Divorce advice for men

[@Johng56]

Les great video, I can't believe the 2nd solicitor charges, STAGGERING how they rip people off. No wonder the working man can't get ahead in life sometimes.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

If your the Worst Scum Bag in the World you get Legal Aid.

[@johntheaccountant5594]

In divorce cases, the judge actually prefers if the two parties can come to an agreement before the hearing and that the judge just has to rubber stamp it.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

But if they can't agree the Judge makes the binding decision and edges towards the Lawyers wants.

[@TalkingPoint773]

Yeah sure, they make money by milking both sides fool haha. The divorcess are the suckers!

[@ozzy6668]

What do you call 10 lawyers at the bottom of the sea? A good start 😄

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

20 is a better start.

[@hagar6359]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream all is even better

[@johntheaccountant5594]

I have found most lawyers incompetent and/or lazy. The only thing they are good at is invoicing and taking your money. I find it better to represent yourself on the basis of being skint. The judges are generally sympathetic and guide you through the case.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I agree but then sometimes you need advice, in my case they got it so wrong, yes I could have gone to the Ombudsman and taken the Solicitor to court for getting it so wrong but more money I did not have. They did lose the 8,000 pounds though.

[@jglee6721]

The same is true with all the 'professional' people. Doctors, realtors, etc... We always think that the people we know can be trusted.

[@TalkingPoint773]

No chance)) They are in BUSINESS nothing more, they want to make money off you.

[@ScoreGuru123]

Please all BEWARE. Once you are divorced, DO NOT forget, you also need to file for financial separation. If you dont do this, you are still liable for any of her debts accrued during the marriage. So many men get suckered by this.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I agree I paid a clean break another 5,000 pounds so she could not come back at a later date to get more money.

[@paulb5907]

Great video les , in divorce there is no winning , there are only varying degrees of loss , unless your the solicitor, I feel your pain les mate I've been divorced / cleaned out twice, I promised myself I'd never do it again. My relationships now are purely transactional, I always always always go home alone, single for 12 years now not one damn regret stories like this just strengthen my resolve , never ever again MGTOW / passport bro all the way take it easy mate see you on the next video

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Some guys can do that and others can't I'm one of them that does not like to live alone even with all the benefits of doing so. Best wishes and thanks for taking time to comment.🙏

[@blackadder1966]

Here in Australia $400au per hour! $20,000 to get a settlement.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Divorce is costly in every country. Take the sting out of any future divorces if they don't like the prenup then they aren't the person to be with. It works both ways also the Lady does not want to lose what she has got so love has nothing to do with your finances. Thanks for watching.

[@johntheaccountant5594]

AI gives one the opportunity to do your own defense/claim. You can find all the statutory law and case law relevant to your situation. The professions (lawyers and accountants) will be made unemployed with AI in the coming years.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I agree and am in favor of this happening. AI against AI.

[@nokchilton1562]

You can actually divorce yourselves without blood suckers solicitors! You and your spouse need to come an agreement which is fair for both of you without selfishness particularly the wife! I have done it in the UK myself so I can confirm. Solicitors make both of you fight more and ends up hating each other more. Plus the costs of solicitors is very high… you and your spouse need to maintain good relationship for the children and grandchildren etc… This is very good content Les…

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I tried that avenue her solicitor talked her out of it, once divorced she then turned the kids against me a truly horrible lady.

[@davecopp9356]

You are getting younger. I watched the other video about your bancruptcy and you look older than then now. Congrats.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks that is the Keto down from 118 kg to 100 kg now. Thanks for the compliment. 🙏

[@hagar6359]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream I think its also your fantastic lifestyle that is making you feel and look younger / better. We can all see that mate. Just imagine still living in Redcar, you would be looking 90 by now lol!

[@Walk-retirement-travel]

I don’t care for lawyers they make things slimy. Some things they are needed for as long as they don’t make that slimy

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I agree with your thoughts, but anything to do with a disagreement between two parties they will milk you dry.

[@noneyabizness7288]

In the US the judge (former attorney) and attorneys are in league to draw out many cases as long as possible, especially when dealing with corporate clients. The game is to bill by the hour and make sure there are as many hours as possible in all cases. In family court for divorces, child support, etc. it's not as much like that but the field is heavily tilted toward the woman.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Yes I agree, we are their income stream and they want the income to flow as long as possible.

[@noelmcgarry456]

Family law in Australia work to different rule than regulation, then other courts, my wife and I had made up a stat dec to split 50 / 50 no that doesn't count, not worth the paper it's written on, so she draws up a standard document tells me that she's entitled to more 2000AUD in advance end of the month another 750AUD for photocopying and phone calls to her assistant (2) plus I agreed to pay for my wife's solicitor cost to read and advise TBA. We have no kids together we split the real estate 50/50 plus my pension over 27 years together 22 being married, all my wages put in over that time don't count for SFA it was 75% for the first 16years and 100% for the last 10 years.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Wow sorry to hear, it is a high price to pay. Best wishes for your future. 🙏🙏

[@fehilyfitness]

The best advice for men is to not get married in the first place!

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I think world wide this is on the decline, but there is a catch common-law wife they can also take you to the cleaners.

[@qassaf2181]

Easy solution never get married

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

So they say.

[@Autonomous1969]

I never got married. I retired at 54 and I haven't got a care in the World.

[@Tony-eb5kh]

I sacked my solicitor in the first day and took on my ex’s solicitor on my own. My solicitor looked like he was gunna side with my ex. I had a bit of fun with the process as l kept disagreeing and stringing them along.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks for taking time to comment, I also played a game with my 1st wife's solicitor. They are crooks all of them Divorce Lawyers. They make you both fight against each other so they get more money from you. They milk you for as long as they can.🙏

[@TalkingPoint773]

You didnt string anyone along fool)) The lawyers are on one side, working together against BOTH of you hahahaha

[@Tony-eb5kh]

@@TalkingPoint773 ok. You were there right? And of course you know who was paying the lawyer as well right? Or maybe you are just assuming which then makes you an ass!

[@thaitraveller9756]

When you went through one divorce why get married again , then you don't pay

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

I like being married, some like it others don't. I don't care for the Divorce though much more expensive than the marriage. Now I'd take full advantage of Pre Nup arrangements.

[@darrenrobertson8372]

Glad I never married les

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Married 4 times lol, only paid for 2 Divorces, but that was costly enough. Thanks for watching.

[@vogel431]

Lawyers?

[@poggmahon1052]

Les... I haven't watch this video on the basis I'll just get more angry 😂.... If I was to re divorce my ex with today's knowledge, I would be nearly £250k better off in my savings... HA HO.... I'm here anyways.... Seriously rank Solicitors on the same level as double glazing Reps😢..

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Me car salesmen. Crooks with certificates. Thanks for taking time to comment.

[@poggmahon1052]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream If I knew today, What I knew yesterday, Where would I be tomorrow?? Story of my Life!!

[@steveaustin1984]

Divorces are rarely pretty. When there are children involved and substantial assets, it’s unfortunate you and your ex-wife weren’t able to come to an amicable agreement without having to lawyer up. It would be interesting to hear your take on why you think you have been so unsuccessful with regards to marriage. It takes two to tango, sure, but you come across like a very rational and well-reasoned person on your channel. Is it all an act, since you can control what you upload? What are we missing? Thanks for sharing.

[@Danielcullen-gl4xd]

You clearly have never experienced the bias of the British family law court system towards women regarding divorce or access to your own children. Yes it takes 2 to tango but remember when assets are involved such as business & property interests it only takes one vote in British law for 50% to 75% of your hard earned assets to be expropriated and given to your ex wife. I.E women in the UK/western world are highly motivated to divorce their husbands, they get all the money and assets and custody of the children. Solicitors and family courts in the UK are corrupt full stop!

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Not an act, what you see is what you get, Can I say no fault on my part apart from maybe taking a few risks trying to make a few bob, which my wife benefitted from my doing. ( Nothing Illegal )She got what she wanted not having to go out to work being able to stay at home looking after the kids. For the 3 divorces I have gone through this is explained on my other divorce video's. Honest caring hard working man what most woman are looking for but sometimes that is not enough. Then also different wants as in my 3rd Divorce so move on. Thanks for the question.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Yes had also that to deal with, my ex denied me access to my children this took 9 months to be able to see them, just because I introduced them to my New girlfriend and the kids said she was so much fun to be with. That lit the blue touch paper and now the kids want nothing to do with me, poisoned by the ex wife. I should write a book. As one Solicitor told me good guys get screwed.

[@brucesnyder690]

Right on Les. Most lawyers SUCK. Glad you escaped and made new life.

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks for that very happy to be where I am, the ex wife has to work another 6 years, I've been retired 14 years this month.

[@brucesnyder690]

@@RetiredandLivingthedream ha ha couldn't happen to a nicer person!!

[@billsimpson2392]

👍👍

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Thanks for watching.

[@johncarr1710]

They sound worse some of the bar girl stories 😂

[@RetiredandLivingthedream]

Believe me it was bad, I have done a couple of video's about going broke in Thailand and being with a Violent Thai girlfriend. They are also interesting to watch.