Did Black Women Choose Money Over Our Men? +Black Femininity

Hello Beautiful People! Please check out the links below! I've included all the sources I referenced in this live. I want everyone to develop their own opinions based on facts, instead of regurgitated talking points. I love you all! And to my wonderful subscribers, thanks for checking in! To the new viewers, welcome! Be sure to subscribe for new videos posted every week!
**SOURCES REFERENCED IN THIS LIVE**
-Black men and women unmarried and over 35 increased drastically after the 1970s. Source: www.census.gov...
-The dehumanizing and social effects of deindustrialization. Source: www.encycloped..., ysu.edu/center...
-Mass Incarceration and how Black people are targeted and disproportionately effected. Source: www.vox.com/20...
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[@eugenebrewster8227]

The Black community not marrying since the 60's has stripped Generational wealth from our community. Two people pooling their money together is very important for a household to succeed for the future.

[@robertbrooks4413]

And the "reverse mortgage" scam......

[@stairway-steeltalkironresp7595]

Steel Talk.

[@shareef4pnt957]

Heroin, mass incarceration, no paying jobs, state aid (housing/stamps) geared towards women NOT families, self hate, red lining, and poverty HAPPENED.

[@dontaybell5902]

@@shareef4pnt957 Spot on!

[@morrisjones6072]

Facts facts

[@tahseti1113]

Actually, we went in the wrong direction when we integrated. I'm telling my age here, but I remember growing up seeing black businesses. All that went away after integration. As far as de-industrialization is concerned, I've heard plenty of people talk about that. Also, in 1920, there were close to 1 million black farmers in the US. Today, there are less than 50,000. We not only lost businesses and factory jobs, we lost millions of acres of farmland.

[@AffordableREI]

The men only rallied for integration....thats the last time blavk men mobilized. And look at what thats given us?

[@thatguybill34]

*All by design*

[@thundermagnificent]

@Natasha Richardson AGAIN why do people diagnose the symptom but not the cause. They MADE it so black women had to chose, there were laws made.

[@Nicole-ei6dp]

@@AffordableREI They rallied again for the right to call us b!tches and h0es on the radio. There were women like Delores C Tucker who fought against it but black men actually rallied and lobbied at the courthouse and said it was their freedom of speech. They will be rallying again for police and prison abolition. They know exactly how to fight for and accomplish things they actually want.

[@wilfordgainer9134]

Taught Self-Hate is and was a major detriment to our ability to rise correctly. As soon as that word 'integrate' was feed to us, we left self again to become like and live like pale ones (massa). After that we were fed 'assimilation' and transformed into the mindset of I, me, and materialism to destroy that word 'we' that we let go. All that we see is a result of their trickology used on us. Just my thought. Thank you for your post. It was and is needed.

[@khanali1398]

A beautiful natural woman with a brain is just hard to come by. I just love her. Keep it up Empress, you are necessary.

[@lisa196409]

She absolutely is necessary. A beautiful bright intelligent woman who articulates well it's a shame because black women like her are growing old single. She's young now but I pray that she gets someone decent in her life.

[@phillykid512]

I wish my fellow black men would stop falling in to the prison trap. I'm 41 years old and never been to prison or jail, and was raised by a single mother in inner-city Philadelphia. So, it can be done. Let's stop making excuses and move forward in the advancement of our community.

[@phillykid512]

@Lexi 93 I understand we are targeted and other black men know this as well. I just ask that we as black men stop putting ourselves in a situation where we can end up in the system. Is smoking weed really that important to put your freedom at risk? For me the answer is no. I'm not perfect by a long shot, however I try my best to stay away from things that could possibly cause me to lose my freedom.

[@mainstreammedia1330]

@@phillykid512 🤫I wish we as black men as a whole could be given a message of "discipline" & not the typical "white liberal" response of coddling our unproductive behavior. "Oh it's not your fault", "oh he grew up without a father", or "we are MENTALLY INFERIOR[GENETICALLY] because our mothers carried so much trauma". That is the language of the white liberal & alt-right talking points. We've maintained INTEGRITY throughout history in the face of slavery, jim crow, red lining, wars, great depression 1929, etc. To be honest fast money & drugs are just temptations to live glamorous. The government shouldn't be responsible for creating jobs for its Citi

[@mainstreammedia1330]

@Perry Golston our strife? You mean our struggles?

[@mainstreammedia1330]

@Perry Golston denying & downplaying our struggles...I need more of an understanding of what? Tell me what rhetoric is harmful that iv said please sir?

[@mainstreammedia1330]

If we continue to blame all of our issues on racism white supremacy, then it follows that until that system is eradicated we can never achieve black excellence & we are at the mercy of whites to choose to eradicate the system out of morality. It only glorifies & gives complete power & control to an oppressor.

[@KamalSupremeAmen]

When we can't provide, we feel depressed. Even if we have the highest self esteem based on our intelligence and strength, it's like we can't prove it.

[@willytompkins8115]

I think their is a difference between providing & wanting.... You can provide for someone but do they NEED the stuff they WANT.?? You will always come up short with high Maintenance ppl.

[@BrookeLyn39]

There's always a way to provide. Most BM don't provide nothing!

[@micacarson4557]

@@BrookeLyn39 correction* most black men YOU know don't provide nothing

[@BrookeLyn39]

@@micacarson4557 Statically impossible! BM don't have resources. They start earning later than everyone else in life. That's great! Some BM gave you his ebt card.

[@micacarson4557]

@@BrookeLyn39 I see that you’re just being purposefully ignorant. Have a day.

[@winsorterrace]

We need more black women like yourself in the black community multiplied by 10,000 , thank you for your commentary .

[@KelticKabukiGirl]

We need a few white equivalents to get these crazy white chicks who all think they are models and street living in the suburbs.

[@KelticKabukiGirl]

White chicks lost their mind too if you have never dated one🤯

[@BluEx22329]

@@KelticKabukiGirl that's yalls problem 😆

[@Ayixlia]

@@BluEx22329 lol

[@fascinateandilluminate]

What does she mean "Our Men?"

[@shareef4pnt957]

You on point! I got depressed when I couldn't provide like I wanted to. I didnt even want to be in a relationship no matter how good it was. I pulled back, so your right. Money equals oxygen

[@Dannniellleee]

But you’re worth so much more than money… provide, but please don’t wrap your value in something created by other men. You’re literally priceless.

[@skinnyguy7773]

I'm sorry, but this reads BETA af.

[@shareef4pnt957]

@@Dannniellleee well thank you for saying that💎. Now I know it's true but at the time, yes that was my truth so thank you for seeing past the dollar signs and knowing there's more to love than anything you can spend or buy.

[@Dannniellleee]

@@shareef4pnt957 💛❤️ I’m so grateful for that understanding. I wish you all the best!!

[@BrookeLyn39]

No man should be in a relationship or creating more mouths to feed if he can't provide.

[@TheRealMusic4Life]

This woman is BEAUTIFUL! When I was coming up, this is how the young black women aspired to look. I miss those days

[@keithwalker9410]

Welfare replaced the black father.

[@JuztMuso]

@Jordan Barclay A breath of fresh air in all the madness.

[@toddtodd7439]

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[@myrondouglas5817]

Thanks!

[@leronemorrison461]

This woman possesses the energy that men need in women.

[@josephrobertson4106]

Hello Sister' Hope all is well with you and your family 🙏 Thanks u so much for sharing this message look sister stay focused on what you are doing Don't let the devil take your eyes off your prize! Keep bringing the message to your people Love you ❤️ 💯

[@stairway-steeltalkironresp7595]

It has an appeal.

[@12stnumbers95]

Bro is you simping

[@moood47]

@@12stnumbers95 nah he is being a decent human being, something I know your generation think is against the law.

[@edwardsjohnson5387]

@@moood47 he must have hell in his relationships.

[@ssm1052]

I see were you was going here...You must also consider what war (Vietnam did to the Black male Psyche) That 10 year from 1965-1975 war destroyed many brothers including my father, he came Back mentally unstable, and addicted to Heroin.. My father used to say "seeing that much death was unnatural" Only to come back to Philly with no job, and racial strife, and still seeing more death on the streets of Philly Via the drug war... it was a recipe for disaster...My father was a good man...who was ill from a condition he was put in...I don't blame my mother for leaving...She left to save her children..My father ended up taking his on life via hanging himself...So Mental illness contributes allot to the destruction of our families and souls...Once again the war is upon us, and I hope many brothers are stronger...this was a good video sis...as I wright this my eyes are tearing up...The world lost a good man who was my dad...

[@ericaleshai]

So sorry to hear this. And yes, the war is definitely a crucial factor that played a role in hurting our people and our families.

[@siyabongampongwana990]

@@ericaleshai Since women and men are equal. Women should also be sent to war right.

[@MsOrganicBlack]

Wow, blessings to you, Brother. May your father rest in perfect peace.

[@pearlljewels7330]

So sorry for your loss. Rev. 21:3,4.

[@adrianaarthur]

@@siyabongampongwana990 They are not equal, but should complement on another in their respective roles.

[@brandonpeacenlove4375]

That's when her feminity kicks in when the man is going through a financial struggle she reassure him things will get better but unfortunately women become very disrespectful and forget what he did do when he had it...which goes back to we nothing but a paycheck to many women

[@BigPreacha]

Only in amurdikkka brody...I encourage brodys to get passport and leave the nigga wench thinking massa luvin alone...and meet a pure black woman looking like cymeka but not acting thinking or talking like Laquanna....Meet some real queens that looks at her man as value somthing was deeply done to the black woman its part our fault but we had a whole lotta help in helping the whiteman fuck off our women...so I can't really blame her today its enough on both sides...we just need some healing as a people...

[@the2ndcoming135]

Excellent point, bro. Kinda speaks to the every man for themselves mentality we’re at. At least until something happens in which it becomes the “they’re attacking us again,” narrative.

[@doshinall]

This is a trauma response. As a 58 year old woman who never married, never even saw a wholesome marriage in my upbringing, absent father, etc., what do you think my trauma response was concerning black men? Let me just say it was negative. But I changed my beliefs, mainly because I have sons. What I'm trying to say is when YOU change the way you think about a thing, that thing changes. Do some inner work and you will be amazed at how your world will change.

[@Mrfantastic-hp2en]

Facts woman get real disrespectful when that money ain't flowing like it use to

[@morrisjones6072]

Facts

[@physicsteacher6633]

Amazed! How can someone so young be so insightful. Congratulations to the parents on this young lady!

[@mraramis5]

EVERYTHING ABOUT THIS IS SUCH A BREATH OF FRESH AIR! YOUR WORDS ARE ENCOURAGING & HELPFUL! JUST.... Thank you Goddess! 🙏🏽😌

[@WorlBoss]

Your Incredibly Intelligent, Honest and Accurate on the topics you've discussed. Continue to work on that femininity it will pay off. May Yah Bless You and Keep You.

[@seadrickmarshall2258]

We don't want to be approached by men and women we want to be approached by our spouse.some one that really cares about 90 percent of what we care about genuinely until you can feel their heart about the conversation. Stay bless

[@bmailey75]

I've never heard white folks relate to the story of case workers coming to their home making sure there was no sign of a man in the house!!

[@morrisjones6072]

Facts facts 100

[@quentinadamsjackson264]

I agree and I been around since 75

[@carmay3600]

The point is to make sure that a single mother is not cheating the system by taking more benefits than she would if she was actually married. The assumption is that if a man is in the house then he is also contributing financially. Thus reducing the financial “burden” (their word not mine) on the state. I looked it up and the total income for a household married or not has to be around $14,000 per year in order to receive benefits. Two people making $1,200 a month ($7.50 per hr) make far more than that. Thus they would qualify for fewer benefits, if they got anything at all. Unfortunately the system is not set up to help people who are the full time working poor. Several of my friends who were single mothers were told that they made too much money to receive anything. In order to qualify one was told that she would have to quit 🤦🏾‍♀️ her second job which was a night shift waitressing job.

[@Justmy4cents]

@@carmay3600 Great post, clears up a lot of the b.s. floating around.

[@marvintindle5224]

They chose the 'Check'.

[@simmiewilliams5970]

We allowed others to hijack our culture and redefine us as a people...and (we) continue to embrace the same stereotypes designed to dumb us down. But it’s growing channels like this gives me hope.

[@edjohns966]

Much love to you my beautiful sister stating the facts, I have two brothers who did time for these devils. So keep up with the good work. Love you

[@jamesmitchell2134]

This is my first time hearing you, and this message. I am totally on board with you and this message. VERY TRUE AN INFORMATIVE. We have been at war with this country for over 400 plus years!!

[@g-insane1744]

I can honestly say that I can relate by not being able to provide and aslo how the loss of jobs led to men finding other ways to make money, using drugs to try and cope , I get it!!

[@lisa196409]

I know women were using drugs right along with them. Some of them got it together and some of them didn't. How long are they going to stay stuck on stupid and expect friends family and women to be there for them at some point they have to take responsibility

[@tobilawani2132]

My God! You cleared away my confusion and frustration. You have no idea what your video have done to me as African. I love your video.

[@robertjohnsonii8149]

Keep going Erica we need this conversation to be heard so we can wake up.

[@donnitapatterson-brown1652]

So happy you're taking the time to give the facts to our young men and women. Not many women will take time out to break this down like this. Continue to keep it real!

[@John-mn5uf]

I appreciate you sista for speaking on our behalf and I never once knocked you for explaining the facts. Coming from a real FBA man. Keep it pushing sista!!

[@ericwilson3439]

What the hell is a FBA Lol

[@John-mn5uf]

@@ericwilson3439 it means brotha: Foundational Black American!!!

[@John-mn5uf]

@@ericwilson3439 it means brotha: Foundational Black American!!!

[@lauriceheard46]

You went live last year on IG with a modern Womans mindset about how your money and success disproves your need for a man. I'm glad you changed your mind and have an understanding now.✊🏾💯

[@marvintindle5224]

That's just the outside that looks different Bruh.

[@gabrielmeth4844]

Or its about the money 💰 🤷

[@OaklandRed]

My great grandmother’s mother was killed by her master. He beat her to death. He later died from the glass she would grind and put in his food.

[@mannytaylor6923]

2021 VISION WOWWW 🤔

[@madamluis2537]

@@bloowhalez its a lie lmao

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[@kaliyahmarks8953]

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[@fatfats3]

Being feminine is our natural divine right, that we need to learn, reclaim, honor and stand in.

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

There's nothing feminine about helping men build. Should come as no surprise that BM have the highest HIV rates of ALL MEN. Yall getting played to continue being the men of the community but they want your feminine performance and to submit to their loserdom .

[@KCelyce]

First of all you’re gorgeous. Secondly you are SPOT on! Love the video

[@askiabattle3678]

You are gorgeous to

[@askiabattle3678]

Don't let anybody tell you different.

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[@bernardusirjames1610]

Femininity is a divine Supreme position by nature. This society has pushed the blk female and the male in a unbalanced state. Sister this is an uplifting vlog. I appreciate your effort besides you and few other blk woman are giving our race hope. Stay in your feminie essence despite the hate. As a blk man I support you. Thank you!

[@cedricdawon5332]

I concur

[@florastewart7920]

Reality is, Grandma Ginny would drive a tractor when Grandpa Jessie’s back gave out. Grandpa Jessie’s parents taught him how to cook. So when Grandma Ginny was sick, people got fed. It is not what is masculine and what is feminine. It’s what the family needs to get done.

[@godglc]

That is not true...but we are the true and only example of a feminine women we are not feminist...they are women who are mostly lesbians If you look it up...they are very masculine in their ways and outlook on life...

[@bernardusirjames1610]

@@godglc what is not true?

[@bernardusirjames1610]

@@florastewart7920 feminity and Masculinity should be distinguished not ostracized. Men and Women especially Blk ppl hv divine qualities that are exclusive so to not acknowledge each person's powers is degrading our purpose. We must acknowledge what we are designed to do well, as a Male and Female

[@HyneephAli]

Before I was 18 years old my mother told me as a teenage boy love doesn't pay the bills thats when I knew and understood why my mother and some women act the way they do showing who is living and who is surviving but know matter what I have always loved black women because I have seen there struggle up close with blackmen amd especially White Supremacy creating those problems within the black community -B1

[@Dannniellleee]

I heard the same things. Being “raised” in a household with money and no love personally made me depressed, and I know I’m not alone bc… I’ve met other people out here I’m also from outside of Atlanta, so I saw plenty of other Black people… and the majority aren’t that happy or well-adjusted, but they pretend they are.

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

What did your father say?

[@derrickgreen2844]

Young lady, I discovered you after your posting on Mr. Kevin Samuel. I Am completely a fan and subscriber. For what I an hearing now, you are speaking Hella facts. May God bless.

[@Ebizzill]

i did it out of necessity because the people, especially the men in my life were just complacent not leveling up, and I HATEDDDDDD seeing my circle rearing children and struggling, miserable, and what was worst is them telling their children no for the basics...I swore, I would NEVER allow that... not only would I choose well, I would build myself to not be scared of wealth so that I'd able to handle myself when a man of means comes along for it to be a legitimate union, and not just because I'm in it for his money.... you know that's how alot of our women get caught up. There's alot of bad wealthy men out there... and I think alot of women put themselves in situations out of desperation. At least if you got a little money of your own, you can take the time to choose wisely and afford to be extra extra feminine.... and get the extra beauty sleep, that's how you stay beautiful and youthful. So yeah.. i chose money over my ex who had "potential" ... I regret nothing and peace is upon me.

[@soph3378]

This right here

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

Well said. Glad you have peace and didn't end up murdered by a jealous loser. Well done!

[@akidiado1039]

Smart Woman! You are 100% correct about men not feeling like men anymore when they can no longer be able to provide for their family. Often, financial distress is the number 1 stress factor that threatens the relationship between men and women irrespective of race globally.

[@marlobx7442]

Deep

[@BrookeLyn39]

Dust off your testicules and man up! There's always a way.

[@melissahendrick2243]

I was listening to you , but now I’m up and see this Beautiful angel

[@sircognac12]

You spoke facts here. When having money problems I can’t act in my full capacity and in the past depression and they way I treated my woman was tied to my finances.

[@marlobx7442]

Deep

[@FIREENGINE3]

Exactly

[@bernardjames2556]

Excellent presentation daughter, strengthen and motivate yourself because the haters are going to come at you. Continue in TRUTH because finally the TRUTH shall stand.

[@wutdadeal3]

It's a shame that with all these people with KZbin channels/vlog platforms have NEVER broke it down like this (without finger pointing/blaming), but to help others understand. Thank you for your beautiful mind and this video.

[@FatalDaze]

You've gained a new subscriber. It's so very refreshing when I hear women and young women speak so eloquently and with knowledge + wisdom. Most women rather be birdbrains towards men and on point at work nowadays. You are obviously attractive but you've decided to use your talents wisely. Many blessing are headed your way. Your tough ride built character but didn't break you.

[@Caliber8Tools]

you are one of the only sisters on the internet that speak up for the men, even with our faults. much respect for that.

[@sivaddavis2518]

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[@sivaddavis2518]

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[@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty]

She shouldn’t

[@queentwocents9714]

That's normally how it begins. Give her another year.

[@Divestedpinoyasawa]

@@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty Right she shouldn’t, they surely wouldn’t do it for her. As soon as I saw how the comment section was full of males I knew what time it was.

[@ramonrobinson7975]

I have truly enjoyed your commentary. Thank you keep up the good work.

[@zeldapolk1980]

Thank you for saying that. Black women have never had the luxury of being feminine. I fell into the independent strong black woman trap. But I’m working on embracing femininity.

[@BrookeLyn39]

How can you be feminine if you have to be the man? When BM have denied their responsibility, the BW had no choice but to man up, because there were no men in the BC.

[@blackice8824]

There's nothing contradictory about being " feminine " and " strong ". Black women seem to have the wrong idea about both of those concepts. Im masculine without having to shout or throw my weight around... Its that hard ??

[@BrookeLyn39]

@@blackice8824 I disagree. Femininity makes women a target in the BC. It's like wearing high heels in a war zone.

[@blackice8824]

@@BrookeLyn39 you would. Like a typical black woman. And for no reason ? You're a fool wearing high heel in a war zone figuratively or not 🙄 Like the black men " balling " while at war , my foolishness. Why don't you educated women look up statistics on incarceration, homelessness, life expectancy, ect. Then maybe you feel safer with those high heels. You in the little league as far the dangers you face. Black women are 2nd only to white women when it comes to life expectancy, pre mature death and you make as much money as white women already so I have no idea WTF your talking about ?

[@kenyattathompson6685]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@mjmaslin]

This was extremely refreshing to hear thank you for providing us with the real history of why our black society is so divided we need to hear this. and nobody truly understands industrialization, The War on drugs these are things that strip us apart on top of systematic racism etc. ect

[@369GODDESSnMOTION]

You did amazing Sug! Some people don’t understand what you’re referencing too, and some are so lost they can’t even grasp the fact that your reason for the message is to bring us together, so continue to bring your message to the thousands of us that have an open ear. Love it!!

[@Hebrewson72]

This is my idea of a Black woman right here, beautiful and intelligent.

[@CDBLK8008]

Not at all. It's other videos out here and she is talking ratchet and very masculine. Don't let the cute face and easy tone fool you. It broke my heart when I saw she is just like the other ones 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@gudlukkay]

@@CDBLK8008 exactly...and she admitted she has shitted on men that were nice to her.

[@akams3]

@@gudlukkay Exactly... Sisters like her will remain fine and useless. Talking rubbish here without accepting accountability. Always wanna be right even when dead wrong. SMH.

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[@b2l421]

This has to be one of the top video's on the subject. Kudos to you! I've grown weary between the battle of the sexes, calling men "dusty" vs calling woman "ungrateful". Social issues are complex and require a deeper analysis. You're absolutely correct about de-industrialization. There is a book called, The Hero's fight by Patricia Fernandez-Kelly. She did a 5 year research project in my hometown Baltimore on the negative effects of job outsourcing in the black community. Besides the racist component to the city, many black men in Baltimore lost their jobs over night. Neighborhoods had been completely abandoned over the years because the jobs were no longer there to support the household bills. The men in the case study had it rough. Some of their wives left them. Others never financially recovered. One man was able to retain his marriage because the wife worked a corporate position. Many woman complained that they could not find a "suitable" partner because the men did not have the ability to find adequate employment. So it is unfair to blanket assume that men are Dustys and woman are money hungry. In my opinion, I believe hook up culture also have a negative influence on today's modern marriage rates. I think the take away here is that we need to be more understanding of each other and find commonality outside of money and material possessions.

[@SirSmizzi]

Yea se really broke it down.

[@mrstanbmw]

B2L. You nailed it

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

Umm your comment started off on a decent note but you ended it once again on the "BENEFIT OF MALES" side of the aisle trying to tell women to "not worry about resources". If you want to truly be fair as you said you're tired of the " dusty" vs " money hungry right? If it's fair then both need to find commonality outside 1. money and material possessions AND 2. outside sex, sexual conquest. Once you take money and sex off of the table COMPLETELY does a woman really care what a man has in his pockets? No of course not because her body and future offspring isn't at risk. If he's not sleeping with her does he have to worry about "oops I didn't want to wear a condom and child support ooh no!!". No he does not! Take the money and sex out and that's when things will be fair and balanced. Then you can really have a truly rewarding engagement outside of the usual push and pull. What you'll have is purely PLATONIC and I think that's what should be the real focus.

[@b2l421]

@@GoddessBlueYozakura7 It appears you have misunderstood my post. I never stated to "not worry about resources". I stated that a successful marriage is not based on wealth and material possessions. What you present would be a good litmus test, but not equal. Sex is a natural and physical union of a married couple. Money is an entirely different topic and varies on personal preference. Ultimately, to prevent the "oopses" and increased chance of future unhappiness, waiting to have sex till marriage is the best choice. For those who don't, consequences may follow.

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

@@b2l421 No I didn't misunderstand you at all. You said a successful marriage is not based on "money" and material possessions. Actually it is. That's why the men with that statistically have the LEAST resources are also the ones with the lowest marriage rates and the highest divorce rates within the same racial group or even when they date, mate interracially. The whole "sex is natural and physical union of a married couple". Incorrect. Sex is natural for PROCREATION. The very act of sex between THE SEXES is about procreation aka creating offspring. If you don't have RESOURCES to provide then why would you even think of approaching any WOMBMAN for sex? This is where it comes back to DUSTY VS MONEY HUNGRY. What you're preaching is the same CON. You're trying to tell women "money" doesn't matter like THEY ALWAYS TELL WOMEN!! Then you want to say SEX IS NATURAL? SEX CREATES MOUTHS TO FEED SO WHERE ARE YOU GETTING THOSE RESOURCES FROM IF MONEY DOESN'T MATTER? No this is the same old tired mental gymnastics and LOW values that are promoted that keep the same stupid CYCLE of doom to continue. It's natural TO EAT. IT'S NATURAL TO HAVE A SAFE NEIGHBORHOOD IT'S NATURAL NOT TO BE SHOT IT'S NATURAL TO HAVE GOOD SCHOOL CHOICES FOR YOUR CHILDREN IT'S NATURAL TO NOT SLEEP WITH ANY MAN THAT ISN'T A PROVIDER FOR YOU AND YOUR OFFSPRING. THE very act of ALLOWING A MAN TO CLIMB ON TOP OF ME TO GAIN ACCESS TO MY WOMB THAT HASN'T THE RESOURCES TO PROTECT NOR PROVIDE FOR ME ALLOWS HIM to diminish my value as a woman, diminish the value of my womb, and by default DIMINISHES THE VALUE OF WHAT COMES OUT OF MY WOMB aka CHILDREN. No that WILL NOT DO. So my point is that TO BE FAIR the best course of action is to keep SEX and MONEY out of the equation if you're truly tired of seeing " DUSTY" and "MONEY HUNGRY". If I can get my own resources He can use his own hands for his own pleasure. See how actually FAIR that is? Another way to say this is that " women don't worry about what's in some man's dry pockets if he's staying the hell out of her wet purse. Why isn't a PLATONIC friendship promoted instead? Can't people work together without the nether regions being " risked"? This is common sense 101. Also black women have been dating and marrying down. It's just not working out.

[@michaeldavis4749]

Black Males have to hold themselves accountable for placing themselves in these prison institutions. We know the plot, yet, we still indulge in the very things that put us there in the 1st place. We strive harder to do the wrong thing than the right thing. I'm tired of all these excuses.

[@ladarrenlamontperdue778]

These are not excuses Mr Davis rather just reasons I strongly agree with you when we you say black males have to hold themselves accountable you see absolutely right about that but these young black males who have no idea what accountability is or what it means because they have no older black male to teach or instruct them or show them that there is a better way to doing everything. I had uncles teachers and other strong positive males that showed me all sides of life and the world of “The Game” the ins and the outs and what the street life was about what it can get you financially and where it could end you up if you don’t know when to quit or how to play it or if you need to play it because your not built like that.And also I was taught how to get out there work hard at a 9-5 and what to do with that financial gain when I received it but I also had that group that taught me to go and get that degree and how important it is to have that paper and what it means and shows and tells the world so having all those many dynamics of strong black males and some makes of other national origin helped me to become the strong successful open minded black man that I became who goes out and seeks these younger boys because that’s all they are until someone teaches them what being a man is and what it means to be a man because age has nothing with be a man there are some old boys out there running around I see so many everyday in their late 30s and 40s being a grown man is a mindset a way of life a code that is taught and has nothing to do with getting older or having sex or killing or how much money you make or where you work but how you take care of real business how you carry yourself his you take care of and raise your family how you care for and treat your wife or if you single how you set yourself up for the future and your future with your wife and family to come we have ti as real men seek these boys out and bring them under our wing and teach them what’s real so that they know and grow and pass it on to the next lost boy reasons not excuses prison and craziness is all they know so let’s get out there for those who need it and change what they know into what they need to know and what’s right .

[@lisa196409]

Yeah being in the streets does not help because they ride around in the police cars stopping black men saying that there was a crime committed in the area and you fit the description come on sometimes you have to stay home or have card parties at your house these are not the times that you should be out at a club and if you do go out to a club there should be a designated driver and you should not be by yourself.

[@chellez29]

Very concise analysis. New subbie.

[@stephencorbitt2752]

Sista that was the best break down of our situation I ever heard. Thank you!

[@teearrawright2549]

So glad I found your video... It really helps me to dissect what's wrong in the community.

[@Nuverselive]

Oh my goddess. This is imperative. I plan to have a full lecture soon revealing from an intuitive perspective what's happening and why. This rabbit hole is deeply disturbing. Relegion added another layer of division however it's too painful for many of us to understand since our culture is centered around relegious beliefs that devalue women . Ty my love for this. I'll definitely share with my tribe .

[@radmowade9820]

She is the kind of girl that I would like my son to meet because she moves on a conscious platform.... good stuff.... no Mc Donald’s no Mc Donald’s.

[@SlimDaddy9]

Re: De-industrialization - What you didn't mention is that when this happened. Manufacturing companies declined, while service companies flourished. The service companies provided services, which requires office space, paperwork etc. To create and maintain those workflows (to make their money), you need secretaries, accountants, administrative assistants, supervisors and managers. This is work that was almost exclusively done by women. So Black women are earning money without Black men. Those companies were owned by white men. Those white men were not hiring Black men, who they felt threatened by. So you now have Black women earning money in a new economy that Black men cannot. Then in the 70s, you have the rise of the womanist movement. Now Black women buy into that crap and think that men are not necessary. I call it crap bs when that movement was organizing itself, they ignored Black women who wanted to have equal rights and reached out to the southern racist women. They only came to the Black woman for numbers/bodies.Black women weren't in the board meetings, deciding an agenda for the movement. BW were at the bottom of the totem pole. Yet, what they also did was to weaken the Civil Rights movement bc now the womanist movement has caused a rift between BM and BW. If you don't think that BW weren't at the bottom of the totem pole in the womanist movement, then why didn't you get the right to vote in 1922 along with white women? You got that right in 1965, BESIDE THE BM!!! Your skin color matters more than your sex to the womanist movement! YET you're still fighting against us and have aided our oppressors to destroy the Black community! If you don't think it has been destroyed, I submit this. A community requires a hierarchal structure that keeps the members of the community accountable. BW don't want to be accountable to any one! By definition, we have no community! We are just a group of people with a similar ancestry who don't know where they are going bc they are so divided that it seems that they will never coordinate to move as one - like every other race does!

[@AdultSupervision.]

Exactly a class of individuals connected via the 13th, 14th, and 15th amendments. A legislatively created class. In order to have a real community you need to unite as a free nation not merely under the collective grouping of some social or commercial term or foreign clothing.

[@abisolaabisola7357]

They hired qualified black men. Most black men weren’t qualified for these jobs, and many didn’t want those feminine jobs and the pay wasn’t good.

[@SlimDaddy9]

@@abisolaabisola7357 Really? How many Black men that were working on the factory floor were pushing paper in office jobs during the 70s? I'll wait....

[@salingstuff8085]

Black folks wasn't hired at those positions then

[@salingstuff8085]

@@SlimDaddy9 clerical jobs are positions reserved for women stop acting like you don't know that

[@MrDee001]

I really appreciate your insight on this issue and the fact that you did some deep research. This is the first video of yours I came across and look forward to seeing what you are about.

[@gypsyqueen19olong70]

I really appreciate you... Such constructive reasoning. Good use of social media. We love our black men...

[@mikebe9919]

I remember there used to be a saying that went "United, we stand divided, we fall." Whatever happened to that?

[@stephencorbitt2752]

I'm trying to figure out when our women started hating us? After the 90s then they called educated black men educated lames, now they hate the thugs and they adore the oppressor. It happened in a flash. My solution get your passport and go to Africa. The American black woman has been Europeanized and is not willing to acknowledge the disparities that occurred and be likable for us. She won't even smile so we have to solve this problem and build strong families. We gotta collectively get her from Africa. Leave this independent hermaphrodite where she is.

[@the2ndcoming135]

We fell🤷🏻‍♂️

[@yacobisrael6955]

Zephaniah 2: 1... so-called blacks you are the children of Israel.. repent and keep the laws of God..

[@jacobissac3722]

Thats in the bible

[@jacobissac3722]

Mark 3:24-25 [24]And if a kingdom be divided against itself, that kingdom cannot stand. [25]And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand.

[@drwcommunications5513]

"The luxury of feminity." Great line!

[@heruhainus5947]

Great job in articulating it as a SYSTEM...which means there is MORE than one approach being used to prevent black solidarity

[@4abrownafrica420]

Name one of these approaches used to prevent black solidarity!

[@Mannythedon24]

I just wanna say. Thank you very much for keeping a positive attitude towards us black men. Erica I’m 21 and hearing the positive things you say about us as black men make me happy to be one. Hearing so much negativity about my skin color and that I’m a man really hurts in more ways than people know!!! It hurts to hear this stuff from anyone, especially the women who look like you! I’ve heard it all and it affects me in ways I never knew. I know around minute 13 some idiot commented and said that you were a feminist or something like that. I don’t care what you are, I just know that you are for black men and seeing us heal and reclaim our greatness! I appreciate every positive thing you’ve said about us. We need it desperately! I need it desperately! It makes me feel strong enough to go deal with this racist low down worldly system one more time! I appreciate you and all that you do so very much! Your inspiring words don’t go unnoticed. There are many more people listening to you than what you think! I appreciate it so so much. Keep up the good work sista and forget these idiots that keep running their mouths. Keep your head up and integrity up and let them blah blah blah away. Some brothas can’t accept the fact that few of our women are for us. I’ll take all we can get da**it! You keep the hope alive for myself and a lot of other black men! Thank you!!!!

[@MRSTyMcC]

Much love, young black man!

[@jesumeneduraney797]

@@primordialtitan2874 your correct black is not our real title

[@deangelowilliams6701]

We are Israelites the lost children of israel in this fake as western world region of society. If u don't now u know💯

[@deangelowilliams6701]

Media as a whole has manipulated our women to believe certain things to the point where 80% of our women are totally caught in this whole illusion and matrix of social engineering. They have used Fakebook and other social media platforms to where literally manipulate the minds of brown women in genaral pay attention2💯

[@deangelowilliams6701]

There's a war goin on outside no one is safe from u can run but u can't hide. Psychological warfare it's actual factual spiritual war and attack on the black man specifically to divide and conquer. Seperate the man from the household and this is a fact. And those same artists most you female idolize and follow and think dat wack ass music is fly and allow to provoke and control your emotions and not make the best decision for yourself at that time in a situation. It's hurts me to say this but it's too late we are in trouble wake up people we are stronger together that's how god meant us to be we are the real Kings and Queens💯

[@curtisstafford8382]

Thank you for being very balanced and keeping it real we need more people like you.

[@marilynjohnsonnd6915]

You are such a loving. Goddess sharing wisdom based upon facts. Add how the freeways were put in the middle of our neighborhoods to tear us apart. It is personal to all of us. Thank You!

[@chaaqamaatra5005]

Could you please explain why the Freeways were put in our neighborhood I've heard that b4?

[@winneherris5066]

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[@nicolea.7501]

"Everything around me grows!" I love that mindset..

[@MRSTyMcC]

I'm repeating that. Best line ever.

[@cpenn36609]

"Facts dont care about your fellings" I like that one too.

[@the2ndcoming135]

👀

[@lbgoodvibes]

Wow. Great speech and topic. You really went in. I thank you for the research you done. I my self is fond over Research/Delevopment. When the time is right I'd collaborate with you. But with that said I'm glad you shining. Stay true

[@taramoore-walker666]

Thank You for this Sis. I appreciate your effort. Watching you manage your emotion in response to the comment about "blaming the melenated man" was a good place to point out something. While I get that our men want us to be more feminine and soft, I need the men to see how that works (per your example) and help us. When I find myself in those type of situations, where I swallow down a logical appropriate response to something that upset me , It's quieted in the moment, but it comes back up at some later time. When is it ever ok to release my feelings? Just know that the energy is still inside me. Femininity requires certain conditions. Strife, anger, disrespect can not promote love or softness. Instead we are labeled "angry black women" Well for the love of all that's Holy, please enlighten me Brothers.

[@trw4war322]

It’s alright to be angry and upset. No one is asking Black Women to deny or suppress their emotions especially if you feel like you’ve been wronged. Just try not to be overdramatic to the point of being ratchet. Black Women are famous for insisting on proving their point by deflecting,avoidance,screaming and laying hands on their Man etc. For the record if you feel violated,disrespected or unhappy you have every right to voice your feelings. Understand Black Women are quick to point everyone’s flaws and faults but their own. In short they are right all the time while placing blame squarely on the Man’s shoulders. This creates an imbalance. No one is saying you have to be a DOORMAT. State your grievance and If the Man that you’re involved with is not really listening to you then end it. Leave and find an amenable partner. Don’t waste your feminity and softness on a Brother who is not worthy. Be tender but firm,soft yet assertive,articulate without threats. State how you feel and if you feel there is no mutual respect being given in return then leave that man,friend or family member alone.

[@Dwyr15]

@@trw4war322 Such a good response. Some are used to being ignored that they are conditioned to be over-the-top emotional. I have acknowledged issues/situations many times and solved the problem without issue. I do not do well with someone having to overdramatize every little thing. A calm assertive personality imo get you the consistently the best results.

[@trw4war322]

@@Dwyr15 Agreed. Calm and Assertive is the best way to diffuse any negativity without being over the top. Black Women overall escalate to a point where a mole hill turns into a mountain. Very informative point for both Black Men and Black Women.

[@4abrownafrica420]

Theres nothing wrong with you. You were born feminine. We are the ones who need to step our game up and take care of you!

[@trw4war322]

@@beautyandbrains1695 Yep. It’s the Best way to go. Just remember it’s ok to go all in if the situation calls for it. You’re not a DOORMAT! If you feel disrespected or violated speak up. If hands are being laid on you defend yourself. Yet if you can de-escalate the situation without any unnecessary drama then by all means do so.

[@Cyber_Diva]

Whole books have been written about deindustrialization - some were authored by black sociologists. However, the “conscious” community doesn’t like to read chapter books and research papers. Knowledge is transmitted orally - and there are very real limits to this format.

[@TimmyLeeGleen]

This video was suggested so I would like to respond from my vantage point to something you stated and give you a little testimony. You were not wrong about what you said about how men can change when not being able to provide, but that’s not all cases (not stating you insinuated that thought, this is also for many women that don’t understand that some men are build different mentally). I wasn’t able to provide for my “baby momma” and 3 children, but I was confident that I could. I always had a positive outlook in all things, and the way things were set up, all I needed was some trust and everything would’ve worked out. It was the one I chose to be with and have children with to bring me down every chance she had, especially when she was working while I was home with the children to focus on my art and spend quality time with my children. If I had the proper level of support and love, I would’ve been confident enough to tackle whatever obstacle was in my way, but because I didn’t, I was discouraged and didn’t pursue anything. My reason for falling and eventually walking away was how I was treated during those low moments, but I was also in an abusive relationship where I was tired of getting hit in front of my children, I was tired of vulgur language, violence without retaliation. But God is good!! I eventually got a good job but was taken for $16,000 in child support instead of working with me and doing counseling when I wanted to marry, but counseling would mean she would have to be accountable for how she treated me (not saying I was perfect, but I was very close due to the circumstances I was in lol). I acknowledge the fact that I chose the wrong one and because of that, I’m now a single father of my 3 children I couldn’t support before and blessed beyond measure thank God! Just know sister Erica, all men don’t react in that way when they can’t provide, or even in a bad situation, that’s an insecurity in that man and if he really loved his woman (generally to any man), his love towards her won’t change and vice versa for a woman that treats a man differently when he can’t provide. Struggle is inevitable and it shows the true colors of those we think love us, I loved someone that hated me, which isn’t good and says a lot about how I felt about myself but I’m accountable. At first I almost got caught up in this “Red Pill” manosphere woman hating mess and I actually wasn’t wrong, but I should never hate women as a whole because of my personal experience or even the thousands of testimonies I may have witnessed. Everything is 3 sided, But for us as brown people we gotta leave out the third party and look at the two sides, t’s about support on both ends, reciprocity between the man and the woman. I’m an extremely rare type of Man I believe and because of that I’m in a rare position. I’ll admit, as a single father able to provide does feel good though, to know my children dont have to worry about anything, and trusting God that I’d receive a help meet in his sovereign time because there are good women that exist. I’ll make sure I’ll raise my children right so the future men or woman that comes into my childrens lives don’t bring them hell and/or vice versa. My bad for this long comment just thought I’d let this off of my chest. Thank you for your insight! I will subscribe to your channel! Just thought I’d chime in on that thought!

[@Dreadboi1990]

Black men and black women were putted against each other. We were both wrong and betrayed each other. Can we make up and finally come together. I miss my black ppl especially black women. Literally the most beautiful women on the earth we are at war with. Can't stand it.

[@ahmadgreen309]

Very well said. THAT PART

[@jeffsmith8065]

The work of satan

[@jacobissac3722]

Not gonna happen until Christ establishes his kingdom. This world ia done.

[@javferg5325]

@@jacobissac3722 true

[@winneherris5066]

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[@DonMegaPLP]

Master class level information that isn't getting out enough.

[@mcmotivation5153]

You are on point with everything you said. You are the first to post about what not having enough money does to a man when by nature he is a provider. I pray you continue to post because we need more women like you who understand our struggle battles or relentless attacks by the dominant society. I want to know you and to work beside you.

[@MM-cs3yz]

Recently and after several long years, I left the Ghetto. I was the only Italian in a Black and Spanish neighborhood (they treated me great by the way). Many of the guys I became friends with, did prison time. What I found so amazing was, just about all of them had their own businesses, some two businesses. The long of the short, they had trouble getting good jobs or jobs at all due to their prison records. What did they do, they started their own business and here is a huge motivational factor as to why they did. If you go shopping and buy water, or eggs, or furniture, before you buy it, do you do research to find out who is the owner behind the company you are buying products from. And if you knew who the owner was, would you do a background check on the owner to see if he/she had a criminal record. Probably not. NOW...... here is what I found even more amazing. I knew these guys were smart. I asked them what got you into doing the wrong things that got you sent to prison. Believe it or now, much of what they said was, at the time, they believed the system kept them down, some said they had the slave mentality, and so on. What they finally realized was, true or not, if they wanted to stay out of prison and bring their dreams to reality, they themselves had no other choice but to do it. Here is one more, true story. Two men, from a broken family, in a horrible neighborhood, and a father that did not care. One ended up in prison. One became a huge success, owning his own company. A psychologist talked to both of them. The question the psychologist asked each of them was, "How is it you think you got to where you are today." They both answered pretty much in the same way. That is, "where I grew up, a broken family and a father who abused us, how else could I have turned out." We can break down barriers, or put up barriers before us. What will you choose. Take care yall and yall be good, ok. The greatness is there, within all of us. It's our job the nourish the seeds of greatness, and let them grow. Anonymous Italian.

[@20PinkPearls]

Oooh, already, I LOVE those earrings! May I ask where you got them? Beautiful!

[@blarestew2675]

I find this video fascinating. You can literally see you battling that highly confrontational nature you are taking about moving away from. Thank you for sharing your perspective.

[@BrJD-ii4iv]

“Your degrees is Not a substitution for a man” “You’re more Profitable when you’re separable” “When u combine it’s Godly” 🙌🏾 Backbreaking brought me in! Continue to spread the Word my Sis!

[@jasminepearls1047]

No, it's not but settling for any random man who not only makes less but doesn't respect women.

[@t.s_s.8132]

Our degrees were never meant to be a substitution. We were trying to assure/secure a quality life for our futures, families. I can count the number of black men in any of my college classes. It was mostly one, and on a special occasion, I had two black men in my college classes. 80s&90s.

[@craigharris41]

Kevin Samuels has been saying that for over 1 yr

[@dsg3053]

@@t.s_s.8132 okay...that's your college class. Is a Black Man supposed to go to that school just because that's how you feel?

[@thewatcher4552]

🙌🏾💯👍🏾❤ My wife is more educated than me (I joined the military she went to college) she 17yrs married has never thrown it in my face, I have never thrown I make more $ than she does we are one! Crazy how if you look through the eyes of God what marriage is supposed to be. I lead she follows. But who am I. Biblical marriage use to be the blacks backbone now its a after thought. Its's what got us through slavery, our faith. Now we have betrayed that same faith, for more chains (gold and diamond) Its been a slippery slope ever since. People don't even know what a "family" is anymore 2 moms 2 dads, 1,2,3, divorces, shaking up, renting wombs, 20 genders, polygamy I identify as...?😭 crazy times=end times!!

[@jwilkins-el2953]

As a 73 yr old black women, I am so proud of this young sister and the content she is putting out.

[@Pomegranate2471]

Yes J Wilkins-El, l am 58 and l look forward to listening to the content that this beautiful young queen is extending to our people. She is proof that there is future hope.🙏🏾❤️💞

[@holisticnurseGlo83]

I love your content. It is a warm, informative tone, and I love that you keep your composure with ignorant comments.

[@BoStevenson99]

You are doing an excellent job and I like to hear strong-minded sisters such as yourself you need to be on a platform or something basically just speaking knowledge to the younger generation and mine as well

[@foreverkazi7748]

This was it! All of it captures the media I’ve been reviewing the past few weeks in one clear video ✊🏾 thank you for sharing your input on where we all are

[@MrLee4love]

I finally found your positive channel, I have looked a long time, but I just joined to listen to your positive thoughts. I’m never too old to learn

[@bakulubakulu3891]

The reality is we're living in a system of economic warfare and constantly we have to be on survivor mode which explains why women would choose money over loyalty.

[@daphcajean2171]

💯💯💯🇭🇹

[@anthonysmith1831]

It is what it is 😐

[@BRockin25]

@BougieBella that isn't what the US Census data says

[@jjwms33]

@BougieBella thats not what the dope boys say when they pull out their knots at the club. Humans are selfish! Period.

[@AdultSupervision.]

Good description of what is going on but your statement also reveals the lack of mental evolution of the group because loyalty is the principle of government systems and it is what money is based upon. People perish ,for a lack of knowledge and guidance. So there is no "have to be on survivor mode" from a collective standpoint (yes individuals deal with this fact though) that would be a continuous choice to continue at that "Survivor and Necessity Seeking State".

[@rodneystacks2097]

I love how she checked herself on femininity! Sisters learn from her

[@clintgriffin8787]

Very Good Info and delivery sister. Stay ON POINT! AS You are!

[@thricegreat6018]

I'm baffled how can this lady humbly speak truth and get trolled like this... This world is going to hell in a handbag 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@ericwilson3439]

Troll is a degenerate As in brain getting smaller Causes harm to the community

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

Truth? Umm she spoke the same rhetoric that makes BM feels its ok to be at the bottom.

[@thricegreat6018]

@@GoddessBlueYozakura7 that's what you got out of what she said? Well I don't take people with satanic mindsets seriously just the name goddess let's me know your evil and want to be worshiped with no humility 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@KiiKiiMc]

The 80’s crack hit the scene and it caused families to fall apart

[@1tarikross161]

Nobody wants to deal with that. Selfishness causes ppl to look past reality and chase their silly american dream

[@KiiKiiMc]

@@1tarikross161 😒😳🤨

[@KiiKiiMc]

Are you on crack, did the thorn go to far in your side you sound triggered.. I commented on what I witnessed in the 80s it was left out crack was a major problem

[@jonathanjacob5453]

By the 80s families had already been falling apart for 15 years.

[@craigharris41]

@BougieBella Well BW left for feminism 20yrs before that so miss me with that. Those same dealers are being picked by BW to have babies.

[@ivorlett4253]

Sista you are enlightened inspired and rooted.I like your awareness of the agenda keep focus and keep edifying the lost souls.

[@hakeem84cmdr56]

I love you're msg and how you put facts out there and support...we Blk men need more women like 👍 much love...

[@newme1813]

New sub! Stay strong and seek truth! I see the gift of light in this young lady!

[@therealdallas4lyfe]

Your dad was so right. People who provide no value to themselves or the world drive me bonkers and as a consequence I have been getting people meaningful careers for more than 15 years. I wish you much success on your mission young lady! #GodBless.

[@Chuck_A_Luck_Stank]

Thank you for sharing good information with good intentions & love for us as a community of black folk. Gratitude for your patience & diligence by trial. Bless up throughout your remaining week

[@Dasecond88]

We need you sis🙏🏿 Our community is hurting but we won’t change it over night. Your voice gives mE hope for my sun’s future. #SupportBlackElders You are not old and you’re beautiful as ever but to often we see our ppl speak up w/ knowledge and experience, and we’re told “you don’t get it”. #SpeakOurTruths #BlackMenSupportBlackWomen

[@Ecrowder51]

Unmarried black people spikes in the 1980s by 25% because of the equality feminist which was later identified as the ladies of the 80s. I was married during this time so I had no clue at the time.

[@jeanyongbleek829]

Erica Leshay I really love your show. And thank you for understand black men. I'm watching you live in Haiti

[@daphcajean2171]

I’m watching her in Haiti too at the moment.

[@jeanyongbleek829]

@@daphcajean2171 oh that's cool I'm in La plaine

[@daphcajean2171]

@@jeanyongbleek829 bel kote Ayiti 😍

[@jeanyongbleek829]

@@daphcajean2171 😉 pa mal du tout!

[@jahdielbenisrael777]

The fact that this woman had stop what she was saying to coddle these sensitive ninjas when whole time she was defending them, explaining the events that led to the decline of the black community in the 70s and these simple emotional ninjas chose to see it as a jab, is proof of how mentally screwed up our community truly is.

[@lisa196409]

Yeah. So many black men are using slavery as an excuse That's not to say that we weren't economically deprived All of us were so what are you going to do about it That's my question black men. You know y'all were once leaders.

[@jahdielbenisrael777]

@@lisa196409 🤨No sis, slavery, willie lynch, jim crow, rampant government sanctioned domestic terrorism against many thriving SEGREGATED black communities, deindustrialzation, school-to-prison pipeline etc. These are REASONS not excuses. Let me guess, I bet you believe that the black woman gained academic access and resources above that of the black man completely of the sweat of her own brow and the white man had nothing to do with that either. C'mon sis, this as well as the modern feminist movement is nothing but white tactics to destroy the black family. Wake up sis. Right now the black woman is the white mans greatest weapon against the black community... and its sad that you all don't even see it. The other side of the black community's problem. Men being too damn sensitive becaise of no fathers in the homes and women letting the white man turn them against the black community.

[@Jet_Life420]

So you just basically judged a whole group of men based off the comment of one ignorant person during this stream. Most men were agreeing with her during this stream. You’re no better than the “ninjas” you calling out. The truth is as black people now we look for reasons to divide and ridicule each other instead of trying to come together and fix the issues. Nothing ever gets accomplished. Just ninjas talking bad about other ninjas. While listing all the problems in the black community and NEVER talking about solutions. The last part of your comment is spot on though the 70s did start the decline of the black family. You’re right about that.

[@jahdielbenisrael777]

@@Jet_Life420

[@Jet_Life420]

@@jahdielbenisrael777 You’re right. The black community and people in general should be able to take constructive criticism. But before anyone give any criticism they need to be able to give solutions as well. Without solutions it’s just criticism and really isn’t helping the problem. At that point you’re just venting your frustration to others. That doesn’t benefit the whole community. Also EVERYONE is sensitive about something. To act or talk as if you can’t or don’t show any kind of sensitivity is absurd and that type of person can’t help or give anyone good advice or constructive criticism. But in general I feel you. You’re not 100% wrong at all. And the guy that made that comment was ignorant. I didn’t take it personally as you suggested. I basically did what you did. I criticized your opinion, the same way you did for the comments you disliked. So I guess we both sensitive by your logic brother. See how that works. Full circle and nothing was accomplished cause it was all criticism with no solutions. Stay blessed bro.

[@darealblair6774]

Excellent when a female brings it straight from the hip and out of the gut, truth

[@miajynette5110]

The only thing I disagree with is when you said black men weren't dogging black women. There were problems between the men and women in the community and instead of fixing them, the men focused on integrating into white society

[@MRSTyMcC]

That's a very general statement and does not apply to all black men. That's like saying black women got on welfare and put the black men out of the house. We need to be better than that. Same old blame game.

[@miajynette5110]

@@MRSTyMcC no that isn't a general statement at all. There were problems in the community and one of the things that forced black women into the feminist movement was that their cries about intra community issues were being ignored and women were being abused by the men in the same struggle as them. Black people chose to fight for integration before they created a strong and stable community.

[@jayeljh6638]

@@miajynette5110 at what percentage would you say that black men were abusing black women, and if it's true at a high rate that you're talking about what part or responsibility on either building their Community or destructing their community since the man has taken the blame for everything which is fine because men are built to take the blame pressure is meant to be on shoulders not hips

[@mmxw2294]

I sure didn’t choose money because I have been dating BM for two decades and most of the time they have done nothing financially for me but have lied manipulated and cheated their way into my life and I had to learn to discern a person before allowing them in my life love yourself first

[@agirl2094]

Act like every other race and don’t engage with men who can’t enhance your life

[@jeronesmith6026]

I'm digging your facts and statistics sis. The info about the move of the industrial industry and the affects on the black community is some real stuff!✊🏾I love your realness, honest view, and the reality of your views.

[@stefanmoultrie2649]

@Erica I found your channel through Mediocre Tutorials. Not only are you nice on the eyes but I love your message as well as your energy!! ❤🖤💚

[@ArethaRenee]

Good video with a good grasp on what happened historically.

[@khawmelamar4839]

Excellent live. I like your syntax. We need more of that out here. Especially holding it down for the people. 💯

[@bjames692]

The only thing that I felt rubbed the wrong way on and I’m listening to the whole podcast is when women say they are letting men lead or do something or just letting men in general I feel like I like the word usage allowing them to do what they’re supposed to do and trusting men to do what they’re supposed to do. Great podcast Sister.

[@God.sDaughter]

As long as the man is a respectful and a man of integrity then a woman can truly rest in her femininity.

[@charlesirby9571]

Bro I went to Kenya to get a wife. They keep saying I will let him lead as if a man needs their permission.

[@winneherris5066]

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[@jediahmusic]

@@charlesirby9571 it’s not about “permission” …the only way a man can lead a woman, is if the woman “acts” in a way that allows that to happen AKA if she follows. A woman “letting” a man lead means, she’s “following” him..she can stop him from leading her by not following him.

[@mitchsgoodiepark9812]

@@jediahmusic Boom… I wish I could give this comment more likes. That’s the part. Everyone needs more personal accountability. God gives everyone free will. Be the change you want to see in the world. Inspire. Thanks again for your inspirational comment.