming effect on me. I just love how you're able to do that so often. Hang in there and I'm very interested to hear how the meds help you. Wishing you all the best!!

[@silviadesousa2687]

Thanks for sharing Laura ❤ you are refreshingly honest and brave! I'm 41 and also recently diagnosed. Everything you said resonated so much with me. Thank you ❤

[@janemmafernandez7842]

Wow some of these comments are not helpful at all. Please do what is right for you. Getting my 'label' helped me make sense of my life at age 52. And meds have changed my life for the better. I don't take them every day but when I know I'll need them, they help me focus and help me get things done. The important thing is knowledge and choice 🤗

[@samiratavakolli7371]

Hi Laura! I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I’m watching your videos from Stockholm-Sweden and one thing I am sure of is that you are a wonderful human being and you will make the best out of this situation as you do ❤❤❤

[@dianakalekye8630]

Yeah often after diagnosis you feel reliefe followed by a deep sadness; like you're grieving. It feels like you have been robbed blind of so many beautiful things life had to offer over the years. Thank you for sharing and it does get better.

[@Dancestar1981]

Only if you get the right support you need. The NDIS in Australia has banned my essential activities access which is vital for my everyday physical and mental health and wellbeing so I’m beyond pissed at the moment

[@Dancestar1981]

Women are either misdiagnosed or late diagnosed because the original research was male biased thank goodness it’s changing but unfortunately not fast enough

[@Dancestar1981]

It was neurodivergent burnout it has happened multiple times in my life and it happens when we can no longer cope with all the stress

[@Dancestar1981]

Still in the grieving process

[@Dancestar1981]

Don’t worry about the big gaps we work better in short bursts with big rest breaks

[@wesleylepoer]

Thank you so much for sharing this Laura. I'm 47 years old and exactly the same as you!! It's such a struggle day to day. I really appreciate your honesty and many other people will too. Thank you! I love what you are doing and please keep on doing it. People will really benefit from the information that you put out into the world. 😁👍🏻 I've learnt so much from your videos as many others will do too.

[@teodelfuego]

I was diagnosed at 62. It explains a lot. Videos about ADHD astonish me that others are experiencing the exact same things I experience

[@AC-yb9ml]

I’ve never felt so normal in all my life. I need to catch my breath. Thank you for your bravery in making and publishing this video. I think I just met a new part of myself.

[@leechap82]

Fantastic video. So real and so relatable. I’m a 42 year old guy and just got diagnosed this week. Your video is timed perfectly!

[@lorna4751]

Thank you for sharing. YES. this helps me. Virtually everything you shared resonates. It's mind boggling bc I'm 54 y/o. Lots of grief about so much time spent struggling and hurting THANK YOU.

[@KhanStopMe]

I got diagnosed last week as a 27 year old as well, happy to go on this journey with you too!

[@SolveigPolvei]

Thank you for sharing so openly. I got my diagnosis at the age of 37, two years ago now, and it changes my life completely. I can understand why some people see it as putting a label on oneself or others, but for me it helped me to understand myself in a profound way. And finding other people with the same struggles and strengths as myself helped me to not judge myself so harshly. Because, I was judged a lot as a child, and that resulted in me judging and gaslighting myself as an adult. So thank you so much again for sharing. I am sure (!) you being so open will help a lot of people. More people than you could ever know, because not all you help will comment on your videos. So grateful for you, dear soul.

[@Khawlah.90]

"I'm not all of these things all of the time." That's such an important and very true things to say. I think just watching this video and hearing your experience and you giving examples that are very similar to mine, I've diagnosed myself with ADHD as well. 🤣 A LOT makes so much more sense now.

[@LynneCarey]

Thank you so much for being so raw and open. That is not an easy thing to do, at all, and it just shows just how amazing you are!. I'm turning 70 next month and recently my daughter is telling me I have ADHD. Not something I have ever considered, even though one and likely two of my sons likely have it. My daughter is convinced she has it also. I must say I do experience a lot of what you have described, but I should try to get properly diagnosed. It could explain a lot. You have achieved so much despite the struggles, and I can relate to most of them. Sending hugs from Australia. 🤗

[@Edenjin]

Hi Laura, thank you for making this and other videos. I'm always happy to find you on my feed. I myself got diagnosed with ADHD a year ago at 37 and I understand the feelings you are describing. I appreciate that you shared you're story, thank you for everything you do.

[@Nayz13]

Youre very brave Laura! I’ve long suspected a couple of family members of mine have this too

[@goodgriefhalifax]

I'm 60 and just diagnosed with inattentive ADHD. I wish I'd known at 42! It's an incredible feeling learning this about myself and that I can now understand myself and my history with more clarity. Thank you for your videos! You're an inspiration.

[@srensvenne793]

Thanks for the very honest video. You're allrigt in my eyes, and even if you feel battered once in a while, I still think you're quite powerful

[@kristasmall]

Gosh, I don’t know you but want to give you a big hug! I’m so sorry you have suffered, I really hope medication helps your symptoms. Love your channel. X

[@KMVoiceStudio]

Thanks for sharing and being so honest! I feel like you have just described my life. I was diagnosed 5 years ago when I was 57. Things are getting better and I’m learning to cope and also enjoy my hyper fixation and getting the best out of that.

[@mrbensharman]

Thanks for sharing - you are very brave to be honest and open and lots of what you mention in this video resonates with my own experience.

[@LaVikinga108]

Thank you Laura for this video, it will help so many people!

[@TattyKnots7816]

Bless you, Laura. I just wanna give you a big hug. Xx

[@ms.art.vandelay]

This was so fascinating to learn about. I've heard of ADHD but I've never heard someone share what it's like to live with it. Throughout watching, I kept wanting to ask you to please be gentle with yourself. Everything you're going through is valid. Just be gentle with yourself.

[@LLLLLLLLLucas]

Hi Laura, I have ADHD diagnosed at 26, I know exactly how you feel. Life, everyday tasks, and work are physically and mentally exhausting. People dont understand how tiring it is. Sometimes firing on all cylinders, otherdays I spend the entire day in bed. Pleased you have a diagnosis, just knowing it isnt your fault will help a lot. Lucas

[@severs938]

Great video, thank you. I think I'm on the same camp but more confused and isolated, it's very weird when you get older

[@sabejal]

🙋‍♀Hi Laura, I've been processing your video for a while now. I was diagnosed at 36 and, suddenly, my whole life started to make sense too. I read a lot about it and heard many people explain how it affected them. No one, however, has been so spot on and honest about the part that I'm most ashamed of: the complete exhaustion I feel from time to time that prevents me from doing the smallest task. And the anxiety and frustration that come with not being able to do the things you were supposed to do and the lack of trust in yourself to have the energy for your future projects. In the other hand, it amazes me how you've been able to implement your healthy habits. I've never been able to get up early without crowling out of bed 😅and be consistent with the gym... forget about it! Now that you know you're brain is wired differently, could you talk about the way you were able to stick to them? With this new perspective I'm sure you can help a lot of people ❤ MUCHAS GRACIAS for being so open about it, it truly means a lot: I even showed this to my partner so he understands me better!

[@Mrsemmashane]

Crying watching this, relate so much to how you feel, I was diagnosed 3 years ago. Sending a massive hug. I hope this new understanding you have of your brain helps you as much as it’s helped me ❤

[@sarapalombo5305]

Wow what an amazing video and brilliant explanation for all to understand what ADHD means! Thank you ❤

[@sarahnortheastenglanduk6276]

OMG Laura, I'm in shock. You have just talked about and described a lot of what happens to me on a daily basis! I have spent so long criticising myself and being criticised by others that , some days I just want to hide from everything. It makes me feel so sad. I would be interested, moving forward, Laura, in finding out what you learn with regards to self-help or any other interventions and how it might help you. I really value your videos Laura and considering how hard it is for you sometimes, you are bloody brilliant, keep on being you, you are very much appreciated ❣️

[@BlueHorizonComm]

So sorry you had to suffer so much for so long.. but so glad you have found a way out! Hooray for you!

[@MeloniousThunk]

Oh, Laura! Congratulations! I’m so pleased for you to have learned this. When I was diagnosed as an adult I finally had an explanation for my bouts with depression (always, as it turns out, caused by ADHD burnout!) Trevor Noah also has ADHD and associated depression. He’s done a couple of great interviews where he talks about it, and they’re on KZbin.

[@Kim-mk9iw]

Thank you for being so honest Laura

[@alistairrobinson3865]

Well done for getting diagnosed!! 🙏. I had wondered if you knew before because I thought recognized it from watching your videos. My partner was diagnosed with ADHD 4 years ago, I lived with her years and went through the entire diagnosis with her, so can see it in people all the time and often they have no idea. Diagnosis improved my GFs life massively anyway (and mine!), so hope it helps you!! Brilliant explanation also 🙏

[@alistairrobinson3865]

God, you’re such a star, what an incredibly moving and honest video, this will help a lot if people 🙏

[@MendocinoTheBand]

I was diagnosed at 51, I can relate to your experience. ❤ thanks for sharing ❤

[@cs-yq5ed]

Laura, thank you for making this video and sharing your experiences. You were able to verbalize things that I have felt but could not put into words. I hope the new meds and the CBT work together to allow you to leave behind, or at least minimize, the sadness and confusion you have been dealing with for most of your life. ❤

[@Lizzzzzzzy9999]

Late to the party, but I still wanted to leave a comment and thank you for making this video. I'm a late diagnosed autistic women, and a LOT of the things you describe, I feel to (there's a significant overlap between the two conditions)...the exhaustion, the very few spoons, the feelings of laziness and brokenness, all that. I was diagnosed 6 years ago at age 40, but to this day I haven't managed to be gentle with myself. If I try to explain it all to people, most of them look at me with disbelief. Because on the outside, I have a normal life. Successful self-employment, marriage, a kid. My mother is most likely autistic too, but she doesn't want to hear about it and in fact thinks I'm just a quite hysterical person by default. She actually said "yeah but you've always been like that, even as a kid" - well yes mom THATS THE POINT. Sigh.

[@chrisgraythereal]

Interesting about being alerted to this by your audience. Does this tell you anything about who your videos appeal to? And therefore what kind of content will get the most engagement? Or is it simply a case of reaching enough people that a few have the needed insight and willingness to post about it? Either way, your community is your biggest asset. Keep building!

[@EcommerceClinic]

And again, well done for posting it, I think it will help a lot of people to feel less broken and start the conversation.

[@EmmaLou78]

I think you are incredible. You have achieved soooo much & make me feel lazy! You've been a successful businesswoman for years & accomplished incredible sporting achievements. I'm 46 & still working out my working life. I do not have any ADHD tendencies but have naturally been introverted all my life, which I know has held me back. I've not applied for jobs, gone for promotions and swerved relationships due to my introverted nature. I've often wondered what my life would have been like without this natural low self-esteem/introverted nature. Well done LT on this open video.

[@bernarddickson3675]

Keep well, we are with you.

[@visionvixxen]

Exhausting which is why I started avoiding everything except tv. It’s passive and I can’t mess it up or get too confused by decisions

[@clairehumphreys83]

Laura, you are a wonderful and inspiring human being, I love watching your videos. I’m so glad you’ve had your super power confirmed. I’m so looking forward to how this will improve your day to day life and massively increase your joy ❤

[@claireefrench]

Great video, very brave. I also got diagnosed in August this year at the age of 35. Everything you struggle with is the same for me - girls and women have been let down by the science and its focus on boys. I too felt both relieved and sad for my younger self when I realised I have ADHD! Also starting medication soon, both scared and excited. Hope you are able to keep us updated on how you get on - fingers crossed it helps!

[@caleighh6]

I want to be able to make my doctor listen to your video so I can tell them this is my exact experience, and I know I have adhd. I wish I could have so many people in my life listen to your video so that they could understand what my experience is and has been. And so they could then see…I’m not just lazy, I’m not not trying hard enough, I’m not irresponsible or thoughtless…. Everything is so much harder with a brain as dysfunctional as this. It is everything, every part, every feeling, every aspect, has been my same experience. I’ve come to a point in my life where the core beliefs I have about myself are so thoroughly negative, hopeless and down trodden, due to experiencing life through the filter of adhd….

[@Fimullen70]

Laura don't be so hard on yourself! You're absolutely not lazy, I would not have the control or dedication you have to complete the challenges you've done. Adhd or not, you are brilliant!

[@questions6180]

Your video was a great help to me. I have known for some time that I have ADHD and I'm in my 60s. My partner is a child psychotherapist and she recognised it in me sometime ago. Despite knowing this, your video has impacted me greatly. Every single detail that you mentioned is identical to my own experiences. Even your background matches so much to mine. I have been either self-employed or in business for 45 years. I've done adventures I was the first man to take off an hot air balloon from the North Pole in 1989. But I've been dogged with all the same issues that you raise. Having watched your video I have decided to seek treatment medication and another methodologies which I will I research. So thank you for bringing this to my attention so clearly. Interesting enough my partner thinks I also have autism. I'm not quite sure how the two together. I showed her your video and she was very inspired also and suggested that you might check to see whether you also have autism together with ADHD. Thank you for your amazing work. It is so inspiring and helpful.

[@JoJo-vz5uy]

I’m pretty sure I have ADHD myself even if I wasn’t diagnosed with it. I am right there with you Laura, on everything you said .. thanks so much for making this video! ❤❤

[@margylayton1]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I was just officially diagnosed at 61 (!) after doing job-related research on ADHD a few years ago and learning about how it manifests in girls/women. It explains SO much about my life, and my brain responded to medication in an extraordinary way, which confirms it, imo.