Disowned by my family - The Years Before (Gaslighting) |

[@kohouwd]

Bro you gotta help family man

[@justme87999]

No you dont

[@ElementG]

Here take this 🤡

[@JoshuaFluke1]

Even if they steal? Even if they pawn your shit? Even if they secretly write down your credit cards and max them out? Even if they take a loan out in your name and never pay it? Even if they use your car and get in a hit and run? Even when they lie about having a job? I DID help family.

[@emanuelmatos9102]

Why exactly tho why does someone have to help the family that doesn't help you ? Are you gonna answer?

[@arielnavarro6283]

got another joke?

[@jadejones2583]

They’re not your responsibility. There’s a difference between a person who needs help and a parasite.

[@vickyham2013]

Amen!!

[@MsLove-co3um]

There you go!

[@seriouscat2231]

It would be a funny situation if someone had parents as irresponsible and manipulative and abusive as his but who had all the money they needed. I mean, many probably do, but his situation may make someone think that only money can cause problems like this.

[@debeb5148]

That person who needs "help" can go get a job too btw

[@patrickmahany9268]

This man literally carried two generations on his back. What a legend.

[@johnnguy4342]

Thats a lighter way of seeing it haha

[@alexandrapower6445]

Patrick M....That's an astute summary in a nutshell. Profound yet simple. He is definitely a legend. Courageous in the face of painful grief.

[@mmanda515]

Indeed. Many cannot truly even imagine the utter strength (& toll) it takes. Stay safe & be well. #HiddenAbuse #DoctorRamani #LifeCode "B.A.I.T.E.R.S." #LisaARomano #PsychopathFree #Manipulation #GREYROCK #NoContact

[@nunyerbidness6417]

That's normal. His, and his offspring if he so chooses to have any. He owes his elders nothing whatsoever.

[@1alayzzia]

As someone that had been here: not a legend. Masochistic? Yeah. There is nothing legendary about hurting yourself over and over again. Getting out of it: that's a good thing.

[@auntyentity2645]

Who's the adult here. This guy has every right to walk away. I'm tired of people equating money with love.

[@hasselnttper3730]

@William Mills Agreed. I'm tired of seeing politics everywhere I go. It's not healthy. Libertarian here

[@pleaseenteranamelol711]

(lobster heriarchy)

[@XD6785]

@@Accidentlly0nPurpose how's your wife's boyfriend doing?

[@alexandrapower6445]

@@Accidentlly0nPurpose Why, and how, do so many manage to turn everything into a political comment???!!! I'm sick of it. I detest politics. It breeds mistrust, destroys lives and tears families and friends apart. It kills people too. Inc those whom risk their lives daily to save those such as yours! If what recently occurred in Capitol Hill has not taught anyone anything about the dangers of politics, (religion elsewhere too), then it is a double tragedy from a profoundly powerful horrific lesson unlearned. Why does every individual have their individuality erased by the grouping into two sides? Why are people either on Left or Right? What ever happened to the middle and balance? It must be very wobbly and tiring deciding which leg to stand on. I agree with William Mills and others stating this is not the place for a political post. Were it not for recent events, I would have ignored it. But there is no "lol". There is nothing funny. And I just had to address it....sorry about that to others though!

[@alexandrapower6445]

@@pleaseenteranamelol711 Sure it's not the Patriarchy (Dr Jordan Peterson)?

[@foreignworks]

ppl who say "don't talk to your parent that way" that goes both ways. parents should also not be abusing their children.

[@jennifermccarthy7063]

This broke my heart. It’s okay to cut off toxic family members. Blood ain’t thicker than peace of mind, period

[@tejashreepotdar4001]

That's absolutely on point.. Great lines

[@FermiGBM1]

Exactly look forward to move overseas again

[@alexanderespinoza]

The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.

[@jennifermccarthy7063]

@@gillypuente1794 ok Karen

[@jennifermccarthy7063]

@@alexanderespinoza 👁👄👁

[@TheSdailey]

If a person hasn't experienced this abuse they won't understand. Stand in your truth it helps your healing

[@aaron6968]

True! I can’t seem to process how ones own parents can be so narcissistic and parasitic with their own son.

[@TheSdailey]

@@aaron6968 it's who they are. I recommend alba weinmann the empath narcissist dance

[@NationandState]

Of course, but he's a liar. He's employed and makes money. We are on his monetized channel right now.

[@husher5142]

This 100%. I resorted to recording conversations and writing down everything that happened in the moment and then going back to it a week or month later to review what happened. Or how it came about, because in the moment you think you are or *could* be wrong - you are so emotionally invested, but the reality is they are nuts.

[@aaron6968]

@@NationandState isn’t he talking about a point in his life when he was unemployed though? Regardless, nobody deserves to be treated that way

[@SpoonLady]

I have a large following and have often wanted to talk about my family. You've got guts, it's hard. Thanks for the courage.

[@shellyyoung4464]

I absolutely love you Abby...your spoon skills and not afraid of recording the teeth video!!! Love from Georgia!!!

[@JoshuaFluke1]

Don't be afraid of the stigma.

[@sebastianjimenezbienen7045]

​@@JoshuaFluke1 Hey man. Very fucked up what you're going through. A big part of the reason why most professional athletes end up broke is exactly this kind of thing. Their families and those around them expect to have the good life and for them to maintain and spoil them, and it's not easy to maintain a village, even if you're a millionaire, especially when the going gets tough (which it will). It's also hard to get your shit in order if the people you are supporting don't have their shit in order. I think you should watch the movie What's Eating Gilbert Grape if you haven't already. It's about this exact kind of situation where one guy has to burden the weight of his entire family which only leads to resentment and the further degeneration of their relationship. It also offers some glimmer of hope on how to escape this kind of trap, and move on from it. Really think you'd get a lot of value from it.

[@augia5051]

Once i met a guy at a gas station in jacksonville. He had a guitar on his back and struck up a little conversation. He told me about how he played with the "spoon lady" and seemed so proud of it. I thought it was kinda weird but i looked up "spoon lady" when i got home and now im jealous of him lol.

[@imangiomo]

@@JoshuaFluke1 those last texts sent to you mom were gross. Unfortunately when she is gone, that's what you will have to look back on. I can say from experience (& I've gone thru stuff with family that is beyond disturbing), that no matter what, it's not worth it. Fix it while you still can. Not with $, but whatever else.. or regret will be there waiting at the end. ✌🏼&💚💛💚

[@ABambi-bx5wh]

Number 1 tip, NEVER tell narcissistic parents how much money you have. They will think they’re entitled to it

[@why7would7joO]

Your comment sent chills down my spine.

[@falistiq]

Yeah

[@daze.d5462]

I don't have a job yet but I'm going to do the same. Money brings out the evil in a person.

[@VxDxLx]

This is facts, thankfully I only have witnessed other people learn this rather then having to learn through experience.

[@thahirshibu5042]

the other option is forcing the kid to sign complete control of their bank accounts over to them. then forcibly remove him from the equation, society today will just chalk it up to suicide.

[@katiesmith661]

It blows my mind when people use God as a weapon. I’m never surprised but always disappointed.

[@johnagcaoili9389]

Thou shalt not take the Lord's name in vain

[@Lanath12]

That’s why we invented god in the first place.

[@ironwillie7666]

We all do it... Its the use of authority argument, problem is, one might not subscribe to that authority.

[@BichaelStevens]

@@johnagcaoili9389 I named my buttwipes "God" and "Allah"

[@johnagcaoili9389]

@@BichaelStevens very funny. You do you. ​My point about the 2nd commandment was exactly Katie Smith's comment; i.e. I was agreeing with her. For Christians, we believe that humans are created in the "Image of God". As such, we are supposed to represent God to others through virtues. When we sin (lie, steal, kill, et al), we misrepresent God and are not living up to our duties as divine ambassadors. This is even graver when people claim to kill in God's name. This is exactly what's wrong with Joshua's family (grandma in particular). They are using God's name to try and assert unjust control and to steal from him.

[@meh4972]

Everyone on here saying he is wrong for not helping his family, y’all are probably one of those manipulative family member’s. My husband and I live farrrrr away from manipulative relatives.

[@spankapodomace8628]

True thats what i was thinking too

[@Karina_Engr]

Bingo!

[@Karina_Engr]

The crazy thing is, some KNOW they’re the ones doing this, and some others LET their ego keep them in the dark. Responsibility vs. blame is a greate video on the YT actualized.org channel. There are so many resources and knowledge out there(free!) so there isn’t an excuse.

[@reginap942]

Good for you

[@berserkbaahu2187]

What's wrong in helping family? Lot of people give donations to unknown people. But it's ur life it's ur choice.

[@skipper6932]

his family literally extorted him for years thats not family thats a crime

[@alexandrapower6445]

It is a crime. It's Financial Abuse

[@russellswonderfullyweirdwo8493]

@@alexandrapower6445 PFFFFFFFFT! No one held a gun to his head. He's finally wised up, but cannot claim abuse. He WAS the better person, until he started spillin tea on youtube.

[@alexandrapower6445]

@@russellswonderfullyweirdwo8493 No one needs to hold a gun to your head. There are different weapons like using the suicide of a friend as emotional leverage to get you to "save" the other person. Or just because you are too kind and feel you really should help before you eventually realise you really should not. In the UK, financial behaviour as this is legally classified as abuse if using emotional leverage, (Inc religion), and/or against a vulnerable person. Maybe US is different. It's not am offence if a cheque bounces in UK But I understand it is total opposite in US? Everywhere is different. But it's still financial abuse Yes he escaped despite the initial obvious pain in doing so. That takes courage to walk away from when they meant so much to through life. Only to betray you. But it takes something really bad to push you to that extreme anyway. He did good. And him "spilling it all over KZbin" is not only good for him emotionally and financially, (not continuing to lose money because of them by giving it to a therapist instead), but is helping others too. So many thinking it was only them, now realise differently. Anything helping another is good

[@russellswonderfullyweirdwo8493]

@@alexandrapower6445 Oh your in the UK nuff said. Yeah sorry two wrongs dont make a right. They were greedy yes, he helped them more than I personally would have, that was his choice. But as much as they used him for money, he's doing the same with pity clout. EXCEPT they never publicly defamed him. Maybe someone should help them make a youtube channel. REALLY get some youtube drama going for clicks and sympathy...

[@alexandrapower6445]

@@russellswonderfullyweirdwo8493 I am unsure what ".. from UK."nuff said" implies, if anything at all? I don't make such comments to those elsewhere. I'm unsure what the "two" wrongs are otherwise I would agree. Defamation necessitates slander or libel. False or manipulated allegations for the purpose of destroying a person's true character. There is no defamation because he evidenced everything with text communication screenshots. He has not lied or stated anything not evidenced. As you stated earlier, he eventually "came to his senses" and did the sensible thing. You don't agree with him talking about a subject which is usually kept silent. There's nothing wrong in having an opinion. You're fully entitled to yours and don't need anyone telling you otherwise. My opinion is that he has opened up a subject which is helping many whom thought they were alone. Plus he's expressing the emotions of it all from Day 1 to final acceptance. He's not just saving a fortune on useless therapy but is additionally helping others on this painful subject too. That's just mine, and many others opinion. You have a right to think differently too. It does not necessitate disparaging comments. Yes. I am from UK. And it feels the same to experience here as it does to those in US. It helps to hear another's experience. If it was not substantiated with evidence, then that would be an entirely different story and I have absolutely no doubt that they would have sued him in a heartbeat were that the case. Only the evidence proves they haven't a leg to stand in. They're horrible, greedy people with no compassion. What is far worse to me personally is not money it's that they revealed total absence of care re his mental or physical health. Were he a working horse, they'd have been flogging it until it took its last step. Then left it to die or shot it. No longer useful to them. I get why some think as you do. But many out there are helped when realising it's not just them and their feelings are validated. Or they learn what they have to do and what to expect to feel when doing so. That has to be better than keeping silent. They don't deserve anonymity over helping others. As long as it's not criminal, they do not get to decide how he chooses to deal with his pain. I do think the girlfriend and best friend story take it into a different category though. It serves no purpose other than to sadly detract from the originality and importance of the financial one. But we all make mistakes and he's suffered a lot of betrayal, but I hope he stays kind and rises above it outside of the family one.

[@dark1078jkl]

People keep forgetting that you don’t get to choose if you want to be born into this world. You don’t owe your parents anything especially based on the way they treated you.

[@anonymousguy720]

You do owe your parents because they gave you the ability for life, but if they refuse to treat you like an individual after you are 24, they are hurting the relationship. If your parents treat you with respect and compassion, it is your job to take care of them, when they can’t take care of themselves as they did for you. If they fail to raise you or treat you with respect, you don’t owe them anything. Like all relationships it is a get what you give situation.

[@JoshuaFluke1]

@@anonymousguy720 if you want to help them do so, if not, don't. It is still there job to setup a financially secure future for themselves. Children are not retirement plans.

[@hunggamerofficial3252]

@@anonymousguy720 "Because they give you the ability for life" is not true. I hear this all the time from my parents, and from other parents as well. But that ain't true. Why? Because, those parents always say "I have given you the ability for life" after they have treated their kids like s**t, beat them up badly for no reasons(or just because they are mad at each other, or the father got drunk), etc.... In short, if you can choose your parents, then you do owe them something. If you can't, you don't owe them anything, just because they "give birth" to you. I haven't even mentioned the fact that parents in my country are very irresponsible for their actions. They always say one thing and do another, show their kids bad examples of themselves. But when their kids learned from their examples, the parents always say "We did not teach you to be a bad person", and i was like "Really"????

[@DarthVadent2]

@@anonymousguy720 The onus isn't on the offspring to care for the needs of the parents, especially at the behest of their psychological and financial detriment. The decision to undergo a pregnancy is not partaken by the one being conceived, therefore they are not complicit in any of the consequences associated with their own procreation. A child is not a lifetime indentured servant to their parents desires, if your motivation for having children is as a future safety net for your own negligence then that's nothing more than exploitation and DCFS needs to abrogate you of your custodial rights.

[@sauravjain6135]

@@JoshuaFluke1 I'm following you for 2 years, but this is my first time that I'm not agreed with your thoughts.

[@abud2548]

Damn, this guy raised his own parents.

[@ServantStatusMinistries]

sadly this is called parentified. I was victim of it too

[@attitudeproblem6462]

Should’ve flushed them down the toilet.

[@FLWVideosYT]

You made a very hard decision but the right decision. There are many people in the same situation that admire your courage and who knows, maybe these videos give them what they need to step up.

[@Kronic1Chillz]

That is exactly what he has done. Without even knowing Josh has provided tremendous support.

[@hdjiknnb]

I’ve never been in that position, but to me it isn’t that hard to decide, you are your own person and responsible for yourself, helping family is okay to a certain extent, but not when you’re drowning yourself, he cares about his family and it would be best if he took care of himself because that’s what being an adult is about, once you’re 18 you don’t have any responsibilities to no one except the law, when you realize that your family is toxic and taking advantage of you just walk away and don’t look back, leave the door open if they change, but it’s their choice if they do, if they steal then call the police, if they insult you block them, it’s for their own good, they shouldn’t associate their love with how much money their son gives them, maybe later things will change like they always have.

[@jimdandy8996]

Next time they send you a text asking for money send them back a link to local jobs listed online.

[@noahfranks984]

Lol FLW Videos? This is a weird connection 😂

[@Speeding_faster]

That’s right! Abusive parents, brothers, wives, lovers, friends are everywhere. Nice to help them when they need you but if they abuse you just push the ignore button. So don’t feel bad.

[@michellegomes2030]

Wow, you didn’t have food in your home and they still asked you for money? Omg, this is beyond.

[@thatamberchick]

“They brought you into this world”. Right. As a mother, I understand this so much differently now. I brought my son into this world. It wasn’t his choice, it was mine. He asked for none of my BS, he just wants love. Sure, I brought him into this world, he owes me nothing, I owe him everything. You owed your parents nothing. Your parent didn’t birth a meal ticket. If a son or daughter chooses to help their parents, great. They don’t owe them. That ‘they brought you into this world’ is the greatest form of manipulation and needs to stop.

[@Nabee_H]

No one asked to be brought into this world. period.

[@losttale1]

Thank god decent chicks exist

[@thatamberchick]

@@losttale1 definitely. It may seem like there’s only a few sometimes, but I promise we don’t all have the same crazy outlooks on life. 😄

[@thatamberchick]

You are all so right. I grew up around a lot of super religious people too who believed that you owed your very life to your parents....I realized that was a very manipulative mindset when I became a parent. The way I see it is if my son wants to help me in my old age, cool, but I could never expect that of him. I don’t think it’s right to think that way at all. Guess it took growing up and starting to think for myself to realize it, as sad as that sounds. It irks me to no end to hear someone try and guilt anyone into ‘owing’ another person anything, especially when a relationship is so obviously toxic. I know that the decision to cut off a toxic family relationship is never an easy decision, I guess I just feel this whole video a lot because I’ve been on both sides of the relationship, as a mom and as a daughter (luckily after years of not speaking my folks and I were able to work it out but that’s not always the case).

[@thatamberchick]

@Amanda Anderson exactly!!!

[@all4bspinnin311]

You can hear the anxiety/hurt in Josh's voice . I feel for you man.

[@detroitbaby161]

Any angst Josh feels from this point forward from his family will be his own fault. You cannot put your hand back on a hot stove and not expect to get burned.

[@jamesbyrne9312]

What? Lol

[@shadelings]

@@detroitbaby161 You kidding me? Something tells me you've never been in a similar situation where you were forced to disown your family for your own well being. To say there would be no angst after that point is simply asinine and borderline sociopathic due to complete lack of empathy. WTF is wrong with you??

[@detroitbaby161]

@@shadelings You have no idea. I came out of a severely physically and emotionally abusive family. There’s a time when you have to let yourself heal by moving away

[@shadelings]

@@detroitbaby161 I'm very sorry to hear that. And that's very true about healing but to make such a black and white statement that there should be no more angst/anxiety, etc after the point where one removes oneself from such a toxic familial situation just seems awfully severe to the point of being devoid of empathy.

[@dinnae]

Dude, I just randomly got recommended this video and let me say one thing: YOU ARE NOT A BAD SON. YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON FOR NOT HELPING WITHOUT LIMITS. And you don't have to explain yourself to any of us. Take some time to be selfish. You've earned it. Give yourself some time to heal.

[@mjlvnv]

When my adult children had to move back to my house because of COVID, I didn’t charge them rent or anything so they could work on getting new jobs. All are back working. My home is always theirs too. No one however has the right to treat you like their personal bank account. You take care and go on to have an amazing life with your own family ❤️

[@RealHIFIHelp]

They don't believe in god, they believe in emotional blackmail.

[@berserkbaahu2187]

😂 damn true.

[@robertcristando8007]

You hit the nail right on the head...narcissists don’t have relationships, they have hostages!

[@guardiansanimalrescuestate7289]

Religious blackmail. Where they don’t act like Christians but expect everyone else to.

[@nancygrimm2897]

Sounds like your grandparents wanted you to support your parents so they wouldn’t have to.

[@reginap942]

😂😂😂

[@bigearth2397]

Because the grandparents raised a loser!

[@nagmastergeneral948]

That's exactly right Nancy Grimm! They clearly failed their son, in the first place and gave up on him a long time ago. Loser Grandparents.

[@patriciaparker7663]

Its very sad that parent would do such a thing. My heart goes out to him.

[@dab0331]

They who'd rather have someone who's barely starting his life to go broke rather than themselves, people who gave already lived their lives. Selfish as fuck

[@ModestoGarzaLIVE]

The harsh reality for your "Christian" family is that you really had the biblical perspective. Recommend they read the book of Proverbs.

[@Amy-dk3of]

They've probably never opened a Bible either 🥴

[@danielmick5236]

they cant read what they wont. they would just either ignore or change the topic

[@johnbilljapaneselove]

thats the point of evangelicals. either take religion to the word like Westboro, Mormons or Jehova Witnesses, or never read the bible at all like these kinds of "Christian" families.

[@luce2871]

@@johnbilljapaneselove That is not true. Westboro do not represent christianity! I'm sorry if you have had bad experiences with people who profess to be christians. People who really follow Christ follow his example and put others before themself, love their neighbour, are humble and giving. God bless

[@cassgray9340]

Exactly. It’s not uncommon for narcissists and manipulators to invoke God to present themselves in a false light. It is absolutely reprehensible. God does not smile on their sin.

[@freestang6662]

When your family is a bunch of emotionally manipulative narcissists, you have to go no contact.

[@Safferpsyche]

They brought you into this world. It's THEIR responsibility to care about your mental health and not gaslight and manipulate you. You are their CHILD, not their Slave to Sponge off of.

[@christianthatcher771]

@Kitty It's absolutely disgusting how commonplace this kind of behavior and mentality this has become.... These kinds of so called "family" members make me fucking sick

[@slindilengema9389]

Tell my mom that, she thinks i owe her just because she gave birth to me. Which i didn't ask for

[@christianthatcher771]

@@slindilengema9389 I know exactly where you're coming from on that one. She's wrong, and if she's going to act that way and have that kind of mentality, then there's no point in trying to say anything to someone like that and you don't owe her shit.

[@SpiritDragoness]

@@slindilengema9389 my mom was the same. There came a point where i had to make that hard decision and cut her off.

[@MsKK909]

No contact is often the only way to deal with entitled narcissists..... Telling the truth is never wrong. Face it...you’re the scape goat child. Stay strong.

[@oregoncoastbeachcomber2060]

Josh, as a mother, my heart breaks for you. I wish you didn't have to go through all of that pain from your family. You deserved better from so-called family. You are a strong, brave young man. Keep your chin up and know that lots of us care and want to see you succeed. Stick to your decision. It was the right one.

[@NateshasAmbience]

People who give the cliche lines about helping family have clearly never been in your shoes. I know what it’s like. Although, I am really sorry for your experiences, it is strangely comforting to know that I am not alone. Thanks for posting.

[@angelbrumfield6134]

Any time I've heard a family talk strongly about how family should always be there, it's been from the family members that steal, use, and abuse the families kindness. I don't expect blind loyalty from anyone and I dont need to because I'm not an asshole.

[@cyndismith4939]

Like he said, there is a difference between help and enabling.

[@kidtheglobetrotter75]

@@angelbrumfield6134 thank you 🙏🏾 !!!! That applies to my own mom as well, she told me weeks ago « I made you so that when you grow up you can take care of me » like I’m a slave and I told her « no that doesn’t work like that ».

[@inestomlinson3]

You did the right thing. It’s a parents job to raise their children. It is not the job of their children to raise their parents.

[@jadordiorre2]

1000%

[@cyndismith4939]

There is nothing wrong with helping parents who can't help themselves but these are people who have proven they have no intentions of taking care of themselves.

[@a4ng155]

100% true.

[@akricket2956]

Showing wounds, always attracts predators, especially in the narcissistic survivor community. Sorry you're having to deal with these bottom feeders. I've been no contact for almost six years. I didn't leave to hurt them, I left so they couldn't hurt me any more. Stay strong, you're an inspiration!

[@markpkessinger]

Something my Dad taught me: "Help a person once, and you are helping a person. Help a person twice, and you are helping a problem."

[@EmyN]

Oh

[@kingwilliam6817]

Damn, I like that.. So true

[@BichaelStevens]

I guess teachers are nothing but problem makers

[@kingwilliam6817]

@@BichaelStevens teachers are not helping you with nothing in return. They make a salary

[@BichaelStevens]

@@kingwilliam6817 teachers help twice thrice every tice.

[@MC-rw2bk]

When my dad had cancer, my mom tried to use the sympathy card to get all of her relatives and kids to give her money saying the medical bills were so high. After we had given her thousands of dollars, we found out that she was going on shopping sprees and gambling. When I was a child, I only had one pair of clothes for the whole school year since my mom spent the money on dumb shit.

[@onenerdygeek812]

Sounds fucked, is your dad alright tho.

[@MC-rw2bk]

@@onenerdygeek812 thanks for asking. He's doing alright.

[@maedre9330]

@@MC-rw2bk phew. Thats fucked up dude

[@BLUEGENE13]

thats fucked up

[@dukebb]

You don't owe anyone anything. Anything given is out of kindness. Family or not

[@mariak4311]

No-no-no. Not all given out of kindness. Sometimes obligation and commitment are above of kindness. You don't have to be a kind person to have a kid. It's good if you're kind. Your kid will become a better person. But a basic parent is a responsible parent. That is the most important thing.

[@valentigeorgiev430]

Run and never look back mate, remove all toxic people from your life period.

[@pompeiiash]

You know in Canada when this happens to elders it's labelled elder financial abuse. This is FINANCIAL ABUSE.

[@RobertaPeck]

All these people are able enough to work. His sister is not in a nursing home. You have a false story in your head .

[@ATSaale]

@@RobertaPeck pretty sure she's referring to what happened to Josh.

[@gerryjtierney]

@@RobertaPeck no, you've taken her the wrong way

[@Azorthy]

I believe some states consider this as domestic violence as well

[@ABEL-cd2sp]

@A Southern Bam it’s basically all of the above.

[@greedyboi011]

Honestly mean no offence by this, but it really sounds like at least one of your parents has a drug problem. How can they spend that amount of money each month its absolutely nuts

[@osirisofthesouth2853]

He let us work that one out lol

[@honestlyna]

See his latest video

[@jaxnpizza1786]

I was going to comment this exact same thing, they have the exact patterns and behaviors.

[@lolas9256]

God as a manipulation tactic? Doesn't seem very godly.....

[@bobbyday7113]

A typical tyrant

[@hc6008]

Here in Philippines, thats their greatest and shittiest trap card to subdue you.

[@pretary1845]

The Bible is the greatest tool in mankind ever created to gaslight others. In all honesty, I truly believe that's the only reason that our current Religions were created and still remain. They wash each others feet, and give pittance to the tithe to make themselves feel superior, have quotes on hand for any situation with the hypocrisy that the Bible is like Einsteins Theory of Relativity, that for every Bible verse supporting ones argument there's an equal and opposite verse that goes in the opposite direction... Except when it comes to abortion obviously, since it's literally only mentioned in the sense that if your wife sleeps with another man you should stone her till she miscarries. That's it. The Bible says nothing else in regards to abortion. It is a tool used to manipulate people and back it with The Magical Book of Morality. Josh shows it here. He even recited a verse back to his grandmother. And obviously she brushes it off because it doesn't go with her agenda. Don't ever read me a verse from the bible and connect it to how I should live my life. People like Joshua and myself are completely happy to love, care for, and help other people without the 100th revised copy of a book that was written by people who bathed once a week thousands of years ago. It's fucking irrelevant. I don't need to be scared of going to hell to be a Humanitarian. I'm cancelling the Bible. It's a mute point. You heard it here first. You can be spiritual. You can believe in whatever higher power you want. But a book about condemning someone to hell for being gay, with the next line saying if you eat a piece of shrimp you will equally and also be included in those that go to Hell is a book that should be read as fantasy and nothing more. Please, try to gaslight me with lines from a book that talk about stoning people. Old Testament, New Testament, I don't give a fuck. I grew up Catholic, it never made sense. I went to all the classes, obviously my mom never made me an Altar Boy so Bless her.. My mother still considers herself Catholic. Prays to Mary. That's all fine. But she also doesn't ever tell me that I need her god in my life, creating anxiety in me, being afraid of this god... **BUT LOVED TOO** ... It's all in Gods Plan that we've surpassed 300k deaths in America just from the Coronavirus alone.. God loves America, hates children in Uganda, wants kids in Yemen to die from malnutrition. That's his PLAAAAAN. SHUT the fuck up. God has no plan. If there's a god controlling things he's a sick motherfucker. More likely he's a sick motherfucker who made us in his image, spun the earth into motion, and took his hands off the wheel to watch the chaos. There very well may be a spiritual element, or a connection between humans that we can't explain and may never be able to. Or it's electrons in the air. Who knows at this point? Maybe the Earth truly is Gaia and we die, get recycled, and the Earth itself is a living being.. But there aint no mf who looks like us in the sky looking down and blessing anybody. There's luck and maybe some sort of Karma on this Earth, and the only reason I'm adding Karma is going back to Einsteins Theory of Relativity. "Karmic Science" Fuck your Bible verses. I have a bot on Discord that spits bullshit out from the bible when you type +random So now that we have AI that can spout bullshit, we don't need anymore Karens...

[@poorpuppy]

@@pretary1845 Man I am so sorry you and many many other people get that impression. Let me be clear the people who use the bible to manipulate will have their fill of the way they have chosen. We can debate the bible all day as you said for every argument for it there exists one against it. I am actually gonna use those words from now on lol that's a very good observation and I am glad I am not the only one who sees it.

[@kenrocketman897]

@@hc6008 so true ... It fucks with my head

[@lisahoward6411]

I dont know how I found you but this is the first video of yours I have seen. I wish I could give you a hug. I have an amazing family that I feel so lucky to be a part of. I wish I could share that with you. Just know that you have every right to separate yourself from that environment without feeling guilt or obligation.

[@lucasd.1854]

I can literally see the pain in your eyes man. Like, even though you're angry, I see immense pain. Hang in there bro, take it one day at a time.

[@rhynos8993]

I have the same relations with my family. Mother always asked for money, I cut her off and she ended up getting murdered by a drugaddict. Father abused us as children, so stopped contacting him when I moved to my own home. Siblings asking for money to pay rent and to pay for drugs. But here I am together with gf for 10 years, done with education and have the best job ever. And just got into investment hoping to grow my money for a even brighter future. Wishing you all the luck, and keep staying strong. Blood is not always thicker than water as I use to say.

[@nateb19]

Good for you. Sounds like you have broken the cycle of disfunction.

[@IYPITWL]

The saying is "the blood of battle is thicker than the water of the womb." Family is not owed.

[@sweetsirenaine]

Hey man, you do sound like you're ok and everything but I hope you don't feel too bad about what happened with your mom. Like pretty much everyone else here I definitely get the bad family dynamics and everything, but that sort of thing can still leave you with some guilt or feeling like maybe you did the wrong thing. You seem happy otherwise though, I'm glad.

[@lindseygreen7884]

I seriously can't believe someone else has the exact same parents as I do. Good on you for getting out early.

[@jesusisGod1434]

Your parents are grown. Don’t take their calls any longer. And stop paying for their stuff!

[@hansonel]

This is important to share here on KZbin. It not only helps others who suffered from narcissistic family abuse but also might be therapeutic. From experience people (family, friends, bosses, etc...) who are psychologically and emotionally abusive need to be cut out of your life, there is very little chance of them changing. The only way to deal with them is to go no contact once you recognize them as such IMO. So glad you got away from your family and their chaos.

[@huntsbychainsaw5986]

I feel like everyone who pushes you saying you need to keep enabling your parents are the exact same people who behave as your parents do.

[@seriouscat2231]

Narcissism is a kind of contagious irresponsibility and these people mutually validate each other.

[@antonyo7531]

Hey Joshua, I also need $714 for my phone bill. Can u send me it? That's actually the dumbest lie I have ever heard

[@menjolno]

yes, I can send the paper that says that you owe 714 USD

[@andrewwoan]

wow this is incredible, I just watched this recommended video on my youtube: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ipvXfXeir52sfZY and the same number 714 is here. that's actually such a weird coincidence, one video after the other. I'm SHOOK.

[@antonyo7531]

@@andrewwoan dude that's actually crazy. And he also says "be specific"

[@connorrx8008]

Yeah there is no way phone bill that expensive lol

[@5rv9KY]

That's for a new phone bill.

[@rubica1]

Josh you look way happier and healthier. When I first started watching your videos, you seemed depressed and super negative. Now you look like you're living your life. I'm so happy for you :)

[@thisguy1397]

He does though right? He seems to have more resolve too. It's not hard to say he made the right decision.... Holy sheeeit.... • Stole Credit Cards • Took a Loan out in his name • Let Daughter steal car and wreck it (while in Josh's name -- guess who got the bill) • Months of Mooching (Rent + Insurance + CIgarettes + Food [Burgers🤣] + Gas Money + More) • Multiple Trips • Happily Spent his Life Savings • Dad cashed in on multiple people at the same time • So many more

[@Skateboard_]

Hey definitely does. Cutting off toxic family is such a huge load off of ones back.

[@siimmy14]

@@thisguy1397 not months. Years

[@ATSaale]

For sure, I just found this channel from the first disowned vid and he looks so much better in this vid, I think clearly less stress in his life.

[@deborahforte7147]

@@ATSaale so sorry josh so sad. ❤️🙏

[@ratso4443]

I suspect something else is going on here, like gambling or drugs.

[@alanrobert3]

Herion for sure.

[@alexasaturian3305]

For the people responding "you gotta help family," you have to understand how much Joshua has endured and how these videos though they're not something that one publicly displays, are extremely helpful for others in similar situations and act as a channel of relief for Joshua. He has so much on his chest he could probably make 1000 videos. All those other KZbinrs who live perfect lives and feed their viewers a bs version of reality should thank people like Joshua for exposing the harsh realities of life.

[@kataiho4405]

I remember when Josh tried to help his dad start a KZbin channel but then he stopped uploading :( Having a family member or even a friend that has a following help and guide you on the youtube grind is literally blessing.

[@JoshuaFluke1]

Because he stopped coming over to film.

[@kataiho4405]

@@JoshuaFluke1 I don't think he knew what a golden opportunity that was. He could've been set for life if he just kept at it.

[@JoshuaFluke1]

@@kataiho4405 I tried to explain this to him, but he just disappeared. All he had to do was talk. I edited, I filmed, I made thumbnails, I had the ideas.

[@kataiho4405]

@@JoshuaFluke1 Damn that reminds me. Are you going to do more videos on reviewing people's channel and giving tips? Those were pretty fun to watch.

[@moxianglife8143]

Josh really tried to help his family but they are too ignorant and selfish

[@autumnalfoliage]

You are a surviver of emotional and financial abuse (perhaps even others). Your family has done a lot of damage and you were able to recognize, escape, and grow from it. That is commendable.

[@kevinfortier556]

As a parent, I would never want to even meet people who believe their kids owe them something. I feel fully responsible for my children.

[@AdaptedStudios]

Agree but disagree at the same time. If the parents have given their kids everything and all their love, it would be reasonable to expect that back from their kids

[@maheshpadmanabh6564]

You’ve gone through a lot man. You don’t need to feel guilty about anything. You achieved everything by yourself!

[@maheshpadmanabh6564]

@@technofeeliak yes John. It must be agonisingly painful. Parents are the only ones we have even when the world is against us.

[@vooyz]

@Imran A how do you know it’s sarcasm?

[@seditiouswalrus]

@@maheshpadmanabh6564 parents are not the same for everyone, quite a few are abandoned, or just get abuse from them, as the saying goes "mileage will vary".

[@vooyz]

@Imran A true yeah I just noticed that

[@bullymaguire431]

@@maheshpadmanabh6564 sometimes they're the to go against you even before the world does

[@bobafruti]

Sounds like drug addict behavior. And that’s a big issue that society is failing to deal with right now, and not something you can deal with by paying their bills.

[@chrisaustin4115]

Yeah...honestly as someone who has dealt with this stuff myself. It seems like Josh is slowly seperating himself and getting healthy. Hopefully as he gets healthier he will realize, he doesnt need to cut off family for stuff lile this and just tell them to sleep in a tent etc. While loving them from a distance. All this stuff they were arguing about was stuff no one really needs. A cell phone? An apartment? He can just tell them to sleep on his couch or a tent in the backyard.

[@bobafruti]

@@chrisaustin4115 it’s a hard place to be stuck with people who’re professionals at pushing your buttons. Someday he may be able to deal with his family without getting manipulated by them, but that’s not happening right now 🤣

[@chrisaustin4115]

@@bobafruti thats a good point. When people can push your buttons it sucks

[@losttale1]

Yeah society should just legalize it and enforce strict property rights then clear the streets off the cadavres. Now your nation has immunity. stonks.

[@BigPhatAlbert]

This sounds like addiction. I'm almost certain

[@alanrobert3]

Heroin 1000 percent.

[@bernardvezina-gagnon24]

turns out , it was lol

[@safarlama7743]

I can’t fathom someone watching this and thinking that you didn’t do the objectively right thing by cutting them off

[@Lazdinger]

“Josh, please. We’re starving. We have *nothing.* Nothing to our name... you owe it to us!” _sent from my iPad_

[@christianthatcher771]

@Lazdinger 💯Facts

[@addicted367]

😂🤣

[@ChandasCash]

😩😩

[@faithwalker2287]

My reply: Go to a food bank. They’ll give you food.

[@addicted367]

@@faithwalker2287 or the dumpster 😁

[@TerminaMorte]

'Bro he told me to stop' - I lol'd

[@shoqed]

Yesss this is amazing how religious people will advise you to speak to god but will not believe he actually replied

[@brigh12]

My parents have had hard financial times and they have had to reach out to their kids for help in the past. But I feel very grateful to have the father I have. No matter what trouble he is in financially, no matter what problems are going on he tells me "don't worry about it, you rest, I will figure it out". I am so grateful to have a father who doesn't put his problems on his children. I know people who have to parent their own parents so I'm so happy my dad is the kind of parent who handles his own problems and takes on his responsibility so that I don't have to.

[@bwp714]

My dad would shoot himself before he ever asked me for help. I have offered thousands of times and he has turned me down everytime . I just go to my mom whenever I know they really need it. My mom won't ask me out of some loyalty towards my father but she always accepts my help. I love you momma.

[@mmanda515]

Me too... My worst fear, as irrational as it may be (prob cuz', like Josh I was always SOOOO taken advantage OF).... I'd die before I'd take a cent from anyone.... let alone EXPECT & worse... take full advantage of. Could never even imagine being that burden to someone else, not making any sacrifices myself, expecting to be taken care of AND worse... putting that person in a position where they are going without just to help me. Hellllll no. Let alone, doing that to my child?? UNACCEPTABLE manipulation on so many levels imho. His dad's recent lie/manipulation filled call, phew... says he doesn't watch, but... these vids being put out, then the timing of.... sheer coincidence right? Can only smh how horrible they are to him.... NOT because of who he is, but because of who they are & have shown to be, sadly. He could give everything & it would still never be enough. I hope he puts up firm boundaries, enforces them & doesn't take the baiting again. Stay safe & be well.

[@twwdc]

The ONE time we gave money to my Mum was when my Gran died and it turned out in all the mess around her dementia and going to a care home her life insurance fell through the cracks and my Mum didn't have the money up front for the funeral/burial to take place. We paid it and then she immediately set up to pay us back monthly. That's what normal people would do if they ended up borrowing money off their kids or anyone else.

[@shortyylu]

Never let anyone know how much money you actually have smfh

[@zattoart]

It’s all happened to me Joshua! I’m 69 years old this year and those family “Betrayals”, still bother me. People don’t realize at all what it does to a young kid growing up, unless you witness or experience it yourself!

[@amalldekan1432]

They chose to bring you into this world, it was never your choice. You don't owe them anything!

[@hawkeyerules9028]

Parents should be thankful that a life have come to their part of family. If u simply giving birth to child which u wanna bully and make him depress. Think like u own them like a property. U simply shouldn't give birth.

[@11Kenjii]

@@hawkeyerules9028 i relate to this Half of it

[@PiotrMys]

EXACTLY! Its incredible how people manage to see it any other way than that...

[@Lindormking89]

Yeah. Its the parents responsibility to take care of their children. Not the other way around.

[@hawkeyerules9028]

@@Lindormking89 i believe they should take care of each other mutually but dishonesty should not be the way. this video shows how dishonest they were to him

[@langstonhodges5863]

Bro no offense but, it sounds like a drug problem. I mean 20$ at a time. Everything from this story sounds like a person on drugs just saying.

[@OriginalPhil]

This is exactly what I was about to comment. These are telltale behavioral patterns of people with substance abuse problems.

[@michaelw7327]

@@OriginalPhil are you stupid? You think this is all setup? Gosh it’s people like you who never get any respect in life

[@ignacioanezin2352]

@@michaelw7327 he is talking about Josh's family. Calm down bro

[@sketchyth0ughts399]

@@michaelw7327 bro chill hes not talking about josh, hes talking about the family

[@LiLAlbiHD]

Bro 100%. At leeeeast his pops is doing hard drugs. Seen it first hand and this is sad.

[@magtechmagdump8166]

He did help his family...tremendously! They didn’t want to help themselves, big difference!

[@aimeekohanski412]

Givers must set boundaries because takers never will! CUT ALL OF THEM OFF!

[@sajanah1253]

You did your best Josh. Cutting them off was the best decision because your resentment would have turned you into something really bad in the end. You deserve peace and happiness.

[@tali3425]

Never give them money again!

[@chivisisis]

Yeah he does. It's been more than enough already

[@PatrickRambles]

Josh, I'm not sure why this got recommended to me but I'm glad it did. If only just to tell you I think you're brave. I know exactly how it feels to be the responsible "parent" to your own parent. I know the frustration of paying (literally) for their irresponsibility. The laziness and carelessnes coupled with an extreme sense of entitlement. It all hits home. My parent never did any of the horrible things like gasslighting or pawning my belongings. I can only imagine how that must feel. The immense guilt trip your family are putting on you is nauseating. I literally feel the stress, hearing you talk about it. Absolutely TOXIC. Stay far away from it all. It's so so hard because it's family but for your own sanity, you're doing the only right thing. All the best to you, brother.

[@Petars24]

Hi Josh, when I was 18 my Mom made me take out a loan so they would not lose the house. Well, she blew it all on fancy food and cake instead of paying for the house. Watching your videos is like seeing myself talk about what I been through.

[@thomasblaine3193]

When i was 24 i wanted to take a Loan out to pay off the mortage and cleanly separate my parents divorce. Mom told me she didn't want to do that to me... Mom owed 50k to dad as part of the divorce. Mom worked and struggled to pay mortgage and bills. Use child support to pay mortage and raise 4 kids. So dad doubled diped on child support. House was forclosed on and dad was highest bidder. So dad pays money to himself for his own home at the foreclosure auction for his home. Mom takes dad back to court and judge has no case law to follow. He said they would have to write new law to cover my parents divorse. Dad later sold home for 280k. Made 250k profit. its just buisness tommy.. no dad FU Its not. I was eating cheese for a month to pay the rent. Cleaned out my 401k to pay for college. I know the pain you go through when you know whats happening is sick. Covered the rent for years till sister graduated but had a stoke. Spent at least 120k on rent over the years that would have paid for the home if only mom would have trusted me and talked to the bank... we never even tried. Just buisness.. FU dad.... FU.... havent talked to him in 25 years.

[@malloryjames3186]

@Petar Stipanovic. Daym, I hear ya side of story. Same situation right here but only when I was in my early 20s did my parents needed to use my name to get a loan to pay off a mortgage and had told to lie to these loan officer to just say I needed to get a loan because I need it for school but in actuality I get grants for school (so thankful for that). That first loan got paid back anyway by my parents but a second loan was needed again and THAT was never paid back. My mom have been telling me to not pay back anyway bcuz it's been ages like 10 yrs.ago and back then, I was also told that to not answer whenever they call-- but what can u do when these collectors call your work?! 🤬 . Anyway, my point is, why does your parents (the so-called religious/spiritual parent) tells you to not lie as a toddler then later when you're an adult, tells you to lie temporarily? Like, what the fu-- 🤬

[@james3656]

This is a felony. Any parent who uses their child’s social security number and name to get a loan, credit card, or any other financial gain can be charged and sent to prison. All one needs to do is file a report with authorities. This is no way for parents to treat their children.

[@furbyfurbs]

@@thomasblaine3193 this is unimaginably painful...

[@chelseybazzle8668]

I paid my mom monthly rent when I was 17-21 and she still pocketed the child support and led me to believe that she needed it

[@tylerbyrd3307]

Everyone says, "blood is thicker than water". What people do not understand is, this is not the actual adage. The full and original adage is, "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb", which essentially means the family you choose is more important than the family who birthed you. You do not owe anything to anyone, especially people that have done these things to you. Life is a 101 for everyone, it's everyone's first time around. No one has a clue as far as what's actually happening here so don't listen to anyone that pretends to know what's best for you. Even me, I'm just some guy on the internet, after all.

[@sunnc]

Literally. Nobody is your guru

[@jawad9757]

Interesting

[@Calamity_Leo]

Preach it brother 🙌

[@WifeofaJer]

@@Calamity_Leo my thoughts too

[@amyluvslouie8288]

Learn something new everyday! Thank you! This makes more sense- and isn’t it funny it was changed to me the exact opposite?!?

[@dr.noisewater6469]

Sometimes not helping someone is helping them. How can we ever take care of ourselves if we are constantly waiting for someone else to do everything for us.

[@Donamtrx]

God told me to stop enabling.....now THAT is clever as hell! 👏🏻

[@mandykilpatrick1635]

As a mum of 4, anytime you want an adopted mum I willing volunteer. A mother's love should be unconditional and without strings attached. My children know that I will always be here and will move heaven and earth for them. I am so sorry you haven't the parents you deserve. A child is not placed on earth to make your life better but the other way round. You have my love and thoughts x

[@hjpi9804]

You did the right thing leaving Evil people. You're an Inspiration.

[@henron1282]

Bruh why's everyone replying that he made the wrong decision? He obviously got manipulated multiple times

[@Herladyship54]

Time for them to grow up! You cant be responsible for them forever! Dont let them guilt you into submission. They need to be responsible for themselves. “Have your life and move on”. DON’T LET GUILT GET TO YOU!! Have a great life!

[@kittiemarie1235]

I... I’ve never seen anyone else deal with this. I’ve thought about making my own YT videos about it. But the guilt just stops me every time... I can tell this all still hurts your heart. Because you feel like it was bad of you to do but at the same time you’re free. Hearing your experience actually makes me feel better about my own situation.

[@alexandrapower6445]

Kittie Marie....You are definitely not alone. Go for it. Make those videos. I am so grateful for discovering this young man and his videos. Only a few days ago too. During one of those moments when everything becomes very dark. I don't think he even realises the powerful gift he has given to so many whom he will never meet or even know. The biggest is the irony that, had he not done what he found so difficult and painful with those whom were breathlessly self-entitled parasites, devoid of Grace or Gratitude, he would never have instead found himself gifting so much to so many on a subject where so many have felt they were alone. The only ones silently going through similar. He has not only reclaimed his health emotionally, physically and financially; he has gifted so much that was needed to so many suffering silently, at no cost, and has earned countless genuine gratitude in return. I have a feeling he will soar to heights never dreamed of. I hope you do too.

[@marybean2231]

You're not alone. I had my biological father lying to my face to try to make me hate my mother for years before I finally had the courage to cut that side of the family off at 16. There are so many more people suffering unfortunately, we are one of many, but I hope that those who haven't escaped see these videos and these comments and get the courage to do so

[@jborrego2406]

Look up refuge from a narcissist he does videos about it he talks about his own life and then people send recordings of their narcissist family or husband or wife

[@linda122000]

It’s not easy cutting a family member off. It’s probably one of the most difficult things to do. But it gets to a point where you have to choose between your inner peace and theirs. Josh, I really hope you find peace from all of this. I hope your family comes to the realization of their faults and own up to it, and change for the better one day.

[@ancientbear3280]

His parents are drug attics, Pawnshop, stealing fraud, not paying bills,no work because drug attics can't hold down jobs. Desperate for the high they use every tactic to get money. Classic case.,

[@linda122000]

@@ancientbear3280 Makes even more sense now to know they are drug addicts. The only solution would be to cut them off entirely as to not continue to enable their behavior.

[@AmazonWebService98]

@@linda122000 well I applaud him for doing it. though call, I would've whooped my dads ass if he was a loser like that

[@phillipgilbert3784]

I was asked by a “friend” for €2,000.00 to help him pay off his “School account issues” 12 hours later he was vacationing in Greece hmmm... lol 😂 I didn’t loan him the money

[@MRoesterreicher1]

crazy people!

[@mechamicro]

You probably block him. That is a gold digger.

[@A1Bokeh]

Wow

[@btsmith]

That is insane✔

[@samamthaj9768]

You will probably never see this but maybe only those who can relate will ever understand the depths of pain, anxiety, hurt, anger, and betrayal this type of behavior from "family" causes. Getting away from this is like beating a horrible drug addiction with painful regrettable re-lapses. Even if you break free it scars you for life. I'm proud of you for sticking up for yourself and putting your foot down. You deserve people in your life that show you the same kindness you give. I hope you're doing well.

[@avi7278]

DRUG ADDICTS, bro. wow... I know you maybe don't want to hear this or accept this, but this is straight up drug addict behavior.

[@Peecup]

You don’t owe them anything. They wanted children for their own selfish reasons. Your parents should be helping you by supporting and encouraging you. Parents that think their children owe them unconditional love and respect regardless of how they behave are delusional. Only give respect and help to people that respect you.

[@lr7815]

“I spoke to god and he told me that my family needs to get jobs”

[@JoshuaFluke1]

Tried that lmao

[@carolynr6026]

That’s a good one lol 😂🤣😂😂😆

[@kamishy_Art]

Pog

[@meghamcdowell]

🤣🤣🤣

[@diangelojonathan6256]

"god bruv told me: I know it says honour thy parents, but i can excuse this case"

[@arualstarr]

I found your videos this week. Your family are the clinical definition of narcissists, and I'm proud of you for walking away 🙌

[@danielwfosterii2363]

People who had the "Brady bunch" life can't imagine what it's like to have a parent who smiles to your face while stabbing you in the back.

[@Tia-Marie]

Josh, I moved out when I was 18. My dad lives in the middle of the appalachias as widower and he has NEVER asked me for money once.

[@misanthropelife]

This video made me super grateful for being raised by amazing parents. Hopefully, you’ll find your peace with your family.

[@LW4816]

I just became a cardiologist. Making good dough. And yep, people will go for your resources, even distant family members. It's disgusting

[@arifluthfi1174]

Damn thats scary

[@LW4816]

@@arifluthfi1174 to clarify, it isn't just money. It also includes your skillset from your profession. It's frustrating to get texts from distant family members only because you can now give them something that you worked hard for

[@datman3416]

I think we are second cousins... listen i have this phone bill for 3,046 bucks... help your cousin out :)

[@TotalWarKS]

congratz though, keep dem leech out

[@wincrasher2007]

they only get what you give them. stay strong and say no - or better yet, give them your office number so they can schedule an appointment. once you start giving out money or freebies, it never will stop.

[@yojoe5311]

Anyone who uses their children as a source of income is a weasel. They are responsible for your life not the other way around.

[@h.o.g.956]

Facts. Like those kid KZbin channels where the parents just spoil them rotten all the time with the money the kid is making. It’s honestly disgusting. Even the families that are successful with it are going to destroy their kids perception of reality.

[@Dayna_Bennett]

My mom is 71 and has been retired for awhile, but she spends as if she’s still working. Every week she asks me to pay this bill and that bill. For the last few years I have helped, but told her I was loaning her the money. She owes me over 5K at this point and still asks for money to pay bills when she hasn’t paid me back for everything else. This past year with Covid I lost my job and was receiving unemployment. I’m a single mom with two kids. She still had the nerve to ask me for money when she brings in about 5K or more per month between her pension, social security, and rent from the tenant that lives in the basement. I pay for her cell phone bill. Where is all her money going? We basically don’t have a relationship anymore. The only time she talks to me is when she needs money or needs me to blow dry her hair. God forbid I say NO. She gives me a major guilt trip. I tell her to call my brother who does well for himself. My brother is her favorite and of course she doesn’t want him to know she has money problems. He’s the first person I call every time she asks me for money. I just can’t do it anymore. I’m done.

[@guardiansanimalrescuestate7289]

I have no family and would do anything for family like you.

[@faithwalker2287]

You did the right thing. Now you just need to assert yourself and tell her she’s not getting any money from you anymore because she doesn’t know how to manage her money. You are not her safety net! You have a family to support! She only has to support herself and you need to let her know that! You need to establish boundaries with her. When she asks, the answer should be “no”. And you don’t owe her an explanation. You take care of your family. ❤️

[@Dayna_Bennett]

@@faithwalker2287 Thanks Faith. I told mom she should sell the house and downsize to a two bedroom condo or something, that way she can have more money, but she refuses. The house is where my dad passed away in 2018. She could easily get 500k or more for the house.

[@myyt3824]

I am so damn grateful that my parents are stand up people. They are consistent, loving, encouraging, responsible, hard working, successful, frugal, and they never fail to remind me and my sister how proud they are of us and the families we’ve built. They are always willing to help with childcare which our kids absolutely love. They are fantastic grandparents. They always remind us that they got our 6. And we’re no strangers to toxic family. We had a huge falling out with my dad’s mom and his siblings. It ended in an ugly lawsuit. We cut them off completely for the health and stability of our immediate family unit and that was the best decision. Family is EVERYTHING. My heart breaks for you and anyone who has toxic family.

[@SiNKarnage]

"tHeY bRoUgHt YoU iNtO tHiS wUrlD" A world with no redeeming qualities whatsoever.

[@svenstevenson2245]

I hate that argument. Who chooses to be born? Babies are brought about by the selfishness of their parents. You do not owe your parents SOLEY for raising you, that is the bare minimum required of them for having brought you into this world.

[@simonstuart2003]

This, smh

[@LilJbm1]

Okay come on now, you're falling into nihilism. This world has PLENTY of redeeming qualities, and just to name ONE the beauty of nature. Many other great qualities of life and the world, in addition to the suffering, but I'm not about to waste time making an exhaustive list.

[@svenstevenson2245]

@@LilJbm1 I never said life wasn't worth living. Only that you by no choice of your own are born into this world at the behest of ones parent's selfishness. You do not owe them for feeding you, clothing you or raising you, fore, that was the bear minimum obligated and expected of them for having you. That is to say those that say you owe your parents for "raising" you can go stuff it. Many a parent out there who fails in the aforementioned even though it ought to be the bare minimum however even when you have good or amazing parents you still really do not owe them anything. Arguably outside if they bought you a car/paid for and college because that is a bit above and beyond however this doesn't sound to be the case in the video makers family. Once he got a job they wanted him to support t hem, not in their old age but RIGHT NOW and to the detriment of his own fiscal status and well being. Parent, sibling, friend, wife, kid, you can go fuck yourself if you want something out of me even when I tell you it would be to my detriment.

[@sto5059]

Are you serious? Did he asked them to be born?

[@Infinidisc]

As someone who used heroin for 2 years, it definitely seems like your family is using drugs. This is the typical behavior of an addict. Not saying for certain, but I wouldn’t rule it out. Glad you put your foot down man. You can only give someone so many chances before it starts affecting your life negatively.

[@larafernandes1226]

Aw Josh, you're such a sweet guy. They don't deserve your pure heart, and I'm so sorry you had to go through this.

[@hitchensrazor9538]

I just hate it when people bring in the “God” Argument.

[@krisdenger8339]

It's not even scripture. Honor thy mother, honor thy father, sure. But you take care of you and your own. And that is in the bible.

[@92Swarley]

I can't even imagine why people are doing that. If you come to someone who isn't religious and spout bs. What do you expect is going to happen? I can respect people wanting to have their own beliefs, but the moment you use those same beliefs as to clarify why I need to act a certain way, I'll straight up laugh at you. If you want me to do something, don't go claiming there is some invisible man in the sky that wishes it so. If I told you I'm not interested in your bs, please leave me alone or I'll start making a mockery out of your whole beliefsystem so you'll stop. Luckily I don't have to deal with these kinds of people very often.

[@losttale1]

Worked well for mohammed. "God says I can get your wife." and "don't write mean things about me"

[@simplyafederalist]

Yay especially when there actions are self serving and evil. I think there is a special place in hell for those people.

[@noname2250]

they are just childish, selfish, greedy and justify their own bad behavior with religion. "I'm not a bad person, the bible says he should honor me so I can ask all these things of him"

[@kellylynn88]

EXPOSE these gaslighting narcissistic sociopathic families people!! The more we stay silent about the sht they put us thru the more they thrive. Not saying Josh's family members are all of these things, Im just saying dont let them ruin your life or make you feel less than. This is something I have struggled w my entire life

[@Apples2apples871]

I went through the same thing for 17 years of my life. I'm only 29 years old. I missed an oppurtunity to have a great 20s experience working for family that didnt care. My sociopath sister crashed my brand new vehicle when I was out of town drunk driving. Any I was left with 12k bill. Now I realized I dont have to cater to them anymore. I have to focus on my health and beating Depression & PTSD. ❤️🙏👏

[@kellylynn88]

@@Apples2apples871 That sounds awful! I'm glad you are moving on and getting help. As a sister myself, it breaks my heart to hear how some sisters treat their family like trash. That's not right. Wishing the best for you. 💙

[@ipoopinwalmart5968]

Nah fuck em they don't need you, just keep on going. You are a good person for trying as long as you did. Good luck and stay strong 🤘🤘

[@chanelle7484]

Most likely the people commenting that you do “said things” are probably doing the same thing to someone else. I’m religious and have a family member that does this exact same thing and we finally told them to get lost. It’s insane! It’s mind numbingly toxic! You’re doing the right thing!

[@corey483]

I just turned 34 and recently found myself in a very similar situation. Blood doesn’t mean shit at the end of the day. I’ve cut my “parents” off too and haven’t looked back.

[@asandax6]

You know it kinda hurts to hear people saying "Blood doesn't Metter" when you can't even imagine a life without your family. You're are leaving in a reality most of us won't even consider a possibility nor even want to experience.

[@trinayangogoi590]

@@asandax6 kindda true but it depends on parents to parents.

[@cmwillisful]

Learned helplessness, laziness, irresponsibility, and entitlement. That's their problem. And dishonesty.