Did You End a Relationship Because Of Reddit? How So? | People Stories

[@hothotheat3000]

It’s like being in a smelly house. You’re used to the smell and you don’t think anything is wrong. It isn’t until someone else comes over and says “WTF is that smell?” that you realize that you need to take out the trash.

[@EssieBthe-one]

So true!

[@TheOtherSideoftheLookingGlass]

Couldn't have said it better, my friend! 👍

[@Loaves_of_Cat]

Sometimes, it takes a person who doesn’t know u or ur SO to see the bigger picture of ur relationship/the red flags cause

[@fireiron369]

And sometimes they don’t know anything about the situation and make it worse

[@Neillan]

@@fireiron369 Yeah, most reddit advice seems to consist of "break up with them".

[@amberwilson5769]

@@Neillan agreed!!!

[@cutienerdgirl]

@@Neillan Most times they're right. If you're in such a bad relationship that you need to vent to complete strangers on online forums about it, you need to extricate yourself from that bad relationship.

[@Blaze0647]

@@Neillan I mean yeah but... When you think about it, what would random strangers on the internet have to gain from telling you to break away from a negative situation that you yourself described?

[@darkpaw1522]

I wanted a divorce. Not that my wife cheated or anything, it was a very happy marriage, just I wasn't into marriage anymore and wife didn't want an open one. We both been much happier since.

[@themaskedmagic1783]

Was it just wrong timing or just wanting more time to experience different things?

[@darkpaw1522]

@@themaskedmagic1783 Neither. I just began to question why I'm in a monogamous relationship. It just never made sense to me. Wife wasn't comfortable with an open marriage. So we divorced.

[@Jose04537]

@@darkpaw1522 The only thing you should worry is making an informed decision, weighing the pros and cons.

[@darkpaw1522]

@@Jose04537 Yup. And that's what we did. We found the pros outweighed the cons.

[@duckeh1952]

Well you did the right thing. You recognized you want different things and instead you going behind her back and cheat, you suggested something, she said no and you divorced. People are too stuck to think you are complete when you are 18-20 and stay the same rest of your life. Nope. You change, living life changes you, experience, changes you, aging changes you and even your sexual needs/interests may change over time.

[@topazcoyote5482]

I let him--* sudden Microsoft Sam growling*

[@awdrifter3394]

17:58 shouldn't have let him mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm........

[@vanguardangel6912]

Asking for advice isn’t a bad thing, but make sure you think about everything before making a big decision. Think about the advice you get, and think about how you feel and make the best decision from there. I can’t really explain it well, I hope I make sense. Be kind to yourselves and others, I hope you all have a wonderful day/night!

[@chrisbolhuis297]

well said friend

[@alisa22x]

Reddit support honestly helped me realise how toxic my ex of 6yrs was & I’ve never been happier since leaving him. The relief I felt from break up was truly eye opening & being alone free from the draining relationship improved my life. I reconnected with all my old friends, met my current bf on Reddit who showed me what a healthy loving relationship could be like and decided I could finally pursue my dreams.

[@FINEDIAMOND]

Kudos to everyone who ended shitty marriages/relationships/friendships because of taking well-intentioned advice!

[@WobblesandBean]

I mean...tbh the r/relationshipadvice sub is pretty much the incel's playground, you can't possibly expect good advice from them. But, if a spouse is cheating regardless of gender, yeah, you should respect yourself enough to walk away.

[@oceanman6327]

That sub isnt very incelly

[@toade1583]

@@oceanman6327 Exactly, the sub is fairly neutral

[@Ariplaygames]

Reddit or not, statistically most relationships wont work and need to end. It may seem extreme, but almost every situation I see people questioning in reddit or in real life I think break up is the best answer. I see in my real life people staying and even raising kids in awful relationships where its clear their partners dont love or respect them, and all I can think about is how much better most people would be if their parents made the decision to end things and just go to therapy to fix their issues. Most adults are fucked cause our parents dont seem to realize breaking up as soon as something crossed a limit is an option. Its frustrating cause I see my sister admire and romanticize her friends relationships cause they have babies and are married...while Im like: But she literally married an alcoholic dude that cheated on her many times, tells her her feelings are stupid and its insanely controlling in everything including what she wears and how she cuts her hair...Why would you want to raise kids and be married like that?

[@absolutenothing7094]

but how do we conclude from your stories that most relationships need to end?? i can't see the connection.

[@absolutenothing7094]

also, you realize that people suffer more in single parent households right??

[@paulinephan05]

@@absolutenothing7094 I agree that their anecdote doesn't necessarily translate to most relationships not working, but what do single parent households have to do with anything?

[@brysongamer0625]

This is going to be interesting

[@markparkinson6947]

My first thoughts exactly, seeing the thumbnail of this video. Is Reddit a good source of advice? Watch the video to find out.

[@samoanjoseph1457]

I admit I jump on the "leave them" bandwagon pretty fast. But to me it often seems like the OP says something along the lines of "I have this perfect partner but they have this one minor flaw" and it turns out the flaw is something that either isn't going to get better or is big enough where leaving seems easier than trying and failing to fix it. And the very fact that they describe their partner as near perfect already suggests they would stick it out no matter what, even if there's no hope. Optimism is fine, but if you're blind to something that could or will hurt you, I can only hope you find a bunch of people who tell you to avoid it.

[@escapec1077]

I’ve said I wish Reddit was around so many years ago. I was in a bad marriage for longer than I should have been.

[@alize0623]

Reddit has been around since the 90s

[@RoryThePanda]

17:58 and I let himmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Why was that so satisfying to hear? I felt it in my spine

[@celinay]

17:59 And everytime I let him *NNNNNNNNNNNnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnNnnnnNnnnnnnnnnNNNNNNNNN*

[@Justasealhere1]

I posted on R/relationship advice with a throw away. I will say this, strangers on the internet treated me very respectfully but gave me a good hard reality check about the mental and emotional abusive relationship I was in. Thank you internet strangers

[@retrostorm15]

17:58 POV you're using an electric toothbrush

[@smilingontime]

I like the way the robot voice says "abusive"

[@mztweety1374]

Never let a significant other take you to a place you can't get back from. Can we circle back to the security goat??😂😂

[@smilingontime]

Id just like to say.. Years ago my ex got bad advice about our relationship... he believed a bunch of assumptions and accusations and did not give love a chance... he left me... Here we are years later.. I havent moved on.. I just ended up jaded & guarded. . And he ended up alone with regret... take that as you will...

[@Loaves_of_Cat]

Since Reddit is a public place (so long as u have an account), there r all sorts of ppl on it. While Reddit can give good insight, they also tend to be pretty bias or jump to conclusions. The best it can do is give some things to think about but like one Redditor said in the video, the choice is ultimately urs.

[@Loaves_of_Cat]

@Rossana Alvarado One example of Reddit not being a guarantee of being a good place to take advice on is someone who asked advice about letting their SO know about a mental worry caused by COVID. The poster tells about how the SO is really empathetic and how her previous worries caused the SO to get stuff like anxiety cause the SO is dealing with not only their own worries but also the posters’. She took the advices given and told her SO which aggravated the SO’s mental state and the poster regretted it.

[@smilingontime]

@@Loaves_of_Cat thank you

[@imSUPPRESED]

@@Loaves_of_Cat and it's funny sometimes, when only one side of a story is told, then you only have half a story. Whose to say what his story would say

[@myeternalteardrop]

Wish I had known about reddit during my first relationship, but it was still in its infancy at the time, and I didn't find out about it until years after when it really started taking off. Maybe if I had some people to talk some sense into me, I could have saved a lot of the bs that I had dealt with in that relationship. I kept going back due to fear of being alone and that was part of what caused a lot of the damage.

[@MissGreen78910]

I let him brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[@smilingontime]

10:40 ain't that the truth... I just think about all the things i like about myself too...

[@MrKirby365]

The person that's a dwarf Believe it or not a lot of the stuff you went through is a lot of the same things gay friends go through. It's usually your best friend's partner who treats you like crap... And the friend half heartedly apologizes for it. Or doesn't apologize at all. And you're right that's not really a friend and it is hard to breakup for lack of a better term with them. It sucks but some people really do see there friends as accessories and not people

[@skywz]

What was the ratio of “it was good” to “it was bad”?

[@dunkinnatalie]

Good question.

[@pikachuneoncat6480]

Redditors after ending a relationship: 😃

[@markdsm-5157]

yeah and those that took advice from reddit and it backfired, would probably have left reddit for good. So we won't hear many of those stories.

[@emusaurus]

Reddit’s go to answer to any relationship problem = jUsT lEAvE Boyfriend cheating on you? Just leave. You’re cheating on your boyfriend because he won’t touch you, but you still enjoy having him around? Just leave. Girlfriend contributing significantly less than you, because she’s looking after the baby you put in her? Just leave. You had a fight with your SO once about leaving the butter out? That’s so toxic, just leave. The problem with reddit is that the average user is young, thinks a 2 year relationship is long term, doesn’t have life experience, thinks the romance portrayed in movies is legit and doesn’t own anything that would go to their spouse as a result of a relationship breakdown.

[@kathleenbradley562]

Well I don't get it if you don't break up what do you supposed to do just put up with the bull crap of your cheating ex partner like and just forgive and forget like how you supposed to do that of course it's a situation that's over there's no other way to see it I certainly wouldn't forgive

[@Ariplaygames]

I agree but you would be surprised at how many people just chose to stay and hate their lives forever instead of just breaking up with a cheating partner.

[@JewelWildmoon]

17:58 They let him motorboat

[@jatmo6991]

17:56 sounds dirty

[@DocumentarianWeady]

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[@TheNormExperience]

Security...goat...?

[@IvyTheElementalHeart]

The title is mad itself

[@scottishpaul414]

People ignored the 'serious' tag

[@michaelowino228]

Hey

[@amberwilson5769]

Hey boo

[@BlueSkyBS]

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[@miekesiauw3805]

Namanya juga penjajakan berhak lah dia juga ttg feelinngnya..Ga APA atuh.maka Kita wanita mikir dan harus punya diri sendiri.agar punya Hal positif yg ingin juga Jadi prioritas.intinya jika sdh jodohnya Akan menetap..gitu aja Tuhan kondisikan.gitu aja.makanya jangan gampangaaann deket ..Ada yg deketin malah agresiffff disana Baru mikir wanita nyosorrt nempel kayak lintah.disosor mungkin Ga bisa nolak tapi hatinya belom yakin akhirnya keyidakyakinannya menjadi nyata banyak konflik perbedaan Kadang kaum Kota gitu sih ..memalukan

[@Nix7728]

First comment

[@heyladies2415]

👁 👁 👄

[@Nix7728]

I would just like to say this is the first time I’ve ever been first for something like this and I am very proud of myself

[@backinpurple]

I let him mbmbmbmbmbmbmbmbmbmbbmbmbmbmb

[@tinjmail]

Gosh, I hate this robotic voice.

[@CodeLehggo]

Do not take relationship advice from Reddit. These people are strangers. They only know what YOU say. They don’t know the other person or the full story like people in your real life do

[@Diamondr11Blue]

Then why bother posting to an ADVICE sub? Listen to yourself. No one's saying you have to do what reddit says

[@CodeLehggo]

@@Diamondr11Blue go look at a relationship post on AITA. Look how many comments instantly throw out breaking up/divorce over non major situations.

[@Diamondr11Blue]

@@CodeLehggo that doesnt mean you have to listen to them. The final say is the OP s

[@kienphan2784]

@@CodeLehggo you know people have free will right

[@sarina1234ful]

Exactly and if the issue isn't abuse or cheating they should seek a marriage counselor for a more balanced approach

[@whosyodaddy763]

17:57 did it feel good when he did that to you? I gotta try this on my next GF.

[@an.autistic.person]

lol could you imagine ending a relationship because of Redddit?

[@crazyweirdgirl115]

It’s not “because of Reddit”. It’s because the partner is shit, and the person didn’t realise how bad it is