Did I get my SURGERIES Fast & Free during my TRANSITION | EP. 18 | The Blake Debate

[@uniquekid98]

I don’t mean this to offend, but it’s really refreshing to see a trans content creator like yourself. I think you’re really relatable, and you should be commended for how open and progressive you are for so many controversial topics! Keep doing you boo 🎉

[@DocEmCee]

Honesty, most of us are like this - you just see the shouty loonies online. Most of us just want to live quiet, ordinary lives.

[@sophiacalon3463]

YOU WERENT HARSH ALEXIS! That person was hurt. She put it on you. I love how you feel bad about it, it shows you have good empathy ❤❤

[@kirstyrogers40]

I understand the comment that was made, yes it’s a bit harsh in places but I do understand it. I’m from the uk, and my endocrinologist consultant admitted that I couldn’t get laser treatment on the nhs for severe hirsutism (extreme facial hair due to polysystic ovaries) because the amount of trans patients wanting it had skyrocketed. I’ll freely admit I was angry. I ended up having to write to the nhs board for my area and basically beg them to reconsider - I am still waiting for an answer, whereas my trans brother got laser treatment on the nhs within 4-5 months of being trans. So I can see where people can get angry about it. I suffered with excruciating periods for years and years and begged for a hysterectomy and was denied, only for me to end up needing an emergency hysterectomy at age 25. Now it does seem that trans men can get a hysterectomy done rather quickly. And for someone like myself that suffered from 11 to 25 it is difficult to understand and accept. I thoroughly enjoy your videos

[@Jasminestealth1]

I am going to post a general reply... but as your post speaks to it.... Here is what is at the heart of it.... not only trying to rate the "importance" but it seems trans related issues... even with those that support.... its seen more as a "do" you! As if any medical treatment for a trans-person, is considered cosmetic...It is just like those on a transplant list.. and how that list is based off of "NEED"... I think only a person with the dysphoria... really understands.... the need.... I think even those that are allies... do not truly understand the magnitude of "need"...

[@Maredie1]

Here in the States, in Texas specifically, i was not allowed to get a hysterectomy without my hubby's permission. In case he wanted more kids 😂😂😂 Finally got my hysterectomy at 50. Full of tumors. On all my organs. Medical care is just ughhhhhh

[@DocEmCee]

Laser hair removal is NOT available on the NHS for trans people. Also, we are tax payers too. It is so irritating that we are treated as less important.

[@kirstyrogers40]

@@DocEmCee It is in my area, my endocrinology consultant has told me, also my trans brother got it on the NHS in my local area.

[@LadyVineXIII]

I am going to hop in here because the commentors are not listening/reading the comment. The issue is that we are not getting EQUAL treatment. She had to wait 14 YEARS to get a needed hysterectomy to save her life and make her life livable while a Trans man can get that surgery in a matter of months. Is it necessary for the Trans man, absolutely. They are BOTH in NEED of the hysterectomy. NEITHER should be made to wait over a decade to receive that help. The issue is that he just got a sign off from a doctor and out it came within a few months. She had to wait until her organ almost literally killed her after 14 years of excruciating pain to get it out. Why did she have to wait while he didn't? Why did she have to wait at all?

[@TanyaRando]

The issues I have with that comment, is that they went off half cocked, without doing any research. I'm not trans, but some surgeries I've had, I've paid for, even though I worked 43 years in the NHS. I totally get the dysphoria about hair loss, my menopause killed the thickness of my hair, and it really bothered me, plus I even lost most of my eyebrows! I had microblading on the eyebrows, and I'd previously said I'd never have that done!! It's just all so bloody expensive! I don't think you were harsh at all Alexis, and it's good to see how Liam is so protective of you 💖😍

[@xxaavviieerrrrr]

agree!

[@sophiacalon3463]

Depends where they’re from. In some places, such things can be free

[@QuinnieMae]

Omg me too! I'm a 51yo woman in the US and as I discovered my "new" hair, (thin, flat, see through, nothing like my 30yo hair) I was horrified. I cried. It was shocking. I've done some things to make it better but I just wanted you to know you're not alone 🫂

[@TanyaRando]

@@QuinnieMae Thankyou! It’s actually good to feel that there’s others experiencing the same thing, even though you don’t wish it on anyone else, it helps to know you’re not on your own 😍

[@RedundantHuman-CandyBites]

Totally agree, attacking her came from a place of hurt. Nothing much will get solved with emotional attacks.

[@lindagarvey7868]

I can totally relate to the person who left that message, i don't necessarily like their tone but understand their frustration. I had a total hysterectomy and am now dealing with hair loss , and insurance won't pay for me to get corrected help. I don't feel that's your fault. it's the insurance companies. Lots of love ❤

[@amandawalters8087]

I don’t know of any insurance in the US who pays for that…it is considered cosmetic….we can’t get mad because someone can afford something we can’t….I need a tummy tuck after having twins and loosing over 100 lbs…but I wont get mad at those who can pay for it first

[@vickiturner-simpson5091]

@@amandawalters8087 I was totally thinking the same thing! I don't know of any insurance company in the US that pays for "cosmetic" surgeries! I've had 4 different insurance providers over my years working and none covered cosmetic surgery. I would love to get lipo and a facelift (I'm 67) insurance won't cover it, so I need to evaluate how important that is to me. We can't be mad at someone who is willing to pay for something or can afford to pay for something that we can't.

[@nottherealellenripley]

Liam I fucking love your honesty, your ability to tell your truth with humility and tenacity … what a refreshing channel that looks at things from a truly middle ground perspective. Keep it up guys LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU Alexis ❤

[@Alexis_blake00]

I'll tell him you said so - if there is one quality about Liam it's his brutal honesty! I think it's his ADHD. If I ever ask for his opinion I always make sure I mentally prepare myself for his answer haha. Thank you so much

[@YTladytalkingagain]

This hair and makeup is so next level flawless 💕

[@victorv5109]

Alexis, I’ve commented this before and I’ll comment again, I petition for Liam to be called OUR Fiancée from now on. Where can I find my own Liam??? 🥹🥹🥹….He’s always been daddy but to see physically see how protective he is of you….. literally made me tear up ❤❤❤

[@Alexis_blake00]

Daddy haha ffs 🙊 Thats fine by me 👍 haha xxx

[@CharliStar]

I wish i could find myself a Liam too! 😂😅

[@PaigeNicoleKomar]

There aren't any (that I've found) Liam's in America! After my divorce, I've decided to stay single for the rest of my life unless an actual prince on a white horse comes and sweeps me off of my feet! I know that won't happen, so... Here I sit doing my little crafts 😂 I have a few questions if it'll help your pod cast. I'm sure you have said this before, but what exactly do you and Liam do for work besides the podcast? I just find it interesting to here about what others do and how they improve our huge planet 😊 I retired early from the Criminal Justice field as a 911 dispatcher after a botched back surgery that caused my spine to collapse and has permanently disfigured/disabled me. Anyway, I'm still kicking it and spend my time crafting and watching ppl like you guys on KZbin 🤪 anyway, my other question is, what do you guys enjoy doing on date nights besides the norm of dinner and a movie? Hiking, hot air balloons, fairs? What are vacations or things you'd like to try on your bucket list that you've never done? An FAQ video relating to anything regarding your lives other than the fact that your trans would be interesting and fun to hear ❤❤❤

[@YTladytalkingagain]

I’m perimenopausal and taking estrogen worsened my already existing food allergies. I went from 12 to like 50 allergies. Drugs react different for everybody. Humans are sooo complex. Wishing you counted health and wellness 💕

[@aynodurnegw]

Could you maybe swap to a high estrogen diet in place of meds? That sucks to hear you suffering with that

[@YTladytalkingagain]

high estrogen diets can bring back my cancer, so nope. but it’s not too bad, I’m a good cook. I stopped taking estroven a month after using it, but these changes seem to be permanent.

[@chriswest6151]

Alexis and Liam, you are an inspiration, I only discovered your channel a few days ago but I have been watching all your previous videos, I'm a 44 year old male that has spent my whole life hiding the fact that I'm Bi, although as I've only ever been with women I suppose I'm bi curious, my biggest regret in life is that I never explored my sexuality when I was younger, but watching your videos has made me realise that it's never too late. I wish you both all the happiness in the world. X

[@idonttiptoe1519]

I have questions! What are your favorite foods? Liam, do you regret any of your tattoos? Alexis, do you have any tattoos? I'd like to hear the stories behind anything tattoo related. Please talk more about adoption if you've started really looking into it. And I still want to see a collab with Nikki and Jim Norton!

[@Blank_1s]

Y'alls calm demeanor even after the trolls is inspiring. Ty

[@slytheringingerwitch]

Alexis is Poppy...still optimistic and singing.

[@VioletWaves44]

That wasn't a troll though, it was someone saying how they felt. From a place where they're lacking understanding over the funding. So they were wrong. But not all criticism or counter opinions are trolls.

[@Cerig61]

HI Alexis, You and Liam are inspiring. I am 30 years post-op, have been with the same partner for over 20 years (he is wonderful!) and I paid for EVERYTHING myself, all my medication, electrolysis, surgeries, the lot. The NHS helped with and paid for NOTHING. I worked hard, saved and struggled to get it all done by myself. You are doing brilliantly. Good luck with the rest of your journey and please carry on being inspiring for those who are simply trying to be their true self.

[@Alexis_blake00]

Thanks you so much! X

[@amylouwilliams83]

Can I just say how absolutely amazed I am at how u respond to some of the extremely rude & nasty comments u get… it’s not just that you and Liam do it in a way to keep the person who says things as private as u can but it’s done in a way that is not just a mature way of doing it but… I can’t even think of the right word/s, the respect and love and pure joy it is to watch the 2 of u or just Alexis on her own deal with these matters is not something u see online these days… and I wish more people would watch your videos and learn how to educate people and tell your story in such a peaceful and respectful way 🫶🫶 much love & respect for u both

[@stanleyfox4201]

Hair looks fab

[@francescadulash3511]

I think it's the same in Australia - bottom surgery is covered. The rest self funded. On an interesting note Victoria Police now grant 4 weeks affirmation leave for trans & NB members. I've not heard of any other employers who grant it.

[@samanthapenman4857]

You are both adorable omg, so happy I found your channel 🥰

[@sophiacalon3463]

Thank you Alexis for understanding and respecting women, even when some don’t always speak to you very nicely. You’re very emotionally intelligent and I’m so grateful for your takes. To have seen that it was a woman who was hurting through an injustice, which led her to reflect it onto you is not an easy thing to do when it’s written with such anger. I truly love your takes and your empathy!❤ keep being you! And Liam, keep exposing the none sense!

[@rayvenlee4677]

Your response was bang on! I would have been much worse. As for the attention from men, it's horrendous for women. It's either all creepy or it's downright rude. I have noticed since hitting perimenopause (plus a lovely thyroid issue) and gaining weight, the negative comments from men are awful. On the flip side, before my weight gain, the catcalling, stares, lude and suggestive comments were just as bad. Sometimes, as a woman, it feels like you can't win. 🤦🏼‍♀ Anyway, I love the show, and seeing a new post from you always brightens my day. Keep doing what you're doing.

[@bridgethoskins9809]

Someone is always going to have something negative to say. Most times, I believe it comes from jealousy. That's exactly how that person sounded.....jealous!!! You weren't harsh. You were informing them about how they were wrong. I don't understand the whole transgender thing or what it is like to feel that way, but I feel you are very respectful to biological women, and i very much appreciate that. You are a beautiful person inside and out and at the end of the day that's all that really matters.

[@fallabeaufaebelle]

it took me a second to realize Liam dyed his hair, I was trying to figure out why he looked different to me XD looks good! I love you two. You have such warm energy. The last two comments at the end were super interesting too. Im glad you guys do this series

[@CJ-ve5he]

You weren’t harsh! It was a perfectly reasonable response, and I’d expect nothing else from you! Really enjoy your content whenever it pops up in my feed - just subscribed after watching this video 🙂

[@zachandjenn222]

So happy you stood up for yourself Alexis! You deserve all the happiness 🥰

[@MollyTilford-Burns]

Met you both at the Airport. I was very overwhelmed and didn't want to bother you too much, But wanted to put my 2 cents into this as a woman with Endometriosis waiting to start HRT. My diagnosis took 3 years of waiting and I'm still waiting to start treatment 5 years on. This is a completely different issue, trans women are not the problem. The government's management and attitude towards health care (particularly women and trans women's care) is the problem! You are both beautiful human beings and I'm so happy I got to say hello! ❤

[@ChurchOfTUPAC]

U seem proper sound and, imo, one of the best ppl to listen to (along with Liam) on related issues. ....and i guess tampons have just been tested with whatever the blue liquid is that they pour on sanitary products in the commercials??

[@sophiacalon3463]

True because red liquid would be too gory. It’s annoying how much they censor it😭 just put red liquids. Not blood but just, at least, RED LIQUID!

[@sandysmith71]

Alexis and Liam , you both are so down to earth and easy to relate to. Thank you for sharing your journey with us !❤ also your true hearts shine through 😊❤

[@alisiaart]

You were not harsh at all Alexis...That person was rude beyond belief. There's a way of voiceing your opinion without being gross to someone. I can understand this person's frustration, but taking it out on you or anyone else is not on. In the end of a day we all pay our taxes and we all deserve the best of health care...it shouldn't be even in question. You as everyone else deserve all your treatments under health care. Transitioning is matter of mental health and it should be provided same as every other mental health treatment. It is sad that anyone has to pay out of their own pocket for any of it. You're a wonderful and inspiring person, you are a wonderful ambassador for your community and keep doing what you're doing. ❤❤ We as your followers will always have your back 😊

[@mazzame6480]

Yay!!!! ❤❤😂 I loves it when it's both of you. Liam looks at you with so much love in his eyes ...you are a very lucky lady. I do mean lady!! You got so much class 😂❤

[@elliemiller74]

You make me miss when there was a forum for trans people and natal people to discuss these important issues! I just had a hysterectomy due to underlying health issues. Thankfully, my insurance FINALLY covered it, but I had to fight really hard to get my hysterectomy (I had pre-cancerous cells among other issues). Many people don't get this surgery covered and have to pay out of pocket. That said, I appreciate your candor and thoughtfulness, especially considering so many people in my country don't get necessary surgeries, let along optional surgeries. Keep doing what you're doing! :D I also love your hair. :) I just saw that you use Redken, so I will get some. You should get a sponsorship from Redken. ETA: my elderly mom loves your videos, too! :D

[@carlyvarney667]

Alexis, you are always so gracious and respectful to the biological females. I swear to God I would throw down anyone who disrespected you.

[@QuinnieMae]

Liam is lovely. He's smart, protective, well spoken, insightful and handsome. I would green-light him a million times over for my daughters, and as you Alexis, are young enough to be my daughter, and I adore you, I'm so glad you and Liam are together. I hope you and he spend your lives together forever. (You would make amazeballs parents FYI!)

[@IamTHEMumma]

10:48 Blue coloured water bit like the blue loo colour in adverts when I was a kid 😜 Liam you would have a number of people backing you right up too Alexis your ability to see the other side is fabulous. You've earned your luck ❤️❤️

[@rebekah1180]

This is real love! You two are so cute, separately and together. 💜💜

[@WhatsNextwithNora]

You have every right to stand up for yourself and to make a point of the many, many challenges you've had to overcome just to enjoy a sense of peace that the majority of people are born to. And it's a shame that anyone has financial burdens on top of everything else that comes with medical treatment of all kinds.

[@briannahudson6329]

I think the person that made that comment had to be in the US. Here in the US Unfortunately, it's become our reality that transpeople take priority over everyone else. I think they should be treated just like everybody else. If it's medically necessary and urgent get them to the front of the line. If it's not, then they can wait in the line, but unfortunately there are women like me who got bumped to the back of the line to get a hysterectomy when I've had feminine cancer 4 times and they took an ovary and a part of my cervix and a part of my uterus and put me through round after round after round of chemo. I didn't get my hysterectomy even though it would stop me from getting that kind of cancer again because it was somebody else "needed" it more. It was a transwoman. I personally know women who have been denied breast reconstruction surgery after having a double mastectomy from breast cancer. Their insurance wouldn't cover it, but every insurance covers breast implants for a transwoman. Here in the US women going through or that have been through menopause are denied HRT because even though it the best and most recommended treatment and helps head off many complications from menopause like degrading bone health, mental health, issues with their sexual health and ability to even have sex without pain or worse and many other things because most insurance won't cover it or have really long wait times and many many other options you have to go through for anyone but transwomen. Now transmen don't jump lines they are treated just like any man here, first class healthcare all the way. Men here get HRT for low T all the time and get treatment covered by insurance for sexual disfunction whereas women don't. Here "trans" kids are taken from their parents for not supporting their gender identity "enough" and those rates are far higher for trans boys than trans girls( I put trans in quotes because alot of these kids are being influenced and mislead and arent actually trans). Here in the US women are treated as second class citizens, especially for medical care, so biological women take a back seat to transwomen (as you acknowledge biological men), men, and transmen (because they are transitioning to men). It is very true that if a woman needs something and a transwoman wants it but there is a limited supply/time/resources the transwoman gets it. Limited supply of estrogen give it to the trans woman not the woman who is going/has gone through menopause and needs it to replace her natural hormones that she isn't producing anymore even though her mental, physical, and sexual health will decline without it. There is only so much money that insurance will pay for breast augmentation/ reconstruction give it to the transwoman not the woman who lost both breasts in a horrible assult or to breast cancer. Finacial assistance for adoption(which is very limited and only offered in some places) give it to the transwoman not the woman who's uterus was destroyed by a sexual assult or medical malpractice. And the list just keeps going. While I know or at least hope that you Alexis see the injustice in this alot of transwomen don't. So I get where their anger is coming from but it was aimed at the wrong person/people here.

[@andreacoles5947]

Here in New Zealand we have a public health system similar to the UK. But there have been several times in the past few years when HRT patches for menopause have been very scarce because there's been such a huge increase in demand from trans women. Also, I know women who have struggled to get breast surgery in our public system while trans women and men have much easier access, so I do feel the health system is heavily weighted towards trans people. However, I don't view Alexis as being in any way responsible for that.

[@blackharvest13]

I agree. It’s no coincidence my insurance will not over a checkup or my blood pressure medication let alone do a referral for my heart condition but if I was trans I could be fully transitioned under insurance for no cost out of my pocket. Women here are getting sick of being put last behind everyone . I know where her anger is coming from but it was directed at the wrong person.

[@debra2700]

@briannahudson6329 You are absolutely lying about everything. I live in the U.S. too and there's no way you were denied a hysterectomy because a transwoman needed one more. You would have no way of even knowing that and I highly doubt your surgeon walked in and said, "Gosh, I'm so sorry Mrs. B, we have to postpone your surgery because they just wheeled a trans woman into the operating room instead of you due to her needing to be in a Gay Pride Parade next week so we bumped them ahead of you and your cancer." There is no lack of estrogen in the U.S. because estrogen is nothing more than pregnant mare urine and even if every horse in America suddenly lost the ability to take a piss, we still have synthetic estrogen and I can assure everyone that transwomen don't get it first. Your whole rant is that of a troll who hates trans people and completely invents things that never happened to make them look bad and who hasn't posted one actual fact. If you needed a hysterectomy due to cancer and I even doubt that, what you're describing sounds shitty medical care and is not what routinely happens to women in the U.S. There are over 1,100 private health insurance companies in the U.S. along with Medicaid, Medicare and Affordable Health Care (Obamacare) and people get different coverage based on what each plan pays for what people are willing to pay for so you can't make a blanket statement that EVERYONE gets denied this or that. Alexis and Liam are lovely people just trying to live their lives and being generous enough to share their experiences with us and you are a sad troll who hopefully didn't wreck their day.

[@AlexM-ht9ff]

@@briannahudson6329 Nice fail. Trans girl here. Ya, it took 2 years for me to get one surgery. And I had to save over $8000 for my second surgery. No one is getting "bumped". What you're doing is spewing nonsense and bigotry propelled by the right wing and it's very uninformed. (1) Healthcare is first come, first serve. (2) Trans people ideally only need 2 types of doctors: endocrinologist and general surgeons. (3) Most insurance companies DENY trans surgeries. Aware? That's why it's important to be in therapy for years so insurance can approve. (4) The majority of people who get HRT aren't trans, they're cis gendered people. For example, my endocrinologist in El Paso, TX has trans clients but mostly it's cis gender females and some men who get T shots. (5) Trans people are a minority. It's easy to go after trans people cus you're a bigot and a low life and you don't get to tell me what to do cus you're cis gender. I, Alex, PAY into the system so I am ENTITLED to f***ing use it 🤷🏻‍♀️💯🥂. Ya. I pay a lot of taxes and I pay for expensive private insurance. You don't get to go in front of me cus you're cis gender. And your healthcare isn't as important as mine. Everyone's healthcare is important. First come, first serve. That's how it works.

[@AlexM-ht9ff]

@@blackharvest13 You're incorrect

[@CraigGlynn-wn2cq]

Love you two even though I'm gender critical. Alexis I think you're class!

[@andreacoles5947]

I'm gender critical too but I think Alexis is the voice of reason in a world of crazy TRAs. The difference is that Alexis acknowledges that she's a trans woman and is respectful of biological women and our rights.

[@MagicMoon-s6z]

Honestly, gender critical people shouldn’t have much of an issue with HSTS people like Alexis should they? All the “trans people” causing mayhem right now are AGPs or non binary females.

[@sashh2263]

@@andreacoles5947 Another GC here and I totally agree.

[@MizziProductions]

I’m gender critical and I don’t accept the treatment of women by gender non-conforming people, particularly non-binary people, but I can wholeheartedly appreciate the Alexis’s stance on this, and I think it’s good to show the everyday trans person as opposed to the screaming trans person on TikTok.

[@deeraline]

I’m in the US. My state covers all the surgeries now for free under insurance. However, only two doctors are accepting insurance. I don’t particularly like living in America. So I plan to get as many surgeries here before I move.

[@blackharvest13]

Yeah I have kaiser and they won’t cover my blood pressure medicine or a basic checkup. I have an untreated heart condition but if I was trans I would have a full ride to transition and it really sucks to watch people claim they don’t have access when I can’t even get access to the doctors with the insurance I’m paying for out of pocket…. I understand where the first commenter is coming from but the Uk is very different than the US. You can get hormones from most free clinics but I can’t get my medication without $85 out of pocket after insurance.

[@deeraline]

@@blackharvest13 yeah its terrible. i waited so long to be able to get hrt. and how everyone can get it. it really belittles trans people who have been dysphoric their whole lives. i was diagnosed early but yeah had no money for surgery ever. but yeah its a double blade sword.

[@janemcnaughten7275]

Dear Alexis and Liam. What a lovely couple you are. I do agree with Liam, your answer Alexis was justified. I do wish sometimes that we didn't have social media, because that would mean everyone would mind their own business. I applaud both of your courage in sharing these very personal things though. You both take care now. By the way, my little kitten Davros says hello to blake 😊 Jane in New Zealand 🇬🇧🇳🇿

[@MommaBird52]

Whatever you wish to disclose, that is up to you. Personalty, i do not think these topics should be open for public questioning. Your personal business is just that. I have warned people to stay on top of their health evaluations because i know what hormones are capable of. It is more of a concern than being nosy. You owe no one explanations!

[@jennesamarie1297]

Responding honestly isn't harsh ❤ you are allowed to feel upset over comments like this! I still see you as a genuine, kind, loving person. And I actually appreciate you showing these emotions! Thank you for being yourself and sharing the sassy times as well ❤ you are a gem! And I just have to give sweet Liam a shout-out as always ❤❤ you two are golden!

[@shannonstevens2476]

Alexis, you're response to the person that told you to take a seat, I feel you were completely justified to your response and you said it well. I thought it was quite more polite than i would've been 😂😂😂❤

[@janewilliams6358]

❤ well said . Congratulations on your professionalism and openness as a woman suffering hair loss due to pcos i think your podcasts useful for information and educational needs having watched your “hair” podcast it has given me food for thought , could I go through that type of treatment , not sure , but now knowing there are alternatives to wigs extensions etc is a great bonus x keep being the down to earth people that you are

[@sandysmith71]

I love when you have Liam on . I feel like I am sitting across from good friends on a couch chatting about cool stuff 😊

[@julietrimble2898]

Alexis you are so kind and understanding, love the both of you, xx

[@breanna-jadewebb9210]

Long, long time viewer and first time poster. I like watching your videos, especially as your value system seems to align with mine. I'm an Australian transwoman in my 7th year. I totally get your response to that ladies post, I too would have been offended as I have spent and estimated $120,000 AU since starting my transition. Unfortunately not even bottom surgery is covered here. The thing I don't understand is the comment that your surgeries are not available to CIS women. I can only assume that she means "free"! Really enjoyed your previous video regarding hair transplants as I'm scheduled for one in 8 weeks time, again costing me another $12,000 out of my pocket. You look great and I do consider the ones like us that pass well to be very privileged. Keep up the great work. Biggest hugs.

[@Alexis_blake00]

Wow thank you and so glad you found the video informative as we wanted it to be a reference point and be educational xx

[@lizzeltired2155]

I really love watching you both. Really refreshing. You are very relatable as a couple and I believe you are the type of content that can change peoples’ attitudes toward trans people and couples.

[@paulfrels3590]

I wasn’t crazy about Liam’s new hair color, but it’s really growing on me. Your hair is Fabulous Alexis.

[@goldcat3512]

That person who left that comment sounded very angry and kind of bitter. Some people hate their life situation SO much that they feel entitled to take it out on everyone around them. To me that is a very harmful unproductive attitude that is not empathetic at all. I want to tell the person who left that comment that life is not as harsh or as toxic as things are in your own life. Go and find a psychologist, change that stupid job you feel burnt out in or whatever else needs to be done for you to feel happy. I promise you life can be super chill and awesome and people in general are Amazing, kind and loving.

[@lizb1000]

Love the way you handle these topics ❤

[@CardsyZ]

I just wanted to say that I really enjoy your videos! Thank you for your time and sharing your life!❤

[@Alexis_blake00]

Thank you so much!

[@eiven6197]

I’ve to say, that I always love your videos and you have been such a sunshine in this crazy world with all the transgender topics. I think you are beautiful from the inside and outside 💕 much love 🌺

[@Hellena_Handbasket]

I love you both but Liam you make me smile, "do they test them in the sink? " 😆

[@potterfamily7920]

Blue water!

[@briannahudson6329]

Hey she knows what our answer about wanting to hear the question and answer is by looking at the analytics and if we kept watching or not. That's how we answer her. So yes she does know the answer, Liam gosh.

[@kelaines5082]

We love you. You have followers for a reason.

[@mogsydog]

What an amazing thing that you two found each other. Love ya's

[@technicoloryaya549]

In the US, I had to wait 1 year and go through therapy to get a breast reduction. Not an elective mastectomy. A reduction because I had a very large bust and a broken spine. Yet a trans man I know went in to the doctor, had a one appointment. Then, he had an elective mastectomy with the month on his parent's insurance because he was 25 and still on it. I have a friend who gets all her transition meds and appointments on state insurance. It took me 6 months to just get an appointment to the endocrinologist to get menopausal HRT, only to be refused by insurance because the estradiol has a testosterone component to it, but a trans person gets covered immediately. So, yeah, I get a bit salty about the American trans people taking precedent over biological women. No biological woman should be treated the way the Healthcare industry has started treating us.

[@RedundantHuman-CandyBites]

Agreed, it is hurtful that American & Canadian trans people are getting things covered ahead of biological women in desperate need of some procedures. I understand that England is not like that but that feels like you’re saying“not my problem, not my worry”. Often I get that reaction from people when I talk about kids being harmed by GI, “not my issue, not my problem”. I don’t have to have kids to care about the thousands of kids being harmed. I can see where the person was coming from, that it isn’t right. I think that is where the person was coming from. Not to mention why should our taxes ever cover people’s body dysphoria. I’ve struggled with that since I was 8yrs old. Su*c*dal. Extreme depression. A life time of bad coping methods to escape the pain. I get disgusted with looking into the mirror sometimes and I cry. How wonderful it would be for my mental health to get plastic surgeries. Still, no way on earth would I advocate for citizens to pay for my body dysphoria & gender acceptance. It’s absurd for any of us to have to work SO hard to have our taxes to go to that. It is and should be my responsibility to get dysphoric alleviating surgeries on my dime.

[@jenniferplatts174]

Yep...put on the back burner to a man wanting trans surgery.....or so it seems . And yes Alexis it is aesthetics for trans as part of their journey. Its sad that the comment was so angry, but with everything that is happening with gender ideology, its probably understandable. Its obviously different from one country to another. Bless both of you for your perspective and you are so adorable...

[@dempos]

If trans wasn't a thing, you'd still be in the same position. Nobody in healthcare is bumping women for trans people. They only care about earnings and loss. The only way your saltiness would make sense is if you had a procedure or prescription scheduled and covered by insurance. Then had is unscheduled and denied, because a trans individual that wanted the same things scheduled after you, got moved up and preferential treatment.

[@annamossity8879]

@@RedundantHuman-CandyBitesI don’t think Alexis is saying that at all. The UK and the U.S. have very different systems. The U.S. sucks and, I’m sure the UK have their problems too but to attack, I think the person just had a sort of knee jerk reaction. Sounds like the follow up may have explained that.

[@AlexM-ht9ff]

@@RedundantHuman-CandyBites Trans girl here. It took me 15 months to get my trachael shave and I live in New Mexico and our medicine is limited since everything is in Albuquerque, so trans people all over the state has to travel for hours and hours for even a consultation. What you are doing is GENERALIZATION. You also can't compare cus trans care is different than women/men surgeries. It's also based on first come, first serve. Don't blame trans people nor doctors, blame your lack of not doing enough on time. I've been waiting for other surgeries for a long time. Deal with it.

[@blackharvest13]

In America insurance will fully cover a transition but won’t cover blood pressure medication or a basic routine checkup.. they also prioritize trans men over women for hysterectomies. I understand where the first commenter is coming from.

[@kristibott2437]

I like your conversations, please keep them up!

[@laurenhowell7691]

I honestly applaud your response. I'm sure you eanted to give her an earful 😂 I think we would get along so well considering we agree on lots of things in the community! Im bisexual and I honestly cant keep up with half the new terms I'm hearing all the time. To add context, I'm only 29 but feel 59 the way I just cant come yo grips with how everyone labels things and goes ape shit over pronouns!

[@DocEmCee]

I genuinely love you guys.

[@Izzi3blue]

Hey Alexis! lover your channels, I've been listening between stops at work, and its quickly becoming one of my favorite Trans channels!💙 I love that you and Liam are yourselves with no crazy gimmick and your content has been very informative and helpful, I have a question if you don't mind me asking, if its personal I understand: What time frame did you start to see changes? I've hit my year and haven't seen much.

[@amandabryan3095]

You both are amazing ❤

[@sandysmith71]

You both are a class act ❤

[@heleninglis9961]

Good job i never seen that comment, my reply might have got my account banned!😂😂😂 Love you both ❤❤❤

[@sophiacalon3463]

14:56 I know this will make your, already very real, respect towards women even stronger. You’ll get the day to day struggles and fun of it!

[@KurtClark]

I really appreciate the viewpoint you two provide. Thanks for sharing!

[@Alexis_blake00]

Our pleasure!

[@Rich19uk1]

Not that I would begrudge anyone using the nhs services available for genuine need, it is for everyone after all, but I’m surprised so little is available on the nhs for transition to be honest. Learn something new every day 😊

[@DK-lu8vp]

what are your favorite things to do together?? any fun dates , favorite memories of eachother? p.s coming from a black straight woman from the U.S. . i love watching yall!

[@itsacarolbthing5221]

Alexis, your followers jump to your defence because you are a genuinely lovely person. You are reasonable, respectful and compassionate. Hell, if that person had watched a few.more of your videos, they would know you paid for your own surgeries. As a PCOS hair loss sufferer, in the UK, it brasses me off that I've had to pay for my hair loss treatment privately. That's an issue for the government and the NHS! It's not your, or any other trans persons, issue! The person who made that post would have been fine if they'd posted in general terms. But they made it personal, and rude. That just is not acceptable, especially as it appears they'd not done any research by watching earlier videos where you'd clearly stated that you were self funded, by yourself and Liam. Of course we're going to defend you! We think a lot of you! Xxx

[@Sweetpotat0_99-m6f]

I wish people could both acknowledge that women’s health care is lacking whilst also acknowledging that trans healthcare especially through the NHS can be so hard to access time wise, and that private care can be expensive. Like it’s not trans women’s fault or responsibility that there is a lack of research and funding for women’s healthcare, and that medical misogyny exists

[@Jasminestealth1]

After watching i can def understand how you took that post personally... especially as they specifically called you out.... my take away though.... was the over arching idea... that i think is the bigger problem... Even with people who think people should be able to "transition"... they do not think of it in terms of immediate need... this is why people are wanting to deny any care for youth.... "just wait"... not to go down the youth rabbit hole.. as i know you do not believe in intervention for youth either... my point is... the medical interventions for trans people are not considered "need"... even that persons comment.. they believe others "need" those procedures... and their given to "trans".,,, the underline thought.. its a want for trans people... but need for others.... thats whats sad...

[@fenzirulfr]

Hey Alexis, do you feel comfortable talking about what you still plan on doing with regards to your transition? You're so lucky to be such a pretty lady :)

[@cecybellard1]

my favs 😍😍😍

[@cathybosier42]

Just because you're getting a procedure doesn't mean others can't get the same one. If someone feels they missed out, they should take responsibility for their own choices. If something is truly important, you'll make it a priority-just as you did by saving and making sacrifices for it. Women who want the same can take similar steps to achieve their goals.

[@kimberlyjones3234]

I was at work so I'm just watching now. Love you both!!! ❤❤

[@vivienneandersson6019]

Liam is lovely and gorgeous x

[@stephaniecurlee6936]

When I started transition, my work insurance paid for psych and hormones. When my employer resigned me i had my retirement for bottom surgery. I went to Canada for surgery. Bitter flowers will always be bitter. ❤you Guys 😘

[@tigerlily1355]

Much love 💜💜💜

[@Danielle24003]

The nhs waiting list is a headache. I've been on the waiting list for the gic for 4 years already and i am predicted to be on said waiting list for another 6 years so i went private for hrt but saving for some of these surgeries are super costly i just know i gotta keep working and ill get there eventually

[@catherinehudson5499]

Look at you Two Working Class Love Birds. 💕 I love Wedding cake. 🥰 That post had all the hallmarks of being drunk whilst posting, but if they had any conscious, they would have deleted it the next day.

[@elizabethparker848]

Alexis, sorry you had that experience. How rude of that person to attack you, not everyone thinks like that, as Liam said you are entitled to go through the NHS, but you paid for your surgeries yourself, so it's nobodies business but your own. Love to both of you, and good luck with your future surgeries. great videos, Love from Australia ❤❤

[@rianaconklin6954]

Since you were asking for questions I'm just curious if Alexis has a set style now that you have transitioned and how different is it from your style before? Obviously there would be so set differences, but do you notice any that you might not have thought you would have chosen as a boy? Love your channel and videos hun, thank u both so much for sharing ❤😊

[@xxaavviieerrrrr]

thank you alexis!

[@fallabeaufaebelle]

(this gets long, like multi paras, just a FYI for folks who don't want to read a whole lot not to click if you don't want a big bunch of text to show up) First off, I think you're 100% entitled to emotions and to "obsess over comments" when you need to. I know you said you don't normally, but I hope you can give yourself permission to have those emotional moments because they're important. Sometimes anger is our minds trying to tell us something we're not ready to hear, so processing it is important to tease out what we need to understand about ourselves in order to feel at peace. Letting it define you isn't healthy, but when a comment really gets to you I would say it's okay to be brave and dive into the pain and ask yourself, if you're mentally in a space to do this, "why does this hurt so bad?". It's not necessarily true, whatever they say, but there may be something in you that needs healing or a voice inside you that needs to be heard and she might require that attention. I urge you to take time with yourself in those moments to find the best way to give her that voice. It may even be just to talk in private to someone you trust, something we as your followers never see, but it could still be an important discussion that needs to happen to heal your inner child. Second, I don't think it's your job to fix the system, so I hope their comment didn't put any pressure on you as an influencer. That's a big responsibility and it's one we should share as a community. But whether it's from a personal experience or misinformation, I think what they had to say is worth a discussion. Your feelings are valid and I don't think they went about it well, but if you're asking for our perspectives I think you ended up shutting down what could've been a really valuable discussion. One you're not obligated to have, of course, but if you wanted to I think there could've been value in it for everyone. When it comes to just communication in general, I'm getting to a point where I realize in a situation where I've got emotions that my anger and frustration may be totally valid, but my response might not be. So when it comes to the internet, I type what's on my heart and then go back and re-read it. I ask myself "what my goal here" because if I'm just responding in anger it doesn't help. Sometimes it starts arguments. Like I could be over it and the next day be having a good day and get a nasty reply back from a defensive comment I made before and it just ruins my day. I don't think my emotions are wrong, but there's still another person behind the screen on the other side who feels the same way. I think if a response or comment you make reads defensive, then maybe it's better to just let it go sometimes. For me at least, I feel better with typing it out and then deleting it. Like burning a letter I'll never send to someone. When I do respond to something, I'm trying to see it through the other person's perspective (which is really emotionally hard sometimes). But it's helped me be more compassionate and I learn more about a topic that way and sometimes I can find a nice middle ground with people too. Maybe not responding would've been the best call for you or maybe a response in a different way could have been better. I don't think you're necessarily "in the wrong" here. I just think something more positive could've come out of this, but it didn't end up happening because of the decisions made. Sometimes we have to take a step back. This doesn't mean being an emotionless robot. It just means we find our center and allow ourselves permission to adapt a child-like mind- to be curious. Ask questions. Allow yourself to not know what someone else is thinking or feelings. Allow exploration of your own emotions. Have emotions, but allow love to restrain them. Give yourself permission to be hurt when you are. Sometimes that means stepping away so you can just be angry without it harming anyone. Maybe you need to smash something or sit in the car and yell at an imaginary passenger. Vent. Let it roll off of you. That anger deserves to exist, but it also deserves to be set free so you can pick out the stuff you really want to say. So you can go back and have a real conversation which means asking to be heard but also listening to someone else as well even if we don't always want to. Allow yourself the process of hurting, because that's the process of healing, and that becomes a learning experience. That's how we grow. The person's feelings sound valid. We don't know their situation. Maybe they or someone they love has been denied healthcare and they feel jaded now. It could be a legitimate problem in their area, wherever it is they are. Likewise, your feelings are valid. They shouldn't have cursed at you and your dysphoria is also a legitimate health condition that deserves treatment. Plus, you're paying for it all yourself as well. Feeling upset someone said to "back off" after you've worked so hard to treat your health almost entirely on your own would no doubt feel very invalidating and it makes sense it would've frustrated you. Overall, I think all of that could've been slowly teased out and hearts softened rather than approaching things defensively in the height of emotions. Something really good could've come out of it rather than everyone walking away feeling frustrated and hurt and unheard or misunderstood. I don't think you're wrong. You made a choice and I think it was fine. But I think there was another path here that you may have preferred to take instead. I think this was a missed opportunity for all women (trans women included) to ban together to talk about a common concern: healthcare access. There could be some valid questions to look into here, like how to prioritize who gets surgery, when insurance can/should pay for healthcare, how we can make sure our sisters around the world can get their needs met because everyone should be able to afford healthcare services, etc. While this commenter may not have had good intentions, I'd like to be hopeful that they're just hurting and went about it the wrong way. But a different response may have also inspired something else positive in someone else even if it wasn't that commenter specifically. While not your job to host these discussions, I think as an influencer you might simply enjoy being part of creating a space where they can happen and be someone who facilitates them with the goal that positive progress gets made. Today in global media, there's an "us vs them" polarization. People aren't always able to articulate their feelings very well, and it can create a large gap in communication. One of the reasons I adore your channel is because you're fair, compassionate, and seek to empathize. You're human too, so you're absolutely entitled to your emotions. I think you both came at your comments from a place of hurt. A common experience we all share is pain and suffering. But I think we can use that to reach out to each other with love instead. And that'll help make the world a better place for all of us.

[@NYCResident543]

Happy Monday Alexis and Liam. Love from New York!

[@Alexis_blake00]

Same to you!x

[@ethenabrennan488]

Thanks!

[@HikingwithIsaac]

Liam, it would be great if you did a tattoo tour. Love the art work

[@YTladytalkingagain]

I will snap on someone over you Alexis 💕 I’m on vacation with family and showed your videos to my uncle. He is a Trump voter. His take was you are pretty and he couldn’t believe you were trans, very kind, and smart takes on frustrating views.

[@kathleenparker9297]

I’m a Trump voter and I love Alexis and Liam. Precious human beings 🥰

[@AlexM-ht9ff]

@@kathleenparker9297 I'm a Biden supporter and I'm also trans. It's ironic how you'd vote for someone that wants to strip trans care from adults. Your bigotry indeed shows.

[@kathleenparker9297]

@@AlexM-ht9ff seriously, you need to calm down, give and receive love and maybe educate yourself to the truth and reality of life. You made me laugh to mention the word bigotry . Shows me that you must be a person with tunnel vision and possibly egotistic. Oh look at that, I just lower myself for assuming negative things of you like you did to me. May you find peace in your heart and mind. I will pray for you.

[@AlexM-ht9ff]

@@kathleenparker9297 You're a MAGA supporter. It's like a guy who votes for JD Vance while claiming to love "his gay son" knowing that JD Vance despises LGBTQ and will never say anything kind about them and will never defend them. In fact, funny story - JD Vance had a former friend who came out as transgender and he severed ties with them. Currently in GOP ran states, there are laws on the books and even in court over gender affirming care for both minors and adults. Florida is a great example. We have LGBTQ rights due to DEMOCRATS. Republicans don't get to claim that cus they rarely have ever done anything for LGBTQ. At the end of day, while I do like guns and no property tax but I am a trans female and nothing will ever change that. I will not vote or support people who openly despise me for simply existing and our healthcare isn't their concern either. Get a life bigot and get off this channel.

[@Frizzi04]

In my country Sweden, there are some ”Astethic surgeries” that can be tax founded but that only if it is something that make your quality of life worse. For example my old class mate had big 🍒 from age 16 and she was pretty short like 5‘3 so she had so much back pain every day that she couldn’t join the PE classes and was very insecure about them. So she could for that reason get them reduced to get a better life quality. Same for me with my braces are also payed with tax money.

[@christialuella6594]

This might be an unpopular opinion…I’ve been watching Buck and now watch you, Alexis, I really think you both are releasing aspect of your dysphoria through your work spreading awareness about ‘real trans’ people. Going through the uncomfortable reads like self love and acceptance. Just a theory

[@breanna-jadewebb9210]

I find that Buck started off being very supportive however of late he seems to do nothing other than denigrate all transwomen.

[@wellbeingwinnie]

Forgive me if this has been answered before... how does your transition and appearance change affect your passport. Do you have to change your sex legally to change it on your passport? Finding your content so lovely and vulnerable, which is really refreshing. Thank you both for sharing your journeys.

[@doughnuticing8]

Loving the podcast ❤ off topic slightly I'm currently on my own gender journey it's so confusing with all the different labels and pronouns out there nowadays

[@bobbijoforan4130]

First off...love you guys. I really do enjoy watching both Alexis videos and the Blake Debate. Now for my question.....you brought up menopause and perimenopause in this video and it got me wondering. At some point do you, yourself Alexis, go through a kind of self-enduced menopause? Like, at say 60, you slowly ween your body off the estrogen until you no longer take it? Just curious if you get to enjoy that lovely menopause process like the rest of us ladies🙄

[@peanutbutterbruv]

I was so glad to see you stick up for yourself. You didn't deserve her shit. She took out her very justified anger at the joke that is the US healthcare system at Alexis. It was outright bullying. That said, saying she'd taste the tarmac was a bit male-violency, and as much as I like Liam that left a bad taste.

[@Liam_blake00]

Yeah maybe it was a bit its not happened in person yet so all is good!

[@Liam_blake00]

also i said "if someone" not specifically her - i would weigh up the situation on a case by case basis.

[@williestransjourneyftm916]

Alexis is sooo pretty!

[@cicichambers3887]

To my original statement is when you see a response like that from a woman, she's not hating on trans people at all. It's coming from a place of pain that women who get discarded by their husbands and by society and can't get jobs because they lose their attractiveness they lose their femininity as they get older, and the stress of raising the stress of life doesn't help either raising cortisol levels and things like that and they see people getting the benefit of healthcare… Again clarifying in America… Where insurance favors people who want to be or started as male For instanceinsurance will pay for a fake testicle for a man siding that it's psychologically disadvantages for him to only have one, but yet won't pay for breast reconstruction for women and won't pay for a facelift for woman I don't know how many people going around looking at testicles, but I do know that women get looked at all the time in their face and judged for how they look

[@KjellIvarPaulsen]

When you stand out or speak out you will always be someone's lightning rod for their frustration.

[@C.Church]

She is right on principle though. But when she had a moment to reflect she dialed back the harshness. You both did. Glad it's resolved. Maybe a topic to put out into the collective conscious that trans shouldn't expect endless handouts just as you haven't? That would maybe help reset a lot of these falsely Q people's expectations.

[@susansullivan9255]

From first being referred to the gender clinic to now has for me taken over 8 and a half years... luckily i only waited 2 and a half years for my first appointment...6 months after i started hormones....just over 2 and a half years after that i had my surgery which was in August 2022 ..