repot & chat

i'm back with another AITA (am i the a-hole) repot & chat where i pull random plant drama posts from reddit and we discuss who done it and who's to blame 🫵🏻 the plant roster unfortunately isn't AS juicy, but i did have a few stragglers that needed serious attention. i have a rhipsalis in no drainage that's been slowly withering away, a spiritus sancti that refuses to give me a decent root system and some that just need bigger pants. so gather all your repots and come hang with me for the next hour and a half!
also, if you haven't seen the first AITA video, you can watch it here: • AITA #1 - let's read p...
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0:00 intro
2:08 AITA story 1
12:56 AITA story 2
24:03 AITA story 3
36:59 AITA story 4
47:05 AITA story 5
55:50 AITA story 6
1:07:59 AITA story 7
1:22:24 AITA story 8
1:31:14 wrap up

[@debrag3666]

They sold the plants. Greed. It was pre meditated. What else they have in store for her. They knew she was selling plants. They were jealous long before this incident

[@unplantparenthood]

I agree, absolutely pre-meditated! They sold those plants way too fast for anyone to argue otherwise.

[@sarahg2665]

That guy that was trying to kill his gf’s plants so she’d believe she was a bad plant parent was so disgusting. 20 plants is not even a lot, especially by hobbyist standards but just in general. I agree with everything you said. If he treats her this way over a harmless hobby, imagine what he’ll do if they have kids or another serious situation comes up.

[@horace6851]

omg the first story is legendary on Reddit :) many people in plant groups know it and whenever it's brought up people are still seething :))) but to put some more context - I believe it happened and was posted around the time when those plants were really expensive, so it wasn't even a couple dollars, the pink princess alone was going for hundreds. And albo for thousands (depending on the size of course). So if they got market value prices for those cuttings they essentially stole thousands of dollars from her. Some people were seriously commenting that she should sue for burglary and I kind of agreed with them at the time. Now it feels different with the prices so much down, but back then... phew.

[@hannahwhite4734]

would have had her give me the money she made no lie, give me the money u made and the plants you haven’t sold yet!!!

[@unplantparenthood]

I’m surprised I never heard this story before!! And OOOOOOF if they’re Covid prices my butt is clenched!! Honestly I would’ve taken her to small claims court to recoup my money.

[@unplantparenthood]

I’m surprised the SIL or brother didn’t automatically give that money to her either! That would’ve been a no brainer for me.

[@melle671]

It is legendary. I heard this story somewhere, maybe my plant group, and was sick to my stomach. The audacity! Idk if I could be around those family members going fwd. Or have them over ever again

[@crystaltorassa4299]

I do remember reading this story and sharing it in my local plant group to ask opinions, but I was horrified at the thought. I'm way too personally invested in my plants...

[@Magneticgarden]

Well if I had to chose plants or my boyfriend. It was nice knowing ya buddy now go kick rocks! 😂

[@unplantparenthood]

BYE FELICIA 👋👋👋

[@ThatGirlShelbyy]

Ouuuu yes 🙌🏻 spill the reddit teaaaa 👏🏻😂 I love this type of video!! Omg the first one I'd be FURIOUS. I'd be making them pay for the damaged plants or taking them to small claims over that sh*t if they refused to compensate for it lmao. What horrible people to assume they have any right to chop her plants without checking first (for profit after specifically asking her about the prices!!)

[@unplantparenthood]

I think if it was anyone but family I would’ve been pulling hair 🤣🤣

[@ThatGirlShelbyy]

@@unplantparenthood literally!! I would definitely angry cry too 🤣😭

[@shellym79]

The office one: why is it ok for the co workers to move the plants to their desk but not ok for her to move them back? If it's a free for all then why can't she do what they did and just move them back? The whole thing is ridiculous and weird. No one should have touched them. But absolutely no one should be upset with her for moving them back.

[@unplantparenthood]

I didn’t even think of it that way! Total double standard. That story was super bizarre to me too.. I can’t think of one good reason someone else’s plant or any belonging would ever be “up for grabs” 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@mimilee789]

Here's a possible, albeit unlikely explanation. Some companies arrange to have purchased plants displayed around the office. Perhaps her coworkers didn't know they were her personal plants and thought she had been hoarding company plants. So when she was gone, they redistributed the plants as they thought fair and appropriate.

[@mindfulmadeline]

The story about the vines in water being knocked over: it is probably much more than the plant, there is mostly likely a pattern of him not acknowledging her feelings or taking responsibility, and of her overreacting due to this pattern…I can relate so much. I would have done the same thing when I was 22 😂

[@unplantparenthood]

Yeah my gut was telling me she was more just annoyed by him than anything 😂 and his response definitely did not help things haha

[@jade4994]

That guy who was jealous of his girlfriend's plants oh my god ahaha

[@unplantparenthood]

I know such an ick! “She can have hobbies but in moderation” if a partner ever uttered those words to me his sh*t would’ve been in the lawn faster than he could blink

[@MommaKaren65]

This was great. I loved it. Super Good Stories, please do many more of these..... this was my New years eve entertainment. Loved it!!!❤

[@maddiecrowley7395]

.. the guy with TWENTY plants is so controlling and crazy ‘ it’s okay to have hobbies, but in moderation as they don’t take away from me, so I’m purposely sabotaging and not watering her plants’???? GIRL RUNNNNN 🏃‍♀️

[@natashaoreilly7072]

Oh my god hahaha one time my husband was in our sunroom and had a bunch of boxes packed behind my tent because we were moving and went to grab them. Well he leaned on my tent and knocked over a tall black shelf and it knocked every other plant over in my tent 😂 He came around the corner with this look in his eyes (I was doing the dishes) and said “babe…. Your plants” 👀 And showed me what he did and I couldn’t stop laughing 😂 He legit felt so bad and refused to let me help him clean them up and was in my tent for hours cleaning up pon and glass and plants. I felt so grateful that he cleaned up his mess and didn’t get upset at him at all. I felt bad that he felt so bad and believe it or not there were minimal casualties 🥵 I know he didn’t mean to do that and couldn’t be upset with him for it ❤ Hours of repotting later, I managed to get them all back into new vessels and all was good haha

[@unplantparenthood]

Omg that sweet sweet man!!! 🥹 what an angel! I’ve had a few casualties / damages to plants at the hands of Vince, but I never really think much of it. I think the reaction of the girl in the story has more to do with their overall relationship and dynamic than the plant itself.

[@natashaoreilly7072]

@@unplantparenthood agreed!

[@JJ-ec9lp]

For the exes living together, they should have propagated all the plants so that they could each have part of it, and then leave eachothers alone to thrive or die or whatever.

[@zorro2614thecat]

first story, i would have made them buy me new whole , big plants,not cuttings of the things they have destroyed!

[@unplantparenthood]

Based on their initial behaviour, I doubt they would’ve obliged or agreed to that 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

[@michellouisey]

the roommate in the second story refusing to move the plant is definitely an asshole but when the poster moved it and it fell apart why would they just get rid of it?? at this point they should have admitted what they did to the roommate and shown them the damage because maybe it could have been salvaged! that's the part that makes the poster more of an asshole in my opinion

[@latishasuarez1366]

I don't think she's wrong. On her reactions. And I think it was exactly what you said It was planned out. And I wouldn't have never regret it every single word. That's the same thing as somebody coming in stealing and you're not home. Cuz that's pretty much what it is It's stealing.

[@unplantparenthood]

I think it’s hard for me to put myself in her shoes because I adore my in-laws, but I think if it was anyone else other than family I would’ve had some very strong words myself 😆

[@Zalyplants]

Story #1 sue them just for the principle and the niece needs to learn there’s consequences to her mothers actions.

[@aplantprocess]

You are the best storyteller. My hubby and kiddo don’t mind that I listen to KZbin content without earbuds or a headset (both get on my nerves). They’re very sweet but also, I think they like content about plants at least a little 😂 My kiddo (who’s 13) heard your first version of this when it came out and loved it. This one went over just as well. We had a great chat about respecting boundaries, communicating effectively, and warning signs about overly controlling people. It was awesome 💚 Thank you!

[@unplantparenthood]

Aww I find it so sweet when the whole family tunes in to a video 🥹 I’ve been trying to keep foul language / thoughts to a minimum but I think by now you know my tendencies 🙈 but thank you all for watching and I’m so happy you guys enjoyed it!!

[@aplantprocess]

@@unplantparenthood - keep doing what you’re doing. Out of all the things to worry about, a few colorful words are of no concern. Pius, my family cracks up at how these gentle spirits, who love nurturing plants, are keeping things real on KZbin 😂

[@Liliplantdiaries]

I was dying at our smelling the water over and over 🤣🤣🤣🤣 and the sound effect

[@mnbotanicals]

The workplace story is so crazy and unhinged… who moves plants AWAY FROM THE WINDOW that aren’t even theirs? Let alone to their own desks where it’s obvious who stole them 😅 Its sad that the OP felt bad about taking them back, what a weird situation. It’s giving toxic workplace vibes.

[@Jax2113]

You know, something that really just grinds my gears is when people say "It's just a plant." in response to a plant person being upset. It's just so rude. Like it doesn't matter what "it" is, when someone has a hobby or an interest that they care about, then that thing should just be respected. Obviously context matters like a plant isn't the same as a human life or anything, but when people are upset that something they care about has been destroyed or messed with, just show some goddamn empathy and say I'm sorry!

[@unplantparenthood]

That grinds my gears too. Property is property, period! Just shows a complete lack of respect in my opinion. Unfortunately some people are too prideful to be in the wrong and apologize.

[@boopeepope56-ey5gz]

Your face was priceless. 😂😂😂it must have stank bad. I keep rewinding you . So funny😅😅😅

[@_justsilvie]

The first story pissed me the hell off because dude... The mom literally IMMEDIATELY sold the cuttings and made money off of her.. Right after she told her which ones were worth the most! That's crraaaazy

[@unplantparenthood]

Greed makes people do insane things 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[@_justsilvie]

@@unplantparenthood Sherman the further I get into this video, the more angry I am becoming 🙃

[@asthecrowflyshomestead675]

At the very least, taking cuttings w/out permission is property damage!

[@Yoliplanting]

That was great😂😂 please do more❤

[@carolgregg5550]

Story 3 was a trigger!! I moved in with my partner this year and came with 4 plants. I have over 100 now. He actively drives me to the plant store and even suggests new plants, comes on a new leaf tour with me and asks what new with them. Poor lady got with an immature partner who was never in her corner. Have an adult conversation, mate!

[@avasaunders9863]

Omg 😮 they sold the plants! That was so wrong and deceitful. She was robbed! I would be so pissed. Her sister in law is not to be trusted. That was disrespectful and she used her daughter to her dirty work and make money. Her sister-in-law is not a good person and she is teaching her daughter the same. I wouldn’t speak to her again for along time

[@carolstuff]

Loved this vid! You should do this more; thanks for sharing!

[@theonyxblack]

I absolutely love your AITA repots! Good luck with your Spiritus Sancti 🍀 Edit: forgot to tell you that I've been binge watching yours and Alice's videos lately. I'm up to date now and looking forward to your next post 💚

[@unplantparenthood]

Thank you so much for watching!! 🥹 and I appreciate the good thoughts for my spiritus! It definitely needs it 🫠

[@HannahSymonds-vf1by]

Love the reddit + repot

[@unplantparenthood]

i'm glad you enjoyed it!! filming another one today!

[@liexclamationpt]

I think the worst part of #3 is that the girlfriend was probably looking forward to having the space to explore houseplants the way she wanted. Also, imagine being jealous of plants 🙄

[@unplantparenthood]

Exactly! Also the whole “at the beginning of our relationship she had 4 plants, and now she has 20” ….and? 😂

[@deniseakagvtspender5885]

Enjoyed this video Q&Q A-hole session. I agree your call on A-hole. BTW your hair is so shiny and pretty in this video😊

[@leafandliah]

i think the word you were thinking of is "anthropomorphize" where they apply human characteristics to plants :) i definitely agree with your point about it lol!!!

[@unplantparenthood]

Omg THATS THE WORD I was like PERSONIFHIZE???? 🤣 thank you I’m gonna sleep so much better tonight 🙃🙃🙃

[@leafandliah]

@@unplantparenthood yay!! but hahha in your defense at i also do think some people personify their plants too!! 😂 so there's overlap!

[@MelBlager]

To me they robbed her. No different than someone taking the precious gems out of your jewelry

[@JJ-ec9lp]

That first one omg… I feel sorry for the niece tbh, it’s obvious that her mom asking about the value of the plants meant she was planning this all along because her daughter had been taught about propagation. I feel like she manipulated her daughter into it :( like “of course it’s ok honey, she said she was going to cut them for us anyway”. A 14 yr old can’t sell on market place, that is 100% on the mom and she’s probably ruined the plant hobby for her daughter now, not to mention her child’s relationship with her aunt. All over greed. I’m sure that was hundreds if not thousands of dollars worth of cuttings.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Hot potatoes. Lol 😂

[@lisaanglim9588]

My Hoyas never get the pint of dryness. I’m an over waterer.

[@ritaelliott-cn7di]

Hey girl you crack me up Life sucks but you can make me laugh That's a good thing 🙂 thanks 👍

[@unplantparenthood]

I’m sorry it sounds like you might be going through a rough time 🥺 I hope things start looking up for you, and I’m glad this channel can help lift your spirits! 🩵

[@marygorchidsmore2058]

Great repotting video, thanks for sharing. The story is horrifying! Should have been in Halloween video! What was the soil mix that you mixed with tree Fern fiber please.

[@unplantparenthood]

Hi Mary! The soil mix is soil, tree fern fibre, worm casting, biochar, fir bark, perlite and a finely grinded coco husk!

[@gablovesplantssydney]

Quick question for you, not about the Reddit stories, but about your soil mixes. You said you don’t like to repot plants when they are wet and your soil mixes always look very dry. How do you avoid dust kicking up and going everywhere with dry mixes. I find, especially with Perlite, that I need to wet it down a little bit before mixing it into my soil mix. I am trying an aquarium substrate with some of my propagations and find the same thing. The dust that comes up is very fine and I’m sure not good for the lungs. Anyone else with any thoughts I’m happy to hear them. Thanks so much and I hope you have a great day.

[@unplantparenthood]

I am soooo neurotic about mixing substrates and dust kicking up in the air! I always always mask up when I’m mixing soil, sifting amendments, or repotting really dry dusty plants. The only time I don’t do it is when I’m sitting down for a repot and chat like this. Otherwise I typically grab an N95 or just a standard mask and make sure the vent fan in my plant room is on. Ideally doing it outside is best, but I’d still mask up! Especially if you’re working with something like perlite.

[@Winstonsmom]

Office scenario… did they think they were babysitting the plants?

[@unplantparenthood]

It was a very odd situation and to this day I still try and find reasons that make sense that justify what happened 🤔

[@kreepyskera]

You were looking for hot and bothered 🙂 love the reddit videos!

[@lisaanglim9588]

I’ve heard that algae doesn’t hurt the plants.

[@MommaKaren65]

Roommate stealing cuttings story. Its theft. If they stole your cuttings what else will they take. Id snap out, Im sorry, stealing is a crime and a sin. She is a thief, & not only shud she get confronted. I'd also take every cutting back after the confrontation.

[@jpgypsyxo]

I’m not exactly sure what it is about plants that give people such a feeling of entitlement and lack of self control. Like, you wouldn’t go cut someone’s hair off to make a wig without their permission because it’ll “grow back”. The audacity. And yes, same! The curiosity would irk me so hard that I’d respectfully call them out. Like hi, hello, what in the actual fck do you think you’re doing?!

[@jpgypsyxo]

And the phrase you were looking for is “hot and bothered” 😂😂

[@lisaanglim9588]

I don’t understand the need to cut plants up all the time. And I understand that they are your plants but I find it weird. Thats just my thoughts. That being said I still watch you do this.

[@MyLocksMyPlants]

I like the vids without the roster too lol each one is a surprise 💚 also I need to find the reddit page this is wild

[@unplantparenthood]

I’m liking not doing rosters too because sometimes it just takes too damn long, then by the time I’m ready to chat my voice is cracking like a pubescent teen 😆

[@MyLocksMyPlants]

@@unplantparenthood 🤣🤣

[@prismatica8416]

I think the monstera girl was just a mega newbie and the top got destroyed. Im guesssing she assumed it couldnt grow back if that got damaged. On another note, i genuinely dont understand why apologizing is so hard for some people. Like chill, you arent gonna die, its probably not something youll even remember in a decade, absolute worst case spend $10 and replace it as an apology, even if it is smaller than the original. I know people like that dad and they give me the ICK.

[@lalama637]

Hi Can you share where you get your plant jars? Thanks

[@unplantparenthood]

Hello! They’re all from thrift stores or the dollar store :) the plastic ones are restaurant to-go containers which you can find online or anywhere that sells restaurant supplies!

[@lalama637]

@@unplantparenthood Oh wow. I found one in Goodwill and thought of yours. Okay. I’ll keep my eyes open in the TS for them. Oooh okay about the restaurant cups. I’ll check it out. By the way, girl you crack me up. I love all of your content!!

[@lisaanglim9588]

She should have gotten up to check the plants when he told her. This is her fault.

[@kimkelly4520]

The first story I agree with the writer. Those people were lucky to leave there with their heads attached 💯‼️ 🤬

[@boopeepope56-ey5gz]

He wasn't apologetic. Oh i thought i put water in it, really. He didnt care.

[@plantypittsburgh]

Aw I don't know anything about plant drama on reddit

[@unplantparenthood]

I’m not really on Reddit either, but there’s a whole slew of plant related drama stories on there! Kind of interesting to read through the comments on them too when you’re in the mood to indulge in a little bit of tea. Too much of it makes my blood pressure rise though 😆

[@lisaanglim9588]

Story#2. He was the asshole, the writer but the roommate was wrong for not offering a solution to the tv and plant involvement. Move the tv, put it on the wall if it’s not already there. Maybe both were the a-holes.

[@plantypittsburgh]

31:29 dudeis literally trying to break her down so that she is reliant/ focused on him. That's beyond creepy; that's a personality disorder.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Story #4 she’s the asshole for stealing from him.

[@chantecampbell2207]

There is so Much a-hole to go around with these. In the first one she was justified in being angry and I would never trust the sister in law but the 14-year old niece who was basically following her mom’s lead? Yeah, I don’t think there is a plant worth losing that relationship. It sounds like they were close and that she has a close relationship with her brother. That’s a lot of loss over plants. That said I would lose my whole mind if that happened to me so I get her initial response.

[@unplantparenthood]

I feel you on this a lot!! I guess because I have such a great relationship with my in laws, it’s hard for me to put myself in her shoes. But my in laws would also never do anything like this to me. Definitely complicates things since her young niece is involved- my niece is the center of my universe so again, I have a hard time putting myself in that position. But I for sure would be PISSED. Like beyond. I think I’d always hold a grudge, I just don’t know if I would’ve had such harsh words. But I do honestly understand why she was so pissed. Such a massive massive violation of trust, and was completely taken advantage of for money which is like ultimate betrayal.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Cut off the coppery tips. You’ve got new growth that will grow and cover the cut tips.

[@par3433]

I I’m late to the game here but sounds like they’re all assholes to me JEEZ

[@MeganGreenberg]

Anthropomorphize!

[@noeltimberlake165]

Q1. Is not the a-hole; her reaction was minor because shucks I would've said and done much worse.

[@trublkbelle]

Plants are expensive and if she is spending mutual money, it is his business. Also, he lives there so how many plants he lives with is his is business. I'm saying this as someone who has about 50 plants and cohabits. Also, in intimate relationships, are you saying it wouldn't be healthy if a partner commented on moderation in gambling or drinking?? If you are spending hours at the casino? It's the same concept.

[@unplantparenthood]

Comparing plant collecting to a gambling or drinking addiction is kind of a stretch in my opinion. Especially since alcoholism is a disease. I’d hardly consider having 20 plants a “problem” and him even commenting saying she should enjoy a hobby in “moderation” is a total red flag to me. Spending hours gambling at a casino is absolutely nothing like spending hours at home caring for plants. I did comment on the money aspect of it and talked about my personal experience with it as well as what I witnessed with an old friend. It’s not like I was completely dismissive of that. But in my opinion, unless she doesn’t make her own money and is completely financially dependent on him, her money isn’t his business. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@trublkbelle]

@unplantparenthood addiction is an issue regardless of the vice. Plants aren't an exception. As a plant influencer, I know you've seen people discuss the issue of plant hoarding and addiction on KZbin. Just like you don't feel like the bf has a right to decide if it's a problem, you can't say that 20 is no big deal. It depends on the person.

[@unplantparenthood]

@@trublkbelle you’re right that addiction is addiction regardless of the vice, but nothing about that story screamed addiction to me. It sounded like someone who is getting into the hobby and has found something she loves and enjoys. What I DO get from the story is a partner who clearly feels like he has a better idea of what is good and bad for her than she does, believes he has the right to “moderate” her hobbies (even though he has said it helps her mental health), and then goes as far as to even kill her plants purposely but make her believe it’s because she’s bad at caring for plants. In this specific scenario, I don’t feel like she’s the problem, but he very much is. It’s clear we both see it very differently and I think it’s totally fine to agree to disagree. :)

[@mayahs792]

I have disagree with your views on this AITA story kzbin.info/www/bejne/o6WymqSJnKaojdk . To some people, their plants are their children. It's like saying so you got divorced, I don't care what happens to the kids or my pet dog because the other person got custody. I'd love to hear your response to someone who views dogs as just food and nothing more, because there are people in the world who think that

[@unplantparenthood]

I’m not sure if you listened to my entire explanation, but the reason you disagree with me was exactly the point I made. I personally don’t anthropomorphize my plants- meaning I don’t put the same value on it as I do a human or animal life. I said there are people who do, and that’s why the man in the story felt the way he did. But I think moreso than that, the bottom line with that situation is boundaries. They both paid for the plants, they broke up, he agreed to give her certain plants and now they’re no longer his property. Again, because I do not anthropomorphize plants, I don’t see it the same way as custody of a child or dog in a divorce. If we weren’t talking about plants in this situation, my view would be completely different.

[@mayahs792]

@@unplantparenthood It was very clear that you don't anthropomorphize plants, but my point is, you come across as very dismissive of people who do. I'm sure a certain contingent of your followers (of which I am one) feel differently. You're absolutely entitled to express how you feel especially on your own channel, however I felt it was important to let you know that it can come across as insensitive to some plant lovers.

[@unplantparenthood]

@mayahs792 The entire purpose of my channel is to highlight how special this hobby is and for the people who enjoy it. But I also think it’s important to note that people in the hobby like myself who don’t anthropomorphize their plants shouldn’t be automatically be categorized as dismissive of the people who do. I brought up the example of people bashing me in my comments for doing things like cutting plants, giving away plants etc. because the same way that I can respect people’s right to *not* choosing to do those things, I too deserve the same respect. It definitelt was not my intention to come off as dismissive- I thought that me explicitly saying he’s *not* an a-hole and simply just cares for the plants made that clear.. Again, my emphasis was moreso about the boundaries he was overstepping.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Get a fungicide for that plant that’s dropping leaves.

[@lisaanglim9588]

No she’s not the a-hole for taking back her plants. The office workers had no business taking her plants.

[@lisaanglim9588]

Story #1. Yes she’s over reacting. They had no permission to cut in their own. Also to sell them was very bad. No she shouldn’t let them plant sit but family is family. She should allow them in her area. Forgive them. Family is everything. It’s all you have in the end.

[@you_gullible_fucc]

I think I personally prefer just showing the roster of plants as you go actually. When you show the roster first it usually takes a bit and for me at least, I already want to get into the good stuff but I still want to know about the plants. Introducing them as you go makes it feel more brief. But that's just how I feel and many people might actually prefer the introduction first and no distractions later

[@unplantparenthood]

I guess doing the roster is easier for me because I lose track of my thoughts so fast and then the convo gets derailed. But honestly I derail my conversations regardless so it doesn’t really matter anyway 😆 but I agree, doing a roster is tiring haha

[@you_gullible_fucc]

@@unplantparenthood I totally relate!

[@Frogandvine]

Omg. don’t👏take👏cuttings👏 without👏permission👏 I happily and freely give cuttings away to friends and family but the thought of someone just helping themselves and CUTTING MY PROPERTY makes me so damn mad! (It hasn’t happened to me but my opinion still stands 🥲)