Discovering Your New Identity as a Stay-at-Home Mom - Jen Babakhan

[@MGWashington]

I’m struggling with infertility. I’m not interested in a career and dont find it fulfilling anymore, but quite the opposite. I’m a burnt out nurse. I worked hard for my career too but would love to conceive and be at home raise a child..Pray for me, believers.

[@analafee-diaz7499]

Hi! Praying for you now!! 💗🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@Ididntwantayoutubehandl]

Praying for you right now sweet lady. 🙏🏻❤🙏🏻❤

[@modelingmotherhood]

praying, maybe adoption is your path ? I have children of my own but would love to foster/adopt if the Lord opens those doors for us after we are done with biological children.

[@stefanielozinski]

Praying for you❤

[@ebierendiomu4890]

Praying for you 🙏

[@gracebock2900]

I am 68 this year n all my children r adults now.But I remember a time when, as a stay-at-home mum who was trying to do home with 4 children N church, being the pastor's wife, and feeling "Hei, everybody wants me to love n serve them...but really I need some love too!!" N God heard, even if people don't. I now enjoy knowing that God loves me because He provided amazingly for children's education n life's needs n I now live in a house in the nice neighbourhood that God showed me He has provided ( even before this housing estate was built). God knows n God loves.Trust Him n He will give u the desires of your heart. Left teaching in a public school to take care of 3, then 4 children.When we obey His will, even thru struggles, He knows, He loves N He provides N protects.God IS LOVE❤️

[@sdlorah6450]

The church needs to lead the way in calling young women back to their roles as wives and mothers. Feminist beliefs over the last decades have seeped into the church. For a young mother to leave her 6-week old infant with a hired caregiver so that she can work a job, earning wages to pay that caregiver, is part of the feminist mindset, yet many believers have fallen in line with it. The biblical roles of men and women--men as leaders, providers, and protectors, and women as their husbands' helpers, children's nurturers, and homemakers--cannot be improved upon nor denied. We see the fruit societally of a breakdown in these roles.

[@itsablessingbeinganamerica1401]

Amen 🙏🏿

[@Bighappyolifant]

When me and my husband got married now 12 years and still going strong.I was teaching at a daycare centre and was loving every moment because I just loved working with children.Then our firstborn came and I stayed at home and later went back to work.Paying daycare for my son was almost as much as my salary.Then came baby number two and three.Then we just decided that I will be at home for my children.I gave up on working and I can relate to lady/mother/speaker.

[@audreyestelle687]

So true! I was the feminist and didn’t know it but am evolving for the better especially after having getting married and having 3 beautiful babies! It’s a journey but I’m here for it

[@asouthafricanindian9258]

I totally agree

[@ambersherillbeauty8278]

Agree

[@cmcwoodard]

Focus on the Family has been an integral part of my adjustment to motherhood and homemaking. Thank you for the work you do!! My baby and I listen to you everyday as we navigate this new season!

[@focusonthefamily]

Your words are so encouraging, Ceci! May the Lord grant you and your family a greater awareness of His love and grace as you lean upon Him day by day.

[@carissacalvin5517]

I wish I had the luxury to choose. I want to be home, but circumstances dictate that I have to work. Please say a prayer for our family🫂

[@devadii24]

Prayers…. I was in a similar position and just really reviewed where and what I can cut and started saving for a few months before I left…. see if you can try that and maybe cut down to part time and then sahm after that

[@unodos2007]

Do what is right for your family ❤️💕💕 and everyone is not lead or meant to stay at home , there are pros and cons to both, if you’re making a decision be sure that it’s not being done from a place of shame ✨

[@mariawesley3198]

I’m struggling with guilt when working from home but I’ve tried being a sahm and I felt like I was going insane. My kids often bear the brunt of my anger and I feel like I’m a better mom when I finish a day of work and I’m happier to spend time with them

[@w3n33dam1racl3]

This is how I feel

[@jennypalayatha2346]

Thnku this was really hlpful to me ive nevr been a career mom im a stay at home mom this has really hlpd me to know that im serving God right wher i am🙏💖

[@SkyeTerrier2017]

I loved staying home with my son. I was able to stay at home till he was 8. At that time my marriage ended and I had to find a career, not just a low wage job, if I didn’t want to end up homeless. I love my career, I can provide for my son, I feel much safer and independent.

[@abaker4692]

You're a wonderful momma. I can feel it.

[@Ididntwantayoutubehandl]

You do a wonderful job mama. ❤❤❤

[@mariacastro7797]

Wow.. that's amazing. I'm SAHM with my daughter. My marriage is very toxic and at some point my husband have lost interest on me and seems like want to party and in the past used to be abuse (just emotionally).. anyways, I don't knwo my purpose and I have been praying for 2 years now to know whay should I do. Should I go back to work or keep raising my girl?.. or wait for my husband to see if he changes? What is your recommendation in case you have lived a toxic marriage like this? Thank you....

[@Therealmc_]

This spoke directly to my heart. Thank you ❤️

[@Botho_Nchidzi]

Same ❤

[@rezangyalos]

This was lovely to listen. Thank you. You don't mention that stay at home moms have no income, they rely on their husband, and they have no pension paid in for their elderly times. They Have to ask money or permission for everything from their husband, eg.fuel, food, insurances, child psychologist, a yoga class, not having a decision of how sort out savings , can't live for any hobbies. Why no one talks about these aspects of being a stay at home mom. I understand that if the interviewer is male, they won't go into dept's i this, as they would just encourage or wake up more women that they should stand up for themselves. If it is a female interviewer, they are often called feminists on a negative way. I think this is so much more important aspect in todays world than just talking about how you deal with a tantrum. Im not being negative, as I appreciate this genuine interview, and you might have already spoken about this topic in a different video, that I haven't seen yet, but today Iam really trying to find some videos of real experiences regarding how stay at home moms manage the financial vulnerability in their marriage/relationship, and it is hard to find. There so much differences between stay at home moms and marriages too, that it is hard to find something that is advisible for women. Also each country treats maternity and stay at home moms differently regarding MAT payment and benefit options, so it is really not comparable. But still an interesting topic and something that should be more addressed. If this makes sense... Thanks.

[@GeorgetteSmith]

So needed. I always wanted to be a SAHM and I am now to 2 beautiful kids but i still find myself giving all the time and needing to be poured into as well. It’s so tough sometimes. Thanks for this beautiful conversation💕

[@absolutelyjeda3867]

Thanks, Jen, for being so open and willing to laugh at the Mom-moments that you shared in the interview. It was a timely and relatable message! Also, I appreciate Jim sharing his honest amusement and fascination with the anecdotes, and how he sought out his wife’s own stories. I think it’s extremely validating when a respected man expresses his own awe, delight, appreciation, and wonder for the Moms he encounters! Thanks for being unscripted, honest, heartfelt, and thoughtful 🌈💫

[@lindsayowens4962]

Mother's are beautiful, stay at home or work outside the home. Either way homemaking is important. Love you guys!

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

It’s just such a sacrifice too. It’s like you have to give up all the other things you like and love to do- things that are enjoyable and fun and relaxing and fill your soul. And when you have kids, it’s not that you don’t find some kind of happiness or fulfillment out of taking care of your kids, but there isn’t much time for anything else as a SAHM. Now on the flip side, I also know some moms who would love to stay home but can’t. So there’s that. But either way, I think becoming a mom and just having kids in general is a big sacrifice in life. Even just alone time, which I love because I was an only child and I am an introvert! That’s another challenge! I thank the Lord every day he built in nap time with young kids!

[@charity_mugeni]

As a stay at home mom. Been struggling to find my identity and my purpose, I recently started U-tube channel. Sometimes it feels difficult but I keep encouging myself to keep going.

[@MsDreamgirl39]

You go girl 🎉❤

[@peterjamieson2441]

I can relate to this...as a father. Thanks for sharing Jen.

[@fofs3084]

My friend said something recently. She said to help with the feeling of isolation we can servebothers in ministry. Offering our help and time ❤ im so afraid to leave my job because my mareiage is so unstable, but im really struggling. When i was at home she dod so well. She felt safe and secure. Now shes a bit different. And shes only 6 months old. Im praying about it.

[@hollyf.719]

So encouraging! Thank you ❤

[@reneeinfortmyersfl]

Such a great conversation! just very fun to listen to and the fact there was so much openness in sharing real struggles. 💗

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

You know what? I think it’s okay though to make friends with strangers. You never know that maybe that person needs a friend too.

[@sinm619]

Loved it …it really drew me in …so interesting!

[@ashleyahmadzai]

Excellent interview! Thank you for this!

[@Botho_Nchidzi]

This is me 📍💡 thank you Jen for sharing your story

[@ericas2034]

Needed this 💜

[@cvoborongan9658]

Im a very busy mom, working outside of my home. Everytime I go home from work, I have no energy to take care of my kids and manage my household. Im just too tired and mentally exhausted. I want to stay home with my kids and have a nice and clean home. But my husband wants me to work and grind because he thinks that SAHM are lazy people. I earn money so much more than him and since he wants this equality, I let him do almost all the household chores because Im bringing more money than him and I just sit all day on the couch on my off days. He even wants me to do some side hustle, I told him that he should be the one who should bring the extra cash because hes the provider and the man of the family. Men nowadays are feminized and weak. When I had my kids, I never thought of wanting to be a SAHM this bad because my mind was so conditioned that being a career woman is the only way to go. I was wrong. I guess I just married the wrong guy because all he cares for is the money that I should be contributing to run our home.

[@jenniferromero571]

My issues are playing with my 18 month old son. I dont play with him enough. I have been dealing with depression pretty much my whole life. My first son was born with a heart condion. I was in the hospital with him almost 24/7 for 4 months. I had post partum and even though that has past im still dealing with depression. At a point of no motivation no happiness in anything. I love and care for my son but i dont play. I feel it as work not as play. I dont know how to get past this before it really messes with him.

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

Oooooh the fun things we go through. I guess you have to just learn to laugh sometimes!😆

[@asouthafricanindian9258]

I am in a season of waiting on the Lord to decide to be a SAHM vs continuing as a physio in a government hospital.

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

I’m sorry but I feel like I haven’t been very gentle or kind lately😬

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

How do you find the time to do your own thing though??

[@audreyestelle687]

Great question! That’s what I’m struggling with now

[@danicelkorth712]

YOU have to find a way for yourself.

[@bcnotpc659]

yessssssss

[@w3n33dam1racl3]

I never wanted to be a SAHM. Im depressed, angry, and dealing with self esteem issues all the time. I hate it. I feel like I accomplished what i did for no reason.

[@jenem9618]

I say this as a stay-at-home mom. Read Proverbs 31. Did the woman described in that passage do any work outside of mothering and homemaking? I'd give that question some serious consideration before asking why some women struggle when they feel that their endeavors must be limited to mothering and homemaking. Throughout history, women often balanced paid work with homemaking and childcare, because their jobs did not conflict with those responsibilities. It wasn't really until the 20th century that work became industry-based and was largely incompatible with many of the duties of motherhood (and fatherhood for that matter). But due to the Internet, there are beginning to be new ways for mothers to balance paid work with their responsibilities at home. While I am certainly against what we would consider the typical self-serving "American career woman" mindset that results in children being raised by people other than their parents, please don't put words in the Bible that aren't there while ignoring some of the words that are.

[@tziyontumusiime196]

Is it possible to get a free copy of this book in Kampala, Uganda, Africa? I dont think i can call the number unless its on whatsapp

[@evelynherrington5587]

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[@CaseohsBackflapp]

When a kid tosses stuff off of the table you pick it up and throw it in the trash and give the kid no more when the kid becomes hungry the kid will realize eat the food don't play with it

[@mrskrobs]

For sure!!

[@MsDreamgirl39]

Find a hobby look within you’ll find the answers even if it’s just sitting with ur kids at home ( even teens ) stay educated .