Disability culture.

[@johannareeves6709]

I have 3 questions. Background: I am a single mom of 4 kids ages 18, 12, 9 (PDA son) and daughter who is 7. I have to work full time. I know it would be best to homeschool my PDA son but I have to work full time to provide financially for them. Crisis/Trauma Reduction: My oldest understands accommodating his PDA brother and tries to help with daughter when PDA son is equalizing against sister while I deescalate my PDA son. I am the safe nervous system and my daughter wants me when her brother is hurting her. I can’t comfort her and deescalate him. I feel like Im always trying to reduce trauma. I have started to accommodate and learn more how to more every day. I know this ultimately will help reduce the severity and number of crisis situations. How do I protect her and reduce the trauma in the meantime? Parenting the other siblings: How do I parent my other kids? Unlimited kindle and accommodations to PDA child are unfair to 12 and 7 year old siblings if they don’t have it too. Explaining PDA and Accommodations: How do I explain PDA and accommodations to my other kids that makes sense. It doesn’t seem fair to the 12 and 7 year old.

[@KristyForbes]

Joanna, it's tricky and that's a lot. It's hard to give explicit advice over YT and without knowing the full situation. I would suggest though that accommodations aren't meant to be fair - they are what that specific child needs - if one needed glasses you'd provide that. We offer a range of courses both short and long that might be able to help you more. Here's a link to the core programs on our website but if you navigate you'll find a range of short education pieces too. pulse.ly/l2p30hg5lz ~Kath Team iT