discussing reddit plant drama + telling my own stories! / repotting anthurium - repot & chat #15

and i'm back with episode three of the reddit AITA (am i the a-hole) series! i'm glad you guys are liking these because i definitely am! and it beats doing Q&A after Q&A after Q&A 💀💀💀 so if you're not familiar with the concept, i've basically gone onto reddit to find plant drama stories and i tell you my thoughts on them! in this one i also included a few of my own little storytimes if i felt like i had something that related-- unplanned but you guys know i tend to blab. also, winter has not been treating us well over here and i've got a few sad anthurium to rehab so it was a perfect opportunity to sit down and give them some TLC in one go.
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[@SafaiyaJahanRaiyan]

I like when suddenly you tell a spicy sherman story. It’s so refreshingly realistic. Keep being your self ❤❤

[@Anah-B]

The story time about your previous living situations 💀💀💀💀 why did I fear for your life more in the family house than the 5 man house

[@benjiplant]

Have u ever talked about the spiritus sancti x jose buono (philodendron ‘jerry Garcia’) drama? That might be a fun one to talk about lol

[@Liliplantdiaries]

Yesterday I put on an old repot and chat video of yours to repot some of my plants to and right as I started you said “oh I forgot to add myco to that one” and it helped me remember to pull out mine and sprinkle it on the roots! I am forever grateful 😂 because I always say I’ll do it with water and I never do!!

[@ThatGirlShelbyy]

Ouuuu can't wait for this one!! This series is sooo entertaining 😅 There's never a shortage of audacity in this community, so it's always fun seeing it from the outside 😬

[@TWILIGHTR0SE]

Will admit I've only been on marketplace a couple times, and i managed to accidentally hit that button, that asks if its available. I had to message the person and say it was accidental. I would guess that happens a lot, and people aren't spending the time to say sorry.

[@PlantswithCoffee]

Ohh i just commented in the previous video requesting about type of pots to use…

[@lisaanglim9588]

#5. The potential roommate is the A-hole. Plain and simple. The writer has bent over backwards to accommodate the cat by keeping the plants in her room.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Vince is a gem. He’s very coating about your hobby. And anything you want he’s almost down for.

[@lisaanglim9588]

I need to get some plastic bowls like the ones you dump your dirt into. I have only glass bowls.

[@lisaanglim9588]

That red doriaki (sp) is stunning. I like the venation

[@ellieraggs]

I couldnt even give something away on Marketplace without a hassle. Someone said they wanted it and when it came time to give them the address they announced they had no car but they really needed the thing and here's where we live, you can drop it off. 45 minutes away. Not. Loved the video and the stories!

[@AnthuriumQueen]

Market place is so infuriating sometimes 😂😂😂 Totally agree!!!! Great video 🫶

[@quiquiqui]

I love when your notification comes up 🤩 brightens my day

[@stuckinbed7641]

Me too

[@lisaanglim9588]

I have to be able to see the blue sky, but it can be just a corner of the living room. But plants are piled up in front of it.

[@lisaanglim9588]

I’ve sold on market place and I’ve had them ghost me. When you get the “is this still available is a button you click on. It’s really the only choice to ask about the item. Also some people don’t remove the things they are selling.

[@lisaanglim9588]

I just made my own chunky soil and was it way to chunky. Water ran through it like a sieve. I had to. Add some extra cocoa coir to bulk it up.

[@mindfulmadeline]

Ugh!!!!! Yes marketplace sucks so bad. I’m moving and selling lots of stuff. When i offer something for cheap i get so many messages of ‘is this available’ half the time i wont respond unless they actually type a personal message lol

[@Ani_Watermelon]

1, a whole year? I thought it was a whole month. Even for a month, I would call the friend the AH, let alone a whole year. And 100 plants?? Get pay or not, that's a loot of plants to take care, including your own plants. And knowing OP has depression too ...

[@lisaanglim9588]

You haven’t said what the people on Reddit said about the story with the A-holes

[@letablanton8112]

I would like more info on the fungus gnat treatment… the ?NeemBalls????? Did I miss the information??? I need some big ol’ NeemBalls!!!!

[@Mandi_Hui]

I have the same thing happening in Facebook Marketplace too. Always saying is it still available? I mean if is advertised and not sold then buyer should know is for sale. When you respond it is then they just don’t answer back for some reason. Also i had cases when the person didn’t show up in picking it up or last minute don’t want it is frustrating too. I don’t get my items pick up at my home for privacy purposes so i usually meet them 5 or 10 mins away from my home. I rather post the items instead of meeting them outside where i have to travel if they’re willing to pay extra for postage. Also they try to get you sell it cheaper too negotiate price which i don’t like to as i already sell them €5 or €10 less than I purchased the items. So i have giving up using Facebook Marketplace place now. I lived in my husband’s clothes when i was pregnant. And bought a maternity over the belly leggings for hospital visits. Also i bought maternity bras that can be universal bra and breastfeeding ones.

[@lisaanglim9588]

A lot of people have separate accounts but then have a joint account for household bills. Each person puts an agreed upon amount of money in the pot.

[@puddsmax863]

The second one 😅 bro just get grow lights and move them.

[@natashaoreilly7072]

That bump 🥹🥹🥹

[@insunavox4990]

👀 what camera do you use pls if ok to ask ? All the cameras i have are unable to record more than 30mins and my phone can maybe do an hour... but I'm looking for a camera that is good quality and can handle recording for longer. 🙏

[@margimorris7360]

Hello. Just wondering if you got the Neem Cake for the FG. How did it go?

[@vladdydaddy1280]

good morning sherman🥳

[@ThatGirlShelbyy]

That last one 😭 That older sister sounds like a petty b***h ... and the younger sister is 100% justified in taking a plant in return of the one that the older sister literally stole!!?! from her. Maybe it's because I'm 27 (almost 28) and an only child, but I would NOT have stood for the older sister pulling that BS. Makes me glad I'm an only child 😅

[@lisaanglim9588]

Oh I just can’t wait for this one. I loved the last one I saw. Can’t wait!!😜

[@newleafvibes]

Story one. I think when they say they're struggling, I think they mean with their health, not money

[@margimorris7360]

Hello. Most of the time there is an A-hole in these stories, although I always think I need to hear both sides. Would love to know where you buy the pots please and also how are you going to use Neem cake to kill FG's, are you just going to sprinkle some on the top of your pots?

[@kreepyskera]

Plastic square pots are from North shore tropicals! Not the only place to get them but that's where Sherman gets them

[@margimorris7360]

thanks@@kreepyskera

[@horace6851]

Last story - I'm double their age and I would have taken 2 plants, one as repayment and one as interest ;) I guess I still have some growing to do...

[@path_of_sol]

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[@mdeyex]

May i ask what brand your clear plant poles are? I really don’t like the look of poles, but saw yours & liked them! Love your videos & appreciate your time, if a ya get a minute to answer 💚

[@YellowPineappleHoyas]

I am a seller and i used to get those is this available? so often, until I started my own group.

[@lisaanglim9588]

It’s small would fit in I Your make op bag. Depends on how much they search your vehicle. It’s the best. One drop per gallon. Plus it doesn’t smell like neem oil

[@stuckinbed7641]

love your!!! videos Don't worry your body will amaze you by the time baby gets here! Fun thing to try before baby gets here take one arm away and try everything you must do like brush teeth etc. grab a dish and see what you can move or adjust to make things more reachable and convenient now before baby gets here!! Good luck even though you and Vince have this! Each baby story is different and special. Thank you for sharing this part of your life with us. I really related to the story about the 100 plants & The connective Tissue disorder. I also have a connective tissue disorder called Ehler Danlos Syndrome and I am bed bound a lot of time. My bedroom has improved once i filled it with lights & plants now i am stuck in my own jungle! I just love the days i spend watching you. I learn a lot I laugh & Cry & you help me get my day going! With a smile!

[@lisaanglim9588]

# 1. She’s the a-hole because she won’t tell them. She should have called them when the situation got bad. Not waited til they were dead. She shouldn’t expect to be paid. I think k the friends were an a-hole because they just abandoned her. It was a combination of both sides.

[@lisasteele6445]

Regarding mp, I recently started stating in my listings that I will not respond to “is this available” messages, 10/10 times the sender isn’t interested in the item. Literally all of that. Since then the “is this available” messages have stopped. Also, in local purges I’ve had to say that an item is not SOLD unless I mark it that way and a deposit is now required for me to hold. I’m tired of these ghosts. It’s not Halloween 😂

[@lisasteele6445]

Also, when I’m messaging someone to purchase on mp I always say, “Hey, if this is available I can pick it up on x date”. To sound like a real person, plus it skips the step of “when can you pick it up”. I either want the thing or want the thing out of my house and to know when it’s happening, I have things to do too haha.

[@lisaanglim9588]

I do agree with you on this one. The roommate is out of line.

[@lisaanglim9588]

When chopping I thought you were going to chop one leaf and stem off the whole plant. I was surprised you cut off the end.

[@lisaanglim9588]

#4. I think the dad was an A-hole for his actions without even respecting her feelings but she did acct like a spoiled brat.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Ok it’s worm caste-ings. Not case-tings

[@lisaanglim9588]

The thing about comos are outdoor plants they will re-seed but they are not dead. He’s right she’s still got half of it. It’s actually stunted as they u usually are vigor growers and get tall and will let. Blow in the wind.

[@realhotplantmomshit3396]

This video gave me the gumption to finish taking pictures of plants I need to sell. Bless u woman 😊😂❤

[@stuckinbed7641]

Me too !

[@realhotplantmomshit3396]

@stuckinbed7641 heck yeah fren we did dat

[@totalvamp792]

Where do you get the square plastic pots?

[@dollydhanraj7158]

Yes..but does she reply?

[@kreepyskera]

North shore tropicals!

[@lisaanglim9588]

Does Alice have anything to pollinate it with?

[@mommayanna]

You are so wise, my dear

[@CrisJZ1485]

Guuuuuurl! Tell me about it! I've got a few things listed up on marketplace and that question drives me nuts! I've had so many ppl do that when I reply that yes, it is still available. Sometimes I despise selling on there.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Oh my goodness that’s big!

[@liexclamationpt]

I say this with love, PLEASE get a nursing bra. It will change your life. Whether you use it or not, your milk will probably come in and your boobs are going to be boobing even more than they are now. It's a much better investment than just a maternity bra, if you do choose to nurse, but honestly I have worn mine far longer than I "had to" for comfy reasons alone. You can even put it on your registry and then use their completion discount once it's closer to Archie's born date to cut down on costs.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Two wrongs don’t make a right

[@PauZakArtist]

get Nematodes for gnats. enough is enough! I can't stand it anyomre! XD there's no better option. no neem cake nothing will help. Nematodes will keep you gnat free for months! research, please n get em! :) they will LITERALLY kill em off in just a couple days after you water top layer of all your pots. it's like magic!

[@mommayanna]

I have had the same exact experience with someone on marketplace. They wanted an Albo monstera cutting to buy from me , but wanted me to meet them about an hours drive away! So weird! And yes, people ghosting after asking if it’s available. Same

[@lisaanglim9588]

That doriaki looks like it’s too deep in the pot.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Get a soldering iron to heat punch the holes in it.

[@stuckinbed7641]

Do you know if a glue gun would work?

[@lisaanglim9588]

@@stuckinbed7641 I don’t think so. The hot part is inside where it heats the glue. The tip is only hot because of the hot glue.

[@angieheredia4336]

A glue gun works just not quite as fast imo. At this point she’s probably not wanting to breath in the fumes from melting plastic 😊

[@stuckinbed7641]

thanks for the information!@@lisaanglim9588

[@stuckinbed7641]

Thanks for your reply about melting plastics i forgot about the smell. It makes me sick every time we melt something in the dishwasher@@angieheredia4336

[@aerial_rooting]

#3 he sold the plant and feels like an a-hole and is also acting like an a-hole

[@lisaanglim9588]

#4. He’s not confused. It’s a power play cause she moved out. He’s the A-hole

[@lisaanglim9588]

The cosmo is a pink flower.

[@lisaanglim9588]

I’m ready for spring to come too.

[@lisaanglim9588]

I doubt he gave th e plants much water out of a Pepsi bottle. I less they were in pots then maybe he overwatered.

[@lisaanglim9588]

You’re such a careful person and can look at both sides of the story. I’m too impatient to look at it that way. Im quick to jump to conclusion.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Tape it where the bend is. Straighten it out and tape it there.

[@lisaanglim9588]

You and the plant spray make we. Lol 😂

[@mommayanna]

Is Lauren somebody we’ve seen on your channel? Where can I find her?

[@mommayanna]

I mean, can I see her somewhere?

[@melanieg.9092]

She's the owner of North shore tropicals a plant store/importer. She also has a channel by the same name ❤

[@lisaanglim9588]

Looks bad. You’re right.

[@mommayanna]

I have thoroughly enjoyed this video

[@PetraEmmy]

I appreciate you and this video. 💞💚🐶

[@MyLocksMyPlants]

looking good girl💚💚💚💚🤗

[@lisaanglim9588]

You’ll be surprised at what you can do, but you’ll find out how short your arms become. Lol. 😂

[@lisaanglim9588]

#3. He’s the A-hole. He needs to let her get them or bring them to her.

[@mommayanna]

I also get extremely upset when talking about money to the point of anxiety. I have to work through that discomfort, but I’m usually panicked inside. It’s not my best strength in life.

[@lisaanglim9588]

He should have showed remorse but he doesn’t have to replace a dead plant with a live one. The plant owner is being unreasonable.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Loved the whole thing.

[@lisaanglim9588]

#2. I think the writer knew that the plants were there before she moved in. Maybe he could move his other stuff so it’s only the plants that are in the living room. I have to say the writer was the A-hole.

[@lisaanglim9588]

The old girlfriend is the A-hole. He should have grabbed the plant when he was at her place.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Honey, you may need to rethink the not buying maternity clothes and a maternity bra. Who knows. There may be Charmaine junior.

[@carolstuff]

Great video; thanks for sharing!

[@lisaanglim9588]

I had sunshine for about an hour today. It was so pretty. Now it’s gray and overcast and thunderstorms are predicted.

[@brandispotsandplants]

I love this series! I am going to write a story on reddit and see if it makes it on the channel lol! (JK or am I)

[@horace6851]

Or you could just try to sell some plants, the stories will come your way in no time ;)

[@lisaanglim9588]

The baby will go straight forward. I’ve heard bio oil is a great thing for stretch marks. But there’s only one place to go but out.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Oh I disagree with you on number 2

[@Anah-B]

I can send you pics of crystal x pink babies if you need some for comparison!

[@carah8874]

Charmaine!!! As a postpartum momma, you will be needing nursing/ pumping bras! Just take the plunge now, you’ll be needing them 🥰 give the girls some more room

[@lisaanglim9588]

#6. The splurge when they shared money was irresponsible. But we all know how we felt when we were depressed but that many or that big a plant but one small plant should have been sufficient to help with their mental status. That being said, he was not the A-hole. It was good he added the post scrip to the story

[@lisaanglim9588]

Better paint your nails while you have the time. You won’t have time after Archie.

[@cristinaardelean5064]

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