difference between parents house vs. in-laws house

[@21keyboards]

It's not really a Canadian/England thing. You've basically described what A lot of girls in England say when moving from their own home to their inlaws.. girls that move even 5 mins away from their own parents house experience the exact same thing e.g. my house is loud, busy, people come and go, we all eat dinner at different times whilst watching our thing on netflix, whereas my brothers/sister's/friends' inlaws are super conservative/quiet or make plans together rather independently, dress desi or dress western, outgoing or not very social, etc. This is definitely a common thing because we are all brought up differently. If I compare my parents with a handful of my closest friends Pakistani/Indian parents, everyones households are totally different

[@sukhinijjar9132]

Wise advice in living with in laws. You are so write that there is not a right or wrong way of living....just need to find a middle ground and compromise.

[@Gagan.B93]

🙌🏼🙌🏼 girl as recently married woman from the UK I can 100% tell you I can fully relate. I don’t think it’s a Canadian or UK thing at all. I think it’s just what we are use to growing up and going into something different which takes time to learn about different people and their ways whilst still having your own. I come from a loud household with family and friends who would always come and go at my parents house. Also me and my sister would do stuff like fixing stuff around the house that “guys” usually do because my parents raised me and my sister that way regardless of having a brother around. It was always taught to be equal in the sense of the boy and girls should both know how to make food and clean up but also check the tyre pressure and oil in the car, etc. I got married into a family which is more soft spoken and calmer compared to what I’m usually use to and yes it’s a change but I agree there’s no right or wrong way. It’s just everyone is different and you learn to understand one another. As a loud person myself who is outspoken I use to think omg maybe I need to tone it down at the start when I moved in but lucky for me I have understanding in-laws and I do think it’s because we have built a relationship where we can be open instead of getting defensive over little things, that way we can kind of respect each other’s way but also find compromises. I have to say I love your video because it is so relatable and you show that their can be a positive side even though it’s hard at the start but it definitely does take time & understanding. For you I understand it maybe another difference coming from a different country but I think a lot of girls within the uk would still relate to this!

[@mannyshina]

My family is so LOUD LOL! We live in England 😂

[@maarias5393]

This was so well addressed. I'm very proud of how thoroughly you were able to explain the adjustments while maintaining this respect for both families that are now your permanent two worlds. Kuddos to you for being able to discuss something so relatable most would be shunned for stating- simply- facts. I hope you find all the success life can give you, as clearly, you are a genuine soul.

[@ravivirdi741]

Hey mundheep my daughter is 17 and she helps her dad his a builder and she help unload the van etc so girls and boys are the same.we live in england we are loud and we have a laugh and take the piss out of each other.

[@kkiiirraann]

Long time viewer but this was so frustrating to watch 😫 I think it’s more of a difference in particular family cultures and beliefs within a household rather than generalising England families as a whole. Not all families from the U.K. are going to be quiet or reserved - all families are different. The message about respecting each other is great though and so important 🙌🏼

[@theanxietyjournal3114]

It’s refreshing to see this being talked about in a positive light! Having recently moved cities to my inlaws your advice is very right, it can be an amazing experience with the right communications and solutions. 💕💕💕

[@anamikasharma4527]

Hey Mandeep! Would love to hear you talk about how the move to another country has impacted your mental health and how you coped with it. Currently going through something similar but I moved to another province.

[@monakhan7812]

Yes please! I’m moving to England from Toronto as well and feeling super anxious

[@VanillaSky11]

Same with my hubby. He’s from England and I’m from Vancouver. I grew up in a loud household with grandparents, great grandparents, people in and out. His parents place is so quiet, nobody comes over, and everyone flips out if you drop something, they are so proper all the time and everything is a family discussion. Totally different in my household, I’m glad I don’t live there even though they are very kind.

[@ManpreetKaur-lk1hb]

Omg Mandeep I went through the exact same thing as you. Canadian born and raised and moved to UK cuz of hubby. Huge adjustment. However I convinced my husband to move to Canada and he absolutely hates it. It's very difficult moving countries and being in a new family. 🙃

[@ln393]

U explained this in a very respectfull manner.🥰

[@kaminimadhu5291]

Perfect vid...gonna help so many newlywed girls!! And your genuine nature is on point...along with your perfect makeup 💄makeup 💄makeup 💄

[@beebuzwedro7543]

This is crazy it’s defo a UK thing. Like the fact u have to tell parents the plan well in advance and consider what everyone is doing and eat together etc! We defo do that here

[@jemsjunkie9665]

Don't think so I live in London and we don't eat together or have to let people know in advance where we going. I think it varies depending on your family.

[@harjk7911]

So I have family in Canada and I completely understand what you’re saying, their way of life is a lot different to ours here in the UK. You’ve done amazing x

[@aquilaa652]

Haha yeah it is a bit like that in England I guess

[@AK-xxxx]

I’m from London and yes you don’t typically have friends over, it’s normal to hang out, out.

[@akikullie]

No I don’t think this is an England thing! I think it’s just the family you’ve moved into. It’s nice that you’re so respectful towards your in laws and that you speak highly of them. But you get loud families all over the globe just like you get the more reserved. I guess you have the best of both worlds!

[@priyankasworld416]

Also, good on you for adapting and living with your in laws!

[@tahreemnaqvi222]

Awh loved watching this, it was so helpful. You looked so beautiful 😍

[@babedecember4711]

Love this type of video from u. Grwm and chitchat

[@gurdeepbahra1830]

Great video! One of the weirdest things when I got married was seeing my husbands family butter their rotiya... ON THE WRONG SIDE!!!! Shocking lollll

[@soniad556]

Lol😂

[@sincerelysoha]

Your story was so similar to mine. I also moved countries and was married into a family that was completely different. You are right as long as you go in with an open mind willing to listen things will work out. Thanks for sharing your story! All the best to you ❤️❤️❤️

[@wonderstruckbieber]

The fact you have to discuss your travel is weird though

[@farzanabi3771]

Oh my God ur parents family sound exactly like mines always messing and annoying each other also loud aswell and I live in england and we love winding each other up we argue one minute then getting on the other I guess everyone to their own but it works for us xx

[@umerakhamker4821]

i'm from england and my family is exactly like it's loud , no filter people coming and going and everyone on their own schedules so i think it really depends on the family not where u live

[@HarleenMokha]

Your authenticity and vulnerability are admirable! Stay you! Much love from NYC ❤️❤️❤️

[@harleenshake7751]

back at it again to tell u i love youuuuu

[@rrrose9978]

This video is gonna be amazing!

[@harmeetsingh6976]

That’s really cool of you to put that out. Am sure it’s gonna help a lot of couples.

[@mayad3085]

Your so prettyyyyyyy

[@saffraahmed7217]

Hey hun...my parents and in laws are from 🇬🇧 but both family are so different ...my parents house is like your parents and my in laws house is like your in laws. It is hard at first but you get used to it after a bit xx

[@saimaakhtar1621]

Will you do a make up tutorial and what shade is your foundation and concealer

[@jasgill4366]

This video made me🤣I can relate to most of what you said & in UK 😂..my mum is so loud, when she rings family in India or when her mates come over (pre lockdown obviously). We are very similar too with working at 15 & shutting doors the same way & get shouted at by mum asking who's broke it/why am I slamming it😂..my mum also called me a boy at times, probably more just to be annoying (I'm the only girl, with 3 bros), but I do all they stuff they don't...guess that's I Dian families for you!!😂😂

[@hennapatel7402]

This is crazy because the family you were born into is the family I married into and the family you married into is the family I was born into! 😂 100% agree with what you're saying, it takes time to adjust and you need that time to get to know each other. It's not just hard on the daughter in law, it's hard on the in laws too because a legit stranger is now part of their family 😂

[@micielarampersad6677]

So relatable - here in the Caribbean two brown families can be do different! I had that my experience.

[@sapna2k]

Oh giirrl...I soo know what you mean! I can soooo releate! It is not about one "family/way" is better than the other...but it's just completely different!! Cool..nice..but different! ❤ glad you made this video

[@simrank1999]

Your makeup looks so pretty. 💖 Will you and Aman ever move out of your in-laws house?

[@azanajandol3095]

props to you mundheep! I wouldnt be able to live with my future inlaws.

[@aliciavirk513]

how do you cope ?

[@prabhjotgill6638]

Mine is the opposite! My in-laws are in England but they are savage ones independent and my family is the quiet one and more family oriented and they are from Canada ! I don’t think it has to do with England or Canada... every Family is different... it has to do with where the family is from back home and the value and traditions they have.. regardless of ur situation adaptation is very important on both sides. I find it not right to keep on saying “England vs. Canada”. As your painting every England family or Canadian family with the same brush.

[@ambientsounds437]

Love you sis❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@r2slick]

Thank u for talking about gender roles as well I think it's very important in this community

[@faatuairita]

Thank you for this video!! It definitely is!! Our family is similar to yours but also like Aman where we’re with family.

[@priyankasworld416]

Education definitely makes a difference as well. I tried being part of a loud family (fiancés family) and literally couldn't deal with the chaos. Adaptation is key but it's also important not to lose you and who you are. I think I would prefer to meet someone with a similar upbringing as opposed to someone who is opposite on the spectrum so this causes less issues down the road.

[@simranprince29]

Amazing

[@akdrai1]

I think I’m a Canadian woman trapped in a British woman’s body lol. Btw, Mundheep- you do not need foundation, you’re naturally flawless ❤️

[@Nzee2002]

Girls should never get married to other country or even other city.Because it takes away all the happiness, no matter how good husband and in laws are. Its sincere suggestion to all single girls.

[@jasleenbariana1419]

I LOVE YOU!!

[@idontknowwhattosay4863]

Love the idea of the video

[@andreacamilla5515]

Oh man, I don’t even have a boyfriend yet and I’m scared for the future 😆!! Love this!!

[@ruchimhatre3595]

This video is just so relatable 🙈

[@Lifeofjyot]

Lol I was waiting for the foundation to drop.... it's just not coming out 😂

[@supercoolted2596]

Yeah alot of stuff you say is difference between England 🇬🇧 Canada 🇨🇦. People in England generally eat together in the evening and spend less time at home so meeting outside more than in peoples basements. Direct talking is definitely a Punjabi thing and Jat communities do it to a greater extent than other communities.

[@ramandeepbrar7380]

In England that's how parents control their children.

[@rayellejohnson9961]

I never appreciated a video more in my life This two houses you're explaining are now attempting to live in a two family house 🥴... correction just one person from another house surrounded by everyone else from another house.... def going to run away to buy another house lmao

[@radhikasehgal5109]

It does happen..same

[@tingleology9247]

Wow, I think it’s your family, I’m British and feel, every one is different, especially when you say, you have to discuss if you go out, do your thing. Love your content, it also important when you move to a new country that you make your own crew, that helped with my partner Stuart, I mean were a openly gay couple, I’m Punjabi and I just say just keep being you x

[@gjohal4236]

You shouldn't have to tone down your personality for your in-laws! You should just be yourself :)

[@shabzshaikh459]

everything you said i can relate 💯 i live in england

[@ramsha547]

Oh my god girl same here with my in laws 😅♥️

[@dheerajkholia4835]

Hi

[@TKM12]

nice video

[@curtainrod7240]

Very pretty

[@rebekah298]

So you low key hate it lol. Anyways nice way of putting it

[@jemsjunkie9665]

I do not think it's an England thing, we here England always have friends over. If you want the same maybe you should just encourage it and invite people over too so it's nothing different for you to as in Canada. It may just be with your in laws they aren't the type to socialise like that but you can do it if you want to. Same with eating we sometimes eat together sometimes we don't it really depends on the family as a whole not really the country. Yes it maybe different how it is in Canada but I don't think it's because it's England it is just the type of family you live with. Any girl that leaves their maternal house will experience different things if they go live with in laws it is just adjusting to it all.

[@shaziabashir9564]

LOL my family is one where we’re loud and everything but we eat at one time and do things together sometimes but my in laws are the complete opposite they all eat at different times and one persons in and the other ones out and people are always coming and going. So mine is the complete opposite to u lol

[@randeepgill9151]

Her home

[@1panjaban512]

💯💯💯

[@umarraw7848]

The difference is mother in lawd cant keep ther butt out her son n wifes life.. always wants to interfer

[@randeepgill9151]

It does not take 7 years to fit in the family. It is because she does not consider it your home.

[@ramandeepbrar7380]

Cant be saint. We are human.

[@Cookingwskr]

I have the opposite of what you have!

[@aliyahadam7761]

Punjabis are loud lol