Ditch the Drama - How to Live Happy in a Messy World | Cy Wakeman | TEDxOmaha

How often, when we encounter a problem, have we caught our ‘ego’ coming in hard and fast driving our reactions and actions? It becomes exhausting, because we continually place ourselves as the center of the action creating 'drama' as victims of micromanaging boss, demanding colleagues, and more. In this thought provoking and pragmatic talk, Cy Wakeman, challenges us all to ‘ditch the drama’, take our ‘ego’ out of the picture and reframe what is ‘actually’ happening. When we do that, we refocus our energy and talent. Not only do we find more creative solutions to our world and the challenges we face, but in doing so live happier and more productive lives. Cy Wakeman is a drama researcher, global thought-leader, and New York Times best-selling author recognized for her reality-based approach to leadership and life. Recognized for her reality-based approach to leadership and life. Deemed “the secret weapon to restoring sanity to the workplace,” her Reality-Based Leadership Philosophy has helped thousands of organizations like Facebook, Google, Pfizer, and National Institutes of Health learn to harness energy wasted in drama and reinvest that effort into achieving profound results and true employee engagement. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@DerekJFiedler]

00:00 Snake story 2:20 Cause of pain and its solution 7:25 Q1) "What do I know for sure?" 9:30 Q2) "What could I do to help?" 13:30 Q3) "What would great look like?"

[@heleneperdue1384]

If I had a dollar for every time I've encouraged someone to separate the drama in their head from the reality of the situation, I'd be a very rich woman. Thank you for continuing to share your wisdom in a way that easily translates into all aspects of life. You help me bring my best brilliant self to work every day. I recommend your books, blogs, newsletters and videos to everyone!

[@CyWakeman]

Thank you so much for the shoutout, Helene! And I love hearing that the philosophy has inspired you to live and work in your high self. Keep up the amazing work!

[@henrydavid8450]

Hello Helene

[@danbaxter8589]

Three simple questions and this story have added to the tools that Cy has given us in the time that i have been following her. Valuable tools that have both meaning and practical application at work and in life. Thanks so much!

[@MatthewLigotti]

Cy has continually showed me a new way of thinking both at work and home. I’ve gotten a chance to see her speak a few times now and have learned so much from her in person and through her social content.

[@CyWakeman]

Awwww, thanks, Matt! We miss and love you! When are you coming to visit?

[@deanawalz]

Thank you Cy for opening up about your backstory! You inspire me to be a better leader.

[@CyWakeman]

You're so welcome... I share in the hopes that it will help others. Thanks for watching!

[@detraortiz9003]

Thank you Cy for sharing some of your personal story. I greatly appreciate your work and commitment to Ditching the Drama, even in a personal and tough circumstance in life.

[@masonltompkins]

I am so happy to see Cy on the TED stage! I met Cy 2.5 years ago and her philosophy has radically changed me for the better. I'm currently 20 years old and have quickly immersed myself into the working world and my ego gets in my way daily. Cy showed me a way past that. Cy made my work life better, my relationships better, I'm happier at more at peace moving through life because of the wisdom she shared in this very talk. If you haven't yet, please dive into Cy's KZbin videos and content all across social. She will make you better. Love you Cy!

[@CyWakeman]

Thank you so much, Mason. We love and miss you here!

[@susangrossshaffer3992]

Cy you are a beautiful woman, mom, mentor, teacher, researcher and speaker! Thank you for these beautiful gift of yourself. I can't thank you enough for all that you have done to share your research and story. You are a life saver!!! THANK YOU!

[@CyWakeman]

Thank you for the incredibly kind words, Susan. Your support means the world to me!

[@henrydavid8450]

Hello Susan

[@robmcmonagle9696]

Despite hearing Cy's messages almost daily through various channels of social media, I remain invariably challenged and inspired. Thank you Cy for making me better every day!

[@CyWakeman]

Thanks for your support in watching this talk, and over the years, Rob! So glad this philosophy is changing your worldview!

[@AlexMDorr]

So great to hear Cy share this message. I've been a practitioner of many of her techniques to self-reflect when I am in "drama" mentally and they have helped so much in being able to succeed in spite of the challenging circumstances that life brings. This last question "What would great look like?" is something I am going to add to my own self-reflection when I am frustrated or stuck. That simple question seems to show the clear next steps I could take to add value, make a difference and restore my own happiness in any situation. Can't wait to hear where Cy goes with her message from this talk! I hope to hear more of her personal story and how she used all of her experience and teachings to ditch the drama in tough situations over the years. Thank you for everything Cy!

[@mikeydub28]

Love her message - awesome reminder to move beyond our reactive selves and tap into creative solution quicker. Cy is a great figure to follow!

[@CyWakeman]

Thank you, Michael! Appreciate your support!

[@juliannbrown4383]

I continue to be inspired by Cy Wakeman’s message and the focus on self-reflection rather than blame. This is the first I heard of the story behind the questions. Thank you for being you and challenging each of us to be our best self!

[@CyWakeman]

Thank you for watching the talk and for continuing to follow along with me. I am so happy to hear that this philosophy is changing how you see your world!

[@angelinapostoev1631]

And .... i started crying in the first 2 minutes of the talk.... I blame this weekend conference. What a great talk. Thank you.

[@henrydavid8450]

Hello Angelina

[@meliessaogrodowski9926]

Three truly transformative questions... that continue to change my life and the lives of everyone around me. So thankful for Cy, for her life's work and for the tremendous honor to know and learn from her these past few years. Thank you, Cy, for this very moving talk.

[@CyWakeman]

Love you so much, Meliessa! You are a true reality-based leader and it has been an honor to work with you! Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on my talk. See you in 2019!

[@kcoachconsult]

Cy, your vulnerability and courage to share your story and how it inspired you to live your truth helps empower people to recognize the strength in your 3 questions. Bravo, girl! BRAVO! You are a gift to the world. Keep on shining...

[@CyWakeman]

Thank you for your support, Kimberly! I don't plan to slow down anytime soon! Looking forward to sharing more of my personal stories.

[@henrydavid8450]

Hello Kim

[@valencour]

This was great, Cy! Those three questions are simple, yet so impactful! And most overlook them because they’ve been conditioned to operate in their ‘low self’ which is a victim mentality. That in itself can be utterly exhausting so to be able to combat that and deploy perspective to see the larger picture is truly a skill everyone needs to master! Loved this talk, love the message!

[@CyWakeman]

You are right in that we've often been conditioned to see the world in a certain way. It's when we can challenge ourselves to open our minds and hearts to different viewpoints and ways of thinking that we can seek the truth. Thank you for taking the time to watch, and for following along!

[@tanyaluther490]

Oh my goodness!! Lady you are amazing. Thank you for your commitment, boldness, and passion for LOVE. Yes, you are doing it and you are sharing your ways with us. I love this talk. I feel like those three gifts are needed and priceless for me and others. Keep up the great work.

[@CyWakeman]

So glad that the three questions have stuck with you. I hope you'll remember them and use them on the daily! Thanks for watching and commenting. Your support is so appreciated!

[@janetholt2843]

Fabulous stories Cy! I am always inspired by you. I always take away something new from you. Our EGO's are always trying to lead us down a path of judgment, control, fear, and anxiety. I plan to implant in my brain the three questions as I move along each day. Thank you so much for sharing your time and your gift!!!

[@CyWakeman]

Thank you for watching, Janet! I'm so glad the questions were helpful to you. Now, go be great ;)

[@henrydavid8450]

Hello Janet

[@anamartos1888]

I personally have been able to use these 3 questions in my day-to-day and trust me, they seem really simple, but they do work. I have found that Cy's ability to teach these simple techniques to quickly help you live with less drama in the moment can completely change your life and the way you view challenging/unfair situations. Really excited to see where her journey takes her with some of this new content around her personal story. I look forward to seeing how else she helps us "Live Happy in a Messy World" moving forward.

[@henrydavid8450]

Hello Ana

[@angielopez1149]

You’re amazing! I had the honor of seeing you present at SHRM in Las Vegas this year. Keep going! Thank you!!

[@dhprange1]

Fantastic! Your personal stories always seem to hit home with me. I am sorry I missed TEDx in Omaha this year! I just came back from TEDWomen in Palm Springs though, and I really think you need to be on the stage there next year. You would bring down the house!

[@CyWakeman]

Thank you for watching and for your support, Deb! TEDWomen sounds incredible!

[@henrydavid8450]

Hello Deb

[@janavinsky8506]

I love your work! Thank you.

[@lilbahadurchetri4361]

thank you for inspiring message

[@carriekentch1129]

Love this Cy!! And you look freaking gorgeous by the way!!!

[@CyWakeman]

Thank you so much for watching, Carrie... and for your sweet compliment!

[@henrydavid8450]

Hello Carrie

[@suegehlsen4516]

Awesome Cy! Well done and thank you for sharing your personal story! Resilience at its best! Sue

[@CyWakeman]

Thank you for watching and supporting me! So glad you loved it.

[@henrydavid8450]

Hello Sue

[@TheMagicofAB]

Great talk, Cy. I love the three questions.

[@ChristyDStarling]

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[@antoinitaviolette4140]

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[@reneechavez4183]

Thank you, you're are beautiful. I love your hair.

[@KarenHullerEC]

"What if happiness is our natural state once the drama is gone?"

[@henrydavid8450]

Hello Karen

[@keithagee8972]

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[@pounddirty9351]

these ted "presentations"are all so boring...

[@Brinn-RichardFifth]

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