Disney Executive Turned Self-Help Guru Overwhelmed by Criticism | Dave Hollis Case Analysis

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[@Meela234]

I don't think Dr. Grande sleeps. He just does research, change his shirts and churn out these videos at a rapid rate lol. I love that I have a hard time keeping up with all of these videos!

[@jasonnikolic]

That's because he has 1200+ patrons to serve. E-begging has never been so lucrative.

[@LaurenThompsonIsMyRealName]

​@jasonnikolic how is it e-begging if he is serving them? Providing a service to people who sought said service on their own volition, is e-begging?

[@DeborahRidgeway]

😂😂😂

[@sherrihinton2885]

I have no idea who those clowns were

[@cloud-forge]

​@@jasonnikolic It seems unfair to label him an 'e-begger' considering the amount of value he provides through his work and entertainment. Beggars typically don't offer anything in return, except perhaps a fleeting sense of satisfaction for doing something charitable.

[@excripto1]

It’s like all the self help gurus are the ones that need help.

[@boosqueezy2418]

it’s true

[@dubaiedge]

Definitely the case with the so-called "therapists" too 😅

[@tanikokishimoto1604]

I often wonder if a lot of those people are drawn into these fields due to their own inner ambiances and needing first to help themselves.

[@cloverkitkat6917]

Bingo!

[@kathyglass2922]

I'm going to try it. And I'll cry all the way to the bank.

[@Casinogirl56]

It's getting to the point where I hear "social media influencer" and my teeth automatically gnash together, and my eyes roll.

[@Lisabug2659]

💯 These influencers for the most part are flash-in-the-Pan and if this considered a real career, I find that ridiculous. Dime a dozen, ditto these self-help BS artists. They are peddlers.

[@sarahpiaggio2693]

That and "activist"

[@zacharysherry2910]

"influencer" alone is super weird

[@rubyhampton8245]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@christophercripps7639]

“Influencer” in my mind is on the level of “used car sales person.” Anyone in that line of work is either scamming (most crypto coins du jour IMO) or should take “influencer” as pejorative. “Free lance advertising agency” or “free lance brand ambassador” sounds so much more impressive … and honest. And “social media” is rarely “media” and “social.”

[@matthewbyrd398]

Wow. That’s really sad. Dude had it all, but was missing one vital component, and filled it with his own self-loathing and drugs.

[@mykidsaresupercute]

A narcissist.

[@matthewbyrd398]

@@mykidsaresupercute wrong. Narcissists love themselves.

[@michellewitt2071]

It is sad.

[@oleopathic]

What was this 1 component ?

[@LoveLivesHere12]

@@oleopathichis purpose. When men fail, they’re filled with shame. Some cannot escape it.

[@jonpato]

It's amazing how someone who hasn't lived through any kind of adversity or even worked a day in his life thinks he has any meaningful advice to offer anyone.

[@Ikaros23]

Dunning & Kruger effect does wonders 😂

[@HeyCutie90]

I don’t think that’s fair. I never cared for Dave, but we really never know what someone is going through or what they’ve gone through. I think the people who bought into the Hollis’s nonsense should have done some due diligence.

[@madmaxmedia]

What do you mean no adversity, his wife sold more books than him and had more followers.

[@madmaxmedia]

@@HeyCutie90That is fair, although what he came up with didn’t seem to provide answers for anyone much less himself.

[@lobstermash]

@@madmaxmedia That's not work.

[@CookingbyCampsite]

This was the analysis I didn’t know I wanted. This sums up perfectly why I don’t give self-help gurus and books any of my attention or money. Thanks doc!

[@LuisSierra42]

The real people at fault are the ones who consume those books and other self-help products

[@sonjebianca2483]

As someone who struggles with mental illness and doesn’t always have access to quality healthcare providers, I have been helped considerably by some books in this genre, BUT they were all written by doctors, therapists and medical researchers. Sadly, those books don’t hit the best sellers lists because the authors aren’t flashy pseudo-celebrities.

[@caucasoidape8838]

I'm a loser, but I just see "self help" stuff as being in service of Mammon. Everything is a grift.

[@yesterdayitrained]

@@LuisSierra42You’ve got that backwards. The people that consume these products are vulnerable, trying to find a way to improve their lives- easy prey for the manipulative self-help world. They don’t know (at the time) they’re being conned. You’re basically blaming the victim.

[@BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat]

​@@sonjebianca2483Very helpful. If you would willing to give a few examples of books and or authors/ideas, I would be very grateful 🙏

[@SamanthaCZimmerman]

i think the main reason for the criticism is not just that they got a divorce after being self-help gurus, but that they jointly had a marriage "counseling" podcast and seminars. easy to miss if you've not been following the machinations of self-help freaks for ages like i have. it's very frustrating that people who were born on third base think they can tell regular people how best to live their lives and then act completely shocked when they get the mildest pushback.

[@heloramos82]

I am so sorry for his kids, losing a parent is always hard. He was a young man, so sad he could not follow his own advice.

[@jennycoyle8204]

Especially as their mom Rachel has never seemed in my opinion in any way maternal even though she gave birth to 3 children and adopted another. The whole situation is very sad

[@yesterdayitrained]

Agree. It’s like he almost got there- then just fell off a cliff. It’s difficult not to have some empathy for him.

[@yesterdayitrained]

@@jennycoyle8204Yeah…. she revealed who she was, and it wasn’t pretty. A least Dave admitted they ‘couldn’t have been more inauthentic’. Her? She never will. I think she believes the ‘stories’ she tells herself.

[@TheMygyrl]

I remember when Rachel said she deserved to have a maid, since she worked so hard to not be ordinary. 😂😂😂

[@heloramos82]

@@TheMygyrl oh my God!!! That is an awfull thing to say but I know people who would say the very same thing.

[@Traderjoe]

When you have a good life, just keep doing whatever it is you are doing. I deleted Instagram 3 years ago and have zero presence on social media. Unless this is considered social media. Either way, this has nowhere near an effect on me like my Instagram presence did. Eliminating social media will free you from the foibles associated with it. You’ll sleep better. Your phone won’t be the focus of your life. I regret nothing since quitting.

[@deboracopeland4795]

Yes I agree I don’t do anything except KZbin, no Facebook or anything. This is enough for me.

[@bunnyduncan]

I sent a screenshot of your comment to my sister, who’s become a very self-absorbed woman as a result of her obsession with her social media presence. It’s become her standard practice of embellish every story she posts, and then feed off of the response she gets, and from whom. When I told her last night that her most recent post was not just embellished, but flat-out dishonest and should be deleted, she became extremely defensive and told me that I just don’t understand the ‘culture of social media.’ I miss the person she used to be, but as long as she’s addicted to herself via social media, I don’t think the person I used to know, is ever coming back.

[@baileyjohn5010]

YT is very much social media

[@caucasoidape8838]

Even Reddit was too much for me.

[@yesterdayitrained]

@@bunnyduncanI’m so sorry. Sadly, some people really fall in.

[@jhoughjr1]

The idea of a Disney executive helping anyone is laughable

[@twentyrothmans7308]

I dare not reply to this comment 🙂

[@nahtesalinas1917]

😂😂😂

[@muttsnuts5849]

They might help you transition if you're looking for that

[@TheFakeyCakeMaker]

Really is. Wanting that is the literal definition of "when you wish upon a star" lol!

[@northoftherockies]

They might help you find somewhere to buy some cheese pizza.

[@InglesAlaMexicana]

*Dave's Disney job came too easily to him. He thought everything else would be as easy and found out it wasn't the case.*

[@kwas101]

This is the most insightful comment on here. Dave was a bit like Chris McCandless - everything came too easy to him, he thought it always would, but then he found out.

[@yesterdayitrained]

Great comment. He didn’t know how to deal with failure. But that didn’t make him a bad person. Thank you.

[@It-is-me...Melsie]

He appeared to be seeking happiness in the wrong areas. For many of us it's the little things that give us joy and help us feel content. I don't think he saw joy in the little things.

[@debswatching]

I agree with other replies. You have explained it very well.

[@TranscendentaLobo27]

I have no pity for that man. None.

[@TheBub26]

making his daughter mickey mouse pancakes on a livestream would have added much to his popularity. instead he blew it by blowing her off. what a dope!

[@ikotsus2448]

So his downfall was him beeing less phony than he should? Stop his work to feed his kids junk because the audience demands it?

[@katie8325]

@@ikotsus2448since when are freshly made pancakes junk? And stopping to feed his kids full stop would be the responsible and non-neglectful thing to do.

[@ikotsus2448]

@@katie8325 Google: "are pancakes healthy". Kids should not immediately be fed whatever they ask for. Imagine a teacher stopping the lesson whenever a pupil asks for ice cream, and running to provide it. Are you from the USA perhaps?

[@TheresaTV1]

@@ikotsus2448 At the time, his “brand” was “single dad”. So he blatantly went off-brand during a livestream which angered his followers. Whether he was keeping it real vs. being phony is not important, because the event led to his downfall, so it was a really bad move regardless.

[@treydaypnw]

Trying to compete with her was his 1st mistake.

[@rebekah7635]

Yes - he was good at business, she had more natural warmth

[@poetcomic1]

The Pancake Gate was priceless. Also you comment about his putting his 'blood' into this book and that though blood-soaked books generally sell well, this didn't." You are a master of low key hilarious.

[@tarstarkusz]

The market for telling women what they want to hear is ENORMOUS. "Girl, you are perfect in every way. The only flaw you have is you care too much for others and don't reward yourself enough" You can fill a book with this just expressed in different ways in the various chapters and you have yourself a best seller. It's quite sad, actually.

[@deborahblackvideoediting8697]

Well put.

[@sassycat6468]

Best comment 👍

[@42words]

honestly the only bit you messed up is using the word _"women"_ instead of _"people"_

[@Molkatoftime]

Yeah it’s not just women. Jordan Peterson comes to mind

[@42words]

@@Molkatoftime well, this being a KZbin comment thread, either that guy will acknowledge the constructive criticism, or he'll double down and post an epic, reddit-tier wall of text about -women- sorry, about _"females"_ ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

[@Yikkoofficial]

It’s crazy to think some of us are living paycheck to paycheck hoping for financial stability, and yet there’s people who have it all and squander it. The things I would do if I had all that money, the people I would help, the organizations I would create…. What a world.

[@jenanne31]

What a sad case. Goes to show that we must help ourselves first before trying to help others. Thank you for your content, Dr. Grande!

[@dwaynemcallister7231]

A good lesson, thx for your comment.

[@yesterdayitrained]

@@dwaynemcallister7231💯

[@STOPLIKEBEGGARS101]

Agree, really sad and unnecessary death. I wonder if he received any honest helpful criticism and support, or if it was just mean redditors on one side and yes-men and a**-kissers on the other? Tragic case anyhow, I hope the kids are well taken care of.

[@Contessa6363]

Two Narcissists competing and colliding.

[@jennihubby2877]

That’s what I see too.

[@Get7Out7ofthe7Boat]

A Pair of Co Dependents both Writing a Self Help Book both Crashing and Burning into a Morbid and Gruesome tragedy.

[@michaelosgood9876]

'Power Couple' leads to the distinct possibility of two giant egos clashing down the path of life...

[@oolivegreen]

Man. He should have just stayed at Disney. His soul would be dead but not his body.

[@jakeelwell2132]

Ayy!

[@bdml77]

You don't know that

[@FreyjaYngling]

I feel like the people who worship influencers and celebrities are the same people who don't have an internal dialogue.

[@TrentAdam]

What you said makes no sense. If anything it's the people always thinking about nonsense. You'd actually be more capable without a constant internal dialogue.

[@FreyjaYngling]

@@TrentAdam Found the NPC.

[@cryptocred5754]

“Get a life” to a 4 year old. Bro, you are their life for the first 12 years.

[@dougrogan379]

Dude's whole life was " fake it till you make it" and when he reached the top he crumbled

[@megalopolis2015]

The kid wanted a family, but has a self absorbed mom and dad who died in his own pain and insecurities. I feel terribly for these children. No amount of money can undo the damage.

[@NetSunJin]

Not so much the mom as the dad. He moved on to another woman. She did not.

[@user-od3be8ny4o]

I REALLY enjoy your videos Dr Grande. I do wonder, why I (a Psychotherapist) enjoys these videos so much? I watch them during small breaks. When washing the pots. Folding clothes. After a long day of providing therapy. It's either these, or a horror movie. I'd be interested in your 'analysis' 😅 xxx

[@CostasCourtComposer]

He can only speculate on your case!

[@danieledugre1837]

Blood soaked books…😂

[@healerscreek]

I'm not diagnosing anyone. I'm only speculating about a situation like yours. Just my opinion. Now here's my analysis... It is enjoyable, in a world of BS, to hear an honest assessment of the BS world by someone high in conscientiousness and agreeableness, while low in neuroticism and narcissism. Grande's gift of gab is not grandiose nor gratuitous, but greatly garnering of gratitude for his gentle goodness and grace.

[@azulgaia7782]

It's intelligent entertainment, and after working so hard, you deserve a little fun and intrigue!

[@tanya8940]

​@@healerscreekhaha that was great!

[@TheFabiteffy]

As someone that was a Rachel and Dave supporter since 2018 and later after the divorce opened my eyes to the reality of self help. All that to say that I know a lot about them based on what they posted online. I want to say I’m extremely impressed with your knowledge of this case, you really touched all the points.

[@elizabethhamm5320]

He had advantages and opportunities that most people only dream of. When he failed to maintain relationship and professional success he could have gained insight. Life can be a good teacher if we are paying attention

[@lizb8499]

You should market that saying!

[@TheCanalZone]

Elizabeth, true that. If he was a real self help guru, he could have learned to find happiness and fulfilment in his corporate executive job. Practically every person out there would love to be a Disney executive living in a $3.5 million dollar home in a job they found easy.

[@xrfa7422]

This guy could not stand being lucky.

[@yesterdayitrained]

@@xrfa7422Yes- but there is some good in that- he wanted to feel like he had worked hard to get where he was. And he knew he didn’t. And yes, that troubled him. Many might say, who cares, he won the lottery. But it seems he was a bit deeper than that. Sadly, he went looking for something he couldn’t find, and that final failure eventually killed him.

[@casparillo987]

He felt that his job at Disney was not that hard, but that he earned a lot of money, which he felt that he didn't deserve 😕 - and for some reason, apparently, that didn't sit well with him. In comparison, many of us have/or had a job that is/was very hard, but unfortunately for us, we don't! /didn't earn a lot of money! I guess we are/were the fortunate ones!

[@PaquiPaqui73]

If Dave felt like an imposter at his job at Disney, somebody ought to write a self-help book for him titled "Take the Money and Run". That should have kept him alive. Anyway, rest in peace, Dave.

[@kathyglass2922]

That is a great book title

[@bluecollarlit]

There's a Woody Allen movie titled "Take The Money And Run."

[@CommercialForest]

An out of touch Disney executive? Shocking 😮

[@yesterdayitrained]

That’s not what this is really about …

[@josephbrown9685]

@@yesterdayitrainedTrue, but it does help to partially explain why Disney is currently such a mess. I imagine there are other top Disney executives who are similar.

[@johnnastrom9400]

LOL -- good one!

[@monicadefreitas8776]

@@josephbrown9685Disney is a mess? How so?

[@Susan-lf2hl]

​@@monicadefreitas8776 They fell into the woke swamp. .

[@healerscreek]

What?! Phony gurus selling a phony lifestyle?! 😂😂😂

[@terrybeasley5931]

Ya, who could have guessed? EVERYONE!

[@kenwillis8487]

Crazy right? I have never been one to follow trends or aspire to be like everyone else! I am amazed at what people will do to be like some random stranger who seems to be likable and therefore has a lot of subscribers! I somewhat understood the celebrity-fan constructive where fans will get haircut and buy shoes and clothes cause a sport star or tv star said to lol! But when people started paying $80-150 for Stanley mugs I was floored ! My wife who thank god does not follow social trends showed me the cup she wanted me to find cheap versions of so she could decorate them as Christmas gifts a couple years ago. Stanley who prior to the rise of the mug was sold mostly at Walmart and was like the cheaper option for tools and other stuff! Seriously who looks at some phony housewife and says she’s got it all if I buy everything she has all my problems will go away and I will achieve max happiness!

[@healerscreek]

@@kenwillis8487 Shallow people gonna do shallow things. I try to keep those kind of people out of my life because they are toxic to friendships and relationships in general. The main thing they value is their phony image, just like their phony gurus.

[@sueblack5794]

They held Christian marriage when their marriage was falling apart. Total grifters.

[@rubyhampton8245]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@sargonixofur1234]

“…inexplicably a big hit…”, that’s a lot of damage! Dr Grande is brutal with his dry little comments. Love ‘em.

[@tdb7992]

I just cannot imagine why anyone would want to be an influencer. It’s so vacuous, and the idea of being recognised in public, or being called out publicly just fills me with dread. I am very much an introvert and happy. I feel like people like these are the exact opposite of me and I struggle to understand their thoughts.

[@1Gr8Editrix]

This sad story confirms my cynicism about these "life coaches" or "influencers." Ditto for "support groups." Unfortunately I know so many who have ditched their jobs in pursuit of these airy-fairy professions.

[@DominiqueFrancon]

This is rather sad. The man had the epiphany about the vacuousness of social media influencers. This realization could have catapulted him into a measure of deeper wisdom.

[@jimmyrade7815]

This situation is an unfortunate consequence of putting his ego first.

[@yesterdayitrained]

It is very sad. He had insight and intelligence- he understood his high-paying job at Disney was something that more or less fell into his lap, saw it for what it was, and even admitted others worked harder and better than him. That’s rare. I think in many aspects he was not a bad person. I think whatever drove him to substance abuse, and the substance abuse itself, were very likely the cause of some of his concerning behavior. I don’t fault his wife, but I think the divorce was the beginning of the end for him. He was devastated- I think he truly loved Rachel and his family, and desperately wanted that back. Sadly, what likely ended his marriage also ended his life.

[@Bianca_Toeps]

@@yesterdayitrained If I recall correctly, based on Rachel's books, he didn't really want her, talked badly about her to his friends, and just like his job, she more or less fell into his lap. I believe a lot of Rachel's followers thought he was an asshole because of that. It's as if this man never actually made his own decisions, or stood for anything.

[@yesterdayitrained]

@@Bianca_ToepsYes- I read her 1st book (without really knowing who she was). She made it seem like she had this revelation she was in a toxic relationship, ended it, and then Dave realized how great she was/he loved her. And she was the mature one to turn him around. She said he was OK with everything she put in the book..but I wonder if he just said OK, but wasn’t really comfortable with it. The book does not reflect well on him.

[@mrs.reluctant4095]

Very compassionate analysis of this tragic case. I almost stopped breathing while listening. This case and its analysis nicely shows how complex human life can be.

[@yesterdayitrained]

What a spot-on, thoughtful, kind comment. Thank you!

[@bottlethrower1544]

Stopped breathing?

[@apolozamparelli5663]

Compassionate? Dr.Grande made fun of both of them repeatedly throughout the video, even until the end.

[@comingoutspinster-rebellik1479]

The way Dr Grande tells these tales and rounds them out at the end, resembles Aesop’s Fables. 👏 brilliant and what a tragically sad, yet good story to tell…many lessons from pride to envy etc.

[@tunazzinamehjabin5118]

Rachel's book of cliches came to my recommendation list so many times. I borrowed the book twice , but could not get past a few pages because it felt like it was written by somone who has never worked a minimum wage job a day in her life to survive. It read like a rich man's wife writing whatever stuff from her high horse that does not relate to real working class people. Don't understand how it was a huge hit!

[@MsNooneinparticular]

Blows my mind how, in this year of our Lord 2023/2024, so many adult humans are still looking for a guru. And we wonder how cults are still a thing. 🙄

[@JustMe-fo4ev]

People are more lost than ever imo so I think it should be quite the opposite - there shouldn't be surprise why so many are latching onto these things.

[@noseyandneutral]

If you reference the Lord, then your mind shouldn’t be blown because the Lord has spoken about false prophets and following behind the wrong leader….

[@asvegas777]

And mainstream religion is different how?

[@AnnieBugWilliams]

Well, look at how many still hang on religion….

[@alexp2915]

I wish someone would arbitrarily select me to have a high-profile job. 9 years since grad school, I’ve still had no luck getting a job higher than entry-level, and even after that, my managers kept treating me like I had to prove myself (in an office support job!)

[@cleanslate5313]

I hope you catch a break and land your dream job in 2024 !

[@alexp2915]

@@cleanslate5313 That means a lot - thanks! 🤗 Wishing you the best for 2024, too! 🙂

[@sugarjones731]

'Selling a lifestyle they did not actually possess'.... the crux of the issue.

[@LibraInSeattle]

OMG. I didn’t know that he passed away. That’s so sad. I may not have liked the way he and Rachel advised on a wide manner of subjects without the proper credentials to speak on any of them (I thought they were full of 💩), but I have a lot of empathy for anyone struggling with addiction. I lost my sister to alcoholism two years ago this past Thanksgiving, and I have 15 years of recovery from prescription drug addiction. I’m sending my prayers to his children. I hope they are getting the love and support that they need at this difficult time. 🙏🏼💜

[@esteemedmortal5917]

I salute anyone who works on their sobriety; that shit is extremely hard. So I also appreciate how it can overcome people. I’m sorry for your loss and congratulate you on your ongoing recovery!

[@CherylBrown-iz6xw]

We

[@anitaoconnell2799]

I read this story in the Wall Street Journal over the weekend. It is remarkable and I was telling my hubby about it. Dr. Grande's take on this is the perfect complement!

[@JaneDoesMind]

That's so sad, I didn't realize he had passed. An inauthentic life will always lead you down a path of destruction. Poor guy.

[@zenawarrior7442]

Seems like "power couples " are hiding many issues & are covering up low self esteem. Interesting case & excellent points again. Thanks Dr G😊💚💚

[@Jess-kn8vl]

It seems like they dont have genuine, authentic depth. They can read, learn and teach it, but they dont have it. Maybe more life lessons would help them reach that. Who knows.

[@zenawarrior7442]

​​​@@Jess-kn8vlTrue. Always easy to tell others, harder to live it. I meant more on the power couple saying that I see on crime sites often. Every power couple ends in tragedy, doesn't last or has major problems.

[@josephbrown9685]

The inherent problem with “power couples” is that they don’t necessarily want to share power. When both have huge egos, they tend to also compete with each other for dominance. Case in point, the wife called her business venture 3% to mock her husband’s doubts about its potential for success.

[@horrortackleharry]

Always good to hear Dr. Grande contemptuously pronounce "Tick... Tock".

[@cybermandan1960]

"Disney Executive to Self-Help Guru" "Scumbag to Scumbag."

[@RonaldEarlWilsher]

Linear move.

[@rubyhampton8245]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@pfschuyler]

This is a pretty fascinating case actually. It seems representative of mental health issues and social media clashing together with unexpected consequences.

[@yesterdayitrained]

Very well said!

[@mangafq8]

Imagine making a fortune without even trying. He had no talent but God blessed him with material success. Love the TikTok pronunciation. Dr Grande always slays it!😂

[@Meela234]

My dream job!

[@Deploracle]

Material success is never a blessing.

[@jv-ep2tc]

@@Deploracle not so. you can do a lot of good with it.

[@pjnix5618]

@@Deploracleare you kidding ? He used his wealth in the worst way possible … when you are blessed … love your family and boost others with it. Nothing wrong with being wealthy!

[@Deploracle]

@@pjnix5618 Everyone who has a lot of money loves it, and we know what the love of money is the root of.

[@rhondajohnson8310]

Ok, now. I remember hearing about this. I thought that they said it was a heart attack but implied something else happened. I didn't know it was fentanyl. Just a big old mess. He should have just left the guru lifestyle to his ex wife. Sad story though

[@danparish1344]

I work at a financial firm that has some celebrity clients. Their death certificates don’t always match what is released publicly. Drug overdose can be embarrassing to their legacy and the family might still depend on revenue from book sales. One was a famous self help guru who died from a drug overdose - the appearance of having his life together was important for the sake of his books.

[@yesterdayitrained]

Yes- I heard heart attack, and of course, unkind rumors. But I didn’t realize anything else was later found.

[@1234cheerful]

it has been my understanding that drug dealers cut their heroin with fentanyl but it's not like they carefully weigh it out. So you don't know what strength you are getting, and fentanyl is VERY STRONG, so it kills people who think they are getting a manageable dose of the drug they have used before and gotten away with it. It's so sad to hear he died alone with his phone. Like Tony Hsieh dying in his garden shed, basically alone but for an employee hanging around the area.

[@dianecripps204]

I have the answer. And I will give you my self help advice for free. Ignore social media influencers.

[@havasuDon]

I knew Dave 30 plus years. An incredibly kind, intelligent individual. The whole situation is tragic. There are significantly more factors involved than were depicted here. Rest In Peace my good friend.

[@light1518]

Peace be with you both 🤗

[@Lauren-i8i]

❤

[@taylorpnw612]

I could tell Dave was doing coke before he died and it's so sad that his life ended the way it did. I didn't like him as a person but I feel so sad for his kids. Him joining the Hollis Co was the beginning of the end for him.

[@mikehoben7341]

How could you tell, what kind of signs were u seeing?

[@taylorpnw612]

@@mikehoben7341 I watched the live stream Dr. Grande mentioned where he spent hours begging people to buy his book and ignoring his daughter. It was really his behavior in that particular live stream that convinced me. Just the way he was talking and acting. It's a little hard to articulate but it reminded me of the coked up line cooks I used to work with. After that I started noticing it more from him, and Heidi.

[@KelseyDunlevy]

​@@taylorpnw612 I truly wonder how much Heidi knows... or how much she is hiding the truth. I'm not convinced she didn't know about Dave's drug use and alcohol abuse.

[@tianna1116]

@@taylorpnw612ah yes, we call that event “pancake-gate”. I could tell at that point as well, he was SO intense and just couldn’t stop rambling

[@tianna1116]

@@KelseyDunlevyI think she probably knew.. I feel bad for her. Less bad for Rachel, she just disgusts me

[@mudeye5739]

Dr Grande nailed the self-help business model. There's gold to be mined in people's misery.

[@vickinoeske1154]

I'm sure that there are many people who would have traded places with Dave career-wise while he was an executive at Disney. He just whined about feeling unfulfilled. Please.

[@kathyglass2922]

For real. I only need to do this for 6 months and I'm set.

[@leontrotsky7816]

If you're in a job where you aren't surrounded by people who could do what you do, it's actually pretty unhealthy. Irreplaceable people can't be promoted, can't leave, can't go on holiday...

[@rebekah7635]

Of course a Trot gets it :)

[@tbell1698]

As usual, Dr Grande's combination of insight, balance of subtlety and sarcasm and his clever, dry wit is absolutely brilliant. I appreciate the way Dr. Grande offers his perspective and delivers his messages.

[@tianna1116]

I followed this family very closely after his wife’s epic downfall, so many dynamics at work and honestly could be a 15 hour deep dive with the amount of stuff that happened!

[@NetSunJin]

What was her downfall?

[@tianna1116]

@@NetSunJin she made a series of unwise and unethical decisions that all sort of blew up at once, then she insulted a fan and her house cleaner during a live. Then she got caught plagiarizing yet again and blamed it on her “team”, doubled down and offended even more people with her terrible “apology” for the plagiarism (she plagiarized Maya Angelou, people were pissed). It’s all a bit muddled but take my word for it she’s a self absorbed fake shallow person..

[@charlesgerety1403]

I'm always skeptical of so called self help guru's. They give me phony scam like vibes. They tend to hypocritical , off putting and without real substance. One doesn't need another to tell them how to be.

[@charlesgerety1403]

​@@boosqueezy2418 Exactly 💯

[@charlesgerety1403]

@@kaycee557 I went with skeptical now. Thanks for the correction

[@KimberlyLetsGo]

Those that need to tell others how to be desperately need to have someone tell THEM how to be. It's the Dunning Kruger Effect.

[@charlesgerety1403]

@@KimberlyLetsGo Just be yourself

[@dolorestroeller4734]

No different than all those so called religious leaders speakers. They annoy me even more

[@dlc5166]

And somehow the rest of society happily survives in the obscurity of their normal, everyday beautiful little non-eventful lives. Sending heartfelt sympathies to the family and, if I could, to Dave himself.

[@esteemedmortal5917]

There have been times where I’ve felt like I had things together and could give advice and times where I’ve been convinced of my utter lack of understanding of the world. What is easy to implement when you’re on an upswing becomes a bitter pill to swallow when things are falling apart.

[@cgl1622]

"Contained many failed attempts at humor?" I would tread carefully on that ground, doctor

[@manewland1]

Poor Dave Hollis; his example proves that satisfaction and success don't depend on wealth and fame. He literally had everything but he still wasn't happy (even if he felt his professional life was devoid of meaning, he was a father; so many parents work so hard to provide for their kids and he didn't have to). Thanks, as always, Dr. Grande.

[@rebeccagardner5641]

I need to hear Dr. Grande's delivery of "Girl ... Wash your face" and "girl .. stop apologizing" on a loop 😂😂

[@tinderbox218]

Anyone claiming to be any kind of "life coach" or guru should be highly suspect. They are often/always the last people who should be attempting to guide other's lives.

[@zovalentine7305]

Your analysis is ALWAYS calm, thorough and enjoyable no matter the sadness of the subject. Thank you❗

[@tenfodaddy4351]

Dr. Grande has the best ASMR voice I've ever heard. Also impressed with the depth and thoroughness of his research and content. Top notch.

[@traceyhilder6640]

I agree that’s why I like his videos plus great content

[@ethorii]

Most people would be thrilled to have 10% of his wealth and it wasnt enough. This is a great lesson on taking something wonderful for granted and trashing it.

[@edmundwhitaker314]

Brilliant analysis again.I am quite fed up with these self help gurus especially in areas of " manifestation ".Many of them are so convincing especially when giving talks.Unfortunatey a lot of the public are gullible and that these "guru's" are simply business people earning good money.

[@RingoBuns]

“On the social media platform… tick-TOCK” never gets old. I love the characterization.

[@OfficialFoodieBeauty]

Dr. Grande's humor and one liners are extraordinarily under rated

[@nihilismistheonlyway4680]

Him and rachel had had huge seminars about "how to have a successful marriage" literally about the time they were planning to announce their divorce. Such b.s.

[@catseatcookiessofiagacha5210]

I vaguely remembered this. I know his ex was one of the original "girl bosses". What a tragedy. RIP.

[@TheMadmatt7]

If Dave had just hung around for a few more months, he could have embraced a truly harrowing and near-impossible task that no one wanted: selling the current garbage lineup of Disney films to theaters. Ok, that was mean...

[@erikschultz6865]

I'm a bad guy. I'm having trouble shedding a tear for this dude.

[@sydneyfairbairn3773]

They forgot the first rule, don't quit your day job.

[@peggystoutemorin4529]

These are the images of America that I so despise, the ones which broadcast that people who have tons of money, impressive titles, fluorescent white teeth, a gigantic house and a designer wardrobe are who we should want to be. The truth is, a great many of them are not especially talented. As long as they have a cheering audience, they will recite their psychobabble with great ease, just like a trained seal. While they're drowning in their inadequacies, the drugs and alcohol help them through another terrifying day. This image is what they tell Americans they should strive for -- the money, the fake amazing marriage, fake everything, while they're smiling and living their lives of quiet desperation. I prefer to be unknown, regular, and well adjusted.

[@amandacarroll6156]

This is incredibly sad; there are so many people dealing with the same issue.

[@wilm2109]

Never thought I'd pity a wealthy executive, but I'll give him credit for being self-aware enough to know how phony these powerful positions typically are. Dave had it all and could do or be pretty much anything he wanted yet he chooses to hop from one sham to even bigger one. A social media influencer, a poor choice to say the least if looking for personal fulfillment.

[@carolrado5730]

D. Grande provides digestible listening; one can do other things at the same time while comprehending the info. Using a (sorely needed) traditional 1900's slower pace of speech, a calm tone and few, but concise words he communicates facts w just a few dry humor flourishes, and ends with inciteful psychological summaries. He deserves his success.

[@elizabethwarman9028]

Hi Dr Grande, good morning from Southern California. Excellent analysis. It is sad how Dave's life ended. He should have stayed at Disney. As my GrandDad said, " Fame isn't what it is cracked up to be!" Same applies as a social media influencer.

[@zovalentine7305]

RIP Dave Hollis🙏 14 February 1975 ~ 11 February 2023⚘

[@alvinbuana5905]

Hi, Dr. Grande. Keep up doing the good work with your videos and love your humor. You should do more videos where you conlude with lessons we can learn from this case you present. And as for this case, sometimes it is like a caution for us about so-called self-help gurus because not all of them are factual in their sayings. Also I would like to recommend to do a case on Lou Pearlman , because I felt everyone deserves to know the case, in which at least for me reminds me of be careful of someone who to trust. I would like to know your take on that analysis. Thank you

[@bipolarewok]

I gotta be honest, I wasn't liking this guy at all until he said "get a life" to a four year old. That's the funniest thing I've ever heard.

[@jakeelwell2132]

LOL is there a video of that?

[@BetaBuxDelux]

I was hoping he called the children’s book “Get a Life”.

[@babblingalong7689]

😁

[@blynch2117]

I see Rachel's book everyday at my job. I never understood it🤔🤔

[@megankwisdom]

Same I tried to read it a few years ago and couldn't get past the first few pages it was so bad 😬 I don't understand the appeal at all

[@SavLzt]

There's nothing to understand - it's bland, recycled garbage from a writer with no insight who just wanted to be Insta-famous ;)

[@phdtobe]

Wow! A Netflix mini-series based on this couple could be brutal! Of course, the ex-wife would object to it being made unless she had control over the narrative.

[@Tina06019]

Very sad story. I admit that I did not admire either him or his wife, but what a shame to die like that.

[@elif6908]

Whatever happened with Rachel and Dave I’m heartbroken for their kids, it’s hard to imagine what they feel and I hope they can find peace

[@vickislominski7618]

Best "Item" list ever. That shirt is perfect on you. I'm still trying to learn how to say "TiK ToK" 😂

[@juliedaniels5594]

Social Influencer! Why are people letting them rot their brains?

[@helpyourcattodrive]

Thank you for covering pancake gate for us, Dr. Grande.❤ I find all your videos so timely and informative. ❤ These are important issues and your pov is calming and meaningful.❤

[@caucasoidape8838]

They help themselves to your wallet. I like the contempt Dr. Grande shows towards the ridiculous name of "Tic-Toc".

[@okoala62]

Great video and great analysis! Dave’s was definitely a story to learn from and I sincerely wish my sincerest condolences to his children and loved ones.

[@janenns9831]

I was a big fan of his wife when she first released her book but it was obvious the fame got to her. I liked Dave, I always saw him in the background but it’s crazy how one never knows what one is going through. So devastated for his kids loss.

[@Hilz28]

"Even though the market for blood-soaked books is surprisingly robust, Dave's book was not well written, and nobody was interested in buying it." Dr. Grande is such a savage, I love it 😂😂😂

[@jv-ep2tc]

I had not heard of Dave Hollis before this. I would be interested to know what was the childhood trauma that set him up for the sad events of his adulthood. [heal your pain people! it will kill you]

[@quietstorm6553]

Telling your kid to "get a life" when she asked you for pancakes is so random and unexpected that it's actually kinda funny.

[@marlinfisher2529]

So happy to be watching your you tube channel again. It means the torture of my self employed day is at an end. An I can kick back and just be me. Great analysis. Another grim family situation!

[@EricDodsonLectures]

Success that feeds our inner demons almost always results in disaster.

[@scottmatznick3140]

Only thing a Disney exec is capable of helping is to destroy my childhood.

[@Scrabble12]

Your videos have the most complete titles on youtube. They’re concise and appropriately descriptive